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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I'm here to meet women but I'm struggling to actually know what it is their really looking for? I'll click on their page and read it, see that I fit the shoes. Message them with attatched face pictures. But nothing, no response. I'm just struggling to get my head around this site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps a man who sees them as individuals, not a homogenous blob of available pussy?

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Most women want a fun, exciting and interesting man, who isn't immediately sexual/desperate.

Basically, disconnect your testes before logging in to this site, and you'll do better.

Never treat a woman sexually until she gives hints for you to go ahead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps a man who sees them as individuals, not a homogenous blob of available pussy?"

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is 'What does a woman want?'"

~ Sigmund Freud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something that you can't actually put your finger on ! Pardon the pun ! .... Something in the message the way you look ...... Hang in there , most need to have a little extra rather than a cock on legs , sometime you click sometimes you don't

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When I tell you I've tried every possible way of approach and it don't work. I try to take things off there profile so it shows that I've read it. Nothing. I see if we have anything mutual that we're both interested in. Nope nothing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, are you asking for profile advice?

-Courtney

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

You may fit the criteria but they don't fancy you and/or something in your profile or message puts them off.

That you blame the women for your lack of success may well be the first clue in the case of why you aren't knee deep in fanny by now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"OP, are you asking for profile advice?

-Courtney "

Nah, it's the women, not him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you have a good veri from 3 weeks ago, replicate what you did there?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perhaps a man who sees them as individuals, not a homogenous blob of available pussy?"

Who does that anyway? I treat anyone how I'd want to be treated! With respect, we're all here for different reasons. So I don't judge a book by its cover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why you wont release your name without getting to 'trust' someone. It is just another hurdle to overcome and given that females have their choice of meets on here, it is unwise.

Likewise with photos. I have a professional job, as do many on this site. On the whole, Females and couples are going to pick guys with freely available photos rather than those where they have to ask to see them.

As regards what women want, it varies. But as a general rule, due to the sheer volume of messages females get, most if not all guys have to do the chasing. So be prepared to send messages and put some work in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Ahhh women. They make the highs higher and the lows so much lower...'

Nietzsche

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, are you asking for profile advice?

-Courtney "

I'm asking for all kinds of advice Courtney.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Perhaps a man who sees them as individuals, not a homogenous blob of available pussy?"

Very deftly put!

The clue is in the OP asking what women are looking for in general which is exactly where he's going wrong.

Speak to the person, not the group.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm here to meet women but I'm struggling to actually know what it is their really looking for? I'll click on their page and read it, see that I fit the shoes. Message them with attatched face pictures. But nothing, no response. I'm just struggling to get my head around this site!

"

Not saying u don't OP, but see women as human beings who you would like to know on a personal level, as people, not as dots on a screen or as sexual satisfiers..make friendships and delve into the wonderful world of yin..sex comes later..maybe..dont see the site as a source of instant sexual gratification..its not..just be real. Good luck. It will happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm here to meet women but I'm struggling to actually know what it is their really looking for? I'll click on their page and read it, see that I fit the shoes. Message them with attatched face pictures. But nothing, no response. I'm just struggling to get my head around this site!

"

You don't accommodate. Why?

You have in profile. You like to be pleasured. But don't mention pleasing the woman

Your too young for us. But I would be questioning these 2 things

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"'Ahhh women. They make the highs higher and the lows so much lower...'

Nietzsche"

"No woman, no cry"

~ Bob Marley :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm here to meet women but I'm struggling to actually know what it is their really looking for? I'll click on their page and read it, see that I fit the shoes. Message them with attatched face pictures. But nothing, no response. I'm just struggling to get my head around this site!

"

i don't want much at all just a good looking friendly guy with great sense of humor is very discerning not desperate for any hole who while i'm with him, treats me like a goddess in the sack,does great massages and makes great tea

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

The fact that you can't accommodate.....ladies might presume you are married or attached. Many not keen on that.

The fact you are fairly young.

The fact you prefer to be pleasured!

Maybe the wording of your messages might put people off.

Just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, are you asking for profile advice?

-Courtney

I'm asking for all kinds of advice Courtney. "

OK, well you start off your profile with a negative. With something you won't do. That isn't great.

You have a professional job. Good for you. So do most people here. We can still have non-identifying pictures up that give prospective meets an idea of what our bodies look like. I suggest you rethink that.

