FabSwingers.com forum: Still crushing.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As the title says I still have my work crush. Haven't done any shifts with him for over a month. I know he's still single. We have our works Xmas do on the 1st of December. He didn't come to last years as my building isn't his main work place it's just one he works in 3x a week. We had to put our names on the sheet to state which date was better for everyone, I had already written my name down, when I looked yesterday he'd put his name down.

So now I guess I'm gonna have to get a fantastic outfit to wear out and hopefully he'll get absolutely steaming pissed and I can take advantage of him!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Go in your miss April black lace outfit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you got his digits OP ?

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Taking advantage of someone when d*unk would get you a shit storm if the sexes was the other way round. Tsk tsk

Sandy would not be the word

Ask him out already Decembers miles away he could find someone by then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously just ask the dude out, you’re overcomplicating it.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I can't believe you are still divving around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did this last year. It was a nice frock. It worked a treat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooooooooooh good luck!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I haven't seen him for over a month and plus I'm not asking a man out. The man has to ask the woman, it's got to be his idea. I'm all for equality and everything and women should be able to ask men out but to be high value or thrill of the chase or any other bollocks, but in this instance the actual asking has to come from him.

I'm not interested in anyone else at the moment so I don't mind if I'm wasting time. I'm giving this crush thing till the end of this year and then if nothing happens I'll just finger some other pies.

C'mon a works night out where people will be pissed (not me, I don't drink) plus we're the only ones that live close to each other, sharing taxi or whatever. It's a chance to see me without my stupid horrible uniform on as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As Twisted said, December is ages away!!!

Just bloody well ask him out. Life is too short, look at the time you’ve wasted so far, you could have shagged him to death by now!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lucky bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't he'll need to be d*unk to take advantage of you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

* think he'll ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't seen him for over a month and plus I'm not asking a man out. The man has to ask the woman, it's got to be his idea. I'm all for equality and everything and women should be able to ask men out but to be high value or thrill of the chase or any other bollocks, but in this instance the actual asking has to come from him.

Perfect opportunity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask him out already Decembers miles away he could find someone by then "

No regrats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a good plan. I like that you're calm about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He’s a lucky man although he doesn’t even realise it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't see him unless I'm in work, it's not my main job so it's hard to get the shifts I can do to align with the days he works in my building. I do a lot of weekends mainly and he doesn't work weekends. Plus I'm not entirely comfortable with asking someone out during work hours. I know it's ages away but it's the only thing that's going on outside of work.

Check my newest picture for outfit I'm planning on wearing, men mainly is it a good outfit or should I go for a dress??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooo good luck hun . Hope it goes well for u . I really dont get why he hasnt asked you out already

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

This is drawn out this isn't it. Hopefully you get what you want eventually,it's a lot of pressure on the night for you.

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"I don't see him unless I'm in work, it's not my main job so it's hard to get the shifts I can do to align with the days he works in my building. I do a lot of weekends mainly and he doesn't work weekends. Plus I'm not entirely comfortable with asking someone out during work hours. I know it's ages away but it's the only thing that's going on outside of work.

Check my newest picture for outfit I'm planning on wearing, men mainly is it a good outfit or should I go for a dress??"

Don't have go be a man to see how hot u look in that outfit. He'd have to be blind not to be interested. For all u kniw hes maybe thinking the same as u.

U she initiate some sort of chat cos years ago after my divorce I liked a colleague and we remained friends, but found out last year he fancied me and was too shy to do anything about it but I'm like u , like the guy to make this 1st move. Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ooo good luck hun . Hope it goes well for u . I really dont get why he hasnt asked you out already

He's a good guy, quite shy and reserved, doesn't like the idea of dating sites, he said to another guy that he doesn't want to go down the online dating route.

I'm boisterous, I remember a conversation in work with one of the personal trainer guys and he said you're quite intimidating and the guy I fancy was doing something on the computer but he turned his head around and said yeah you are!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It sounds like you could be waiting forever then for him to make a move,it may be down to you to initiate something or it may never happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Purely devils advocate here, if a bloke took advantage of a "streaming d*unk" woman, is that cool?

Either way, hope you find the happiness you're after

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It sounds like you could be waiting forever then for him to make a move,it may be down to you to initiate something or it may never happen."

Yeah and a works night out is the perfect opportunity is it not? He probably thinks it's inappropriate to ask someone out at work as well especially as he's higher up than me and it's his actual main job.

That's why I'm using the night out as last chance saloon. If he's interested at all then surely away from work with booze is the right time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sounds like you could be waiting forever then for him to make a move,it may be down to you to initiate something or it may never happen.

