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"I have a meet planned for later this evening. All sorted, time, venue etc. He updated his status an hour ago looking for meets in the same area at the same time? First meet for us, do I go?" Was this before or after you'd arranged your meet? | |||
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"I had this happen. I blocked him. He's looking for a back up. Fuck him off " This. | |||
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"His response was, "Don't worry...everything is exactly as planned and all on track.... I'm thinking not to go" I'd want a better explanation than that.....go with your gut. | |||
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"His response was, "Don't worry...everything is exactly as planned and all on track.... I'm thinking not to go" Did you ask about his status ? | |||
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"His response was, "Don't worry...everything is exactly as planned and all on track.... I'm thinking not to go" Wow! What a way to make someone feel excited about a meet! . In all honesty I would fuck someone off who did that. It just seems so rude to blatantly try and arrange a meet at the same time he's meant to be meeting you. I'm actually shocked by that. | |||
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"You could ask him what's going on? " Which you've done and it doesn't look good for him! | |||
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me." I'd cancel. He doesn't seem very respectful and that would put me in the wrong mood to begin with. | |||
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me." Did you suggest things to wear? Or has he just out of the blue started with suggestions? If the latter, fuck that. | |||
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me." Well there's your answer right there | |||
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me." Sounds dodgy to us. Back out x | |||
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me." Sounds like you are not too sure about meeting him so probably best you don't. | |||
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me." Sounds like hes got a back up plan if you dont want to play. As for telling you what to wear ! Well id wear what i wanted to wear. | |||
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"You know, there could be a perfectly innocent or accidental explanation for this, or maybe he's a prick but it's really hard to tell with only one side of the story. Personally, I'd demand an explanation over the phone right now and not bang on about it in public. But that's just me. Hope it works out. " | |||
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"Just ask him... but in all honesty, of the guy is limited to time due to work or what ever reason and generally has to make time for a meet... he is probably just having a back up plan invade you don't turn up, if you don't turn up he's got a free evening with no company... see where I'm coming from? " I totally get this but I think he could have gone about it more sensitively and less publicly. I'd be wondering if there was any point showing up only to be told he's had a better offer.....or shoving me out the door when he's done because his back up plan's on her way.... Seeing this would put me in the wrong frame of mind so I'd still cancel and stay in and spoon the dog. | |||
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me." Stick well clear xx | |||
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"I had this happen. I blocked him. He's looking for a back up. Fuck him off " if this is true its disrespectful behaviour of the highest kind and shows a total disregard for the ops feelings . yes its a swinger site but still we all have a duty of care towards those we choose to interact with in my opinion . if your instincts are true on this and I think they are then op I would say stay well clear of this guy , in fact my advice would be always stay clear of people who lack basic empathy . this guy seems to lack any understands of empathy which means he has no idea that his actions can cause upset best to avoid such people in my experience . | |||
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"His response was, "Don't worry...everything is exactly as planned and all on track.... I'm thinking not to go Wow! What a way to make someone feel excited about a meet! . In all honesty I would fuck someone off who did that. It just seems so rude to blatantly try and arrange a meet at the same time he's meant to be meeting you. I'm actually shocked by that. " We feel the same fuck him off babe x | |||
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"I have a meet planned for later this evening. All sorted, time, venue etc. He updated his status an hour ago looking for meets in the same area at the same time? First meet for us, do I go?" Reading your other responses to other people on this thread , think I'd be very carful and give it a lot of thought about meeting up with him !!! If your already doubting and put up a thread like this ( imo ) you've already got your doubts xx Do what you feel , good luck in whatever you chose xxx | |||
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""Sorry - I forgot I double booked. Threesome?"" Go on then. | |||
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me." DO NOT GO! Specially being your first meet of fab! No one should be pushy! Always go with your gut | |||
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""Sorry - I forgot I double booked. Threesome?" Go on then. " | |||
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"His response was, "Don't worry...everything is exactly as planned and all on track.... I'm thinking not to go I'd want a better explanation than that.....go with your gut. " | |||
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"His response was, "Don't worry...everything is exactly as planned and all on track.... I'm thinking not to go I'd want a better explanation than that.....go with your gut. " Ooops, my mistake. I should probably learn to read x | |||
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me." Just reading this has sounded alarm bells, OP. Please cancel & block. Instinct is not always listened to enough... Stay safe xxx | |||
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"His response was, "Don't worry...everything is exactly as planned and all on track.... I'm thinking not to go" I think you're right. You're worth more | |||
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"I'm seeing a married lady, it was ment to be fb she has 2 young kids and she confessed to me today she loves me!! but apart of me thinks she's only saying this cus she knows I see other women, she was cool with it as I was open straight from the off, she asked me today if she should leave her husband, all I could say to her is that's your decision to make it can't and would never ask that of you, is she only doing this cus she don't like me seeing other women!! And she's feeling a little bit jealous?? Would really appreciate your comments " I'd probably ststrt your own thread about this | |||
