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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyone have this fear? Is it the dark itself you fear or what you think maybe in the dark?

I'm not overall scared of the dark but I do feel uncomfortable being in the dark on my own sometimes. I still sleep with a small lamp on. Whenever I switch the lights off downstairs at night before bed, I sometimes shoot upstairs as I would feel like something is behind me even though there is nothing there. Even hearing somewhat scary music in my head makes it creepy.

Anyone else had that feeling sometimes when it comes to the dark?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

No I love being alone in the dark, I find it relaxing. As a child I hated it though, you know, the whole jump off the bed to get to the light switch before something grabs your ankle scenario.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No I love being alone in the dark, I find it relaxing. As a child I hated it though, you know, the whole jump off the bed to get to the light switch before something grabs your ankle scenario. "

With me having Asperger's, I have a pretty big imagination and sometimes it can play tricks on me when it comes to the thought of something lurking in the dark. What creeps me out though is the thought seeing something coming up the stairs in my perrifial vision when I'm heading to my bedroom at night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I mean peripheral vision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to sleep in a pitch dark room but don't like being down stairs with a light off, I use the torch on my phone

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

when monsters go to bed, they check under their bed to see if i,m under there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the dark

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to sleep in a pitch dark room but don't like being down stairs with a light off, I use the torch on my phone "

I know that feeling. Downstairs always seems to be more scary at night with the lights off. I'm on holiday in a pine lodge at the moment and earlier on, I shot up the spiral steps as soon as I switches off the downstairs light. Blimey was that scary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good song

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If there was nothing ‘there’ with the light on then how can something be ‘there’ with the light off??

I think some people need to ‘grow some balls’ ha ha.

I’m jesting of course....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hate the dark "

I hate hearing creepy music in my head when I'm in the dark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My only problem in the dark is the bloody cat thinks it's funny to walk in front of you. So I have to shuffle to avoid kicking her.

Other than that love it the darker the better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Darkness is simply the absence of light, what I fear is the evil that lurks in the heart of man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm terrified of the dark. My heart instantly palpatates if someone switches it off accidentally. I've not slept with out a light for about 15 years x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In not scared of the dark as such, it has to be dark for me to sleep. I can only sleep in daylight if I'm ill. But if I come downstairs for a wee in the night I have an overwhelming urge to run up the stairs and won't ever look at a window incase someone is peeking back at me

Hubby thinks its hilarious, ive no rational reason for the running or the fear of the window.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try using a soft light on a timer set for a short period around bedtime-ish - then it won't be 'dark' when you go to bed. You can fool the 'beasties' with a bit of light

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In not scared of the dark as such, it has to be dark for me to sleep. I can only sleep in daylight if I'm ill. But if I come downstairs for a wee in the night I have an overwhelming urge to run up the stairs and won't ever look at a window incase someone is peeking back at me

Hubby thinks its hilarious, ive no rational reason for the running or the fear of the window."

When I was kid, back at the old house I used to live in, I would make sure that the blinds in the kitchen were fully rolled down at night as I would feel like there was something in the back garden staring back.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I have a constant fear that someone's watching me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a constant fear that someone's watching me."

Same fear

Not afraid of dark tho

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I have to sleep in a pitch dark room but don't like being down stairs with a light off, I use the torch on my phone

I know that feeling. Downstairs always seems to be more scary at night with the lights off. I'm on holiday in a pine lodge at the moment and earlier on, I shot up the spiral steps as soon as I switches off the downstairs light. Blimey was that scary"

Are you enjoying your holiday?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a constant fear that someone's watching me."

Watching horror films the night before, debating witches and folklore...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to sleep in a pitch dark room but don't like being down stairs with a light off, I use the torch on my phone

I know that feeling. Downstairs always seems to be more scary at night with the lights off. I'm on holiday in a pine lodge at the moment and earlier on, I shot up the spiral steps as soon as I switches off the downstairs light. Blimey was that scary

Are you enjoying your holiday? "

Yeah definitely. It has been a good couple of days so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In not scared of the dark as such, it has to be dark for me to sleep. I can only sleep in daylight if I'm ill. But if I come downstairs for a wee in the night I have an overwhelming urge to run up the stairs and won't ever look at a window incase someone is peeking back at me

Hubby thinks its hilarious, ive no rational reason for the running or the fear of the window.

