FabSwingers.com forum: Men, how do you want to be messaged

By (user no longer on site) OP
2 weeks ago

Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

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By *r_firmwareMan
2 weeks ago

Luton

All or any of the above. X

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By *elix SightedMan
2 weeks ago

Cloud 8

I just need a “Hi” and a graphic picture of a gaping, sweaty minge corpse being fingered by some dirty fingernails and a cigarette.

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By *hickthighs26Woman
2 weeks ago

funky town

Ive heard they dont like any sexual pics or action shots, and if we send them our tits they almost throw up.

Oh wait that might have just been when i did it. Who knows

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
2 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

Humour

Offers of food

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By *asoMan
2 weeks ago

Sheffield

Are you around in 15 mins?

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By *eturningagain2024Man
2 weeks ago

Glenrothes

However the women feels comfortable opening a message, I wouid just say just be normal chat like you would if you were chatting in the pub,

Always nice with a little flirtatious comments

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By *rCtaoMan
2 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

Preferably the last option, but the 2nd options fine if it leads to the last option lol x

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By *tms1xCouple
2 weeks ago

Chelmsford

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

Couples like boobs too lol

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By *ulldog_71Man
2 weeks ago

Sedgefield

To be fair as long as its not just a couple if words then im happy, I have received first messages that include lots of nudes but that tends to raise red flags just a nice message is good enough for me.

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By *reolush98Man
2 weeks ago

Manchester

I don't know, how do women tend to send the opening message to a male. From the males pov we see that a lot of women here don't like the whole hey, hi hello, how are you messages.

So the question is how do the women approach the men on here.

Do they pop up and say "nice profile"

"Good size cock"

"What are your interests etc"

Like what exactly is the right approach for a women messaging a guy here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
2 weeks ago

"I just need a “Hi” and a graphic picture of a gaping, sweaty minge corpse being fingered by some dirty fingernails and a cigarette."

As it so happens ..

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By *tannersMan
2 weeks ago

stanley

Most definitely don’t send a picture of you in only a football top and knickers 😉

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By *evilinDavina1Man
2 weeks ago

Bristol

I require a full breakdown of your top 5 movies, reasons there in the top five, what you like about the casting choices, some alternative casting choice you would think would be acceptable, reasons that you though the special effects worked, a monologue from each of your favourite bit of the script. Then I can see if we're compatible.

Failing that boobs

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By *ealitybitesMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast

I'd rather not have any wanging.

Wangers aren't selective. They'll happily wang anyone.

No hi's or highs either.

Full sentences are a strict requirement and once you've mastered that you can bounce a boob or three into the conversation.

And if you've actually got 3 boobs you must be willing to discuss your experience on Total Recall.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
2 weeks ago

"Most definitely don’t send a picture of you in only a football top and knickers 😉

Ok I won't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
2 weeks ago

"Are you around in 15 mins? "

Possibly. Why?

Oh. Is that the message?

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By *evilinDavina1Man
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"Are you around in 15 mins?

Possibly. Why?

Oh. Is that the message? "

🤣🤣👍

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By (user no longer on site) OP
2 weeks ago

"I don't know, how do women tend to send the opening message to a male. From the males pov we see that a lot of women here don't like the whole hey, hi hello, how are you messages.

So the question is how do the women approach the men on here.

Do they pop up and say "nice profile"

"Good size cock"

"What are your interests etc"

Like what exactly is the right approach for a women messaging a guy here."

I tend to be a little sarcastic but this has just got deleted before so maybe I shouldn't do that.

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By *asoMan
2 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Are you around in 15 mins?

Possibly. Why?

Oh. Is that the message? "

That’s the message I’d expect 🤣

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
2 weeks ago

North West

"I'd rather not have any wanging.

Wangers aren't selective. They'll happily wang anyone.

No hi's or highs either.

Full sentences are a strict requirement and once you've mastered that you can bounce a boob or three into the conversation.

And if you've actually got 3 boobs you must be willing to discuss your experience on Total Recall. "

Two weeks. Two weeeeks…

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By *he Gentleman.Man
2 weeks ago

Sitlington

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

"
boobs are always welcome. Funny can be attractive. Intelligence does it for me. A hi will do for starters and go from there. But, wang some boobs in by all means.