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"I have a meet planned for later this evening. All sorted, time, venue etc. He updated his status an hour ago looking for meets in the same area at the same time? First meet for us, do I go?" He's NOT looking for a backup. YOU ARE his backup. And tell him to go fuck himself. | |||
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"It doesn't surprise me as I've had it done to me. Maybe he has doubts you'll turn up so he's having a Plan B just incase? Can't blame a person. This is a swinging site after all, he's entitled to make arrangements to see who he likes, when he likes. " I agree that this is a swinging site, but couldn't he make arrangements for another time? Like a poster thought above, what happens if the second meet is more to his liking? Is he going to cancel last minute on me? Or kick me out because he's on his way to another meet? What if we got on like a house on fire? Is he going to be letting down another person last minute? It might be no strings, but it shouldn't be no empathy. | |||
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"It doesn't surprise me as I've had it done to me. Maybe he has doubts you'll turn up so he's having a Plan B just incase? Can't blame a person. This is a swinging site after all, he's entitled to make arrangements to see who he likes, when he likes. I agree that this is a swinging site, but couldn't he make arrangements for another time? Like a poster thought above, what happens if the second meet is more to his liking? Is he going to cancel last minute on me? Or kick me out because he's on his way to another meet? What if we got on like a house on fire? Is he going to be letting down another person last minute? It might be no strings, but it shouldn't be no empathy." Who knows what he's thinking but I always have an open mind and don't expect too much of people, including not expecting empathy. That way I can't be disappointed. People are here for NSA sex, and don't have to explain their actions to anyone. The OP does sound like she is annoyed by his actions though, so she needs to go with her instincts. | |||
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"I have a meet planned for later this evening. All sorted, time, venue etc. He updated his status an hour ago looking for meets in the same area at the same time? First meet for us, do I go?" a player covering his bases incase u don't putout or show up | |||
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"Move on. He's clearly a tool. And being far to forceful. Just the fact a room was booked if you got on is bad enough..." We always book a room just in case. | |||
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me." I'd cancel too op,I think go with your gut feelings,they are usually right. Miss | |||
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"He has updated his status looking for meets since we arranged it. Only messaged on here and I have just messaged him saying what is happening as I do not want multiple people there" personally I'd give it a miss, I'd question cleanliness too if someone isn't trustworthy and clearly a tad desperate | |||
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"He has updated his status looking for meets since we arranged it. Only messaged on here and I have just messaged him saying what is happening as I do not want multiple people there personally I'd give it a miss, I'd question cleanliness too if someone isn't trustworthy and clearly a tad desperate " Cleanliness ? | |||
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"I had this happen. I blocked him. He's looking for a back up. Fuck him off " Yes that's a plan B. Which I don't agree with, not that I'm judging but that's. Or how we would play it with anyone. I know people have bad experiences with people letting each other down. But even so. I wouldn't go. Makes you wonder how the meet will go? | |||
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"It doesn't surprise me as I've had it done to me. Maybe he has doubts you'll turn up so he's having a Plan B just incase? Can't blame a person. This is a swinging site after all, he's entitled to make arrangements to see who he likes, when he likes. " Generally, this. I've tried sorting out the spontaneous meet due to cancellation before, never succeeded. More time may not have helped, but it wouldn't have hurt. That said, the fella in this example doesn't seem to have handled the comms well - but if that's representative of his other comms, then why hold it against him now? | |||
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"Nope, he's blown it by the time you feel the need to come on here asking everyone!! Forget it." I would agree, but do the right thing and let him know - otherwise he may report you for being a no-show | |||
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"Nope, he's blown it by the time you feel the need to come on here asking everyone!! Forget it. I would agree, but do the right thing and let him know - otherwise he may report you for being a no-show" It's not possible to report someone as a no show is it? | |||
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"He has updated his status looking for meets since we arranged it. Only messaged on here and I have just messaged him saying what is happening as I do not want multiple people there personally I'd give it a miss, I'd question cleanliness too if someone isn't trustworthy and clearly a tad desperate Cleanliness ?" Well if he isn't a complete bounder n cad I'm sure he would at least give his cock n balls a courtesy scrub in the sink at his hotel in between back up fucks! | |||
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me." All of them are warning signs. First meet and he tells you how to dress? Actually even if it was your hundreth meet I wouldn't expect him to tell you how to dress. | |||
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me." What the hell! No one dictates to me what I wear EVER. Tell him it's off and you've got better things to do with your time | |||
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"Suspect she went through with it " She was verified today so maybe she did. Update please op were nosy | |||
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"I did go. I spoke with him before hand. The venue I knew very well and very public with friends living close by. It was fine" | |||
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"I don't like guys telling me to wear certain things, it's like nah I'll wear what I feel comfy thanks, leggings and a hoody usually! " I've been asked in the past, if I'd like a meet to wear anything in particular. I have always responded that my knowledge of womens fashion is somewhat limited, and they should probably just wear what they wanted to.... | |||
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"I did go. I spoke with him before hand. The venue I knew very well and very public with friends living close by. It was fine" Glad u had a good time | |||
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"I did go. I spoke with him before hand. The venue I knew very well and very public with friends living close by. It was fine " Thanks fudge for that | |||
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