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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not body shaming before it's mentioned!!!

When you join, you pic your body type.

But what is average? Average for age? Average for height? What?

What the hell is "fabulous"?

Curvy? I state curvy on my profile, but it's subjective. I'm a bit like one of those country roads where you're driving along nicely and all of a sudden you hit a hairpin bend!!! No rhyme or reason for it, but it's there

I know it's just a guide and pictures help.

Could there be a different way of doing it? Or maybe get rid of it altogether?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all subjective..

One womans curvy is another womans fabulous

What would you change it to OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies send me your pictures i'll help you pick the right one. Just my good samaritan duties

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By *ookingforlustMan
over a year ago

northants


"Ladies send me your pictures i'll help you pick the right one. Just my good samaritan duties "

I applaud your selflessness sir

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its all subjective..

One womans curvy is another womans fabulous

What would you change it to OP?"

Maybe add your vital stats and let fab pick it?

Maybe get rid of it altogether?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put fabulous, but nowt to do with my body...I'm just fabulous darlings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies send me your pictures i'll help you pick the right one. Just my good samaritan duties

I applaud your selflessness sir"

'Sigh' I don't know what brings it out of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab doesn’t have my body type as an option to select which should be ‘Sexy’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies send me your pictures i'll help you pick the right one. Just my good samaritan duties

I applaud your selflessness sir

'Sigh' I don't know what brings it out of me."

Must be the heat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There wasn’t a knackered section so I put average

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fabulous

Mainly because there was no choice suited for my body shape, being a size 14-16 I don't think I'm a BBW and small tits mean I'm defo not curvy!

There should be a chunky chick option x

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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"Its all subjective..

One womans curvy is another womans fabulous

What would you change it to OP?

Maybe add your vital stats and let fab pick it?

Maybe get rid of it altogether? "

I just look at the pictures and make my own mind up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab doesn’t have my body type as an option to select which should be ‘Sexy’ "

Or fruity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I put fabulous, but nowt to do with my body...I'm just fabulous darlings "

I used to use that option for that reason until someone (a man) messaged saying you do know fabulous means extra large? Now im just average

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve seen fabulous used in various ways, sometimes for a very athletic lady, sometimes for a BBW, it’s all very subjective. Athletic seems to cover a variety of shapes for guys too, obviously working on the assumption that darts players are athletes too...

Essentially it’s just a subjective guide, all aspects of the fab profile are open to interpretation; age, height, relationship status, etc. Until you meet someone you just have to take these things with a pinch of salt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The body type thing is pretty pointless you can't search for it and most people describe them selves in different ways too. I chose fabulous because large sounds manly.

I'm also curvy because I have huge curves but that would affend people too apparently because some say curvy isn't fat, urm well I'm certainly kicking out the curves here.

I just have full body pics and let people make up their own minds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I put fabulous, but nowt to do with my body...I'm just fabulous darlings

I used to use that option for that reason until someone (a man) messaged saying you do know fabulous means extra large? Now im just average "

I'm still going with fabulous. If the casual viewer is confused that my pics don't meet the description of "extra large" then they ain't for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not body shaming before it's mentioned!!!

When you join, you pic your body type.

But what is average? Average for age? Average for height? What?

What the hell is "fabulous"?

Curvy? I state curvy on my profile, but it's subjective. I'm a bit like one of those country roads where you're driving along nicely and all of a sudden you hit a hairpin bend!!! No rhyme or reason for it, but it's there

I know it's just a guide and pictures help.

Could there be a different way of doing it? Or maybe get rid of it altogether? "

I love your description of your body OP.

I'm not athletic but would like to think I'm better than "average" which is such a shite word to describe anyone's body! Still the option I took though.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I chose ‘Average’ for my body type, as I didn’t think I was ‘slim’ or ‘athletic’, but know I’m not ‘curvy’. Should I have chosen ‘fabulous’ because that’s how I see myself? Yes, thinking about it, that’s what I am, so I’m going to change it! Thanks OP for making me reasses myself

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

From my experience on here - body size or type - and the description of it - is the one topic guaranteed to get hackles rising on here!

