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"Surely thats ultimately down to how the individual feels about themselves Id be dammed if i was to accept a label given to me from someone else lol " This. I feel it's the most accurate for me, if you don't, I'm sure I don’t have point out where you can shove it... | |||
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"I suppose technically if you've done it and liked it you are no longer Bi Curious, although some people tend to use it as a marker to say they are only mildly Bi." So they've only caught a mild case of the Ghey?  | |||
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"When you touch your toes. Seriously though, quite simply I don’t know. I class as curious but I’ve had sexual interactions with men and enjoyed it, so does that make me bi, I guess it does. Is there a difference between sex with men and truly fancying men, does kissing mark the distinction. " Think a lot of guys say curious as they don't really fancy men. It is a basic sexual thing. | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi." When same-sex attraction stops feeling like a question and starts feeling like the same kind of pull as attraction to another gender. It’s about attraction, not a sexual act or body count.  | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi." I'm down as bi curious as I'll only top,in my opinion to be bisexual you'd have to be Vers to experience both . | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi. I'm down as bi curious as I'll only top,in my opinion to be bisexual you'd have to be Vers to experience both . " If you have to be versatile to be bisexual, then by that logic, strict tops or strict bottoms can’t be gay either. Gay and bi tops exist, and they are fully secure in their orientation without needing to change their position to prove it. | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi. I'm down as bi curious as I'll only top,in my opinion to be bisexual you'd have to be Vers to experience both . " Top/vers/bottom seems like an entirely different axis, to me. I know gay guys who exclusively topped/bottomed; does that only make them "gay-curious"? 
And what about straight people who exclusively top/bottom? Are they straight-curious?
Personally I think gay/bi/straight is who you like fucking, "curious" or not is how much you identify with each alignment, and top/vers/bottom is just *how* you like fucking those people. They're three entirely orthogonal axes. | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi. I'm down as bi curious as I'll only top,in my opinion to be bisexual you'd have to be Vers to experience both . If you have to be versatile to be bisexual, then by that logic, strict tops or strict bottoms can’t be gay either. Gay and bi tops exist, and they are fully secure in their orientation without needing to change their position to prove it." Well they can be gay if they aren't fucking the opposite sex !!! We are talking about bisexual, playing with M/F , all I'm saying is I won't bottom at all but will fuck men and women, so in my view I can't be bisexual , but it's only my view 👍🏻 | |||
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 it would sound more feasible if you just said im not bi because i said so | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi. I'm down as bi curious as I'll only top,in my opinion to be bisexual you'd have to be Vers to experience both . If you have to be versatile to be bisexual, then by that logic, strict tops or strict bottoms can’t be gay either. Gay and bi tops exist, and they are fully secure in their orientation without needing to change their position to prove it. Well they can be gay if they aren't fucking the opposite sex !!! We are talking about bisexual, playing with M/F , all I'm saying is I won't bottom at all but will fuck men and women, so in my view I can't be bisexual , but it's only my view 👍🏻" So a gay top is gay because he only fucks men. A straight top is straight because he only fucks women. But a guy who fucks both men and women isn't bisexual just because he's a top? The math doesn't add up. You are literally describing bisexual behaviour while sprinting away from the label. | |||
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"When it becomes a regular thing. I dropped the curious when I had a regular gut fuck budy and frequented the sauna when I could. " What if they didn’t like it. Really didn’t like. No way they could like it. But keep doing it? | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi. I'm down as bi curious as I'll only top,in my opinion to be bisexual you'd have to be Vers to experience both . If you have to be versatile to be bisexual, then by that logic, strict tops or strict bottoms can’t be gay either. Gay and bi tops exist, and they are fully secure in their orientation without needing to change their position to prove it. Well they can be gay if they aren't fucking the opposite sex !!! We are talking about bisexual, playing with M/F , all I'm saying is I won't bottom at all but will fuck men and women, so in my view I can't be bisexual , but it's only my view 👍🏻" 🤔🤔🤔😂😂😂😂😂😂 | |||
