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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Whilst it shows you like someone more, is it more a practicality? I heard that when some divorce it could be a nightmare to get the house from the other half, whats your view, whats the pros and cons?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

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over a year ago

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I saw one I liked on Facebook this morning:

'Marriage: an endless sleepover with your favourite wierdo!'.

Marriage should be fun - the only thing I really miss about my ex is the play, we used to play all the time. And the hugs - he was an epic hugger.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

A mate of mine who divorced a couple of years ago said that his marriage was quote " paying the bills and getting shouted at "

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds


"Whilst it shows you like someone more, is it more a practicality? I heard that when some divorce it could be a nightmare to get the house from the other half, whats your view, whats the pros and cons? "

My view of marriage is it's being part of a team, someone's always got your back, as commiserator or cheerleader. Heading through life together with your best friend and partner. Sometimes it's shit, yep. But mostly it's lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's always someone to remind you about things you hadn't thought of doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A mate of mine who divorced a couple of years ago said that his marriage was quote " paying the bills and getting shouted at " "

Haha

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty of people who enjoy being married. Isn’t it proven to be better for men’s health ? I’m sure I read that somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marriage should be both of you, as a team working together. Communicating, honesty and giving each other emotional support. My soon to be ex never really understood this...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are plenty of people who enjoy being married. Isn’t it proven to be better for men’s health ? I’m sure I read that somewhere. "

Yes biit that was a woman that said it and they are alwayd right

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Someone to do the rubbish and the garden and share the bills.

Works ok.

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By *eorgeo1Man
over a year ago

Slaley


"Marriage should be both of you, as a team working together. Communicating, honesty and giving each other emotional support. My soon to be ex never really understood this..."

Absolutely right. I tied the knot this wkend and belive the same qualities you've mentioned. Sorry to hear of your separation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst it shows you like someone more, is it more a practicality? I heard that when some divorce it could be a nightmare to get the house from the other half, whats your view, whats the pros and cons? "
you get your dinner cooked your shirts ironed your kids looked after and your house cleaned it's amazing

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool


"A mate of mine who divorced a couple of years ago said that his marriage was quote " paying the bills and getting shouted at " "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are plenty of people who enjoy being married. Isn’t it proven to be better for men’s health ? I’m sure I read that somewhere. "

They get a new mama to look after them

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are plenty of people who enjoy being married. Isn’t it proven to be better for men’s health ? I’m sure I read that somewhere. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've had friends who were couples where one half of the couple have tragically passed away. the remaining unmarried partner lost everything as the next of kin were beneficiaries to the deceased's estate

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

The main benefits are someone to put your cold feet on in bed, someone to make you a cup of tea when you're ill, when you're having a horrible day there's someone at home to sit quietly doing this while you rant and rave and sex.

I don't know what benefits Mr N gets the poor chap but I do make him sandwiches while he's busy putting up with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone to make me laugh.

Someone to make me see reason when I'm being a tit and still love me.

Not married but been together an eternity so as good as.

Mrs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I saw one I liked on Facebook this morning:

'Marriage: an endless sleepover with your favourite wierdo!'.

Marriage should be fun - the only thing I really miss about my ex is the play, we used to play all the time. And the hugs - he was an epic hugger."

Aww I love that! Every night I'm so happy I get to sleep beside my favourite weirdo

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

Our 30th wedding anniversary today...

We still wind each other up, make each other laugh,cry and most importantly tea! ( cake is optional..)

But seriously we simply still care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our 30th wedding anniversary today...

We still wind each other up, make each other laugh,cry and most importantly tea! ( cake is optional..)

But seriously we simply still care "

congratulations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of the time I hate being single and feel like happy ever after won't happen for me.

However I overhead this couple out for dinner at the weekend. He says " I'm going to the tip tomorrow, would you like to come with me."

He looked so pleased and I could practically hear her eyes roll...

Seriously, if that's marriage you can keep it !

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

We both love being married

My hubby is my best friend....my soul mate

Looks after me when I’m pissed.....lol

Seriously we wouldn’t be without each other

Xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Benefits: practicality

As mentioned above. If it’s long term and you’re living together it’s a legal nightmare if you’re not married and one of you dies. My ex would get everything and we have been separated a long time!

