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By *usty kay OP   Woman
1 week ago

Burnham on Sea

10 days ago a friend of mine went missing. He very deliberately left and ensured no one would find him.

As you can imagine, everyone close to him is distraught and barely getting through. I didn't know him well, invited him to all our parties and went to his but didn't socialise outside of that really so feeling somewhat in limbo, like it's not really real.

Has anyone been through this and there been a positive outcome? I can't see any hope for him coming home now and after 10 days I'm losing hope that any answers will be found either way.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
1 week ago

Somewhere near here

I’m sorry this is happening, I hope they’re ok and are found, even if to just let people know they’re safe

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By *idssissyTV/TS
1 week ago

Nr cricket ground birm

Sorry you are dealing with this and he is lucky to have friends like you

Hope there is a positive outcome

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By *AJMLKTV/TS
1 week ago

Burley

Has he been reported as missing?

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By *usty kay OP   Woman
1 week ago

Burnham on Sea


"I’m sorry this is happening, I hope they’re ok and are found, even if to just let people know they’re safe"

❤️

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By *usty kay OP   Woman
1 week ago

Burnham on Sea


"Sorry you are dealing with this and he is lucky to have friends like you

Hope there is a positive outcome "

❤️

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By *usty kay OP   Woman
1 week ago

Burnham on Sea


"Has he been reported as missing?"

Yes he has and it was taken seriously immediately

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By *AJMLKTV/TS
1 week ago

Burley


"Has he been reported as missing?

Yes he has and it was taken seriously immediately "

So it should He's probably just gone on man walkabout. I did it a good few years ago.

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
1 week ago

London

Don't overthink it. It can lead to spiralling. Hopefully they will be found soon, safe and sound. It's a difficult thing to experience.

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By *usty kay OP   Woman
1 week ago

Burnham on Sea


"Has he been reported as missing?

Yes he has and it was taken seriously immediately

So it should He's probably just gone on man walkabout. I did it a good few years ago. "

I hope you're right

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By *usty kay OP   Woman
1 week ago

Burnham on Sea


"Don't overthink it. It can lead to spiralling. Hopefully they will be found soon, safe and sound. It's a difficult thing to experience."

I have definitely done the spiralling, and the overthinking. Gone through our last conversation over and over trying to pick out where I could have helped. In truth, nothing I could have said would have impacted anything he did so it's a pointless exercise.

It's just all so surreal

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
1 week ago

Hatfield

Let’s hope the professionals can track him down

A friend of mine did similar when having a breakdown at work … he got as far as France but was tracked down by police … was in bad way mentally but brought home and got help … he got well …… happy endings do happen

my prayers with your friend family and friends…. Don’t give up hope …

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By *ittle miss sunshineWoman
1 week ago

south sheilds

I saw this on social media.

I really hope that he gets the help and support he's looking for.

I can't imagine what the family and friends are going through.

But I know what it's like to greive some one who is still alive and it's hard

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By *usty kay OP   Woman
1 week ago

Burnham on Sea


"Let’s hope the professionals can track him down

A friend of mine did similar when having a breakdown at work … he got as far as France but was tracked down by police … was in bad way mentally but brought home and got help … he got well …… happy endings do happen

my prayers with your friend family and friends…. Don’t give up hope … "

Thank you, I think this is what I needed to hear. I'm glad your friend got the help he needed

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By *usty kay OP   Woman
1 week ago

Burnham on Sea


"I saw this on social media.

I really hope that he gets the help and support he's looking for.

I can't imagine what the family and friends are going through.

But I know what it's like to greive some one who is still alive and it's hard "

❤️

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
1 week ago

Hatfield


"Let’s hope the professionals can track him down

A friend of mine did similar when having a breakdown at work … he got as far as France but was tracked down by police … was in bad way mentally but brought home and got help … he got well …… happy endings do happen

my prayers with your friend family and friends…. Don’t give up hope …

Thank you, I think this is what I needed to hear. I'm glad your friend got the help he needed "

Due to use of passport and credit card it wasn’t a hard follow and once the right people talked to each other but still he was away over 3 days with some family members traumatised but police did their thing and sent trained help to his wife and mum …I Hope they can use some thing similar to find your friend and give support to family ….. not knowing is so appalling to describe .. really mean it …. Good luck heartbreaking to read your post

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By *idssissyTV/TS
1 week ago

Nr cricket ground birm

Any news?

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By *usty kay OP   Woman
1 week ago

Burnham on Sea


"Any news? "

None at all 😭

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By *iltsguy38Man
1 week ago

swindon

Sorry to hear that. To use that horrible cliche no news is good news. You are all anticipating the worst, which is understandable, but at the moment he is still missing.

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By *appy and you know itCouple
1 week ago

Birmingham

I hope that he is found well, with regards to overthinking what you could of said,done different, please believe me, when I say, there's absolutely nothing different that you could of done, me webby has survived several attempts and nothing outside of being sectioned, would of changed what I did, my thoughts and prayers are with you all, we never know the demons, that haunt people's minds

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By *usty kay OP   Woman
1 week ago

Burnham on Sea


"Sorry to hear that. To use that horrible cliche no news is good news. You are all anticipating the worst, which is understandable, but at the moment he is still missing. "

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By *usty kay OP   Woman
1 week ago

Burnham on Sea


"I hope that he is found well, with regards to overthinking what you could of said,done different, please believe me, when I say, there's absolutely nothing different that you could of done, me webby has survived several attempts and nothing outside of being sectioned, would of changed what I did, my thoughts and prayers are with you all, we never know the demons, that haunt people's minds "

❤️ Thank you for sharing

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By *odgerMooreMan
1 week ago

Rummage Up The Jumper

Im very sorry to hear this x thoughts and prayers with you and their loved ones - what an awful experience to go through xx

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By *idssissyTV/TS
1 week ago

Nr cricket ground birm

Sorry you are still going through this.

