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By *idsnaughtygent OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Anyone else experienced a rapid quick delete of a message you sent?

Just spent 15 minutes writing this lady a well written response to her ad looking for men. Tried to incorporate into it everything she had asked for and was looking for, and wasn't rude or crude in any way.

Told her a little about me but mainly focused on what she was asking for.

Was polite, and went over it after for spelling mistakes. Included a face pic as requested.

Sent the message and literally checked 5 seconds later it was deleted.

Do women take the time to read a well written message or do they take a quick look at the face pic first then if it's not for them, they just delete without reading the message.

Just curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i cant speak for all, but i think most will check the profile first, and if it doesnt appeal for any reason,then they will delete..with or without opening a message...and no, you cant tell if they looked at your profile necessarily...and no, its not rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will check profile first I'm afraid and if not for me I delete

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Depends on the woman.

Checking messages after 5 seconds is a bit drastic

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Save that well written one! You can use it again by cutting and pasting to the next!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else experienced a rapid quick delete of a message you sent?

Just spent 15 minutes writing this lady a well written response to her ad looking for men. Tried to incorporate into it everything she had asked for and was looking for, and wasn't rude or crude in any way.

Told her a little about me but mainly focused on what she was asking for.

Was polite, and went over it after for spelling mistakes. Included a face pic as requested.

Sent the message and literally checked 5 seconds later it was deleted.

Do women take the time to read a well written message or do they take a quick look at the face pic first then if it's not for them, they just delete without reading the message.

Just curious"

We do the same if not for us we generally just delete

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I will nearly always do that with close-up cock-pic avatars, or overly cock-ocentric profile pics, it is a turnoff, like having some stranger shove a cock in your face in a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at the sent folder lol.

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By *idsnaughtygent OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry


"i cant speak for all, but i think most will check the profile first, and if it doesnt appeal for any reason,then they will delete..with or without opening a message...and no, you cant tell if they looked at your profile necessarily...and no, its not rude."

Thanks for your response Anna. I don't think it's rude as I understand women get inundated with messages on here. Was just curious & wanted to hear a women's point of view.

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By *idsnaughtygent OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry


"Depends on the woman.

Checking messages after 5 seconds is a bit drastic"

Was just checking it sent ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the site did away with the 'sent messages' option life would be so much less stressful for those who watch it continually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might just be that she has checked profile saw four cock pics and an unclear face pic and it might not have been what she's looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else experienced a rapid quick delete of a message you sent?

Just spent 15 minutes writing this lady a well written response to her ad looking for men. Tried to incorporate into it everything she had asked for and was looking for, and wasn't rude or crude in any way.

Told her a little about me but mainly focused on what she was asking for.

Was polite, and went over it after for spelling mistakes. Included a face pic as requested.

Sent the message and literally checked 5 seconds later it was deleted.

Do women take the time to read a well written message or do they take a quick look at the face pic first then if it's not for them, they just delete without reading the message.

Just curious"

Why did you waste all that time writing one message, just copy and paste something, saves time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i cant speak for all, but i think most will check the profile first, and if it doesnt appeal for any reason,then they will delete..with or without opening a message...and no, you cant tell if they looked at your profile necessarily...and no, its not rude."

You spend a quid on a ticket in the hope to win the lottery.

You spend 15 minutes writing a message in the hope to get a shag.

That's the chances you take

If you won every time, we'd all be millionaires and sexually exhausted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i look at a pic and dont like what i see - its a no, no matter what the message says - if effort has obviously been made i would send a polite no thanks but otherwise i just delete - used to reply to everything now im not so nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might just be that she has checked profile saw four cock pics and an unclear face pic and it might not have been what she's looking for "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look at the sent folder lol."

You can't anyway, your not a site supporter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the site did away with the 'sent messages' option life would be so much less stressful for those who watch it continually "

Agreed. I don't 'message watch' but if I'm contacting someone new and have attached a picture, I do value the 'remove pictures' option if I'm not right for them.

For messages without pics attached I tend to do bulk deletes every now and then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I look at profile first then read the message but will always try sending a not my type kinda message if they are not for me... if they have clearly not read my profile I will delete and block x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look at the sent folder lol.