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By *ourpornfixMan
2 weeks ago

East Cheshire

A pair of boobs would be fine (there's a first time for everything). Ideally accompanied by some meaningful text hinting that you'd really appreciate a certain part of my anatomy between them, and expressing a desire for a new necklace.

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By *loaney40Man
2 weeks ago

dover

With some humour, stand out and give off the vibe from the get go.

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By *WB85Man
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Just be yourselves.

Its always a lovely feeling when someone reaches out to you.

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By *actile TensionMan
2 weeks ago

Sussex

Tell me stuff without telling me stuff.

The stuff is irrelevant as it'll change from man to man

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

A simple 'not for me' would actually be nicer then being ignored

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
2 weeks ago

North West

"Tell me stuff without telling me stuff.

The stuff is irrelevant as it'll change from man to man "

Yes and no. If someone I liked posted what they prefer then that’s a useful thing to know.

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By *igBeardyDanMan
2 weeks ago

Bilston

It would be nice if my profile was read as we keep getting told how important it is to read them before we message, I don't reply to 'hi' messages either, but I won't mind a pair boobs in my inbox for a change

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By *actile TensionMan
2 weeks ago

Sussex

"Tell me stuff without telling me stuff.

The stuff is irrelevant as it'll change from man to man

Yes and no. If someone I liked posted what they prefer then that’s a useful thing to know."

Quite right Julie Scrumdiddlyumptious

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By *haredpleasure69Man
2 weeks ago

COLERAINE

I don’t think that I have ever received an opening message from a woman here. Men and TV/TS yes, but they are not what I am looking for.

So any message that actually acknowledges my existence would be a nice start.

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By *penminded7Man
2 weeks ago

Ebbw Vale

Very much the same as above. Maybe twice has a woman messaged first. Would be nice to recieve more messages.

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By *riveinsaturdayXXXMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

Two profiles in a decade and I have only ever been messaged by a woman once. It worked out: we became regulars for most of that year. But it never happened again.

I guess what I’m saying is, I would be so shocked to get a message from a woman that I wouldn’t care what she put in the message, as long as it was encouraging! LOL

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By *earditallWoman
2 weeks ago

Lancaster

"I just need a “Hi” and a graphic picture of a gaping, sweaty minge corpse being fingered by some dirty fingernails and a cigarette."

That's pretty specific

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By *wiggy97Man
2 weeks ago

Massage me anyway you like as long as it helps my back lol

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By *ampireWolvesMan
2 weeks ago

Essex

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

Yes

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By *peedyGMan
2 weeks ago

Telford

Anything with a bit of humour and something I can actually reply to

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By *attieTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Nottingham

Not gonna lie, Boobs.

Just boobs and you're Golden

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By *aked beachMan
2 weeks ago

Just A Stranger In A Strange Land.

Yet to be determined

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By *layfullsamMan
2 weeks ago

Solihull

At this point in my life I’ll settle for any message

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By *onin25Man
2 weeks ago

Durham

Don't get me wrong I'll take a boob or two in my inbox, but I'd prefer a compliment or a little witty or flirty remark or even a poem

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By *Effy-Woman
2 weeks ago

Scotland

Meet now?

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
2 weeks ago

London

Read the profile. Send a face pic. Show some personality. Write more than just "Hey" or "Hi". What makes you think we'd be a good match?

What would you like to do with me? Or me to you?

Are you geeky or nerdy? If so, tell me how.

Have some banter, a great sense of humour, and be yourself. Raw and unfiltered. Sarcasm is definitely appreciated. Tits are optional.

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By *hickthighs26Woman
2 weeks ago

funky town

"Read the profile. Send a face pic. Show some personality. Write more than just "Hey" or "Hi". What makes you think we'd be a good match?

What would you like to do with me? Or me to you?

Are you geeky or nerdy? If so, tell me how.

Have some banter, a great sense of humour, and be yourself. Raw and unfiltered. Sarcasm is definitely appreciated. Tits are optional."

