FabSwingers.com forum: Jaded/Arrogant Couples

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Has anyone ever actually had any success with some of the couple's that come across as a bit nasty or demanding, to the point they don't even seen friendly.

We've seen a number of

"if the males not bi don't even bother",

"include a face pic in your message or we won't reply, and if we still don't were not interested"

and the obvious one

"looking for a female only" but still has preferences set to couples.

We understand that people are after a certain type of person and that this can somewhat put certain undesirables off, but even when we feel we meet one of these couples criteria the sheer impoliteness and bad attitude can be really off putting so we don't bother winking or messaging at that point.

How do these people find interested parties?

K&N xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just look at their profiles and move on.

There are plenty more people on here. Leave them too their criteria and concentrate more on what your looking for xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone ever actually had any success with some of the couple's that come across as a bit nasty or demanding, to the point they don't even seen friendly.

We've seen a number of

"if the males not bi don't even bother",

"include a face pic in your message or we won't reply, and if we still don't were not interested"

and the obvious one

"looking for a female only" but still has preferences set to couples.

How do these people find interested parties?

K&N xxx"

We simply ask for a face pic with a first message. It's pointless chatting to someone you're not attracted to.

It's just another filter for us.

Hopefully our profile doesn't come across as too demanding, we're very chilled out really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some that will jump through hoops for thise folk on here. That fuels their self importance and ego to believe they really are all that. Alas, it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always ask for face pic straight away can b arsed with all the messaging for ages then get the face pic and they ain't ur cuppa tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always ask for face pic straight away can b arsed with all the messaging for ages then get the face pic and they ain't ur cuppa tea"

Just realised you haven't seen ours

Rectifying that as we speak. Be kind

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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago

near ipswich

strange one i saw the other day wont meet couples who meet single guys,whats that about?

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

We ask for face pics not syright away but where new to this so might be doing it wrong we will soon find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We just look at their profiles and move on.

There are plenty more people on here. Leave them too their criteria and concentrate more on what your looking for xx"

I just block em and move on as we are never going to meet so why have them perving you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a singleton many profiles and exchanges are very curt but do have some sympathy as I imagine they get lots of eejits messaging them.

I think 'jaded' is the perfect description.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We ask for face pics not syright away but where new to this so might be doing it wrong we will soon find out"

There's no right or wrong way, there's only, what works for you.

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

Thank u m&e

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone ever actually had any success with some of the couple's that come across as a bit nasty or demanding, to the point they don't even seen friendly.

We've seen a number of

"if the males not bi don't even bother",

"include a face pic in your message or we won't reply, and if we still don't were not interested"

K&N xxx"

The best bit is....a lot of the team these people have no pictures on their profile.....fuck off you up your own arses picture collectors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there's a fine line between being an pair of assholes and being to the point with what you want out of the site though.

We get loads of people message us with no pics, no text and no avatar saying "wanna meet" - if you don't give us something to work with how the hell can we make that call!

We don't have filters on or anything as we believe people should have a set idea of what we want comparative to what they want from reading our profile and message based on that and being a bit more direct saves wading through loads of "dud" profiles.

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

To true millie

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By *larayCouple
over a year ago

bolton

And the friend requests without any contact before!

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By *eus n EuropaCouple
over a year ago

louth

"We just look at their profiles and move on.

There are plenty more people on here. Leave them too their criteria and concentrate more on what your looking for xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've found the best way to meet couples is at clubs or at organized socials at clubs. We haven't bothered messaging couples on here in ages (partly because of what you describe) and when couples message us it usually fizzles out for whatever reason.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"There are some that will jump through hoops for thise folk on here. That fuels their self importance and ego to believe they really are all that. Alas, it happens. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They will attract like minded people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find that so many couples and single women are so up there own arses that we wouldn't want to bother.they could be drop dead gorgeous but for us we find there whole attitude one huge turn off

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

Started doing the club scene think its easier then doing the message thing and i dont like been nasty to people if there not our cup of tea but where newbies so i guess i need to know how to let the down gently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's tough not to get jaded once you've been on the scene a while.

I've lost count of the amount of profiles I've read that read like a list of reasons not to fuck.

I tend to think these people are putting barriers in the way of their fun, so aren't actually serious about meeting anyone.

What it does do is make the people you find who are 'real' very precious and worth the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People with a bad attitude often don't realise how others perceive them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone ever actually had any success with some of the couple's that come across as a bit nasty or demanding, to the point they don't even seen friendly.

