FabSwingers.com forum: I'm So Humble

By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

On a scale of 1-10, how much do you like yourself at this moment?

And because things can be slightly binary on the forum - do you prefer people who overall dislike or like themselves?

Do you ever think a person *shouldn't* like who they are/how they look?

Humbly yours

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By *onin25Man
6 days ago

Durham

I don't know, I generally like myself without thinking I'm amazing. I'm competent. So what's that a 6?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
6 days ago

Carlisle usually

About an eight. Positive marks for general aesthetics and personality, negative marks for not having done the hoovering or changed the bed yet.

I like people who like themselves. I think it's important. I have no issues helping a friend or loved one through a rough patch, everyone can have low periods, but in meeting new people I definitely don't want to get to know someone who's consistently down on themselves, it makes me feel like I should help them appreciate themselves. I want people, not projects or fixer uppers 💜

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By *oul_Man_501Man
6 days ago

Kent

"On a scale of 1-10, how much do you like yourself at this moment?

And because things can be slightly binary on the forum - do you prefer people who overall dislike or like themselves?

Do you ever think a person *shouldn't* like who they are/how they look?

Humbly yours "

For personality, intelligence, humour, character etc, 6.5

For looks, 3

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By *recklesAndGymMan
6 days ago

Lancashire

I'm going to say an 8. I feel very good about myself currently. Both physically and mentally.

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By *entleman_of_pleasureMan
6 days ago

Manchester

Eight. I know who I am, and I don't just mean my opinion of myself, but the things I've done, the effect I've had on people, and if I progressed to the choir invisible at this point on balance the world would be a little better for having had me in it.

And personally, I prefer people who overall like themselves, they tend to be more positive, and generally share that happiness and positivity to those around them.

That said, I've known plenty of people who generally dislike themselves who are good people and make the world a better place. Though I'm at the stage in life now where I challenge their negatively about themselves, which can often amount to a form of self harm.

And as to how they feel about how they look, each such situation has it's own determining factors, so it's hard to give an opinion. But I do try and emphasis the positive, especially with women who seem particularly prone to self doubt where looks are concerned.

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By *om_38Man
6 days ago

stoke

Currently at 5.5/6

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By *avidNPMan
6 days ago

manchester

I think at best I’m a 3 but I like to think I’m a good person

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"I don't know, I generally like myself without thinking I'm amazing. I'm competent. So what's that a 6?"

Yeah, that sounds about right. Maybe a 6.25? That .25 really seals the like.

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By *hunkymonkey81Man
6 days ago

Sheffield

Everytime I get responses I feel humble

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By *endraK2002Woman
6 days ago

Darlo

3 or 4 right now I guess

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By *ie n MashCouple
6 days ago

Back in Malice

"I think at best I’m a 3 but I like to think I’m a good person "

Nah, far more than that, fella. Just looking at your pics, your smile alone has you in the 6-7 category. If you think you’re a good person, chances are, you are.

Ps. This is from Mash, the bloke. Right now, I’m a cocky c*** who rates himself a 9. Next week, I’ll be back down to 5.

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By *avidNPMan
6 days ago

manchester

"I think at best I’m a 3 but I like to think I’m a good person

Nah, far more than that, fella. Just looking at your pics, your smile alone has you in the 6-7 category. If you think you’re a good person, chances are, you are.

Ps. This is from Mash, the bloke. Right now, I’m a cocky c*** who rates himself a 9. Next week, I’ll be back down to 5. "

Thank you so much ☺️

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"About an eight. Positive marks for general aesthetics and personality, negative marks for not having done the hoovering or changed the bed yet.

Ha, maybe a point deduction for the Sunday laze, not a full two.

Do you ever feel a bit guilty about not wanting fixer uppers and wanting people who are already doing or have done the work on themselves?

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By *heron ShanMan
6 days ago

Durham

10, I'm not humble, I'm grateful for all the good and bad to bring to myself, how I am, what I am, my home and my health and although I have a very small circle of people, I'm grateful and thankful to what they bring to my life.

Can we now get on with the 'show me your boobs thread'

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
6 days ago

Crumpet Castle

This is a great question Meli but I don't have sufficient time to give a well thought through answer, maybe I'll come back.

