FabSwingers.com forum: disillusioned

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

do other people feel this way about the lifestyle !!!

Been swinging for 7 years now and met some nice people and some not so nice !!! lol

And recently I have started to become disillusioned with it all. I really cant put my finger on it just have this sense or feeling that I want more !! if that makes any sense

Would really be interested in yout thoughts on this one folks

maybe I need a break ??

Andy (jimmy)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do other people feel this way about the lifestyle !!!

Been swinging for 7 years now and met some nice people and some not so nice !!! lol

And recently I have started to become disillusioned with it all. I really cant put my finger on it just have this sense or feeling that I want more !! if that makes any sense

Would really be interested in yout thoughts on this one folks

maybe I need a break ??

Andy (jimmy)"

want more swinging or more out of it ??? Ive been around the scene for about 5 years...and i have this romantic notion about finding someone to have more of a relationship with , and ive done it a few times but they have wanted to invade my space and i know deep down i dont want that (well not with them anyway)..Just go with your guts ... if someone comes along and u feel differently about swinging then do what u need to do ...simple really ??? life happens... u have to go with it i find !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you've answered your own question that you should take a break and no, we don't feel the same way about the lifestyle. We all get fed up when u have 'no shows' etc. but just move on and have fun. The whole swinging malarkey is supposed to be fun but gets taken way too seriously by many...which is their perogative, of course. Anyway, hope u find what you're looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps you just need a break, or perhaps you need something more in your life, such as a permanent lady friend, if you haven't already got one.

I don't think I could play on my own. It would probably be ok to start with, but I would get fed up going home alone to an empty house. Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I miss the intimacy of having a life partner, such as kissing, cuddling up, and bear hugs.

However, I am not ready for another life partner just yet.

So I shall have some NSA fun until I find another life partner.

Who knows, I may be lucky to find one who will swing with me as a couple!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you've answered your own question that you should take a break and no, we don't feel the same way about the lifestyle. We all get fed up when u have 'no shows' etc. but just move on and have fun. The whole swinging malarkey is supposed to be fun but gets taken way too seriously by many...which is their perogative, of course. Anyway, hope u find what you're looking for."

We have to agree with the above .... We get a bit fed up now and then with various things, but it's a sometimes fun thing for us and we try not to take the lifestyle or ourselves too seriously xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy the social aspects of being part of FAB more than anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I miss the intimacy of having a life partner, such as kissing, cuddling up, and bear hugs.

However, I am not ready for another life partner just yet.

So I shall have some NSA fun until I find another life partner.

Who knows, I may be lucky to find one who will swing with me as a couple!

Well Pearl, I've certainly proved that to be possible.

I have to say that meeting someone on here has proved to be perfect, the fact that you don't need to hide anything or wonder how you will bring up the subject that you 'used to swing' etc etc its definitely a massive bonus. (That and the fact we may get to play as a couple too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do other people feel this way about the lifestyle !!!

Been swinging for 7 years now and met some nice people and some not so nice !!! lol

And recently I have started to become disillusioned with it all. I really cant put my finger on it just have this sense or feeling that I want more !! if that makes any sense

Would really be interested in yout thoughts on this one folks

maybe I need a break ??

Andy (jimmy)"

I understand where you are coming from.

I've only been swinging for two years, and it is still fun. However as Pearl has said I miss the intimacy at times. I think you need to take a break and reflect on what you want.

Swinging should be fun, if it's not then your feelings of dissatisfaction will only grow.

Good luck in whatever you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I really cant put my finger on it ..."

Maybe that's the essence of your problem. I'm sure some of the ladies on here would guide you in the right direction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been swinging off and on for over ten years now and have over the years hung up the swinging baton more times than i care to remember.

I find its something i cant seem to leave for definate.

Why not just take a break and concentrate on the forums and social side of things as many of us do .

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

Oooo wanting more on here!.........well it has been known to happen you know.

But on a serious note disillusionment creeps into many areas. Have in the past found things drifted ve3ry much into a oneness. Sometimes meaningless sex is brilliant and very exhilarating. At others people do think like your hinting and think what the point. You could take a break or alternative you could find a regular playmate to swing with.

