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By *luespartan OP   Man
over a year ago

crawley

Meeting, as a male, should I take a small gift chocs flowers wine?

Ladies - do you expect it or would you appreciate it?

Guys - well do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i certainly wouldnt expect it, but then again i may be even nicer to you if you did lol

but a bottle of wine is always a good ice breaker. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would not expect it, but would indeed appreciate such a gesture. nothing too grand though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and there is nothing wrong with a guy taking a gift when offered either.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Wouldnt expect it but its most appreciated when they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends !

I would suggest doing your homework before meeting any potential playmate and gauging it for yourself.

Must admit though, I am always happy when the person shows up at all, let alone bearing gifts

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Meeting, as a male, should I take a small gift chocs flowers wine?

Ladies - do you expect it or would you appreciate it?

Guys - well do you?"

I don't expect it but certainly would appreciate it.

I do think in the 21st century it should be both ways, so what gifts would a guy like a women to bring with her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we have met at someone elses home we do tend to take a couple of decent bottles - red and white and wouldnt always expect to be offered them to drink on the night - more a gift for the person/couple for them to enjoy at a later date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meeting, as a male, should I take a small gift chocs flowers wine?

Ladies - do you expect it or would you appreciate it?

Guys - well do you?

I don't expect it but certainly would appreciate it.

I do think in the 21st century it should be both ways, so what gifts would a guy like a women to bring with her?"

some nice ripe fruit?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Meeting, as a male, should I take a small gift chocs flowers wine?

Ladies - do you expect it or would you appreciate it?

Guys - well do you?

I don't expect it but certainly would appreciate it.

I do think in the 21st century it should be both ways, so what gifts would a guy like a women to bring with her?

some nice ripe fruit? "

Melons?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was given a chocolate cock on Saturday !

Am still unsure about what that suggests about how people view me in these forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was given a chocolate cock on Saturday !

Am still unsure about what that suggests about how people view me in these forums "

you'' just have ta suck it n see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meeting, as a male, should I take a small gift chocs flowers wine?

Ladies - do you expect it or would you appreciate it?

Guys - well do you?

I don't expect it but certainly would appreciate it.

I do think in the 21st century it should be both ways, so what gifts would a guy like a women to bring with her?"

Chocolate would be good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was given a chocolate cock on Saturday !

Am still unsure about what that suggests about how people view me in these forums

you'' just have ta suck it n see."

oh it's already gone

i'm not good around temptation

altho in saying that, have i just answered my own question ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was given a chocolate cock on Saturday !

Am still unsure about what that suggests about how people view me in these forums

you'' just have ta suck it n see.

oh it's already gone

i'm not good around temptation

altho in saying that, have i just answered my own question ? "

just as long as ya shared it round

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By *luespartan OP   Man
over a year ago

crawley

mmm say some delicious chocolate boobs in Belguim , and definately would love to share them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was given a chocolate cock on Saturday !

Am still unsure about what that suggests about how people view me in these forums

you'' just have ta suck it n see.

oh it's already gone

i'm not good around temptation

altho in saying that, have i just answered my own question ?

just as long as ya shared it round "

fraid not - i can be a very selfish lover at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we are meeting someone at their house we always take something, be it desert, wine, chocolates etc. but I think its because we are just that way, we always take something to our vanilla friends houses too (apart from the ones we are round alot lol)

if someone bought me a bottle of wine etc I would accept it with good graces and feel that they made the effort and are thoughtful and definitely thank them. if they didn't bring it I wouldn't think about it I don't consider it rude not to, just very nice when it is done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mmm say some delicious chocolate boobs in Belguim , and definately would love to share them "

i think it may have originated from a similar source

from what i hear there were several anatomical choccy choices

and i got the cock !

as i said, i am much misunderstood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol just take a shower and they will prolly be happy

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By *luespartan OP   Man
over a year ago

crawley

even a cold one ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meeting, as a male, should I take a small gift chocs flowers wine?

Ladies - do you expect it or would you appreciate it?

Guys - well do you?"

I don't expect a gift, but it is appreciated.

The gifts that mean the most are the silly 1's. The three that jump to mind are a box of cream cakes, ice lollies, and a book. Not all from the same person.

But what made me really appreciate them, was the fact that each item was brought up in random conversation before the meet.

Though you can never go wrong with flowers (supermarket, last longer), wine (red for me) or vodka (glens, I dont like any other kind, gives me a hangover).

Just incase anyone wants to bring me a gift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't expect it and wouldn't appreciate it either. If I play with someone its because as a couple we are in agreement with that.

Some men get the idea that if they bring something they are onto a definite play session and its not the case. And I also don't want strangers buying me gifts.