Do you really expect single women to put a certain text in the header of a message they send to you? It makes you seem a bit arrogant. I'm not a fan of the subject text thing in any case.

The fact that you need women to be able to accommodate will be a problem for you. If I were on this site alone there is no way in hell I'd accommodate.

You need to look through profiles, only contact people that are looking for you, be nice, and be approachable. Even then, women get plenty of messages and most get deleted. And if you're sending pictures via PM, then it could just be an attraction issue. For example, men message me who are very attractive, but I can be picky about facial hair, etc., so even if they are attractive to someone, it won't be everyone.

I don't know if that helps, but if not you can also do a forum search on this issue and see what you get.

Good luck.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many psychologists on this site lol. Only joking. Iv sent over 200 messages I know im not all that but I dont care an all iv got bk was a smiley face but its a start perseverance is the key I think lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm here to meet women but I'm struggling to actually know what it is their really looking for? I'll click on their page and read it, see that I fit the shoes. Message them with attatched face pictures. But nothing, no response. I'm just struggling to get my head around this site!

You don't accommodate. Why?

You have in profile. You like to be pleasured. But don't mention pleasing the woman

Your too young for us. But I would be questioning these 2 things"

Whilst I acknowledge that there the general thought process is that if you don't accommodate you must be married, do people not factor in peoples age into this equation.

We are living in a society where it is far more common for people to remain living with parents right through their twenties without it necessarily be seen as odd.

I would have thought that peoples skepticism towards those who don't accommodate would be reduced the younger the person is.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

You're talking about "women" as a whole as if they all, collectively, want one and the same thing and that one thing is different to "all these things you've tried".

But women are all individual people.

Just because you sent messages to some women and they didn't get back to, that does not equal "that would not work on any other woman".

Your general attitude appears to be kind of lazy.

Be patient. Not every woman will fancy you. In fact, very few will, just by law of numbers.

For me, personally, it's all in the opening message, so I'm happy to have a look at a message you'd send me and give you some pointers.

But again, it'll only apply to what *I* like, which gives no indication to what anyone else might like.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Perhaps a man who sees them as individuals, not a homogenous blob of available pussy?

Who does that anyway? I treat anyone how I'd want to be treated! With respect, we're all here for different reasons. So I don't judge a book by its cover. "

Trust me there are men and couples on here who think that because I'm a single woman that I'm some sexual puppet who thinks like talking to me like I'm a piece of meat is going to get them everywhere

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Whilst I acknowledge that there the general thought process is that if you don't accommodate you must be married, do people not factor in peoples age into this equation.

We are living in a society where it is far more common for people to remain living with parents right through their twenties without it necessarily be seen as odd.

I would have thought that peoples skepticism towards those who don't accommodate would be reduced the younger the person is. "

I actually don't infer anything from when men "can't accommodate" other than "Aw, we won't have anywhere to go fuck " lol

But then I have no morals. Lol

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"OP, are you asking for profile advice?

-Courtney

I'm asking for all kinds of advice Courtney. "

Mate! First things first, delete your status! That automatically gets you ignored.

Women are very much outnumbered on here and they can be quite difficult at times, but it's only as hard as you think it is!

You could do with having an understanding of women's psychology and marketing for women. You'll see that women look for different qualities than men do. There are certain things which you should do, and certain things which you should avoid.

PM me and I'll explain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel your pain mate, I'm quite a good looking lad, intelligent, never crude, can hold a conversation yet I also struggle for replies?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, are you asking for profile advice?

-Courtney

I'm asking for all kinds of advice Courtney.

Mate! First things first, delete your status! That automatically gets you ignored.

Women are very much outnumbered on here and they can be quite difficult at times, but it's only as hard as you think it is!

You could do with having an understanding of women's psychology and marketing for women. You'll see that women look for different qualities than men do. There are certain things which you should do, and certain things which you should avoid.

PM me and I'll explain."

Yes, getting rid of the status would be a good start.

-Courtney

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By *lutmeup500Woman
over a year ago

London

Hugh Grant

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"OP, are you asking for profile advice?

-Courtney

I'm asking for all kinds of advice Courtney.

Mate! First things first, delete your status! That automatically gets you ignored.

Women are very much outnumbered on here and they can be quite difficult at times, but it's only as hard as you think it is!

You could do with having an understanding of women's psychology and marketing for women. You'll see that women look for different qualities than men do. There are certain things which you should do, and certain things which you should avoid.