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By *icvon 69Man
over a year ago

glossop

Depends on who you marry and why I married for something normal compared to abnormal cant go into details as to what was abnormal but the lady I married did it for show not love as I did not do it for love either so separated and are divorcing so wasted both our time. so getting married is love and commitment with the right person. now im in a relationship with my first girlfriend of 16. 23years later the best thing I ever did BUT marriage again nope im committed with or wothout it

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Tarka trail

On that rare occasion I may get a migraine, and it's good to know that you know someone, who is close to hand, who is willing to sell you the correct medication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marriage is basically a lifelong competition between who has worked harder, whose turn it is to wash up, who has had less sleep and who forgot to put the buns out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are plenty of people who enjoy being married. Isn’t it proven to be better for men’s health ? I’m sure I read that somewhere.

They get a new mama to look after them "

Does that make them all mother fuckers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's always someone to remind you about things you hadn't thought of doing"

Yes, like decorating, gardening, fitting that shelf etc....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may well have caught me at the wrong time for this...

My wife asked for a divorce recently after 20 years together. The love was there, wedding day great, etc. 2 kids, all that.

She said we'd grown apart and were too different and should go our separate ways.

Loads more too it, but I don't want to bore.

Regarding play, it was always vanilla, the main reason I joined fab is to explore alternatives. However, because I loved her, it was enough.

Now I'm struggling to get the mortgage to buy her out of the house.

If you want to be with her and like the idea, do it. If you're able to accept everything about her, do it. If you love her unconditionally, do it. Treat it as the ultimate romantic commitment. Things may not last forever, but live it in the moment.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"A lot of the time I hate being single and feel like happy ever after won't happen for me.

However I overhead this couple out for dinner at the weekend. He says " I'm going to the tip tomorrow, would you like to come with me."

He looked so pleased and I could practically hear her eyes roll...

Seriously, if that's marriage you can keep it !"

I disagree - marriage is about being so happy to be with someone, you are happy to be with them whatever they are doing, the mundane things, the difficult things, and the fun things.

Bring it on, that's human life and compassion.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I saw one I liked on Facebook this morning:

'Marriage: an endless sleepover with your favourite wierdo!'.

Marriage should be fun - the only thing I really miss about my ex is the play, we used to play all the time. And the hugs - he was an epic hugger.

Aww I love that! Every night I'm so happy I get to sleep beside my favourite weirdo "

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always thought marriage was a word, turned out to be a sentence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are plenty of people who enjoy being married. Isn’t it proven to be better for men’s health ? I’m sure I read that somewhere.

They get a new mama to look after them

Does that make them all mother fuckers?"

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

I absolutely love being married! I was very happy with my husband even before we were married, but being married took it to a new level for me. Maybe it's because I'm African and we have different traditions so being married is definitely different to being partners.

And I know most people will disagree with this, but I love being his and him mine. It has added a whole new dimension to our already awesome relationship.

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

Never been married.... Never found anyone unique enough to want me long term

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"A lot of the time I hate being single and feel like happy ever after won't happen for me.

However I overhead this couple out for dinner at the weekend. He says " I'm going to the tip tomorrow, would you like to come with me."

He looked so pleased and I could practically hear her eyes roll...

Seriously, if that's marriage you can keep it !"

That's a snapshot of one time in one marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's always someone to remind you about things you hadn't thought of doing

Yes, like decorating, gardening, fitting that shelf etc...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is"

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights. "
yes that would be my only reason. I wish my dad and his partner had done it. But as we dont live together the financial side of things isnt an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst it shows you like someone more, is it more a practicality? I heard that when some divorce it could be a nightmare to get the house from the other half, whats your view, whats the pros and cons?

My view of marriage is it's being part of a team, someone's always got your back, as commiserator or cheerleader. Heading through life together with your best friend and partner. Sometimes it's shit, yep. But mostly it's lovely.

"

This is well said. I think too many have the wrong idea that it's always to be a rose bed and when they find its involves hard work on both parties they look elsewhere for their romantic effortless idea of marriage. We need those hard difficult times to give good foundation but also to make those great time shine. Without the hard times we don't fully appreciate and covet those good.