God who do you think you are? A woman? Pfft 😉

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
2 weeks ago

London

"Read the profile. Send a face pic. Show some personality. Write more than just "Hey" or "Hi". What makes you think we'd be a good match?

What would you like to do with me? Or me to you?

Are you geeky or nerdy? If so, tell me how.

Have some banter, a great sense of humour, and be yourself. Raw and unfiltered. Sarcasm is definitely appreciated. Tits are optional.

God who do you think you are? A woman? Pfft 😉"

We have standards too 😜

And we also have access to sex toys. I deserve the best. Yasss King. Slay.

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By *exs345Man
2 weeks ago

northolt

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

to be honest, anything more that just a hi is fine. just be normal I would say.

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By *llie61Man
2 weeks ago

Winsford

I personally don't mind... nice or naughty... I'll respond accordingly... just to receive a message these days is a bonus... I accept that guys greatly outnumber gals & your inboxes get full to overwhelming proportions... such is fab

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By *ew2buryMan
2 weeks ago

Forums.

On fab: I'm cool with a witty one liner. Or a dumb question about dinosaurs.

Elsewhere: hit me with you meme game.

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By *872Man
2 weeks ago

Westcliff-on-Sea

Just happy for a message

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By *r.ZeusMan
2 weeks ago

Basgiath War College

Messages with three words max

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By *iver78Man
2 weeks ago

barton upon humber

Just a hi is fine , it shows your intrested , I find sending a long drawn out message as a first message very disheartening if you get no response lol

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By *hunky GentMan
2 weeks ago

Bedford

A mushy message with pic (or pics) of the lady in blue underwear 💙

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By *heJam84Man
2 weeks ago

Manchester

i mean i have tried to make myself known on the profile to tell you beautiful ladies about me and what i want and why i'm here so even a little gander and boob shake and that would be nice, i do read profiles and try and make my message somewhat about your profile.

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By *uaveNightsMan
2 weeks ago

Canvey Island

A hello and a comment about what you like about my profile / pictures doesn’t go amiss

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By *urry BlokeMan
2 weeks ago

Something simple, along the lines of "I've read your profile and would like to know more with a view to arranging a meet some time", then attach a clear face photo

Clear, concise, to the point, no flattery, no schmaltz, no fantasy talk - straight down the middle

I don't want to be woo'd or romanced or flirted with

I simply want to see who is engaging me, what they're about and do they have a face that I find attractive

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By *.hrisMan
2 weeks ago

Bath

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

I don't care too much of the profile is read or not.

Definitely needs to be more than 'hi'. A question of some sort that gives me something to think about and reply to.

Being funny always helps with me, as I don't ever like being too serious.

Failing that, send boobs!

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By *enuine_J87Man
2 weeks ago

Eastleigh

I want it to say “hey, wot u doin” with a picture of their wet vagina next to some obscure item for measurement, such as a bottle of hair conditioner or fully extended lipstick.

Plus fab all of my pictures just so I am legally obliged to meet you for your own desires

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By *hilloutMan
2 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'm beyond caring now.

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By *asygoingguy39Man
2 weeks ago

catford

Any message will do just to get a yellow box saying 1 unread is a life goal of mine lol I can’t be that unattractive surely lol 😳😬

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By *horskin!Man
2 weeks ago

your kink

You mean women can message blokes first omg you learn something every day. I'd be happy with just a wink 😉

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By *eximus MaximusMan
2 weeks ago

Up North

FAF works just fine for me

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By *ercuryMikeMan
2 weeks ago

Newtown / Oswestry

Most blokes on here wouldn’t care what was in the message just the simple fact a lady had messaged them would be enough.

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By *huck5772Man
2 weeks ago

dukinfield

There's a message section 😱😱😱😱

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By *unner6969Man
2 weeks ago

Kent

Yes, read my profile, much more than “Hi” and keep a conversation going, or at least tell me if you’re busy and can’t continue…

The same as women expect of men, I guess?

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

I'd rather you didn't.

My current backlog is insurmountable.