PM me and I'll explain."

Difficult?

Needing to fancy someone and feel like a person is "difficult"?

The cheek of us women!

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Perhaps a man who sees them as individuals, not a homogenous blob of available pussy?

Who does that anyway? I treat anyone how I'd want to be treated! With respect, we're all here for different reasons. So I don't judge a book by its cover.

Trust me there are men and couples on here who think that because I'm a single woman that I'm some sexual puppet who thinks like talking to me like I'm a piece of meat is going to get them everywhere "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact that you can't accommodate.....ladies might presume you are married or attached. Many not keen on that.

Neither do you accom. Are you married/attached

The fact you are fairly young.

The fact you prefer to be pleasured!

Maybe the wording of your messages might put people off.

Just my opinion "

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"OP, are you asking for profile advice?

-Courtney

I'm asking for all kinds of advice Courtney.

Mate! First things first, delete your status! That automatically gets you ignored.

Women are very much outnumbered on here and they can be quite difficult at times, but it's only as hard as you think it is!

You could do with having an understanding of women's psychology and marketing for women. You'll see that women look for different qualities than men do. There are certain things which you should do, and certain things which you should avoid.

PM me and I'll explain.

Difficult?

Needing to fancy someone and feel like a person is "difficult"?

The cheek of us women! "

Ohhhh shush you!

Men are difficult too.

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By *ittenandthepirateCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm always suspicious of overly graphic veris from single girls with a hidden profile. Oh this site has made me so cynical R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't got a clue I'll get back to you on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A man is easy going, and not too hard to please,

A woman, bless her little heart, wants everything she sees.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Magic 8 ball always knows what they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think! Think about what you're trying to do to me..

R.E.S.P.E.C.T

(is due, to the great Aretha)

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By *igzag1Man
over a year ago

hartlepool

A million pound and a big house in the country

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm here to meet women but I'm struggling to actually know what it is their really looking for? I'll click on their page and read it, see that I fit the shoes. Message them with attatched face pictures. But nothing, no response. I'm just struggling to get my head around this site!

"

Women actually don't know what they want and if they don. Chances are they will change their mind about it .

My advice is behave like your self and stop worrying or caring what women want

In fact think of all the things that make sense for you to do to attract a woman and do the opposite

Generally as a rule you can do the following to maximise your chances

Clean toilet

Toilet roll

Soap

Clean sink and towel

Clean sheets in the bed

Wash your self every bit 3 times and wear clean clothes . Clean your teeth buy and use deodorant

Don't get d*unk . Quit smoking

The rest is anyone's guess including women but I would say do the exact opposite of what you think will work .

And remember out of 10 women

3 will have pmt

1 is a lezzer

2 are having a bad day

3 are just not interested

As unlike men women usually have kids work animals and a whole shit load of stuff to worry about , so generally unless you get them at the right time , there's no point bothering and just move to the next one

As a bloke you may think after divorce life is shit the etc . But there are loads of women out there who will think your great it's just a matter of not wasting time on those women who don't feel the same back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm here to meet women but I'm struggling to actually know what it is their really looking for? I'll click on their page and read it, see that I fit the shoes. Message them with attatched face pictures. But nothing, no response. I'm just struggling to get my head around this site!

"

Going by previous relationships..the moon on a fucking stick..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It takes time and effort and patience and self confidence and resilience and emotional intelligence and a big cock....not really the last one. A sense of humour helps, I've found.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't speak for every woman but for me, a vulgar status is an instant pass.

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By *igzag1Man
over a year ago

hartlepool

Tom hardy as there milkman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cup of tea and a slice of cake of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*shrugs*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What they can never have.. To be a man in a man's world..."they're lost..in the wilderness.. "

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby

Captain mannering (arthur lowe) out of dads army had The ladies lineing up for Dates..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

op, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it, its like shooting fish in a barrel for women on here, you might get lucky one day, lol, some women think they are soon popular the ratio makes it that way, one would think, on a normal night out, be it a bar or club, they would need a few bodyguards to keep the men back,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"op, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it, its like shooting fish in a barrel for women on here, you might get lucky one day, lol, some women think they are soon popular the ratio makes it that way, one would think, on a normal night out, be it a bar or club, they would need a few bodyguards to keep the men back, "

Ever seen kiddy in a sweet shop. They go I want that sweet , no now I want that sweet , then how about that sweet . Whatever sweet is chosen they always regret it and wanted a different one