I like myself a lot. I find the phrase 'like myself' to be pretty non descript and vague ...... so I'll change that to I am happy and i'm very rarely not in a good mood...... then again I am a very serious minded person when times are serious.....

Bottom line I love myself and like myself.

I do realise though Melilicious that people who are in a good mood one day may not be the next or even the next hour. There's a whole world of difference between mood and self love/compassion/ like .....

I'f i'm grumpy it doesn't last and I still love myself while i'm grumpy

I also recognise that very many , very many .. many many people on the forums cannot distinguish between poor mood and valid opinion.

off to reflect while I make my bed

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By *ore_Than_VanillaMan
6 days ago

Cheddar

the line between confidence and arrogance is causing everyone to mark themselves down.

I love myself. Without that you can't love others. I love my values, my life, my emotional self sufficientcy that doesn't reply on being fed by others. I love that I can still be wrong, I can still be learning, can acknowledge to myself that I'm an ugly old balding man, that I'm left wing, that others with less should have the same. I love that I see everyone as equal. I know my boundaries. I have rules.

I love all of myself, even my failings. I'm a 10

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By *parklingeclipseWoman
6 days ago

Lincolnshire

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"For personality, intelligence, humour, character etc, 6.5

For looks, 3

In terms of liking your looks or how you rate them out of ten?

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"I'm going to say an 8. I feel very good about myself currently. Both physically and mentally."

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By *actile TensionMan
6 days ago

Sussex

I like it when its kind of irrelevant. I am me and you're you. We tow the line and enjoy our time

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
6 days ago

Sunderland

0️⃣

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
6 days ago

Carlisle usually

"Ha, maybe a point deduction for the Sunday laze, not a full two.

Do you ever feel a bit guilty about not wanting fixer uppers and wanting people who are already doing or have done the work on themselves?"

I mean, there's also a bit of a rubbish feeling for a partner being in hospital about 200 miles away for over 24 hours this weekend and the feeling useless and unable to get there and not knowing if he was gonna be okay that's dragging me down a bit, but that seemed a bit more information than was needed, and he's discharged and heading home now so that's reduced a lot.

No, I don't feel guilty. I've fought my way through many fixer uppers over the years already, when I was barely in a fit state to help myself never mind anyone else. It's taken me a lot to get to where I am mentally these days, and doing that work has influenced a lot of who I am. I will not give that up and slide backwards for the sake of a stranger. I will help those I already know are working on it for themselves and just need a little support. And I think that's fair enough.

It isn't my job to fix just anybody at my own expense. But I'll help those close to me 💜

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
6 days ago

North Welsh Borders

It's taken a lot of soul searching and self reflection but yes, I do love me and I am proud of me. I can't rate myself because I don't feel the need

Still a work in progress, I have down days but I deal with those knowing it's in the moment. Move on and know another day is due

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By *avidNPMan
6 days ago

manchester

"0️⃣ "

Oh no that’s not good. Why do you feel that way?

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By *oul_Man_501Man
6 days ago

Kent

"For personality, intelligence, humour, character etc, 6.5

For looks, 3

In terms of liking your looks or how you rate them out of ten?"

I never really like how I look, but accept it's who I am. On a good day, if I'm in a positive mood and hair not a disaster (maybe rate myself 5/10). Normally, not that high though. And some days I really hate how I look.

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By *iver78Man
6 days ago

barton upon humber

Im ok , dont know if humble is the word id use , I like being me , and I get in with the people around me ,

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By *entlydoesit!Woman
6 days ago

Blackpool

Middle of the road 5, could be better, could be worse lol

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By *avidNPMan
6 days ago

manchester

"Middle of the road 5, could be better, could be worse lol"

I hope you can improve your score as the day goes on.

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"I think at best I’m a 3 but I like to think I’m a good person "

You shouldn't give yourself such a low rating - a good person is worth more than 3. 😊

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By *avidNPMan
6 days ago

manchester

"I think at best I’m a 3 but I like to think I’m a good person

You shouldn't give yourself such a low rating - a good person is worth more than 3. 😊"

Who am I to really say if I’m a good person. Surely everyone thinks they are a good person.

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
6 days ago

IPSWICH

I generally have a low opinion of myself I'd normally say 5 at most but I feel I'm improving a few things physically so I'll go to 6/10.

