FabSwingers.com forum: Profile effort

By *rHotNotts OP Man
20 hours ago

Dubai & Nottingham

How much effort did you put into making your profile?

It always surprises me when people complain they don’t get the results they want here (all genders) and then you look at their profiles and they’ve clearly made no effort to attract and support the interactions they are looking for. Some of the best profiles are the hidden ones with the silhouette avatars, they must meet the users expectations perfectly.

Profile is the easy part you only need to do it once just take some effort . Unlike messaging and interacting, if you have a good profile, it will work for you even when you’re not feeling like doing anything.

Sometimes I get messages really nice first messages that surprise me a little, look at the profile and think you’ve made no effort, maybe you’re entitled or just don’t get it.

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By *ragonDuo34Couple
18 hours ago

Spalding

I think it's important to put some effort in, I tend to check profile first before responding to messages - especially with single men

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By *atural_born_thriller_xMan
18 hours ago

Lowestoft

I’ve put a fair bit of effort into mine. It’s got humour, personality, interests and enough conversation starters to give people a feel for who I am. I’d rather be myself and risk putting a few people off than write what I think people want to hear. I’m too old to be blagging my way into someone’s knickers. x

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By *nbowedMan
17 hours ago

Wythall

I have to rein in my waffling tendencies as I could write a novel-length one if I chose, and most who actually read profiles reckon some solid truthful detail crammed into a few paragraphs that you won't need to scroll is about right, so that's mine.

Bugbears for me about other people's are obviously those with no info, but then also the ones that look like they're written with AI doing the editing and that bland, superficially impressive style that actually says nothing.

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By *oyoteUglyWoman
17 hours ago

A whole 5 mins of my best work went into my profile.

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By *atinaChica54Woman
16 hours ago

Marlborough

Not much effort required for me to give "Fuck Off" vibes in my profile tbh😇

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
16 hours ago

In a galaxy far far away

I wrote mine when I was pissed

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By *carlettsWoman
16 hours ago

Somewhere out there

Reading mine back I think I wrote it when I was angry with the world. Oh well

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By *ino200Man
16 hours ago

Bournemouth and London

I employed a journalist from the BBC to help write mine and its the best it can be

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By *uckMe12FreeMan
15 hours ago

(User no longer on site)

Loads of effort.

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By *uriosusxxxMan
15 hours ago

Swaffham

"I employed a journalist from the BBC to help write mine and its the best it can be

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

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By *panked and squeezedCouple
15 hours ago

notts/burton/derby

Everytime we rejoin we always put alot of effort into ours,we think it's important to find a connection.

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By *yprusdreamWoman
15 hours ago

Cyprus

I revisit mine often when asked the same stupid questions over and over again. I'm not sure why as those asking the stupid questions probably don't read it anyway 🤷‍♀️

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By *6NYorksMan
15 hours ago

Seaside Ish

Im a real waffler and it shows. Lol.

Depends on how you define effort. If putting a few lines of text on here is too much, what else has gone in the "too hard" basket. Lol

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By *manwithnonameMan
15 hours ago

Bucks

I spent hours carefully taking, editing and curating all my most seductive photos, they really show off my best side

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By *athomMan
15 hours ago

South Coast

This is me, I have nothing else to offer.

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By *ightDesiresCouple
14 hours ago

Northamptonshire

Ours started out a bit short and we've added more to it since getting the same questions over and over , we go back to it once in a while to add to it or remove/change parts. We know some will say its a long profile but we feel every part serves a purpose , it probably puts some off when they see it and can't be bothered to read through and that's fine it works as a filter, and let's be honest you could have a profile that says "we like sex" and people would still only look at your pictures.

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By *infullyObedientWoman
14 hours ago

Woodley

Mine has been edited a few times over the years. I like what I have now.

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By *he MinionMan
14 hours ago

Surrey

Mine has evolved over the years but the bare bones are still there.

Does it show effort ? Who knows

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By *tandardIssueNerdMan
14 hours ago

Telford

I would like to think I've made an effort in my profile.

But in terms of private meets, I've basically had no luck. Regardless of my profile content, pictures, message etc.

It's all been club meets, from which I would like to step back for a bit.

So something must be clearly wrong with my profile.

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By *he MinionMan
14 hours ago

Surrey

"Mine has been edited a few times over the years. I like what I have now. "

There is much to like 😉

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By *a LunaWoman
14 hours ago

Wales

When I met I put the effort into my profile and pics.

Now I don’t? Not so much.

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By *ightDesiresCouple
14 hours ago

Northamptonshire

"I would like to think I've made an effort in my profile.

But in terms of private meets, I've basically had no luck. Regardless of my profile content, pictures, message etc.

It's all been club meets, from which I would like to step back for a bit.

So something must be clearly wrong with my profile."