That's why I'm using the night out as last chance saloon. If he's interested at all then surely away from work with booze is the right time. "

Does he defintely drink. You might just be staring at each other from across the room all night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sounds like you could be waiting forever then for him to make a move,it may be down to you to initiate something or it may never happen.

That's why I'm using the night out as last chance saloon. If he's interested at all then surely away from work with booze is the right time. "
I wouldn't rely to heavily on the 'booze' thing.

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By *JBezantMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Check my newest picture for outfit I'm planning on wearing, men mainly is it a good outfit or should I go for a dress??"

Wear something red, basic primal instincts. We associate the colour with sex. Seriously though just notch the flirt up, he’ll get the hint. If not he might be taken.

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Purely devils advocate here, if a bloke took advantage of a "streaming d*unk" woman, is that cool?

Either way, hope you find the happiness you're after

I'm a taxi driver and never go home/ take home a guy for the 1st time when he's d*unk. Due to hearing the "I only shagged her cos I was d*unk" conversation in the back of my taxi. Really feel like slapping people like that x

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

It's ok to want him to ask you out, but speaking from a blokes perspective you need to drop clanging hints to him that that's what you want or he may never do it, sometimes we're insecure too and sometimes we think a girl is way out of our league even if she's totally smitten with us. In short we're absolutely shit at reading the signs sometimes

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"It sounds like you could be waiting forever then for him to make a move,it may be down to you to initiate something or it may never happen.

That's why I'm using the night out as last chance saloon. If he's interested at all then surely away from work with booze is the right time. "

You just risk the chance of him meeting someone else in the meantime,but fingers crossed it goes to plan for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ooo good luck hun . Hope it goes well for u . I really dont get why he hasnt asked you out already

He's a good guy, quite shy and reserved, doesn't like the idea of dating sites, he said to another guy that he doesn't want to go down the online dating route.

Awww maybe cooling off til xmas would be better then altho i dnt think youve come on too strong to imtimidate him . Hopefully a little alcohol will give him the confidence and courage to go for it

he would be mad not to !!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

I had a crush at work too. But she was spoken for and had been for over 10 years. So when I became single again, I just let her friends know how I felt about as she was working elsewhere. So the fact that I didn't hear anything speaks volumes, so even though I failed, I tried. No one ever said this was ever gonna be easy...

So why not drop the Mills&Boons mindset and ask his friends, bet they'd be envious! Xmas is too far away. If this was November I'd send him a Secret Santa pressie with not too difficult clues as to where to find you.

Come on, be brave there's plenty of time to get romantic later. The right time is now. If you saw him tomorrow kissing someone else how would you feel?

Good Luck!

Remember that wait is also a four letter word! Frustratingly painful too.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Forget what I just said...Would you like to go out with me instead?

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To answer some comments, yes I know he drinks, I know he's single and has said to another colleague that he wants a girlfriend again but said he doesn't want to go down the online dating route, said it's better when you meet someone through mutual friends or hobbies etc. Split with his ex properly in March but I know they'd been speaking again but he doesn't want to reconcile.

He's a nice person, probably still feels some kind of loyalty to his ex. Think he needs a bit more time to get that out of his system as well.

Also the him being pissed thing, I wouldn't sexually assault him, just hope his inhibitions would be lowered and if he has any interest for me at all then the alcohol could give him a confidence boost.

I wouldn't shag him on the first night anyway but would like to spoon with him!

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"It sounds like you could be waiting forever then for him to make a move,it may be down to you to initiate something or it may never happen.

That's why I'm using the night out as last chance saloon. If he's interested at all then surely away from work with booze is the right time. "

You say that you haven't seen him for a month, because you are working opposite shifts. Have you considered the fact that he may be deliberately avoiding you?

Also, you talked about not doing the chasing and valuing yourself, but you sound as if you are doing the exact opposite. Maybe he doesn't find you attractive.

Salvage some dignity, and let this go. Don't continue to risk being accused of sexual harassment in the workplace.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To answer some comments, yes I know he drinks, I know he's single and has said to another colleague that he wants a girlfriend again but said he doesn't want to go down the online dating route, said it's better when you meet someone through mutual friends or hobbies etc. Split with his ex properly in March but I know they'd been speaking again but he doesn't want to reconcile.

He's a nice person, probably still feels some kind of loyalty to his ex. Think he needs a bit more time to get that out of his system as well.

I wouldn't shag him on the first night anyway but would like to spoon with him! "

I’d be very wary if he’s still “chatting” to his ex.

What folk say and what folk feel (and mean) when it comes to their exes are two different things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You say that you haven't seen him for a month, because you are working opposite shifts. Have you considered the fact that he may be deliberately avoiding you?