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"Eight. I know who I am, and I don't just mean my opinion of myself, but the things I've done, the effect I've had on people, and if I progressed to the choir invisible at this point on balance the world would be a little better for having had me in it. "
Those are really lovely reasons to rate yourself. For the most part, most people make the world a little better. Obviously not thinking of extremes here. :D

"And personally, I prefer people who overall like themselves, they tend to be more positive, and generally share that happiness and positivity to those around them. "
Yes. Positivity doesn't mean a permapositive state, people are human. I've found that people who aren't too keen on themselves tend to be far more critical of others existing. The outwardly negative.

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By *umfun24Man
6 days ago

wilmslow

"For personality, intelligence, humour, character etc, 6.5

For looks, 3

In terms of liking your looks or how you rate them out of ten?

You shouldn’t ever be harsh on yourself. Who defines what “good looking” is anyway. It’s not like any of us chose it, so it’s madness to be judged as a person on something that you have had no control of.

The issue is, if you are harsh on yourself, you lose self respect and confidence and that is unattractive and is something that you can control.

I keep myself fit and clean, tidy and nice smelling and I smile and laugh and enjoy life and good company. It might seem arrogant, but if you still find me unattractive, no problem.

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By *007ManMan
6 days ago

Worthing

Everything with me is always on 10. Sometimes off the scale. As long as people care about me, I am not bothered about their opinion of themselves.

Pleased with that one, wish me luck all!

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"3 or 4 right now I guess"

I hope that goes up for you soon. 😊

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By *eyond PurityCouple
6 days ago

North East Lincolnshire

I’m fitter than I’ve been for a long time, my body looks good. I’ve been doing a lot of outdoor work and so my tan is looking might fine!

I’ve got a job I love, I left a company that was dragging me down, I have a hot GF who completes me and I think it’s just been a good year for me.

So I’m giving myself a good 8.

As for others - I want people to not be up their own arses but also comfortable in their skin and have a good outlook.

I absolutely cannot abide people who on these scoring things who go low so everyone goes ‘no way babes, you’re a 10’…🙄

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By *aven.Woman
6 days ago

As a person? About a 7. Room for improvement and I have my bad points.

Looks, probably about a 4. That isn't self pity or attention seeking, no one else sees what you see everyday do they?

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"10, I'm not humble, I'm grateful for all the good and bad to bring to myself, how I am, what I am, my home and my health and although I have a very small circle of people, I'm grateful and thankful to what they bring to my life.

Can we now get on with the 'show me your boobs thread'

No, boobs are only allowed on set days. I like that you proudly say you're not humble though, silver lining.

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By *avidNPMan
6 days ago

manchester

"As a person? About a 7. Room for improvement and I have my bad points.

Looks, probably about a 4. That isn't self pity or attention seeking, no one else sees what you see everyday do they?

I totally agree that how other people see you is massively different from how you see yourself.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
6 days ago

Paradise, Herts

I’m happy with my lot. I work hard I play hard, I’ve got a good balance. My life isn’t easy at all (as some people know) but I cope. I have to.

I like myself. Dunno about ratings though.

With regards to the other question. I like people who are happy and positive. I avoid negative people. They’re not for me x

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By *abs9Man
6 days ago

driffield

I’m content with the person I am , it took me a lot of years 2 get this way & if u ask most that know me will always say the same thing “ kind , considerate, very generous “ looks wise I’d say 5 or below & I carry a bit of weight.. this will disappear over the winter in the gym!!

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
6 days ago

Hmm… probably a 7. I know I’m a good, kind person but I procrastinate a lot and lack motivation sometimes. Looks wise, I think I’m pretty with a decent figure but there’s always room for improvement.

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By *avidNPMan
6 days ago

manchester

It’s lovely to see so many of you being happy with the person you are that’s awesome.

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By *entCplBayCouple
6 days ago

Herne Bay

Yep I would go with that myself.

So for me a Seeeeeeevvvvvvvvvvvveeenn

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By *onin25Man
6 days ago

Durham

"I don't know, I generally like myself without thinking I'm amazing. I'm competent. So what's that a 6?

Yeah, that sounds about right. Maybe a 6.25? That .25 really seals the like."

Or maybe even 6.3?

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"This is a great question Meli but I don't have sufficient time to give a well thought through answer, maybe I'll come back. "
I've really enjoyed your response, it seems well thought out to me.