For women I feel it’s simple - if we listed our height and general dress size (yes, I know it differs in some shops, but most of us have an average size!) - then I feel that would enable people to picture that person’s size etc! However, some argue, possibly correctly, that many men still couldn’t ‘picture ‘ a lady based on that information - and it also doesn’t allow for the fact that some are ‘straight up and down’ and some have more hourglass figures - and none of those take breast size into account, which also alters a body’s proportion!

As to men - I’ve no idea what a 34 waist looks like?

We do need descriptions though - so I guess we should just be as honest as we feel we can - though I think there should be a ‘gym fit’ or ‘muscular’ body type added for men - as ‘athletic’ can mean a whole host of things!

I do think the most obvious answer, as you said OP, is to have a clear set of recent pictures which show the profile holders full body - pictures which are neither photoshopped or taken from ‘clever angles ‘! We all know this will never happen though - so I just concentrate on my own profile and let others concentrate on theirs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab doesn’t have my body type as an option to select which should be ‘Sexy’

Or fruity "

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From my experience on here - body size or type - and the description of it - is the one topic guaranteed to get hackles rising on here!

For women I feel it’s simple - if we listed our height and general dress size (yes, I know it differs in some shops, but most of us have an average size!) - then I feel that would enable people to picture that person’s size etc! However, some argue, possibly correctly, that many men still couldn’t ‘picture ‘ a lady based on that information - and it also doesn’t allow for the fact that some are ‘straight up and down’ and some have more hourglass figures - and none of those take breast size into account, which also alters a body’s proportion!

As to men - I’ve no idea what a 34 waist looks like?

We do need descriptions though - so I guess we should just be as honest as we feel we can - though I think there should be a ‘gym fit’ or ‘muscular’ body type added for men - as ‘athletic’ can mean a whole host of things!

I do think the most obvious answer, as you said OP, is to have a clear set of recent pictures which show the profile holders full body - pictures which are neither photoshopped or taken from ‘clever angles ‘! We all know this will never happen though - so I just concentrate on my own profile and let others concentrate on theirs! "

I do think that this is the problem with vague definitions though, a word can mean subtly different things to different people even before others start getting misleading. The definitions are intended to allow others to help find the type of person that they’re looking for. If I’m looking for an athletic guy I expect someone to be either gym fit or toned - as in they’re physically active, fit and slim. To others that could mean something very different.

It’s not as simple as looking after your own profile as definitions are for others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps it should be mandatory to submit a full frontal body pic, lightly clothed if you like, as a condition of membership. Yes there will be fakes, just like now, but it would stop all this bollocks..

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"From my experience on here - body size or type - and the description of it - is the one topic guaranteed to get hackles rising on here!

For women I feel it’s simple - if we listed our height and general dress size (yes, I know it differs in some shops, but most of us have an average size!) - then I feel that would enable people to picture that person’s size etc! However, some argue, possibly correctly, that many men still couldn’t ‘picture ‘ a lady based on that information - and it also doesn’t allow for the fact that some are ‘straight up and down’ and some have more hourglass figures - and none of those take breast size into account, which also alters a body’s proportion!

As to men - I’ve no idea what a 34 waist looks like?

We do need descriptions though - so I guess we should just be as honest as we feel we can - though I think there should be a ‘gym fit’ or ‘muscular’ body type added for men - as ‘athletic’ can mean a whole host of things!

I do think the most obvious answer, as you said OP, is to have a clear set of recent pictures which show the profile holders full body - pictures which are neither photoshopped or taken from ‘clever angles ‘! We all know this will never happen though - so I just concentrate on my own profile and let others concentrate on theirs!

I do think that this is the problem with vague definitions though, a word can mean subtly different things to different people even before others start getting misleading. The definitions are intended to allow others to help find the type of person that they’re looking for. If I’m looking for an athletic guy I expect someone to be either gym fit or toned - as in they’re physically active, fit and slim. To others that could mean something very different.

It’s not as simple as looking after your own profile as definitions are for others"

True - but in over 4 years on here I’ve come to realise that a lot of people are ‘obscure ‘ on this topic - and about representing themselves honestly/accurately - and whereas it used to bother me tremendously - now I really don’t care!

