FabSwingers.com forum: Strait guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When is a guy not strait? There seems to be a lot of bi, orally bi, bi curious or anal givers with other men. But they still say strait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

everyone has some same sex leanings just in some its very very minimal. i am stright but can admire the way another woman looks or dresses . Others wnat to explore and are just simply wondering what its like to touch another person of the same sex .Then there are those who know they are aroused by both sexes or just same sex

Thats why there are variations on a theme . Thats my view anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think each person should be able to decide for them selves

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am all for live and let live, but your not strait if you play with another man. Some are not honest on there sexuality. That is my issue.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Lucy is right, there are loads of 'straight' men who are looking for bi guys - I have heard loads of reasons for this - some of which were a hoot!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

theres really no point lying about ur sexuality. if ur bi ur bi if ur st8 ur str8.

i think some men and women like to experiment theres no harm

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lucy is right, there are loads of 'straight' men who are looking for bi guys - I have heard loads of reasons for this - some of which were a hoot!!!

Claiming to be vegetarian and eating bacon. If you like guys as a guy, your gay, bi or bi curious. Strait guys are strait

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

"Lucy is right, there are loads of 'straight' men who are looking for bi guys - I have heard loads of reasons for this - some of which were a hoot!!!

Claiming to be vegetarian and eating bacon. If you like guys as a guy, your gay, bi or bi curious. Strait guys are strait

Depends if they "were" straight - and due to circumstances during play decide they want to embark on exploring their sexuality.

Not everyone is fortunate enough to know their true sexuality early on, so me have to discover themselves as time goes by.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lucy is right, there are loads of 'straight' men who are looking for bi guys - I have heard loads of reasons for this - some of which were a hoot!!!

Claiming to be vegetarian and eating bacon. If you like guys as a guy, your gay, bi or bi curious. Strait guys are strait

Depends if they "were" straight - and due to circumstances during play decide they want to embark on exploring their sexuality.

Not everyone is fortunate enough to know their true sexuality early on, so me have to discover themselves as time goes by."

True and there is nothing wrong with experimentation. But I have a preference for strait dominant men. If there profile says strait that’s what I want. not bi curious. It’s not a lot to ask but I don’t understand why men just aren’t honest.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"I am all for live and let live, but your not strait if you play with another man. Some are not honest on there sexuality. That is my issue."

how do you know hun if you have only been on for 2 weeks and show no meets ???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am all for live and let live, but your not strait if you play with another man. Some are not honest on there sexuality. That is my issue.

how do you know hun if you have only been on for 2 weeks and show no meets ???"

Well I like a little privacy as everyone looks to see who has met who. But I don’t need to explain the privacy thing to you as you will understand choosing not to display a picture your self.

I was recommended to join FAB by friends from another site where I have played a little since late last year. I just get frustrated by some supposedly strait men who aren’t honest that is all.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"I am all for live and let live, but your not strait if you play with another man. Some are not honest on there sexuality. That is my issue.

how do you know hun if you have only been on for 2 weeks and show no meets ???

Well I like a little privacy as everyone looks to see who has met who. But I don’t need to explain the privacy thing to you as you will understand choosing not to display a picture your self.

I was recommended to join FAB by friends from another site where I have played a little since late last year. I just get frustrated by some supposedly strait men who aren’t honest that is all.

thats a fair enough answer ...

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

so are you frustrated because you seek straight men or are you seeking bimen as you dont say on your profile ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am all for live and let live, but your not strait if you play with another man. Some are not honest on there sexuality. That is my issue.

how do you know hun if you have only been on for 2 weeks and show no meets ???

Well I like a little privacy as everyone looks to see who has met who. But I don’t need to explain the privacy thing to you as you will understand choosing not to display a picture your self.

I was recommended to join FAB by friends from another site where I have played a little since late last year. I just get frustrated by some supposedly strait men who aren’t honest that is all.

thats a fair enough answer ...

I just get the same on most sites if I am honest. Men think because your submissive they can walk all over you. I am after a specific sort of man. I am a little intolerant at times as I get a lot of cock shot mail from people who don’t read. A bi man is by nature partially submissive and just not what I want. Hopefully that explains things a little.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest Ive enjoyed a bit of wanking and sucking (in the presence of a woman) but being touched anywhere else by a man makes me feel uncomfortable (and if truth be told a bit queasy)

I personally think that sometimes I get a little too caught up in the excitement and loose my mind but Ive only done it a handful of times when Ive felt in the mood.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"I am all for live and let live, but your not strait if you play with another man. Some are not honest on there sexuality. That is my issue.

how do you know hun if you have only been on for 2 weeks and show no meets ???