"I like myself a lot. I find the phrase 'like myself' to be pretty non descript and vague ...... so I'll change that to I am happy and i'm very rarely not in a good mood...... then again I am a very serious minded person when times are serious.....

Bottom line I love myself and like myself. "
Yeah, I went for a rather bland generic term because I'm lazy and my brain is tired. Loving and liking yourself is important.

"I do realise though Melilicious that people who are in a good mood one day may not be the next or even the next hour. There's a whole world of difference between mood and self love/compassion/ like .....

I'f i'm grumpy it doesn't last and I still love myself while i'm grumpy

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Yes! People have low times and all of that. I'd find it quite odd if they didn't. I also think that not everyone logs on when they're feeling meh and we're seeing a small snapshot of the whole.

"I also recognise that very many , very many .. many many people on the forums cannot distinguish between poor mood and valid opinion.

off to reflect while I make my bed"

Yeaaaahhh... why does that happen? And why do people insist things are a fact when they're talking about their experience? Facts facts facts, even more questions now.

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
6 days ago

In a galaxy far far away

I would say 5

I like the person I am

I dislike the medical problems I have

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By *hil most chillMan
6 days ago

London, South East & Europe

Bar none I am the most humblest

Number one at the top of the humble list

My apple crumble is by far the most crumblest

But I act like it tastes bad out of humbleness

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By *avidNPMan
6 days ago

manchester

"I would say 5

I like the person I am

I dislike the medical problems I have "

You always seem so positive in the threads when I see you that’s awesome

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

the line between confidence and arrogance is causing everyone to mark themselves down.

I love all of myself, even my failings. I'm a 10"

I don't know if it's to do with avoiding being seen as arrogant, people might genuinely like themselves in lower numbers. They shouldn't. Even people I don't particularly care for - I don't think anyone should dislike themselves. Maybe if they're a criminal or really corrupt. :D

Being wrong, making mistakes is part of learning. You can definitely still like yourself whilst knowing you can fuck up.

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"0️⃣ "

Sending you hugs; fingers crossed you remember why you should like yourself. You should.

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"It's taken a lot of soul searching and self reflection but yes, I do love me and I am proud of me. I can't rate myself because I don't feel the need

Still a work in progress, I have down days but I deal with those knowing it's in the moment. Move on and know another day is due

A work in progress! Far too excited about that but... yes. I think I'll always be one, well, I hope so.

It's wonderful that you've reached the place you have. The rating isn't really needed; being proud of who you are and loving you is the best kind of qualitative.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
6 days ago

Here. There.

I’d give myself an 8. Grew up isolated in an abusive home, got myself out and to uni, got a first class when I’d been indoctrinated thst I was a failure, homeless twice and got myself out of it, survived losing my twin, somehow I can still put a beat on and look decent against twinks half my age (apparently, getting compared to Naomi Campbell on Friday night by a woman was a high point), I’ve grown into a generous, intensely loyal, kind, bullshit free, resilient person I could never have imagined existed when I was growing up. All in all, good job Glow.

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By *everboringMan
6 days ago

london

Should always be proud of who you are and what you look like not everyone will like you just remember your situation can be alot different even my pictures they make me look weird lol and when i meet people or see people they say i defo look better in person keep ya heads up

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By *tannersMan
6 days ago

stanley

I beat my handicap by 8 shots yesterday golfing so was cocky as f**k. 😂

Usually I’m pretty humble, well I say humble but it’s actually lack of self confidence

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
6 days ago

Round the bend

"0️⃣ "

You missed the 1️⃣ 🫶🏼

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
6 days ago

Round the bend

As a person id give myself a 10. I like me.

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By *enelope2UWoman
6 days ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

"About an eight. Positive marks for general aesthetics and personality, negative marks for not having done the hoovering or changed the bed yet.

Exactly this

Id add I need more physical fitness discipline

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By *asty tatsyMan
6 days ago

london

7 never too high never too low 😁

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By *hickthighs-26Woman
6 days ago

the land of vagina

Id give myself a 7. I have my faults but overall i dont think i'm too bad.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
6 days ago

East Sussex

"On a scale of 1-10, how much do you like yourself at this moment?

And because things can be slightly binary on the forum - do you prefer people who overall dislike or like themselves?

Do you ever think a person *shouldn't* like who they are/how they look?