I tend to meet guys like yourself, who work hard to keep fit and who are therefore not afraid to show what they look like! Ergo I don’t really have a problem!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv gone with average

But id rather let u lot deside

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Average here. Its good to be average anyhow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site needs more options e.g slim with curves. Without more options it can be tricky for people to pick what suits best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From my experience on here - body size or type - and the description of it - is the one topic guaranteed to get hackles rising on here!

For women I feel it’s simple - if we listed our height and general dress size (yes, I know it differs in some shops, but most of us have an average size!) - then I feel that would enable people to picture that person’s size etc! However, some argue, possibly correctly, that many men still couldn’t ‘picture ‘ a lady based on that information - and it also doesn’t allow for the fact that some are ‘straight up and down’ and some have more hourglass figures - and none of those take breast size into account, which also alters a body’s proportion!

As to men - I’ve no idea what a 34 waist looks like?

We do need descriptions though - so I guess we should just be as honest as we feel we can - though I think there should be a ‘gym fit’ or ‘muscular’ body type added for men - as ‘athletic’ can mean a whole host of things!

I do think the most obvious answer, as you said OP, is to have a clear set of recent pictures which show the profile holders full body - pictures which are neither photoshopped or taken from ‘clever angles ‘! We all know this will never happen though - so I just concentrate on my own profile and let others concentrate on theirs!

I do think that this is the problem with vague definitions though, a word can mean subtly different things to different people even before others start getting misleading. The definitions are intended to allow others to help find the type of person that they’re looking for. If I’m looking for an athletic guy I expect someone to be either gym fit or toned - as in they’re physically active, fit and slim. To others that could mean something very different.

It’s not as simple as looking after your own profile as definitions are for others

True - but in over 4 years on here I’ve come to realise that a lot of people are ‘obscure ‘ on this topic - and about representing themselves honestly/accurately - and whereas it used to bother me tremendously - now I really don’t care!

I tend to meet guys like yourself, who work hard to keep fit and who are therefore not afraid to show what they look like! Ergo I don’t really have a problem!

"

Yet you describe yourself as curvy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to think the same I'm self continuous naked and I think one mans curvy is another mans fat

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"From my experience on here - body size or type - and the description of it - is the one topic guaranteed to get hackles rising on here!

For women I feel it’s simple - if we listed our height and general dress size (yes, I know it differs in some shops, but most of us have an average size!) - then I feel that would enable people to picture that person’s size etc! However, some argue, possibly correctly, that many men still couldn’t ‘picture ‘ a lady based on that information - and it also doesn’t allow for the fact that some are ‘straight up and down’ and some have more hourglass figures - and none of those take breast size into account, which also alters a body’s proportion!

As to men - I’ve no idea what a 34 waist looks like?

We do need descriptions though - so I guess we should just be as honest as we feel we can - though I think there should be a ‘gym fit’ or ‘muscular’ body type added for men - as ‘athletic’ can mean a whole host of things!

I do think the most obvious answer, as you said OP, is to have a clear set of recent pictures which show the profile holders full body - pictures which are neither photoshopped or taken from ‘clever angles ‘! We all know this will never happen though - so I just concentrate on my own profile and let others concentrate on theirs!

I do think that this is the problem with vague definitions though, a word can mean subtly different things to different people even before others start getting misleading. The definitions are intended to allow others to help find the type of person that they’re looking for. If I’m looking for an athletic guy I expect someone to be either gym fit or toned - as in they’re physically active, fit and slim. To others that could mean something very different.

It’s not as simple as looking after your own profile as definitions are for others

True - but in over 4 years on here I’ve come to realise that a lot of people are ‘obscure ‘ on this topic - and about representing themselves honestly/accurately - and whereas it used to bother me tremendously - now I really don’t care!

I tend to meet guys like yourself, who work hard to keep fit and who are therefore not afraid to show what they look like! Ergo I don’t really have a problem!

Yet you describe yourself as curvy? "

Yes - my waist goes very distinctively in an out - hence I’d say I’m curvy! Do you have an issue with that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies send me your pictures i'll help you pick the right one. Just my good samaritan duties "

I make things simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I could I'd put fat round and fugly but I can't so I used large however I do state what size I am on our profile xx

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By *ixfootinthecityMan
over a year ago

London

You’re all fabulous to me, ladies.

*drops mic*

*picks mic back up*

...And gents. Obviously.

*puts mic carefully back in stand after angry glare from sound technician*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its all subjective..