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"op, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it, its like shooting fish in a barrel for women on here, you might get lucky one day, lol, some women think they are soon popular the ratio makes it that way, one would think, on a normal night out, be it a bar or club, they would need a few bodyguards to keep the men back,

Ever seen kiddy in a sweet shop. They go I want that sweet , no now I want that sweet , then how about that sweet . Whatever sweet is chosen they always regret it and wanted a different one "

Yes!! Everything is relative to supply. Relative to whats available. That's also a factor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is a minefield! Who knows lol. What pleases some won't please others, be yourself . Best advice for single don't rely on this site to find your fun . Plenty of other sites or you can try the old fashioned way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most women want a fun, exciting and interesting man, who isn't immediately sexual/desperate.

Basically, disconnect your testes before logging in to this site, and you'll do better.

Never treat a woman sexually until she gives hints for you to go ahead."

Couldn't have put it better myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"op, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it, its like shooting fish in a barrel for women on here, you might get lucky one day, lol, some women think they are soon popular the ratio makes it that way, one would think, on a normal night out, be it a bar or club, they would need a few bodyguards to keep the men back, "
very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dear OP.. don't rely on the net. Get out and meet people face to face. It's very hard to put yourself across online. Single guys are lost in a sea of single guys. Get out and meet people, it's the easiest way. Cheers Bud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's impossible to quantify what women want, because once they've got it, they don't want it.

I'm going to move to the outer Isles now.

All a joke you lovely ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"op, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it, its like shooting fish in a barrel for women on here, you might get lucky one day, lol, some women think they are soon popular the ratio makes it that way, one would think, on a normal night out, be it a bar or club, they would need a few bodyguards to keep the men back,

Ever seen kiddy in a sweet shop. They go I want that sweet , no now I want that sweet , then how about that sweet . Whatever sweet is chosen they always regret it and wanted a different one

Yes!! Everything is relative to supply. Relative to whats available. That's also a factor."

If the sweet I like is out of stock I wait until they restock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dear OP.. don't rely on the net. Get out and meet people face to face. It's very hard to put yourself across online. Single guys are lost in a sea of single guys. Get out and meet people, it's the easiest way. Cheers Bud"

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Just because you think you match what my profile says, doesn't mean you match what I am actually looking for.

My profile gives a brief run down of me. There are many things that tick a box for me, and that changes every day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A man is easy going, and not too hard to please,

A woman, bless her little heart, wants everything she sees.

"

I was going to put something similar to this. but if i had I'd have been labelled as a bitter & twisted single guy, who only moans because all the women on the site don't wanna shag me

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By *uperock99Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Women want different things all the time, depends on their mood of the day and what takes their fancy just like men do

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"So I'm here to meet women but I'm struggling to actually know what it is their really looking for? I'll click on their page and read it, see that I fit the shoes. Message them with attatched face pictures. But nothing, no response. I'm just struggling to get my head around this site!

"

They want you to say yes and when you say yes, they mean no.

They want you to say no and when you say no, they mean yes.

They want to go up and when you go up, they mean down.

They want to go down and when you go down, they mean up.

But sometimes they want yes and want you to say yes and they mean yes. And sometimes they want no and want you to say no and they mean no.

Sometimes they want up and mean up and you should go up. Sometimes they want down and mean down and you should go down.

And sometimes they don't know what they want and sometimes none of the above applies!

They just want you to understand and expect that you understand (though sometimes they don't want you to understand and expect you to understand and/or/maybe don't understand).

It's really simple! That's what women want!

And if you don't understand this, then you must be a man!

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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Arnt men n women after one thing on this site, its not exactly a dating site is it , just saying please correct me if im wrong tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Arnt men n women after one thing on this site, its not exactly a dating site is it , just saying please correct me if im wrong tho "

Yes in generic terms they are after one thing, but in terms of what that one thing entails, who it is with etc, that differs significantly amongst the members

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"op, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it, its like shooting fish in a barrel for women on here, you might get lucky one day, lol, some women think they are soon popular the ratio makes it that way, one would think, on a normal night out, be it a bar or club, they would need a few bodyguards to keep the men back,

Ever seen kiddy in a sweet shop. They go I want that sweet , no now I want that sweet , then how about that sweet . Whatever sweet is chosen they always regret it and wanted a different one

Yes!! Everything is relative to supply. Relative to whats available. That's also a factor.