Humbly yours "

At the moment 10, when my hair needs washing 9 if I feel I've treated someone badly my self appraisal of my personality drops low for a bit.

I prefer people who like themselves.

Yes I do think there are some occasions where people shouldn't like who they are and some very rare how they look but it's difficult to improve on how you look if you don't like yourself to start with.

I think humility is an over rated trait

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By *lizaDay91Woman
6 days ago

It'sASecret

I thought I was fairly confident in my sense of self, but the way I've been made to feel on thin ts site makes me think I must be an awful person, and should therefore rate myself as -10.

In terms of my appearance I'd rate myself as -100. I really can't stand how I look.

If someone tries to be a good person ( as I do ) then I don't see why someone shouldn't like themselves. I'd never wish for someone to live with the self loathing I have for myself. As long as someone isn't arrogant or narcissistic I don't see why someone can't appreciate who they are and how they look.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
6 days ago

East Sussex

I would add as I always do that other people will disagree with my self appraisal and that's fine by me.

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By *kphooey43Man
6 days ago

Barnet

I'm unusually brilliant

(or at least that is what my T-shirt says).

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By *reative-mindMan
6 days ago

Exeter

I'd say im roughly a 5 on here but raising to a 5.5 in person.

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"I’m fitter than I’ve been for a long time, my body looks good. I’ve been doing a lot of outdoor work and so my tan is looking might fine!

I’ve got a job I love, I left a company that was dragging me down, I have a hot GF who completes me and I think it’s just been a good year for me.

So I’m giving myself a good 8. "
Fuck yes K, you deserve all of that and more.

"As for others - I want people to not be up their own arses but also comfortable in their skin and have a good outlook.

I absolutely cannot abide people who on these scoring things who go low so everyone goes ‘no way babes, you’re a 10’…🙄

Ha, they might genuinely believe that. Sometimes it's fishing. I think people are more likely to rank themselves lower if someone asks what do you rank your looks? That kind of thing.

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"Bar none I am the most humblest

Number one at the top of the humble list

My apple crumble is by far the most crumblest

But I act like it tastes bad out of humbleness"

🩷🩷🩷

It could have been a thread asking if it's not gay when it's in a threeway but clearly the universe is kind today.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
6 days ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Currently I'm feeling very pessimistic and down. I miss my wife, and I feel like I've totally underachieved at all the important metrics in life except my daughter.

I admit to feeling sorry for myself.

So probably a 4.

🙁

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By *kphooey43Man
6 days ago

Barnet

"Currently I'm feeling very pessimistic and down. I miss my wife, and I feel like I've totally underachieved at all the important metrics in life except my daughter.

I admit to feeling sorry for myself.

So probably a 4.

🙁"

But you are funny and you brighten up Fab. So that makes you at least a 6.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
6 days ago

Here. There.

"Currently I'm feeling very pessimistic and down. I miss my wife, and I feel like I've totally underachieved at all the important metrics in life except my daughter.

I admit to feeling sorry for myself.

So probably a 4.

🙁"

Let’s not bring important metrics into it or my 8 starts to look like two zeros shagging.

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"I’d give myself an 8. Grew up isolated in an abusive home, got myself out and to uni, got a first class when I’d been indoctrinated thst I was a failure, homeless twice and got myself out of it, survived losing my twin, somehow I can still put a beat on and look decent against twinks half my age (apparently, getting compared to Naomi Campbell on Friday night by a woman was a high point), I’ve grown into a generous, intensely loyal, kind, bullshit free, resilient person I could never have imagined existed when I was growing up. All in all, good job Glow. "

Fantastic job Glow, not good. Far better than that. That kind of upbringing can really mess people up, especially the BS about never amounting to anything, being a failure when you're still a child.

Reading your post reminded me of how I don't really know what a person has gone through. I'm used to laughing when I read you, thank you for being open.

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"I thought I was fairly confident in my sense of self, but the way I've been made to feel on thin ts site makes me think I must be an awful person, and should therefore rate myself as -10.

In terms of my appearance I'd rate myself as -100. I really can't stand how I look.

People should definitely like themselves, that's important. I don't think there's a single person on the forums where I think "yeah, you should dislike yourself" or "how dare you have the audacity to start liking yourself, that's not humble ".

