FabSwingers.com forum: What puts you off a profile

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it lack of txt, pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it lack of txt, pictures "

very good. I see what you did there

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

me personally? arrogance, loads of cock pictures, pictures of a single man with more of a woman in them than him, lots of demands and rudeness towards other people's preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A whinging status and thats before I've even looked at the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of pictures, lack of text, lack of everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Graphic photos

War and peace

Barnum statements designed to appear personal to us, but in reality it is a cut and paste message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of pics or and endless stream of graphic closeups.

Lack of profile text or ignorant text.

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I'm fine with demands and preferences. Off putters are painting a picture of themselves that their the bee's knees (what are bee's knees like!?

Something that doesn't intrigue also, but I know that's subjective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The status, lack of text, all cock pictures or all fem no male. This to us is more then just wham bam's so need people with an imagination x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Text speak or shocking grammar, action pics, too much negativity, pictures that are just taken with no thought, and a lot of verifications - and bad forum behaviour

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

"me personally? arrogance, loads of cock pictures, pictures of a single man with more of a woman in them than him, lots of demands and rudeness towards other people's preferences."

Agree with rudeness and lack of respect for other peoples preferences. The deal breaker for me is always no pics or lack of pics on a profile.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

any drama that merits a BAFTA nomination

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im 40...with a picture of a cock and torso of a 60 year old

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By *now white1000Woman
over a year ago

York

A distinct lack of text, after all, your profile is your advert, it should say something about you and it should scream out to anyone looking, 'hey lets chat'

after that some pictures, there really is no excuse for not having a single picture, specially when they can be kept private and sent in messages, but no picture at all tells me to err on caution towards avoid altogether.

when there is some text to read on a profile, i hate it when it's 'i have a big one and it's rampant for you' sort of thing.

And finally the sheer number of single guys who have a profile as a couple, hey you might have been part of a couple or not, but fact is now you're single, bloody state that on the profile or start a single guy profile (Grrrrr, boils my piss that does)

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

Just a general lack of information, including photos. Swinging is heavily reliant on trust, if you're not going to part with any information at all you can't participate in this scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cpls profiles with just one half of the party in the pictures, (usually the fem half) it's a Cpls profile. We wanna see both of you, what are you hiding???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind a lack of text as it really hard to sell yourself but what is there has to well thought out, grammatically correct and positive.

Too many pics puts me off too...there is only so many ways you can show the same body before it's gets boring.

Too many verifications off different ladies with no repeat visits is also a big telling sign

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it lack of txt, pictures "

Nope

It's any profile that says not meeting

Or says quality over quantity

Or a profile over 3 months old which is unverified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cpls profiles with just one half of the party in the pictures, (usually the fem half) it's a Cpls profile. We wanna see both of you, what are you hiding???"

that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind a lack of anything, for me it's the over sharing that's off putting.

I don't like it if they complain about not getting meets or the excess of "time wasters", it just hints at them not being discriminate in who they talk to or attempt to meet with. I also don't like it when they're forceful with their kinks, e.g. "Looking for a slut to use", or if they're aggressive in their phrasings.

Sometimes verifications can be off putting too, especially if it details sex acts that are out of my comfort zone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like text speak, it winds me up. I also avoid ones that ask for a dom or bull mainly because I wouldn't know how to live up to that and don't think i'd want to. I don't like to see too many veri's either, it's a bit off putting but that's just me

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

No pics and hiding veris always makes us wonder.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Lack of pics, profile written in text speak, chav language

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the above

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By *ervertsCouple
over a year ago

halesowen

Chav speak, swearing, photos with kids toys, cot in the background. An explanation saying not swinging due to giving birth, some things are best left unsaid and unseen.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

This is easy....I like to be able to learn about a person through their profile, so ask me anything types then I can't be arsed! I'm not here to do the Spanish inquisition, plus I like to be able to see a few decent pics, not an abundance of cock pics, blurry face pics or hiding in the darkness of shadows like they think they are in the SAS and need to be covert

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me is just a general lack of effort... Whether in profile or messages. Also statuses whinging about a lack of meets, or slating a whole section of fab...eg straight men moaning about messages from single guys, just block them if it's that much of an issue!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive removed posts. Just a reminder not to post PMs in the forums - and Ive taken off the other thread about daft PMs too

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By *ana StephanieWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Fill in later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to much information in the avatar picture.

it feels strange if I chat with someone and I see her permanently with a cock in her mouth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with purehoneypot whinging before you've even messaged them not good and two page write ups and when you've spent an hour reading it and deciding they would be ok to message following all the instructions they don't answer your message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it lack of txt, pictures "

A gazillion pics of cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Will fill this in later' and they joined over a year ago :D x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles with pics that show very little of them but everything of the lasts women they shagged

Profiles that say face pics in private due to job etc but have no problem showing some woman's face in full glory sucking his cock

Black guys who describe themself as chocolate....yes of course ive tasted chocolate before now grow up and speak like an adult

Wide open arse shots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and a gazillion vaginal shots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im 40...with a picture of a cock and torso of a 60 year old

That one, and any obvious lack of honesty

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

BLOCK CAPITALS.

