FabSwingers.com forum: Toxic Work Enviroment

By *utoftheBluex OP Woman
3 weeks ago

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I work long hours in an aggressive environment, where the use of Cocaine is the norm, I suspect. All the bosses are British and all the workers are immigrants or first-generation British. Not a generalisation, just a fact. The aggressive behaviour of the managers is killing us, there is constant public humiliation, abrupt changes of mood from extremely love bombing to insulting shouts in minutes. An insignificant detail can trigger a violent paranoid response. When these regular episodes finish, everybody seems to forget it like it never happened, and people look nice and normal. I love my work and I'm good at it, but this situation is breaking me. I'm a sensitive person and the stress is putting my mental health at risk. My defences are low also. Sick all the time but working anyway. Thinking of quitting, but my boss asked me to have a second thought (love bombing phase)

Have you worked in a Cocaine madness environment? How have you faced it? Is there a solution? You can't report it. You don't have proof, but it's so evident. How to deal with that?

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By *kphooey43Man
3 weeks ago

Barnet

Sorry OP. That sounds horrendous. I can't help in terms of locating, but 14 years ago I left my job due to toxic environment and bullying. Had nothing lined up - so be careful - but it has worked for me.

Guessing no union or HR for formal complaint.

Look for another job - for your own well being. Talk to your friends to get support so that you can survive til you have another job (hope you've been out for a meal with Aviatrix).

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
3 weeks ago

In a galaxy far far away

Years ago I worked in a call centre as one of those pesky people who called you about your gas and electric.

Half the call centre were off their nut and it's all they talked about. I couldn't stay, I had to leave.

Think about your mental health, it's important to look after yourself and do what's right for you.

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By *ulldog_71Man
3 weeks ago

Sedgefield

"I work long hours in an aggressive environment, where the use of Cocaine is the norm, I suspect. All the bosses are British and all the workers are immigrants or first-generation British. Not a generalisation, just a fact. The aggressive behaviour of the managers is killing us, there is constant public humiliation, abrupt changes of mood from extremely love bombing to insulting shouts in minutes. An insignificant detail can trigger a violent paranoid response. When these regular episodes finish, everybody seems to forget it like it never happened, and people look nice and normal. I love my work and I'm good at it, but this situation is breaking me. I'm a sensitive person and the stress is putting my mental health at risk. My defences are low also. Sick all the time but working anyway. Thinking of quitting, but my boss asked me to have a second thought (love bombing phase)

Have you worked in a Cocaine madness environment? How have you faced it? Is there a solution? You can't report it. You don't have proof, but it's so evident. How to deal with that? "

The only thing I can suggest is to get the hell out of there, I know its not that easy but you would be better off finding a job that isn't as enjoyable to do but has a safe environment. Nobody should have to put up with shit like that, you always come off on here as such a lovely person you deserve better. Out your well-being first you can always get a job that isnt exactly what you want to do and then look for a similar position somewhere elsewhere once you're in a safe space .

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By *kphooey43Man
3 weeks ago

Barnet

"Sorry OP. That sounds horrendous. I can't help in terms of locating*, but 14 years ago I left my job due to toxic environment and bullying. Had nothing lined up - so be careful - but it has worked for me.

Guessing no union or HR for formal complaint.

Look for another job - for your own well being. Talk to your friends to get support so that you can survive til you have another job (hope you've been out for a meal with Aviatrix)."

*sorry, fab did not like whatever I chose for 'dr*gs', no idea why "locating" got substituted

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

V, it's time to look for something else. Your health and happiness are more important!

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By *a LunaWoman
3 weeks ago

Wales

I’m not sure I’d be able to recognise if someone was on cocaine or not to be honest, I’d probably just think they were hyper

but regardless of that, your work environment sounds hell.

I would look for another job asap. I couldn’t put up with that and you shouldn’t have to put up with that. Could you put feelers out, discreetly, and get head hunted to another company?