Anyway hope your mojo gets a revamp as I am sure it will. Might be a touch of the winter blues you have there, gowd knows we have had enough snow to get us all down. Get to spring and the sun out and as we all find the friskiness moves up a gear and normality will return.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I knew I would get some really great and positive answers on here.

I can honestly say that everyone that has replied has said something very positive or reflects how I feel.

I can truthfully say that I love the lifesyle and the freedom that it affords as a single person. But yes I do feel sometimes that sex and only sex is not enough.

I was in long term marriage that ended very badly after over 20 years and to be honest came like a bolt out of the blue one minute I was in love and literally the next I was getting divorced lol.

So yes I think I am mising the parnership thing and the intamacy that goes with it, But do you honestly think I will find that on a swingers site !!!! I have seen so many swinging partnerships blossum on these sites only to see them end in tears and to be honest I dont want to go throught that.

But I am sure that although I may not get the answer I will get some fantastic advice from you very knowledgable people or be ripped ruthlessly lol !!!! excuse the spelling to much cider methinks !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every partnership has a risk of ending in tears, so why should a swinger one be any different?

I believe it is better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"I knew I would get some really great and positive answers on here.

I can honestly say that everyone that has replied has said something very positive or reflects how I feel.

I can truthfully say that I love the lifesyle and the freedom that it affords as a single person. But yes I do feel sometimes that sex and only sex is not enough.

I was in long term marriage that ended very badly after over 20 years and to be honest came like a bolt out of the blue one minute I was in love and literally the next I was getting divorced lol.

But I am sure that although I may not get the answer I will get some fantastic advice from you very knowledgable people or be ripped ruthlessly lol !!!! excuse the spelling to much cider methinks !!!"

A swinging relationship is exactly the same as a vanilla........ it either works or it doesn't.

I met hubby in a swinging club, I moved in a week later, 5 months later we got married (reception in the club) and we are still together.......

If you meet a swinger, providing you clearly define your rules as a 'couple' or even give up swinging for a while whilst you get to know each other, then I personally don't see a problem with that kind of relationship.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"Every partnership has a risk of ending in tears, so why should a swinger one be any different?"

We we're friends with a couple on here who were together for several years, we were surprised and saddened to hear they'd recently split up

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

"Been swinging off and on for over ten years now and have over the years hung up the swinging baton more times than i care to remember.

I find its something i cant seem to leave for definate.

Why not just take a break and concentrate on the forums and social side of things as many of us do .

Agree with Peaches, take a break man, if you force it, it will just make you more stressed, it should be fun.

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

"I knew I would get some really great and positive answers on here.

I can honestly say that everyone that has replied has said something very positive or reflects how I feel.

I can truthfully say that I love the lifesyle and the freedom that it affords as a single person. But yes I do feel sometimes that sex and only sex is not enough.

I was in long term marriage that ended very badly after over 20 years and to be honest came like a bolt out of the blue one minute I was in love and literally the next I was getting divorced lol.

I hope your heart recovers sooner rather than later

I've been swinging for a lot of years and dont ever want a swinger for a partner, tried it and hated it, so I fear I shall never ever find what I want but hes it is fun until then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew I would get some really great and positive answers on here.

I can honestly say that everyone that has replied has said something very positive or reflects how I feel.

I can truthfully say that I love the lifesyle and the freedom that it affords as a single person. But yes I do feel sometimes that sex and only sex is not enough.

I was in long term marriage that ended very badly after over 20 years and to be honest came like a bolt out of the blue one minute I was in love and literally the next I was getting divorced lol.

But I am sure that although I may not get the answer I will get some fantastic advice from you very knowledgable people or be ripped ruthlessly lol !!!! excuse the spelling to much cider methinks !!!

I hope your heart recovers sooner rather than later

I've been swinging for a lot of years and dont ever want a swinger for a partner, tried it and hated it, so I fear I shall never ever find what I want but hes it is fun until then

Damn there goes my leap year proposal out of the window...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think I may possibly go down the vanilla route for a while which may be hard as I seem to be having more fun than ever at the moment lmao!!! and I am looking foward to the posse meet in Gloucester if a certain mad lady manages to book / reserve, me a double room lol (as I aint gonna miss that ).