One womans curvy is another womans fabulous

What would you change it to OP?"

I agree for once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From my experience on here - body size or type - and the description of it - is the one topic guaranteed to get hackles rising on here!

For women I feel it’s simple - if we listed our height and general dress size (yes, I know it differs in some shops, but most of us have an average size!) - then I feel that would enable people to picture that person’s size etc! However, some argue, possibly correctly, that many men still couldn’t ‘picture ‘ a lady based on that information - and it also doesn’t allow for the fact that some are ‘straight up and down’ and some have more hourglass figures - and none of those take breast size into account, which also alters a body’s proportion!

As to men - I’ve no idea what a 34 waist looks like?

We do need descriptions though - so I guess we should just be as honest as we feel we can - though I think there should be a ‘gym fit’ or ‘muscular’ body type added for men - as ‘athletic’ can mean a whole host of things!

I do think the most obvious answer, as you said OP, is to have a clear set of recent pictures which show the profile holders full body - pictures which are neither photoshopped or taken from ‘clever angles ‘! We all know this will never happen though - so I just concentrate on my own profile and let others concentrate on theirs!

I do think that this is the problem with vague definitions though, a word can mean subtly different things to different people even before others start getting misleading. The definitions are intended to allow others to help find the type of person that they’re looking for. If I’m looking for an athletic guy I expect someone to be either gym fit or toned - as in they’re physically active, fit and slim. To others that could mean something very different.

It’s not as simple as looking after your own profile as definitions are for others

True - but in over 4 years on here I’ve come to realise that a lot of people are ‘obscure ‘ on this topic - and about representing themselves honestly/accurately - and whereas it used to bother me tremendously - now I really don’t care!

I tend to meet guys like yourself, who work hard to keep fit and who are therefore not afraid to show what they look like! Ergo I don’t really have a problem!

Yet you describe yourself as curvy?

Yes - my waist goes very distinctively in an out - hence I’d say I’m curvy! Do you have an issue with that? "

Well since you're so keen on profiles describing themselves 'honestly/accurately', having a waist - as 99% of the female population do - hardly qualifies you as curvy. I'd say the general consensus is hourglass shaped...it's all about ratios. And that you are not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its all subjective..

One womans curvy is another womans fabulous

What would you change it to OP?

Maybe add your vital stats and let fab pick it?

Maybe get rid of it altogether?

I just look at the pictures and make my own mind up "

But wot if theres no pics

Lots of profiles say athletic but have no pics instantly makes me think hmmmmm ........ lying or not ?

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

I see fabulous as more of a state of mind rather than a size on here.

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By *ixfootinthecityMan
over a year ago

London


"Its all subjective..

One womans curvy is another womans fabulous

But wot if theres no pics

Lots of profiles say athletic but have no pics instantly makes me think hmmmmm ........ lying or not ? "

I think very few people can cleanly slot into any of the catergories. Everyone’s body is different, which is great! It should just be a blank box with a word limit. If you’re happy with describing your body as no more than ‘slim’ or ‘bbw’ then fine, if you’d like to write more extensive biological field notes, then scribble away.

A lot of people do this in their main descriptions anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its all subjective..

One womans curvy is another womans fabulous

But wot if theres no pics

Lots of profiles say athletic but have no pics instantly makes me think hmmmmm ........ lying or not ?

I think very few people can cleanly slot into any of the catergories. Everyone’s body is different, which is great! It should just be a blank box with a word limit. If you’re happy with describing your body as no more than ‘slim’ or ‘bbw’ then fine, if you’d like to write more extensive biological field notes, then scribble away.

A lot of people do this in their main descriptions anyway."

Genuinely athletic here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its all subjective..

One womans curvy is another womans fabulous

But wot if theres no pics

Lots of profiles say athletic but have no pics instantly makes me think hmmmmm ........ lying or not ?

I think very few people can cleanly slot into any of the catergories. Everyone’s body is different, which is great! It should just be a blank box with a word limit. If you’re happy with describing your body as no more than ‘slim’ or ‘bbw’ then fine, if you’d like to write more extensive biological field notes, then scribble away.

A lot of people do this in their main descriptions anyway.