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By *utoftheBluex OP Woman
3 weeks ago

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"Sorry OP. That sounds horrendous. I can't help in terms of locating, but 14 years ago I left my job due to a toxic environment and bullying. Had nothing lined up - so be careful - but it has worked for me.

Guessing no union or HR for a formal complaint.

Look for another job - for your own well being. Talk to your friends to get support so that you can survive til you have another job (hope you've been out for a meal with Aviatrix)."

Thanks

We had a lovely dinner, it was fantastic to catch up with life, and then we headed to the last Central North London Social organised by Coockie. It was a Friday to remember.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
3 weeks ago

Niche

I haven't worked anywhere like you describe but have had to suffer through teams where members were unstable or incompetent or highly strung due to various anxiety disorders (not an assumption, they shared this info) and it was hell. You're held ransom to the drama and disasters and absences and the only solution is to wait out them moving on or move on yourself.

I did manage it eventually and am in a much better team of colleagues now.

The people you work with really do make all the difference.

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By *eroLondonMan
3 weeks ago

Mayfair

"V, it's time to look for something else. Your health and happiness are more important!

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Sorry to hear this about this V, but I agree with Dåvinå et al.

It's not your job to plug the hole in a sinking ship; I would extricate myself from that unhealthy and enervating environment as soon as possible. I also appreciate that sometimes it's not easy to give up a vocation that you love and if it's a niche job.

"...but my boss asked me to have a second thought..."

This somehow reminds me when employers try to engage a counter offer (obviously that's not what you've stated), as opposed to fixing their toxic environment.

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By *utoftheBluex OP Woman
3 weeks ago

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Have you worked in a Cocaine madness environment? How have you faced it? Is there a solution? You can't report it. You don't have proof, but it's so evident. How to deal with that?

The only thing I can suggest is to get the hell out of there, I know its not that easy but you would be better off finding a job that isn't as enjoyable to do but has a safe environment. Nobody should have to put up with shit like that, you always come off on here as such a lovely person, you deserve better. Put your well-being first, you can always get a job that isn't exactly what you want to do and then look for a similar position somewhere else once you're in a safe space."

Finding a new job at my age without a previous career in this lovely country in such a prestigious place like I'm working now, sounds unlikely. This one was difficult to get. Its a big dilemma.

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By *utoftheBluex OP Woman
3 weeks ago

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"I haven't worked anywhere like you describe but have had to suffer through teams where members were unstable or incompetent or highly strung due to various anxiety disorders (not an assumption, they shared this info) and it was hell. You're held ransom to the drama and disasters and absences and the only solution is to wait out them moving on or move on yourself.

I did manage it eventually and am in a much better team of colleagues now.

The people you work with really do make all the difference."

I couldn't agree more

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By *ackandsashaCouple
3 weeks ago

West Dublin

First route for me would be HR and a conversation with a union.

Document everything. Keep a note of every meeting or conversation with bosses where you report the problem.

Send emails reporting any issues. Any conversations with bosses or HR is heresay and can be denied.So if you have a conversation with bosses or HR regarding your issues, send an email the same day to who you you spoke to confirming all relevant details and thank them for their time. This keeps a permanent record of what was discussed.

If things don't improve, leave. Whatever reason you can up with for not leaving is outweighed by your health and wellbeing.

And bear in mind, if you report your problems, ( I wouldn't make allegations you can't prove by the way, ie drugs ), and nothing is done. Leave, then see a solicitor about a constructive dismissal case.

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By *wcoMan
3 weeks ago

West Midlands

Have you worked in a Cocaine madness environment? How have you faced it? Is there a solution? You can't report it. You don't have proof, but it's so evident. How to deal with that? "

I am the boss, I wouldn't tolerate anybody whose behaviour at work was being affected by , I'd call in random drug testing. We've got one guy who I suspect is overdoing the 'roids' and he can be temperamental. Workplace drug testing doesn't detect roids abuse, his behaviour will see him off though.