You can't anyway, your not a site supporter "
Yes. I can, you dont need to be a supporter lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple, OP. She did not fancy you.

End of mystery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look at the sent folder lol.

You can't anyway, your not a site supporter "

you dont need to be!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look at the sent folder lol.

You can't anyway, your not a site supporter Yes. I can, you dont need to be a supporter lol."

I stand corrected then, I thought you had to be

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By *idsnaughtygent OP   Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Thanks for all the input guys and gals. It is much appreciated.

Obviously need to tweak my profile sum what.

Cant have a face pic on my profile unfortunately due to the nature of my work.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"If the site did away with the 'sent messages' option life would be so much less stressful for those who watch it continually

Agreed. I don't 'message watch' but if I'm contacting someone new and have attached a picture, I do value the 'remove pictures' option if I'm not right for them.

For messages without pics attached I tend to do bulk deletes every now and then. "
ah dan, maybe you could answer me a question. If you use the remove pictures option can you use it at any time like remove them 10 minutes later or an hour later

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We tend to look at the profile first, before reading a message.

Quite often, a profile can put us off before we've read the message.

If someone has taken the time to send a decent message. We'll usually reply, even if they're not for us.

One liners etc, we just delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else experienced a rapid quick delete of a message you sent?

Just spent 15 minutes writing this lady a well written response to her ad looking for men. Tried to incorporate into it everything she had asked for and was looking for, and wasn't rude or crude in any way.

Told her a little about me but mainly focused on what she was asking for.

Was polite, and went over it after for spelling mistakes. Included a face pic as requested.

Sent the message and literally checked 5 seconds later it was deleted.

Do women take the time to read a well written message or do they take a quick look at the face pic first then if it's not for them, they just delete without reading the message.

Just curious"

Obviously you are not what she wanted,no matter how well thought out or crafted you deemed your response to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the site did away with the 'sent messages' option life would be so much less stressful for those who watch it continually

Agreed. I don't 'message watch' but if I'm contacting someone new and have attached a picture, I do value the 'remove pictures' option if I'm not right for them.

For messages without pics attached I tend to do bulk deletes every now and then. ah dan, maybe you could answer me a question. If you use the remove pictures option can you use it at any time like remove them 10 minutes later or an hour later"

As long as you've not deleted the sent message (and you're a site supporter) you can remove the pics whenever you want

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By *lbi niceMan
over a year ago

romsley


"i cant speak for all, but i think most will check the profile first, and if it doesnt appeal for any reason,then they will delete..with or without opening a message...and no, you cant tell if they looked at your profile necessarily...and no, its not rude.

You spend a quid on a ticket in the hope to win the lottery.

You spend 15 minutes writing a message in the hope to get a shag.

That's the chances you take

If you won every time, we'd all be millionaires and sexually exhausted "

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"If the site did away with the 'sent messages' option life would be so much less stressful for those who watch it continually

Agreed. I don't 'message watch' but if I'm contacting someone new and have attached a picture, I do value the 'remove pictures' option if I'm not right for them.

For messages without pics attached I tend to do bulk deletes every now and then. ah dan, maybe you could answer me a question. If you use the remove pictures option can you use it at any time like remove them 10 minutes later or an hour later

As long as you've not deleted the sent message (and you're a site supporter) you can remove the pics whenever you want "

Ahh! Well, I never knew that. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look at the sent folder lol.

You can't anyway, your not a site supporter

you dont need to be!"
That is right too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look at the sent folder lol.

You can't anyway, your not a site supporter Yes. I can, you dont need to be a supporter lol.

I stand corrected then, I thought you had to be "
Yes and no, not on that folder.

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By *ercuryMan
over a year ago

Grantham

You'll soon learn that the women and couples hold all the cards.

Had similar experiences and I find its the ones that ask for a nice long message and clear face pic that are the worst.

You've just got to accept that being a single bloke on here is just asking for a kick in the balls!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'll soon learn that the women and couples hold all the cards.

Had similar experiences and I find its the ones that ask for a nice long message and clear face pic that are the worst.

You've just got to accept that being a single bloke on here is just asking for a kick in the balls!"

Not allways, just don't try to hard, at the end of the day some profiles are just not worth the effort,they are here to boost their fragile egos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't read to much into it mate,there are a million reasons why today it would be deleted so quickly,yet sent on a different day,it may of prompted a reply?

