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" If you can't do it sober you shouldn't be doing it at all is my opinion " | |||
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"Hi, just want to ask, does everyone have drinks before a meet? We are now into quite a few meets now and as of yet I still haven't managed to do it sober! I'm not sure why? I love sex with my partner sober so why not a meet? Any advise greatly welcome!" My advice? Stop now. You like sex with your partner but not a meet and need to drink vodka at lunch time to go through with it. That isn't right and you are making yourself very vulnerable emotionally. I'm surprised your partner hasn't stepped in to stop things before now. | |||
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"I will admit to having a few drinks at a meet... but I never ever let myself get hammered. (living in Spain for 8 months turned me into a bit of a drinker, in fairness). I like the socialness of having a drink, getting to know someone. I think there's a two drink limit, and now I know not to go beyond that, otherwise I look a bit like a piss head... last meet I had I was on a vodka and lemonade, he had a brew! It was unheard of for me, I'm used to men drinking to cope with me! In all seriousness though, I think one or two is okay, but turning up sloshed, smelling like a lush or you've been in a brewery all day isn't the one. " And what's wrong with a cup of tea? Can't beat a sweet black tea to steady ones self.....beats booze hands down every time! | |||
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"Hi, just want to ask, does everyone have drinks before a meet? We are now into quite a few meets now and as of yet I still haven't managed to do it sober! I'm not sure why? I love sex with my partner sober so why not a meet? Any advise greatly welcome! My advice? Stop now. You like sex with your partner but not a meet and need to drink vodka at lunch time to go through with it. That isn't right and you are making yourself very vulnerable emotionally. I'm surprised your partner hasn't stepped in to stop things before now. " this | |||
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"law can become a bit rapey when it comes to d*unk people having sex." hmmmmmmmm not sure where you draw the line... couple of beers should be ok, but i've never fancied shagging pissed women anyway... big turn off for me... | |||
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"I will admit to having a few drinks at a meet... but I never ever let myself get hammered. (living in Spain for 8 months turned me into a bit of a drinker, in fairness). I like the socialness of having a drink, getting to know someone. I think there's a two drink limit, and now I know not to go beyond that, otherwise I look a bit like a piss head... last meet I had I was on a vodka and lemonade, he had a brew! It was unheard of for me, I'm used to men drinking to cope with me! In all seriousness though, I think one or two is okay, but turning up sloshed, smelling like a lush or you've been in a brewery all day isn't the one. And what's wrong with a cup of tea? Can't beat a sweet black tea to steady ones self.....beats booze hands down every time! " I prefer a hot strong cup of coffee, me... | |||
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"I don't drink at all, i wouldn't be happy if a meet turned up pissed, plus the law can become a bit rapey when it comes to d*unk people having sex." Spot on. | |||
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"Mr Stopped drinking at meets as I find combined with my medication I have no chance of getting it up even with the little blue pills. Even just 1 or 2 small drinks effects me. Mrs happy to have a couple and had 1 meet where we got d*unk together over several hours followed by fun soft play. But would never turn up d*unk or even had 1 until we all together. Met people who are tea total and didn't know till we got there. Only polite to wait. " Same as that have the fun then have a drink after | |||
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"combined with my medication I have no chance of getting it up even with the little blue pills " need to speak to my GP about little blue pills ther'e s very little life in the old fella at the mo..... can still the old flag pole just not very often these days.... dons't make for an happy Ang. | |||
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"If a meet turned up d*unk I would leave and go home, alone! In my opinion, alcohol and swinging are not a good combination. When I've been to clubs I've had a couple of glasses of wine but no more. I probably drink less when swinging than I do at any other time" when we go to clubs we don't drink. Our first experience in a club and ppl we're pissed n not our thing you shouldn't need Dutch courage in swinging xx | |||
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"If you need to get d*unk before a meet you really shouldn't be doing it . If a meet turned smelling of booze I wouldn't see them " This | |||
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"Mr Stopped drinking at meets as I find combined with my medication I have no chance of getting it up even with the little blue pills. Even just 1 or 2 small drinks effects me. Mrs happy to have a couple and had 1 meet where we got d*unk together over several hours followed by fun soft play. But would never turn up d*unk or even had 1 until we all together. Met people who are tea total and didn't know till we got there. Only polite to wait. " What medication are you on i did try and send privately but blocked | |||
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"Well I don't no what to say!!! I'm not completely d*unk! I've had 2 vodkas, its just a couple to calm my nerves! I am always nervous and cannot believe you guys arnt? Its a nervouse situation meeting strangers for sex? I agree that completely d*unk isn't the way forward but a few is ok?/we have had meets where we have got d*unk during the evening! I honestly don't see having a few is problem? But I honestly don't no how u turn up straight?? I love swinging, I suppose because I'm a size 18 I feel funny with body and need to feel relaxed! Its a funny\strange lifestly!!! X" At the end of the day its what you feel happy with | |||