Well I like a little privacy as everyone looks to see who has met who. But I don’t need to explain the privacy thing to you as you will understand choosing not to display a picture your self.

I was recommended to join FAB by friends from another site where I have played a little since late last year. I just get frustrated by some supposedly strait men who aren’t honest that is all.

thats a fair enough answer ...

hmmm i catch your drift but you cant say a bi male is always sub what about the top guy some of who deliver as a symbol of power and dominance not only over women but over guys too .,..its a strange psycho sexual issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know a few guys who put straight and they say its cuz some women wont meet bi guys,( but they are bi) then some guys say they put bi cuz they get more mail off cpls( and their straight) ....I can look at a certain guys profile from week to week and i can guarantee he changes his status every week from bi to straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lucy is right, there are loads of 'straight' men who are looking for bi guys - I have heard loads of reasons for this - some of which were a hoot!!!

Those who have straight on their profile and happy to meet bi/gay men are desperate and just looking for anything to please them (Straight guys) a wank or a BJ is just as good from a man as it is from a woman.

I'm here for some certain type of bi fun. I have partners for straight fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guys bi after first time if he likes it & continues in what he does .Puresilk I believe you but can't understand as to why this guy states one week straight then next bi hes kidding himself and others how does anyone expect to meet if honesty isn't there ?,Hmmm Anyway never altered my profile yet never had any probs in meeting either sex.I think it lays in your comfort zone of your own sexuality .I also suppose it's like a gay hiding there true self once there out there happy I've never seen a gay guy or girl nor bi guy or girl without a smile upon there face being full of life .;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You made good point there biplus like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lucy is right, there are loads of 'straight' men who are looking for bi guys - I have heard loads of reasons for this - some of which were a hoot!!!

Claiming to be vegetarian and eating bacon. If you like guys as a guy, your gay, bi or bi curious. Strait guys are strait

Oh that's a good one, carnivorous curios, lol

I don't fancy men as such, only the fun one can share. Now women I always look at a pretty one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In regards to pleasuresome I think your comment was it ?,About sub bi guys dominating guys like woman that's a bit of a mind Fxxxk Id say LOL I wouldve said that tipe of guy is more gay than bi.People also say it's best of both worlds being bi at times I'd like to differ as when your in relationship it's fine you stick with the one lover but when your single it's a nightmare .Your right bi guys or girls see two sexes totally same it took me while to get to grips with it .LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im same with both sexes they have to be slim athletic or girls athletic curvy or gracefull LOL .

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Lucy is right, there are loads of 'straight' men who are looking for bi guys - I have heard loads of reasons for this - some of which were a hoot!!!

I'm here for some certain type of bi fun. I have partners for straight fun

Tosh, we happily meet couples with BI guys, no bloody way ones touching me though! why turn down what could be a great meet with a fun couple, thats what ground rules are for... wiggles is BI, but dosn't think every female is Bi just because they meet us...

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I see all men as same as fuggly women, I ain't touching eaither!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi fellas will lie in this scene to maximise their chances.. We've known a few (even part of couples) to have multiple accounts to cover all options.... Sent the straight as a die ones here and as Bi as you dare on another site with the same pictures.

All we ever say is honesty is best.. but not always as forthcoming as you may think..

Some.. tell early on though, so at least you know where you stand.. Sadly not all will!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think that you can really put it down to all bi guys but glad you did say not all LOL.Yeah true as you say though I've wandered myself why guys pro at times proclaim to be straight then bi LOL .Another point I'd like to make is which I read farther above upon the thread at comment another made about oral bi guys I'd say that they were more of curious other than bi myself also yes whatever you've stated your sexuality to be keep it at that as it gets confusing for everyone else looking or recieving mail bi one minute straight next LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok like I know I'm blonde but never heard of fugly or fugilie is it ? LOL whats that ?,An ugly bugger yeah ?;-)

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Ok like I know I'm blonde but never heard of fugly or fugilie is it ? LOL whats that ?,An ugly bugger yeah ?;-)"

fugly is a nice way of saying.....

fucking ugly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When is a guy not strait? There seems to be a lot of bi, orally bi, bi curious or anal givers with other men. But they still say strait."

This is a common problem on sites Lucy. You just have to realise that there are a lot of "any holes a goal" single guys about,many of who would shag a barbers floor because it has hair on it.