When I was kid, back at the old house I used to live in, I would make sure that the blinds in the kitchen were fully rolled down at night as I would feel like there was something in the back garden staring back."

We have a dog, who I am quite confident would alert us someone was there and yet I still feel uneasy. I don't recall being like it as a child that said the bathroom was next to my bedroom and to be staring back at me someone would have had to scaled the kitchens roof...

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I have a constant fear that someone's watching me.

Watching horror films the night before, debating witches and folklore..."

When I'm walking a dark road

I am a man who walks alone.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I come from very dark origins, so am pretty immune to the dark. I also like to overcome challenges and barriers, so would deal with a persistent issue that was threatening to beat me. I like fear,it's a fantastic self-defense mechanism but I'd only allow its use appropriately.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In not scared of the dark as such, it has to be dark for me to sleep. I can only sleep in daylight if I'm ill. But if I come downstairs for a wee in the night I have an overwhelming urge to run up the stairs and won't ever look at a window incase someone is peeking back at me

Hubby thinks its hilarious, ive no rational reason for the running or the fear of the window.

When I was kid, back at the old house I used to live in, I would make sure that the blinds in the kitchen were fully rolled down at night as I would feel like there was something in the back garden staring back.

We have a dog, who I am quite confident would alert us someone was there and yet I still feel uneasy. I don't recall being like it as a child that said the bathroom was next to my bedroom and to be staring back at me someone would have had to scaled the kitchens roof..."

Yeah, I was never scared of looking out any upstairs windows at night as I knew I was safe upstairs and out of reach of what I thought was outside on ground level.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I have to sleep in a pitch dark room but don't like being down stairs with a light off, I use the torch on my phone

I know that feeling. Downstairs always seems to be more scary at night with the lights off. I'm on holiday in a pine lodge at the moment and earlier on, I shot up the spiral steps as soon as I switches off the downstairs light. Blimey was that scary

Are you enjoying your holiday?

Yeah definitely. It has been a good couple of days so far "

Ah, that's good

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By *traight up guyMan
over a year ago

Morpeth

You lot have scared the living crap out of me now. I wasn't scared off the dark before but going to have to sleep with the light on now I know of all the dangers lurking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You lot have scared the living crap out of me now. I wasn't scared off the dark before but going to have to sleep with the light on now I know of all the dangers lurking! "

The ghosts can't hurt you. It's the bastards that are still alive you need to worry about x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to sleep in a pitch dark room but don't like being down stairs with a light off, I use the torch on my phone

I know that feeling. Downstairs always seems to be more scary at night with the lights off. I'm on holiday in a pine lodge at the moment and earlier on, I shot up the spiral steps as soon as I switches off the downstairs light. Blimey was that scary

Are you enjoying your holiday?

Yeah definitely. It has been a good couple of days so far

Ah, that's good "

Yeah definitely. It sure is nice to be on a relaxing holiday like this one

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By *unning LinguistMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

For God's sake, don't look behind You!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I have to sleep in a pitch dark room but don't like being down stairs with a light off, I use the torch on my phone

I know that feeling. Downstairs always seems to be more scary at night with the lights off. I'm on holiday in a pine lodge at the moment and earlier on, I shot up the spiral steps as soon as I switches off the downstairs light. Blimey was that scary

Are you enjoying your holiday?

Yeah definitely. It has been a good couple of days so far

Ah, that's good

Yeah definitely. It sure is nice to be on a relaxing holiday like this one "

How's the weather been for you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to sleep in a pitch dark room but don't like being down stairs with a light off, I use the torch on my phone

I know that feeling. Downstairs always seems to be more scary at night with the lights off. I'm on holiday in a pine lodge at the moment and earlier on, I shot up the spiral steps as soon as I switches off the downstairs light. Blimey was that scary

Are you enjoying your holiday?

Yeah definitely. It has been a good couple of days so far

Ah, that's good

Yeah definitely. It sure is nice to be on a relaxing holiday like this one

How's the weather been for you? "

It's been nice and sunny

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Doesn't bother me in the slightest, however I have mates who are petrified of the dark.

