FabSwingers.com forum: Honest

By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

Here goes. This is not a sympathy post by any chance....but

What more can a peraon do,joining in with forums,making my own etc

Result...ignored in forums

Please no nasty messages,just would be nice to know what i may be doing wrong,or what is wrong on my profile?

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
6 weeks ago

Chester

🫂 OP

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Round the bend

Stick with it.

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By *avexxMan
6 weeks ago

cheshire

ah you see the forums are a dreaded clique

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By *eardofVampiresWoman
6 weeks ago

Lancaster

Just persevere it can be hard being new here.

Just keep contributing and making your journey your own here.

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By *91kMan
6 weeks ago

Maidstone

Ah mate.. You can only be yourself at the end of the day 🤷‍♂️ hang on in there and your luck will change at some point! All the best

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By *eeltherhythm001Man
6 weeks ago

Pudsey/Manchester

Take it easy slow down the right people will comes across your posts or comments and reply

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By *evilinDavina1Man
6 weeks ago

Bristol

"Ah mate.. You can only be yourself at the end of the day 🤷‍♂️ hang on in there and your luck will change at some point! All the best"

This is good advice.

You seem like a decent bloke o.p I've seen you in the forums and you always seem respectful. Good luck 👍

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By *peedyGMan
6 weeks ago

Telford

We've all been there pal, just keep posting and joining in

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By *rightonsteveMan
6 weeks ago

Hove, mainly…

I’ve been ignored in the forums so many times I gave up counting after the 427th time.

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By *elix SightedMan
6 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"Ok

Here goes. This is not a sympathy post by any chance....but

What more can a peraon do,joining in with forums,making my own etc

Result...ignored in forums

Please no nasty messages,just would be nice to know what i may be doing wrong,or what is wrong on my profile?"

OP, I get the desire to be noticed. The funny thing is people are noticing you, they’re just not necessarily responding to your comments in text. If we all replied to everyone on every thread they’d never go anywhere because it would all be replies.

Chill, comment without agenda and in your natural style, and you’ll build friendships. These things take time, it was at least six months before I felt like I belonged and had made good friends. Well, goodish……

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
6 weeks ago

Maidstone

I've been here 12 years. I'm still ignored

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By *eliWoman
6 weeks ago

Hey OP, sometimes it can feel like you're being skipped over on the forums. People have existing friendships, jokes, all of that.

Keep posting as you. Your threads aren't ignored - people reply . Are you ignoring people when you don't reply? No, I don't think so. That's an alternative way of looking at things that might help. 😊

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

Thank you everyone for comments

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
6 weeks ago

Niche

There's no fast lane to connection.

It's no different online than offline. People either will or won't be attracted.

Plus not everyone will message those with facepics public.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

"There's no fast lane to connection.

It's no different online than offline. People either will or won't be attracted.

Plus not everyone will message those with facepics public."

That's good to know thank you

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

Does it really matter OP?

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By *eyond PurityCouple
6 weeks ago

North East Lincolnshire

Comment for yourself and don’t expect a reply and you’ll enjoy the forums a lot more.

I would suggest different types of pics and pad your bio out about what you can offer. People who put themselves down in their bio aren’t going to be enticing - so switch it around.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
6 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

You’re doing great OP and I’m enjoying your posts 😃

- Just keep doing it.

Sometimes the threads move at such a pace that multiple comments and posters can get sadly overlooked.

Hang in there 😃😃

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

"You’re doing great OP and I’m enjoying your posts 😃

- Just keep doing it.

Sometimes the threads move at such a pace that multiple comments and posters can get sadly overlooked.

Hang in there 😃😃"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

"Does it really matter OP? "

Well I have ADHD and unfortunately that comes with an unfortunate need to not disappoint etc

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By *actile TensionMan
6 weeks ago

Sussex

Kaitonel has a good perspective on this topic. Bit naughty putting him on the spot like this, but keep an eye out, hopefully he has a moment to post. 🤞🏻

In short. Try and care less

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By *usurrusCouple
6 weeks ago

North West

Consider yourself noticed by the good people of the forum.