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

Pics with dirty untidy rooms behind.

Pics with things written on their body in lipstick

Smokers

No pics in public

Not knowing whether its male or female in description

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes no profile pic and no pics in public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"fill in later"

Especially when "fill in later" is still on a profile months after joining.

[oh, and apologies for replying to this thread as someone who has too many cock pics on their profile. My bad...]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it lack of txt, pictures "

Any thing that says' "Looking for a real man"...

Puts me straight off because anyone with that written on their profile (and there are a LOT) ..tells me she already has a very dismissive and likely negative _iew of men to start.

And any profiles with OTT rants. Put me right off too.

I actually READ text.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Is it lack of txt, pictures "

Yeah

I'd like to know how you could take a worse public pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More things than attract me Tbh, little things and feelings, lots of things some are indescribable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A profile with a long list of dislikes, followed by a list of demands that must be met for them to meet.

They should save their list for Santa as they are more likely to meet him than their perfect meet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profiles with pics that show very little of them but everything of the lasts women they shagged

Profiles that say face pics in private due to job etc but have no problem showing some woman's face in full glory sucking his cock

Black guys who describe themself as chocolate....yes of course ive tasted chocolate before now grow up and speak like an adult

Wide open arse shots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another thing that makes me think hummmmm

is middle aged and above guys who refure to themselves as lads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another thing that makes me think hummmmm

is middle aged and above guys who refure to themselves as lads "

Maybe they're talking about their 'lads'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never mention weird Irish people from London either

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Spelling and grammar.

Overly anatomical pics.

Aggressive tone.

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

Yawns and goes back to remote control to try to find something, anything.... worth watching on TV. Gives up and retires to oily bath with waterproof toys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profiles with pics that show very little of them but everything of the lasts women they shagged

Profiles that say face pics in private due to job etc but have no problem showing some woman's face in full glory sucking his cock

Black guys who describe themself as chocolate....yes of course ive tasted chocolate before now grow up and speak like an adult

Wide open arse shots

This plus graphic veris where you get a blow by blow account

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By *MP3Man
over a year ago

Between Scylla and Charybdis

Demands, demands and more demands accompanied only by a close up picture of what could be a frozen turkey - followed by the statement NO COCK PICS. Oh the irony...

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Oh yes...women who publish clearly misogynistic veris. I wonder about self esteem issues if a woman happily posts something that makes me cringe.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

The author.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most on this thread have something we would class a turn off

Sick ups .... Singles " would walk out if they didn't kiss ... What after selling your granny for a meet lol

Bulshit veris / no veris and selected veris

No new pics since 2011 lol

Spelling / grammar ?? Really who gives a rats arse

Demanding and rude ??? Ffs just get on with it a have fun ..

we could go on and on and on pmsl we would never have fun and lol we don't have to be attracted to them to meet just not put off physically and sexually !!!!

We don't look at a vibrater and feel the urge to take it to dinner ... Ffs our vibraters pmsl used , abused and always get put away wet , and wanted again

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Demands, demands and more demands accompanied only by a close up picture of what could be a frozen turkey - followed by the statement NO COCK PICS. Oh the irony...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avatar pics and 1 public the same pic ??? The point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh !!! Lol and some people on the forum that come out with stuff like " good luck getting a meet after saying stuff like that " pmsl xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bragging puts us off!

Lists puts us off!

And probably unclear pictures puts us off as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Starfish pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking for a single man POV:--

just a total lack...

pics

profile text

message

However if I was man looking for a woman.

Probably the list of preference / demands ~ call them what you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lines like this one we saw today.

She is very attractive and extremely sexy, so please do not take offence if we do not reply.

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

Crass names like 'suckmycock'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Crass names like 'suckmycock'

Using the word crass !!!

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By *an1973Man
over a year ago

Notts

"Lack of pictures, lack of text, lack of everything "

Lot of female profiles like this, but they always seem to have lots of male friends..!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like graphic pics on profiles. ie pics of other meets. open arse pics or open pussy shots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lines like this one we saw today.

She is very attractive and extremely sexy, so please do not take offence if we do not reply.

i dont like profiles who slag off others you have met, people who are going to decide to meet you based on the looks of others you have met just isn't worth a message as far as I'm concerned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lines like this one we saw today.

She is very attractive and extremely sexy, so please do not take offence if we do not reply.

i dont like profiles who slag off others you have met, people who are going to decide to meet you based on the looks of others you have met just isn't worth a message as far as I'm concerned "

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

Any one that says 'No Single Men'

Any one that has their upper age limit set below 53

LOL

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Demands, demands and more demands accompanied only by a close up picture of what could be a frozen turkey - followed by the statement NO COCK PICS. Oh the irony...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rudeness and name calling of certain types of people. It doesnt put me off though, im glad its there so I get a glimpse of the personality

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I've actually been put off someone by watching how he behaves on the forum, therefore I have no interest in looking at his profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There username. Especially 'straight' guys with gay names, like Boi!!;

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Thoughtlessness towards others, whereby the users _iewpoint is the global position on things - they kind of haven't progressed emotionally beyond 3 or 4 years of age. Their needs are the only thing of importance, others are like their servants. It's arrogant and doesn't inspire thoughts of them being adequate lovers.