If the sweet I like is out of stock I wait until they restock."

Most women are the same. Very high standards. Men would be the same if the ratios were reversed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say to chat mostly lol.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"So I'm here to meet women but I'm struggling to actually know what it is their really looking for? I'll click on their page and read it, see that I fit the shoes. Message them with attatched face pictures. But nothing, no response. I'm just struggling to get my head around this site!

They want you to say yes and when you say yes, they mean no.

They want you to say no and when you say no, they mean yes.

They want to go up and when you go up, they mean down.

They want to go down and when you go down, they mean up.

But sometimes they want yes and want you to say yes and they mean yes. And sometimes they want no and want you to say no and they mean no.

Sometimes they want up and mean up and you should go up. Sometimes they want down and mean down and you should go down.

And sometimes they don't know what they want and sometimes none of the above applies!

They just want you to understand and expect that you understand (though sometimes they don't want you to understand and expect you to understand and/or/maybe don't understand).

It's really simple! That's what women want!

And if you don't understand this, then you must be a man! "

And sometimes they want people to stop using harmful gender stereotypes that don't help anyone!

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"So I'm here to meet women but I'm struggling to actually know what it is their really looking for? I'll click on their page and read it, see that I fit the shoes. Message them with attatched face pictures. But nothing, no response. I'm just struggling to get my head around this site!

They want you to say yes and when you say yes, they mean no.

They want you to say no and when you say no, they mean yes.

They want to go up and when you go up, they mean down.

They want to go down and when you go down, they mean up.

But sometimes they want yes and want you to say yes and they mean yes. And sometimes they want no and want you to say no and they mean no.

Sometimes they want up and mean up and you should go up. Sometimes they want down and mean down and you should go down.

And sometimes they don't know what they want and sometimes none of the above applies!

They just want you to understand and expect that you understand (though sometimes they don't want you to understand and expect you to understand and/or/maybe don't understand).

It's really simple! That's what women want!

And if you don't understand this, then you must be a man!

And sometimes they want people to stop using harmful gender stereotypes that don't help anyone! "

Didn't realise it was that harmful other than some light hearted banter. Surely that was evident!

Let's not get into a conversation about stereotypes, as it usually results in the discovery of sanctimonious hypocrites.

But if it did harm, then you have my sincere apologies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm here to meet women but I'm struggling to actually know what it is their really looking for? I'll click on their page and read it, see that I fit the shoes. Message them with attatched face pictures. But nothing, no response. I'm just struggling to get my head around this site!

"

Most are looking to chat - probably because they are lonely - nowt wrong with that but don't expect to meet any anytime soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just got blocked for sending a face pic that was requested. I ain't pig ugly, I don't think. No reply or anything, just a straight block, my first and it hurts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most women want a fun, exciting and interesting man, who isn't immediately sexual/desperate.

Basically, disconnect your testes before logging in to this site, and you'll do better.

Never treat a woman sexually until she gives hints for you to go ahead."

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"OP, are you asking for profile advice?

-Courtney

I'm asking for all kinds of advice Courtney.

Mate! First things first, delete your status! That automatically gets you ignored.

Women are very much outnumbered on here and they can be quite difficult at times, but it's only as hard as you think it is!

You could do with having an understanding of women's psychology and marketing for women. You'll see that women look for different qualities than men do. There are certain things which you should do, and certain things which you should avoid.

PM me and I'll explain."

He knows too much about what women want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst I acknowledge that there the general thought process is that if you don't accommodate you must be married, do people not factor in peoples age into this equation.

We are living in a society where it is far more common for people to remain living with parents right through their twenties without it necessarily be seen as odd.

I would have thought that peoples skepticism towards those who don't accommodate would be reduced the younger the person is.

I actually don't infer anything from when men "can't accommodate" other than "Aw, we won't have anywhere to go fuck " lol

But then I have no morals. Lol "

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I just got blocked for sending a face pic that was requested. I ain't pig ugly, I don't think. No reply or anything, just a straight block, my first and it hurts!"

No reply means no thanks. Block means you can't hassle them about it.

And even if you wouldn't do that there are plenty that do. Or they come back 6 months later thinking we'll have forgotten

Don't take it personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did anyone work it out yet?

Care to do a TLDR for me?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Did anyone work it out yet?

Care to do a TLDR for me?"

Women want stuff but no one knows what.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did anyone work it out yet?

Care to do a TLDR for me?

