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By *hefirewithin OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Could be next door

I’d have to say personally just how fragile life can be, now not in a way to dampen the mood but in a more positive sense of really embracing living life, doing things you enjoy, spending time with others who’s company you enjoy, spread positivity and help others.

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By *ittle miss sunshineWoman
7 weeks ago

south sheilds

I learned that sleeping with my ex is a terrible idea. He's not changed in the 4 years we've been apart

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By *inkShyWoman
7 weeks ago

near Windsor

Of all the people that claim they will always be there for their friends/family, no matter the time and place .. you could probably count on one hand the ones that genuinely mean it.

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By *uaveNightsMan
7 weeks ago

Canvey Island

That not everyone will meet someone and settle. And that is perfectly ok!

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By *morousCouple8Couple
7 weeks ago

Cumbria

As you juggle all of the balls, I found out that some balls are made of rubber and can bounce (work) and it’ll be ok, but some balls are made of glass (family)

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By *umfun24Man
7 weeks ago

wilmslow

I learned not to test if a car cigarette lighter was working by putting my thumb on it. I was about 10. I didn’t do that again.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
7 weeks ago

Leeds

The whole “ you can be whatever you want to be” they tell you in school.

No you can’t you can be whatever the government/police allow you to be.

The mr

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By *bby_of_the_shireTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Ashby

60 second drying nail polish doesn't necessarily dry in 60 seconds.

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By *utoftheBluexWoman
7 weeks ago

Bot Farm

How unfair and hard is life for women

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By *actile TensionMan
7 weeks ago

Sussex

Blood isn't always thicker than water

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

That it's far better to be hurt than to hurt. You get over the former.

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By *ifelover999Man
7 weeks ago

Eastbourne

The govmnt is the biggest crooks

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By *uy445Man
7 weeks ago

braintree

Don’t stick your dick where you would not stick your finger

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By *ifelover999Man
7 weeks ago

Eastbourne


"How unfair and hard is life for women "

😱😱😱dissagree

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree"

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

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By *b40Man
7 weeks ago

lisburn

Ya can get a sweetheart any day but u only get one mother , so treasure every moment

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By *inkShyWoman
7 weeks ago

near Windsor


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree"

I'll be back later to read the verbal lynching.

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By *ifelover999Man
7 weeks ago

Eastbourne


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?"

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

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By *awtybikerMan
7 weeks ago

Barnoldswick

That Wet Paint may actually be wet

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By *ifelover999Man
7 weeks ago

Eastbourne


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

I'll be back later to read the verbal lynching. "

🤪

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By *ou only live onceMan
7 weeks ago

London


"The whole “ you can be whatever you want to be” they tell you in school.

No you can’t you can be whatever the government/police allow you to be.

The mr "

Pretty sure the government/police don't determine your career choices?

Unless you're talking about wanting to be a dr*g dealer. See the police may have something to say there.

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By *hinstrapMan
7 weeks ago

sheffield

A lot of friends aren't real friends.

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
7 weeks ago

belfast


"The whole “ you can be whatever you want to be” they tell you in school.

No you can’t you can be whatever the government/police allow you to be.

The mr

Pretty sure the government/police don't determine your career choices?

Unless you're talking about wanting to be a dr*g dealer. See the police may have something to say there."

Its always easier to blame other people for your failings though.

But saying that i wanted to be a soldier but wasnt allowed by the government.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home "

And yet she chose to give up this Edenic lifestyle. Can't imagine why.

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By *ifelover999Man
7 weeks ago

Eastbourne


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

And yet she chose to give up this Edenic lifestyle. Can't imagine why."

Who

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By *omeotherguyMan
7 weeks ago

Sheffield/London/Derbyshire

How important it is to love and respect yourself, first and foremost ❤️

Only then can you really relax and enjoy kufe the way it can be loved x

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
7 weeks ago

North Welsh Borders


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home "

Your wife isn't representative of all women's life experiences

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By *naswingdressWoman
7 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home "

So because you had an agreement with your wife (an agreement which necessarily means financial reliance on one's partner, reducing potential for independence) and she played her part in keeping your family afloat (unpaid work still being work), billions of women can't experience unfairness?

Christ 😂

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By *ifelover999Man
7 weeks ago

Eastbourne


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

Your wife isn't representative of all women's life experiences"

Never said it was its different peoples.situations

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
7 weeks ago

North Welsh Borders

I learned independence from a young age and soon realised that the only person you can ever rely on is yourself

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By *ifelover999Man
7 weeks ago

Eastbourne


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

So because you had an agreement with your wife (an agreement which necessarily means financial reliance on one's partner, reducing potential for independence) and she played her part in keeping your family afloat (unpaid work still being work), billions of women can't experience unfairness?

