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"My sentiments exactly, he was scared to go to school this morning in case his homework wasnt good enough and he got shouted at. I'm waiting to calm down before I phone the school...." Yes I had the same with mine, they panicked because the teachers were putting so much pressure and importance on it. If it is meant to be a reflection of how the kids are doing at school then making the kids do extra work isn't a true reflection. | |||
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"Am I reading this right? Do my eyes decieve me? A child is getting a Class 1 education and is in the bracket for straight As... and you're moaning about it??? Jesus, there's no pleasing some people. Why not give him a few hours off to go out and find some mieow mieow to swallow with his newly found hoody mates as they wrench the mirors of some poor hapless neighbour's car. My 12y/o is a straight A too and I make damn sure she keeps to that standard as I've explained just what lies ahead of her when she leaves school. Maybe you should try the same. " But it dont always do them good tho to have that much pressure put on them, some children just cant handle it, my eldest child is overly inteligent she sat her GCSE's early hand had finished them by the time she was 13, and then the head wanted to get her onto her A levels, problem is she dropped out of school soon as she was 16, she'd come home crying nearly every night, the pressure the school put on her was to much and i was treated like a uncaring mother when i told them to stop it, all i got was...dont you want whats best for your child etc etc we all do, but being on the verge of a break down at 14 isnt the best for noone, i feel because the school pushed her to much they actually lost her her education because now shes not interested in going to uni at all, where as if they had just left her to do it at her own pace i feel she would have gone much further with her education and got a damn good job out of it, it dont make you a bad parent to want your children to be children while they young they have the rest of their lifes to live under stress and pressure lol | |||
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"My daughter was attacked and raped at 13 by a guy at school, then faced 4 more years of bullying and torment. I wished the school put more pressure on them achieving results through education rather than who is the toughest back then. She twice attemted to take her own life, and one of the girls in her circle of friends succeeded after a couple of years of the same abuse. What has the school done since. Put locks on the doors, barbed wire on the perimeter fence, staff ptrol th interior grounds wit h2-way radios during break times. Yes give me a the pressure of an education anytime to the pressure of knowing I'm going to survive through the day without another beating or a knife at my throat. " I have no idea at all what that post has to do with the thread | |||
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"I apologise for being a bit harsh there but my mum told me at the weekend that many years ago one of my junior school teachers made an off th cuff remark about me being 'a prime minister in the making' if I was handled correctly. I wasn't. My father was forever tinkering under a car or down the pub and I've always felt that I've never lived up to my true potential. I was a child and he should have pushed me further than I thought I could go. But he didn't. My daughter is smarter than I ever was at that age and I know what she's capable of even if she doesn;'t so I intend to make sure she gets the best education as possible so that in years to come she can look back and say, "Thanks dad." I wish I could say the same to the waste of space that sired me." I can fully understand what you mean wishy.....but I think the Sats are totally different. I am sure most decent parents would want to help their children get a decent education, I know we did. My two were clever kids at school, and the teachers recognised this and pushed them how teachers do, and they have turned out one having done a degree and one about to finish....but I was still annoyed that when the sats came around, they tried to inflate the figures for their school by pushing up the homework and revision classes... whats all that about, Sats are not meant to be exams they are meant to be a reflection on how a child is doing at a certain age. to me it just looks like too much pressure to make the school statistics look healthier. | |||
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"..and no he does not hang out with hoodys and break mirrors on neighbours cars he's been brought up to no right from wrong." I wasn't suggesting he was, it was an analogy to how he could be if left to his own devices like some of these street kids are. Kids are like puppies and need continual training, the moment you relax they let their standards slip coz its more fun to go out a kick a ball around than sit down and do homework. Its all about striking the right balance I suppose. No insults were intended and I apolgise if I offended you. | |||
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"My Uncle was a professor he lectured all over europe he crammed himself with knowledge always striving to do better. He ended up having a breakdown and lived the rest of his life like a recluse shunning family and rarely leaving the house. Sorry but thats not what I want for my child. He is encouraged to do his very best but not to the point where it makes him ill, and no he does not hang out with hoodys and break mirrors on neighbours cars he's been brought up to no right from wrong." At the end of the day your child is just that, its YOUR child, what you say as a parent over rights the school, we all want the best for our kids and as a whole take advice on whats best to help them, but we know our children better than anyome else and if we feel something is just to much for them its our job to step in, ok so they may not do quite as well as they could but education isnt limited to school, there's collage and uni you have a life time to get what you want, if you really want it | |||
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"My daughter was attacked and raped at 13 by a guy at school, then faced 4 more years of bullying and torment. I wished the school put more pressure on them achieving results through education rather than who is the toughest back then. She twice attemted to take her own life, and one of the girls in her circle of friends succeeded after a couple of years of the same abuse. What has the school done since. Put locks on the doors, barbed wire on the perimeter fence, staff ptrol th interior grounds wit h2-way radios during break times. Yes give me a the pressure of an education anytime to the pressure of knowing I'm going to survive through the day without another beating or a knife at my throat. " OMG that is so awful and as a mum I really really feel for you. Nobody and in particular no child should ever undergo this kind of trauma. Education is important in an ever more competitive world, however, and this may sound a strange comment to make on a swing site... I believe we (society and each one of us) need to address the problem of family break-down. Not necessarily the traditional family unit, it can come in many shapes or forms. I am talking about the safe, secure environment where each child should feel loved , wanted and not worry about having their basic needs met for food, warmth, shelter, affection and... education is also part of that. In an improved environment all our children will grown, learn and become the responsible adults we want them to be.. thus creating a better society... I am a realist... and what I said above does not stop me from striving for those aims? | |||
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"i dont think a swingers site is the appropriate place to talk about kids!!" Not if it contained paedophilia no....but this isn't. | |||
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"i dont think a swingers site is the appropriate place to talk about kids!!" most of us have them and are open about it as it is a fact of life that we have lives outside of swinging. there is never anythin untoward said about kids.xx | |||
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"i dont think a swingers site is the appropriate place to talk about kids!!" lol - it's a forum - should we not also talk about - shoes - cooking - telly programmes - music - job worries - being happy to be alive - etc - etc - I think that it's up to parents to make sure their children are dealing with the stresses of school - I have always told my son to do his best and just a little bit extra - he's a bright lad and should do well but with support and understanding the gifted and talented idea is terrible - the head master at my son's school doesn't agree with it - it just takes the top %age perhaps 5% performing pupils and singles them out for preferential treatment - but in a school full off blockheads there would still be a %age of gifted and talented students! Oh and the worst performing pupils also get special treats - so the normal, keep steady and working hard pupils are left in the middle! Dead fair! Z | |||
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"Wow, feels like we are all back in school now....all get in the detention corner " Right that's it! Bend over I know where my conker's goin! | |||
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"Wow, feels like we are all back in school now....all get in the detention corner Right that's it! Bend over I know where my conker's goin! " *gulps* | |||
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