How long have you been there, how big is your organisation? I assume you have access to the company employee handbook? There should be a whistle-blowing policy in there.

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By *utoftheBluex OP Woman
3 weeks ago

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"First route for me would be HR and a conversation with a union.

Document everything. Keep a note of every meeting or conversation with bosses where you report the problem.

If things don't improve, leave. Whatever reason you can up with for not leaving is outweighed by your health and wellbeing.

And bear in mind, if you report your problems, ( I wouldn't make allegations you can't prove by the way, ie drugs ), and nothing is done. Leave, Then see a solicitor about a constructive dismissal case.

Sounds idyllic but it does not work like that in my organisation. I made a report months ago and everything got harder for me.

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By *WB85Man
3 weeks ago

Staffordshire

If there was illegal drug use, I would be reporting it outside of the business. I'm sure you'll find an organisation would be interested to hear about it.

I appreciate its hard to find another job, but I would be proactively searching.

Work is such a huge part of life. You can't spend it feeling unhappy.

I hope you find a solution.

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By *ino200Man
3 weeks ago

Bournemouth,london and Sienna

Have you worked in a Cocaine madness environment? How have you faced it? Is there a solution? You can't report it. You don't have proof, but it's so evident. How to deal with that? "
Are you a stock broker does the movie The wolf of wall street ring bells with you starring Leonardo de caprio?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

There is a lot or unpack here, and more key information is surfacing through the thread. This is a complex situation and there are several points which give you a course of action, possibly in tandem.

You need professional advice.

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By *naswingdressWoman
3 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't know the answer. But there's an advice blog called Ask a Manager - they answer workplace questions. You might get help there. (Have a look at some of the questions they answer before you write to them)

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By *ino200Man
3 weeks ago

Bournemouth,london and Sienna

The bosses view it as you are lucky to have the job ,the money ,the status and if you can't stand the heat get out the kitchen ,unfortunately it does seem in that industry that stimulants are over used and the type of person who does that work needs it to survive ,for me money isnt a stimulus ,i work hard because the team i work with appreciate it and i appreciate them ,a good working environment is required otherwise i dont stay .Sounds like a nightmare job ,i personally would leave .

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By *actile TensionMan
3 weeks ago

Sussex

If you absolutely must hang about and can't evade the situation. You got to bite back otherwise the shit ain't stopping

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

Bluex how long have you worked there?

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By *ulldog_71Man
3 weeks ago

Sedgefield

Have you worked in a Cocaine madness environment? How have you faced it? Is there a solution? You can't report it. You don't have proof, but it's so evident. How to deal with that?

The only thing I can suggest is to get the hell out of there, I know its not that easy but you would be better off finding a job that isn't as enjoyable to do but has a safe environment. Nobody should have to put up with shit like that, you always come off on here as such a lovely person, you deserve better. Put your well-being first, you can always get a job that isn't exactly what you want to do and then look for a similar position somewhere else once you're in a safe space.

Finding a new job at my age without a previous career in this lovely country in such a prestigious place like I'm working now, sounds unlikely. This one was difficult to get. Its a big dilemma. "

I know its anything but easy if you feel you cant leave you might want to get some legal advice from what you have described its not just toxic it is outright illegal. If you havent already it's probably worth starting a diary and log every time something happens if you are ever going to get it sorted you need be able to show how bad it is.

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By *viatrixWoman
3 weeks ago

Back in Surrey, Dahlings!

My dad always used to say that no job is worth suffering for, güerita.

I know the work ethic and loyalty we have where we come from- but if it is this damaging to your health now -physical and mental- is it worth it?

Is part time a consideration? Could you put in a right to request flexible working time on medical grounds?

I have never understood that part of culture here that people tear chunks off each other (passively-aggresively most of the time) and 5 min later they’re chirpily asking “so you doing anything nice this weekend?” Kindly fuck off, I still have daggers in my eye sockets and will be making a voodoo doll of you, I feel like replying hahaha!

