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" birthmarks or anything else visible " I have a birthmark in the shape of Africa between one side of my nose and my top lip. I had a terrible time at school because of bullying, the kids used to call me Rudolph 
I did have laser treatment and it's faded slightly but it's still visible.
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"I suffer with acne and although I've had it for most of my life and used to it, it's still something I'm conscious of. Even getting in the way of meeting people I'm genuinely excited to meet. Sometimes I feel the need to mention it beforehand like some weird kind of trigger warning, so they don't expect something else. For those of you with skin conditions, prominent scars, birthmarks or anything else visible, is this something you struggle with too? And for everyone else, is this something you notice? Something that could put you off? Or doesn't make a difference? (This isn't a post looking for attention, just a genuine question) " If there is a genuine attraction it shouldn’t put anyone off and if it bothers someone that much then maybe they are the problem. If someone is as shallow to knock a meet back because of looks then they are not the person for you! | |||
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"At the risk of sounding horribly shallow, possibly. It depends where and how much. I have met people with scars or less than perfect skin and it’s had no impact at all. It’s just who they are and they are sexy. But I know myself well enough to admit that if it was very prominent then it might. I don’t know if I’ve worded this quite right but I’m trying to answer your question honestly." No, I understand what you mean. Even though I have acne and know how self conscious it makes me. If I meet someone who has it, maybe a little worse, it's honestly the first thing I notice. And I can see how something like that can be off putting to others. | |||
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"So glad you posted this! When I was a teenager I used to self harm hence why I now have sleeve tattoos!) I get so anxious meeting someone new because I think to myself 'can they tell I have scars?' So sometimes I may mention it beforehand. I've never ever been with someone who has been put off by it. Most of the time they wouldn't have even noticed till I pointed it out! " If I've read that right, it sounds like you have recovered from that period in your life, which I'm glad of. Sorry you went through that though! It's kinda cool you've reclaimed that part of your body and filled it with tattoos that you (hopefully) enjoy looking at 🖤 | |||
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"It wasn't the scar that put me off, but when he said it was a gunshot scar and that he had spent several years in jail i did hesitate a bit." Jee wizz, that's entirely understandable! | |||
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"I have a scar on my throat from a cancer operation , my friend s tell me I like Lee van cliff " Scars are cool. They always come with a badass back story. The cancer sucks though! | |||
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"It wasn't the scar that put me off, but when he said it was a gunshot scar and that he had spent several years in jail i did hesitate a bit." Fucking hell  | |||
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"So glad you posted this! When I was a teenager I used to self harm hence why I now have sleeve tattoos!) I get so anxious meeting someone new because I think to myself 'can they tell I have scars?' So sometimes I may mention it beforehand. I've never ever been with someone who has been put off by it. Most of the time they wouldn't have even noticed till I pointed it out! If I've read that right, it sounds like you have recovered from that period in your life, which I'm glad of. Sorry you went through that though! It's kinda cool you've reclaimed that part of your body and filled it with tattoos that you (hopefully) enjoy looking at 🖤" Oh yes definitely overcame it and the tattoos were to make sure I never went down that road again...and I didn't I was young and didnt think of consequences back then! | |||
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"Could you imagine banging it in doggy style and they have an arse full of ripe spots." So.....not for you then? | |||
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"I've recently developed some vitiligo on the underside of my penis and the foreskin near the head. No one has seen it since it started so no idea how any would feel" This is another that I think a lot of people find fascinating or cool! I can see how the placement of that can knock your confidence though. | |||