Women want stuff but no one knows what."

I want ice cream

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did anyone work it out yet?

Care to do a TLDR for me?

Women want stuff but no one knows what."

Well there's a fucking surprise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did anyone work it out yet?

Care to do a TLDR for me?

Women want stuff but no one knows what.

I want ice cream

-Courtney "

While you poop?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Did anyone work it out yet?

Care to do a TLDR for me?

Women want stuff but no one knows what.

I want ice cream

-Courtney "

I want sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a woman wants might not be what a woman needs. Sometimes the more you look into someone, you realise the less you want to know then.

As for your profile OP... everyone has said what needed to be said so try and take that into account.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did anyone work it out yet?

Care to do a TLDR for me?

Women want stuff but no one knows what.

I want ice cream

-Courtney

While you poop?"

Meh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps a man who sees them as individuals, not a homogenous blob of available pussy?"

How horrifying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm here to meet women but I'm struggling to actually know what it is their really looking for? I'll click on their page and read it, see that I fit the shoes. Message them with attatched face pictures. But nothing, no response. I'm just struggling to get my head around this site!

"

hey I don't know how old you are but women don't know what they want themselves even if they say they do ,so you're never going to know ,this place is mainly about women playing around with you as a guy and because theirs so few of them you will allow them to treat you how they want to ,your success here will be measured by your ability to manage the women that allow you in

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage


"So I'm here to meet women but I'm struggling to actually know what it is their really looking for? I'll click on their page and read it, see that I fit the shoes. Message them with attatched face pictures. But nothing, no response. I'm just struggling to get my head around this site!

"

I want whats written on my profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is everyone calling me OP? I'm so confused lol

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Why is everyone calling me OP? I'm so confused lol"

It's stands for Original Post/Poster

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick


"Why is everyone calling me OP? I'm so confused lol"

Original poster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I tell you I've tried every possible way of approach and it don't work. I try to take things off there profile so it shows that I've read it. Nothing. I see if we have anything mutual that we're both interested in. Nope nothing! "

Sounds like your trying 2 hard, Chill and remember : All good things cum to those who wait. Patience......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I feel like a right dick now

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By *lutmeup500Woman
over a year ago

London

Rose wine

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Rose wine"

Ah you know Lizzie then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Puppies, tea, biscuits, tea, orange smarties (not the other ones), avocado on toast, more sleep, tea, massage,knitting, tea.

Just an insight into my mind this morning.

You're welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women do exactly as it says on the tin "not" plain fact of the matter is they erratic over thinkers ,if it were just a simple case of oh my knickers are round my ankles what shall we do ,men would have nothing to do but fuck all day like the rabbits they are and post veris (notches) unfortunately theirs work involved knuckle down to the task these women love sex but love the chase and don't forget they are spoilt brats to ,so much choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a woman wants might not be what a woman needs. Sometimes the more you look into someone, you realise the less you want to know then.

As for your profile OP... everyone has said what needed to be said so try and take that into account. "

Totally incorrect it's

What a woman wants is not what a woman craves for deep down even though she knows it's totally wrong and totally not sensible

Even to the point of her denying she is like that and it's not what she is normally like

You can chase a cat round your neighbour hood . Keep staring at it calling it over and it will avoid you as your obviously a crazy man

So you Ignore it . When it comes to you you give me it a bit of attention and push it away and the cat will keep coming back

However dogs need you to give them attention they love being looked at and called over and followed around

I think the common mistake men make is saying what they think the woman wAnts to hear by listening to what they say and then giving examples of times they did that or didn't do that . Where as women usually like to hear their own voice and whilst they are talking your not messing it up .

The biggest mistake is when a man says or does something stupid which i do a lot . And then back tracking saying they didn't mean it apologising etc

Of course it's natural to upset people in every day life . We do it at work , when we are in a shop everyone thinks they have a right to be treated fairly , etc etc and this doesn't happen , but how you as a man handles that rejection is important if a man get angry screaming and shouting it's embarrassing for the woman

And woman it's the same . We all know the name calling troll screaming and shouting at the top of their voice .

How a woman handles rejection is just as important as how a man does . Either sex that has good relationships with exes and is still friends , allows child contact , is a better bet than a man or woman that goes mental when rejected

So add to my previous things women look for

Ability to handle rejection

Ability to make a decision

Ability to make a statement and stick by it

Being able to put the childish ways behind you, most women have children , they don't need another one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps a man who sees them as individuals, not a homogenous blob of available pussy?"

