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Grieving and sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bit of an odd one but do any of you want sex when you're grieving? I've experinced this numerous times. I want to make sure I'm not weird!

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

We all deal with grief in different ways, you just found yours

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op grieve is very individual to people its quite common to want to be close to another human being

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but then again I didn't want to do anything when I was grieving

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I fuck when I'm happy.

I fuck when I'm sad.

I fuck when I'm grieving

I fuck when I'm mad.

Draw your own conclusions from that Mr Freud...

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Sex can be comforting, so it's not that unusual to look for comfort in any form when you're grieving.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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No, it's not weird - I went through a phase of wanting all the sex whilst grieving - it takes your mind off things, releases positive hormones and emotions and reminds you you can still feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle when im stressed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I struggle when im stressed"

Totally loose my drive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I fuck when I'm happy.

I fuck when I'm sad.

I fuck when I'm grieving

I fuck when I'm mad.

Draw your own conclusions from that Mr Freud...

"

Fuck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, it's not weird - I went through a phase of wanting all the sex whilst grieving - it takes your mind off things, releases positive hormones and emotions and reminds you you can still feel. "

This is very reassuring xx Thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I struggle when im stressed

Totally loose my drive"

I think stress is a different beast entirely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I struggle when im stressed

Totally loose my drive"

Me too! My orgasms aren't the same either, nowhere near as strong!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sex can be comforting, so it's not that unusual to look for comfort in any form when you're grieving. "

This is calming advice thankyou xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it's the comfort of another person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I struggle when im stressed

Totally loose my drive

I think stress is a different beast entirely"

Not sure about that

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

If im grieving .... I just want to be alone ......

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Different strokes for different folks.

Like most things in life, or even on fab, there's no real right or wrong response.

Sorry to hear you are grieving. Hug of support for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

This takes me back 11/12 years, my grandad passed away and I did an impulsive meet with a lady from another site.

So yeah everyone has different ways of grieving.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East


"Bit of an odd one but do any of you want sex when you're grieving? I've experinced this numerous times. I want to make sure I'm not weird!"

With a stranger or someone close?

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

No, what if they are up in heaven looking down at me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to a sex worker the day after my wife's funeral. Most people will regard that as disgraceful and perhaps it was.

I simply found it comforting and in no way diminished my love for my wife which remains to this day 10 years after she died .

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East


"I went to a sex worker the day after my wife's funeral. Most people will regard that as disgraceful and perhaps it was.

I simply found it comforting and in no way diminished my love for my wife which remains to this day 10 years after she died ."

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Bit of an odd one but do any of you want sex when you're grieving? I've experinced this numerous times. I want to make sure I'm not weird!"

Absolutely no way. My grief has been private and stressful. Sex is the last thing I wanted.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I don’t want sex, it is the last thing on my mind, just the thought of it it makes me feel “unfaithful” if that makes sense but that is just me, we are all different.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I was discussing this recently with a relationship therapist and it’s fairly common. Not something I’ve wanted to do but the reasons are because sex makes you close to another person and it reminds you that you’re alive.

So no, you’re not crazy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This takes me back 11/12 years, my grandad passed away and I did an impulsive meet with a lady from another site.

So yeah everyone has different ways of grieving."

Yeah I think is related to my grandparents for sure. My partner hasn't passed away, I can't begin to imagine how thst would feel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was discussing this recently with a relationship therapist and it’s fairly common. Not something I’ve wanted to do but the reasons are because sex makes you close to another person and it reminds you that you’re alive.

So no, you’re not crazy "

Thanks x

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By *idlandiaMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Used to be a thing in hospitals, lose a patient that you faught hard to try to save, hop into bed (or store cupboard) with another member of staff. Comforting and life affirming.

Not allowed now obvs

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By *eus n EuropaCouple
over a year ago

louth

We have both experienced grief with the loss of very close loved ones n found sex a very important part of grieving as it brings so much closeness, that for a lot of couples is much needed to understand what their partner is going through

Just go with what feels right for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's quite normal ... so don't worry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have both experienced grief with the loss of very close loved ones n found sex a very important part of grieving as it brings so much closeness, that for a lot of couples is much needed to understand what their partner is going through

Just go with what feels right for you x"

Thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit of an odd one but do any of you want sex when you're grieving? I've experinced this numerous times. I want to make sure I'm not weird!"

Only if she's still warm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t want sex, it is the last thing on my mind, just the thought of it it makes me feel “unfaithful” if that makes sense but that is just me, we are all different. "
I'm struggling with exactly the same. Feeling it's being unfaithful.... even though it's not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely when my sibling died. It reminded me I was alive, it felt good and I needed a release.

I imagine it might be different if it was a partner.

My research indicated it was a pretty common impulse.

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