FabSwingers.com forum: Confidence

By *hickthighs26 OP Woman
1 week ago

funky town

Do you see yourself as a confident person?

What happens when its knocked?

Are you able to sit with it for a while feel it then let it pass?

Can you take the thought to court?

Or does this spiral? If so, how long do you feel this lasts?

What things help you gain it back?

I know a lot of questions, sorry.

It's wednesda, it's overcast and im a ponderer.

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By *YDB75Man
1 week ago

East Yorks/ Castle Donnington

Its funny this has popped up as a theme on forums as this has been an active brain worm in the early hours while ive been sick ( only man flu ) and ive only this morning updated my status to reflect this.

Do i have confidence no

Am i body conscious yes

How do i deal with this…good and flattering camera angles and B&W filters and not walking past mirrors

If i dont like how i look then surely nobody else will.

This has been a factor in my whole life.

Bullying at primary and high schools leave scars that run very deep.

Confidence for me is a house of cards…I carefully build it and then one small puff of wind can blow it right down again

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By *he MinionMan
1 week ago

Surrey

Generally speaking I am confident.

I have thick skin so insults and knock backs, although hurt,dont bother me too much.

I'm too content with myself to let it bother me.

Is it confidence/ arragance, i dont know but I feel, in this lifestyle, if I meet someone, we will have a good time together. And if we dont have a good time, it wont be from my lack of effort.

At least this is how i look at fab life

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By *rightonsteveMan
1 week ago

Hove, mainly…

I’m confident. If people think ‘dick head’ I think there’s something wrong with them. Leonine irony at work

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By *hickthighs26 OP Woman
1 week ago

funky town

"Its funny this has popped up as a theme on forums as this has been an active brain worm in the early hours while ive been sick ( only man flu ) and ive only this morning updated my status to reflect this.

Do i have confidence no

Am i body conscious yes

How do i deal with this…good and flattering camera angles and B&W filters and not walking past mirrors

If i dont like how i look then surely nobody else will.

This has been a factor in my whole life.

Bullying at primary and high schools leave scars that run very deep.

Confidence for me is a house of cards…I carefully build it and then one small puff of wind can blow it right down again "

Ah. I do hope things can turn around for you soon even a little, sometimes our own brains are our worst enemies. But this is testament to words stick and i think we should all be more careful with them at times ❤️

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
1 week ago

North Welsh Borders

I have more confidence now i'm older than I ever did in 20's and 30's. I guess it comes with the not giving a shit attitude when I realised I don't have to people please.

As for body confidence again it's come with age, I know I look good and I work at it for me, for my health and wellbeing and If others appreciate it then great

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By *viatrixWoman
1 week ago

Back in Surrey, Dahlings!

I am extremely confident in some settings.

In others not so much.

If I am out of my depth (and I love putting myself in such situations, don’t know why 🤷‍♀️) I lose all confidence and start making mistakes that make it even worse

I am not wired to do the “fake it till you make it”

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
1 week ago

London

Do you see yourself as a confident person? Quietly confident, yes. I'm actually nervous a lot. In a social setting I can be engaging and fun. Inside I'm overthinking and a nervous wreck.

What happens when its knocked? I struggle to recover. My confidence was destroyed by my last relationship.

Are you able to sit with it for a while feel it then let it pass? Nope. I overthink.

Can you take the thought to court? Sometimes. I've been learning and practicing positive mindset and also challenging my thoughts.

Or does this spiral? If so, how long do you feel this lasts? Depends on the day. If I'm busy working, not so much. On a day off, it can be bad. I have to keep myself busy or do some exercise.

What things help you gain it back? Exercise, walking, positive thoughts, a regular routine of taking care of myself, treating myself, being kind to myself. Putting myself first.

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By *iver78Man
1 week ago

barton upon humber

Not sure if it's classed as confident but I dint let things play on my mind ever , I used to , I remember being dumped when I was teenager and I dident sleep properly for weeks ,Iv just learnt to except what will be will be , but I do know them brain worms are horrible

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By *sWyldWoman
1 week ago

Edinburgh

I've never been all that confident which comes as a surprise to many people .

Since hitting 40 it's actually gotten worse in many ways . I overthink , I spiral, self doubt takes over and the imposter syndrome is loud. While I know a lot of that is hormone related , I've also just never felt good enough. Its very hard to get past sometimes .

For a long time it held me back, then I actively decided not to let it. That helped but its far from easy.

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By *ysteriousGirlOGWoman
1 week ago

Birmingham

I'm a confident person and in who I am but its taken most of my life to get to this point. Occasionally, self doubt can creep in but most of the time its not whats happened in the moment, its the trigger of the past that I need to acknowledge.

I've learnt to sit with my feelings and react logically rather than emotionally, the feeling passes eventually and im good.

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By *he MinionMan
1 week ago

Surrey

"I have more confidence now i'm older than I ever did in 20's and 30's. I guess it comes with the not giving a shit attitude when I realised I don't have to people please.

