FabSwingers.com forum: Sending messages to other girls....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So as much I'm I'm super confident with guys, I can be extremely shy when it comes to approaching girls, I've been having flirty fun in the forums with a particular hottie.....so how do you girls play it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m much of the same really, I blush a lot when it comes to other girls.

And distance is always a unfortunate spanner in the works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m much of the same really, I blush a lot when it comes to other girls.

And distance is always a unfortunate spanner in the works "

It's so easy to reply to a hottie in here

I'm just not sure about the message.... Agree with distance as well. OMG....this has been so easy, but you might even be who this is aimed at....not saying you ARE who this is aimed at....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Queen is sexy and im sure every other lass see's that too

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By *rLucky777Man
over a year ago

Leeds

When you figure out how to message girls please give me some tips!

I’ve no clue what I’m doing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting point, I now wonder how it is with guys sending messages to guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With guys its easy because they reply to anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say hello, introduce yourself, pay the lady a compliment and sign off with a cheeky wink xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello Tattoo'd, im Stu and I would love to have a chat with you. Once you have got past the other (better written) messages I hope you think yes I will chat.

Like that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So as much I'm I'm super confident with guys, I can be extremely shy when it comes to approaching girls, I've been having flirty fun in the forums with a particular hottie.....so how do you girls play it....

I hear you

I think it is down to getting a different vibe from girls. I tend to be more flirty and giggly *wtf* Whereas with guys I take no prisoners lol

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha I posted a similar thread the other day. Girls make me shy too

I think a lot of it is not knowing what to say in an initial message too. I rarely send them to guys either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello Tattoo'd, im Stu and I would love to have a chat with you. Once you have got past the other (better written) messages I hope you think yes I will chat.

Like that?"

Yes like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you reply to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just did lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean as an actual proper message that people send in the inbox lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get really embarrassed chatting to other girls and breaking the ice sexually.Ive sent messages and closed my eyes and hoped they don't think I'm to foward with my approach.

I totally agree with that contacting other girls is so nerve racking as men just agree with anything and everything you say lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get really embarrassed chatting to other girls and breaking the ice sexually.Ive sent messages and closed my eyes and hoped they don't think I'm to foward with my approach.

I totally agree with that contacting other girls is so nerve racking as men just agree with anything and everything you say lol x "

Yep men do. As they go oohhh a rare reply, I'll agree with whatever she says as it might lead to a meet for a blowjob

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

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"Interesting point, I now wonder how it is with guys sending messages to guys

Without wishing to hijack what is essentially a thread about ladies contacting ladies - I can honestly say from experience that guys contacting guys generally conforms to the stereotype of everything that the good ladies of Fab moan about when it comes to messages from a lot of guys.

Pretty much all I receive are of the "want to meet for sex now" variety and get deleted without response - which is a shame as I'd be open to receiving a well written message from an openly bi guy

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

I imagine it's because the OP feels that when she sends a message to a girl she actually has to make an effort. This combined with the fact that many girls have terrible profiles makes it difficult.

Yet, requests for well thought out personalised messages from men are one of the biggest topics on this forum for women.

I suspect that girls may feel 'super confident' when messaging men because largely they feel they are pretty disposable, that there is no pressure on the message because there are so many men who will be shocked to receive one.

Girls will also tend to be polite when messaging other girls. A claim to be confident or sassy in a profile often seems as though it's an attempt to excuse rudeness when replying to guys.

Communicating via this website is difficult enough in all cases. I think it's useful for women to see how difficult it is to be expected to be original, witty and relevant when approaching someone for the first time. Maybe those who have experienced this will treat messages from the guys a little more sympathetically..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We rarely get receive the first message from girls

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYoMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"With guys its easy because they reply to anything"

Speak for yourself dude

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYoMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Haha I posted a similar thread the other day. Girls make me shy too

I think a lot of it is not knowing what to say in an initial message too. I rarely send them to guys either. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I imagine it's because the OP feels that when she sends a message to a girl she actually has to make an effort. This combined with the fact that many girls have terrible profiles makes it difficult.