Many separate for different reasons and each is different it's hard to generalise but when you see a good happy one it's rarely equalled imo.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights. "

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I absolutely love being married! I was very happy with my husband even before we were married, but being married took it to a new level for me. Maybe it's because I'm African and we have different traditions so being married is definitely different to being partners.

And I know most people will disagree with this, but I love being his and him mine. It has added a whole new dimension to our already awesome relationship. "

That's lovely to hear where it appears the majority see it otherwise.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that."
it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will "

Yes. It can be upsetting for the beteaved partner when they can't make basic decisions too.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will

Yes. It can be upsetting for the beteaved partner when they can't make basic decisions too."
it was ridiculous. She couldnt even pick the death certificate up or register the death. I had to literally do everything. Luckily i did/do have a great relationship with her so we worked together. Even had to come down to me to switch his life support off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry can’t help , never been married

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will

Yes. It can be upsetting for the beteaved partner when they can't make basic decisions too.it was ridiculous. She couldnt even pick the death certificate up or register the death. I had to literally do everything. Luckily i did/do have a great relationship with her so we worked together. Even had to come down to me to switch his life support off"

Mr N had a similar experience but with a post mortem. There should be some sort of thing you could set up to nominate a next of kin of your choosing.

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By *veready69Man
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH


"A lot of the time I hate being single and feel like happy ever after won't happen for me.

However I overhead this couple out for dinner at the weekend. He says " I'm going to the tip tomorrow, would you like to come with me."

He looked so pleased and I could practically hear her eyes roll...

Seriously, if that's marriage you can keep it !"

Clearly you have never had the pleasure of the tip shop!

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By *sfleurWoman
over a year ago

wednesfield

I enjoyed marriage had great sex & he was my best mate - sadly he passed away 8 years ago - miss the intimacy & laughs still & the history together - Ive had some fun & a toyboy but if I was younger would still enjoy being with one guy - never knock marriage as long as it suits you

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By *rouble twoCouple
over a year ago

lincs

I married my best friend as we can talk about all sorts and share each other out !! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone to make me laugh.

Someone to make me see reason when I'm being a tit and still love me.

"

love it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will

Yes. It can be upsetting for the beteaved partner when they can't make basic decisions too.it was ridiculous. She couldnt even pick the death certificate up or register the death. I had to literally do everything. Luckily i did/do have a great relationship with her so we worked together. Even had to come down to me to switch his life support off

Mr N had a similar experience but with a post mortem. There should be some sort of thing you could set up to nominate a next of kin of your choosing."

it's called marriage/civil partnership

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will

Yes. It can be upsetting for the beteaved partner when they can't make basic decisions too.it was ridiculous. She couldnt even pick the death certificate up or register the death. I had to literally do everything. Luckily i did/do have a great relationship with her so we worked together. Even had to come down to me to switch his life support off

Mr N had a similar experience but with a post mortem. There should be some sort of thing you could set up to nominate a next of kin of your choosing.

it's called marriage/civil partnership

"

Aside from that.

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

How does the old saying go? Oh yeah....

Marriage is like a deck of cards. In the beginning all you need is two hearts and a diamond. By the end you wish you had a club and spade.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I married my best friend, we’re inseparable. We love doing everything together and I honestly wouldn’t want it any other way

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By *OCKDUDE1Man
over a year ago

TROWBRIDGE/BRISTOL


"Whilst it shows you like someone more, is it more a practicality? I heard that when some divorce it could be a nightmare to get the house from the other half, whats your view, whats the pros and cons?

My view of marriage is it's being part of a team, someone's always got your back, as commiserator or cheerleader. Heading through life together with your best friend and partner. Sometimes it's shit, yep. But mostly it's lovely.