Not wanting to do this to others is what keeps me going

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By *usty kay OP   Woman
4 days ago

Burnham on Sea


"Sorry you are still going through this.

Not wanting to do this to others is what keeps me going "

Please keep hold of that and use it as strength to reach out for whatever support you need.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 days ago

Try to stay positive op,there's still hope your friend could just need some alone time

I really hope that he comes home 🫂

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By *ongandthick888Man
4 days ago

Leeds


"10 days ago a friend of mine went missing. He very deliberately left and ensured no one would find him.

As you can imagine, everyone close to him is distraught and barely getting through. I didn't know him well, invited him to all our parties and went to his but didn't socialise outside of that really so feeling somewhat in limbo, like it's not really real.

Has anyone been through this and there been a positive outcome? I can't see any hope for him coming home now and after 10 days I'm losing hope that any answers will be found either way. "

Yes I’ve experienced this a few times with different people. Most often the person has re-appeared and was having a depressive episode where they wanted to disappear from peoples lives, but not anything more serious than that. I’m hoping for the best for your friend

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By *iver78Man
4 days ago

barton upon humber

One of my good friends came out the navy and disappeared after about a year , his wife left him ,he was in massive debt and to be honest we thought he had the ( unthinkable) about 2 mths later he sent me text asking if I would pick him up from humberside airport , he had just runaway basically , he had made friends with someone in Norway and had been working cash in hand in there farm ! He was like a new man and now works as a bar man in the local navy club , so good things can happen fingers crossed for your dilemma 🫡

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By *usty kay OP   Woman
4 days ago

Burnham on Sea

I had typed out a message but then lost internet so it didn't post.

Thank you to everyone who has reached out or shared their own stories.

Unfortunately, we have had the worst news which currently feels a relief because at least there is an answer but as it starts to sink in things are going to get a lot worse.

I hope those of you who have shared your sadness through this post and others can find the support you need to help. I honestly wish no one had to go through feeling so alone but no family/friends should have to go through the aftermath either.

Love to you all x

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
4 days ago

North Welsh Borders


"I had typed out a message but then lost internet so it didn't post.

Thank you to everyone who has reached out or shared their own stories.

Unfortunately, we have had the worst news which currently feels a relief because at least there is an answer but as it starts to sink in things are going to get a lot worse.

I hope those of you who have shared your sadness through this post and others can find the support you need to help. I honestly wish no one had to go through feeling so alone but no family/friends should have to go through the aftermath either.

Love to you all x"

❤️

Just to send you lots of love and strength

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By *idssissyTV/TS
4 days ago

Nr cricket ground birm


"I had typed out a message but then lost internet so it didn't post.

Thank you to everyone who has reached out or shared their own stories.

Unfortunately, we have had the worst news which currently feels a relief because at least there is an answer but as it starts to sink in things are going to get a lot worse.

I hope those of you who have shared your sadness through this post and others can find the support you need to help. I honestly wish no one had to go through feeling so alone but no family/friends should have to go through the aftermath either.

Love to you all x"

So sorry it turned out this way and condolences to you and your friends affected by this. Hope you get the help you need.

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
4 days ago

Hatfield


"I had typed out a message but then lost internet so it didn't post.

Thank you to everyone who has reached out or shared their own stories.

Unfortunately, we have had the worst news which currently feels a relief because at least there is an answer but as it starts to sink in things are going to get a lot worse.

I hope those of you who have shared your sadness through this post and others can find the support you need to help. I honestly wish no one had to go through feeling so alone but no family/friends should have to go through the aftermath either.

Love to you all x"

Words fail me …strength to you and my thoughts at this sad time

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By *iver78Man
4 days ago

barton upon humber


"I had typed out a message but then lost internet so it didn't post.

Thank you to everyone who has reached out or shared their own stories.

Unfortunately, we have had the worst news which currently feels a relief because at least there is an answer but as it starts to sink in things are going to get a lot worse.

I hope those of you who have shared your sadness through this post and others can find the support you need to help. I honestly wish no one had to go through feeling so alone but no family/friends should have to go through the aftermath either.

Love to you all x"

😔🙏

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By *idssissyTV/TS
13 hours ago

Nr cricket ground birm

Just wanted to send hugs to the op

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
11 hours ago

Crumpet Castle

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By *onin25Man
11 hours ago

Durham


"I had typed out a message but then lost internet so it didn't post.

Thank you to everyone who has reached out or shared their own stories.

Unfortunately, we have had the worst news which currently feels a relief because at least there is an answer but as it starts to sink in things are going to get a lot worse.

I hope those of you who have shared your sadness through this post and others can find the support you need to help. I honestly wish no one had to go through feeling so alone but no family/friends should have to go through the aftermath either.

Love to you all x"

❤️

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By *antric ecstasyMan
10 hours ago

Co Durham

Sending love, OP. We all need someone to tell us that

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By *obilebottomMan
9 hours ago

All over

So sorry and tragic and hardfor everyone who has to deal with that.

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By *iltsguy38Man
5 hours ago

swindon

Sorry to hear that OP. The news we all hoped that you wouldn’t get

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By *ore_Than_VanillaMan
5 hours ago

Cheddar

No words xx

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By *ancman44Man
5 hours ago

Manchester

Seek support I go to Andys Man's Club as us men don't talk. Sorry to hear this news here for a chat with anyone feeling out of sorts

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