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By *adoldmeMan
2 weeks ago

, Braintree

I must be different to most as I like you to read the profile, say hi. But never say no to boobs lol

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By *heElvingtonTwoCouple
2 weeks ago

The Ramtops

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

Funny is always going to get my attention above all else on a first message

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By *hinstrapMan
2 weeks ago

sheffield

I'm open to all and every message although people who take the time and effort may get better responses

Tits are always welcome though

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By *allsDeep.Man
2 weeks ago

Hampshire

A letter made up from magazine cuttings, slide under my door with photographs of me taken through a window. 🥰

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By *007ManMan
2 weeks ago

Worthing

More than just hi, hey or a single emoji.

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By *homas400Man
2 weeks ago

Carmarthen / Llandeilo

We're prity easy to please so a simple 'Hi!' is fine.

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By *ike OxmallMan
2 weeks ago

Johnstone

I wish women would wang some boobs in my inbox, I don't think it's happened even once. I reckon I'd quite enjoy it, but if anyone wants to send me some I can let you know!

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By *kphooey43Man
2 weeks ago

Barnet

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

If it was from you OP, anyway you choose (no that's not quite true, there needs to be biting sarcasm, humour and a tad of aggression).

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By *aptivating24Man
2 weeks ago

castleford

Honestly? If a woman messages first she’s already ahead of 90% of the men on here 😂

Reading the profile definitely helps… ‘Hi’ is fine if there’s actual conversation after it… funny is always a bonus 😏

And as for the boobs strategy… well let’s just say it might distract us long enough to forget what your opening line was

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By *rLucky777Man
2 weeks ago

Leeds

I think if a woman sent me an unsolicited boob pic to my inbox I would faint from astonishment.

Then ask her to marry me. Then get divorced and take all my money.

Current inbox stats.

Unsolicited dick pics. 999+

unsolicited boob pics 0

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By *ertsman46Man
2 weeks ago

Hertfordshire

Think if I got a message from a lady I would assume at first it’s a fake account lol

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By *ercury oneMan
2 weeks ago

Chippenham

Any messages are gratefully received

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By *ackJones82Man
2 weeks ago

Getting any messages is a wonderful thing. Especially given the ratio of men to women on here

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By *luteGazerMan
2 weeks ago

Hull

Ops I never had these things in my inbox. Now I am thinking that no women would do such a thing ?

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By *estructionDollyWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

My usual go to message is

"I'm sat at home in my most elaborate lingerie and desperate for you to dump a load up me, fancy it? I can leave the front door unlocked

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By *atteLover82Man
2 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

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By *elix SightedMan
2 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"My usual go to message is

"I'm sat at home in my most elaborate lingerie and desperate for you to dump a load up me, fancy it? I can leave the front door unlocked

" "

Hmmm. How much of a load, though? This feels like effort.

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By *atteLover82Man
2 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

Not that I get many messages but my preference would be a bit more than just hi. A response to a thread post, something in my profile or a simple question. I guess something I respond to. But wanging is ok too 🤣

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By *iaisonseekerMan
2 weeks ago

Liverpool

A saucy limerick is the way to my heart

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By *estructionDollyWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

"My usual go to message is

"I'm sat at home in my most elaborate lingerie and desperate for you to dump a load up me, fancy it? I can leave the front door unlocked

Hmmm. How much of a load, though? This feels like effort."

Keep your load to yourself then

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By *igblue70Man
2 weeks ago

Bootle

For me just receiving a message is a rarity so I’d take anything haha

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
2 weeks ago

Chester

"My usual go to message is

"I'm sat at home in my most elaborate lingerie and desperate for you to dump a load up me, fancy it? I can leave the front door unlocked

" "

Destruction Dolly, can I plagiarize this please. I'm thinking I'll blanket message the first 50 men who are online right now 🤔

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By *estructionDollyWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

"My usual go to message is

"I'm sat at home in my most elaborate lingerie and desperate for you to dump a load up me, fancy it? I can leave the front door unlocked

Destruction Dolly, can I plagiarize this please. I'm thinking I'll blanket message the first 50 men who are online right now 🤔 "

Absolutely babe, feel free

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By *kphooey43Man
2 weeks ago

Barnet

"My usual go to message is

"I'm sat at home in my most elaborate lingerie and desperate for you to dump a load up me, fancy it? I can leave the front door unlocked

" "