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"When it becomes a regular thing. I dropped the curious when I had a regular gut fuck budy and frequented the sauna when I could. What if they didn’t like it. Really didn’t like. No way they could like it. But keep doing it? " If someone hates broccoli, they don't actively go out of their way to buy it, cook it, and eat it every single week. People don't repeatedly seek out, plan, and engage in elective sex with men if there isn't a deep, fundamental desire drawing them there. They might hate the guilt afterward, but they definitely liked the act. | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi. I'm down as bi curious as I'll only top,in my opinion to be bisexual you'd have to be Vers to experience both . If you have to be versatile to be bisexual, then by that logic, strict tops or strict bottoms can’t be gay either. Gay and bi tops exist, and they are fully secure in their orientation without needing to change their position to prove it. Well they can be gay if they aren't fucking the opposite sex !!! We are talking about bisexual, playing with M/F , all I'm saying is I won't bottom at all but will fuck men and women, so in my view I can't be bisexual , but it's only my view 👍🏻 So a gay top is gay because he only fucks men. A straight top is straight because he only fucks women. But a guy who fucks both men and women isn't bisexual just because he's a top? The math doesn't add up. You are literally describing bisexual behaviour while sprinting away from the label." A gay man is surely gay as he doesn't want to go with a woman , irrespective of being a top or a bottom 🤔 First time I've ever heard of a straight top 🤣🤣🤣🤣 otherwise it's an oxymoron 😱 | |||
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"I love reading the reasons people are deermine there not bi on these threads it would sound more feasible if you just said im not bi because i said so "Computer says no | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi. I'm down as bi curious as I'll only top,in my opinion to be bisexual you'd have to be Vers to experience both . If you have to be versatile to be bisexual, then by that logic, strict tops or strict bottoms can’t be gay either. Gay and bi tops exist, and they are fully secure in their orientation without needing to change their position to prove it. Well they can be gay if they aren't fucking the opposite sex !!! We are talking about bisexual, playing with M/F , all I'm saying is I won't bottom at all but will fuck men and women, so in my view I can't be bisexual , but it's only my view 👍🏻 So a gay top is gay because he only fucks men. A straight top is straight because he only fucks women. But a guy who fucks both men and women isn't bisexual just because he's a top? The math doesn't add up. You are literally describing bisexual behaviour while sprinting away from the label. A gay man is surely gay as he doesn't want to go with a woman , irrespective of being a top or a bottom 🤔 First time I've ever heard of a straight top 🤣🤣🤣🤣 otherwise it's an oxymoron 😱" The fact that you didn’t deny sprinting from the label says it all. Look, the stigma around being bi is real, and it can be scary. If calling yourself 'curious' is the shield you need right now to feel safe while you figure yourself out, that’s your journey. But let's not pretend it’s about bedroom mechanics. | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi. I'm down as bi curious as I'll only top,in my opinion to be bisexual you'd have to be Vers to experience both . If you have to be versatile to be bisexual, then by that logic, strict tops or strict bottoms can’t be gay either. Gay and bi tops exist, and they are fully secure in their orientation without needing to change their position to prove it. Well they can be gay if they aren't fucking the opposite sex !!! We are talking about bisexual, playing with M/F , all I'm saying is I won't bottom at all but will fuck men and women, so in my view I can't be bisexual , but it's only my view 👍🏻 So a gay top is gay because he only fucks men. A straight top is straight because he only fucks women. But a guy who fucks both men and women isn't bisexual just because he's a top? The math doesn't add up. You are literally describing bisexual behaviour while sprinting away from the label. A gay man is surely gay as he doesn't want to go with a woman , irrespective of being a top or a bottom 🤔 First time I've ever heard of a straight top 🤣🤣🤣🤣 otherwise it's an oxymoron 😱 The fact that you didn’t deny sprinting from the label says it all. Look, the stigma around being bi is real, and it can be scary. If calling yourself 'curious' is the shield you need right now to feel safe while you figure yourself out, that’s your journey. But let's not pretend it’s about bedroom mechanics." Not sure what your problem is fella, you need to wind that neck in lol As stated, it's my view. You're making a big thing over nothing. Calm down, have a cup of tea and chill 👍🏻 | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi." I’d say that bi curious means there is a level of sexual arousal from thinking of, and/or looking at a person of the same sex ,or even just a chemistry that goes beyond friendship if it’s someone you’ve met face to face. This could lead to experimenting sexually with a person of the same sex occasionally, but preference still swings towards the opposite sex. Fully bi means there is equal attraction to either sex. I have had situations where my dick has been next to another man’s, I’ve experienced DP on a couple of occasions, also double blow job, I found it highly erotic, but I realised it’s not the close contact with another man that turns me on, it’s the taboo nature of the situation. I also had a couple of times with an ex where we played with a bi man, she was turned on by gay men, and she wanted to see me get sucked off, I obliged because I wanted to please her, but it did absolutely nothing for me sexually. Before I experienced this, it did occur to me that I could be bi curious because I could get turned on watching bi porn (2 men 1 woman), but I now realise I’m straight. So I guess, for me bi curious is if a person thinks it might be something they like, and fully bi is when they know for certain it’s something they like. | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi. I'm down as bi curious as I'll only top,in my opinion to be bisexual you'd have to be Vers to experience both . If you have to be versatile to be bisexual, then by that logic, strict tops or strict bottoms can’t be gay either. Gay and bi tops exist, and they are fully secure in their orientation without needing to change their position to prove it. Well they can be gay if they aren't fucking the opposite sex !!! We are talking about bisexual, playing with M/F , all I'm saying