Just check out any Bi TV's friends list and look how many "straight" guys are on it,then block them.

That should thin them out a bit.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh !,Alright thx LOL

Again depends which part people come from I think yes theres a lot of fugilie people but what is to one isn't to another .Anyway thx again for explaining LOL .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good idea tracy&ric

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am all for live and let live, but your not strait if you play with another man. Some are not honest on there sexuality. That is my issue.

how do you know hun if you have only been on for 2 weeks and show no meets ???

Well I like a little privacy as everyone looks to see who has met who. But I don’t need to explain the privacy thing to you as you will understand choosing not to display a picture your self.

I was recommended to join FAB by friends from another site where I have played a little since late last year. I just get frustrated by some supposedly strait men who aren’t honest that is all.

thats a fair enough answer ...

It doesn’t matter how you tart it up an guy who performs oral on another guy or who receives anal sex is in all essence submissive in his nature. Your point is interesting though as it does make me curious about your sexuality.

Don’t get me wrong im not looking for a leather clad master, more one that can make me smile but is testosterone filled and who will stretch me mentally as well as physically.

With regard to Kitta 10 he has some what of a point. I am beginning to think there should be a category called Bi occasionally, or mabe ¼ bi or may be group sex bi. I just would like to know so i don't waste my time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am all for live and let live, but your not strait if you play with another man. Some are not honest on there sexuality. That is my issue."

One of the reasons bi-guys hide behind a straight persona is that even in swinging bi-men are still not fully accepted in the way that bi-females are. Nobody bats an eyelid at bi-females yet I've seen first hand the reaction bi-guys get from some couples, and surprisingly it's straight women that react the worst.

Another reason is that some bi-guys are not open about their sexuality outside of swinging and it has been known for non-swinging associates, friends or even family members to discover their profile on sites like these. Maybe they've had a hunch about it, or a tip off, but it has happened, trust me on this, although in my case, the guy spoke to me privately about it and it hasn't become an issue I needed to deal with. It's wise to remember that no matter how much you try and keep a secret it is the nature of a secret to be discovered, it wants to be discovered. How many people do you know, men that is, that lark about watching two girls together yet run screaming from the room if two guys together are mentioned.

It's not black & white and the ramifications are enormous once a person is 'outed' without wishing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"snip....It doesn’t matter how you tart it up an guy who performs oral on another guy or who receives anal sex is in all essence submissive in his nature. ...snip "

Oh so all women should by definition be sub to the male, in life as well as in the fun room?

good luck, have you meet the posse rabble?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesn’t matter how you tart it up an guy who performs oral on another guy or who receives anal sex is in all essence submissive in his nature."

But what if two guys, as part of swinging couples perform oral on each. Both can't be sub. And are bi-women who perform oral on another woman sub?

The idea that two men doing anything together makes them limp wristed is a society imposed concept anyway.

I'm not bi, and not into BDSM, but I wonder if there are parallels. In BDSM isn't it possible for someone to be a Sub one day, and Dom the next, with different partners involved?

So someone who is bi and, if your are right, sub, could still be the dominant male your after.

I don't really know much about either scene, so feel free to punch holes in that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think bi maybe accepted as a whole as woman are it's more individual .Though whats reason you think bi guys are not accepted like bi females

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi,

You've entered the world between worlds, the world of the Dom and the Bi-guy, and with your post here it appears you are a little confused that the two types can co-exist within one personality.

"I just get the same on most sites if I am honest. Men think because your submissive they can walk all over you."

That is not a Dom. Period.

Any man who mistreats a woman because she is a declared submissive is simply abusing her. There is no long & short of it, it is abuse.

The relationship between a Dom and his/her sub is a thin layer that is superimposed over the top of a normal relationship that allows both parties to act out their deepest fantasies. The level of trust required by the sub in his or her Master go way beyond any level of trust you'd find in a normal relationship and if the Dom breaks that trust he/she loases everything, there is no way back from it, it's ended, permanently.

" I am after a specific sort of man. I am a little intolerant at times as I get a lot of cock shot mail from people who don’t read. A bi man is by nature partially submissive and just not what I want. Hopefully that explains things a little. "

In your mind you cannot comprehend that a strong, Dominant man can be bisexual. How do you feel about the Dom/sub relationship between two openly gay men? One receives and the other gives, one is naturally Dominant, the other naturally submissive but both prefer their own sex.