This site can highlight or reinforce insecurities, it doesn't mean you should change how you feel about yourself. Never do that. Be proud of who you are, don't dim your light so others can shine brighter, x

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
6 days ago

Wow! Million/10 👏🏽👑💫

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By *opeye89Man
6 days ago

London

I like to think of myself as a genuine person. What you see is what you get really. I like to think I’m a nice guy, polite and respectful. Just a little horny at times.

However, how others perceive me may differ.

So, in my world I may be a 10/10 but in reality, the fractions might be a bit different.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 days ago

On good days I like myself enormously because I know that I'm a good person

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By *ellhungvweMan
6 days ago

Cheltenham

I find the idea of “liking” yourself a bit odd. I am not really sure what it means.

I am very comfortable in my own skin and happy to back my judgement. I don’t really need external validation to define my self worth. If that’s “liking” then I would give myself a 10.

If it is about showing off, needing to look in the mirror all the time and generally wanting others to know I am there then I would give myself a 1.

As for others I don’t really care what they get up to. It’s their life. I do feel slightly sorry for those who need to go around and make sure they are the centre of attention.

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"Currently I'm feeling very pessimistic and down. I miss my wife, and I feel like I've totally underachieved at all the important metrics in life except my daughter.

I admit to feeling sorry for myself.

So probably a 4.

🙁"

Sending hugs Davina. Feeling meh is okay, give yourself some time to miss your wife. You'll have achieved far more than your daughter but that's one to be celebrated. Hope you can dust off the cape, polish the fangs and boost the 4 soon, x

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By *ersatilefoxMan
6 days ago

Notts

I'm sort of shy most of the time, I tend to use self depreciation as my safeguard, I'm quite playfully sarcastic, this is also a coping mechanism. People have complimented me and I just shrug it off, I don't see myself as good looking or a catch. I never have. So I'm probably a 4.

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By *lizaDay91Woman
6 days ago

It'sASecret

"I’m fitter than I’ve been for a long time, my body looks good. I’ve been doing a lot of outdoor work and so my tan is looking might fine!

I’ve got a job I love, I left a company that was dragging me down, I have a hot GF who completes me and I think it’s just been a good year for me.

So I’m giving myself a good 8.

As for others - I want people to not be up their own arses but also comfortable in their skin and have a good outlook.

I absolutely cannot abide people who on these scoring things who go low so everyone goes ‘no way babes, you’re a 10’…🙄

Some of us aren't fishing for compliments; it has just been drilled into us that we are worthless and pointless, or that we need to change things about themselves in order to be considered functional or "normal." Those out thre with autism will have experienced this a lot, as I have.

My low score of myself is just honesty, and nothing else. It's how I feel based on my upbringing and how others have treated me. No, I shouldn't define myself by how others treat me, but when this has been happening most of your life it makes you feel like there must be something wrong with you.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
6 days ago

Castlebar

Mine changes day to day but now its a solid 7. Sometimes might go up to an 8 or 8.5 on occasion but usually around a 6 as a daily average I'd say.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
6 days ago

Castlebar

And I like people who are confident in themselves. It actually makes me feel more confident in myself bizarrely

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By *huskofamanMan
6 days ago

nowhere

I'm not likable in any way shape or form

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
6 days ago

In a galaxy far far away

"I would say 5

I like the person I am

I dislike the medical problems I have

You always seem so positive in the threads when I see you that’s awesome "

Thanks Dave

Wine helps 😁💃

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By *wissArmyKnifeMan
6 days ago

Second Star to the Right

I don’t think i could put a number on it but i am the person i am meant to be at this moment.

Pretty content in myself but always room for improvement.

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By *BWCMan
6 days ago

Kidsgrove

4.5, im self aware of my short comings and confident enough to take the piss out of them but would say i have some good parts of me lol

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
6 days ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"Currently I'm feeling very pessimistic and down. I miss my wife, and I feel like I've totally underachieved at all the important metrics in life except my daughter.

I admit to feeling sorry for myself.

So probably a 4.

🙁

Sigh. Thanks Meli. You're right of course. Life is a series of troughs and peaks. I'm usually fairly down, but today is worse than usual. I think I'll submerge for a few days.

🖤🧛🏻‍♀️🖤

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By *ee1993Man
6 days ago

rutland

I’m a knob I know that I’m happy with that so what’s that for a score 🤣

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By *earditallWoman
6 days ago

Lancaster

Always things I could and should change but on a whole I'm not too bad,but feel crappy today so about a 4 normally about a 7.

