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So whos in charge ................

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Of your relationship swinging wise

And be truthful lol

Cause most of the couples i know its the woman

I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

im swinging solo ...so meeeee

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

ME!!! and don't ever forget it darling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have the only say in who i meet

as my OH is a non-swinger, the diary we have together dictates the when i meet

the constraints of the relationship and what we have agreed ref me playing dictates what goes on on a meet

just to complicate matters for ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Solo swingers here so, me, myself and I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...hate to swing your stats in the direction of the one percenters soaps, but unanimity is in charge of our swinging relationship... if it ain't unanimous, it ain't happening... simples.

so really no one is.

Wolf

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Very solo here......well today

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"...hate to swing your stats in the direction of the one percenters soaps, but unanimity is in charge of our swinging relationship... if it ain't unanimous, it ain't happening... simples.

so really no one is.

Wolf

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Any tips gratefully received xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ummmm no idea but will tell you when hubby has finished scrubbing the kitchen floor .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a joint decision here!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"ME!!! and don't ever forget it darling "

No dear xx

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

serious now... we don't play together as a couple so who I play with is and always will be my decision alone. On the rare occasion that we have a 3sum then it is a joint decision as it has to be someone we both feel "right" about.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

I sometimes look at profiles and may suggest, but normally both together and decide. Mostly it is the guy who halts the process as I am sure that is the same when people look at our profile.

But neither one will "take one for the team"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok i will own up .... its both.

If we cant agree then we dont play with that person. If i batter my eyelids a bit sometimes i get my own way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of your relationship swinging wise

And be truthful lol

Cause most of the couples i know its the woman

I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx "

I seriously cannot answer that one as we are so much on the same level if you know what I mean

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Of your relationship swinging wise

And be truthful lol

Cause most of the couples i know its the woman

I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx

I seriously cannot answer that one as we are so much on the same level if you know what I mean "

Bugger off hes loads taller than you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i've been to the sauna with my fb looking for a threesome, i generally allow him to make the suggestions on the playmate as i have much wider sexual tastes than he does

so if i did the suggesting 90% of um would be a 'no' from him anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of your relationship swinging wise

And be truthful lol

Cause most of the couples i know its the woman

I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx

I seriously cannot answer that one as we are so much on the same level if you know what I mean "

precisely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of your relationship swinging wise

And be truthful lol

Cause most of the couples i know its the woman

I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx

I seriously cannot answer that one as we are so much on the same level if you know what I mean

Bugger off hes loads taller than you xx "

Get lost lanky

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Of your relationship swinging wise

And be truthful lol

Cause most of the couples i know its the woman

I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx "
my OH is most definitely in charge, then we discuss and hes usually right lol

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

My imagative friend makes the decisions on who I meet... As I am crap at making decisions...

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I met a couple a little while ago, who said I was an exception as they had seen a face pic of me, before we met.

Usually they just invite couples over to their house without seeing a photo, and if one is happy, the other takes it for the team! It is very rare for them both to be happy with a couple they meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when I was part of a couple(we met from here), I hated some aspects of swinging coupledom- especially looking for meets, and I'd met many more than my ex so i wanted to return to a few...never really happened either

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

my evil twin decides... mwhahahahahaha...

seriously though, I thought it must always be harder for couples meeting couples, than meeting singles, because there are 4 people that have to be happy as opposed to both liking a single...

taking one for the team would never cross me mind...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when I was part of a couple(we met from here), I hated some aspects of swinging coupledom- especially looking for meets, and I'd met many more than my ex so i wanted to return to a few...never really happened either"

Doing things for the sake of the 'body count' isn't a reality. It's like saying to someone younger than you that they're catching you up each time they have a birthday... lol

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We decide together if its a yes or no... naturally i may fancy the man more than mat may fancy the lady and vice versa, however we both must be attracted to the people to some extent.

We have met some couples that you can clearly tell one of them had the final say and the other wasnt as comfortable... this is the reason we like social meets first to see if everyone wants to take the next step

Sarah xx

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Of your relationship swinging wise

And be truthful lol

Cause most of the couples i know its the woman

I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx "

Would say both of us as we only ever meet if both of us are in agreement. Tend to find couples the hardest to agree on.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Neither of us, i do my thing and he does his. If where meeting as a couple though hes usually arranged it as its generally someone he knows where going to be doing it with. But i always see faces and chat to the person/people

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We don't play with many couples. We hvae both 'taken one' before now (including both at the same time!!) - we need to come up with a code!!

When it comes to meeting just men I get the say as to whether they're shaggable or not (obviously!) but sometimes there are guys he would rather I didn't meet, for whatever reason, and in that case I wouldn't meet them. Social meets I've met ones of his choosing, but they've usually turned out not to be shaggable and so it hasn't gone any further.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Me i suppose cos if i say i dont want to fuck,we dont...however when i am playing alone then kev has the final yes or no.

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough


"I sometimes look at profiles and may suggest, but normally both together and decide. Mostly it is the guy who halts the process as I am sure that is the same when people look at our profile.

But neither one will "take one for the team"... "

ooo pity .. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me but would never arrange anything without talking to him first .

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Me

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

if K isn't happy I'm not happy so I guess she controls our swinging encounters - but hey isn't that the way it should be?