Some, I've heard, prefer the back door

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By *tannersMan
2 weeks ago

stanley

"My usual go to message is

"I'm sat at home in my most elaborate lingerie and desperate for you to dump a load up me, fancy it? I can leave the front door unlocked

" "

The 12 times you sent this to me there was also a line about bringing a Maccy D’s 😂

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By *ourAccompliceMan
2 weeks ago

Leeds

I care less about the intro and more about how the conversation progresses. Nothing worse than trying to to open up a dialogue with questions and topics to just get 3word answers to everything.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

"My usual go to message is

"I'm sat at home in my most elaborate lingerie and desperate for you to dump a load up me, fancy it? I can leave the front door unlocked

Some, I've heard, prefer the back door

My back door stays locked

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By *estructionDollyWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

"My usual go to message is

"I'm sat at home in my most elaborate lingerie and desperate for you to dump a load up me, fancy it? I can leave the front door unlocked

The 12 times you sent this to me there was also a line about bringing a Maccy D’s 😂"

I was hungover that day

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By *ou only live onceMan
2 weeks ago

London

I'll just lay there, you oil up your hands and get stuck in on those aching muscles.

Oh, we're talking message. My mistake.

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By *river72Man
2 weeks ago

Slough

Can I get back to once I get a message from a woman on here

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By *tandardIssueNerdMan
2 weeks ago

Telford

Tbf, messaged in the first place would be a good start!

But all jokes aside, some effort still goes a long way even if guys are a dime a dozen. Reading the profile and mentioning something from it. Saying what drew you to my profile.

Asking questions and actually engaging.

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By *r Secret FriendMan
2 weeks ago

Halifax / Huddersfield

😂 great thread !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
2 weeks ago

"I'll just lay there, you oil up your hands and get stuck in on those aching muscles.

Oh, we're talking message. My mistake."

TBF I'm better at massages than messages

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By *river72Man
2 weeks ago

Slough

"Ive heard they dont like any sexual pics or action shots, and if we send them our tits they almost throw up.

Oh wait that might have just been when i did it. Who knows "

They look fine to me

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By *ictokcoolMan
2 weeks ago

hove seafront

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

I wish 😂😂😂

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By *rdnezzMan
2 weeks ago

Suffolk

Just a short simple message is enough, as an initial introduction, a picture is nice, to see if there is a mutual attraction. If sending a picture in the bathroom, please close the toilet seat if possible, especially if it contains a big floater, and if in your bedroom, pick up the old pizza box from a few nights ago and the last 7 days dirty clothes off your floor! 🤣

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By *ndy_blue_eyesMan
2 weeks ago

Dewsbury

What you mean a women is able to message me first

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By *hamen1300Man
2 weeks ago

manchester

Just a hi, can you come rnd now and bring baby oil would do. In fact the amount of messages iv had asking that is unbelievable. Well may be believable. None. Haha

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By *river72Man
2 weeks ago

Slough

"What you mean a women is able to message me first

I know it’s a shock to the system

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By *ikejonesbbMan
2 weeks ago

London

No rules, a little joke is always appreciated but can't expect all to have top level banter. So any convo starter works

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By *iddle aged and chubbyMan
2 weeks ago

Shefford

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

You can message me any way you like - even though I know you won't lol

Otherwise its nice to know that someone has at least looked at my profile, especially where I state I cannot meet right now!

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By *avrick180Man
2 weeks ago

Pontypool

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By *ildmanYorksMan
2 weeks ago

Bembridge/Doncaster

CoyoteUgly, all you need to say is "get between my thighs" and you've got me!

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By *rthur30Man
2 weeks ago

Warrington

All polite and friendly messages are welcome. Not that I actually get any messages.

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By *cotsRugbyBuffMan
2 weeks ago

Secret

Honest, genuine and straight to the point

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By *oung_hung24Man
2 weeks ago

norwich

I appreciate at least a how’s your day been or how are you today, then I do also appreciate someone explaining exactly what they want

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By *irthandgirthMan
2 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

With words normally.

Interpretative dance doesn't work in this format.