"

I totally agree with all this massively but I think the OP was asking if the actual getting married part was worth it...what you've described is definitely how everyone would want their partnership to be. I think the OP wanted to know if the complications, possible expenses etc that could come with marriage, especially if it doesn't work out...then you have extra complications and expenses, added stresses with divorce! I am a believer in marriage by the way but I understand people questioning it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will

Yes. It can be upsetting for the beteaved partner when they can't make basic decisions too.it was ridiculous. She couldnt even pick the death certificate up or register the death. I had to literally do everything. Luckily i did/do have a great relationship with her so we worked together. Even had to come down to me to switch his life support off

Mr N had a similar experience but with a post mortem. There should be some sort of thing you could set up to nominate a next of kin of your choosing.

it's called marriage/civil partnership

Aside from that."

why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will

Yes. It can be upsetting for the beteaved partner when they can't make basic decisions too.it was ridiculous. She couldnt even pick the death certificate up or register the death. I had to literally do everything. Luckily i did/do have a great relationship with her so we worked together. Even had to come down to me to switch his life support off

Mr N had a similar experience but with a post mortem. There should be some sort of thing you could set up to nominate a next of kin of your choosing."

I hate all the automatic rights that blood relatives have. Some people have families they would never choose as friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will

Yes. It can be upsetting for the beteaved partner when they can't make basic decisions too.it was ridiculous. She couldnt even pick the death certificate up or register the death. I had to literally do everything. Luckily i did/do have a great relationship with her so we worked together. Even had to come down to me to switch his life support off

Mr N had a similar experience but with a post mortem. There should be some sort of thing you could set up to nominate a next of kin of your choosing.

I hate all the automatic rights that blood relatives have. Some people have families they would never choose as friends. "

which automatic rights?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will

Yes. It can be upsetting for the beteaved partner when they can't make basic decisions too.it was ridiculous. She couldnt even pick the death certificate up or register the death. I had to literally do everything. Luckily i did/do have a great relationship with her so we worked together. Even had to come down to me to switch his life support off

Mr N had a similar experience but with a post mortem. There should be some sort of thing you could set up to nominate a next of kin of your choosing.

I hate all the automatic rights that blood relatives have. Some people have families they would never choose as friends. "

I'm probably talking shite, apologies.

I just found this:

"Next of kin legal rights. The term usually means your nearest blood relative. In the case of a married couple or a civil partnership it usually means their husband or wife.

Next of kin is a title that can be given, by you, to anyone from your partner to blood relatives and even friends.

It is also possible to name more than one person as your next of kin. This is a title that is primarily used in order for emergency services to know who to keep informed about an individual’s condition and treatment."

I never knew that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should be celebrating my 30th anniversary today , thank goodness for divorce

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

All about finding the right partner for you..

We've been married for 10 years been together for 15 come on fab do a bit of unicorn hunting have a great time..

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will

Yes. It can be upsetting for the beteaved partner when they can't make basic decisions too.it was ridiculous. She couldnt even pick the death certificate up or register the death. I had to literally do everything. Luckily i did/do have a great relationship with her so we worked together. Even had to come down to me to switch his life support off

Mr N had a similar experience but with a post mortem. There should be some sort of thing you could set up to nominate a next of kin of your choosing.

I hate all the automatic rights that blood relatives have. Some people have families they would never choose as friends.

which automatic rights?"
when my dad died he left no will so everything automatically came to me i could of kept everything and not shared it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will

Yes. It can be upsetting for the beteaved partner when they can't make basic decisions too.it was ridiculous. She couldnt even pick the death certificate up or register the death. I had to literally do everything. Luckily i did/do have a great relationship with her so we worked together. Even had to come down to me to switch his life support off

Mr N had a similar experience but with a post mortem. There should be some sort of thing you could set up to nominate a next of kin of your choosing.

it's called marriage/civil partnership

Aside from that.

why?

"

So that people who choose not to get married or enter into a civil partnership can nominate their partner as their next of kin.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will

Yes. It can be upsetting for the beteaved partner when they can't make basic decisions too.it was ridiculous. She couldnt even pick the death certificate up or register the death. I had to literally do everything. Luckily i did/do have a great relationship with her so we worked together. Even had to come down to me to switch his life support off

Mr N had a similar experience but with a post mortem. There should be some sort of thing you could set up to nominate a next of kin of your choosing.

I hate all the automatic rights that blood relatives have. Some people have families they would never choose as friends.