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"So glad you posted this! When I was a teenager I used to self harm hence why I now have sleeve tattoos!) I get so anxious meeting someone new because I think to myself 'can they tell I have scars?' So sometimes I may mention it beforehand. I've never ever been with someone who has been put off by it. Most of the time they wouldn't have even noticed till I pointed it out! If I've read that right, it sounds like you have recovered from that period in your life, which I'm glad of. Sorry you went through that though! It's kinda cool you've reclaimed that part of your body and filled it with tattoos that you (hopefully) enjoy looking at 🖤 Oh yes definitely overcame it and the tattoos were to make sure I never went down that road again...and I didn't I was young and didnt think of consequences back then!"You definitely don't want to ruin those tattoos now! | |||
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"I've got some cracking groin scars due to Hidradenitis suppurativa. They just get lived with 😊" HS is a bitch! My scars are groin, armpits and under my boobs, all the classic places for HS 🙄 If people don’t like them I don’t care, it’s their problem not mine. I’m very lucky that Shaggy helps if I have a flare that needs dressing and I can’t reach. He does everything he can to look after me when a flare is bad | |||
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"I’m going to sound terribly shallow but there’s a chance it might, it would depend how extreme the condition was honestly. I used to live next door to someone who had neurofibromatosis and was terribly disfigured by it. In extreme situations like this I think it would affect my sexual attraction to them. Generally though, normal life scars, surgical scarring, acne, psoriasis, stretch marks, missing parts etc don’t bother me in the slightest. I have plenty of those of my own. " I'm glad you mentioned stretch marks! This is such a common thing that a lot of people feel self conscious about and have seen women wearing some sort of garter belt around their stomach to cover them. I get it if it helps their confidence but I wish they wouldn't as I genuinely find a woman embracing them really sexy. | |||
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"It actually annoys me how bothered I used to be about meeting people and being conscious of myself. I have spots, stretch marks, surgery scars and the thought of someone seeing me without make up used to fill me with dread. Ive learnt to embrace myself more now, and I'll be damned if I let anyone make me feel bad about myself. We all have insecure moments but honestly, the right people won't care and the ones that do? Fuck em." I get to a point where I think fuck it and it doesn't bother me for a while. Then I'll have a really bad flare up and I'm back to square one again, which is where I am now... I do aspire to be more confident in my own skin all of the time. I'm glad you've got to that place 🖤 | |||
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"I suffer with acne and although I've had it for most of my life and used to it, it's still something I'm conscious of. Even getting in the way of meeting people I'm genuinely excited to meet. Sometimes I feel the need to mention it beforehand like some weird kind of trigger warning, so they don't expect something else. For those of you with skin conditions, prominent scars, birthmarks or anything else visible, is this something you struggle with too? And for everyone else, is this something you notice? Something that could put you off? Or doesn't make a difference? (This isn't a post looking for attention, just a genuine question) " Some scars yes they do put me off but i suppose it depends where they are and if i know about them ,you look gorgeous in your pics so dont worry too much . | |||
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"I'm quite understanding, I've had grief in the past and occasionally get flare ups. So know how rough it can feel. I've pretty much cycled through all the creams n medicines. I can share if you're overly interested " I've actually exhausted all treatments the NHS are willing to give me. I recently had a course of Spironolactone as a last ditch effort, which worked so well for a while, but hasn't completely got rid of it. I refuse to take Roaccutane. | |||
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"I’m going to sound terribly shallow but there’s a chance it might, it would depend how extreme the condition was honestly. I used to live next door to someone who had neurofibromatosis and was terribly disfigured by it. In extreme situations like this I think it would affect my sexual attraction to them. Generally though, normal life scars, surgical scarring, acne, psoriasis, stretch marks, missing parts etc don’t bother me in the slightest. I have plenty of those of my own. I'm glad you mentioned stretch marks! This is such a common thing that a lot of people feel self conscious about and have seen women wearing some sort of garter belt around their stomach to cover them. I get it if it helps their confidence but I wish they wouldn't as I genuinely find a woman embracing them really sexy." Absolutely, I’m more confident in a garter and stockings… not to hide but I think they frame my hips better and with the elasticity changes (weight, stretch marks and scaly lizard skin) having them on is supportive too. | |||