Genuinely athletic here "

I think that’s clear from your pictures

I think athletic is a very easy one as it describes a certain mentality too. Curvy or average for a guy can be very misleading though as average for a man in his mid 40s is very different from a man in his 20s

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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"Its all subjective..

One womans curvy is another womans fabulous

What would you change it to OP?

Maybe add your vital stats and let fab pick it?

Maybe get rid of it altogether?

I just look at the pictures and make my own mind up

But wot if theres no pics

Lots of profiles say athletic but have no pics instantly makes me think hmmmmm ........ lying or not ? "

If they described themselves as a supermodel

I would still move on to another profile,

I wouldn’t meet anyone if I couldn’t see what they look like

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"From my experience on here - body size or type - and the description of it - is the one topic guaranteed to get hackles rising on here!

For women I feel it’s simple - if we listed our height and general dress size (yes, I know it differs in some shops, but most of us have an average size!) - then I feel that would enable people to picture that person’s size etc! However, some argue, possibly correctly, that many men still couldn’t ‘picture ‘ a lady based on that information - and it also doesn’t allow for the fact that some are ‘straight up and down’ and some have more hourglass figures - and none of those take breast size into account, which also alters a body’s proportion!

As to men - I’ve no idea what a 34 waist looks like?

We do need descriptions though - so I guess we should just be as honest as we feel we can - though I think there should be a ‘gym fit’ or ‘muscular’ body type added for men - as ‘athletic’ can mean a whole host of things!

I do think the most obvious answer, as you said OP, is to have a clear set of recent pictures which show the profile holders full body - pictures which are neither photoshopped or taken from ‘clever angles ‘! We all know this will never happen though - so I just concentrate on my own profile and let others concentrate on theirs!

I do think that this is the problem with vague definitions though, a word can mean subtly different things to different people even before others start getting misleading. The definitions are intended to allow others to help find the type of person that they’re looking for. If I’m looking for an athletic guy I expect someone to be either gym fit or toned - as in they’re physically active, fit and slim. To others that could mean something very different.

It’s not as simple as looking after your own profile as definitions are for others

True - but in over 4 years on here I’ve come to realise that a lot of people are ‘obscure ‘ on this topic - and about representing themselves honestly/accurately - and whereas it used to bother me tremendously - now I really don’t care!

I tend to meet guys like yourself, who work hard to keep fit and who are therefore not afraid to show what they look like! Ergo I don’t really have a problem!

Yet you describe yourself as curvy?

Yes - my waist goes very distinctively in an out - hence I’d say I’m curvy! Do you have an issue with that?

Well since you're so keen on profiles describing themselves 'honestly/accurately', having a waist - as 99% of the female population do - hardly qualifies you as curvy. I'd say the general consensus is hourglass shaped...it's all about ratios. And that you are not "

Now you see - I’d say I am - but that you’re not! I do believe we’ve reached a stalemate Bella!

Tbh every guy I’ve met has been more than happy with my curvy body shape - I couldn’t actually give a fig what you think my body type is - any more than - I’m quite sure - you care what I think of yours!

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I put "fabulous" because it was closest alphabetically to "fat fucker" but it also sums me up perfectly.

Fab should just do away with all the labels and allow people to be whatever shape they want to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put Curvy because I am, but I also have clear pics showing my wobbly tummy and the size of me. I don’t think putting dress size on would help as most men have no idea what that means. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From my experience on here - body size or type - and the description of it - is the one topic guaranteed to get hackles rising on here!

For women I feel it’s simple - if we listed our height and general dress size (yes, I know it differs in some shops, but most of us have an average size!) - then I feel that would enable people to picture that person’s size etc! However, some argue, possibly correctly, that many men still couldn’t ‘picture ‘ a lady based on that information - and it also doesn’t allow for the fact that some are ‘straight up and down’ and some have more hourglass figures - and none of those take breast size into account, which also alters a body’s proportion!

As to men - I’ve no idea what a 34 waist looks like?

We do need descriptions though - so I guess we should just be as honest as we feel we can - though I think there should be a ‘gym fit’ or ‘muscular’ body type added for men - as ‘athletic’ can mean a whole host of things!

I do think the most obvious answer, as you said OP, is to have a clear set of recent pictures which show the profile holders full body - pictures which are neither photoshopped or taken from ‘clever angles ‘! We all know this will never happen though - so I just concentrate on my own profile and let others concentrate on theirs!