I'm probably talking shite, apologies.

I just found this:

"Next of kin legal rights. The term usually means your nearest blood relative. In the case of a married couple or a civil partnership it usually means their husband or wife.

Next of kin is a title that can be given, by you, to anyone from your partner to blood relatives and even friends.

It is also possible to name more than one person as your next of kin. This is a title that is primarily used in order for emergency services to know who to keep informed about an individual’s condition and treatment."

I never knew that. "

It's fairly difficult to do that after you're dead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will

Yes. It can be upsetting for the beteaved partner when they can't make basic decisions too.it was ridiculous. She couldnt even pick the death certificate up or register the death. I had to literally do everything. Luckily i did/do have a great relationship with her so we worked together. Even had to come down to me to switch his life support off

Mr N had a similar experience but with a post mortem. There should be some sort of thing you could set up to nominate a next of kin of your choosing.

it's called marriage/civil partnership

Aside from that.

why?

So that people who choose not to get married or enter into a civil partnership can nominate their partner as their next of kin."

they already can ... but people choose not to use the mechanisms provided and that cause problems for those around them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m in it for the tax breaks

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By *lbert_shlossedMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"i've had friends who were couples where one half of the couple have tragically passed away. the remaining unmarried partner lost everything as the next of kin were beneficiaries to the deceased's estate"
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Why would they expect to inherit the partners worldly possessions?.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"i've had friends who were couples where one half of the couple have tragically passed away. the remaining unmarried partner lost everything as the next of kin were beneficiaries to the deceased's estate.

Why would they expect to inherit the partners worldly possessions?.

"
if you where sharing a home with someone you would expect to be able to still live in it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will

Yes. It can be upsetting for the beteaved partner when they can't make basic decisions too.it was ridiculous. She couldnt even pick the death certificate up or register the death. I had to literally do everything. Luckily i did/do have a great relationship with her so we worked together. Even had to come down to me to switch his life support off

Mr N had a similar experience but with a post mortem. There should be some sort of thing you could set up to nominate a next of kin of your choosing.

it's called marriage/civil partnership

Aside from that.

why?

So that people who choose not to get married or enter into a civil partnership can nominate their partner as their next of kin.

they already can ... but people choose not to use the mechanisms provided and that cause problems for those around them"

It's pretty clear that quite a few people in this thread, me included, didn't know that. You can't choose something you don't know about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me i couldnt see any benefit to getting married. My relationship is perfect how it is

My friends have been together 30 years. They are seriously thinking about getting married just due to legal reasons if (when) one of them dies. Sharing ownership of the house and things like that. Also next of kin rights.

It can be very distressing when a partner if the next of kin is a child who might not have had a great relationship with their parent's new partner. If for no other reason its worth getting the piece of paper to avoid that.it was bloody stressful for me and i got on with her as he never even left a will

Yes. It can be upsetting for the beteaved partner when they can't make basic decisions too.it was ridiculous. She couldnt even pick the death certificate up or register the death. I had to literally do everything. Luckily i did/do have a great relationship with her so we worked together. Even had to come down to me to switch his life support off

Mr N had a similar experience but with a post mortem. There should be some sort of thing you could set up to nominate a next of kin of your choosing.

it's called marriage/civil partnership

Aside from that.

why?

So that people who choose not to get married or enter into a civil partnership can nominate their partner as their next of kin.

they already can ... but people choose not to use the mechanisms provided and that cause problems for those around them

It's pretty clear that quite a few people in this thread, me included, didn't know that. You can't choose something you don't know about."

hopefully this thread will prompt some folks to investigate what the ramifications are when they don't consider what their loved ones rights are when they pass away then

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By *hubnwife_36dd_ukCouple
over a year ago

chester

Oho def a post that is going to bring the embittered and the cynical to the fore.

We've managed decades of marriage and fought our way, side by side through life's storms, disasters (including losing a home and business to greedy bankers in the late 80s banking scandals that left us literally with almost nothing), overcome grief and regained happiness. Together, side by side, often hard work and graft but we've emerged stronger, together until death.

Nothing worthwhile in life is easy. Nothing worth holding onto falls into your lap without effort except in fairy land.

