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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having been let down, travelled 3 hours, paid for a nice bottle of wine, a beautiful suite with canopied bed (actually 2 doubles in the room lol)

only to find my self all alone

anyone near Galashiels fancy sharing breakfast with me. Only catch you spend the night with me hehehehe

oh well what will be will be

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

what a bloody shame, hope you find someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a bit of a pisser. Hope she had a valid excuse. 3 fookin hours travel back too.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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Oh hun, thats awful x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What they said ^ xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nothing - nada - zilch. Phone goes to a/m after a varying number of rings. No roply to 4 texts always being polite asuming something has happened eg: is everything ok etc only to see them logged online & not even read the message I sent.

I truly hope there is an explination as I'm a nice forgiving guy - just find it selfish not to reply

anyone want my number lol???

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Think there would be a lot wanting your number especially all the trouble youve gone to. Why dont you go out instead of being stuck in your room and try and have a little fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats a totally despicable thing to do to anyone....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think there would be a lot wanting your number especially all the trouble youve gone to. Why dont you go out instead of being stuck in your room and try and have a little fun"

I'm about 10 mins drive from anywhere & dont drink drive lol

plus single English bloke in a pub in Scotland on his own lol SAD hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sort of been there, got invited to a party, 6 weeks warning so booked the day off, 3 days before, got a text to say how much they were looking forward to meeting me, then nothing, no text or message to tell me the details, Sunday they were online as if nothing had happened and no message to apologise or tell me how great the party was

But i do feel for you, had you not been so far, i am home alone and would love the company

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

0h thats horrible!

Mercedes x

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"Having been let down, travelled 3 hours, paid for a nice bottle of wine, a beautiful suite with canopied bed (actually 2 doubles in the room lol)

only to find my self all alone

anyone near Galashiels fancy sharing breakfast with me. Only catch you spend the night with me hehehehe

oh well what will be will be "

I really do feel for you.

Can we run a book on what the excuse will be?

Dead Grandmother

Car broke down

Forget

Got the date wrong

Couldn't find the hotel

Sister broke her arm

Brother broke his leg

etc............

I have come to the conclusion (old cynic I am), that 99.9% of excuses for not turning up are complete and utter bullshit.

One chance!!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

aww thats a shame. What a waste of a canopied bed

We'll all set off now and be with you errrr.... some time next week.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"0h thats horrible!

Mercedes x"

what's even worse is that I'm on a 2g signal up here & fab takes about 3 mins to load each page without images aaaaargh!

Re notify - I spoke to her just before six to say I'd be at the hotel at 6 - she told me to ring back when there & that's the last I've heard - she's online now!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Next time you get stood up, could you make it closer to Buckinghamshire please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"0h thats horrible!

Mercedes x

what's even worse is that I'm on a 2g signal up here & fab takes about 3 mins to load each page without images aaaaargh!

Re notify - I spoke to her just before six to say I'd be at the hotel at 6 - she told me to ring back when there & that's the last I've heard - she's online now!!!!!!! "

i wasted a whole sunday waiting for someone a few weeks ago when i could have been working ...people can be so bloody rude its the curse of swinging ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Next time you get stood up, could you make it closer to Buckinghamshire please?"

NEXT time hmmmmm

rather NEXT time didn't get stood up! As for a trip to bucks mmm it's about as far time wise lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it she hasn't had the decency to respond to you??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She would get short thrift off me im afraid especially if she online too.

That is not a nice thing to do to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope her tits fall off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a shame!

I hope she has the decency to provide you with a response and a valid reason why she failed to turn up as planned!

Please don't let this dampen your enthusiasm to have fun, as I am sure there are lots of ladies who won't turn you down!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What a shame!

I hope she has the decency to provide you with a response and a valid reason why she failed to turn up as planned!

Please don't let this dampen your enthusiasm to have fun, as I am sure there are lots of ladies who won't turn you down! "

I always give people the benifit of the doubt - if she wasn't online then maybe - I don't know anymore because I really wanted to see her. Obviously otherwise wouldn't have gone to the trouble lol

I always say treat people & especially friends how you want to be treated yourself!

Hmmmm we'll see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well yes, i normally would say the same but............

She has made no attempt at contacting you and knew how far you had driven etc.

I just dont understand how someone thinks that sort of behaviour is acceptable. ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leaving aside the travelling time..its also the financial aspectof being let down like this .....makes you so suspicious of people...and this is supposed to be fun!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cast ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Next time you get stood up, could you make it closer to Buckinghamshire please?