Yet, requests for well thought out personalised messages from men are one of the biggest topics on this forum for women.

Girls will also tend to be polite when messaging other girls. A claim to be confident or sassy in a profile often seems as though it's an attempt to excuse rudeness when replying to guys.

Well said! Women want a 'well thought out, personal message with (some) wanting code words, why would (or should) it be different if a woman is messaging another woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m much of the same really, I blush a lot when it comes to other girls.

And distance is always a unfortunate spanner in the works

It's so easy to reply to a hottie in here

I'm just not sure about the message.... Agree with distance as well. OMG....this has been so easy, but you might even be who this is aimed at....not saying you ARE who this is aimed at....

Well if I am thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always a little more nervous messaging other women...but I still just go for it, it's never bad to get a genuine compliment right?

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

I have only sent a couple of messages to fems on here and they have been after having a laugh with them on the forums.

Most of my recent girl / girl play has been in the clubs.

I tend to go on Bi nights as it’s great fun.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've usually message off the back of a forum topic but thats just an excuse to get their attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am definitely nervous when messaging women but I also find it easier to flirt with women than men.

Moving the conversation onto an actual meet is my downfall.

Eve. X

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I actually agree with the majority of what _radleywiggins has typed.

Lots of women will flirt on the forums but actually going further than that doesn't happen too often - it's easier if you meet face to face at a club/social.

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By *cotGirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Say hello, introduce yourself, pay the lady a compliment and sign off with a cheeky wink xx

This with something to show I've read their profile fully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am definitely nervous when messaging women but I also find it easier to flirt with women than men.

Moving the conversation onto an actual meet is my downfall.

Eve. X"

St the end write so you fancy meeting up for a few drinks or something

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I get really embarrassed chatting to other girls and breaking the ice sexually.Ive sent messages and closed my eyes and hoped they don't think I'm to foward with my approach.

I totally agree with that contacting other girls is so nerve racking as men just agree with anything and everything you say lol x

Yep men do. As they go oohhh a rare reply, I'll agree with whatever she says as it might lead to a meet for a blowjob"

Men like that put me off.

I dont want an 'arse licker' and someone who agrees with everything I say to try and get in my good books.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I imagine it's because the OP feels that when she sends a message to a girl she actually has to make an effort. This combined with the fact that many girls have terrible profiles makes it difficult.

Yet, requests for well thought out personalised messages from men are one of the biggest topics on this forum for women.

Girls will also tend to be polite when messaging other girls. A claim to be confident or sassy in a profile often seems as though it's an attempt to excuse rudeness when replying to guys.

Well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"....... men just agree with anything and everything you say lol x

Yep men do. As they go oohhh a rare reply, I'll agree with whatever she says as it might lead to a meet for a blowjob

Men like that put me off.

I dont want an 'arse licker' and someone who agrees with everything I say to try and get in my good books.

Many guys will feel like they have to play the game to get any chance. Just read any forum thread, its rare that guys publicly disagree with women.

Some do, but its a small minority.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

I send a lot of messages to other ladies, I attend ladies nights at clubs so I like to try to arrange for as many of us as possible to meet up

it's great fun

It's easier to flirt in person but I like doing it on here and on messages too

Bun

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"We rarely get receive the first message from girls"

Its only ever happened with forum users with us, I guess being on here helps crack the ice.

Only non forum ladies to contact us first have almost always been fakes & not very good ones at that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We rarely get receive the first message from girls

Its only ever happened with forum users with us, I guess being on here helps crack the ice.

Only non forum ladies to contact us first have almost always been fakes & not very good ones at that.