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"I've got some cracking groin scars due to Hidradenitis suppurativa. They just get lived with 😊" HS honestly looks so painful. I feel sorry for sufferers and the scar they leave after a flare up is quite shocking. | |||
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"It's something I'll notice but probably wouldn't bring up as it's essentially their story to tell when they feel comfortable, whether it be scars or any kind of skin condition and it most likely wouldn't put me off if I found them attractive in their personality and physically. You can probably tell from my photos that I have a bit of a skin condition on my legs and bum that I've had my whole life (that I recently found out was called ichthyosis vulgaris) and it was initially the reason I never took any photos of myself. But it's never been brought up either in messages or during meets so it's not something I've thought to tell someone about." That's honestly the first time I've heard you mention it and it doesn't appear overly visible in your pictures at all! But I understand the not wanting to take pictures part. Funnily enough, no one has ever mentioned it to me either. The little voice in the back of my head still tells me that they notice and are too embarrassed to point it out or ask questions though. | |||
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"I'm quite understanding, I've had grief in the past and occasionally get flare ups. So know how rough it can feel. I've pretty much cycled through all the creams n medicines. I can share if you're overly interested I've actually exhausted all treatments the NHS are willing to give me. I recently had a course of Spironolactone as a last ditch effort, which worked so well for a while, but hasn't completely got rid of it. I refuse to take Roaccutane. " I did the roaccutane(isotretinoin) thing and it was dodgy AF.. you probably know the details. but it kinda worked? Although my issue wasn't directly acne. Theres a cream called soolantra (ivermectin) which is to treat rosacea, again not directly for acne but works wonders whenever I get blemishes pop up | |||
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"It's something I'll notice but probably wouldn't bring up as it's essentially their story to tell when they feel comfortable, whether it be scars or any kind of skin condition and it most likely wouldn't put me off if I found them attractive in their personality and physically. You can probably tell from my photos that I have a bit of a skin condition on my legs and bum that I've had my whole life (that I recently found out was called ichthyosis vulgaris) and it was initially the reason I never took any photos of myself. But it's never been brought up either in messages or during meets so it's not something I've thought to tell someone about." I can honestly say, You have the most perfect peach mr beans 🍑🥵 | |||
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"I'm quite understanding, I've had grief in the past and occasionally get flare ups. So know how rough it can feel. I've pretty much cycled through all the creams n medicines. I can share if you're overly interested I've actually exhausted all treatments the NHS are willing to give me. I recently had a course of Spironolactone as a last ditch effort, which worked so well for a while, but hasn't completely got rid of it. I refuse to take Roaccutane. I did the roaccutane(isotretinoin) thing and it was dodgy AF.. you probably know the details. but it kinda worked? Although my issue wasn't directly acne. Theres a cream called soolantra (ivermectin) which is to treat rosacea, again not directly for acne but works wonders whenever I get blemishes pop up " The possible side effects and monthly pregnancy and blood tests are wild. They offered me both, but i went with the other option because of that. I know it works absolute wonders for the majority of people, I just didn't want to commit to it after reading up on it. I think i may possibly have had that before, but I'll have a nose. Thank you! | |||
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"I have surgery scars front and back for heart and for skin cancer " I can see that! I think scars is something that I would slip into a conversation. Not because I find them off putting, but because I'm nosey and want to know how you got it 😅 | |||
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"Bring a long term psoriasis sufferer. I mention it. Saves the awkwardness. It can cause some awkward reactions but generally it's fine. Can't really do much about it. Unless sone has done magic and I mean magic cream " My husband was covered head to toe in psoriasis when we first got together. It knocked his confidence big time when meeting anyone new, not just fabbers. The cream doesn't work. His has calmed down massively after he quite smoking and got some rounds of UV treatment. | |||