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Might just be that she has checked profile saw four cock pics and an unclear face pic and it might not have been what she's looking for

"

I was going to say that - TBH if I saw justs 3 pics of a minge and nothing else I wouldn't email them

I would improve your photos and your profile then try again and I would say avoid looking at sent box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I check the profile. If i don't like the look of the person i won't reply. ...and to be honest if the message is longer than a couple of sentences i won't bother to read it either.

I'm not one that expects a carefully tailored first message. I don't understand those that do. I think it's a waste of effort for someone who probably won't be interested.

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By *itchieboobiesWoman
over a year ago

horley


"I will nearly always do that with close-up cock-pic avatars, or overly cock-ocentric profile pics, it is a turnoff, like having some stranger shove a cock in your face in a club. "

Same it's not all about cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else experienced a rapid quick delete of a message you sent?

Just spent 15 minutes writing this lady a well written response to her ad looking for men. Tried to incorporate into it everything she had asked for and was looking for, and wasn't rude or crude in any way.

Told her a little about me but mainly focused on what she was asking for.

Was polite, and went over it after for spelling mistakes. Included a face pic as requested.

Sent the message and literally checked 5 seconds later it was deleted.

Do women take the time to read a well written message or do they take a quick look at the face pic first then if it's not for them, they just delete without reading the message.

Just curious"

You wouldn't waste time and effort on trying to have sex worn someone you weren't attracted too. It's the same for practically everyone too. Attraction in one way or another, must be there. She didn't ask you specifically to message her, so in fairness you aren't owed a reply. Harsh maybe but that's how it is. Everyone has a goal and does not want to waste time in achieving that.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

15 minutes?!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"If the site did away with the 'sent messages' option life would be so much less stressful for those who watch it continually

Agreed. I don't 'message watch' but if I'm contacting someone new and have attached a picture, I do value the 'remove pictures' option if I'm not right for them.

For messages without pics attached I tend to do bulk deletes every now and then. ah dan, maybe you could answer me a question. If you use the remove pictures option can you use it at any time like remove them 10 minutes later or an hour later

As long as you've not deleted the sent message (and you're a site supporter) you can remove the pics whenever you want "
well that has answered something that has been puzzling me. I get messages as soon as i click open the photo has gone i thought there was a gliche with my inbox but they obviously sit waiting for the message to say read and delete, when its not been read just opened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" well that has answered something that has been puzzling me. I get messages as soon as i click open the photo has gone i thought there was a gliche with my inbox but they obviously sit waiting for the message to say read and delete, when its not been read just opened"

That'll be it. I don't message new people very often at all, but if I do and they've either not read the message or opened it but not replied or deleted I'll tend to wait about 36-48 hours and then delete the pics on the assumption they're not interested (making an allowance for people's busy lives meaning they can't respond straight away)

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


" well that has answered something that has been puzzling me. I get messages as soon as i click open the photo has gone i thought there was a gliche with my inbox but they obviously sit waiting for the message to say read and delete, when its not been read just opened

That'll be it. I don't message new people very often at all, but if I do and they've either not read the message or opened it but not replied or deleted I'll tend to wait about 36-48 hours and then delete the pics on the assumption they're not interested (making an allowance for people's busy lives meaning they can't respond straight away) "
yes, but they must literally sit with the finger on the button waiting for the message to change as by the time i read photo attatched it then says photo removed after it.

Waste of time sending one if i cant see the damn thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" well that has answered something that has been puzzling me. I get messages as soon as i click open the photo has gone i thought there was a gliche with my inbox but they obviously sit waiting for the message to say read and delete, when its not been read just opened

That'll be it. I don't message new people very often at all, but if I do and they've either not read the message or opened it but not replied or deleted I'll tend to wait about 36-48 hours and then delete the pics on the assumption they're not interested (making an allowance for people's busy lives meaning they can't respond straight away) yes, but they must literally sit with the finger on the button waiting for the message to change as by the time i read photo attatched it then says photo removed after it.

Waste of time sending one if i cant see the damn thing"

Ah there's the OTHER function that allows you to do that too - remove pic once opened. Again I think it's a site supporter thing - I'll message you now and you'll see ..