This can be seen in as few words as 'fill in later' or similar, their selection of pics - which hints they have limited understanding of others, hence cock, cock, cock or several dark murky shots and statements that show how far up their own arses they - but without prostate pleasure.

Do they highlight someone who's a bit far removed from socially adequate and intimate? If so, I pass.

If they message with just a handful of words, possibly not making much sense, then this starts them sending their bullet toward their foot.

Moaning is a killer.

If there are expanses of words that say absolutely nothing, I'm out.

If there's 'we're all here for the same thing', their chances diminish, as we are not, so again highlighting poor insight upon others.

I want someone who is interesting - they can be similar or different to me, but I'm not after a bore or a twat.

Poor profiles are useful as they support easier filtering of the unsuitable put more quickly.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Do they highlight someone who's a bit far removed from socially adequate and intimate? If so, I pass.

If they message with just a handful of words, possibly not making much sense, then this starts them sending their bullet toward their foot.

Moaning is a killer.

If there are expanses of words that say absolutely nothing, I'm out.

If there's 'we're all here for the same thing', their chances diminish, as we are not, so again highlighting poor insight upon others.

I want someone who is interesting - they can be similar or different to me, but I'm not after a bore or a twat.

Poor profiles are useful as they support easier filtering of the unsuitable put more quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just the sheer arrogance of some profiles .... Like we are all here for their pleasure.... Ugh x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of text, too many pictures of one thing like 20 shots of their boobs, stupid questions in emails. Demanding pictures bit they don't have any.

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By *lligator3Man
over a year ago

Dundee

"Is it lack of txt, pictures "

Being a straight guy I'd usually say COCK!

Yip nothing turns me off more than the profile I click on the person has a cock....maybe I ought to click on profiles more carefully?!?

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Endless list of likes and dislikes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Endless list of likes and dislikes"

Have to be honest here , so going to be on the receiving end of a load of slack from couples .... bracing *myself now, but it's couples profiles that have endless lists of do's & don't . Single men are so much less stress ( lol) * MrsD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ranting about lack of meets, general ignorance, and no verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ranting about lack of meets, general ignorance, and no verifications

Moaners in general hey !

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By *ark NoirMan
over a year ago

London

When you see people say "Looking for educated people only" I find that so snobbish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you see people say "Looking for educated people only" I find that so snobbish."

Or some might say ' up their own arses'!! MrsD

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"Endless list of likes and dislikes

You better be ready for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Endless list of likes and dislikes

Bracing myself as l type lol !!

You better be ready for it

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Quite a lot of the above, but also when every interest has been ticked and they would meet 18-99 yr olds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many boxes to tick - i'm not going jump through hoops to get a meet.

Why not get to know me first and i may just actually tick those boxes without me having to fill in an application form.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many boxes to tick - i'm not going jump through hoops to get a meet.

Why not get to know me first and i may just actually tick those boxes without me having to fill in an application form.

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Excellent response MrsD typing x

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By *r and mrs willingCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH WEST & WALES

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By *r and mrs willingCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH WEST & WALES

"When you see people say "Looking for educated people only" I find that so snobbish.

Or some might say ' up their own arses'!! MrsD

Isn't it just another social preference ?

Any anyway, a few snobs thrown in to the mix helps ensure that there's someone for everyone in the wonderful world of Fab.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

Right. I've taken notes and edited my profile to fit. Let's see if it makes any difference. LOL

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By *erfectlyPervertedCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

On the 'looked me' last 100 people who looked; cock shots, just one after another.

Depressing, really.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

It's the same for single guys to. Seen more cock in the 'looked at me' then even saw when I was at boarding school. LOL

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"On the 'looked me' last 100 people who looked; cock shots, just one after another.

Depressing, really."

Now you have an ass shot too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Moaning whingy status, Will fill later as the profile text after being on site for a year, SHOUTY capitals saying what they're not looking for....use your filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been mostly said....but mainly angry at the world profiles. Are you here to just spread the anger ?

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"Is it lack of txt, pictures "

Anything that reeks of arrogance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shallow profiles with a few gym buff pics and no text.

Text speak or bad grammar - says lazy to me.

Cock pic avatar - don't mind them but not as the profile pic!

Crude status or username.

Telephone number or kik username in profile - screams of desperation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A profile with a long list of dislikes, followed by a list of demands that must be met for them to meet.

They should save their list for Santa as they are more likely to meet him than their perfect meet lol

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Well they should be In for A treat he,ll have his sack ready for Emptying..

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