FabSwingers.com forum: The dangers of falling for a swinger?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have had to come off this site twice in past, due to a fellow fab swingers getting to far involved and causing me nowt but trouble and threatening to my bring personal life into swinging life.

Do swinging folk on here actually fall in love? I try my best to keep a distance between good sex and emotion...or does the purity of good sex lead to love...which is dangerous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when you're dealing with real people, anything is possible. Are you genuinely single? Are you looking for a partner or just no strings sex? Just make it clear what you are looking for, but most importantly, be honest. Perhaps you should look for one off meets rather than regular meets to help prevent emotions getting too invloved?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter how ,much you try and keep emotions separate from sex it is inevitable that someone you share you body with in the most intimate of ways could eventually read more into the relationship that you do. Even if you make it clear from the outset thgat you are only in it for the sex, you cannot prevent someone from falling in love - as many women will testify, being elusive and unavailable adds to the attraction and you could be seen as a challenge to some women. I tend to think you make a rod for your own back when you try and restrict your emotions, as sooner or later it's going to be you to be the one falling in love and it'll hurt like hell when she says, "Sorry, not for me, goodbye."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had to come off this site twice in past, due to a fellow fab swingers getting to far involved and causing me nowt but trouble and threatening to my bring personal life into swinging life.

Do swinging folk on here actually fall in love? I try my best to keep a distance between good sex and emotion...or does the purity of good sex lead to love...which is dangerous!

of course its possible .Ive done it once myself ..the feeling was mutuall but he didnt want to break up his family ..

obviously there are alot of women who think they want sex and fun but who reallyare looking for love.

.Maybe you should be much more specific on your profile...saying u can offer the best things in life is going to draw women to you ...and im guessing you are married ?? not a criticism but...??? its difficult sometimes cos of the chemistry between people gets mistaken for love ......

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By *exeteraWoman
over a year ago

Bridgend

Some people do get involved big time, males and females alike. I have quite a few friends who have got engaged to people they've met on the site. Some who still swing and others who have chosen to no longer swing. I think we just need to be 100% honest about what we want, after all this isn't a dating site but sometimes these things happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are on here looking for a partner, although putting your phone number on your profile, you are yourself mixing your personal life with your swinging life, especialy to anyone who can use google.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many couples are together after meeting through FAB or other swinger sites.

Some people ARE looking for a relationship others are not, sometimes love just slaps you in the face when you least expect it as in every walk of life.

Personally I am here for the NSA fun as I've had my great love of my life, but who knows?

No one is lying when they say I'm NOT looking for love but it does have a habit of finding you... we are after all human with human emotions... not machines. lol xx

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"threatening to my bring personal life into swinging life"

I'm confused, if you don't wish to mix the 2, why have face pics visible for all the world and his mate to see?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had to come off this site twice in past, due to a fellow fab swingers getting to far involved and causing me nowt but trouble and threatening to my bring personal life into swinging life.

Do swinging folk on here actually fall in love? I try my best to keep a distance between good sex and emotion...or does the purity of good sex lead to love...which is dangerous!

dont do regular meets, solves all that, its when you start getting to know people and meeting them on a regular basis you start getting problems, if you meet someone one, shag them and dont meet again they cant get ther wrong idea, works for me anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally cant have sex without emotions that would make me a robot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally cant have sex without emotions that would make me a robot."

Please don't take this the wrong way as it's not aimed at you but only a woman could say that.

No doubt there will be plenty of protestations to the contrary but for most blokes it's simply the process of emptying their sac and more often than not love,lust or fancy are not even part of the equation

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

It is easy, don't meet the person more than once or twice....then there is no chance of anyone getting involved.

Keep it to NSA sex without emotion....that is what I have with the men we meet.

We did have one man where there were signs he was getting a bit too clingy so we just said bye bye...it was as easy as that.

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By *aughty_kittyWoman
over a year ago

finger licking good

i can have sex with out emotions, i fake it most times anyway

the strangest thing was meeting a couple, supossed to be all happy loved up n shit, then he trying to meet me on the side and saying he loves me!!!!!!! freaaaaaak. they sort of emotions i dont wanna know!

i dont have any emotion in swinging.

wait

i just have no emotions at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's a little different for singles? I don't know if that's so, but maybe if people who are genuinely single meet others for casual sex, then of course it's possible for other feelings to come into play. I know that we treat swinging as purely sexy fun and nothing else, but having said that we know of at least two proper couples (as opposed to f/buddies) who have split up with one partner getting together with the other partner of a couple they met swinging. Maybe they already had issues to start with but I guess everyones human.

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Even if people join the likes of Fab for NSA fun, sometimes two people just meet and there is chemistry between them that is very different to other meets they might have had. I know quite a few people this has happend to recently.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Personally cant have sex without emotions that would make me a robot."

We generally on do 'one off's'

Does that make me a robot?

No, it makes me a swinger of MY choice. We don't want emotions with others, only between me and hubby and the best way to keep it that way is to not meet regularly (in our opinion).

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

"Even if people join the likes of Fab for NSA fun, sometimes two people just meet and there is chemistry between them that is very different to other meets they might have had. I know quite a few people this has happend to recently.

By the way I am talking about single folks who have become couples.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

By the way I am talking about single folks who have become couples."

And there's plenty of 'em.......

Dirty sods!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you never know whats waitin round a corner .....love to me is just chemicals get the domestos out and u get rid of them!!

i suppose if you honest from the start and if you develop feelings to speak about them clear the air know where you stand and get told an honest answer then it may be easier!

if i found myself falling for someone i would need to say even if it meant rejection xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had to come off this site twice in past, due to a fellow fab swingers getting to far involved and causing me nowt but trouble and threatening to my bring personal life into swinging life.

Do swinging folk on here actually fall in love? I try my best to keep a distance between good sex and emotion...or does the purity of good sex lead to love...which is dangerous!

I think there are many on here looking for a more than swinging. I would presume other sites would be more successful though.

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