Christ 😂"

Hardly she had control of all the money

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By *naswingdressWoman
7 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

So because you had an agreement with your wife (an agreement which necessarily means financial reliance on one's partner, reducing potential for independence) and she played her part in keeping your family afloat (unpaid work still being work), billions of women can't experience unfairness?

Christ 😂

Hardly she had control of all the money "

Which presumably ended when you split up, which means she could have had trouble establishing financial independence.

But let's say you're right. That one person in Sussex had an agreement with their partner which involved you earning money, her spending the money, and her doing the domestic labour, and she was an outlier and suffered no financial consequences after your relationship ended.

What you're saying is that life isn't unfair for billions of women, because your wife had a good deal?

Please tell me you're not saying that, because that is beyond absurd.

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
7 weeks ago

North Welsh Borders


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

Your wife isn't representative of all women's life experiences

Never said it was its different peoples.situations"

That's not what you said though

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By *ifelover999Man
7 weeks ago

Eastbourne


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

So because you had an agreement with your wife (an agreement which necessarily means financial reliance on one's partner, reducing potential for independence) and she played her part in keeping your family afloat (unpaid work still being work), billions of women can't experience unfairness?

Christ 😂

Hardly she had control of all the money

Which presumably ended when you split up, which means she could have had trouble establishing financial independence.

But let's say you're right. That one person in Sussex had an agreement with their partner which involved you earning money, her spending the money, and her doing the domestic labour, and she was an outlier and suffered no financial consequences after your relationship ended.

What you're saying is that life isn't unfair for billions of women, because your wife had a good deal?

Please tell me you're not saying that, because that is beyond absurd."

No not saying that at all yes its harder for some women im just giving my point

And she passed away

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By *herrybakewellCouple
7 weeks ago

Staffordshire

People tell you what you want to hear to get exactly what they want.

Then, they dissappear.

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By *naswingdressWoman
7 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

So because you had an agreement with your wife (an agreement which necessarily means financial reliance on one's partner, reducing potential for independence) and she played her part in keeping your family afloat (unpaid work still being work), billions of women can't experience unfairness?

Christ 😂

Hardly she had control of all the money

Which presumably ended when you split up, which means she could have had trouble establishing financial independence.

But let's say you're right. That one person in Sussex had an agreement with their partner which involved you earning money, her spending the money, and her doing the domestic labour, and she was an outlier and suffered no financial consequences after your relationship ended.

What you're saying is that life isn't unfair for billions of women, because your wife had a good deal?

Please tell me you're not saying that, because that is beyond absurd.

No not saying that at all yes its harder for some women im just giving my point

And she passed away"

I'm sorry for your loss.

However, just because one woman has a good arrangement, it says nothing about any other woman, or what women face in general.

Let me offer an equivalent of what you're saying.

White middle aged balding men never have financial problems, because Elon Musk exists

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By *ifelover999Man
7 weeks ago

Eastbourne


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

Your wife isn't representative of all women's life experiences

Never said it was its different peoples.situations

That's not what you said though "

Its what i meant

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By *naswingdressWoman
7 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

Your wife isn't representative of all women's life experiences

Never said it was its different peoples.situations

That's not what you said though

Its what i meant"

The fact that multiple people interpreted what you said in the same way, indicates you communicated poorly.

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By *actile TensionMan
7 weeks ago

Sussex


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

So because you had an agreement with your wife (an agreement which necessarily means financial reliance on one's partner, reducing potential for independence) and she played her part in keeping your family afloat (unpaid work still being work), billions of women can't experience unfairness?

Christ 😂

Hardly she had control of all the money

Which presumably ended when you split up, which means she could have had trouble establishing financial independence.

But let's say you're right. That one person in Sussex had an agreement with their partner which involved you earning money, her spending the money, and her doing the domestic labour, and she was an outlier and suffered no financial consequences after your relationship ended.

What you're saying is that life isn't unfair for billions of women, because your wife had a good deal?

Please tell me you're not saying that, because that is beyond absurd.

No not saying that at all yes its harder for some women im just giving my point

And she passed away

I'm sorry for your loss.

However, just because one woman has a good arrangement, it says nothing about any other woman, or what women face in general.

Let me offer an equivalent of what you're saying.

White middle aged balding men never have financial problems, because Elon Musk exists "

Oh he went bald long ago and bought new hair

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By *ifelover999Man
7 weeks ago

Eastbourne


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

So because you had an agreement with your wife (an agreement which necessarily means financial reliance on one's partner, reducing potential for independence) and she played her part in keeping your family afloat (unpaid work still being work), billions of women can't experience unfairness?

