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Over 40, not dead!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is being over 40 such a stigma? Been on fab a while now. both as a couple and now on my own. Just wondering why being over 40 years of age makes such a difference to some people. I'ts not like your bits stop working once you reach the magic number. You deffinately don't lose the urges. So why do some people (usually women) see age as such a problem? When did experience become a bad thing? ...x

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

we're way over 40 - its attitude that matters not age

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

why does it matter if people are fat?

why does it matter if people are young?

why does it matter if people are straight/bi/a n other?

why does it matter if people have one leg?

All personal preference.

I likes em young, so hop it grandpa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty of over 40s on here who are very active and in demand.

As A had mentioned, a lot of it is down to attitude and how you present yourself.

Without going into specific details, your profile does not appeal to me, and if you send me a message, no matter how well composed, I would respond a "No thanks!".

Sorry!

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"why does it matter if people are fat?

why does it matter if people are young?

why does it matter if people are straight/bi/a n other?

why does it matter if people have one leg?

All personal preference.

I likes em young, so hop it grandpa "

damn it - now I know I've got no chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And to demonstrate I am not an ageist, my late partner was 54 and I was 39 when we first met!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why does it matter if people are fat?

why does it matter if people are young?

why does it matter if people are straight/bi/a n other?

why does it matter if people have one leg?

All personal preference.

I likes em young, so hop it grandpa "

Yeah cause it makes ya forget how old ya are lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like the old saying. 'Life begins at forty.' It did for me. Think it has been the case for a lot of people. Not really noticed any age issues from others at all.

Sometimes I think that when we hit that magic 40, our kids are more self sufficient, we aren't as tired as we were when they were younger and we want to get back a little of what we had before the kids.

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire


"why does it matter if people are fat?

why does it matter if people are young?

why does it matter if people are straight/bi/a n other?

why does it matter if people have one leg?

All personal preference.

I likes em young, so hop it grandpa

Yeah cause it makes ya forget how old ya are lol xx "

see you sooooooooooooooooon

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By *yber pimpMan
over a year ago

durham area

you get out of this lifestyle what you are willing to put into it.

a little effort and thought on the profile, composed and with correct spelling, decent pics works wonders.

i have a busy time on here and im well past the 40 mark

i intend to keep going on having fun with the excellent people i do meet and those that i am about to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it isnt exactly about the number for alot of people they can sometimes just think that the mojoraty of 40 plus doesnt click with thier personality.

or it could be that they feel thats when the looks really begin to decline etc

like Fuss Puss said its just personal choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or it could be that sayyyyyyy you flaunt your taut rippled torso in front of people but lable it 18 - 30 only

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"Or it could be that sayyyyyyy you flaunt your taut rippled torso in front of people but lable it 18 - 30 only "

I missed out on club 18-30 but making up for it now

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

I've yet to meet an over 40 from this site who behaves anything older than 18 !!!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

There are lots of profiles who state an upper age limit of 40.

There are lots of profiles who state a lower age limit of 40.

So, don't see it as a limited choice - see it as a whole new playground.

(As an aside, I don't think many people ask to see ID in clubs, so if you can pass for under 40, that might be a route to go down)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've yet to meet an over 40 from this site who behaves anything older than 18 !!!

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Not guilty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"(As an aside, I don't think many people ask to see ID in clubs, so if you can pass for under 40, that might be a route to go down)"

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If I dye my white hair black, do you think I could pass as 10-15y younger?

Polite response only please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re only as old as you feel, who cares, it’s all in the mind, just be you’re self, and don’t worry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The older the lady, the better for me

mr.classy xx

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"If I dye my white hair black, do you think I could pass as 10-15y younger?

Polite response only please! "

You never know!

(Polite response?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I dye my white hair black, do you think I could pass as 10-15y younger?

Polite response only please!

You never know!

(Polite response?)"

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Very diplomatic!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks all for your feedback...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or it could be that sayyyyyyy you flaunt your taut rippled torso in front of people but lable it 18 - 30 only "

lol 18-36 actually :P haha but this is flexible with the right people. I just prefer women in thier late 20's through thier 30's, they are a hell of alot more fun

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


" I just prefer women in thier late 20's through thier 30's, they are a hell of alot more fun "

Thanks for just labelling those of us over 36 as boring.

With age comes wisdom and the ability to keep ya mouth shut instead of generalising.

Maddie..... a boring OLD far cus she's over 40

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

am over 50 and def not past it yet infact would say i have a higher sex drive now than i did when i was with my now ex husband and am loving it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont want to meet anyone over 46 but never say never lol

u cant help who u are attracted to

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By *iceguydaveMan
over a year ago

Monmouth


"Why is being over 40 such a stigma? Been on fab a while now. both as a couple and now on my own. Just wondering why being over 40 years of age makes such a difference to some people. I'ts not like your bits stop working once you reach the magic number. You deffinately don't lose the urges. So why do some people (usually women) see age as such a problem? When did experience become a bad thing? ...x"

I'm a few years older than you and I have to say I haven't found my age to be a problem at all.. I get plenty of rejections of course (!) but I've never had anyone say it's down to my age.. of course I may just be not remembering, because of my age

I know you weren't posting to request critiques of your profile, but maybe it needs a bit more in it - it comes across to me rather like you've not put much effort into 'selling yourself' - hope you don't mind me saying so!