If it was a party we would turn up with a bottle because we don't expect the hosts to provide alcohol or food for us and its a contribution. We don't drink so neither of us would be drinking it.

Most men feel its polite to bring a woman a small gift, but there are men who have a different perception and expectation. Until you've met you can't guage what kind of man he is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have never thought about this until now! And funny enough have never had one! Though the people i have meet in hotels have always paid and when i was invited to the social he paid for me all night! Which was nice! I think i wouldnt mind a gift but would have no idea what to get for a guy unless it was something to use on me! Xx lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seem to remember a thread a week or two ago where the guy bought a lady some lingerie .... he became some sort of demanding stalker as i remember

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"mmm say some delicious chocolate boobs in Belguim , and definately would love to share them

i think it may have originated from a similar source

from what i hear there were several anatomical choccy choices

and i got the cock !

as i said, i am much misunderstood "

Thought the choice was perfect for you, Colin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mmm say some delicious chocolate boobs in Belguim , and definately would love to share them

i think it may have originated from a similar source

from what i hear there were several anatomical choccy choices

and i got the cock !

as i said, i am much misunderstood

Thought the choice was perfect for you, Colin "

they say a picture says a thousand words

so does a noise like nom, nom, nom

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"mmm say some delicious chocolate boobs in Belguim , and definately would love to share them

i think it may have originated from a similar source

from what i hear there were several anatomical choccy choices

and i got the cock !

as i said, i am much misunderstood

Thought the choice was perfect for you, Colin

they say a picture says a thousand words

so does a noise like nom, nom, nom "

Was it good for you hun lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mmm say some delicious chocolate boobs in Belguim , and definately would love to share them

i think it may have originated from a similar source

from what i hear there were several anatomical choccy choices

and i got the cock !

as i said, i am much misunderstood

Thought the choice was perfect for you, Colin

they say a picture says a thousand words

so does a noise like nom, nom, nom

Was it good for you hun lol"

It was that bad it was good

I've moved on to Will Smith now though, so I'll get a request in now for the 9 inch version next year

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"mmm say some delicious chocolate boobs in Belguim , and definately would love to share them

i think it may have originated from a similar source

from what i hear there were several anatomical choccy choices

and i got the cock !

as i said, i am much misunderstood

Thought the choice was perfect for you, Colin

they say a picture says a thousand words

so does a noise like nom, nom, nom

Was it good for you hun lol

It was that bad it was good

I've moved on to Will Smith now though, so I'll get a request in now for the 9 inch version next year "

Greedy

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If ive been invited to someones house for any occassion (not just going to my friends) i always take either chocolates or alcohol. As for guys i dont go to their houses but if i did it would just be something silly and small appropriate to them

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Meeting, as a male, should I take a small gift chocs flowers wine?

Ladies - do you expect it or would you appreciate it?

Guys - well do you?"

mate, cut it out lol

'they' will all expect it if you start doing that

half a lager and a bag of crisps will do

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"half a lager and a bag of crisps will do "

Get ya coat, you've pulled

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"half a lager and a bag of crisps will do

Get ya coat, you've pulled"

join the line sweet cheeks lol

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"seem to remember a thread a week or two ago where the guy bought a lady some lingerie .... he became some sort of demanding stalker as i remember"

Yes thats true, though I think theres a difference between lingerie (and his response afterwards) and a small 'token' gift.

Id actually prefer no gift at all personally, unless it was someone that I met regularly and classed as friends socially, but even then I would certainly never expect it.

A couple of times when Ive met with couples specifically to play with the husband Ive taken a bunch of flowers for the lady - if shes loaning me her husband for the night it just seemed an appropriate thing to do - but other than that its not something that I would normally do, unless its taking a bottle to a party of course...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meeting, as a male, should I take a small gift chocs flowers wine?

Ladies - do you expect it or would you appreciate it?

Guys - well do you?"

i think i would find it rather odd if io met a guy and he bough e a gift

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By *he BananamanMan
over a year ago

WORCESTERSHIRE

when going to a meet at someone elses place i usually take a bottle of wine,not for just drinking on the night though!.

i remember years ago as a teen it was sort of normal to take a box of chocs for the girl you were meeting but guess this sort of died out years ago along with opening a door for a lady and other little courtesy things.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

I think it's cool to take something to a meet. I kinda view it not as just a wham bam thank you session but a date. Yes, a date!

The best I have had was a meet I had a a year ago where I turned up to a lovely house with wine, ice cream and chocolates. We went out to a lovely dinner, came back had a lengthy chat, lit some candles, rolled out some sheets and a throw on the carpet, turned on some porn, ate ice cream and drank wine and had steamy sex! It was supposed to be a few hours but the foreplay was so good, I stayed the whole weekend!