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By *evilinDavina1Man
6 weeks ago

Bristol

"I’ve been ignored in the forums so many times I gave up counting after the 427th time. "

Who said that? ........

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
6 weeks ago

Maidstone

"I've been here 12 years. I'm still ignored

Still ignored. Always ignored

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By *ellhungvweMan
6 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"Ok

Here goes. This is not a sympathy post by any chance....but

What more can a peraon do,joining in with forums,making my own etc

Result...ignored in forums

Please no nasty messages,just would be nice to know what i may be doing wrong,or what is wrong on my profile?

I agree with Felix. Most people get ignored on the forums most of the time. You do get noticed over time and it will come around but probably not in public and probably not from anyone who actively posts on the forum. There are a lot of people reading silently and they will know you are genuine if/when your paths cross.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

"Consider yourself noticed by the good people of the forum. "

Much appreciated

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By *91kMan
6 weeks ago

Maidstone

"I've been here 12 years. I'm still ignored

Still ignored. Always ignored"

Fine. I recognise your comment! I have no response though 🤣

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By *iss DevilWoman
6 weeks ago

Bedford

OP, just use the forum as a bit of fun rather than means of getting noticed/getting meet(s) through here. It does happen but mostly it's just banter.

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By *avexxMan
6 weeks ago

cheshire

"ah you see the forums are a dreaded clique

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.. op i was just kidding some really lovely people on here just join in and go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

"OP, just use the forum as a bit of fun rather than means of getting noticed/getting meet(s) through here. It does happen but mostly it's just banter.

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

"ah you see the forums are a dreaded clique

.. op i was just kidding some really lovely people on here just join in and go with the flow"

Thank you

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By *bby_of_the_shireTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Ashby

Hey OP,

I know im not your cup of tea, but you have really pretty eyes.

The thing you seek will come. xx

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
6 weeks ago

Maidstone

"I've been here 12 years. I'm still ignored

Still ignored. Always ignored

Fine. I recognise your comment! I have no response though 🤣"

I've run out of witty responses worthy forum replies. You should have seen me in 2016. I was hilarious

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By *eroLondonMan
6 weeks ago

Mayfair

OP, don't feel ignored or neglected but, equally so, don't necessarily look for (or expect) acknowledgement either. Carry on and just immerse yourself in the threads, get involved in the games and the forum challenges, carve your own path on here so that people recognise and appreciate you.

It's not an overnight thing. It takes time.

Enjoy the forums for what they are: participation. Don't think of them as some kind of end-game or objective. You don't need to be a 'tour de force'; just be yourself.

🩶

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By *hinstrapMan
6 weeks ago

sheffield

Mate. I was same. And it takes time to realise a few things.

People don't automatically fancy you and want to remove your pants.

Not everyone or anyone in the forums will acknowledge you, reply etc. there's no rule to reply.

But what I can concur...

Be yourself.

Be friendly.

Fuck everyone else.

And enjoy your time on here.

....and you may find a friend or even a sexy partner.

Much love. Your friendly neighbourhood forum knob head

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By *hinstrapMan
6 weeks ago

sheffield

"I've been here 12 years. I'm still ignored

Still ignored. Always ignored

Fine. I recognise your comment! I have no response though 🤣

I've run out of witty responses worthy forum replies. You should have seen me in 2016. I was hilarious"

.....who said that... Pah only her .

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
6 weeks ago

Manchester

Op, I completely agree that it's really tough in the forums. I get ignored most of the time. I try not to take it personally, it is what it is. Keep trying, people will get used to your presence and will start acknowledging you but be patient

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
6 weeks ago

Maidstone

"Op, I completely agree that it's really tough in the forums. I get ignored most of the time. I try not to take it personally, it is what it is. Keep trying, people will get used to your presence and will start acknowledging you but be patient"

After 20 years you'll be in mate

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By *eroLondonMan
6 weeks ago

Mayfair

"...Plus not everyone will message those with facepics public."