Also, you talked about not doing the chasing and valuing yourself, but you sound as if you are doing the exact opposite. Maybe he doesn't find you attractive.

Salvage some dignity, and let this go. Don't continue to risk being accused of sexual harassment in the workplace.

Good luck.

He works in my building the same hours and the same days every week. It's not my main job, I cover sickness and holidays and I take shifts as and when they come up providing I can do them (around my other job). So no he's not deliberately avoiding me.

There's a strong possibility that he doesn't find me attractive, but I can sense there's something there.

I don't know exactly what you think I'm doing whilst at work but I assure you my dignity is intact. He approaches me, he initiates conversations with me. To say I could be accused of sexual harassment is slightly over the top.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"If there's something you'd like to try,

Ask me, I won't say no,

How could I?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say that you haven't seen him for a month, because you are working opposite shifts. Have you considered the fact that he may be deliberately avoiding you?

Also, you talked about not doing the chasing and valuing yourself, but you sound as if you are doing the exact opposite. Maybe he doesn't find you attractive.

Salvage some dignity, and let this go. Don't continue to risk being accused of sexual harassment in the workplace.

Good luck.

There's a strong possibility that he doesn't find me attractive, but I can sense there's something there.

Exactly and hes as flirty with u as u r with him he wouldnt be like that if he didnt want to be .

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By *etal MickeyMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

Just ask him!!!!

What if he hasn't asked because he didn't want to in work?

Don't let something potentially good slip by just because you didn't ask

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just ask him!!!!

What if he hasn't asked because he didn't want to in work?

Don't let something potentially good slip by just because you didn't ask"

Yes if he's interested at all then he probably hasn't asked because we only see each other in work. I don't want to ask him in work either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Create a male profile in fab.

Slip website, username, and password into his lunchbox.

Message him here.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Not had a work crush for some years now although I still think of ones I've had.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I really don’t think it will happen if you don’t make the first move!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Us men are simple characters, im sure he doesn't need you to not be in work uniform to figure out if he would be interested or not im sure he has an imagination

I get you don't want to approach him at work fairly understandable, you either start dropping some serious hints about your Crimbo party or if you both drive just tell him oh I think I may of hit your car in the car park or whatever give him your number incase you've done any damage and hope he contacts you

obviously don't hit his car

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He probably thinks of you as the nice sexy woman at work who laughs with him about needing a shag and is looking for a nice man who does what he does for a living and who looks like him and with a similar name... and he's probably thinking he wishes he could be that lucky guy but instead he'll content himself with helping you find the guy you're actually after... but the odds of finding such a guy with a similar name are quite low. In fact the whole similar name thing is a bit odd

like two blind eskimos fumbling around in the dark for a camel

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

This plot is more drawn out than who shot Phil Mitchell

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"It sounds like you could be waiting forever then for him to make a move,it may be down to you to initiate something or it may never happen.

That's why I'm using the night out as last chance saloon. If he's interested at all then surely away from work with booze is the right time.

You say that you haven't seen him for a month, because you are working opposite shifts. Have you considered the fact that he may be deliberately avoiding you?

Also, you talked about not doing the chasing and valuing yourself, but you sound as if you are doing the exact opposite. Maybe he doesn't find you attractive.

Salvage some dignity, and let this go. Don't continue to risk being accused of sexual harassment in the workplace.

Good luck.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Maybe your personalities are just too different for it to work,if he's pretty shy and you're more loud. I don't know it's just a thought.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Wilko, I'll ask him for you.

Give me his name. I won't fuck it up, honest.

Fuck Christmas, fuck the chase, fuck the high horse.

Grow a pair and get it done.

Do it just after you see him next.

Who knows, you might end up going to the crimbo party's as a couple and you could be tongue deep up his as by the time the queen does her speech at 3pm.

Ask him out before Sandra from the cleaning dept does (eg)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Christmas seems like a long time to wait. Why don't you try and enquire what he is doing for Halloween or Bonfire night?

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By *i1971Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

"It's ok to want him to ask you out, but speaking from a blokes perspective you need to drop clanging hints to him that that's what you want or he may never do it, sometimes we're insecure too and sometimes we think a girl is way out of our league even if she's totally smitten with us. In short we're absolutely shit at reading the signs sometimes

Agree with this completely. I know that I'm absolutely useless at reading signs & never sure when being friendly might be a sign that there is more interest there (until some time later when thinking back & realise I'd probably missed signs. )

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you think it's appropriate for me to ask a guy out whilst we are both in work cos I don't. He might know I like him but what if he's thinks he's reading the signs wrong and then comes on to me in work. I only see him in work. One woman I was covering for for mid week shifts is now back from long term sick. I'm only casual I'm not contracted so can't request shifts.