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By *awtybikerMan
2 weeks ago

Barnoldswick

Say hello and maybe ask me something

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By *emptme1993Man
2 weeks ago

manchester

I’m quite open to any message at the moment (within reason) 🤣 but if I get the first message I like it to be a start of a conversation that we lead into

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By *ldbikerider6Man
2 weeks ago

Sheffield

I don't mind how you message tbh but I do prefer more that just a one word reply like yes, no or Mmmmm if we chat for a bit

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By *iGuyForCouplesMan
2 weeks ago

Every message must start with a code word that I placed at the end of my 20 legal disclaimers in my bio. The message must be carefully crafted to my profile. None of this cut and paste lazy bollocks. I get 3 messages a week so you need to stand out. I will then leave it on unread to make myself feel superior and post a status update saying bulk delete all messages so message again if you wanna talk.

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By *oeBeansMan
2 weeks ago

Derby

A good joke wouldn't go amiss!

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By *agic.MMan
2 weeks ago

Kent/London

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

It has to be a written letter...attached to a raven...I don't accept messages anymore

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
2 weeks ago

North West

"A good joke wouldn't go amiss!"
m

What about bad jokes? 😬

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
2 weeks ago

Chester

"My usual go to message is

"I'm sat at home in my most elaborate lingerie and desperate for you to dump a load up me, fancy it? I can leave the front door unlocked

Some, I've heard, prefer the back door

My back door stays locked

The back door is an exit door not an entry

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By *ision21Man
2 weeks ago

Newcastle Under Lyme

If a woman messages me without even viewing my profile I would find that a bit odd.

Not after an essay in a message sent to me, but would like a tad more than just a one word hi.

Easygoing and light hearted is a good start.

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By *autionContagious97Man
2 weeks ago

Wellingborough

I genuinely think if I ever received a message first from a woman, I’d automatically think it would be a fake account or a bot, the ratio of single men to women on here is a massive difference, hopefully hanging in there with it might prove it better in the long run

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By *oeBeansMan
2 weeks ago

Derby

"A good joke wouldn't go amiss!m

What about bad jokes? 😬"

Blocked. Immediately. Without trial

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
2 weeks ago

London

"I'll just lay there, you oil up your hands and get stuck in on those aching muscles.

Oh, we're talking message. My mistake.

TBF I'm better at massages than messages "

I'll take a massage if I can taste the rainbow. Fair trade.

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By *ewMan2026Man
2 weeks ago

Chester and Liverpool

‘Men, how do you want to be messaged?’

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
2 weeks ago

"I'll just lay there, you oil up your hands and get stuck in on those aching muscles.

Oh, we're talking message. My mistake.

TBF I'm better at massages than messages

I'll take a massage if I can taste the rainbow. Fair trade."

Since you're rocking that shorts and trainers look...deal!

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By *ike OxmallMan
2 weeks ago

Johnstone

"My usual go to message is

"I'm sat at home in my most elaborate lingerie and desperate for you to dump a load up me, fancy it? I can leave the front door unlocked

" "

God, this is exactly the kind of opening message I DREAM of getting!

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By *risscrossxMan
2 weeks ago

stourbridge

We are less complicated……. Some would say we are basic 😂

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By *ate2theparty808Man
2 weeks ago

Erdington

As long as the message is the same kind of respectful as you would send to someone you don’t know outside of the swinging community, it’s all good, would prefer that they read my profile first, because there’s a few things I’m not into, but other than that, a nice honest introduction is always welcome.

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By *nmyknees69Man
2 weeks ago

Rushden

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

"
m

Just show me your tits.

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By *eniescot86Man
2 weeks ago

Bathgate

With more than one word but we've got to be happy at that too sometimes

Its like russian roulette, small talk or filth first?

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
2 weeks ago

London

"I'll just lay there, you oil up your hands and get stuck in on those aching muscles.

Oh, we're talking message. My mistake.

TBF I'm better at massages than messages

I'll take a massage if I can taste the rainbow. Fair trade.

Since you're rocking that shorts and trainers look...deal!"

👍🏾❤️🫠

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By *ussieChrisMan
2 weeks ago

Walsall

A message wanting to chat, a sexy photo, etc would be nice. That being said, I'm not overly fazed personally what'd sent in the initial message. I'll check out your profile, and see where things go from there.