The Dom/sub relationship is just one aspect of a much larger relationship and cannot be made real, ie, 24/7/365. The perception of a Dom guy is what attracts you and if he steers off that path you look at him in a new light, one you may not like, but that puts him under enormous pressure to conform to YOUR ideal of what a Dom guy is - isn't he being submissive by doing so?

Hope that's given you food for thought.

Wishy,

A naturally Dominant bisexual married man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am all for live and let live, but your not strait if you play with another man. Some are not honest on there sexuality. That is my issue.

It's not black & white and the ramifications are enormous once a person is 'outed' without wishing it."

We've always been of the oppinion that if you do something that you'd be embarrassed by,or get grief about if it was known,its best not to do it.

As you said "It is the nature of a secret to be discovered".

Or to look at it another way "Be sure your sin will find you out".

Many people would be very annoyed if they only wanted to meet straight guys and later found out that theyed been decieved,no matter what the excuse.

Revenge takes many forms,one of which could be 'outing'.

Its a Sword Of Damocles hanging over your head,its just prolonging the inevitable in our minds.

Much better to be honest and decide yourself when people find out and deal with it,not have it sprung upon you.

Anyone who gives you grief,wether they call themselves friends,associates or family,aren't worth bothering with.

XXXX

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By *1dKingColeMan
over a year ago

east london

Wow wishy!

Well written!

Actually impressed with that answer, and that does not often happen here! LOL

I agree entirely, it puts many of my thoughts into words.

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When is a guy not strait? There seems to be a lot of bi, orally bi, bi curious or anal givers with other men. But they still say strait.

This is a common problem on sites Lucy. You just have to realise that there are a lot of "any holes a goal" single guys about,many of who would shag a barbers floor because it has hair on it.

Just check out any Bi TV's friends list and look how many "straight" guys are on it,then block them.

That should thin them out a bit.

XXXX"

not any more, they all hide their friends list

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

"Wow wishy!

Well written!

Actually impressed with that answer, and that does not often happen here! LOL

I agree entirely, it puts many of my thoughts into words.

Thanks.

was just going to put the same thing OKC ...one of the best replies on these matters i've read in a long while .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am not asking you to defend your self its just that when I am asked things by men who think they know I feel the need to reply. I don’t mean you so please don’t take it personally as that was far from my intention.

We all have likes and dislikes. I love sensitive masculine men, chest hair, stubble and strong arms to hold me. Sensitivity is a must and so is humour but a guy who submits to another man is a huge turn off to me.

I work in an environment where I have to make decisions but in my private life I want an older guy to take control. If men were more honest about there sexuality I would be less frustrated going through messages.

I do find it interesting that you don’t declare your bisexuality on your profile though. Not having a go so please don’t take it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking purely from experience with someone who really did decieve us.. and caused us major worries as a result we'd rather people were honest and upfront but were also realistic in knowing why some choose to shall we say mask things.. being Bi isn't the big issue.. Honesty is!

If people were honest others can make informed choices.. In our case, we got close to a couple, really did regard them as friends.. we shared much more than just sex..

Then out of the blue we find things out.. We find he's playing dangerously.. meeting guys one on one for sex.. as well as alone without his wifes knowledge doing everything and without protection of any kind..

Made us open our eyes i'll tell you..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ohhhhh come on its obvious somewhere in their history experiences or mental images have made them want to try/re-visit anal, suck cock or whatever...

The fact is its good fun, blokes haven't had the best 'o' of their lives until they have cum with their prostate being rubbed end of story. Its just a fear of admitting it, thats all.

But to say its gay.. no, its bi... nothing wrong with it and a world away from being gay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've always been of the oppinion that if you do something that you'd be embarrassed by,or get grief about if it was known,its best not to do it."

So by that reasoning a person must abandon their desires, hopes and needs if someone else might not be entirely happy about it?

"As you said "It is the nature of a secret to be discovered".

Or to look at it another way "Be sure your sin will find you out"."

That last sentence, even though it is a well known quote, goes a long way to perpetuating the idealogy that society expects each man and woman to walk the accepted path from the cradle to the grave and if you veer off it you are a sinner. Religion ought to hang it's ugly head in shame for that one.

"Many people would be very annoyed if they only wanted to meet straight guys and later found out that theyed been decieved,no matter what the excuse."

If four straight people get together and play and it never becomes known that one of them was bisexual then who has been 'wronged'. If no same-sex contact was made during the course of the evening's activities then it's clear that bisexual people can respect a straight person's preferences and leave them alone. The ones who complain about not knowing about a playmate's sexuality is one who is a little insecure, in my opinion. Confident people don't have these issues. Those are the types I naturally gravitate towards and over the years I've learned to tell the difference very, very quickly.