As for complications re wills etc. Keep it simple. We have a "living will" registered with our solicitor and known to the family.

When one of us dies the other inherits everything. When they die the children inherit equal shares of the remaining estate (as in monetary value not place with trees and lawns).

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By *lbert_shlossedMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"i've had friends who were couples where one half of the couple have tragically passed away. the remaining unmarried partner lost everything as the next of kin were beneficiaries to the deceased's estate.

Why would they expect to inherit the partners worldly possessions?.

if you where sharing a home with someone you would expect to be able to still live in it"
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You can, but you might have to buy your partners share of it?.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"i've had friends who were couples where one half of the couple have tragically passed away. the remaining unmarried partner lost everything as the next of kin were beneficiaries to the deceased's estate.

Why would they expect to inherit the partners worldly possessions?.

if you where sharing a home with someone you would expect to be able to still live in it.

You can, but you might have to buy your partners share of it?."
when my dad died i could of whipped everything from under his partners feet

House, pensions and money. I could of literally left her with nothing. Yes she could of contested

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By *hubnwife_36dd_ukCouple
over a year ago

chester


"A lot of the time I hate being single and feel like happy ever after won't happen for me.

However I overhead this couple out for dinner at the weekend. He says " I'm going to the tip tomorrow, would you like to come with me."

He looked so pleased and I could practically hear her eyes roll...

Seriously, if that's marriage you can keep it !

That's a snapshot of one time in one marriage."

Heh heh...don't knock it. Marriage is about sharing the mundane as well as the fabulous.

My other half often accompanies me to the tip. Though sometimes I suspect ulterior motives as we seem to come back with inordinate amounts of their very good line in low priced compost.

I'm pretty sure she's also checking that I do indeed dump the stuff I've finally separated out as definite junk from my "will come in handy one day" collection of goodies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've had friends who were couples where one half of the couple have tragically passed away. the remaining unmarried partner lost everything as the next of kin were beneficiaries to the deceased's estate.

Why would they expect to inherit the partners worldly possessions?.

if you where sharing a home with someone you would expect to be able to still live in it.

You can, but you might have to buy your partners share of it?."

as i understand it, the beneficiaries of the will are obliged to allow the common law partner to carry on living in the property until thier death... the monetary side of things is clear ... in the absence of a will the next of kin/ blood relations inherit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've had friends who were couples where one half of the couple have tragically passed away. the remaining unmarried partner lost everything as the next of kin were beneficiaries to the deceased's estate.

Why would they expect to inherit the partners worldly possessions?.

"

i didn't say they would ... i just posted in relation to the lack of forsight displayed by some folks

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"i've had friends who were couples where one half of the couple have tragically passed away. the remaining unmarried partner lost everything as the next of kin were beneficiaries to the deceased's estate.

Why would they expect to inherit the partners worldly possessions?.

if you where sharing a home with someone you would expect to be able to still live in it.

You can, but you might have to buy your partners share of it?.

as i understand it, the beneficiaries of the will are obliged to allow the common law partner to carry on living in the property until thier death... the monetary side of things is clear ... in the absence of a will the next of kin/ blood relations inherit "
they cant sell the house or remorgage it.

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over a year ago

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By *yd Charisse 10Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

A friend of mine asked y I didn't want to be in a relationship . My answer was men are fun to play with but would not want to keep one

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By *lbert_shlossedMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"i've had friends who were couples where one half of the couple have tragically passed away. the remaining unmarried partner lost everything as the next of kin were beneficiaries to the deceased's estate.

Why would they expect to inherit the partners worldly possessions?.

i didn't say they would ... i just posted in relation to the lack of forsight displayed by some folks"
.

My aunty left her entire estate to the local church despite still being married with children.

My uncle and my cousins spent alot of time and money trying to overturn her will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've had friends who were couples where one half of the couple have tragically passed away. the remaining unmarried partner lost everything as the next of kin were beneficiaries to the deceased's estate.

Why would they expect to inherit the partners worldly possessions?.

i didn't say they would ... i just posted in relation to the lack of forsight displayed by some folks.

My aunty left her entire estate to the local church despite still being married with children.

