FabSwingers.com forum: Silent sex

By *az080378 OP Woman
21 hours ago

Cromer

How do you feel about it?

Are you silent between the sheets?

Does your partner being silent make you question if they are enjoying it?

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By *adbod451000Man
21 hours ago

cardiff

I think silent is fine i think looking at the face can always give u a sense of enjoyment.

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By *umagain58Man
21 hours ago

London

"How do you feel about it?

Are you silent between the sheets?

Does your partner being silent make you question if they are enjoying it?"

Not for me as need some feedback if pleasing or not. Fortunately I get that

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
21 hours ago

Carlisle usually

I like some feedback. The overly stoic ones I lose drive with quickly 💜

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By *az080378 OP Woman
21 hours ago

Cromer

"I think silent is fine i think looking at the face can always give u a sense of enjoyment. "

But what if you can't see their face, how would you know they are enjoying it?

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By *az080378 OP Woman
21 hours ago

Cromer

"I like some feedback. The overly stoic ones I lose drive with quickly 💜"

Me too.

I start to question myself and boom, all drive vanishes

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By *hunkymonkey81Man
21 hours ago

Sheffield

No way I can be silent

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By *entlemanrogueMan
21 hours ago

Motherwell

"How do you feel about it?

Are you silent between the sheets?

Does your partner being silent make you question if they are enjoying it?"

I am not a fan of totally silent sex, unless there is a reason for it

Yes it makes me think they aren't enjoying it (both times it happened, with the same woman) I told her this and she was surprised saying she thought she was very reactive.

Nope.

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By *inkPomPomWoman
21 hours ago

Isle of Man

Can't do it, feels so weird

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By *hy_n_kinkyCouple
21 hours ago

near newtown

We like alittle encouragement whilst performing, and a round of applause at the end isn't asking to much is it

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By *igspoonshaftMan
21 hours ago

morley

Like to hear the moans when am licking that pussy out or bending her over . Myself can be varied I've groaned when I've had my cock sucked but usually concentrating and not unloading straight away if bear back haha

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By *c4funMan
21 hours ago

nottingham

Can’t do it

Not for me

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By *ornygothukMan
21 hours ago

Burnley

I’m always far from silent. I like my partner to know she’s doing a good job

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By *adbod451000Man
21 hours ago

cardiff

Thats a good point i think each situation is different if you can see face then silent is ok but if not then some form of noise would indicate enjoyment

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By *az080378 OP Woman
21 hours ago

Cromer

"How do you feel about it?

Are you silent between the sheets?

Does your partner being silent make you question if they are enjoying it?

I am not a fan of totally silent sex, unless there is a reason for it

Yes it makes me think they aren't enjoying it (both times it happened, with the same woman) I told her this and she was surprised saying she thought she was very reactive.

Nope."

Don't get me wrong, porn star screaming is off-putting for me just as much as silence but some sign of enjoyment is important to me!

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By *az080378 OP Woman
21 hours ago

Cromer

"We like alittle encouragement whilst performing, and a round of applause at the end isn't asking to much is it

Of course not!

How else can you know they valued your efforts!

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By *ynamite500Man
21 hours ago

Angus

I thought silent sex was between two deaf people!?🤣🤣🤔

Think I'd be a little freaked out if the person I was having sex with was just laying there like a sack of spuds not saying a word or anything.🥴

But then, maybe I'm too self conscious and paranoid...I suppose as long as they were getting enjoyment then it would be a me problem. So I make sure they sound like a foghorn..that way I know!🤣

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
21 hours ago

South Wales

I like a little feedback to be honest…..total silence would have me doubting they were enjoying themselves which would in turn stop me enjoying myself! Xx 😄

I don’t care if it’s heavy breathing, moaning or talking I just need something xx 😄

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By *heElvingtonTwoCouple
21 hours ago

The Ramtops

"How do you feel about it?

Are you silent between the sheets?

Does your partner being silent make you question if they are enjoying it?"

I think it would definitely make me question her enjoyment I’d have to stop at that point in fact

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By *otopaxiMan
21 hours ago

nostalgia

Ok hear me out…..

A well placed hand and a gentle ‘shhhhhhh’

🥵🥵🥵🥵

I know not completely silent but I’m just saying it was intense as fuck not being allowed to make any noise….

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By *ynamite500Man
21 hours ago

Angus

"Ok hear me out…..

A well placed hand and a gentle ‘shhhhhhh’

🥵🥵🥵🥵

I know not completely silent but I’m just saying it was intense as fuck not being allowed to make any noise….

Was that before or after the ball gag was applied!?🤔

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
21 hours ago

London

No thank you. Noise is good. Moaning, groaning, sighing, breath quickening. If you make me happy I will make noise and vice versa.

