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"When people insult them personally in a thread, without even attempting to add to that thread. That'll do it." Well i haven't seen anyone directly insult you so what other reasons prompt it? | |||
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"What makes someone end up becoming unpleasant/objectionable/argumentative?" Good point. I try to avoid it, but if a post catches me in the wrong frame of mind...it happens. Thanks for the reality check. *goes to focus on some positives* | |||
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"lack of attention ![]() ![]() That seems the most likely to me. But it gives them negative attention, surely that's not what they really want is it? | |||
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"What makes someone end up becoming unpleasant/objectionable/argumentative? Good point. I try to avoid it, but if a post catches me in the wrong frame of mind...it happens. Thanks for the reality check. *goes to focus on some positives*" But your more on the sarcasm side not being offensive. I have noted some will react badly to sarcasm as they are unable to cope with it at times. | |||
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"lack of attention ![]() ![]() as the saying goes, there's no such thing as bad news, so albeit negative attention, its attention all the same. Personally though, I'd rather be ignored than abused. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"What makes someone end up becoming unpleasant/objectionable/argumentative? Good point. I try to avoid it, but if a post catches me in the wrong frame of mind...it happens. Thanks for the reality check. *goes to focus on some positives* But your more on the sarcasm side not being offensive. I have noted some will react badly to sarcasm as they are unable to cope with it at times." i think you have to be of sarcastic nature to get sarcastic posts - i am very sarcastic in real life so rarely take offence to things posted on here. i do think some ofmy posts get taken the wrong way because sarcasm is often hard to get across in the written form | |||
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"lack of attention ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Well Mally you have been here quite a while so people know who you are and you don't need the look at me thing. But do people really want the negative side just for the "look at me" factor. | |||
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"What makes someone end up becoming unpleasant/objectionable/argumentative?" Resisting the temptation to get involved is far easier ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"What makes someone end up becoming unpleasant/objectionable/argumentative? Good point. I try to avoid it, but if a post catches me in the wrong frame of mind...it happens. Thanks for the reality check. *goes to focus on some positives* But your more on the sarcasm side not being offensive. I have noted some will react badly to sarcasm as they are unable to cope with it at times. i think you have to be of sarcastic nature to get sarcastic posts - i am very sarcastic in real life so rarely take offence to things posted on here. i do think some ofmy posts get taken the wrong way because sarcasm is often hard to get across in the written form" Well from what i have read some people don't have any difficulty with that at all. You are just lovely. | |||
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"What makes someone end up becoming unpleasant/objectionable/argumentative? Resisting the temptation to get involved is far easier ![]() ![]() ![]() When it takes so much effort though there must be some underlying emotion within a person to make them like that don't you think? | |||
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"What makes someone end up becoming unpleasant/objectionable/argumentative? Good point. I try to avoid it, but if a post catches me in the wrong frame of mind...it happens. Thanks for the reality check. *goes to focus on some positives* But your more on the sarcasm side not being offensive. I have noted some will react badly to sarcasm as they are unable to cope with it at times. i think you have to be of sarcastic nature to get sarcastic posts - i am very sarcastic in real life so rarely take offence to things posted on here. i do think some ofmy posts get taken the wrong way because sarcasm is often hard to get across in the written formWell from what i have read some people don't have any difficulty with that at all. You are just lovely." awww shucks ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"when people immediately try to put you down in order to make themselves look clever. when they are antagonistic because you differ in your opinion from theirs and are therefore wrong. this is when people come across as being paranoid and unfriendly" I would like to know, are you capable of being nice? | |||
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" Starting threads like this to have a "subtle" dig doesn't help either! ![]() If you don't ask questions you don't get answers. | |||
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"I dont like bitterness, Im more of a chilled lager man in the summer, and a red wine man in the winter ![]() ![]() ![]() Constructive debates are often good but its the bitterness that is just so wrong at times. Pour me a larger i'm parched. | |||
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"Well Mally you have been here quite a while so people know who you are and you don't need the look at me thing. But do people really want the negative side just for the "look at me" factor." very good question but I can only answer from my own personal experiences, how some one would like to be popular because theyre unpopular is beyond me and I know myself I've turned people against me in the past and will probably do it again in the future from my comments, something I have found out though is some regular posters here are completely different in person, so does the forum create and alter ego? where one can be offensive, sarcastic but in person, are really very nice to be around. ![]() | |||