I do think that this is the problem with vague definitions though, a word can mean subtly different things to different people even before others start getting misleading. The definitions are intended to allow others to help find the type of person that they’re looking for. If I’m looking for an athletic guy I expect someone to be either gym fit or toned - as in they’re physically active, fit and slim. To others that could mean something very different.

It’s not as simple as looking after your own profile as definitions are for others

True - but in over 4 years on here I’ve come to realise that a lot of people are ‘obscure ‘ on this topic - and about representing themselves honestly/accurately - and whereas it used to bother me tremendously - now I really don’t care!

I tend to meet guys like yourself, who work hard to keep fit and who are therefore not afraid to show what they look like! Ergo I don’t really have a problem!

Yet you describe yourself as curvy?

Yes - my waist goes very distinctively in an out - hence I’d say I’m curvy! Do you have an issue with that?

Well since you're so keen on profiles describing themselves 'honestly/accurately', having a waist - as 99% of the female population do - hardly qualifies you as curvy. I'd say the general consensus is hourglass shaped...it's all about ratios. And that you are not

Now you see - I’d say I am - but that you’re not! I do believe we’ve reached a stalemate Bella!

Tbh every guy I’ve met has been more than happy with my curvy body shape - I couldn’t actually give a fig what you think my body type is - any more than - I’m quite sure - you care what I think of yours! "

Oh dear, I really pissed on your cornflakes didn't I?

But you're right, I couldn't give a toss. You keep telling yourself whatever you want to believe

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

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"From my experience on here - body size or type - and the description of it - is the one topic guaranteed to get hackles rising on here!

For women I feel it’s simple - if we listed our height and general dress size (yes, I know it differs in some shops, but most of us have an average size!) - then I feel that would enable people to picture that person’s size etc! However, some argue, possibly correctly, that many men still couldn’t ‘picture ‘ a lady based on that information - and it also doesn’t allow for the fact that some are ‘straight up and down’ and some have more hourglass figures - and none of those take breast size into account, which also alters a body’s proportion!

As to men - I’ve no idea what a 34 waist looks like?

We do need descriptions though - so I guess we should just be as honest as we feel we can - though I think there should be a ‘gym fit’ or ‘muscular’ body type added for men - as ‘athletic’ can mean a whole host of things!

I do think the most obvious answer, as you said OP, is to have a clear set of recent pictures which show the profile holders full body - pictures which are neither photoshopped or taken from ‘clever angles ‘! We all know this will never happen though - so I just concentrate on my own profile and let others concentrate on theirs!

I do think that this is the problem with vague definitions though, a word can mean subtly different things to different people even before others start getting misleading. The definitions are intended to allow others to help find the type of person that they’re looking for. If I’m looking for an athletic guy I expect someone to be either gym fit or toned - as in they’re physically active, fit and slim. To others that could mean something very different.

It’s not as simple as looking after your own profile as definitions are for others

True - but in over 4 years on here I’ve come to realise that a lot of people are ‘obscure ‘ on this topic - and about representing themselves honestly/accurately - and whereas it used to bother me tremendously - now I really don’t care!

I tend to meet guys like yourself, who work hard to keep fit and who are therefore not afraid to show what they look like! Ergo I don’t really have a problem!

Yet you describe yourself as curvy?

Yes - my waist goes very distinctively in an out - hence I’d say I’m curvy! Do you have an issue with that?

Well since you're so keen on profiles describing themselves 'honestly/accurately', having a waist - as 99% of the female population do - hardly qualifies you as curvy. I'd say the general consensus is hourglass shaped...it's all about ratios. And that you are not

Now you see - I’d say I am - but that you’re not! I do believe we’ve reached a stalemate Bella!

Tbh every guy I’ve met has been more than happy with my curvy body shape - I couldn’t actually give a fig what you think my body type is - any more than - I’m quite sure - you care what I think of yours!

Oh dear, I really pissed on your cornflakes didn't I?

But you're right, I couldn't give a toss. You keep telling yourself whatever you want to believe "

And you Bella - but then you always do! Have a good day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who really cares. If you like what you see and there’s chemistry. Get on the D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New drop down menu coming.

Slim

Fat

Everything in between

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