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By *ddie1966Man
2 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

A simple, Hi.... Fancy a chat is just fine.

I don't want to see cheeky bits or what you are able to do to a phallus of any description.

Just a normal chat would be nice

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I genuinely think if I ever received a message first from a woman, I’d automatically think it would be a fake account or a bot..."

•

I usually ask them to record a video of them doing a three-point turn in their car. If they do it in three manoeuvres or fewer then it's a definitely a man.

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By *eekaboo BellyMan
2 weeks ago

Bradford

Anything non sexual and without any compliments is perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

Maybe you ladies should send a few mails and see how we react.

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By *arco_pMan
2 weeks ago

Hednesford

Whatever your comfortable with

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By *exySenseiCouple
2 weeks ago

So, based on my collation of responses in this forum, the requirements for success in a bloke's inbox are pics/messages containing the following:

1) Boobs

2) Boobs + pizza

3) More boobs

4) Poetry

5) Also boobs

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By *etsplay68Man
2 weeks ago

beaconsfield

at this moment , a nice offer of a bit of fun and a Fan

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By *partharmonyCouple
2 weeks ago

Tonbridge

We would give more latitude to a single woman than a single man, but ultimately if you don't have any banter then we're not interested.

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By *ittylover123Man
2 weeks ago

donegal

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

"
boobs in my inbox your definitely shortlisted n in with a chance lol

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By *hatsthemattayouMan
2 weeks ago

Warsash

It’s like when I come across a post saying “how do I approach men” … usually a second of attention has them won

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By *aughty CoconutMan
2 weeks ago

Leicester

I like a lady who can make me laugh. Builds good chem. Us men enjoy having a laugh too. Chemistry and passion is the best recipe xxx

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By *ssexPaul50Man
2 weeks ago

colchester

I think with the ratio of men to women on this site, for a woman to read my profile and say hi after reading and checking my pics out, would be a dream, unfortunately it seems the ladies on this site have the pick of the crop and can sit and wait for what ever she is looking for to come along - as well as trying to get through the 100’s of messages she receives daily.

So, any female checking my profile and likes what she see’s, it would make my day if you popped by and said hi 👋 x

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By *iggusJimusMan
2 weeks ago

Accrington

Obviously I'm never going to say no to boobs but any message is fine by me.

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By *ot a studMan
2 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

I actually prefer a bit of banter

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By *ongandthick888Man
2 weeks ago

Leeds

1. Start with a greeting

2. Speak in full sentences

3. No copy + paste

4. Don’t tell me about your fantasies in the first message

5. Don’t ask for my address, if I’m free, if I want to “meet now” etc etc in the first message

6. Don’t assume that I’ll be interested

Either one of those 6 things usually results in the message being deleted. The biggest thing is point #1. It’s surprising how few people say hello. They just leap into filth

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By *uju88Man
2 weeks ago

Show me some boobs or fanny and I’ll be happy 🤣 😉

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By *atinaChica54Woman
2 weeks ago

Marlborough

"I just need a “Hi” and a graphic picture of a gaping, sweaty minge corpse being fingered by some dirty fingernails and a cigarette."

🤣🤣🤣

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By *-and-GCouple
2 weeks ago

norfolk

Just a normal conversation starter would be good, 🙏

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By *heonixrising500Man
2 weeks ago

Barnsley

A sexy chat would be good

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By *orkshire500Man
2 weeks ago

Hull

Any

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By *entlandscaperMan
2 weeks ago

Tunbridge Wells

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

I would say be funny pictures help but hopefully dress make us interested. To be fair most of the time men have to chase on here or that must just be me.

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By *eordiePTFellaMan
2 weeks ago

Newcastle - Scotland

Boobs and banter always gets my eyes on

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By *H7in5Man
2 weeks ago

Chesterfield

Just normal general conversation

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By *lackadderMan
2 weeks ago

Eastbourne

No, yes, no,no

I’d be surprised if a woman doesn’t read a profile, but it may be that my wit, charm and sexiness just shines through my posts. sense of humour might help..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
2 weeks ago

This was a bit more popular than I expected, I may need to message a guy now 😱

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By *hrisukbishareCouple
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

What a great enquiry. I love reading profiles and knowing the message sender has also read mine. I love being able to like photos. I enjoy people exploring my interests/kinks. I want them to want what this old biM sensuous lover can offer.