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By *avidNPMan
6 days ago

manchester

"Always things I could and should change but on a whole I'm not too bad,but feel crappy today so about a 4 normally about a 7."

Sorry you feel crappy crappy today

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By *eightsB4DatesMan
6 days ago

north east

Maybe a 3, I quite often dislike myself and often berate myself harshly over mistakes I’ve made past and present

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By *avidNPMan
6 days ago

manchester

"Maybe a 3, I quite often dislike myself and often berate myself harshly over mistakes I’ve made past and present "

You sound a lot like me mate

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By *cott73Man
6 days ago

brighton

Hovering around a 3.75 at the moment. Might feel better about myself and get up to a 4 this evening if I force myself to go out for a walk.

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By *parkle1974Woman
6 days ago

Garden of Eden

I'm a 9...making new changes to my life has made a massive change in myself. New beginnings really do work.

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By *inkyukxxxCouple
6 days ago

Nottinghamshire

Oooh physically maybe a 6 🫣

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By *inkyukxxxCouple
6 days ago

Nottinghamshire

"Oooh physically maybe a 6 🫣"

Mrs k that is writing this! He’s a 10!

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By *ookie46Woman
6 days ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I’m about a nine liking myself as a person

Physically I’m a five with how im feeling about myself. Treatment has left me in chronic pain and so many changes body wise

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By *hinstrapMan
6 days ago

sheffield

Jesus I hate self measuring.

I'll say happy in myself who I am probably bout a 7 but other probably see me as a 1. Ha but of knob.

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By *hilloutMan
6 days ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'll place myself in the 9 category.

I'm in good shape and healthy. Am financially well off. Successful professionally. Have no mental health issues whatsoever and can generally deal well with adversity.

I'm happy in a blossoming relationship with great future prospects.

I haven't scored a 10 as perfection doesn't exist, but one can come close 😁

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By *ou only live onceMan
6 days ago

London

There are things I like about myself and things I don't, both physically and otherwise.

They sit alongside each other. My mood often dictates which side wins overall on any given day. Right now I'm kind of neutral, but maybe erring to the negative as not thrilled with how I look right now. And my face is SO OLD!

I guess I do like people who like themselves. I think it's normal to be self-critical, but it can hard work if someone is unrelentingly self-scathing. But it's about balance: conceitedness is not an attractive trait either.

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"I'll place myself in the 9 category.

I'm in good shape and healthy. Am financially well off. Successful professionally. Have no mental health issues whatsoever and can generally deal well with adversity.

I'm happy in a blossoming relationship with great future prospects.

I haven't scored a 10 as perfection doesn't exist, but one can come close 😁"

It's really nice to read a positive post from you, fingers crossed it all continues for some time. 🩷

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"I’m about a nine liking myself as a person

Physically I’m a five with how im feeling about myself. Treatment has left me in chronic pain and so many changes body wise "

It should be a ten but nine is okay for now. Treatment must be really crappy, are there things that help with the pain a little?

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"On good days I like myself enormously because I know that I'm a good person"

Farewell, good person.

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By *aked beachMan
6 days ago

22 The Avenue

My thoughts range from about 3/4 out of 10 to about 7. At this moment, for some unknown reason, I’m feeling 7/10.

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By *usciousladyWoman
6 days ago

Dartford

I’m with you on this one. I’ve spent years learning to love and like myself. It’s hard work and difficult to get right. I’m deeply grateful for both the opportunities and the disappointments I’ve had because they’ve helped me to reflect on my values and beliefs. And it’s always more difficult to like/love others if you can’t do it for yourself xxx

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By *peedyGMan
6 days ago

Telford

I'd say a 5

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By *homas400Man
6 days ago

Carmarthen / Llandeilo

Probably 2....4 on a good day.

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By *appyGuy_2025Man
6 days ago

somewhere

At the moment probably 4

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By *ookie46Woman
6 days ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"I’m about a nine liking myself as a person

Physically I’m a five with how im feeling about myself. Treatment has left me in chronic pain and so many changes body wise

It should be a ten but nine is okay for now. Treatment must be really crappy, are there things that help with the pain a little? "

Lots of meds combined with holistic and complementary therapies 🥰

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By *emorefridaCouple
6 days ago

La la land

"On a scale of 1-10, how much do you like yourself at this moment?