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"When it takes so much effort though there must be some underlying emotion within a person to make them like that don't you think? " Is it a form of !Attention Seeking” who knows, what I do know is, a minority on here like to be err, how can I put this, controversial, we always find avoiding them is our best policy ![]() | |||
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"when people immediately try to put you down in order to make themselves look clever. when they are antagonistic because you differ in your opinion from theirs and are therefore wrong. this is when people come across as being paranoid and unfriendlyI would like to know, are you capable of being nice?" have i ever been unpleasant to you? i merely made a post that was intended to be firmly tongue in cheek. it was misconstued by others who have since taken every opportunity to snipe at me. in answer to your question most definately ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I dont like bitterness, Im more of a chilled lager man in the summer, and a red wine man in the winter ![]() ![]() ![]() You wanting some lime in that, or do you take it straight up? ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"But your more on the sarcasm side not being offensive. " That's true, or at least it is my intention that it's true. However it still takes two to tango, and I definitely had my dancing shoes on. | |||
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"When it takes so much effort though there must be some underlying emotion within a person to make them like that don't you think? Is it a form of !Attention Seeking” who knows, what I do know is, a minority on here like to be err, how can I put this, controversial, we always find avoiding them is our best policy ![]() I think the avoidance thing is probably the best. Not always easy though for many to do. I also think than some may only get a reaction to comments if the comments are of a negative manner as they are harder to avoid. | |||
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"But your more on the sarcasm side not being offensive. That's true, or at least it is my intention that it's true. However it still takes two to tango, and I definitely had my dancing shoes on. " Personally i like a little sarcasm, expectantly if there is whit with it. I don't think much of your dancing shoes though ![]() | |||
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"I dont like bitterness, Im more of a chilled lager man in the summer, and a red wine man in the winter ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() If i get a choice it would be red stripe in a tall glass ![]() | |||
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"I dont like bitterness, Im more of a chilled lager man in the summer, and a red wine man in the winter ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Course you get a choice, what kinda fella do you take me for... you can have a pint of carling extra cold or not, lol ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Is it just me or are others coming across more jealousy and bitterness these days on here. What makes someone end up becoming unpleasant/objectionable/argumentative?" I wonder if it can be tiredness or stress that makes us more touchy. Maybe some had a busy weekend but more likely it stems from not having enough activity on a major bank holiday when people often feel more left out etc especially when they hear that others are having a great time. Unfortunately we can't always notice when we are not quite feeling like our normal selves and end up letting ourselves down but of course some people just dont care. | |||
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"I dont like bitterness, Im more of a chilled lager man in the summer, and a red wine man in the winter ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I will have to make do with that then won't I ![]() | |||
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" I don't think much of your dancing shoes though ![]() Wait til you see how bad my dancing is!! | |||
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" I don't think much of your dancing shoes though ![]() Honey a am black and i dance like the devil is inside me ![]() | |||
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" I don't think much of your dancing shoes though ![]() I don't remember there being much room for dancing at the weekend! ![]() | |||
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"I don't remember there being much room for dancing at the weekend! ![]() I managed a nifty horizontal bop early in the evening, but had to bow out of the hoedown later on. | |||
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"when people are nasty i think i dont have to go down to there level I am better person. JO" That is an trait i have to admire you on, i am trying to follow suit at times when i can. | |||
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"I think it's very easy to interpret a text based communication such as forums, texts and email incorrectly. Often there is no context to take a comment that might have been made tongue in cheek and without a context it can appear offensive. At that point we are off on another shit slide to bitch oblivion! Anyway I think you're all stupid apart from my clique so screw you! Can I get an Amen cliquesters xxx ![]() Belated Amen to that, boss! | |||
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"Is it just me or are others coming across more jealousy and bitterness these days on here. What makes someone end up becoming unpleasant/objectionable/argumentative?" They were never loved as children | |||