I don't think that's necessarily true your profile seems fine , even as a couple we've had no meets from Fab , everyone we have met has been through clubs , a lot of people we talk to have said the same We just think Fab works for some and not for others , we use it now more for the forums and keeping up with people we have met.

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By *sWyldWoman
13 hours ago

Edinburgh

I tried to make an effort with mine. I try to have decent photos . It frustrates me when I get send 3 word messages from people who haven't even bothered to tidy up before they snap a pic or write anything about themselves.

Lazy profile, lazy lover springs to mind.

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
13 hours ago

North Somerset

This one? A fair bit. It gives plenty of info and clues as how to not attract our interest.

My solo one? I haven't put any effort into that in months. 🤷‍♂️

Obi

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
13 hours ago

East Sussex

Shakespeare was our inspiration ...😝

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By *uiGonKenobiMan
13 hours ago

Blüdhaven

"How much effort did you put into making your profile?"

Not enough.

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By *unilingusMan
10 hours ago

Dorset

"A whole 5 mins of my best work went into my profile.

5 mins well spent I'd say

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By *unilingusMan
10 hours ago

Dorset

I find it hard to write about myself, its hard to sum up a personality in words I prefer actions

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By *r DiverseMan
8 hours ago

Home

Currently on version 64

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
8 hours ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

We often get told that our profile didn’t get read because it was too long, we are of the opinion that if someone can’t take 5 mins to read all of our profile why should we take any time to get to know them or get naked with them? We read each and every profile of anyone we engage with it’s not that difficult and stops us messaging or replying to people that are not for us ?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
8 hours ago

Carlisle usually

Oh. Very little.

I realised long ago that meeting weirdos off here in private was a terrible game, so my profile only exists so I can see what's on at the clubs, be findable by people I meet there, fuck about on the forums, and vaguely amuse myself.

At this point it's a lot of 60 seconds or less additions all bundled together when something struck me to add either because I'm tired of something or amused by something 💜

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
8 hours ago

Gloucestershire

My profile right now? Zero effort

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By *issy LanaTV/TS
7 hours ago

Slough

Not a lot, however forever tinkering around with it adding, deleting, etc.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
7 hours ago

Kent

Too much obviously as no bugger even bothers to read it.

Mrs x

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By *rHotNotts OP Man
4 hours ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I find it hard to write about myself, its hard to sum up a personality in words I prefer actions

I didn’t say it was easy…. That might be true but the first thing someone is gonna do when deciding whether to message you or message back is take a look at your profile, the actions will come after.

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By *hilly1515Man
4 hours ago

A reasonable effort and it has helped solve the problem I was encountering of being used like a human dildo for some of the more viracious womanly appetites as a sexual conquest.

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By * Couple From EuropeCouple
4 hours ago

Based Hull/ Travel Humberside- Leeds

We do put effort and keep it updated. Shame that a lot of people are not willing to read it all and choose to ask us questions but the answers are already there.

We always check profiles and try our best not to waste people time.

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By * Couple From EuropeCouple
4 hours ago

Based Hull/ Travel Humberside- Leeds

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By *rHotNotts OP Man
4 hours ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think some people have misunderstood. It’s not about writing a long profile although often long profiles are very good profiles its simply have you put the effort into your profile to match your expectations of what type of interactions you want from other members of the site.

I don’t think it matters that if 99% of men don’t read them, because most people are only interested in one percent or less of people here. You’re not writing your profile for the people that you don’t want to meet…. Have you put the effort in to engage the one percent that you might want to.

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By * Couple From EuropeCouple
4 hours ago

Based Hull/ Travel Humberside- Leeds

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By * Couple From EuropeCouple
4 hours ago

Based Hull/ Travel Humberside- Leeds

"We often get told that our profile didn’t get read because it was too long, we are of the opinion that if someone can’t take 5 mins to read all of our profile why should we take any time to get to know them or get naked with them? We read each and every profile of anyone we engage with it’s not that difficult and stops us messaging or replying to people that are not for us ?"

We are on the same page. 100% agree to what you wrote

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By *tandardIssueNerdMan
4 hours ago

Telford

"I think some people have misunderstood. It’s not about writing a long profile although often long profiles are very good profiles its simply have you put the effort into your profile to match your expectations of what type of interactions you want from other members of the site.

Yes, I do think I've put in enough effort in my profile, and it's the same amount I expect back from the people I get in touch with.

Is it perfect? No. But chasing the perfect profile would drive a person mad.

However, that effort is very, very rarely reciprocated.

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By *ennyhotlegsTV/TS
3 hours ago

Coleshill

I believe my profile tells you all you need to know about me to obtain a comprehensive knowledge of what I'm about.

People are lazy and don't read biopsy.

It pisses me off

Also it pisses me off thar straight men message asking to suck my cock.

When I challenge them that it's deceitful to women that they are obviously bi, they get pissy with me.