"Revenge takes many forms,one of which could be 'outing'.

Its a Sword Of Damocles hanging over your head,its just prolonging the inevitable in our minds.

Much better to be honest and decide yourself when people find out and deal with it,not have it sprung upon you.

Anyone who gives you grief,wether they call themselves friends,associates or family,aren't worth bothering with.

XXXX"

I don't know if you recall the gay magazine from a few years back called 'OUT' whereby the producers systematically set out to 'out' famous homosexual men. The right to privacy of those celebrities was mercilessly put to the sword in the name of gay rights and I found the whole thing left an extremely bileous taste in my mouth. If a gay or bi person is comfortable with the whole world knowing about his or her sexuality then that's fine, but equally, those that prefer to keep their sexuality - and thus their bedrooms escapades - private, then that should be respected too. Nobody has a 'right' to know if someone else is gay or not.

I understand what you're saying about the Sword of Damocles, but to give in to it would be to prostrate oneself upon the execution block of persecution and say "Go on then, hurt me."

I'll hide my sexuality for as long as I have to. I'm open about it on here but I refuse to put it on our profile whereby anyone can stumble across it. At least on here they'd have to do some searching to find it - if that's what they've come looking for that is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well nothing wrong with that. I am just a little frustrated that guys contact me and are not always what they claim.

I have the same issues as you on public disclosure its fair on any ones individual rites. I am wondering if i can put a remark on my profile saying no bi males. Would that be classed as offensive? I know people say no males or couples on some but i am really looking to avoid offending.

I hope I haven’t offended as it is not my intention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ohhhhh come on its obvious somewhere in their history experiences or mental images have made them want to try/re-visit anal, suck cock or whatever...

The fact is its good fun, blokes haven't had the best 'o' of their lives until they have cum with their prostate being rubbed end of story. Its just a fear of admitting it, thats all.

But to say its gay.. no, its bi... nothing wrong with it and a world away from being gay.

And a woman can't do all of the above lol..???

Trust me, she can and I'm not in the slightest bit Bi..

Bi, Gay or whatever to me is having an attraction to the same sex.. not just a physical act with one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well nothing wrong with that. I am just a little frustrated that guys contact me and are not always what they claim.

I hope I haven’t offended as it is not my intention.

Of course you can put No Bi Males...

Its if they tell you they are it gets tricky lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats when if you meet up with that person or cuppel you find out there peferencs it seams to me like people dont know who they are any more so if you meet with a bicuppel and your st8 you know what will happen same as when the girls bi and the guys st8 but each to there own and enjoy the moment nobody has to know apart from parties invoved so can keep there littel secrett sos about my typos but think you get my point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not asking you to defend your self its just that when I am asked things by men who think they know I feel the need to reply. I don’t mean you so please don’t take it personally as that was far from my intention.

I do find it interesting that you don’t declare your bisexuality on your profile though. Not having a go so please don’t take it that way.

It's ok Lucy, I acquired a thick skin many moons ago lol.

I think I understand what you're trying to say, and it's quite simple.

You prefer a strong, Dominant, straight man. We all build up a mental picture of that one person that really floats our boat, sets our pulse racing, presses all the buttons and any other cliche you can think of.

For you, its a straight, strong guy. From the description you've given above, probably a Tom Selleck lookalike

p.s. Read a few posts above about why I hide it on my profile.

p.p.s. Get used to bulls**t messages from men on these sites, you will always receive them, daily, by the sackful. The trick is to learn how to sift through them quickly. The first line usually tells you all you need to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've always been of the oppinion that if you do something that you'd be embarrassed by,or get grief about if it was known,its best not to do it.

So by that reasoning a person must abandon their desires, hopes and needs if someone else might not be entirely happy about it?

As you said "It is the nature of a secret to be discovered".

Or to look at it another way "Be sure your sin will find you out".

Many people would be very annoyed if they only wanted to meet straight guys and later found out that theyed been decieved,no matter what the excuse.

Revenge takes many forms,one of which could be 'outing'.

Its a Sword Of Damocles hanging over your head,its just prolonging the inevitable in our minds.

Much better to be honest and decide yourself when people find out and deal with it,not have it sprung upon you.

Anyone who gives you grief,wether they call themselves friends,associates or family,aren't worth bothering with.