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"Well I don't no what to say!!! I'm not completely d*unk! I've had 2 vodkas, its just a couple to calm my nerves! I am always nervous and cannot believe you guys arnt? Its a nervouse situation meeting strangers for sex? I agree that completely d*unk isn't the way forward but a few is ok?/we have had meets where we have got d*unk during the evening! I honestly don't see having a few is problem? But I honestly don't no how u turn up straight?? I love swinging, I suppose because I'm a size 18 I feel funny with body and need to feel relaxed! Its a funny\strange lifestly!!! X" So you aren't bothered by it you just wanted our opinions? | |||
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"Sometimes if you're nervous you just need to accept the nerves and work through them How do you deal with nerves at a job interview for instance? " Get pissed and don't give them the job | |||
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" I suppose because I'm a size 18 I feel funny with body and need to feel relaxed! Its a funny\strange lifestly!!! X" I'm a size 20, have zero body confidence and get nervous as hell before a meet but I don't need alcohol to feel relaxed. I'm a chatterbox and talk too much but I find that usually breaks the ice | |||
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"Well I don't no what to say!!! I'm not completely d*unk! I've had 2 vodkas, its just a couple to calm my nerves! I am always nervous and cannot believe you guys arnt? Its a nervouse situation meeting strangers for sex? I agree that completely d*unk isn't the way forward but a few is ok?/we have had meets where we have got d*unk during the evening! I honestly don't see having a few is problem? But I honestly don't no how u turn up straight?? I love swinging, I suppose because I'm a size 18 I feel funny with body and need to feel relaxed! Its a funny\strange lifestly!!! X" Two vodkas is your alcohol units for the day and, depending on the size, could be over the limit for driving. That doesn't mean you couldn't make rational decisions but if your two send you over the limit then I would question decision-making. Your need to relax because of your size is about your state of mind. Get comfortable with you and enjoy every sexual and sensual sensation not clouded by the depressing affects of alcohol. | |||
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"He would never let me go through anything I'm not happy with! I like to have a drink and that's that's!! I'm very surprised in all the responses! " Its all good then. What did you want advice on again? | |||
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"He would never let me go through anything I'm not happy with! I like to have a drink and that's that's!! I'm very surprised in all the responses! " Look at this from another way. If you have to have a drink before you do something then there's a good chance you're not comfortable with the situation. As we don't know you it's quite a logical conclusion. | |||
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"No I don't, I drink at socials ( not so often now) but the only time I've drank on a one to one is if the guy has brought a drink and we share. If you can't do it sober you shouldn't be doing it at all is my opinion " | |||
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"Well I don't no what to say!!! I'm not completely d*unk! I've had 2 vodkas, its just a couple to calm my nerves! I am always nervous and cannot believe you guys arnt? Its a nervouse situation meeting strangers for sex? I agree that completely d*unk isn't the way forward but a few is ok?/we have had meets where we have got d*unk during the evening! I honestly don't see having a few is problem? But I honestly don't no how u turn up straight?? I love swinging, I suppose because I'm a size 18 I feel funny with body and need to feel relaxed! Its a funny\strange lifestly!!! X" To be fair the title of the thread is called "getting pissed" then in your OP you say that you've yet to meet sober! So that would suggest a few more than just a few. We just turn our nerves into excitable nerves! The anticipation is part of the build up | |||
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"If a meet turned up d*unk I would leave and go home, alone! In my opinion, alcohol and swinging are not a good combination. When I've been to clubs I've had a couple of glasses of wine but no more. I probably drink less when swinging than I do at any other time" snap ! i need all my faculties when im swinging, need to know that I am still in control of my behaviour | |||
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"Hi, just want to ask, does everyone have drinks before a meet? We are now into quite a few meets now and as of yet I still haven't managed to do it sober! I'm not sure why? I love sex with my partner sober so why not a meet? Any advise greatly welcome!" We might have the odd drink but don't get pissed or would play with people who were pissed on a meet. There are so many variables and issues it can bring up its just an avoid situation for us. | |||
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"If a meet turned up d*unk I would leave and go home, alone! In my opinion, alcohol and swinging are not a good combination. When I've been to clubs I've had a couple of glasses of wine but no more. I probably drink less when swinging than I do at any other time" Yep. I don't drink and if someone turned up with more than just a beer in his belly, the meet is off. If you really need to be d*unk to swing then you have a problem. | |||
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" If you can't do it sober you shouldn't be doing it at all is my opinion " why | |||
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" If you can't do it sober you shouldn't be doing it at all is my opinion why" I think lots of people feel that if you don't want to do something when you're sober and rational you could be storing up trouble if you drink to alter the way you feel about it. I guess that if afterwards you feel ok and happy that you went through with it then it's all good. Maybe your use of the word pissed in the title made some of us think that you were drinking a lot beforehand and also the fact that you felt you needed to find out of other people were doing the same as you might indicate that you were concerned. However as I said, if you're happy it's all good. | |||
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