I put it down to to many horror movies, after all not many films have nice things happening in the dark

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I often sleep with both a lamp and the radio on low. Recently though, the dog was very ill and had an operation. As he's recovered I've let him sleep in my room. I've slept better despite him shuffling about and I don't mind having the light off. He is much better now but he still sleeps in here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's foxes in the dark me .if I pull up outside my house late at night and see one lurking I drive around the block and come back then run to the front door and get in quick

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By *r WillerbyMan
over a year ago

Durham

The only thing in the dark is your mind , evil thing that it is, will make real and normal become scary and vengeful......

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By *ogisticalBigManMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Equally happy with or without a light on to sleep. Just might need a light if I get up in the night to go the lavvy or something

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By *endrix30Man
over a year ago

dudley


"when monsters go to bed, they check under their bed to see if i,m under there! "
Lol. Would love to find you under my bed, you are one very sexy woman.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"You lot have scared the living crap out of me now. I wasn't scared off the dark before but going to have to sleep with the light on now I know of all the dangers lurking! "

Man up....!

Ha ha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to spend @50% of my time working in the dark out in the sticks. The noises you hear in the night can be weird, mostly animals.......I think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone have this fear? Is it the dark itself you fear or what you think maybe in the dark?

I'm not overall scared of the dark but I do feel uncomfortable being in the dark on my own sometimes. I still sleep with a small lamp on. Whenever I switch the lights off downstairs at night before bed, I sometimes shoot upstairs as I would feel like something is behind me even though there is nothing there. Even hearing somewhat scary music in my head makes it creepy.

Anyone else had that feeling sometimes when it comes to the dark?"

I,m like that, I don't like the dark at all. I leave lights on downstairs or if I go down in the night I will be scared of what's in there. I don't like going out after dark either. XXX

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"I have a constant fear that someone's watching me."

this just popped into my head too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always preferred the dark

Not a fan of lamps and only have 2 out of 6 bulbs in our light in the living room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the light begins to change I sometimes feel a little strange, A little anxious when it's dark.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a constant fear that someone's watching me."

I hate that feeling. That's why I always sleep with the bedroom door shut as it would make me feel like something is watching me on the landing

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Carnt say i am afraid of the dark op.

But i do play games at times in the dark with sum creepey choons....

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=vl0u0R02TYc

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=RMc9Pfb8uuQ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a constant fear that someone's watching me.

I hate that feeling. That's why I always sleep with the bedroom door shut as it would make me feel like something is watching me on the landing "

But what if someone is in the wardrobe watching through a knot hole?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fear of the dark, fear of the dark, I have a constant fear that somethings always near"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chuckle great iron maiden song .

I walk in the woods at night in the winter with pooch. It doesn't bother me . You get a new perspective on a place at night . All the night time creatures it's amazing. So in the countryside I have no fear of the dark .

Now cities at night .. no thanks

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By *hubnwife_36dd_ukCouple
over a year ago

chester

Fear of the dark, in a basic form is normal. Allowing it to overwhelm you is where the problems begin and where the horror writers spin their craft to earn a crust.

We've all been here: Sleep can be a wonderful comfort, but it can also be a hard time when anxieties or fears can rise to the surface. filled with dreams and restlessness. From time to time, we're hit with very real and vivid nightmares, which can shake us out of sleep with a sense quite close to panic. And what to do when that happens?

"From ghoulies and ghosties

And long-leggedy beasties

And things that go bump in the night,

Good Lord, deliver us!"

It's a primaeval thing. Back then the dark was where the real hunters lived and woe betide any little person out amongst them.

Darwin assured that those with a healthy respect for the danger survived to breed the next generation.

So even to this day we carry that subconscious safety mechanism.

Of course now, in most civilised places the real after dark dangers have gone, so we introduced ourselves to stalkers, late night thugs etc, not to mention (please DON'T mention) Freddie, the Blob, guys with banjos etc courtesy of the film industry.

Sleep safe children (and keep a bloody big stick and a torch handy).