So I hopefully will get to meet a lot of you in the flesh so to speak !!!

Once again thnks for the informed advice and comments it's all very helpful and can feel my MOJO cummin back already lol.

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

I hope your heart recovers sooner rather than later

I've been swinging for a lot of years and dont ever want a swinger for a partner, tried it and hated it, so I fear I shall never ever find what I want but hes it is fun until then

Damn there goes my leap year proposal out of the window...

hahaha

I look awful in white

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think breaks can be good, give u ur own time to do ur things and just have a good old rest...we love having a break u come back all fresh and catch back up with old faces but the best part is meeting the new ppl who have joined too

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

"I think I may possibly go down the vanilla route for a while which may be hard as I seem to be having more fun than ever at the moment lmao!!! and I am looking foward to the posse meet in Gloucester if a certain mad lady manages to book / reserve, me a double room lol (as I aint gonna miss that ).

So I hopefully will get to meet a lot of you in the flesh so to speak !!!

Once again thnks for the informed advice and comments it's all very helpful and can feel my MOJO cummin back already lol.

nowt wrong with vanilla sex and love and marriage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope your heart recovers sooner rather than later

I've been swinging for a lot of years and dont ever want a swinger for a partner, tried it and hated it, so I fear I shall never ever find what I want but hes it is fun until then

Damn there goes my leap year proposal out of the window...

hahaha

I look awful in white

But I thought you was a Virgin?...

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

I hope your heart recovers sooner rather than later

I've been swinging for a lot of years and dont ever want a swinger for a partner, tried it and hated it, so I fear I shall never ever find what I want but hes it is fun until then

Damn there goes my leap year proposal out of the window...

hahaha

I look awful in white

But I thought you was a Virgin?...

I am to some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my partner on here and could'nt be happier. New rules as we are playing as a couple. I thiink once you get into swinging and you enjoy it. Its hard to get out of it too much fun and much more fun playing in a couple than playing as a single lady.

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over a year ago

"I met my partner on here and could'nt be happier. New rules as we are playing as a couple. I thiink once you get into swinging and you enjoy it. Its hard to get out of it too much fun and much more fun playing in a couple than playing as a single lady."

Yes you are right I love the lifestyle and it really does become a big part of your life.

I think I am just going to see how it works out and take it from there.

Love and marriage are something that are not on the agenda well love possibly but as for marriage nah!!! been there done it loved it but it didn't love me!!!! JADED

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

2 weeks away in the sun and you will feel fresh and perky i recon

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"2 weeks away in the sun and you will feel fresh and perky i recon

MMM sounds good lol where do you have in mind how much is it gonna cost me and I am straight if thats an offer lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 weeks away in the sun and you will feel fresh and perky i recon

MMM sounds good lol where do you have in mind how much is it gonna cost me and I am straight if thats an offer lmao"

BB is taken, so you are quite safe, LOL!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 weeks away in the sun and you will feel fresh and perky i recon

MMM sounds good lol where do you have in mind how much is it gonna cost me and I am straight if thats an offer lmao

BB is taken, so you are quite safe, LOL!

And by a fellow member on FAB too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"2 weeks away in the sun and you will feel fresh and perky i recon

MMM sounds good lol where do you have in mind how much is it gonna cost me and I am straight if thats an offer lmao

BB is taken, so you are quite safe, LOL!

Pheew thats kool then lol

but could still do with 2 weeks away !!!! any suggestions guyz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but could still do with 2 weeks away !!!! any suggestions guyz"

I would avoid anywhere warm where there may be a lot of flesh on show but not on offer.

Somewhere cool and quiet and away from the crowd would be my choice.

However, I am known to be rather eccentric!

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

"2 weeks away in the sun and you will feel fresh and perky i recon

MMM sounds good lol where do you have in mind how much is it gonna cost me and I am straight if thats an offer lmao

BB is taken, so you are quite safe, LOL!

Pheew thats kool then lol

but could still do with 2 weeks away !!!! any suggestions guyz"

I always like to do the last min thing. If you heat heat and value Egypt is pretty good.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"2 weeks away in the sun and you will feel fresh and perky i recon

MMM sounds good lol where do you have in mind how much is it gonna cost me and I am straight if thats an offer lmao

BB is taken, so you are quite safe, LOL!

