FabSwingers.com forum: Hello again.... so are you still up for meeting?

By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I must first make clear this is not a moan.

Scenario:

Someone messages you for the first time and you have a quick chat. Nothing too in-depth, but just enough to establish you are both interested in finding out more. One/both of you log off . A few weeks/month or so pass by and the same person sends you a message, this time taking the conversation a step further.

My question is….. when this type of scenario happens, am I alone in not being able to remember who the fuck they are ?

It seems to offend a few people when I explain I can’t remember the initial conversation and we’ll have to start from scratch. I may well remember their face pic and profile, but that’s about it.

Do you remember every person you start chatting to and what you chatted about?

Is it just me or do other people find it hard to just pick up where they left off if the continuity of the conversation has been broken?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, your not alone, but to be honest, if we were that interested we would have kept one of their messages to refer to.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Welcome to my world!

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I will possibly remember the face and profile

I probably won't remember the conversations though,I think that if I wanted to meet them last time round we would have kept in touch and if we hav'nt then they did'nt really blow my mind that much and ill wonder wtf we had chatted about the first time round

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im like it too.. i've a memory like a sieve.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

It doesnt take long for me to forget them. If communication drifts of ive usually moved on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't get many "cold calls" so I can remember most, if not all of our prospective meets as long as there are some positive vibes in our messages back and forth.

I can well understand you ladies not keeping track though, with the amount of mail some of you have to wade through

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I remember every little detail of every little conversation I ever had....;-)

NOT...

Serious answer : I remember context and commonalities, if there was something remarkable about that person, male or female or something I really liked or disliked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As has already been said some of you ladies/couples are inundated with messages so it may be difficult for you to keep track of every one you chat to. If the initial conversation went well and there seemed 'the potential for more', however, then I you might retain the message thread for future reference and not delete them...if your inbox is bulging, however, then you may prefer to delete!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get that all the time and they expect you to remember them and then take hump and give abuse when you tell them you dont remember them lol

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"I remember every little detail of every little conversation I ever had....;-)

NOT...

I may not remember conversations, but remember events

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I remember every little detail of every little conversation I ever had....;-)

NOT...

I may not remember conversations, but remember events

Some people somehow always seem to manage to pop up at the right moment, dont they...;-)

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"I remember every little detail of every little conversation I ever had....;-)

NOT...

I may not remember conversations, but remember events

Some people somehow always seem to manage to pop up at the right moment, dont they...;-)"

I wish.

It can take hours and blue thingies sometimes

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"I remember every little detail of every little conversation I ever had....;-)

NOT...

I may not remember conversations, but remember events

Some people somehow always seem to manage to pop up at the right moment, dont they...;-)"

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By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"As has already been said some of you ladies/couples are inundated with messages so it may be difficult for you to keep track of every one you chat to. If the initial conversation went well and there seemed 'the potential for more', however, then I you might retain the message thread for future reference and not delete them...if your inbox is bulging, however, then you may prefer to delete!"

It actually doesn't take many other conversations on the go before their last message drops off the page. If you are chatting to a friend all day, you can soon fill the viewable messages.

If I'd known in advance it was going to be weeks before they messaged again I'd know to save their last message, but it doesn't work like that does it.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

If you dont delete every day or so the messages go onto the next page anyways, and then you cant see them and so you still forget...

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

I tend to remember most of the people who I actually have had an exchange with but then as a single man on here they tend to be few and far between so they do stick in the mind and usually the reason I have messaged in the first place is because I found that person interesting and attractive.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I don't remember half the people I speak to if I don't speak to them for a while..

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

"I don't remember half the people I speak to if I don't speak to them for a while..

Who are you again??????

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I must first make clear this is not a moan.

Scenario:

My question is….. when this type of scenario happens, am I alone in not being able to remember who the fuck they are ?

Do you remember every person you start chatting to and what you chatted about?

Is it just me or do other people find it hard to just pick up where they left off if the continuity of the conversation has been broken?

I received an email - went in my inbox not junk so a contact - from someone asking how the new job was going!

Even asked if my mobile number was the same and quoted it. When I said I couldn't recall him he sent an email full of

Apparently we'd also met! He named the restaurant, remembered I drank rioja and liked my steak rare and STILL I haven't a clue who he is!

That's why I never played with him: not memorable, but I wish I could place him, as poor sod is devastated after a month I still couldn't tell him from a hole in the wall!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are like elephants when it comes to remembering past flirtatious encounters....and get all excited again quick style....and then its all over quick again...

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

f*** it,ok polo,see you sat 8.30.

wear something sexy.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems to offend a few people when I explain I can’t remember the initial conversation and we’ll have to start from scratch.....

Do you remember every person you start chatting to and what you chatted about?

I get this quite frequently in the chatroom

I chat to so many people, and I'm afraid I only remember the 5% of converstaions that are really exceptional. And I'm afraid when I get the 'are you still interested in meeting' comment from someone I don't even remember chatting to..... I think there is a good chance that they're 'trying it on' (i.e. trying to push me into a meet by pretending that I've promised them a meet in the past)

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

No.

I keep file on each and every person I have ever messaged or talked to, this is cross reference in an index card system that allows me to remember any conversation or even remarks made on the forums.