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By *onin25Man
21 hours ago

Durham

It's better to be able to be noisy but you can't when a child is sleeping in the next room.

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By *orphia2003Woman
20 hours ago

Tonypandy.

I think it depends on the situation. Being silent because you have to be can be quite exciting.

Someone who is very quiet / shows little emotion during sex ca be concerning, as it's hard to read enjoyment levels.

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By *ornygothukMan
20 hours ago

Burnley

"I think it depends on the situation. Being silent because you have to be can be quite exciting.

Someone who is very quiet / shows little emotion during sex ca be concerning, as it's hard to read enjoyment levels.

I was thinking that, being quiet because there’s someone sleeping just across the room is exhilarating!

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By *tlanshiaWoman
20 hours ago

Chatham

That isn’t something I’m qualified for.

My first boyfriend’s mum said I was loud, I’m still mortified.

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By *heJam84Man
19 hours ago

Manchester

well i can be silent but i like to hear the lady enjoying me and i'm sure she enjoys hearing me loving her.

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By *Effy-Woman
19 hours ago

Scotland

Having sex with people who remain silent the entire time is a little unnerving.

I like the feedback.

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By *essTTWoman
19 hours ago

Birmingham

"How do you feel about it?

Are you silent between the sheets?

Does your partner being silent make you question if they are enjoying it?"

Oh no

I'm loud and I like a loud partner

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By *WB85Man
19 hours ago

Staffordshire

As a parent of a 10 year old, our sex life predominantly has to be much quieter than we would like.

I find being silent really detracts from my orgasm.

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By *layful Sub BratWoman
19 hours ago

Greater London

I'll give that one a miss, thanks.

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By *urpleburgularalarmMan
19 hours ago

nowhere, next to neverbeenthere

I cant be quiet, its impossible when i finish🤦

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
19 hours ago

Glos

I love hearing my partner moan. I don’t mean porno level screaming but some verbal “ohhh” are good.

If I’m silent then something isn’t working lol

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
19 hours ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"How do you feel about it?

Are you silent between the sheets?

Does your partner being silent make you question if they are enjoying it?"

We are quite vocal in the sense we constantly talking dirty or instructing each other what to do , that or our breathing gives it away. The same with when we climax there is an obvious noise from both of us.

That said many a time especially when in the garden we have had to have ‘ quieter ‘ sex to not alert or disturb our neighbours so it can be done but after nearly 5 years together we know what we like and how to get each other there so the silence isn’t a problem.

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By *he MinionMan
19 hours ago

Surrey

I think i am fairly quiet. Not silent but yeah, quiet.

I find it quite difficult to really relax with someone and let myself go. Regular fwb's know I make certain noises, growls,for example but i'm not a "Oooo yeah baby do this, that or the other, oh yeah fuck, yeah" type person.

Some find it a little odd, i think, but then i feel i make up for it in other ways 🤷‍♂️

I think only one previous fwb might have found it off putting and possibly why it ended but it could have been any number of things. Not dom enough, too rough, not rough enough, who knows ! 🤣

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By *ubikslongswordMan
19 hours ago

Rubiksville

Silent is ok if you're in a sneaky situation but I do prefer audio 😊

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By *aomilatteCouple
18 hours ago

Midlands

We have no choice but to be quiet at home as we have adult kids at home. In a club we can make some noise. We prefer natural moaning and groaning or silence rather than loud unnatural noises copying porn.

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By *parklingeclipseWoman
18 hours ago

Lincolnshire

You have to be sometimes when there are others living in the same house

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By *ooking4friends74Couple
18 hours ago

Guisborough

"We like alittle encouragement whilst performing, and a round of applause at the end isn't asking to much is it

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lol

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By *heron ShanMan
18 hours ago

Durham

Yes, to help with the atmosphere and drama, I hire a piano player the play varying music throughout and also have someone to flick through story cards to help tell the story of passion.

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By *aoch_scot86Man
18 hours ago

Bathgate

Think some women over do it, or maybe it is that good.........

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By *iomedgal91Woman
17 hours ago

Cornwall

I cannot stand silent sex. If a man isn't breathing heavy or moaning then I think there is something wrong lol

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By *ockwellinMan
17 hours ago

Over there...

I was on a road trip with an ex-partner many yrs ago, we were camping, on one particular day we'd been in a local bar for a few lunchtime drinks that went onto early evening, got back to the tent and got a little amorous.

Now it was early evening, all the tents were occupied with people, families having bbq's, eating dinner. We knew we had to be quiet, sound really travels, and the tents were quite tightly packed together.