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

Just stick to the "fancy a fuck" messages instead lol.

Seriously though, it pee's me off when you put so much effort into a message only fur it to be immediately deleted. It's the reason I mainly use Fab to keep in touch with people I met in clubs and at parties xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's actually very easy to accidentally delete a message - I've done it myself !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send the message you want to send, not one that is demanded of you. You don't have to obey anyone on here. Finding someone compatible may take time, but at least you will have a good time together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send the message you want to send, not one that is demanded of you. You don't have to obey anyone on here. Finding someone compatible may take time, but at least you will have a good time together. "

close the forums! Best advice of the week already and it's only Monday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i go through my inbox (which isn't very often as i usually just let messages build up and chat to who i'm chatting and don't bother starting new chats much and mass delete everyone else later) i will go through them individually deleting the ones i'm not interested in, if someone messages me while i'm doing this it's likely i will delete their message by accident and it would happen straight away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't take it personal, maybe you just dodged a bullet there buddy upwards & onwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buahaha, that's why I don't contact women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Buahaha, that's why I don't contact women "

Just men for you then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When someone does message me, I don't want them parroting back what I have written on my profile. I want an insight into their personality not a check list. Someone can say hi, and if I like the look of them, I say hi back. Then, a conversation ensues and we go from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Buahaha, that's why I don't contact women

Just men for you then."

Yeah and fairies. I count fairies as different gender.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

For those of you that check profiles before messages, what would your reaction be if the profile was hidden?

Are you then more or less likely to read the message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" well that has answered something that has been puzzling me. I get messages as soon as i click open the photo has gone i thought there was a gliche with my inbox but they obviously sit waiting for the message to say read and delete, when its not been read just opened

That'll be it. I don't message new people very often at all, but if I do and they've either not read the message or opened it but not replied or deleted I'll tend to wait about 36-48 hours and then delete the pics on the assumption they're not interested (making an allowance for people's busy lives meaning they can't respond straight away) yes, but they must literally sit with the finger on the button waiting for the message to change as by the time i read photo attatched it then says photo removed after it.

Waste of time sending one if i cant see the damn thing

Ah there's the OTHER function that allows you to do that too - remove pic once opened. Again I think it's a site supporter thing - I'll message you now and you'll see .."

Ahh yes people use this with us, one of us opens it, sees the pic, the other (usually me lol) is at work,by the time I get home the pic has been deleted. Weeither have to ask for it again, which gets frustrating having to keep explaining, or we can't be arsed and things go no further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For those of you that check profiles before messages, what would your reaction be if the profile was hidden?

Are you then more or less likely to read the message? "

delete altogether. cba with messing about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For those of you that check profiles before messages, what would your reaction be if the profile was hidden?

Are you then more or less likely to read the message? "

If we can't see a profile we'd always delete.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham


"Anyone else experienced a rapid quick delete of a message you sent?

Just spent 15 minutes writing this lady a well written response to her ad looking for men. Tried to incorporate into it everything she had asked for and was looking for, and wasn't rude or crude in any way.

Told her a little about me but mainly focused on what she was asking for.

Was polite, and went over it after for spelling mistakes. Included a face pic as requested.

Sent the message and literally checked 5 seconds later it was deleted.

Do women take the time to read a well written message or do they take a quick look at the face pic first then if it's not for them, they just delete without reading the message.

Just curious"

The lesson for today is 'stick with the fancy a fuck' messages, it will get deleted regardless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For those of you that check profiles before messages, what would your reaction be if the profile was hidden?

Are you then more or less likely to read the message? "

wouldn't see any point in opening it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When someone does message me, I don't want them parroting back what I have written on my profile. I want an insight into their personality not a check list. Someone can say hi, and if I like the look of them, I say hi back. Then, a conversation ensues and we go from there. "

I really don't want people to spend ages writing messages to me. I think the time is better invested in their profile and photos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile is key

Endless messages saying the same thing gets boring nor do you want a novel to read.

Check profile check message decide...

If it grabs attention I wet myself a little

Rare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is whats makes me laugh when you see a womans profile stating 'Please make the effort with your email... not just "hi" or "hey"' whats the point?!

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