Lots of love güerita and give it a good hard thinking. Love you. 🩷

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By *ate2theparty808Man
3 weeks ago

Erdington

When I was 19 I worked in sales for a company that had a reputation for playing fast and loose with employment laws.

Coke was a big feature there, and there was more than one occasion when there were multiple sex workers in the office and as a dumb 19 year old I took part in most of what was on offer and it damaged me, I was earning upwards of £2k a week (in 1991) and I thought for a time there that I was invincible and I started taking too many risks, I was lucky that my girlfriend at the time worked in the same company, other wise I could have been taking risks with my sexual health too.

One of two things will happen, either you will go “if you can’t beat them join them” or you will have some kind of breakdown.

My advice would be get out and take your integrity with you life is too short to be that miserable and it seems like the likelihood of the culture changing is zero.

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By *onin25Man
3 weeks ago

Durham

I've never had a work environment where drugs have come into the equation but I've worked in a few bad environments. Unfortunately there is little you can do to change the environment, especially if you work in an industry where unions have little/no influence unless you are willing to take the risk and go as far as possible.

I agree with what some others have said and the best option may be for you to change your environment and take yourself out of the situation. And I know it's a scary thing to do but there are lots of jobs that don't need specific experience or qualifications.

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By *enuine_J87Man
3 weeks ago

Eastleigh

Some similarities to my work, although I joined from a rival company and they offered too much to refuse. We all have our price, the world is an expensive place.

Both the bosses drink a lot and do drugs, nearly all the guys I work with drink too much and do drugs, some to a dangerous degree. The work is relentless, never a moment to rest, everything is “urgent” and has to be dealt with right now which is impossible when 3 different situations are all needing to be dealt with simultaneously. It can be hell.

I have been there a year and still regret it every day when I wake up in the morning when alarm goes off.

I knew I was walking into a shit show, I dug my own grave by joining. Now also because it’s such a niche skillset what I do, I will never be able to leave and earn anywhere near as much as I do now.

If your skillset allows you to move, then do it. If the pay is around the same but the environment is far more enjoyable then it is worth leaving. Just find an evening away from your phone or fab, get your CV online and spend 2 hours looking for jobs. See what’s out there, get the idea into your head that one of these jobs could be amazing for you. Start applying, to quite a few that appeal to you… good luck!

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By *utoftheBluex OP Woman
3 weeks ago

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"Some similarities to my work, although I joined from a rival company and they offered too much to refuse. We all have our price, the world is an expensive place.

I have been there a year and still regret it every day when I wake up in the morning when alarm goes off.

Thank you for sharing. I don't feel alone in this anymore 💌

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By *utoftheBluex OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Bot Farm

"I've never had a work environment where drugs have come into the equation but I've worked in a few bad environments. Unfortunately, there is little you can do to change the environment, especially if you work in an industry where unions have little/no influence unless you are willing to take the risk and go as far as possible.

I do have qualifications and degrees but I changed career starting from zero recently because I love being a Chef and I'm a good one. But Im educated and mature person and I can't tolerate the normal Vocal violence in hospitality. I'm still not qualified to resist that and I won't, I'm afraid. Quitting this job is quitting my whole dream Im afraid.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
3 weeks ago

Glasgow

It’s a disgrace that this is still the norm in your industry, but being deep in the middle of it can be as energising as it is frustrating. High-stress work environments mean the highest highs alongside the lowest lows.

I know you love what you do, even while hating the way some people behave in the industry. All I can suggest is that you work with one eye on the door. Start looking for a way out, another role in another place - even though it might take time, it keeps you hopeful.

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By *utoftheBluex OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Bot Farm

"My dad always used to say that no job is worth suffering for, güerita.

I know the work ethic and loyalty we have where we come from- but if it is this damaging to your health now -physical and mental- is it worth it?