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"Is it just me or are others coming across more jealousy and bitterness these days on here. What makes someone end up becoming unpleasant/objectionable/argumentative? They were never loved as children " Isnt that illegal anyway? ![]() | |||
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"Is it just me or are others coming across more jealousy and bitterness these days on here. What makes someone end up becoming unpleasant/objectionable/argumentative?" Dammit spelling mistake gremlins ![]() ![]() | |||
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"when people are nasty i think i dont have to go down to there level I am better person. JO That is an trait i have to admire you on, i am trying to follow suit at times when i can." Its just in the passed i have seen how much joy some people get of hurting others with nasty words and stuff and thay get ofF on that ...... so i dont go down to there level i smile and think get a life ,, lol....... thay hate it, xx LOL so you keep smiling xx ![]() | |||
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" very good question but I can only answer from my own personal experiences, how some one would like to be popular because theyre unpopular is beyond me and I know myself I've turned people against me in the past and will probably do it again in the future from my comments, something I have found out though is some regular posters here are completely different in person, so does the forum create and alter ego? where one can be offensive, sarcastic but in person, are really very nice to be around. ![]() i'd like to think even if folk have a bump in the forums it's respected as a differing of opinions and I can't say I've noticed many that hold that grudge and continue it into other threads. I think the internet is a forum in which people exploit their own anominity and indulge in saying things they wouldn't get away with publically and it can be quite cathargic. it's the same whether discussing politics or sex, there's some things I will discuss via pm with guys that there's no way I would mention if i'd met them in a bar! | |||
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"Some people are fundamentally argumentative and that negativity comes across in what they post and that's what leads them to not meeting anyone. The circle continues and they become more and more negative. The last thing they want to see is everyone else getting on and having a good time that makes them feel even more excluded and isolated. Great quote from Shawshank Redemption: "Get busy living, or get busy dying."" Siren?? Is that you?? | |||
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"Some people are fundamentally argumentative and that negativity comes across in what they post and that's what leads them to not meeting anyone. The circle continues and they become more and more negative. The last thing they want to see is everyone else getting on and having a good time that makes them feel even more excluded and isolated. Great quote from Shawshank Redemption: "Get busy living, or get busy dying." Siren?? Is that you?? " No, it's Wishy. Siren rarely uses the forums but when she does she'll say it's her to avoid any confusion. Hi hon. ![]() | |||
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"Some people are fundamentally argumentative and that negativity comes across in what they post and that's what leads them to not meeting anyone. The circle continues and they become more and more negative. The last thing they want to see is everyone else getting on and having a good time that makes them feel even more excluded and isolated. Great quote from Shawshank Redemption: "Get busy living, or get busy dying." Siren?? Is that you?? " dont ask daft questions.who else could it be. ![]() | |||
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" Siren?? Is that you?? No, it's Wishy. Siren rarely uses the forums but when she does she'll say it's her to avoid any confusion. Hi hon. ![]() I knowwwww that ![]() | |||
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"Some people are fundamentally argumentative and that negativity comes across in what they post and that's what leads them to not meeting anyone. .... " Get outta here lol You know as well as I do, forum users are a minority. What we type on the forums has very little (if any) impact on how many people we can meet. If people are only fishing in the forums for meets they are casting their lines in a puddle. | |||
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"Is it just me or are others coming across more jealousy and bitterness these days on here. What makes someone end up becoming unpleasant/objectionable/argumentative?" Dunno but i do wish it would bloody stop xx ![]() ![]() | |||
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" Dunno but i do wish it would bloody stop xx ![]() ![]() Stamina problems sweetie? ![]() | |||
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" Dunno but i do wish it would bloody stop xx ![]() ![]() ![]() Lol no ya knows how sensitive i am xx ![]() ![]() | |||
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" i was on here on sunday,and 99% of what i read,was definitly,tounge in cheek,and the posts read that way.maybe if you read posts,looking for sniping ,or agression.you will find them.whether they are there or not. ![]() You don't have to look for nastiness, sniping or agression to see it in alot of the threads being written currently and for it to hurt the people it, all be it apparently ironically, it is aimed at. | |||
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"Is it just me or are others coming across more jealousy and bitterness these days on here. What makes someone end up becoming unpleasant/objectionable/argumentative?" Some struggle for meets, then get frustrated and take it out on others. They wouldn't do it in real life for fear of being stood up to but there is safety behind a computer screen. I see it all as little sad and childish at times. | |||
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