I'm lucky he even put his name down to come to our buildings Xmas do. It's not his contracted building to work in. He just sees clients there 3x a week, he didn't come to the last Xmas do or the one before that, all his social stuff to do with work he does with his own team in a separate branch but he wasn't single the previous years and it's only these few months I've shown huge interest in him and flirted etc.

Gods being kind he could be thinking that this is his chance to make a move, away from work and on a night out, we never know.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Your a asking him if he fancies a coffee or a pint.

Your not asking him 'Will you go out with me' that's what teenagers do.

There's no crime in asking a colleague an innocent question.

Could be a coincidence that he can make this Christmas do for the first time ever. Could be because of you.

How do you know he's not on 'dadsnet' or something asking what to do about this girl at work, he only sees her once a month, I think she likes me, blah De blah etc. He could be?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Well fingers crossed you both do get to go to the xmas do otherwise it ain't happening is it.

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

You not get a colleague to have a conversation with him and maybe drop some hints about you and that you might fancy a drink or something with him? As a guy and as some have said, we can be as thick as a plank of wood at reading signals from women and unless your work has a "no relationship with colleagues" rule then there is nothing stopping you asking if he fancies a coffee some time and giving him your number. Then at least you have opened the door and it's up to him to walk through it by getting in touch.

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By *ixfootinthecityMan
over a year ago

London

If you wear that dress he doesn’t stand a chance!

So. Fucking. Hot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you wear that dress he doesn’t stand a chance!

So. Fucking. Hot."

Not wearing a bloody summer dress but thank you. I'm gonna wear something more sexy than that

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

If it's a Camel cigarette or pack that the eskimos are looking for, wouldn't it better using the lighter to see with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's a Camel cigarette or pack that the eskimos are looking for, wouldn't it better using the lighter to see with?"

?huh?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"If it's a Camel cigarette or pack that the eskimos are looking for, wouldn't it better using the lighter to see with?"

Deep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's a Camel cigarette or pack that the eskimos are looking for, wouldn't it better using the lighter to see with?

?huh?

I know. What on earth is this guy on about?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's a Camel cigarette or pack that the eskimos are looking for, wouldn't it better using the lighter to see with?

?huh?

I know. What on earth is this guy on about?!?

Feck knows

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"He probably thinks of you as the nice sexy woman at work who laughs with him about needing a shag and is looking for a nice man who does what he does for a living and who looks like him and with a similar name... and he's probably thinking he wishes he could be that lucky guy but instead he'll content himself with helping you find the guy you're actually after... but the odds of finding such a guy with a similar name are quite low. In fact the whole similar name thing is a bit odd

like two blind eskimos fumbling around in the dark for a camel "

This was the quote, from SoulfulKinky that I was responding to. Sorry about the confusion. That's how my creative mind works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

like two blind eskimos fumbling around in the dark for a camel

This was the quote, from SoulfulKinky that I was responding to. Sorry about the confusion. That's how my creative mind works."

Shit! Rumbled

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

like two blind eskimos fumbling around in the dark for a camel

It's a good thing if he thinks I'm the nice sexy one in work and even better if he wants to be the guy that I want to date!

Maybe if he sits by me on the minibus when we go out he'll let me wank him off on the way there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

like two blind eskimos fumbling around in the dark for a camel

It's a good thing if he thinks I'm the nice sexy one in work and even better if he wants to be the guy that I want to date!

Maybe if he sits by me on the minibus when we go out he'll let me wank him off on the way there.

It's all a bit contradictory.. A few threads up you won't fuck on a first date, but now you are thinking about a minibus wank...

....

You're dooomed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

like two blind eskimos fumbling around in the dark for a camel

It's a good thing if he thinks I'm the nice sexy one in work and even better if he wants to be the guy that I want to date!

Maybe if he sits by me on the minibus when we go out he'll let me wank him off on the way there.

It's all a bit contradictory.. A few threads up you won't fuck on a first date, but now you are thinking about a minibus wank...

....

You're dooomed.

Yeah, holding a mans gristle gut stick and giving him a bit of back and forth is completely different to letting him stick it in my holiest of holy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

like two blind eskimos fumbling around in the dark for a camel

It's a good thing if he thinks I'm the nice sexy one in work and even better if he wants to be the guy that I want to date!

Maybe if he sits by me on the minibus when we go out he'll let me wank him off on the way there.

It's all a bit contradictory.. A few threads up you won't fuck on a first date, but now you are thinking about a minibus wank...

....

You're dooomed.

Yeah, holding a mans gristle gut stick and giving him a bit of back and forth is completely different to letting him stick it in my holiest of holy. "

Classy

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