Christ 😂

Hardly she had control of all the money

Which presumably ended when you split up, which means she could have had trouble establishing financial independence.

But let's say you're right. That one person in Sussex had an agreement with their partner which involved you earning money, her spending the money, and her doing the domestic labour, and she was an outlier and suffered no financial consequences after your relationship ended.

What you're saying is that life isn't unfair for billions of women, because your wife had a good deal?

Please tell me you're not saying that, because that is beyond absurd.

No not saying that at all yes its harder for some women im just giving my point

And she passed away

I'm sorry for your loss.

However, just because one woman has a good arrangement, it says nothing about any other woman, or what women face in general.

Let me offer an equivalent of what you're saying.

White middle aged balding men never have financial problems, because Elon Musk exists "

Kinda taking out the contex but i only disagreed on my pers situation

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By *naswingdressWoman
7 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

So because you had an agreement with your wife (an agreement which necessarily means financial reliance on one's partner, reducing potential for independence) and she played her part in keeping your family afloat (unpaid work still being work), billions of women can't experience unfairness?

Christ 😂

Hardly she had control of all the money

Which presumably ended when you split up, which means she could have had trouble establishing financial independence.

But let's say you're right. That one person in Sussex had an agreement with their partner which involved you earning money, her spending the money, and her doing the domestic labour, and she was an outlier and suffered no financial consequences after your relationship ended.

What you're saying is that life isn't unfair for billions of women, because your wife had a good deal?

Please tell me you're not saying that, because that is beyond absurd.

No not saying that at all yes its harder for some women im just giving my point

And she passed away

I'm sorry for your loss.

However, just because one woman has a good arrangement, it says nothing about any other woman, or what women face in general.

Let me offer an equivalent of what you're saying.

White middle aged balding men never have financial problems, because Elon Musk exists

Oh he went bald long ago and bought new hair "

I know 😂

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By *actile TensionMan
7 weeks ago

Sussex


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

So because you had an agreement with your wife (an agreement which necessarily means financial reliance on one's partner, reducing potential for independence) and she played her part in keeping your family afloat (unpaid work still being work), billions of women can't experience unfairness?

Christ 😂

Hardly she had control of all the money

Which presumably ended when you split up, which means she could have had trouble establishing financial independence.

But let's say you're right. That one person in Sussex had an agreement with their partner which involved you earning money, her spending the money, and her doing the domestic labour, and she was an outlier and suffered no financial consequences after your relationship ended.

What you're saying is that life isn't unfair for billions of women, because your wife had a good deal?

Please tell me you're not saying that, because that is beyond absurd.

No not saying that at all yes its harder for some women im just giving my point

And she passed away

I'm sorry for your loss.

However, just because one woman has a good arrangement, it says nothing about any other woman, or what women face in general.

Let me offer an equivalent of what you're saying.

White middle aged balding men never have financial problems, because Elon Musk exists

Oh he went bald long ago and bought new hair

I know 😂 "

Yeah I was a fanboi but finding that out put me right off

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By *naswingdressWoman
7 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

So because you had an agreement with your wife (an agreement which necessarily means financial reliance on one's partner, reducing potential for independence) and she played her part in keeping your family afloat (unpaid work still being work), billions of women can't experience unfairness?

Christ 😂

Hardly she had control of all the money

Which presumably ended when you split up, which means she could have had trouble establishing financial independence.

But let's say you're right. That one person in Sussex had an agreement with their partner which involved you earning money, her spending the money, and her doing the domestic labour, and she was an outlier and suffered no financial consequences after your relationship ended.

What you're saying is that life isn't unfair for billions of women, because your wife had a good deal?

Please tell me you're not saying that, because that is beyond absurd.

No not saying that at all yes its harder for some women im just giving my point

And she passed away

I'm sorry for your loss.

However, just because one woman has a good arrangement, it says nothing about any other woman, or what women face in general.

Let me offer an equivalent of what you're saying.

White middle aged balding men never have financial problems, because Elon Musk exists

Kinda taking out the contex but i only disagreed on my pers situation "

The person said women have an unfair time. You disagreed. When asked why, you said, because of your wife.

General category has hard time, disagree, one specific person in that category.

Balding middle aged white men have a hard time. General category.

Disagree - disagree

Elon Musk - one specific person in that category.

Like for like comparison.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

This thread has digressed harder than Tristram Shandy.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
7 weeks ago

cardiff

I mean back to the OP for goodness sake

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By *xDecadent_ColoursxxMan
7 weeks ago

Glasgow

That when people are venting to me about a problem they have, I shouldn't try to problem solve, 'cause a lot of folk get really annoyed by that.