Once we started no way we could stop, classic missionary, slow fucking. I wasn't sure about it to start but by the gods it was one of the most intense fucks I'd ever had, and the orgasm was...WOW!

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By *earditallWoman
16 hours ago

Lancaster

I think if they were totally silent it would put me off,don't want over the top noisy but a bit of noise or talk is good

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By *KTim61Man
16 hours ago

Tipton

I'd prefer to hear her moan at least, to know if I'm pleasing her.

The sound of silence is not good,

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By *ave1976XXXMan
16 hours ago

newmarket

I’d been a quiet one until a few years ago. Being vocal is so horny

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
16 hours ago

SW1A1AA

Silent shaggers unnerve me

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By *ittlebirdWoman
16 hours ago

The Big Smoke

I’m silent only when told to be so 😇

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By *lirtyFilthWoman
16 hours ago

Troublesville

"It's better to be able to be noisy but you can't when a child is sleeping in the next room. "

Or the mother is awake downstairs.

Arse up, face down in the pillow. Growling. 😇

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By *heJam84Man
16 hours ago

Manchester

"I think if they were totally silent it would put me off,don't want over the top noisy but a bit of noise or talk is good

can imagine our session would be like a talk show then haha

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
16 hours ago

Reading

I'm so loud.

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By *elboy1978Man
16 hours ago

Jarrow

The ex wife was always silent didn’t make any noise I didn’t know if she was enjoying the sex

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By *carlettsWoman
15 hours ago

Harpenden

Totally silence does freak me out. I don't mean have a debate whilst getting jiggy but some small sound of appreciation is good (no not a clap or a whistle!)

That said I did have sex with a guy that made small whimperings..very off putting wasn't sure if he was crying at some point!

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
15 hours ago

Round the bend

I would not like silent at all. Rather have a wank.

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By *en BaylissMan
15 hours ago

leeds usually but sometimes ncl

Has to be noisy fun every time lol

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By *ermite12ukMan
15 hours ago

Solihull and Romford

After this thread, I'm going to have add to my list of requisites: Currently at one - Has to have a pulse. Jus sayin.

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By *oideawhyWoman
15 hours ago

Nowhere near you

Silent sex is unnerving. I like verbal feedback, knowing I’ve hit the right spot or having filth whispered in my ear…🥵

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By *wcoMan
14 hours ago

West Midlands

I'm going to buck the trend. I like it. Doesn't happen very often (silence, not sex in general) because we tend to talk a lot during sex but then all my sex is with a loved one so slightly different from you promiscuous people. I like the silence, especially in the total darkness.

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By *exytimeCoolMan
14 hours ago

swadlincote

I want enjoy i want her no that so turned on i just went Bang her no and like. One day i say

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By *wcoMan
14 hours ago

West Midlands

"I want enjoy i want her no that so turned on i just went Bang her no and like. One day i say "

This is no time for quoting Mills & Boon. It's not really a site for outlandish romantic gestures.

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By *eekaboo BellyMan
14 hours ago

Bradford

I am mute and I don't like noise

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By *awpleasureMan
14 hours ago

Sutton Coldfield

A few moans and grunts are welcome and slight verbal but too much verbal is off putting for me.

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By *infullyObedientWoman
14 hours ago

Woodley

In the right circumstances silence is a lot of fun, especially if vision is taken out of the equation as well.

But in general I prefer noisy sex

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By *uicy_peach79Woman
14 hours ago

Edinburgh

Not for me prefer some noise even if it's gentle quiet moans.

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By *iaisonseekerMan
14 hours ago

Liverpool

I do like a bit of a running commentary from s bed mate, especially while performing cunnilingus but relentless instructions are probably too much.

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By *eekaboo BellyMan
14 hours ago

Bradford

I do like softer moans, just nothing theatrical or ott

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By *KTim61Man
14 hours ago

Tipton

"I'm so loud."

Bet your neighbours know when your having sex then

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By *mizhereMan
14 hours ago

Thame and surrounds

Much prefer a vocal partner

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
14 hours ago

Lanarkshire

I like some kind of verbal response. I think most people like to know they are getting it right for their lover/playmate.

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By *b1980Man
14 hours ago

Burnley

Wife is silent i was her first and only and when i shared her she moaned

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By *agicm696Man
14 hours ago

High Wycombe

Love it loud, find silent too vanilla

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By *ino200Man
14 hours ago

Bournemouth,london and Sienna

The ladies ive been with are always moaning

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By *airyZedMan
14 hours ago

Haverhill

I had to be silent with gfs when we were in their parents' houses and of course parents thought we are "good kids." Later being in bed with woman who was totally silent... Nah, a bit like with a puppet. I don't scream but I don't like to be in silence

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
13 hours ago

Newcastle

I would find silent sex very weird and off putting…. Don’t need full on dirty talk, but moans and groans are good

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By *az080378 OP Woman
12 hours ago

Cromer

So I agree, having to be silent is totally different game, it can add to the intensity but, I'm talking about having sex with someone that makes no noise at all.