And because things can be slightly binary on the forum - do you prefer people who overall dislike or like themselves?

Do you ever think a person *shouldn't* like who they are/how they look?

Humbly yours "

Personality wise 9 out of 10, handled something so perfectly this last week I've managed to impress myself as well as others.

I like confident people as I think they're more likely to hype up the people around them too.

Erm I think there are instances that some people need to have a deep hard look at themselves and how they treat the people around them. Sometimes the person who says they're such a kind person isn't when not in public.

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By *rimal InstinctCouple
6 days ago

Carlisle

I like myself, I wish I was funnier and had more to say but aside from that I'm happy with who I am. I'm not prepared to change myself for anyone, you take me as I am and who I am is enough for me.

Looks, errrrr I've changed over the last 40 odd years of existence, I'm used to this body/face, it is what it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ There are things I like - my hair, my body in general (it's done it's job I'm still here and it has grown and birthed three kids successfully) and then there are things I'd change ie my eyes (Im so short sighted I can't see a thing without glasses and it's annoying).

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By *ark742024Man
6 days ago

Stoke/Cheshire

0 - this site does that to you

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"My thoughts range from about 3/4 out of 10 to about 7. At this moment, for some unknown reason, I’m feeling 7/10. "

Yay to the unknown?

No, it sounds positive. Don't dive too deep in to it.

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By *enelope2UWoman
6 days ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

"0 - this site does that to you "

Well from your profile picture you are definitely not a zero just from the effort alone so don't shoot yourself so low.

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By *eli OP Woman
6 days ago

"Hovering around a 3.75 at the moment. Might feel better about myself and get up to a 4 this evening if I force myself to go out for a walk."

Walking or gardening always helps me feel a little better, hopefully it's had the same effect on you 😊

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By *ark742024Man
6 days ago

Stoke/Cheshire

"0 - this site does that to you

Well from your profile picture you are definitely not a zero just from the effort alone so don't shoot yourself so low."

That’s kind - don’t get much of that on here. Thank you

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
6 days ago

Reading

I mostly like myself. Not so much my body but my character.

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By *inkPomPomWoman
6 days ago

Isle of Man

I dig myself 🩷

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
6 days ago

Reading

"0 - this site does that to you "

Your veris rate you much higher.

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By *apua New GuineaMan
6 days ago

nearby

Hi op. I do like myself in the main, pretty self assured but not arrogant and ultimately live and let live I guess.

Now I think about it, its a nice place to be mentally.

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By *apua New GuineaMan
6 days ago

nearby

And I'm far ftom perfect- forgot my score..

7.5

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By *ark742024Man
6 days ago

Stoke/Cheshire

"0 - this site does that to you

Your veris rate you much higher."

Don’t be fooled

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By *ad NannaWoman
6 days ago

East London

10.

Even when I'm feeling rubbish I like myself.

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By *ad NannaWoman
6 days ago

East London

I don't like myself based on others' perception of me.

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By *uicy_peach79Woman
6 days ago

Edinburgh

A mid 5 today not bad considering I don't feel well

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
6 days ago

London

8/10 I love who I am. It's taken me a long time to get here. I still have room to improve and things to work on. I think we all do. Nobody is perfect.

I think a bit of positivity and confidence is good. Arrogance and entitlement is not. I like people who have character, morals, a personality.

No, I think every person should love themselves first. This includes holding themselves accountable for their own mistakes, self reflecting, taking ownership of their own behaviour. Even the shitty people should do this.

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By *ampireLoveMan
6 days ago

Essex

"On a scale of 1-10, how much do you like yourself at this moment?

And because things can be slightly binary on the forum - do you prefer people who overall dislike or like themselves?

Do you ever think a person *shouldn't* like who they are/how they look?

Humbly yours "

I used you like myself. Then for a while I didn’t. Beginning to get back to accepting life and liking myself as I did again. Am I humble? I don’t expect others to like me or get upset if they don’t. I personally find it important for people to like themselves. Liking yourself and being arrogant for me are two very different things. I’d encourage everyone to love themselves

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By *oldmilkMan
6 days ago

In trouble, apparently…

A 7.5

I’m happy with who I am. Things could be better, but also very much worse.

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