Is part time a consideration? Could you put in a right to request flexible working time on medical grounds?

Lots of love güerita and give it a good hard thinking. Love you. 🩷"

Love you more 😘

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By *ermite12ukMan
3 weeks ago

Solihull and Romford

I would be very careful, of involving HR: On the basis of who pays, the HR wage bill.

If you have a close friend you could open upto. He/she might well fight your corner: Perhaps the norm of taking chunks out of people and making them feel awful. Perhaps your work environment then might change for the better? Hope so.

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By *igerFiestaMan
3 weeks ago

Huddersfield

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By *igerFiestaMan
3 weeks ago

Huddersfield

If you decide to leave, always have another job standing by.

I prefer Temp jobs from agencies. You usually are told how long you will be there and can work out budgets. Also temping allows me to see the best and leave before I see the worst. I've been temping since 2004. Only problem is you have to be prepared to move around the country at short notice when a job is offered. I've moved 12 times to accommodate for work.

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By *utoftheBluex OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Bot Farm

"I would be very careful, of involving HR: On the basis of who pays, the HR wage bill.

About HR, you nailed it

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By *urry BlokeMan
3 weeks ago

Yes

I resigned, but threatened them with a tribunal unless they paid me off

They did, cos they knew I had hard proof of their antics

They then instructed solicitors to pursue me when I set up on my own and both staff and customers followed

Again, the dogs were called off when I threatened them (with HMRC involvement this time)

The business eventually went belly up, making national headlines at the time, but they just set up under a nom de plume and they are, no doubt, still at it

Thankfully, I don't work within that sector any longer so our paths no longer cross

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My advice to you is get out, regardless of the cost

Re-establishing yourself is far more constructive than settling for a spiral of self destruction

Don't be afraid to take a step backwards to move forwards

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By *onin25Man
3 weeks ago

Durham

I'm not massively up to speed on the industry but is doing something along the lines of becoming a private chef an option?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
3 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

I almost took a job in an environment like this n then I thought........ Nah ,I don't wanna be in the Police Force

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By *utoftheBluex OP Woman
3 weeks ago

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"I'm not massively up to speed on the industry but is doing something along Are the lines of becoming a private chef an option? "

Yes, Its a open option, but I wanted to get more experience first. Working as a Chef for only five years.

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By *utoftheBluex OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Bot Farm

"I almost took a job in an environment like this n then I thought........ Nah ,I don't wanna be in the Police Force"

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By *ools and the brainCouple
3 weeks ago

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By *ools and the brainCouple
3 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

"No job is worth your health, I have worked in the building trade for over 40 years and there's not many industries as toxic as this can be but it's also full of bloody good decent folks.

So whilst the idea of getting another job seems like an absolute nightmare and a ballache in the long run you'll be better off for it.

So my advice GET THE FUCK OUT OF THERE don't lose another minutes sleep over these assholes even if you have to get a job doing something completely different less money surely it's got to be better than the current situation?

Also I'd definately be in touch with the police if drug use is that bad.

Walk away and don't look back."

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By *asoMan
3 weeks ago

Sheffield

Have you worked in a Cocaine madness environment? How have you faced it? Is there a solution? You can't report it. You don't have proof, but it's so evident. How to deal with that? "

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By *asoMan
3 weeks ago

Sheffield

Have you worked in a Cocaine madness environment? How have you faced it? Is there a solution? You can't report it. You don't have proof, but it's so evident. How to deal with that? "
it’s a shame that you like the job and are good at it, but if there is no way you complain or change the toxic environment, I’d be looking elsewhere and get out as soon as I can. Life outside of work is stressful enough and we have the right to a decent conducive environment.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

Unfortunately the job market is awful right now but definitely be looking for a new opportunity as this place will have a severe effect on your mental health.

Toxic work environments are just our and you have my full sympathy. I have been bullied a couple of times in the work place and it's just shattering. I hope you have a great sounding board to unload after a bad day.