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I have to say that I agree with this. Rightly or wrongly, ludicrous or not, the forå thrives on anonymity, mystique, intrigue and a cloistered penmanship.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
6 weeks ago

Maidstone

"...Plus not everyone will message those with facepics public.

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I have to say that I agree with this. Rightly or wrongly, ludicrous or not, the forå thrives on anonymity, mystique, intrigue and a cloistered penmanship."

That really isn't what the forum thrives on

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By *eliWoman
6 weeks ago

"...Plus not everyone will message those with facepics public.

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I have to say that I agree with this. Rightly or wrongly, ludicrous or not, the forå thrives on anonymity, mystique, intrigue and a cloistered penmanship.

That really isn't what the forum thrives on

It sounds nice though.

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By *morousCouple8Couple
6 weeks ago

Cumbria

"...Plus not everyone will message those with facepics public.

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I have to say that I agree with this. Rightly or wrongly, ludicrous or not, the forå thrives on anonymity, mystique, intrigue and a cloistered penmanship."

Easier to pretend everyone fancies everyone 😏

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

"Mate. I was same. And it takes time to realise a few things.

People don't automatically fancy you and want to remove your pants.

Not everyone or anyone in the forums will acknowledge you, reply etc. there's no rule to reply.

Much appreciated

But what I can concur...

Be yourself.

Be friendly.

Fuck everyone else.

And enjoy your time on here.

....and you may find a friend or even a sexy partner.

Much love. Your friendly neighbourhood forum knob head

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

"Hey OP,

I know im not your cup of tea, but you have really pretty eyes.

The thing you seek will come. xx"

Thanking you

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

I'm sure you aren't doing anything wrong.

If you aren't part of the popular group people tend to get ignored on here.

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By *lirtyVampireBellaCouple
6 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"Ok

Here goes. This is not a sympathy post by any chance....but

What more can a peraon do,joining in with forums,making my own etc

Result...ignored in forums

Please no nasty messages,just would be nice to know what i may be doing wrong,or what is wrong on my profile?"

Try not to let it bother you... I'm often ignored on the forums... Especially the " I fancy you" threads 🤣... I try not to overthink things.. sending hugs x

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By *offiacoolWoman
6 weeks ago

Alsager

Green arrow shows that apart from one thread you started that only got a couple of replies, the rest have got pretty respectable reply numbers, into the hundreds. You are doing fine

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By *ou only live onceMan
6 weeks ago

London

Some posts will get a reply, some won't

Doesn't necessarily mean you're being ignored, and you're definitely seen.

Just keep commenting when you have something you want to say - most chats tend to grow organically from all kinds of nonsense.

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By *agicm696Man
6 weeks ago

High Wycombe

It’s hard as a guy on here, u just have to stay hopeful and u may spark someone’s attention

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By *onin25Man
6 weeks ago

Durham

"Green arrow shows that apart from one thread you started that only got a couple of replies, the rest have got pretty respectable reply numbers, into the hundreds. You are doing fine

I posted on the one with 2 replies. It was pretty hilarious but passed over. Happens to the best of us

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By *ermanentlyHorny8082Couple
6 weeks ago

North West

It is VERY clique-y - in-jokes, ego-stroking. I tend to just contribute if I’ve got something I want to contribute, not to get a reply. Not desperate to be seen, just leave the clique to themselves!

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By *tannersMan
6 weeks ago

stanley

My approach was to create threads that got people participating, daft ones like “ what is your favourite type of penguin “ or a quiz always gets good participation.

On other threads just keep being true to yourself

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By *WB85Man
6 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Swinging can have a really negative impact on your mindset, its easy to feel invisible and undesirable.

My best advice is to take time out, don't let the wonderful world of fab be the most important thing.