NEXT time hmmmmm

rather NEXT time didn't get stood up! As for a trip to bucks mmm it's about as far time wise lol"

It's a date!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'll get my diary out on Monday!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can I just say thank you!

Thank you for you guys that have sent private messages & calls - made me feel

a bit better

still on my own though hehe

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By *iz78Woman
over a year ago

wirral

nothing worse than being let down... and u went to such lengths too.

hope your next meet goes better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Admittedly we all do things differently but I don't travel more than three minutes and always meet socially first.

If I'm keen dinner after work, meet at the station so if they don't turn up I can catch my train home, if I'm not entirely sure they're sub lunch/coffee then back to work.

I can see where the excitement of an "illicit" meet appeals but they have to turn up!

Personally this seems like a nasty power trip especially as she was on-line. That said we only have you're view point! You could have been pushy, too intense that made an evening in front of her pc preferable to frollicking in a four poster with you!

Reading between the lines I get the impression you'd readily do the same again as you like her.

Better luck next time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A pretty photograph on a screen is just that if the person sending it isn't the person in the photo.

It's a real shame that timewasters like this can't be exposed and banned as it undermines the whole community on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It crossed my mind that I may have been too forward or intense so one of my texts said so & suggested we go to a near by village for a meal (the evening was still young enough) not assuming anything. Still no reply.

About timewasting - hmm she is verified by other people on here who are in turn verified so Im sure she is genuine. That's one of the things that makes me feel bad! I feel guilty for some stupid reason as if I've scared her or pushed too much -it's the not knowing. If I know about it I can do something about it!!!

Oh well, tis the morning after the night before. Not even a notion to have a ham shank but I know a couple who are quite close & although couldn't do anything last night...........

Well let's say my single cylinder 2 stroke is primed lol (btw it takes more than just 2 stroke - Im not a premature guy lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mate i am sure you done nothing wrong. from the forums you seem like a nice polite guy so i say its her loss....

just because she is verified doesnt mean she isnt a time waster. I have been hit by a verified time waster myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate that's disgusting I hope they have a valid reason for not turning up

But even so to not contact you in any way is really bad

Hope you did manage to salvage something from the night

And don't let it put you off doing it again

Craig xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking at it from another perspective.

I believe it is acceptable to pull out right at the last minute for whatever reason(s).

However, if money has already been spent, then I believe it is common courtesy to offer to split the cost.

Not to inform the other person why the no show, and no attempt to make amends by offering to split the cost incurred, lacks good grace.

I would give that person a good piece of my mind, before hitting the block button, assuming I had not been blocked by this time.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I feel for you mate... As they say: ...got the t-shirt.

Can't see what you could have done differently...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking at it from another perspective.

I believe it is acceptable to pull out right at the last minute for whatever reason(s).

However, if money has already been spent, then I believe it is common courtesy to offer to split the cost.

Not to inform the other person why the no show, and no attempt to make amends by offering to split the cost incurred, lacks good grace.

I would give that person a good piece of my mind, before hitting the block button, assuming I had not been blocked by this time. "

I totally agree - everyone is entitled to say no

let's face it without consent it's something far worse!

Yes the money is a factor but not a hurdle. Wasn't expecting 50/50 it was at my expense. Maybe that was one issue??

Im still 'friends' & still want to meet potentially if the reason for not coming follows - but as yet nothing & my messages deleted

hmmm think Im foolish but always look for a positive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think it might be time not be to friends any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately, some inconsiderate selfish and cowardly person has taken you for a ride, sorry!

Learn from the experience and think about how you could do it differently to minimise the risk of financial and time lost, and damaged pride!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont be gallant !!! how could youstill want to be friends with someone who did that to you ....erm too pushy ona swingers site FFS ?? we are all on here to meet..i bet shes loving seeing all the posts on here a total power trip for her and to say u still want to meet potentially pppeeerlease have some self respect !! i bet i know wwho it is too !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing - nada - zilch. Phone goes to a/m after a varying number of rings. No roply to 4 texts always being polite asuming something has happened eg: is everything ok etc only to see them logged online & not even read the message I sent.

I truly hope there is an explination as I'm a nice forgiving guy - just find it selfish not to reply

anyone want my number lol???"

That is awful and it's kind of you to be forgiving in that situation.

And yes please - send me your number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmmmmmmmm didn't expect to see you up Pearl.

I'm just this minute out of bed

And Im sworn NOT to be on here at all today ...or the rest of the week come to that.

Hope you slept O.P. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

she is treating you like a fool and you are taking it m8.

sorry you have been let down so badly, but if you allow her to do this to you, she may well do to others.

block her and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmmmmmmmmm didn't expect to see you up Pearl.