A little honesty goes a long way in my book

End of rant lol.. enjoy the site

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By * Couple From EuropeCouple
3 hours ago

Based Hull/ Travel Humberside- Leeds

Brilliant profile info BTW!

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By *hinstrapMan
3 hours ago

sheffield

"A whole 5 mins of my best work went into my profile.

5 ooo you perfectionist. I struggled for 3 mins

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By *ealitybitesMan
3 hours ago

Belfast

My profile text hasn't changed one iota since before covid because I haven't been meeting and therefore don't have a target audience.

If I was to start meeting again I wouldn't change anything about my profile because it represents me and what I am here for.

If that puts people off then it puts them off and I won't be trying to change their mind.

I made an effort with my pics and bio but I expect effort in return.

I have never and will never take advice on my profile because I'm not here to please everyone.

It's a take it or leave it situation and if someone is attracted to my pics or anything I've said in my bio they are going to have to work to get my attention and my profile as it is should leave them in no doubt about that.

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By *oyoteUglyWoman
3 hours ago

I've tried doing fab lots of ways. The serious bio. The list of what I want and don't want bio.

I've realised having a completely pointless one attracts the hot sexually deviant ones.

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By *ookie46Woman
3 hours ago

Deepest darkest Peru

My bio is pretty simple, straightforward and a bit fun

Some effort was put into it, mostly the pics

Always get asked if I’m telling the truth about the first line 🙄🙄

But it’s easier to be upfront

I’ve been really lucky with the connections I’ve made although a lot of people I’ve met at organised socials rather than them being attracted by my profile ☺️

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By *aitonelMan
2 hours ago

Ohhh when it comes to this place, effort and myself are no longer a couple. Not even friends with benefits. That time has long passed.

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By *ffy_xoWoman
2 hours ago

Fife

Very little.

People just look at the pictures anyway.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
2 hours ago

Chichester

"Very little.

People just look at the pictures anyway."

lol true

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By *agic MikeDropMan
2 hours ago

Kent/London

Huge effort...I even went to Sydney University to get all the necessary information about fab profiles 👨‍🎓

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By *oeBeansMan
2 hours ago

Derby

I've put quite a bit of effort into my profile. I rarely change the bio text as what I'm looking for hasn't really changed but always keep on top of making sure pics are up to date, even if there is a danger of there being too many.

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By *aitonelMan
2 hours ago

"Very little.

People just look at the pictures anyway."

Lies! I read every word.

Then though I'd avoid at all costs.

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By *ffy_xoWoman
2 hours ago

Fife

"Very little.

People just look at the pictures anyway.

Lies! I read every word.

Then though I'd avoid at all costs. "

It works!

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By *alimaliWoman
2 hours ago

end of my Tether

Mine changes with my mood.

In the summer it was a bilingual affair, with detailed description of my wants and needs, and a handful of tasteful photos.

Current profile mood is "bog off leave me alone" 🤣

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By *aitonelMan
2 hours ago

"Very little.

People just look at the pictures anyway.

Lies! I read every word.

Then though I'd avoid at all costs.

It works!"

But I also know you so that played its part too.

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By *ffy_xoWoman
2 hours ago

Fife

"Very little.

People just look at the pictures anyway.

Lies! I read every word.

Then though I'd avoid at all costs.

It works!

But I also know you so that played its part too. "

😭

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By *pace cowboy05Man
2 hours ago

wales/london/ southwest

Far too much for the level of attention it gets.

To be fair its evolved over the years.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
1 hour ago

1127 walnut avenue

Not as much effort as it takes people to read it..😸

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By *hoebeCox75Woman
1 hour ago

no thanks

I did put effort in but it attracted the wrong types so now I'm rethinking if I even want to ever bother again.

Some nice people on here but the wrong ones make it pretty shit.

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By *hoebeCox75Woman
1 hour ago

no thanks

"I tried to make an effort with mine. I try to have decent photos . It frustrates me when I get send 3 word messages from people who haven't even bothered to tidy up before they snap a pic or write anything about themselves.

Lazy profile, lazy lover springs to mind.

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saves time though, you can instantly reject them x

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By *ikSantosMan
1 hour ago

Kidderminster

I tried to be very honest on mine. Being an older guy, it’s pointless trying to be some whipper snapper. Without listing all of my social interests, I tried to give a flavour of who you might be meeting.

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By *eroLondonMan
55 minutes ago

Mayfair

I'm more than content with my profile. It's come a long way from its initial genesis (of uselessness) to the current 'oeuvre' - an indication of how much effort I've put into it.

It serves me well and lives up to (my) expectations.

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By *rHotNotts OP Man
14 minutes ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I did put effort in but it attracted the wrong types so now I'm rethinking if I even want to ever bother again.

Some nice people on here but the wrong ones make it pretty shit."

I would imagine that all women's profiles attract the wrong ones, because the wrong ones don't even read them! What's more important this whether it connects with the people that you would like to talk to?

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