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By *os19Man
3 weeks ago

Edmonton

Have you worked in a Cocaine madness environment? How have you faced it? Is there a solution? You can't report it. You don't have proof, but it's so evident. How to deal with that? "
. Not as bad as your work situation but I had a toxic higher manager. Between 2016 - 2021 part of my working day I was allocated 2 hours a day every day to carry out a certain role. Although she could be a bit stroppy at times she generally left me alone as she could find no fault in my work. Probably because she never sat with me to understand what the role involves. She always described me as meticulous. Then from February 2021 it was does it really take you this long to do this. I am going to reduce your time to one hour a day. I sent her the email from 2016 stating I was to be allocated two hours a day and told her I had contact my union rep with a view to increase the role to three hours a day or for me to stand down. She relented but between February 2021 to April 2022 there was constant requests from her to help out on other sections which I refused. There was 2-3 occasions our rows became very verbal twice in front of other colleagues and 2-3 I walked out and called another higher manager the next day to say I wouldn’t be coming in as I did not feel right mentally. April 2022 I had a health scare nothing to do with the job but when I returned to work it was agreed with the office manager I would stand down June 2022. I did the role for 6 years and in the 4 years that I stood down so far four different people have done the role and couldn’t cope. I believe a 5th person maybe doing it soon. As for my higher manager she was moved to another office in 2024 as I was not the only person she had fallen out with over the years.

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By *utoftheBluex OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Bot Farm

Thank you for sharing your experiences and all your kind advice, here on the thread and by DM. The Forum is a great place full of lovely people. 🌷

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
3 weeks ago

London

Toxic work environments are bad for your health. Mental and physical. Start looking elsewhere. Some environments thrive on toxicity. I don't think it's worth it.

Be kind to yourself. Do what is best for you. 👍🏾☺️

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By *imMcSilverMan
3 weeks ago

By the Seaside

OP, I was in a very similar situation but add in casual groping by the HR manager and sex workers turning up at site then you get the picture.

Toxic does not quite cover it. I must admit that I turned up there young and dumb and was taken in by a 'lifestyle', it took a while but life, love and commonsense finally won out and I left that place, the money and trappings and I could not have been happier for it.

Nothing is worth this, including perceived job security, that believe me, does not exist.

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By *ilbzMan
3 weeks ago

Swindon Wiltshire

I had an interview at the local Jaguar Landrover dealership and the manager was as high AF during the interview. Turns out he started a cocaine culture and some of the mechanics were using it as well. Also turned out the manager was living in a local hotel during the week and going home at weekends as it made it easier for him to maintain his habit. I declined a second interview there, definitely not my scene

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By *lack Jack 4UMan
3 weeks ago

London

Invest in a quality book on : Employment Law.

That will save you time and money later.

As people have mentioned start looking for your next position.

Submit a grievance procedure, not enjoyable but necessary for your later defence.

Take time off for Mental health, G.P appointment, further evidence.

Then try to negotiate what you want resolved Failing that:

File for Constructive dismissal, based on the dairised notes you've logged about what you have endured.

IMHO.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Where I work my company has a zero tolerance to what you describe Sounds nasty I’d change job if I were you

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By *esigned_For_FunWoman
3 weeks ago

wherever I am. ;)

Get the hell out. Use the constructive dismissal argument if possible.

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By *esigned_For_FunWoman
3 weeks ago

wherever I am. ;)

"Invest in a quality book on : Employment Law.

That will save you time and money later.

As people have mentioned start looking for your next position.

Submit a grievance procedure, not enjoyable but necessary for your later defence.

Take time off for Mental health, G.P appointment, further evidence.

Then try to negotiate what you want resolved Failing that:

File for Constructive dismissal, based on the dairised notes you've logged about what you have endured.

IMHO.

Precisely this..