I'm just this minute out of bed

And Im sworn NOT to be on here at all today ...or the rest of the week come to that.

Hope you slept O.P. x "

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Got woken up by the dog who needed to go out!

I shall go back to bed for a couple of hours before getting up properly later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love that. Take a cuppa up x

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire


"Having been let down, travelled 3 hours, paid for a nice bottle of wine, a beautiful suite with canopied bed (actually 2 doubles in the room lol)

only to find my self all alone

anyone near Galashiels fancy sharing breakfast with me. Only catch you spend the night with me hehehehe

oh well what will be will be "

I hope the place does a decent breakfast!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the OP reading your posts on the forums you come across as an ok guy.

That said, for some of us, it doesn't take much to put you off someone, ignore them and delete the messages. I've done it myself, and the person never quite got why because he was an "ok bloke" and didn't think he'd done anything wrong.

I met someone for dinner to see how we got on. He walked in front of me into the restaurant, didn't leave the door open for me, when we were seated, promptly ordered his drink before I'd sat down. He talked about all the gorgeous women he'd been with...when I pulled him up about his behaviour, he laughed and said "you're not my date!" Therefore I didn't deserve common courtesy and respect?!!

When he went to the loo I left!

He kept calling, saying why did I walk out after a wonderful evening!!!

My point is for this woman to blank you she must have felt uncomfortable with how you were acting, and if you don't feel comfortable with someone I wouldn't meet them in a hotel either.

The fact you still want to meet her makes me question if you are perhaps a little too pushy and full on, because to be honest I wouldn't give someone another chance if they acted like she did!!

Just my thoughts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon her/their cat must of been sick!

Paddy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at it from another perspective.

I believe it is acceptable to pull out right at the last minute for whatever reason(s).

However, if money has already been spent, then I believe it is common courtesy to offer to split the cost.

Not to inform the other person why the no show, and no attempt to make amends by offering to split the cost incurred, lacks good grace.

I would give that person a good piece of my mind, before hitting the block button, assuming I had not been blocked by this time.

I totally agree - everyone is entitled to say no

let's face it without consent it's something far worse!

Yes the money is a factor but not a hurdle. Wasn't expecting 50/50 it was at my expense. Maybe that was one issue??

Im still 'friends' & still want to meet potentially if the reason for not coming follows - but as yet nothing & my messages deleted

hmmm think Im foolish but always look for a positive!"

I think you need to grow up!!! She's deleted your messages but you still want to meet her? She doesnt want to meet you! Block her, forget her move on, plenty of women on here that would want to meet you and would turn up, me included though from this you have seriously gone down in my estimation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at it from another perspective.

I believe it is acceptable to pull out right at the last minute for whatever reason(s).

However, if money has already been spent, then I believe it is common courtesy to offer to split the cost.

Not to inform the other person why the no show, and no attempt to make amends by offering to split the cost incurred, lacks good grace.

I would give that person a good piece of my mind, before hitting the block button, assuming I had not been blocked by this time.

I totally agree - everyone is entitled to say no

let's face it without consent it's something far worse!

Yes the money is a factor but not a hurdle. Wasn't expecting 50/50 it was at my expense. Maybe that was one issue??

Im still 'friends' & still want to meet potentially if the reason for not coming follows - but as yet nothing & my messages deleted

hmmm think Im foolish but always look for a positive!

I think you need to grow up!!! She's deleted your messages but you still want to meet her? She doesnt want to meet you! Block her, forget her move on, plenty of women on here that would want to meet you and would turn up, me included though from this you have seriously gone down in my estimation "

That's a shame. Cos going on the bits that can be picked up through the ether I think you two would be a fine romance xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been let down, travelled 3 hours, paid for a nice bottle of wine, a beautiful suite with canopied bed (actually 2 doubles in the room lol)

only to find my self all alone

anyone near Galashiels fancy sharing breakfast with me. Only catch you spend the night with me hehehehe

oh well what will be will be "

Top weekend fella

Blown out last night and now you have a forum 'dear John' awaiting you on your return home lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been let down, travelled 3 hours, paid for a nice bottle of wine, a beautiful suite with canopied bed (actually 2 doubles in the room lol)

only to find my self all alone

anyone near Galashiels fancy sharing breakfast with me. Only catch you spend the night with me hehehehe

oh well what will be will be

Top weekend fella

Blown out last night and now you have a forum 'dear John' awaiting you on your return home lol"

Dear Crack,

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

ok this is just one side of a story and it is another member you are talking about.

I would report the person involved incase there has been a pattern of the same thing.

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