This elegant and beautifully simple system is foolproof and utterly invaluable to me.

...er... does anyone know where I've put it though?

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

My memory is piss poor, no it's worse than that actually, so I can never remember conversations from randomers, I do sometimes remember profile pics.

Generally I only speak to people on my friends list that means the whole of my message page could be full of just that convo with that person that day. At the end of the day I usually press 'delete all read'.

In theory I could be talking to the same randomers who PM me every week and I wouldn't realise.

Anybody seen the film Memento? That's me that is.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

No chance for my memory...we get a fair bit of mail so at times I have to say remind me who you are, which doesn't go down well

Thank god for site supporters where you can see on their profile wether you have previously mailed them or not.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Thank god for site supporters where you can see on their profile wether you have previously mailed them or not. "

That is helpful, but I can never remember if the indicated correspondence ended as a 'no thanks, you're a bit creepy and weird' or 'wow! what a sexy bum, we'll be in touch soon big boy' so it's use is somewhat limited.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

I can barely remember who I spoke to yesterday, never mind if weeks or months go by!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had this a few times.. luckily keep a book... if I think they are worth a thought they go in the book...

Although... had a complete chancer try that line... only I knew we had never spoken. But nice try. Lol

Katie x

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Thank god for site supporters where you can see on their profile wether you have previously mailed them or not.

lol

Yeah this is true, but it did help us with a mail we had recently that said that we had spoke before and can we have the meet now, as looking at the profile we had never mailed each other before

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Thank god for site supporters where you can see on their profile wether you have previously mailed them or not.

lol

Yeah this is true, but it did help us with a mail we had recently that said that we had spoke before and can we have the meet now, as looking at the profile we had never mailed each other before

Can't blame me for trying.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Thank god for site supporters where you can see on their profile wether you have previously mailed them or not.

lol

Yeah this is true, but it did help us with a mail we had recently that said that we had spoke before and can we have the meet now, as looking at the profile we had never mailed each other before

Can't blame me for trying.

you won't get through as we blocked you after the goat incident....hmmm or was that Funky?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Thank god for site supporters where you can see on their profile wether you have previously mailed them or not.

lol

Yeah this is true, but it did help us with a mail we had recently that said that we had spoke before and can we have the meet now, as looking at the profile we had never mailed each other before

Can't blame me for trying.

you won't get through as we blocked you after the goat incident....hmmm or was that Funky?

he/I either can't remember it or I/he hasn't done it yet.

It can get very complicated.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I have had this a few times.. luckily keep a book... if I think they are worth a thought they go in the book...

Although... had a complete chancer try that line... only I knew we had never spoken. But nice try. Lol

Katie x "

You keep a book?

Fuck me I thought I was anal!!

No... I rarely remember people unless they've made a proper impression. I have a terrible memory which actually I shouldn't really advertise... it's not the first time I've had a chancer saying 'oh we talked a few months ago blah blah blah'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With a lot of things my memory is like a sieve...however I usually do remember discussions of a sexual nature. Perhaps because they're very pleasant to recall?

For instance I am now thinking of a photoshoot in which I am slightly sub, one planned picture in particular had me oiled and lying on the floor with a woman's high-heeled foot placed firmly on my bare chest....

A discussion with one particular poster above me in this thread, but she will hopefully know who she is, as I'm not kissing and telling!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit I actually have a very good memory for conversations on here and other sites, there do seem to be a lot of chancers who will message and say we have chatted before though, asked one the other day if it worked and he said yes fairly often!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I have a pretty good memory for profiles in general....but to be honest we don't usually tend to have that many 'new' people that we are chatting with at one time.

Once I have met you....very rarely forget people (unless for a good reason lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does seem from the exchanges that we poor single guys tend to remember our chats whilst you women/couples are do not remember us...even when we take you to fancy restaurants, feed you steak and ply you with rioja!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Worse is when it happens in clubs,how am i supposed to keep track of who i have fucked!

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

lmao !!! meny occasion ive had single guy message introducing themself to me ......for the second or third time lol! very amusing when i message back telling them they messaged before saying exact same thing lol .obvious i wasnt that memorable either lol !

yes guys message asking to meet after just brief message of introductin before and i havent any clue what conversation was before unless i check back thread lol ! i wouldnt exspect them to remember me either if hadnt messaged in weeks lol !! certainly wouldnt throw a hissy fit over it

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"Worse is when it happens in clubs,how am i supposed to keep track of who i have fucked!

Fucked if i know

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

just had one saying I spoke to you a few weeks ago - he only joined 5 days ago. I know I lose days sometimes but wtf???

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County

"I remember every little detail of every little conversation I ever had....;-)

NOT...

Serious answer : I remember context and commonalities, if there was something remarkable about that person, male or female or something I really liked or disliked."

What's commonalities? that's a big word bigger than marmalade!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

I find it a constant problem. They use different names, sometimes no pics as they text one or emailed it, different name again on msn. Grrrr! Drives me nuts. Frquently go through friends list and delete any I don't instantly know.

Don't even get get me started on the names james and dave......

Mistress x

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By *he_original_polo OP Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Well at least I know it's not just me.

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