is I won't bottom at all but will fuck men and women, so in my view I can't be bisexual , but it's only my view 👍🏻 So a gay top is gay because he only fucks men. A straight top is straight because he only fucks women. But a guy who fucks both men and women isn't bisexual just because he's a top? The math doesn't add up. You are literally describing bisexual behaviour while sprinting away from the label. A gay man is surely gay as he doesn't want to go with a woman , irrespective of being a top or a bottom 🤔 First time I've ever heard of a straight top 🤣🤣🤣🤣 otherwise it's an oxymoron 😱 The fact that you didn’t deny sprinting from the label says it all. Look, the stigma around being bi is real, and it can be scary. If calling yourself 'curious' is the shield you need right now to feel safe while you figure yourself out, that’s your journey. But let's not pretend it’s about bedroom mechanics. Not sure what your problem is fella, you need to wind that neck in lol As stated, it's my view. You're making a big thing over nothing. Calm down, have a cup of tea and chill 👍🏻" I am perfectly calm, fella. Pointing out that you are completely twisting yourself in knots to avoid a label doesn't mean I need a cup of tea, it just means I can see right through a lazy deflection. I gave you a basic bit of logic about orientation, and now you are playing the 'calm down' card because you cannot actually defend your point. But while we are on the subject of your views, have you actually sat down and considered dealing with your own internalised homophobia/biphobia? Because from where I am sitting, you enjoying fucking men while clinging to a 'curious' label like a safety blanket so you do not have to associate with the rest of those who are comfortable with their sexual orientations. It is a known fact that bisexual men, especially those who remain safely tucked away in opposite sex relationships, often carry the highest levels of internalised homophobia and biphobia because they can hide behind a straight passing life. You need to ask yourself why being called bisexual makes you panic so much that you have to tell another bloke to wind his neck in just for pointing out the obvious. | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi. I'm down as bi curious as I'll only top,in my opinion to be bisexual you'd have to be Vers to experience both . If you have to be versatile to be bisexual, then by that logic, strict tops or strict bottoms can’t be gay either. Gay and bi tops exist, and they are fully secure in their orientation without needing to change their position to prove it. Well they can be gay if they aren't fucking the opposite sex !!! We are talking about bisexual, playing with M/F , all I'm saying is I won't bottom at all but will fuck men and women, so in my view I can't be bisexual , but it's only my view 👍🏻 So a gay top is gay because he only fucks men. A straight top is straight because he only fucks women. But a guy who fucks both men and women isn't bisexual just because he's a top? The math doesn't add up. You are literally describing bisexual behaviour while sprinting away from the label. A gay man is surely gay as he doesn't want to go with a woman , irrespective of being a top or a bottom 🤔 First time I've ever heard of a straight top 🤣🤣🤣🤣 otherwise it's an oxymoron 😱 The fact that you didn’t deny sprinting from the label says it all. Look, the stigma around being bi is real, and it can be scary. If calling yourself 'curious' is the shield you need right now to feel safe while you figure yourself out, that’s your journey. But let's not pretend it’s about bedroom mechanics. Not sure what your problem is fella, you need to wind that neck in lol As stated, it's my view. You're making a big thing over nothing. Calm down, have a cup of tea and chill 👍🏻 I am perfectly calm, fella. Pointing out that you are completely twisting yourself in knots to avoid a label doesn't mean I need a cup of tea, it just means I can see right through a lazy deflection. I gave you a basic bit of logic about orientation, and now you are playing the 'calm down' card because you cannot actually defend your point. But while we are on the subject of your views, have you actually sat down and considered dealing with your own internalised homophobia/biphobia? Because from where I am sitting, you enjoying fucking men while clinging to a 'curious' label like a safety blanket so you do not have to associate with the rest of those who are comfortable with their sexual orientations. It is a known fact that bisexual men, especially those who remain safely tucked away in opposite sex relationships, often carry the highest levels of internalised homophobia and biphobia because they can hide behind a straight passing life. You need to ask yourself why being called bisexual makes you panic so much that you have to tell another bloke to wind his neck in just for pointing out the obvious." Which brings me to a genuine question: do the lads at the pub know you shag blokes? I am only asking because you state it only has to do with bedroom mechanics, and I want to know whether the other lads feel the same way about it. I know how most of them would respond, but I would like to hear your answer first. | |||
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"Surely thats ultimately down to how the individual feels about themselves Id be dammed if i was to accept a label given to me from someone else lol " It is very easy for a straight woman to lecture others about personal journeys when you have never had to fight for your identity to be recognised. By reducing orientation to a subjective feeling, you are inadvertently advocating for the closet. You are essentially saying it is completely fine for a bloke to hide away, use gay men for secret sex, and look down on their labels, as long as that is how he feels comfortable. | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi." The moment you try it, you like it and realise you want to explore it further. | |||