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I understand what you're saying about the Sword of Damocles, but to give in to it would be to prostrate oneself upon the execution block of persecution and say "Go on then, hurt me."

what could be possibly said to follow that....great stuff hun. can you be my prof in educating rita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im straight ! well i think iam errrm ...yep i am

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well thanks for all the advice, i have redone my profile after taking points on board.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im straight ! well i think iam errrm ...yep i am

u sure lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi, Gay or whatever to me is having an attraction to the same sex.. not just a physical act with one..

Oh well that's me straight then, don't fancy men at all, only the physical act as part of the fun....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you might like the dominant alpa male but there are careing and sensative guys like me who can treat women rite and as for being st8 you dont knock it till you try it and if you dont like it know noe has to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well thanks for all the advice, i have redone my profile after taking points on board."

Good for you, never be too stuck to change or learn, good luck in your search

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

ok lets try not to offend people please with your descriptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wheres me post gone ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the mods pob got rid ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and why are the newest messages at the bottom ot page why cant it be from top down grrrrrrrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and why are the newest messages at the bottom ot page why cant it be from top down grrrrrrrrrrr"

hey ur right there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is a pain when you see oldest ones first new ones last whats that all bout slighly going on a tangent here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

errr so you read all posts LOL besides you don't need to that's why it says at top go to newest thread click simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"errr so you read all posts LOL besides you don't need to that's why it says at top go to newest thread click simples

lol oh yeah it does doesnt it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why dont we have a back to the top button for when we've finished or should I ask that else where

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On your keyboard between the letters and the number grid on the far right are several other keys. 'Home' will take you to the top of a web page and 'End' will take you to the bottom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On your keyboard between the letters and the number grid on the far right are several other keys. 'Home' will take you to the top of a web page and 'End' will take you to the bottom."

oh god wow lol u learn something new every day thank u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On your keyboard between the letters and the number grid on the far right are several other keys. 'Home' will take you to the top of a web page and 'End' will take you to the bottom."
thanks for that been getting frustrated with the back button that sure makes it easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL so can't believe you didn't know about those buttons hehe

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Lately, the whole "bi-males" thing has become a hot topic here in sth wales, because our local swingers club, which is open to gay males thru the week, and swingers on a Fri and Sat nights, has now decided to open up to bi males on a Sat night too. Personally, I didnt see it as a problem, as I assumed some bi males would be there anyway. However, some of the guys that regularly attend, either singly or as part of a cpl, are a bit twitchy about it.

Having had a bi male "come on" to me in at a swingers party, I know how I react in this situation, even tho he was determined that I should "give it a go", and it took a firm but polite "fuck off" before he decided I really didnt want him to suck my knob lol! Its not that the guys are worried about being molested as such, after all, no still means no, but the fact that they might go into an open room such as the cpls room and find two guys playing, that puts most of them off. I share the same sentiments, as while seeing two ladies playing is a huge turn-on, seeing two guys would put me right off my stroke lol! That may be "double standards", but I cant help how I feel. I certainly would feel uncomfortable if, during play, a guy next to me decided to touch me intimately.

I guess, like most things in life, "you pays your money, you takes your chances", so I will continue to go, and deal with any unwanted interest in a polite but firm manner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend of mine once played in a foursome where both girls were bi but both men were straight. As things progressed they all got pretty much ready to explode and when my friend came his spunk happened to hit the other guy's leg.

No big deal, I hear you say.

Well, to the other guy it was, coz he hopped around the room like he'd been hit with toxic waste yelling, "It's on me leg! It's on me leg!"

Some 'men' are pathetic little wimps lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"LOL so can't believe you didn't know about those buttons hehe

why cant u believe it..im 2 busy fiddling with other erm buttons aka keys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A friend of mine once played in a foursome where both girls were bi but both men were straight. As things progressed they all got pretty much ready to explode and when my friend came his spunk happened to hit the other guy's leg.

No big deal, I hear you say.

Well, to the other guy it was, coz he hopped around the room like he'd been hit with toxic waste yelling, "It's on me leg! It's on me leg!"

Some 'men' are pathetic little wimps lol

haha i bet he luved it really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sthwalescuple that seems to be more a gay thing other than bi gay guys are more insistant bi guys are more laid back approach .Yes no means no bud

good your opening club to bi aswell though LOL tgc your end .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lmao well they shouldve thought twice about foursome then eh LOL .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah right ok LOL we believe you pussygalore when you say you were fiddling but with keys no sorry button maybe yes LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeah right ok LOL we believe you pussygalore when you say you were fiddling but with keys no sorry button maybe yes LOL

lol i thought it was keys on a keyboard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lmao

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