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"Could you imagine banging it in doggy style and they have an arse full of ripe spots." I'd have to ask if I could squeeze them. | |||
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"It's something I'll notice but probably wouldn't bring up as it's essentially their story to tell when they feel comfortable, whether it be scars or any kind of skin condition and it most likely wouldn't put me off if I found them attractive in their personality and physically. You can probably tell from my photos that I have a bit of a skin condition on my legs and bum that I've had my whole life (that I recently found out was called ichthyosis vulgaris) and it was initially the reason I never took any photos of myself. But it's never been brought up either in messages or during meets so it's not something I've thought to tell someone about. That's honestly the first time I've heard you mention it and it doesn't appear overly visible in your pictures at all! But I understand the not wanting to take pictures part. Funnily enough, no one has ever mentioned it to me either. The little voice in the back of my head still tells me that they notice and are too embarrassed to point it out or ask questions though. " I think the hairy legs help with hiding it a bit 😂 but I get what you mean about that little voice even though they probably pay it no mind on the count of you being fucking gorgeous anyway 😘 | |||
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"It's something I'll notice but probably wouldn't bring up as it's essentially their story to tell when they feel comfortable, whether it be scars or any kind of skin condition and it most likely wouldn't put me off if I found them attractive in their personality and physically. You can probably tell from my photos that I have a bit of a skin condition on my legs and bum that I've had my whole life (that I recently found out was called ichthyosis vulgaris) and it was initially the reason I never took any photos of myself. But it's never been brought up either in messages or during meets so it's not something I've thought to tell someone about. I can honestly say, You have the most perfect peach mr beans 🍑🥵" You're far too kind. I noticed that people actually liked my thighs and bum so the good far outweighs the bad 😉 | |||
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"Only if it's contagious "I've had "ew is that a cold sore?" Before. Nope just a huge fucking spot. Thank you so much for pointing it out though, prick 🤣 | |||
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"I've got some cracking groin scars due to Hidradenitis suppurativa. They just get lived with 😊" Me too!! Sometimes I'm worried they'll be mistaken for an STD lol. I'm sorry you're suffering with it too. Such an ugly condition. I have fewer flare ups since I completely cut out dairy. Maybe it'll help you too. | |||
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"I have quite bad acne scarring mainly under my chin and down my neck that I can be quite self conscious about. I do wear fake tan so that helps and at worse I hope people think it’s just patchy tan! Xx 😘 " My acne is hormonal so mainly on the lower part of my face also. I have a lot of scaring around my jaw and chin. I do have a face full of freckles which helps because its difficult to distinguish what's a scar and what's a freckle | |||
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"I've got some cracking groin scars due to Hidradenitis suppurativa. They just get lived with 😊 HS is a bitch! My scars are groin, armpits and under my boobs, all the classic places for HS 🙄 If people don’t like them I don’t care, it’s their problem not mine. I’m very lucky that Shaggy helps if I have a flare that needs dressing and I can’t reach. He does everything he can to look after me when a flare is bad" I've got scars in all the same places. Also on my face. Cutting out dairy and switching to organic paste deodorant massively reduced my flare ups. Wish I'd figured it out before the scarring. Can send you the deodorant I use if you like. Having had armpit flares in years. | |||
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"I have quite bad acne scarring mainly under my chin and down my neck that I can be quite self conscious about. I do wear fake tan so that helps and at worse I hope people think it’s just patchy tan! Xx 😘 My acne is hormonal so mainly on the lower part of my face also. I have a lot of scaring around my jaw and chin. I do have a face full of freckles which helps because its difficult to distinguish what's a scar and what's a freckle "Mines the same, my acne from my teens and twenties didn’t scar too bad but I had severe hormonal acne in my early forties that left the scarring! Xx 😘 | |||