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"Is there a middle ground such as orally bi? Love that and frotting, dvp, double barrel bjs, fuck licking, but not attracted to guys in general or having sex with them "So basically it's not gay if it's a three-way? | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi. The moment you try it, you like it and realise you want to explore it further." Definitely past that now lol | |||
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"Is there a middle ground such as orally bi? Love that and frotting, dvp, double barrel bjs, fuck licking, but not attracted to guys in general or having sex with them "I think this is where a lot of guys who have chosen bi-curious may sit. I can count my same sex interactions on both hands since I joined Fab nearly two decades ago. Each has occurred as part of an MMF with no anal play between the guys. I've never been interested in meeting a guy alone. If there was a 'bi-playful' option I'd choose that. 🤷♂️ It's not something that happens frequently enough to indicate that it's an essential part of a meet. If it does, it does. And even when we've met bi or curious guys before it's often been for a 'straight' threesome. So I care if someone thinks I should reclassify my sexuality because I've done it more than once? Not one bit. Obi | |||
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"Is there a middle ground such as orally bi? Love that and frotting, dvp, double barrel bjs, fuck licking, but not attracted to guys in general or having sex with them
I think this is where a lot of guys who have chosen bi-curious may sit.
I can count my same sex interactions on both hands since I joined Fab nearly two decades ago. Each has occurred as part of an MMF with no anal play between the guys. I've never been interested in meeting a guy alone.
If there was a 'bi-playful' option I'd choose that. 🤷♂️
It's not something that happens frequently enough to indicate that it's an essential part of a meet. If it does, it does. And even when we've met bi or curious guys before it's often been for a 'straight' threesome.
So I care if someone thinks I should reclassify my sexuality because I've done it more than once? Not one bit.
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To be honest I don’t care about labels, I’m just horny and enjoy sexual fun with other horny people | |||
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"When you keep doing it and enjoy it" Do you? | |||
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"When does bi-curious become bi." Surely once you have dipped your toe in the water and found out 👍 | |||
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"Recently got into bi fun . Don’t fancy men like I do women. However it’s an easier way to reach orgasm which is what we all want " I’m like you I don’t fancy guys. But enjoy their body’s. Iv only recently starting seeing guys and it’s been great fun so far. | |||
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"I don't have time to fuss about labels or micro-definitions. Far as I'm concerned if I'm with a man it's gay sex, simple as, and if with a woman it's straight. Both equally enjoyable in different ways and isn't that what the very definition of bisexual is?" I understand wanting to keep things simple, but that logic confuses the action with the person. The intimacy itself might be same-sex or opposite-sex, but the individual's orientation doesn't constantly switch gears. They are still a bisexual person experiencing attraction, which means it doesn't neatly fit into a gay or straight box. | |||
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"I don't have time to fuss about labels or micro-definitions. Far as I'm concerned if I'm with a man it's gay sex, simple as, and if with a woman it's straight. Both equally enjoyable in different ways and isn't that what the very definition of bisexual is? I understand wanting to keep things simple, but that logic confuses the action with the person. The intimacy itself might be same-sex or opposite-sex, but the individual's orientation doesn't constantly switch gears. They are still a bisexual person experiencing attraction, which means it doesn't neatly fit into a gay or straight box." This! I'm always Bisexual, no matter who I'm having sex with/dating at the time. I also didn't need to have sex with anyone in order to 'become' Bisexual. Do straight people need to have sex before they think of themselves as/know that they're straight? | |||
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"Some amazing answers in this. You label your self. Don't let anyone give you a label. " You are saying this to make yourself feel more comfortable. What's so wrong with saying you're bi or at least bi-curious. Do you not want to be associated with "poofs" or something? Would you accept a gay label from a man who actively exclusively sleeps with women and states he enjoys it? | |||
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"Some amazing answers in this. You label your self. Don't let anyone give you a label. You are saying this to make yourself feel more comfortable. What's so wrong with saying you're bi or at least bi-curious. Do you not want to be associated with "poofs" or something? Would you accept a gay label from a man who actively exclusively sleeps with women and states he enjoys it? " Ask the lads at the pub if shagging other blokes is straight. | |||
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"If you fantasize about it your bi curious. Once youve done the deed your bi sexual. But dont worry about labels.just be who you are" Karen do you ever sleep x | |||
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"If you fantasize about it your bi curious. Once youve done the deed your bi sexual. But dont worry about labels.just be who you are Karen do you ever sleep x" rarely lol Then every once in a while I go into a deep sleep | |||
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