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

neither as both have to be comfortable if we agree to meet .. and then all 4 have to be in agreement else nowt will happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when I was part of a couple(we met from here), I hated some aspects of swinging coupledom- especially looking for meets, and I'd met many more than my ex so i wanted to return to a few...never really happened either

Doing things for the sake of the 'body count' isn't a reality. It's like saying to someone younger than you that they're catching you up each time they have a birthday... lol

Wolf

"

body count???...this was and is friends ive known for a long time-Ive never had to or would never rely on needing a female to get meets..altho the increased attention from those who simply ignored in the past was funny lol

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"neither as both have to be comfortable if we agree to meet .. and then all 4 have to be in agreement else nowt will happen"

very true but K says I look on a pulse as an optional extra

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy its definitely the woman in charge.

If I haven't spoken to the woman, I don't go.

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By *razydriver8Couple
over a year ago

plymouth


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very true but K says I look on a pulse as an optional extra "

wahoo.. i might have a chance my pulse is racing. he he he

in answer to your question soapy.. As a couple we decide together,, never gonna take one for the team. lol. if no on anyone of the 4 sides,, no play..

on our single profile, we will talk and discuss and listen to one anothers point of _iew. but unless one of us has a really good reason , such as he/ she looks like an axe murderer. then we each have the deciding vote as it were.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

We waste to much time trying to decide whos in charge but I know its deffo me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We waste to much time trying to decide whos in charge but I know its deffo me "

Yes boss xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definately not the Captain!

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn


"We waste to much time trying to decide whos in charge but I know its deffo me

Yes boss xx"

and rem that xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We waste to much time trying to decide whos in charge but I know its deffo me "

well we know who's in charge of the pics at least

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn


"We waste to much time trying to decide whos in charge but I know its deffo me

well we know who's in charge of the pics at least "

yep, always get my own way( well nearly always)

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


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very true but K says I look on a pulse as an optional extra

wahoo.. i might have a chance my pulse is racing. he he he

in answer to your question soapy.. As a couple we decide together,, never gonna take one for the team. lol. if no on anyone of the 4 sides,, no play..

on our single profile, we will talk and discuss and listen to one anothers point of _iew. but unless one of us has a really good reason , such as he/ she looks like an axe murderer. then we each have the deciding vote as it were. "

I thought it was the other way round, me having a chance with you - really must get that satnav fixed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do the Admin, Tra has the final say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody is in charge here ......

We both decide what goes on with whom, where and when. It's a 100% joint decision

Is there such a thing as a 100% joint decision or would it be 50/50 ? well you know what I mean lol

If either one of us is not 100% happy with any aspect of anything relating to this side of our lives, it doesn't go ahead, simple as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me..solo swinger...so all meeeeeeeeeeee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't play with many couples. We hvae both 'taken one' before now (including both at the same time!!) - we need to come up with a code!!

When it comes to meeting just men I get the say as to whether they're shaggable or not (obviously!) but sometimes there are guys he would rather I didn't meet, for whatever reason, and in that case I wouldn't meet them. Social meets I've met ones of his choosing, but they've usually turned out not to be shaggable and so it hasn't gone any further. "

Would you take one for us? Just asking

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"We don't play with many couples. We hvae both 'taken one' before now (including both at the same time!!) - we need to come up with a code!!

When it comes to meeting just men I get the say as to whether they're shaggable or not (obviously!) but sometimes there are guys he would rather I didn't meet, for whatever reason, and in that case I wouldn't meet them. Social meets I've met ones of his choosing, but they've usually turned out not to be shaggable and so it hasn't gone any further.

Would you take one for us? Just asking "

We thought about this long and hard, ok about 2 seconds and decided, yes please.

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By *ISPCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We always decide together but have both taken one for the team! It's so difficult to find couples equally sexy, good looking or that actually want the same things as us!

May one day do FFM or MMF but just need to find the right people.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

i make all the desisions in this relationship.

just as soon as mrs saucy,tells me what i've decided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never, ever take one for the team. If either of us are not comfortable with the situation...........it ain't happening

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn


"We would never, ever take one for the team. If either of us are not comfortable with the situation...........it ain't happening "

+1 in all seriousness, we discuss everything to the max at times

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"Of your relationship swinging wise

And be truthful lol

Cause most of the couples i know its the woman

I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx "

Jason.........

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Or so I let him believe....... As you all know..... I wear the trousers in this house!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't play with many couples. We hvae both 'taken one' before now (including both at the same time!!) - we need to come up with a code!!

When it comes to meeting just men I get the say as to whether they're shaggable or not (obviously!) but sometimes there are guys he would rather I didn't meet, for whatever reason, and in that case I wouldn't meet them. Social meets I've met ones of his choosing, but they've usually turned out not to be shaggable and so it hasn't gone any further.

Would you take one for us? Just asking

We thought about this long and hard, ok about 2 seconds and decided, yes please.

"

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By *nvyCouple
over a year ago

Waltham Cross

He makes all the decisions sexually, that's what kinda does it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would never, ever take one for the team. If either of us are not comfortable with the situation...........it ain't happening

+1 in all seriousness, we discuss everything to the max at times "

To the max???? Fancy a fuck????

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn


"We would never, ever take one for the team. If either of us are not comfortable with the situation...........it ain't happening

+1 in all seriousness, we discuss everything to the max at times

To the max???? Fancy a fuck???? "

we have discussed and have decided ... ok then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always a joint decision for us. if we are not both happy, no point, after all this is for fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me, being on my own with no one to answer to except my pets!

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