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"I've got some cracking groin scars due to Hidradenitis suppurativa. They just get lived with 😊 HS is a bitch! My scars are groin, armpits and under my boobs, all the classic places for HS 🙄 If people don’t like them I don’t care, it’s their problem not mine. I’m very lucky that Shaggy helps if I have a flare that needs dressing and I can’t reach. He does everything he can to look after me when a flare is bad I've got scars in all the same places. Also on my face. Cutting out dairy and switching to organic paste deodorant massively reduced my flare ups. Wish I'd figured it out before the scarring. Can send you the deodorant I use if you like. Having had armpit flares in years. " *Haven't | |||
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"I’m going to sound terribly shallow but there’s a chance it might, it would depend how extreme the condition was honestly. I used to live next door to someone who had neurofibromatosis and was terribly disfigured by it. In extreme situations like this I think it would affect my sexual attraction to them. Generally though, normal life scars, surgical scarring, acne, psoriasis, stretch marks, missing parts etc don’t bother me in the slightest. I have plenty of those of my own. I'm glad you mentioned stretch marks! This is such a common thing that a lot of people feel self conscious about and have seen women wearing some sort of garter belt around their stomach to cover them. I get it if it helps their confidence but I wish they wouldn't as I genuinely find a woman embracing them really sexy." My ex told me that my stretch marks remind him of sunlight shining off a rippling body of water, and I've been in love with my tiger stripes ever since. | |||
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"I have scars around my eye and nose but most people don't notice them I think I see them more than others. Stretch marks and a few other scars ive one on my leg but that only bothers me too. I tend to tell people I have diastema as thats what bothers me most my tooth gap but it's never going anywhere I think we are our own worst enemies with stuff like this. But I can honestly say its never put me off anyone so I don't get why we do it to ourselves,if someone likes you they like you scars n all x" Tooth gaps!! My friend has one. She's gorgeous, but her little tooth gap just makes her look so unique and even more beautiful 😍 | |||
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"I have scars around my eye and nose but most people don't notice them I think I see them more than others. Stretch marks and a few other scars ive one on my leg but that only bothers me too. I tend to tell people I have diastema as thats what bothers me most my tooth gap but it's never going anywhere I think we are our own worst enemies with stuff like this. But I can honestly say its never put me off anyone so I don't get why we do it to ourselves,if someone likes you they like you scars n all x Tooth gaps!! My friend has one. She's gorgeous, but her little tooth gap just makes her look so unique and even more beautiful 😍" Omg yes tooth gaps are so sexy 🥵 | |||
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"Absolutely wouldn't put me off. I'm not that shallow, depends on the person themselves and how they are before something like that " To be honest I don't think being put off by things like that is shallow. Being visually attracted to someone is a big thing for most people. If there is something that stands out and distracts you from that, I can totally understand it. | |||
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 it used to make me feel so self conscious. I have lots of scarring but nowadays no one has ever said anything to me. When I was younger I used to hear “why don’t you go to a dermatologist?” Yeah, thanks, why didn’t I think of that?? 🙄🙄🙄 or “you’d be so pretty if your face was clear….” Almost every day. Cheers!!! 🙄🙄🙄
I have some scars on my right foot from the surgeries I had when I broke my ankle but no one has seen them or asked about them. I do feel very self conscious about my feet. 
I was once with a guy who’d had open heart surgery and had a massive scar. I wasn’t put off by it. I don’t think I would be. | |||
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"So glad you posted this! When I was a teenager I used to self harm hence why I now have sleeve tattoos!) I get so anxious meeting someone new because I think to myself 'can they tell I have scars?' So sometimes I may mention it beforehand. I've never ever been with someone who has been put off by it. Most of the time they wouldn't have even noticed till I pointed it out! " This is so important to talk about. Thank you for being open . | |||
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"I suffered from severe acne until I gave birth to my first child aged 31 and then it disappeared. it used to make me feel so self conscious. I have lots of scarring but nowadays no one has ever said anything to me. When I was younger I used to hear “why don’t you go to a dermatologist?” Yeah, thanks, why didn’t I think of that?? 🙄🙄🙄 or “you’d be so pretty if your face was clear….” Almost every day. Cheers!!! 🙄🙄🙄
I have some scars on my right foot from the surgeries I had when I broke my ankle but no one has seen them or asked about them. I do feel very self conscious about my feet.