As for body confidence again it's come with age, I know I look good and I work at it for me, for my health and wellbeing and If others appreciate it then great

I agree with this.

And would add that I have learnt to not worry about the things I have no control over.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
1 week ago

Manchester

My confidence varies.

As a person, I'm fairly confident that I'm decent and pretty intelligent and capable. Took me a while to get there but I'm much more confident in that part of myself as I've got older.

Physical appearance wise, I fake it til I make it. I'm deeply insecure and don't have much confidence, but I put on a front and wear it like an armour. People always comment on how confident I appear but it's just acting. So if something or someone knocks my confidence and dents that armour, it can sting and I can spiral.

I usually need a bit of time and space and I will sort my head out. Sometimes it can take a few months. Sometimes I can feel more fragile than other depending what other things I have going on. I wish I wasn't like that but my brain can be very unkind to me.

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By *mf123Man
1 week ago

with one foot out the door

Depends what in if its myself and abilities and things im good at yes very strong in parts unshakable unless its something i know nothing about if its a case of like being on here type confidence im pretty sure if i turned on my minge magnet id be unstoppable once again my issue is i lack desire in regards shagging strangers n such so its easier not to bother

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By *007ManMan
1 week ago

Worthing

Very confident. If I get "knocked back"...I move on and don't really care to be honest.

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By *actile TensionMan
1 week ago

Sussex

I'm not in your face courageous confident. Put on the spot or backed into a corner I'm tough to rile and secure

If I'm ever feeling down I refer back to default basic priorities. Family n work. Outside reassurance is nice but isn't vital

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By *ILFnextdoor1000Woman
1 week ago

York

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
1 week ago

Herts/Leeds

I am but it’s something I have to mentally fight for.

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By *avexxMan
1 week ago

cheshire

tbh i soon move always have and always will

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By *parklingeclipseWoman
1 week ago

Lincolnshire

People on here who I talk to would say I am because I give that impression, but really Im quite shy in person. Always have been.

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By *avexxMan
1 week ago

cheshire

"tbh i soon move always have and always will

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... no i dont lack confidence if i get a knock back i move on very quickly

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By *atteLover82Man
1 week ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

Never been a confident person probably due to overthinking and being neuro divergent but I am getting better at not taking things to heart and as if they are a reflection of my worth as a person.

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By *etwife8230Couple
1 week ago

Newport

Much more confident in my 40s

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By *an ClioCouple
1 week ago

Boston

A lot of ignorant people believe they are confident. Their self belief should not be mistaken for confidence.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
1 week ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'm more and less confident in certain things.

In my look and doing the whole Fab thing - very confident.

Cooking? Not so confident.

It's quite possible for the same person to be blasé and a nervous wreck in the same time frame depending upon the circs

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By *ino200Man
1 week ago

Bournemouth,london and Sienna

"Do you see yourself as a confident person?

What happens when its knocked?

Are you able to sit with it for a while feel it then let it pass?

Can you take the thought to court?

Or does this spiral? If so, how long do you feel this lasts?

What things help you gain it back?

I know a lot of questions, sorry.

It's wednesda, it's overcast and im a ponderer. "
I am confident ,i am not arrogant but nobody likes a knockback its just plain rude and no need for it ,if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all

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By *tannersMan
1 week ago

stanley

"Do you see yourself as a confident person?

What happens when its knocked?

Are you able to sit with it for a while feel it then let it pass?

Can you take the thought to court?

Or does this spiral? If so, how long do you feel this lasts?

What things help you gain it back?

I know a lot of questions, sorry.

It's wednesda, it's overcast and im a ponderer. "

Oh lovely Thickthighs this is deep for a Wednesday 😱

My confidence is variable and can be quite fragile.

When it gets knocked I immediately assume it’s my fault and tend to overthink and overanalyse and hence it can take a while to get over it. If multiple knocks occur in a shirt period I can spiral.

Recovery takes a lot of self reflection, convincing myself that despite the setbacks I’m still a decent human and have some worth.

Friends support and some positive affirmations help a lot.

Sorry if this is a bit overly honest.

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By *Effy-Woman
1 week ago

Scotland

Fake it til' you make it baby!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
1 week ago

Central

I'm fairly confident, after developing it as a kid and it's a bit disconcerting, if something ever knocks me but it's a temporary thing, as I bounce back, better than ever. Having a strong mindset and outlook probably helps, as well as looking after yourself

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By *rHotNottsMan
1 week ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yes. It rarely gets knocked cause it’s not based on how I feel in the moment or what others say, or not caring or having thick skin, it’s built up from lots of decisions, actions and accomplishments that I can feel good about.

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By *62GeneralMan
1 week ago

Loughton

I’m confident but as such feel I don’t need to shout or demand attention. This gets interpreted as being quiet or shy (I’ve a school report that says that). Im just very comfortable with who I am.

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