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By *og and MuseCouple
2 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think you answered the question yourself, when you said you love your work and you wanted to leave, but your boss persuade you to stay.

For me, the actual work was quite low on the priority list, but I always and only aligned myself with great companies and bosses my entire career, becoming a senior leader in my early 40s and carrying on the values.

Something clearly makes you stay.

I've worked in environments where drugs are common, but never during work. If I noticed it, I would call it out and tell them I'm unacceptable.

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By *rivervaderMan
2 weeks ago

bolton

My work place is toxic so notice going in on Tuesday new job starts next week

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
2 weeks ago

North Welsh Borders

No job is worth that level of stress. Can you get signed off for a bit? To give yourself a reset and to reassess where your at and what to do.

Look after your self and your own mental well being. It's not easy leaving a toxic workplace, it's like leaving an abusive relationship with the same after effects

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By *i2021guyMan
2 weeks ago

nearby

Have you worked in a Cocaine madness environment? How have you faced it? Is there a solution? You can't report it. You don't have proof, but it's so evident. How to deal with that? "

Not quite the same experience as yours but I worked in a garage where it was known the owner had a HUGE alcohol problem and would think nothing of downing a bottle of Scotch each evening. So I reported him to the Police for d*unk driving - gave the Police his registration number and details of his route and time of arrival each morning .... and they were waiting for him one day. Problem solved.

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By *hirleyMan
2 weeks ago

Wine bar

Never stay in an environment like that. Nothing is more valuable than your health in that situation.

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By *ongandthick888Man
2 weeks ago

Leeds

Have you worked in a Cocaine madness environment? How have you faced it? Is there a solution? You can't report it. You don't have proof, but it's so evident. How to deal with that? "

Yes I’ve worked in that exact situation. In fact the boss forced one of the junior staff take it when he (jr) walked in on the boss using it in the back office.

Things escalated so much that there was a permanent sense of paranoia and instability, with the owners eventually trying to oust each another.

I think your only option is to leave, because it won’t change.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"Thank you for sharing your experiences and all your kind advice, here on the thread and by DM. The Forum is a great place full of lovely people. 🌷"

None more lovely than you, V. Look after your health, and I hope you find a satisfactory resolution to your horrible dilemma.

🤗🌈

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By *utoftheBluex OP Woman
2 weeks ago

Bot Farm

Have you worked in a Cocaine madness environment? How have you faced it? Is there a solution? You can't report it. You don't have proof, but it's so evident. How to deal with that?

Yes I’ve worked in that exact situation. In fact the boss forced one of the junior staff take it when he (jr) walked in on the boss using it in the back office.

Things escalated so much that there was a permanent sense of paranoia and instability, with the owners eventually trying to oust each another.

I think your only option is to leave, because it won’t change."

I know

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By *utoftheBluex OP Woman
2 weeks ago

Bot Farm

"Thank you for sharing your experiences and all your kind advice, here on the thread and by DM. The Forum is a great place full of lovely people. 🌷

None more lovely than you, V. Look after your health, and I hope You find a satisfactory resolution to your horrible dilemma.

🤗🌈"

Yesterday love bombing again. But is a 💣 ready to explode at any time

Thank you Davina 😘

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By *elloIntrigueMan
2 weeks ago

North West UK

Have you worked in a Cocaine madness environment? How have you faced it? Is there a solution? You can't report it. You don't have proof, but it's so evident. How to deal with that? "

Have to admit, this sounds like my idea of a living hell! It's bad enough that my own mental health is up an down at the moment without being in a place where there is the cocaine rage and paranoia.

I'd have to spend far more time out of that environment than in it.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
2 weeks ago

North West UK

Whilst I haven't worked in a drug fuelled environment, I have worked in a toxic one where the guy i was working with was reporting everything i was doing to the bosses... i managed to sort it out with building a case and presenting my findings, got rid of the toxicity, then quit myself... it took me 6 months to get right afterwards

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