We've seen a number of

"if the males not bi don't even bother",

"include a face pic in your message or we won't reply, and if we still don't were not interested"

and the obvious one

"looking for a female only" but still has preferences set to couples.

How do these people find interested parties?

K&N xxx"

I say bring back the good old days keys in a bowl that's when swinging was swinging lol

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

"Thank u m&e"

Blondie8399 if you want to reply to a post hot the "+quote" on the post you're replying to. Seeing as you're new

You're welcome

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Hit not hot

Freudian slip

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

"Hit not hot

Freudian slip

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thank u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't have a long list of things we do and don't do on our profile as think every situation / meet is different.

We both know what we like and would love to think if people like our profile and how we come across that they'll get in touch and we'll take things from there.

We do go to clubs and think it is so much easier to engage with others as some people unknowingly don't give out the right impression through text.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its incredible at times how some couples come across but as has been sais each to their own we just move on

We had one couple who didnt have time for socials and wanted a guaranteed shag if we met! Yet they have loads of verifications so obviously it works for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't have a long list of things we do and don't do on our profile as think every situation / meet is different.

We both know what we like and would love to think if people like our profile and how we come across that they'll get in touch and we'll take things from there.

We do go to clubs and think it is so much easier to engage with others as some people unknowingly don't give out the right impression through text."

Nothing wrong with your profile....quite a nice read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't have a long list of things we do and don't do on our profile as think every situation / meet is different.

We both know what we like and would love to think if people like our profile and how we come across that they'll get in touch and we'll take things from there.

We do go to clubs and think it is so much easier to engage with others as some people unknowingly don't give out the right impression through text.

Nothing wrong with your profile....quite a nice read

Thanks very much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't have a long list of things we do and don't do on our profile as think every situation / meet is different.

We both know what we like and would love to think if people like our profile and how we come across that they'll get in touch and we'll take things from there.

We do go to clubs and think it is so much easier to engage with others as some people unknowingly don't give out the right impression through text.

Nothing wrong with your profile....quite a nice read

Thanks very much x"

Your welcome

The only downside is could possibly see is you don't meet tvs

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

sometimes it's evident that the profile is created/maintained by the male who comes across as aggressive and too much ego. Best move on IMO.

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By *bjones1000Man
over a year ago

exeter

Being a single bloke (with a pretty crap profile) I definitely have noticed this, I have no face pics in public but always send with first message, its annoying certain couples consider themselves above single guys, fair enough I suppose as can have the pick of pretty much whoever they want, but dont be an arse about it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yikes, I hope our profile doesn't come across as such.

Open to profile feedback.

Eve. X

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We're looking for a female. I wouldn't say that we are nasty or demanding. We are a friendly, nice couple who enjoy life and like to have fun.

I(mr) think all profiles should have at least one face pic of yourselves on. This would save a lot of time messaging people only to get asked to send a face pic. Always nice to see who you are chatting to and could potentially meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're looking for a female. I wouldn't say that we are nasty or demanding. We are a friendly, nice couple who enjoy life and like to have fun.

If people were given no option but to show a public face pic on their profile, I don't think the site would last a month.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"We just look at their profiles and move on.

There are plenty more people on here. Leave them too their criteria and concentrate more on what your looking for xx"

Same as this. If they seem like dicks, I move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone ever actually had any success with some of the couple's that come across as a bit nasty or demanding, to the point they don't even seen friendly.

Yes. A lot.

Mainly extremely demanding, which doesn't really do it for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We simply ask for a face pic with a first message. It's pointless chatting to someone you're not attracted to.

Agree with what you're saying and I'm always happy to send face pics AFTER conversation has been established.

For me, conversation comes before your face.

It doesn't matter how attractive someone is, if I can't have a conversation with them and / or they have a complete inability to hold a conversation or there is ZERO "verbal attraction"...then a Face pic isn't going to help.

I WILL send face pics, but NEVER on a first message.

^ that's my opinion as a single male that's supposed to be "gagging for it".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take much notice of mega demanding or negative ones, they're just not attractive.

People saying what they are looking for however, is perfectly appropriate to me - providing it's not just a massive list of demands of course!

That being said, everyone's profile is their own to set as they choose and if people are enticed by them then they must do the trick and hopefully help people to find other people that they are well matched with!

Ruby

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