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By *orders2forUCouple
over a year ago

Hawick

Frankly not read the thread but your profile reads as bossy and domineering. Most women will instantly find that a turn off.

You need to take on board that in the scene the women have the power and the men had better rapidly tune into that. I assume this has been said already yet your profile does not reflect it. So you will continue to wallow in failure.

L2

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I just got blocked for sending a face pic that was requested. I ain't pig ugly, I don't think. No reply or anything, just a straight block, my first and it hurts!"

Whether you are pig ugly or not, they don't fancy you. Just blocking is harsh but given how some men react to rejection, I can see why some do that.

Saying you aren't their type is not the same as saying you're ugly.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Again, as usual for these threads, there's so much hatred and bitterness towards women

Some men clearly have no respect for women and some actually seem to actively dislike us, yet they're still here trying to fuck us.

It's screwed up beyond belief.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just got blocked for sending a face pic that was requested. I ain't pig ugly, I don't think. No reply or anything, just a straight block, my first and it hurts!

Whether you are pig ugly or not, they don't fancy you. Just blocking is harsh but given how some men react to rejection, I can see why some do that.

Saying you aren't their type is not the same as saying you're ugly."

Ability to handle rejection is a very attractive quality .

Men and women who handle rejection by getting abusive are to be avoided

Men and women who just ignore and block etc are better if to be avoided

In both cases it's better to find out on first messages they have personality disorders rather than when your married

Yes I know site rules says different but I am referring to real life where it's not acceptable like work, the shops , etc etc to scream and shout at people that reject you . Or in work or shops etc where it's highly unlikely that you will be allowed to bar someone who asks you out or even just in some cases says hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I've missed these threads.

The answer isn't universal. It's likely you will find someone receptive to one's profile, pics and subsequent chatter.

Let's just hope they don't trace the OP to this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a woman wants might not be what a woman needs. Sometimes the more you look into someone, you realise the less you want to know then.

As for your profile OP... everyone has said what needed to be said so try and take that into account.

Totally incorrect it's

What a woman wants is not what a woman craves for deep down even though she knows it's totally wrong and totally not sensible

Even to the point of her denying she is like that and it's not what she is normally like

You can chase a cat round your neighbour hood . Keep staring at it calling it over and it will avoid you as your obviously a crazy man

So you Ignore it . When it comes to you you give me it a bit of attention and push it away and the cat will keep coming back

However dogs need you to give them attention they love being looked at and called over and followed around

I think the common mistake men make is saying what they think the woman wAnts to hear by listening to what they say and then giving examples of times they did that or didn't do that . Where as women usually like to hear their own voice and whilst they are talking your not messing it up .

The biggest mistake is when a man says or does something stupid which i do a lot . And then back tracking saying they didn't mean it apologising etc

Of course it's natural to upset people in every day life . We do it at work , when we are in a shop everyone thinks they have a right to be treated fairly , etc etc and this doesn't happen , but how you as a man handles that rejection is important if a man get angry screaming and shouting it's embarrassing for the woman

And woman it's the same . We all know the name calling troll screaming and shouting at the top of their voice .

How a woman handles rejection is just as important as how a man does . Either sex that has good relationships with exes and is still friends , allows child contact , is a better bet than a man or woman that goes mental when rejected

So add to my previous things women look for

Ability to handle rejection

Ability to make a decision

Ability to make a statement and stick by it

Being able to put the childish ways behind you, most women have children , they don't need another one "

Totally incorrect? Maybe for you. After all we all have not only an opinion - which we are entitled to without being 'wronged by the Topic Psychologist' - but our own minds and experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't even think women know that they want

But i do know most of them need a bloody good slap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just got blocked for sending a face pic that was requested. I ain't pig ugly, I don't think. No reply or anything, just a straight block, my first and it hurts!"

Don't take it to heart, many people just use it as a means of avoiding speaking again, for no other reason than its a waste of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just the numbers game. More guys to women so women can be picky. Try socials, or just hang around here. If you're patient and come across well, you'll do ok. And don't just rely on Fab.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't even think women know that they want

But i do know most of them need a bloody good slap"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't even think women know that they want

But i do know most of them need a bloody good slap

"

With a wet fish of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't even think women know that they want

But i do know most of them need a bloody good slap

With a wet fish of course "

Of course a wet fish would help

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