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By *ercuryMikeMan
2 weeks ago

Newtown / Oswestry

"This was a bit more popular than I expected, I may need to message a guy now 😱"

I’ll be your test subject.

It will be a chore but I am willing to risk it for a biscuit.

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By *ustAnotherMan
2 weeks ago

Tamworth

Interesting. I would like to know I'm.not being scammed if a woman messages me first I'm immediately on the cautious!

Noone likes one word messages right, I've had a few "hi" and seems to be up to me to spark the conversation. Seems to me all the stuff that men get told to do works both ways best.

I'll always look at someone's profile if they message to check it over anyway so I'm not bothered about pics up front

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By *en_Dover79Man
2 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle

Nice message and be verified

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By *heelerMan
2 weeks ago

Northants

A message would be nice never mind the content

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By *T2022Man
2 weeks ago

Manchester

some of all . never say no to boobs

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By *T2022Man
2 weeks ago

Manchester

"This was a bit more popular than I expected, I may need to message a guy now 😱"

message me if you wish . ha

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By *adBod_76Man
2 weeks ago

Witham

I can be messaged?

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By *asualfridayMan
2 weeks ago

Highlands

I've enjoyed any message relating to my bio or update text the most, but I mean who doesn't like to be sent a set of boobs to look at?? I'm just happy to recieve messages at all, rather than have to do all the sending. Even if it's just 'hi' as long as your profile isn't completely blank I can work with that.

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By *kphooey43Man
2 weeks ago

Barnet

"This was a bit more popular than I expected, I may need to message a guy now 😱"

I think your messages must be being blocked by Admin, cos my mailbox is empty

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By (user no longer on site) OP
2 weeks ago

"This was a bit more popular than I expected, I may need to message a guy now 😱

I think your messages must be being blocked by Admin, cos my mailbox is empty

I sent 1 message and got done for spamming as it was flagged as unusual activity for me.

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By *hickthighs26Woman
2 weeks ago

funky town

I followed the advice sent about 30 messages out either got blocked or no reply. So ignorant isnt it just common decency to reply with a no thankyou 😁

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By *jthom1asMan
2 weeks ago

Ceredigion

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

Just messaged at all would be nice 😢

Lol

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By *acavityMan
2 weeks ago

Redditch

How do I want to be messaged? Frequently!

Reading the profile is good (I’ve polished it over the years)

But mainly, I like something to respond to.

I appreciate that some people have a lot of messages, but if the conversation is one sided( cool, yes, that’s nice) in response to my messages, it’s obvious that I am low priority, so they get the same energy in response.

But I wouldn’t complain if a lady decided to send me saucy pictures. Especially if there was an invitation to take some more pictures myself

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By *he MinionMan
2 weeks ago

Surrey

"Do you care if we read your profile?

Does it need to be more than just a hi?

Do we need to be funny?

Or can we wang some boobs in your inbox and we're golden?

If I find you attractive and your profile interesting, the initial message from you doesnt really matter. But hopefully there is something to reply too within that message to get the conversation flowing.

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By *hrisukbishareCouple
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"This was a bit more popular than I expected, I may need to message a guy now 😱

I think your messages must be being blocked by Admin, cos my mailbox is empty

I sent 1 message and got done for spamming as it was flagged as unusual activity for me. "

Maybe change your age search to include people who are not just 99

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By (user no longer on site) OP
2 weeks ago

"This was a bit more popular than I expected, I may need to message a guy now 😱

I think your messages must be being blocked by Admin, cos my mailbox is empty

I sent 1 message and got done for spamming as it was flagged as unusual activity for me.

Maybe change your age search to include people who are not just 99"

I like em old

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By *evlishduncMan
2 weeks ago

north suffolk south norfolk

It’s lovely to receive a message with a little about you so that when I reply, I have something to work with.

Kid you not, I do reply to a message that simply reads “Hi” and the profile text I simply “.” Or “Will fill this out later”.

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