I like things to involve all the senses.

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By *oingMan
12 hours ago

Co. Antrim

They often call me the whisper wanker

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By *osie888TV/TS
12 hours ago

Bathgate

No noise except the breathing

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By *oiuytMan
12 hours ago

LINCOLN

Love dirty conversations and noises of appreciation. Always very vocal.

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By *erfHerder74Man
11 hours ago

Inverclyde

I love heavy breathing and mmm noises instead of talking of shouting

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
11 hours ago

Central

Silence can be fine, especially when too much of life is noisy.

But I prefer to talk and have plenty of sound in sex

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By *atinaChica54Woman
8 hours ago

Marlborough

I would find sex with anyone who was completely silent unnerving. I like 2 way dirty talk (I'm quite vocal) & moans & groans of pleasure between us both as signs of mutual enjoyment.

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
8 hours ago

Bognor Regis

Total silence would be a little odd I think for me anyway.

I'm an expressive person and if someone was absolutely silent I might feel like it was all a bit shit lol. If it was I would rather they say something, give me some direction.

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By *vaRoseWoman
8 hours ago

Ankh-Morpork

Complete silence would honestly put me off entirely.

Even if I was needing to be quiet because of circumstances, I’d still need that heavy breathing, panting, and the soft quiet moans.

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By *hegoodthebadandthecockMan
7 hours ago

Birmingham

"Complete silence would honestly put me off entirely.

Even if I was needing to be quiet because of circumstances, I’d still need that heavy breathing, panting, and the soft quiet moans. "

Only time there should be silence is to hear the juices flowing 😅

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By *lba The ScotMan
6 hours ago

Midlothian

cock sucked but usually concentrating and not unloading straight away if bear back haha "

Where did the bear go to?

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By *ornyguy666Man
6 hours ago

Nottingham

All sex must make so noise especially pounding into the pussy

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By *lba The ScotMan
6 hours ago

Midlothian

"Complete silence would honestly put me off entirely.

Even if I was needing to be quiet because of circumstances, I’d still need that heavy breathing, panting, and the soft quiet moans. "

Absolutely 💯%!

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By *ennessee WhiskeyMan
6 hours ago

tooting

Not for me, I’m all for hearing someone’s reactions. It’d be a bit boring, right? Not having any emotion or energy 🤷🏼‍♂️

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By *hoenixxFeatherWoman
3 hours ago

Teesside

When it's being suppressed on purpose because of the surroundings, yes. But silence in general is a turn-off for me. Love a little moaning and groaning on both sides! 😍

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By *a LunaWoman
3 hours ago

Wales

I like to hear sounds of exertion. Panting, heavy breathing, squelchy bits from wetness etc.

Screaming, shouting and a dirty chatty Cathy can get on my nerves.

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By *laytime_13Woman
3 hours ago

Lincs

Silent sex where you have to be quiet can be quite the turn on.

Silent sex because the other person is just quiet freaks me out tbh, I'm then convinced they're not enjoying it and I start to panic that I'm not floating their boat, then I'm not enjoying it.

Overly vocal and performative is equally a turn off.

I'd like the happy medium please

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By *ennessee WhiskeyMan
41 minutes ago

tooting

"Silent sex where you have to be quiet can be quite the turn on.

Silent sex because the other person is just quiet freaks me out tbh, I'm then convinced they're not enjoying it and I start to panic that I'm not floating their boat, then I'm not enjoying it.

Overly vocal and performative is equally a turn off.

I'd like the happy medium please

Perfectly put. 🫰🏼

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By *im le2Man
36 minutes ago

AYLESTONE

I could never be silent I want the world to know I'm cumming.

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By *arriedcoupleXCouple
34 minutes ago

north lanarkshire

Only time we have Silent sex is when we wake up middle of the night horny as hell and fuck in the spooning position then fall back asleep, that happens often 🤣

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By *xSirenaxxWoman
22 minutes ago

Gloucestershire

"Silent sex where you have to be quiet can be quite the turn on.

Silent sex because the other person is just quiet freaks me out tbh, I'm then convinced they're not enjoying it and I start to panic that I'm not floating their boat, then I'm not enjoying it.

Overly vocal and performative is equally a turn off.

I'd like the happy medium please

💯 If I don't have to be quiet and I am not making any noise .... I am probably not really into it.

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