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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

help please......answered a message with "thanx but no thanx x...happy swinging"....... And was told we were rude and not all that!!!!!!.... We thought a reply was better than nothing.... Any suggestions??

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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Ignore em

You answered poitely, if they cannot take the rejection that's there problem not yours

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

perfectly acceptable reply...fuck em.

just ignore them, some can't handle rejection, not your problem.xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block the sender, and if he/she was particularly rude or offensive - report the profile and it will be dealt with by Admin

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"help please......answered a message with "thanx but no thanx x...happy swinging"....... And was told we were rude and not all that!!!!!!.... We thought a reply was better than nothing.... Any suggestions??"

Block them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanx 4 that xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not you problem babe you get them on here lol

Majority can deal with rejection some cant thats life xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

A perfectly good reply.

If they can't take rejection then they shouldn't be swinging...because it probably won't be the last time they hear it with that attitude.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"help please......answered a message with "thanx but no thanx x...happy swinging"....... And was told we were rude and not all that!!!!!!.... We thought a reply was better than nothing.... Any suggestions??"

You've also now found out why some people choose NOT to reply, but just delete/block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People like that get nowhere in the scene...and i think that they are just on here for a quick fix!

You was polite in your reply so bollux to em...block em!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"help please......answered a message with "thanx but no thanx x...happy swinging"....... And was told we were rude and not all that!!!!!!.... We thought a reply was better than nothing.... Any suggestions??

You've also now found out why some people choose NOT to reply, but just delete/block"

That's precisely the reason we don't reply to people who don't take our fancy. We are not obligated to respond in much the same way if someone chatted you up in a pub you're not obligated to talk to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was talk about a 'thanks but no thanks' button,to help in such cases.

It would make life easier for people in this position by removing the chance of saying something that could be misinterpreted.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was talk about a 'thanks but no thanks' button,to help in such cases.

It would make life easier for people in this position by removing the chance of saying something that could be misinterpreted.

XXXX"

Yes, that would be a good think imo.

W

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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

A perfect rule of thumb, if you're feeling particularly civil, is a 'Thanks, but No Thanks'.., like you already did.

Don't offer any explanation or give a reason why. Its not your place to help anybody deal with rejection by making them feel good about the rejection.

Rejection is part of the game, and if they can't handle it, then they shouldn't be swinging in the first place.

Generally though, it may just save everyone a whole lot of unforseen hassle by just deleting the email. When the sender checks their SENT MESSAGES, and finds you've read and deleted the email, they'll get the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a thanks but no thanks is polite and if they dont like tuff harsh i no but hey ho xxxxxx

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

when i get a thanks but no thanks reply,

i will send a thank you for repling as so few do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was talk about a 'thanks but no thanks' button,to help in such cases.

It would make life easier for people in this position by removing the chance of saying something that could be misinterpreted.

XXXX"

You mean sommat like:

"Sod off limp dick, we aren't interested."

or..

"Take a hike bucket fanny, if we want something that cavernous we'll go to The Grand Canyon!"

hehehe

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanx 4 your replies.....feel better now xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is a 'thanks but no thanks' option on another site i use

i used it just the other day and then they sent me the same message, some people just cant take rejection!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cumforfun you are welcome we are a friendly bunch of peeps in here mwah mwah mwah xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i ahve had that recently, i always reply thanks but no thanks and have had two abusive replies telling me i am "childish" and rude. now i feel that i should not bother replying to every message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't see the point in being abusive about a 'no thanks' mail.

I just think 'their loss not mine'. Ego? No, just the best way to think of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I can't think of the last time we had an abusive message from a thanks but no thanks.....we've had a few keep trying and trying but even then they have gone away quietly

You really should'nt have to say any more than thanks but no thanks...what on earth do people expect in a rejection mail? A full blown explanation of why you're not compatable?

It true that no wonder people don't reply at all to unsuitable messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to wonder why they messaged you in the first place if they don't think you're all that!

Don't let the experience put you off giving a polite no thanks though. The majority of the people here will just accept it, despite what certain negative and unpleasant people might say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone once messaged us with a "Like your profile,if you like ours get in touch". Short and to the point.In fact we had another one just today roughly the same.

Definitely the way forward.