My uncle and my cousins spent alot of time and money trying to overturn her will."

and?

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By *lbert_shlossedMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"i've had friends who were couples where one half of the couple have tragically passed away. the remaining unmarried partner lost everything as the next of kin were beneficiaries to the deceased's estate.

Why would they expect to inherit the partners worldly possessions?.

i didn't say they would ... i just posted in relation to the lack of forsight displayed by some folks.

My aunty left her entire estate to the local church despite still being married with children.

My uncle and my cousins spent alot of time and money trying to overturn her will.

and?"
.

You should never assume that you'll inherit anything regardless?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Solicitors are the ones that make marriage break up hard work

I guess they do the same when your buying your house ...no reason for it to take months .

Anyway .I think Solicitors fuel each parties fire to nd fro of total in necessary and irrelevant toddle.

The judge isn't really interested in 90% of it ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've had friends who were couples where one half of the couple have tragically passed away. the remaining unmarried partner lost everything as the next of kin were beneficiaries to the deceased's estate.

Why would they expect to inherit the partners worldly possessions?.

i didn't say they would ... i just posted in relation to the lack of forsight displayed by some folks.

My aunty left her entire estate to the local church despite still being married with children.

My uncle and my cousins spent alot of time and money trying to overturn her will.

and?.

You should never assume that you'll inherit anything regardless?"

that's a fact ... but not sure what that has to do with the topic of the thread

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By *lbert_shlossedMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"i've had friends who were couples where one half of the couple have tragically passed away. the remaining unmarried partner lost everything as the next of kin were beneficiaries to the deceased's estate.

Why would they expect to inherit the partners worldly possessions?.

i didn't say they would ... i just posted in relation to the lack of forsight displayed by some folks.

My aunty left her entire estate to the local church despite still being married with children.

My uncle and my cousins spent alot of time and money trying to overturn her will.

and?.

You should never assume that you'll inherit anything regardless?

that's a fact ... but not sure what that has to do with the topic of the thread

"
.

I thought we were talking about the differences in inheriting between married and unmarried?.

I was saying that being married doesn't guarantee inheriting anything either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on my second divorce....

I'm a filthy romantic, thought I could make sacrifices to make things work and thought love was enough. It isn't...

I have terrible taste in men,and now would never trust myself to make that commitment again.

Plus the number of married men (without her knowledge) on here makes me even more cynical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've had friends who were couples where one half of the couple have tragically passed away. the remaining unmarried partner lost everything as the next of kin were beneficiaries to the deceased's estate.

Why would they expect to inherit the partners worldly possessions?.

i didn't say they would ... i just posted in relation to the lack of forsight displayed by some folks.

My aunty left her entire estate to the local church despite still being married with children.

My uncle and my cousins spent alot of time and money trying to overturn her will.

and?.

You should never assume that you'll inherit anything regardless?

that's a fact ... but not sure what that has to do with the topic of the thread

.

I thought we were talking about the differences in inheriting between married and unmarried?.

I was saying that being married doesn't guarantee inheriting anything either!"

still don't see what your getting at as regards my first post really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being married.

When I wake in the night, I’m not alone. I can snuggle up and feel safe. I adore being held as I sleep too.

I come home to my best friend. We share our triumphs. Make the shite days better.

Back each other up. Make each other laugh. Cry sometimes.

Always there, happy to hear from me, if I phone during the day.

When we make love..... well that’s between us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A mate of mine who divorced a couple of years ago said that his marriage was quote " paying the bills and getting shouted at " "
lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Our 30th wedding anniversary today...

We still wind each other up, make each other laugh,cry and most importantly tea! ( cake is optional..)

But seriously we simply still care "
Congratulations x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting points everyone

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By *illing to please46Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I thought I had a happy marriage until one day she said it was over.said she still loved me but not in the way a wife should I think sex had a lot to do with it I’m highly sexed and she went off it after the birth of our daughter and that put a big strain on the marriage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think marriage is the be all and end all..

I was married for 13 years and enjoyed about 6 months of it.. I don’t think it’s as important to people as it was. I’m happy to be with someone that I love and that I know loves me and be secure in that without feeling the need to confirm it..

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