It was one of the best meets ever. Who says because you are meeting for sex, it has to be mechanical. And having all that didn't mean one of us had to turn into a stalker either. It's nice to et that with someone who is mentally stable though,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meeting, as a male, should I take a small gift chocs flowers wine?

Ladies - do you expect it or would you appreciate it?

Guys - well do you?"
Wear clean pants and bring a smile.Well it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always taken something a bottle normally of her choice

Im sorry i cannot for the life of me understanding anyone turning up empty handed to a meet

I personally think it so bloody rude xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there u go love, thats ur SD card with the pics..the tied ribbons a used johhny(washed out of course!)

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By *rummpsMan
over a year ago

thanet


"I have always taken something a bottle normally of her choice

Im sorry i cannot for the life of me understanding anyone turning up empty handed to a meet

I personally think it so bloody rude xx "

Me too. Especially if it was a meet for sex.

But not if its a first social meet in a pub or coffe bar. Then I would expect to pay for the drinks and/or the meal etc.

_rummps x

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Meeting, as a male, should I take a small gift chocs flowers wine?

Ladies - do you expect it or would you appreciate it?

Guys - well do you?"

i would feel uncomfortable,its a fuck not a date.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I have always taken something a bottle normally of her choice

Im sorry i cannot for the life of me understanding anyone turning up empty handed to a meet

I personally think it so bloody rude xx "

see i would feel pressured if you brought something and that you were being rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have always taken something a bottle normally of her choice

Im sorry i cannot for the life of me understanding anyone turning up empty handed to a meet

I personally think it so bloody rude xx

see i would feel pressured if you brought something and that you were being rude "

On that we will have ta agree to differ

Ive always been and always will be old school on that xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have always taken something a bottle normally of her choice

Im sorry i cannot for the life of me understanding anyone turning up empty handed to a meet

I personally think it so bloody rude xx "

i'll have a bottle of disaronno please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have always taken something a bottle normally of her choice

Im sorry i cannot for the life of me understanding anyone turning up empty handed to a meet

I personally think it so bloody rude xx

i'll have a bottle of disaronno please "

On me way xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have always taken something a bottle normally of her choice

Im sorry i cannot for the life of me understanding anyone turning up empty handed to a meet

I personally think it so bloody rude xx

i'll have a bottle of disaronno please

On me way xx"

if you turn up and ask for a kiss i'll know you've already d*unk it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have always taken something a bottle normally of her choice

Im sorry i cannot for the life of me understanding anyone turning up empty handed to a meet

I personally think it so bloody rude xx "

I brought my fingers cock n tongue.....ffs...what else do i need.

left personality and charm at home tho...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldnt expect it but i think its a lovely gesture and id accept,i.like to take something if im meeting at thier place,usually bottle of bubbles,did receive a yummy fresh cream.bun yest....hahaha from a very lush gent,likkle things like that are really appreciated,so op id say yes if you feel the need to go for it ,we are all different but a courteous gesture never goes amiss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My parents always bought a gift when visiting friends and family. It's something I do, and my daughters too.

Therefore I do find it "odd" if someone visits my home where they're fed, watered, shagged and showered after rumpling my sheets, empty handed...they tend not to get a second invite.

One of my favourite gifts is a Dominatrix teddy bear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could she bring a sexy female friend as a gift?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wouldn't expect it but have had flowers bought which was lovely.

i hv one fb who spoils me buys me sexy underwear and has bought me 2 meals as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could she bring a sexy female friend as a gift?

"
trust u...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could she bring a sexy female friend as a gift?

trust u... "
he couldn't handle 1 never mind 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could she bring a sexy female friend as a gift?

trust u... he couldn't handle 1 never mind 2 "

canny possible comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gifts? Bloomin eck, your lucky if a guys brings condoms!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Gifts? Bloomin eck, your lucky if a guys brings condoms! "

I'm lucky if they turn up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gifts? Bloomin eck, your lucky if a guys brings condoms!

I'm lucky if they turn up! "

hahaha, yeh, there is that as well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't expect anything either but on the odd occasion I have received a bottle of wine and chocolates which is always appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with those gentlemen who bring a gift. The gift should be appropriate I think. Turning up to 1st social meet with whips, handcuffs and gimp mask is a little over the top.

When invited round for coffee during the day I have taken biscuits (also Midget gems as the lady expressed a liking for them). Meeting in the evening I have taken wine, agree with other posters in that i do not expect it to be cracked open for me to drink with them. I have even taken round Throat pastilles when a "play" meet was changed to a social due to the "playee" having a sore throat.

I think that if someone is inviting you into their home a little token of appreciation is a must.

I am old school in that respect when i was a lot younger I often used to take the mother of a girl I was dating Chocolates or flowers (never did get to shag her though...the daughter or mother that is hahaha)

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