We adopted the same aproach some time back.If we don't get a reply and see the message has been deleted it's no big deal.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we find - really enjoyed your profile we havent laughed that much in ages - we have added you to our pig hunting trophies in favourites usually works lol

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By *rSparklyspunkMan
over a year ago

Gateshead

Perfectly acceptable; as single guy on here if someone replies thanks but no thanks I'm actually quite pleased they at least responded. I find no response at all to be much ruder.

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By *ickyfittsMan
over a year ago

newbury

Yep, agree with that. On a site like this, rejection is a normal thing (at least for me sob sob lol), and it's nice when someone bothers to reply. Can't imagine why someone would be rude back, except I did read somewhere that rude reply emails have got something to do with having a very small penis.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Yep, agree with that. On a site like this, rejection is a normal thing (at least for me sob sob lol), and it's nice when someone bothers to reply. Can't imagine why someone would be rude back, except I did read somewhere that rude reply emails have got something to do with having a very small penis."

They are rude cos you have a small penis? Now thats not very nice is it...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

these are my replys they might help.

a good email from someone i think phoawww

*thanks for ur email, i will be in touch soon with a date i will fuck ur brains out, u have no choice BTW

a email from someone i am not intrested in.

*thanks for ur email, but i like my meets to be alive.

goodbye.*

a email from someone who has not read my profile and sent a stupid email.

*learn to read dick.*

i find this helps me a lot i hope it helps you too

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"these are my replys they might help.

a good email from someone i think phoawww

*thanks for ur email, i will be in touch soon with a date i will fuck ur brains out, u have no choice BTW

a email from someone i am not intrested in.

*thanks for ur email, but i like my meets to be alive.

goodbye.*

a email from someone who has not read my profile and sent a stupid email.

*learn to read dick.*

i find this helps me a lot i hope it helps you too"

pmsl I made a note....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"these are my replys they might help.

a good email from someone i think phoawww

*thanks for ur email, i will be in touch soon with a date i will fuck ur brains out, u have no choice BTW

a email from someone i am not intrested in.

*thanks for ur email, but i like my meets to be alive.

goodbye.*

a email from someone who has not read my profile and sent a stupid email.

*learn to read dick.*

i find this helps me a lot i hope it helps you too"
please kitty have i got your permission to use these lines lmfao xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"these are my replys they might help.

a good email from someone i think phoawww

*thanks for ur email, i will be in touch soon with a date i will fuck ur brains out, u have no choice BTW

a email from someone i am not intrested in.

*thanks for ur email, but i like my meets to be alive.

goodbye.*

a email from someone who has not read my profile and sent a stupid email.

*learn to read dick.*

i find this helps me a lot i hope it helps you too"

the first laugh i have had all day, thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"help please......answered a message with "thanx but no thanx x...happy swinging"....... And was told we were rude and not all that!!!!!!.... We thought a reply was better than nothing.... Any suggestions??"

aww hun ull get some daftys like that

i get that 2..rejections no a gd thing for some ppl even tho u were being polite an nice..keep ya chin up an happy swinging its there lose xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stunna thought you and kitty were gonna keep quiet about us burning crosses outside your house and going through your bins looking for used toiletries when you rejected us - its just so upsetting when people cant be trusted to keep a ecret

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

The standard rejection response I use is "I think we're looking for different things". Works everytime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The standard rejection response I use is "I think we're looking for different things". Works everytime."
But then they come back with 'well you tell me what you'e looking for and I promise I'll match it' ffs

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone


"The standard rejection response I use is "I think we're looking for different things". Works everytime."

i said that to a guy last week who had on his profile that he was looking for men aged 54-99 and the wording talked about that too. He replied that he had ticked the wrong boxes...and then came back for thirds asking why i ws still saying no!

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By *irtyduoCouple
over a year ago

nr stirling

i think you were polite, u answered their email, lets face it you'v got to be able to take a no as we'r all not going to be everyones cup of tea eh!!! xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a funny old world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

didnt ant and dec do a song called...just say no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"didnt ant and dec do a song called...just say no! "

Think that was grange hill ! Some of em forgot tho .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so it was lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a mail off a guy last week asking to meet him, I replied very politely explaining that we don't meet single guys and that it does say that on our profile, had a message back asking ' What never ever?'

I probably should have stopped messaging there but after reading a zillion threads on how people have no manners when they don't reply I did, several messages later he got the message, read and delete from now on its not worth the hassle lol x

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