Pheew thats kool then lol

but could still do with 2 weeks away !!!! any suggestions guyz

I always like to do the last min thing. If you heat heat and value Egypt is pretty good. "

I'm off to Egypt in 5 weeks........ don't suggest the poor man goes there, I'll never give him any peace!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do other people feel this way about the lifestyle !!!

Been swinging for 7 years now and met some nice people and some not so nice !!! lol

And recently I have started to become disillusioned with it all. I really cant put my finger on it just have this sense or feeling that I want more !! if that makes any sense

Would really be interested in yout thoughts on this one folks

maybe I need a break ??

Andy (jimmy)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do other people feel this way about the lifestyle !!!

Been swinging for 7 years now and met some nice people and some not so nice !!! lol

And recently I have started to become disillusioned with it all. I really cant put my finger on it just have this sense or feeling that I want more !! if that makes any sense

Would really be interested in yout thoughts on this one folks

maybe I need a break ??

Andy (jimmy)"

hiya,for me as a single fem ,it's very much a roller coaster.one week i'm up for it,the next week ,i'm telling myself it's not for me.I really do think that once you dabble in the lifestyle it's 'in your blood' so to speak.......well that's what i think anyway xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"2 weeks away in the sun and you will feel fresh and perky i recon

MMM sounds good lol where do you have in mind how much is it gonna cost me and I am straight if thats an offer lmao

BB is taken, so you are quite safe, LOL!

Pheew thats kool then lol

but could still do with 2 weeks away !!!! any suggestions guyz

I always like to do the last min thing. If you heat heat and value Egypt is pretty good.

I'm off to Egypt in 5 weeks........ don't suggest the poor man goes there, I'll never give him any peace!

MMMMMMMMMMMM starts to search for cheap deals to Egypt Sharm or Hurgadha ??????

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"2 weeks away in the sun and you will feel fresh and perky i recon

MMM sounds good lol where do you have in mind how much is it gonna cost me and I am straight if thats an offer lmao

BB is taken, so you are quite safe, LOL!

Pheew thats kool then lol

but could still do with 2 weeks away !!!! any suggestions guyz

I always like to do the last min thing. If you heat heat and value Egypt is pretty good.

I'm off to Egypt in 5 weeks........ don't suggest the poor man goes there, I'll never give him any peace!

MMMMMMMMMMMM starts to search for cheap deals to Egypt Sharm or Hurgadha ??????"

Cheeky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MMMMMMMMMMMM starts to search for cheap deals to Egypt Sharm or Hurgadha ??????"

Maddie is going back home lol they are sick of her escaping from the British museum xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

craig its been lovely knowin you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"craig its been lovely knowin you!

Lol she luvs me ta pieces she may give me a spankin next time she sees me though xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"craig its been lovely knowin you!

Lol she luvs me ta pieces she may give me a spankin next time she sees me though xx

what makes you think she's going to spoil you now soapy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"craig its been lovely knowin you!

Lol she luvs me ta pieces she may give me a spankin next time she sees me though xx

what makes you think she's going to spoil you now soapy?

Ok so it may be a hard spankin lol xx

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

MMMMMMMMMMMM starts to search for cheap deals to Egypt Sharm or Hurgadha ??????

Maddie is going back home lol they are sick of her escaping from the British museum xxx

Oh dear..... oh dear oh dear oh dear....

They're gonna be calling you "Soapy no balls" soon............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh shit is that the time must dash xx

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Oh shit is that the time must dash xx

You are hardly a match for me boy....

My legs are longer than your whole body!

And I've seen more muscles on a matchstick!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh shit is that the time must dash xx

You are hardly a match for me boy....

My legs are longer than your whole body!

And I've seen more muscles on a matchstick!

Yeah ok woman have ya done the dishes yet xx

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Oh shit is that the time must dash xx

You are hardly a match for me boy....

My legs are longer than your whole body!

And I've seen more muscles on a matchstick!

Yeah ok woman have ya done the dishes yet xx

Why would I do the dishes........ I've got a dishwasher........

Jason!

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