Best of luck..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and on a similar vein...I wouldn't dream of meeting with anyone UNDER 45...as you say its all down to personal preference!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"am over 50 and def not past it yet infact would say i have a higher sex drive now than i did when i was with my now ex husband and am loving it "

Mmmmmmmmmmmmm really?!

Mr.Classy xxx

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Why is being over 40 such a stigma? Been on fab a while now. both as a couple and now on my own. Just wondering why being over 40 years of age makes such a difference to some people. I'ts not like your bits stop working once you reach the magic number. You deffinately don't lose the urges. So why do some people (usually women) see age as such a problem? When did experience become a bad thing? ...x"

people will always find something to moan about... whether that is too old, or too young, or too fat, or too thin, or too black, or too white, or too short, or too tall....

people will think to themselves and focus on thats the reason why they are not getting meets....

but like others have said, you get out what you put in, and your profile in your little shop corner... and to be honest it doesn't feel like a lot of effort has gone into it...

I ask people this question, with the thousands of adds out there how does your stick out?

and with the thousands of ads out there, hand on heart now, would you honestly answer your own advert???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was 50 befor I even started playing on here, and I don't think I've done too bad

Maybe it is different as a single guy, but there is someone for everyone, just need to find them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I just prefer women in thier late 20's through thier 30's, they are a hell of alot more fun

Thanks for just labelling those of us over 36 as boring.

With age comes wisdom and the ability to keep ya mouth shut instead of generalising.

Maddie..... a boring OLD far cus she's over 40 "

bloddy hell did i say you were borin!!!! no i didnt

i said they were alot more fun, i didnt say 40 year olds are boring now did I!!!!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

By implication you said that ladies over 40 are LESS fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say it time and time again age is all in the head i am 40s going on 27 ,, lol kisses jo xxxxx

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I would also say put some effort into your profile as it show sever lack of effort and wouldnt interts me purely because of that. The age bit and photos would be next on my interest list.

Your profile is your shop window.

Yours lacks effort. Put some into it and then you may find you get more interest x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not being over 40 that worries me

its just hitting 50 ----- not long now and im told when that happens my bits fall off

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"its not being over 40 that worries me

its just hitting 50 ----- not long now and im told when that happens my bits fall off "

Oh trust me, your bits do not fall off, 50 is the new 40 and I should know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its not being over 40 that worries me

its just hitting 50 ----- not long now and im told when that happens my bits fall off

Oh trust me, your bits do not fall off, 50 is the new 40 and I should know"

sounds like its going to be fun then

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"its not being over 40 that worries me

its just hitting 50 ----- not long now and im told when that happens my bits fall off

Oh trust me, your bits do not fall off, 50 is the new 40 and I should know

sounds like its going to be fun then "

Hiya hun, oh yes it certainly is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its not being over 40 that worries me

its just hitting 50 ----- not long now and im told when that happens my bits fall off "

DON'T go there! I'm 50 in a couple of weeks and already thinking I'll awake with snow white hair, chin hair and wrinkles!

NOW I have to worry about my bits dropping off?!!

To the OP: I take it the ladies YOU like have a preference for younger men and you feel slighted? Damn personal preferences!

I know it's tough but you'll just have to search harder for those looking for you!

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Totally down to personal preference....

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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DON'T go there! I'm 50 in a couple of weeks and already thinking I'll awake with snow white hair, chin hair and wrinkles!

check hair white - well only cos it's arctic blonde from the hairdressers

chin hair - nope

wrinkles - a damn site less than some 40+ year olds

Hun, I've had the best (almost) 2 years of my life since hitting 50, am 52 in Nov

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im 51 and it just gets better all the time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i have to admit to having done the "younger" fella and now got the tshirt.

These days i prefer the more mature type (35 to 50) but this isnt set in stone.

I just feel that an older guy has more patience and a better understanding of women in general than the younger ones but this is only my opinion and no doubt others will think differently.

But i still lurve....looking at the magnificent torsos of those younger guys...sometimes on show in the pic gallery

edible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares about the age its purely a number, as long as you have fun and get on who really cares!

It always makes me chuckle when someone says i am too young it would be like shagging their son, er firstly that's called incest and how would they know shagging me is like shagging their son? Have they shagged their son?

Secondly, its called incest and illegal!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

who cares about there age if they are good at what they are doing so dont complain xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesnt matter and it definitely didnt at Chams last night

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Not even withering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Not even withering. "

did you mean wuthering by any chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or it could be that sayyyyyyy you flaunt your taut rippled torso in front of people but lable it 18 - 30 only

lol 18-36 actually :P haha but this is flexible with the right people. I just prefer women in thier late 20's through thier 30's, they are a hell of alot more fun "

Oh dear dejas vu.

I recall and age chat with you a couple of days ago :P

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"

Not even withering.

did you mean wuthering by any chance? "

hee hee i can reach the heights

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