P.S. Or how about a few of these under your bed? "when the whole earth was so overrun with ghosts, boggles, bloody-bones, spirits, demons, ignis fatui, brownies, bugbears, black dogs, specters, shellycoats, scarecrows, witches, wizards, barguests, Robin-Goodfellows, hags, night-bats, scrags, breaknecks, fantasms, hobgoblins, hobhoulards, boggy-boes, dobbies, hob-thrusts, fetches, kelpies, warlocks, mock-beggars, mum-pokers, Jemmy-burties, urchins, satyrs, pans, fauns, sirens, tritons, centaurs, calcars, nymphs, imps, incubuses, spoorns, men-in-the-oak, hell-wains, fire-drakes, kit-a-can-sticks, Tom-tumblers, melch-dicks, larrs, kitty-witches, hobby-lanthorns, Dick-a-Tuesdays, Elf-fires, Gyl-burnt-tales, knockers, elves, rawheads, Meg-with-the-wads, old-shocks, ouphs, pad-foots, pixies, pictrees, giants, dwarfs, Tom-pokers, tutgots, snapdragons, sprets, spunks, conjurers, thurses, spurns, tantarrabobs, swaithes, tints, tod-lowries, Jack-in-the-Wads, mormos, changelings, redcaps, yeth-hounds, colt-pixies, Tom-thumbs, black-bugs, boggarts, scar-bugs, shag-foals, hodge-pochers, hob-thrushes, bugs, bull-beggars, bygorns, bolls, caddies, bomen, brags, wraiths, waffs, flay-boggarts, fiends, gallytrots, imps, gytrashes, patches, hob-and-lanthorns, gringes, boguests, bonelesses, Peg-powlers, pucks, fays, gallybeggars, hudskins, nickers, madcaps, trolls, robinets, friars' lanthorns, silkies, cauld-lads, death-hearses, goblins, hob-headlesses, bugaboos, kows, or cowes, nickies, nacks [necks], waiths, miffies, buckies, ghouls, sylphs, guests, swarths, freiths, freits, gy-carlins [Gyre-carling], pigmies, chittifaces, nixies, Jinny-burnt-tails, dudmen, hell-hounds, dopple-gangers, boggleboes, bogies, redmen, portunes, grants, hobbits, hobgoblins, cowies, dunnies, wirrikows, alholdes, mannikins, follets, korreds, lubberkins, cluricauns, kobolds, leprechauns, kors, mares, korreds, puckles korigans, sylvans, succubuses, shadows, banshees, lian-hanshees, clabbernappers, Gabriel-hounds, mawkins, doubles, corpse lights or candles, scrats, mahounds, trows, gnomes, sprites, fates, fiends, sibyls, nicknevins, whitewomen, fairies, thrummy-caps, cutties, and nisses, and apparitions of every shape, make, form, fashion, kind and description"

I must try to use some of those names more often (once I find their meaning)!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a constant fear that someone's watching me.

I hate that feeling. That's why I always sleep with the bedroom door shut as it would make me feel like something is watching me on the landing

But what if someone is in the wardrobe watching through a knot hole? "

Luckily my bed is next to the wardrobe with both facing the wall. Plus they don't have knot holes as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few years back when I'd been living in my new house at the time a couple of months. One night I'm watching tv and I hear a scratching noise coming from the kitchen. Suspecting a mouse or worse a rat I keep trying to yank the door open. But each time there's nothing to see.

So I decide I'll leave the door ajar and wait by the door trying not to make a sound and when I hear it I'll peek in and shine my torch to catch a a look. I go to get my torch off the window sill at the exact moment I place my hand on the torch....the lights went out. The t.v. sky box and Wi-Fi etc etc were still on so it wasn't a power cut.

Anyway that was enough to call it a night. I closed the kitchen door fully and braced with a chair just to make sure and went to bed.

Next morning all the lights were working again and never had any problems again after that

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

Gonna have to put the hood down, sunnies on and drive home blasting this out later

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"I have a constant fear that someone's watching me."

When I was younger I read a book about the Navajo Indians and Astral Projection. Ever since I've been convinced that someone is watching me.

Feel safer in the dark though. Peaceful I guess.

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