I often take time out where I focus on myself and return when it feels right.

I hope you figure it out OP.

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op,

Many of us feel skipped ignored /skipped over in the forums at times.It doesn't mean you haven't been seen.

Sometimes I take a little break when I need to. I just join in the threads I like and stay out of others.

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
6 weeks ago

Manchester

After 20 years you'll be in mate"

thanks for the encouragement, will happily continue to do my own little thing, ignored or not

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By *iaisonseekerMan
6 weeks ago

Liverpool

OP, you are describing what Richard Ford called: "the normal, applauseless life of us all." It is a mark of our common humanity so don't feel despondent about it.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
6 weeks ago

Reading

It just takes time for your "face" to get known. Stick with it.

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By *parkle1974Woman
6 weeks ago

Leeds

"It is VERY clique-y - in-jokes, ego-stroking. I tend to just contribute if I’ve got something I want to contribute, not to get a reply. Not desperate to be seen, just leave the clique to themselves!

100% this

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By *rightonsteveMan
6 weeks ago

Hove, mainly…

Just join in. Eventually, you’ll be a regular then be as familiar as an old pair of slippers.

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By *peedyGMan
6 weeks ago

Telford

"There's no fast lane to connection.

It's no different online than offline. People either will or won't be attracted.

Plus not everyone will message those with facepics public."

That may be true, I have personally found the opposite to be true when i make mine pubic.

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By *avidNPMan
6 weeks ago

manchester

"I've been here 12 years. I'm still ignored

I have not ignored you

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By *avidNPMan
6 weeks ago

manchester

Try not to let it get you down. It happens to us all

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
6 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

I have noticed you O.P.

I notice everyone. That's a genuine comment.

I have seen you. Often.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
6 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"I have noticed you O.P.

I notice everyone. That's a genuine comment.

I have seen you. Often."

Granny sees all 👍🏻😜

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

You look fine, so give it time.

Constructively, you could change 2 of your pics to add variety as you've got 3 pics that are essentially the same.

Also, your blurb isn't terrible, but neither is it that strong.

There's always room for improvement in us all

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By *offiacoolWoman
6 weeks ago

Alsager

"I have noticed you O.P.

I notice everyone. That's a genuine comment.

I have seen you. Often."

I'm not sure I would find that reassuring

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By *ddie1966Man
6 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

Hah, I'm one to talk and give advice, but it would be as I do.

Simply be yourself and be honest. Don't try and conform to others requirements.

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By *rHotNottsMan
6 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Well, you are not being ignored on this thread are you?

But generally, as a guy you want to be ignored in the forums as much as possible, no one wants to bang the popular guys, they just get teased.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
6 weeks ago

Central

Most people in the forum reading your posts won't view your profile.

Everyone's posts will mean something different to each of us, its relevance will be personal. As will the other people posting, who will have different motivation and results.

Post because you want to say and share something. Think of it as giving, without expecting anything in return

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By *ot a studMan
6 weeks ago

Sheffield

Some will look at your profile some will chat, it's kinda the same down the pub.

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By *atinaChica54Woman
6 weeks ago

Marlborough

This⬆️is my approach to the Forums also.

I do enjoy the banter & humour of some on here & there are some interesting threads.

Just keep at it & don't worry about not being one of "the clique" or "in" on the "in jokes" etc....in the grand scheme of things, that element isn't that important.

Just enjoy reading or participating in whatever interests you on here & lessen any pressure on yourself to feel "included".

There are plenty of contributors on here that have no desire to be part of the "clique" anyway & we just merrily go about our business on here without giving a fuck about all that BS!😇

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By *vaRoseWoman
6 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

"Ok

Here goes. This is not a sympathy post by any chance....but

What more can a peraon do,joining in with forums,making my own etc

Result...ignored in forums

Please no nasty messages,just would be nice to know what i may be doing wrong,or what is wrong on my profile?

Pretty much this

Just keep being you and the right connections will happen

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