I was once with a guy who’d had open heart surgery and had a massive scar. I wasn’t put off by it. I don’t think I would be. "My ex used to go on and on about how pretty I would be if my face wasn't covered in acne. I think that's where the self consciousness stems from to be honest. | |||
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"Bring a long term psoriasis sufferer. I mention it. Saves the awkwardness. It can cause some awkward reactions but generally it's fine. Can't really do much about it. Unless sone has done magic and I mean magic cream My husband was covered head to toe in psoriasis when we first got together. It knocked his confidence big time when meeting anyone new, not just fabbers. The cream doesn't work. His has calmed down massively after he quite smoking and got some rounds of UV treatment. " Great to hear.  | |||
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"Brevity for once: 🅝🅞." This is too few words from you, Nero. I'm slightly concerned... | |||
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"I've got some cracking groin scars due to Hidradenitis suppurativa. They just get lived with 😊 HS is a bitch! My scars are groin, armpits and under my boobs, all the classic places for HS 🙄 If people don’t like them I don’t care, it’s their problem not mine. I’m very lucky that Shaggy helps if I have a flare that needs dressing and I can’t reach. He does everything he can to look after me when a flare is bad I've got scars in all the same places. Also on my face. Cutting out dairy and switching to organic paste deodorant massively reduced my flare ups. Wish I'd figured it out before the scarring. Can send you the deodorant I use if you like. Having had armpit flares in years. " I don’t have food triggers, mine is mainly triggered by hormones. When I hit perimenopause it went even more bonkers, but now I’m out the other side it’s calmed down a lot | |||
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"I have some fairly substantial self inflicted scarring on my arms. Tbh, it's old and from a different time in my life a long time ago and I pretty much forget about it. This is making me wonder whether I should actually give people a heads up, it feels different to scarring from (physical) illness or ops (although arguably I was really quite unwell back then) I have cellulite and stretch marks on my legs. If someone's bothered by that though they can get lost." No don't do that. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone, It's just my silly brain. | |||
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"I have some fairly substantial self inflicted scarring on my arms. Tbh, it's old and from a different time in my life a long time ago and I pretty much forget about it. This is making me wonder whether I should actually give people a heads up, it feels different to scarring from (physical) illness or ops (although arguably I was really quite unwell back then) I have cellulite and stretch marks on my legs. If someone's bothered by that though they can get lost. No don't do that. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone, It's just my silly brain. "  | |||
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"I suffered from severe acne until I gave birth to my first child aged 31 and then it disappeared. it used to make me feel so self conscious. I have lots of scarring but nowadays no one has ever said anything to me. When I was younger I used to hear “why don’t you go to a dermatologist?” Yeah, thanks, why didn’t I think of that?? 🙄🙄🙄 or “you’d be so pretty if your face was clear….” Almost every day. Cheers!!! 🙄🙄🙄
I have some scars on my right foot from the surgeries I had when I broke my ankle but no one has seen them or asked about them. I do feel very self conscious about my feet.
I was once with a guy who’d had open heart surgery and had a massive scar. I wasn’t put off by it. I don’t think I would be.
My ex used to go on and on about how pretty I would be if my face wasn't covered in acne. I think that's where the self consciousness stems from to be honest. "One exFWB who I was madly in love with, said to me “if only you were slimmer and your face was clear, I’d make you my proper girlfriend and take you home to meet my parents …”  🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Fast forward 27 years and we bumped into each other in Chicago. I am looking fabulous, he is really overweight, after being super slim in his youth, haggard, and just… not looking great. He apologised for his behaviour. And he looked at me longingly while I left for the airport in my uniform, haha.
But yeah- people should connect their brain to their mouths before they say anything. My parents took me to so many dermatologists- I had cryotherapy, hormone therapy, the most expensive skincare… the only thing I was not given, despite me begging for it, was Accutane. That was a last resort. So when people said “you should go to a dermatologist….” i wanted to smack them haha x | |||
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"I suffer with acne and although I've had it for most of my life and used to it, it's still something I'm conscious of. Even getting in the way of meeting people I'm genuinely excited to meet. Sometimes I feel the need to mention it beforehand like some weird kind of trigger warning, so they don't expect something else. For those of you with skin conditions, prominent scars, birthmarks or anything else visible, is this something you struggle with too? And for everyone else, is this something you notice? Something that could put you off? Or doesn't make a difference? (This isn't a post looking for attention, just a genuine question) " Effy... You are genuinely beautiful. Stunning. I know it's not easy sometimes but look after yourself and love yourself and you'll see. | |||
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