Nobody contacts me - they have a look but other than that nothing

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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I would but too far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find it very hard esp when looking for solo play with Female or couple... thought most were looking for a extra female

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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Same here though. I - Mrs - have messaged a few ladies. They look at our profile. Never reply. I think more assume its the guy messaging pretending to be me or just don’t like the look of me but never had a meet with a woman yet. Played with them in clubs etc or couple meets. But never 1-1 and not for a few years. So guys. It’s not easy for us women either lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you have to treat it as you would messaging guy. If you've been having flirty fun in the forums. I'm sure your confidence will come through. You can on sew the seed of thought through hints and see how she responds. Much the same as messaging anyone else. Sure you'll be fine. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same here though. I - Mrs - have messaged a few ladies. They look at our profile. Never reply. I think more assume its the guy messaging pretending to be me or just don’t like the look of me but never had a meet with a woman yet. Played with them in clubs etc or couple meets. But never 1-1 and not for a few years. So guys. It’s not easy for us women either lol"

So true x

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

I find it's definitely easier to suss women out face to face. There are an awful lot of bi women on here. But what is bi to one lady is not necessarily the same for all, bi playful? bi curious? bi to attract the fella? looking for a bi/gay relationship? All different. Easier to say let's have a coffee and see if we are on the same page. If we are - let fun commemce. If not you may have made a potential mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting point, I now wonder how it is with guys sending messages to guys

Pretty much all I receive are of the "want to meet for sex now" variety and get deleted without response - which is a shame as I'd be open to receiving a well written message from an openly bi guy

That's disappointing, I'm glad I blocked them then

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By *oney_Bee_xTV/TS
over a year ago

Teesside

"I imagine it's because the OP feels that when she sends a message to a girl she actually has to make an effort. This combined with the fact that many girls have terrible profiles makes it difficult.

Yet, requests for well thought out personalised messages from men are one of the biggest topics on this forum for women.

Girls will also tend to be polite when messaging other girls. A claim to be confident or sassy in a profile often seems as though it's an attempt to excuse rudeness when replying to guys.

Well spoken Bradley... I feel a level of compassion for some of the men on here...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get really embarrassed chatting to other girls and breaking the ice sexually.Ive sent messages and closed my eyes and hoped they don't think I'm to foward with my approach.

I totally agree with that contacting other girls is so nerve racking as men just agree with anything and everything you say lol x "

It's so easy on here as well, I hope that a wee fab of a pic might get someone's attention and that will start a conversation. To be honest, I never send a first message to a guy, if I get a message and it catches my attention I'll reply.

All the posts have been in interesting read and will hopefully end with a few hotties in my inbox or maybe me in theirs....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm always a little more nervous messaging other women...but I still just go for it, it's never bad to get a genuine compliment right?

Well, I'm just in from work and having a wee glass of vino.....so it might calm the nerves...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women fascinate and terrify me.

I've tried talking to one I think but it just got ignored.

I wouldn't even know where to start.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Women fascinate and terrify me.

I've tried talking to one I think but it just got ignored.

I wouldn't even know where to start. "

I feel the same, kind of, women don't terrify me but I find it easier to talk to men usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women fascinate and terrify me.

I've tried talking to one I think but it just got ignored.

I wouldn't even know where to start.

I feel the same, kind of, women don't terrify me but I find it easier to talk to men usually. "

Men are easier. I know how to push their buttons usually. They either like you or they don't.

Women are complicated.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Women fascinate and terrify me.

I've tried talking to one I think but it just got ignored.

I wouldn't even know where to start.

I feel the same, kind of, women don't terrify me but I find it easier to talk to men usually.

Men are easier. I know how to push their buttons usually. They either like you or they don't.

Women are complicated. "

Oh I'd agree with that

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I find it difficult to know what to say to ladies. I worry that I will sound like a man with a fake female profile. There are ladies who want to meet, but only if their bf can watch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always a little more nervous messaging other women...but I still just go for it, it's never bad to get a genuine compliment right?

Well, I'm just in from work and having a wee glass of vino.....so it might calm the nerves...

Good for it! What's the worst that could happen?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it difficult to know what to say to ladies. I worry that I will sound like a man with a fake female profile. There are ladies who want to meet, but only if their bf can watch.

That’s my pet hate as well the amount of “single” profiles I click on and it’s well I don’t meet on my own my bf needs to

Be there watching well get a bloody couples profile then.

Oh and just for the record ladies I do meet alone no men have to watch at all

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