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By *ifelover999Man
7 weeks ago

Eastbourne


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

So because you had an agreement with your wife (an agreement which necessarily means financial reliance on one's partner, reducing potential for independence) and she played her part in keeping your family afloat (unpaid work still being work), billions of women can't experience unfairness?

Christ 😂

Hardly she had control of all the money

Which presumably ended when you split up, which means she could have had trouble establishing financial independence.

But let's say you're right. That one person in Sussex had an agreement with their partner which involved you earning money, her spending the money, and her doing the domestic labour, and she was an outlier and suffered no financial consequences after your relationship ended.

What you're saying is that life isn't unfair for billions of women, because your wife had a good deal?

Please tell me you're not saying that, because that is beyond absurd.

No not saying that at all yes its harder for some women im just giving my point

And she passed away

I'm sorry for your loss.

However, just because one woman has a good arrangement, it says nothing about any other woman, or what women face in general.

Let me offer an equivalent of what you're saying.

White middle aged balding men never have financial problems, because Elon Musk exists

Kinda taking out the contex but i only disagreed on my pers situation

The person said women have an unfair time. You disagreed. When asked why, you said, because of your wife.

General category has hard time, disagree, one specific person in that category.

Balding middle aged white men have a hard time. General category.

Disagree - disagree

Elon Musk - one specific person in that category.

Like for like comparison."

Thowing a billionaire isnt nothing like what i was talking about its being stretched

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By *pandjMan
7 weeks ago

Sparkford


"I learned independence from a young age and soon realised that the only person you can ever rely on is yourself"

This

Plus the immature things I did in past relationships that caused the relationship to break down or made me stay longer than I should've

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By *obwhateverMan
7 weeks ago

Mordor

No such thing as a free lunch

If something sounds too good to be true, it’s too good to be true.

And women definitely do get dealt a cruel and unfair hand, which must be awful to experience on a daily basis. We can all be better people and treat each other with fairness and respect.

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By *allipygousMan
7 weeks ago

Leicester


"Of all the people that claim they will always be there for their friends/family, no matter the time and place .. you could probably count on one hand the ones that genuinely mean it."

I think most probably genuinely mean it at the time of saying it but feelings and dynamics change with time.

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By *allipygousMan
7 weeks ago

Leicester


"How unfair and hard is life for women "

#notallwomen

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By *hefirewithin OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Could be next door

I was hoping for a bit of self reflection and a positive spin, things went down hill pretty quickly

Sorry bad idea as a topic I guess ….

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By *inkShyWoman
7 weeks ago

near Windsor


"I was hoping for a bit of self reflection and a positive spin, things went down hill pretty quickly

Sorry bad idea as a topic I guess …. "

I think it was a great topic x

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By *inkShyWoman
7 weeks ago

near Windsor


"Of all the people that claim they will always be there for their friends/family, no matter the time and place .. you could probably count on one hand the ones that genuinely mean it.

I think most probably genuinely mean it at the time of saying it but feelings and dynamics change with time. "

I don't mean 40 year friendship declarations that change. But overall, people don't realise what they are promising. In the short term, people still don't follow throw on this.

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By *eliWoman
7 weeks ago

.


"Sorry bad idea as a topic I guess …. "

No, it wasn't. Unless you're actively minding your thread you can't control where it goes...

which rather neatly brings me on to something I had to learn.

Let them. I can't control what others say/how they act. I can talk about when I'm unhappy, disagree with people, have boundaries remove them from my life - they're still going to behave as they want. It really helped my overthinking tendencies, gave space for me to focus on happier times.

P.S The value of life is something I'm keenly aware of due to sad times, like you, Op. It's made me appreciate things a lot more. Make an effort to remember things that matter to people. Make those who make me happy, happier.❤️

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By *a LunaWoman
7 weeks ago

Wales

That being single (by choice) is not a bad thing.

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By *hunderaceMan
7 weeks ago

Dudley

Several lessons I've learnt but here's my top 3...

I had a stage 4 cancer which I was told was so far advanced I'd not see my 21st Birthday, with positive thinking & a refusal to give up I beat it in 4 months and turn 57 in June.

loosing half my left leg was just a life challenge and NOT life changing.

Lastly loosing my 27yr old Son to suicide 6yrs ago was a dark hole I'd emerge from with help and now manage to smile more than I cry.

The lesson to all this? He with a why can bear almost any how...

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By *utoftheBluexWoman
7 weeks ago

Bot Farm


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

I'll be back later to read the verbal lynching. "

There is no point in arguing with somebody who thinks being in charge of the home and childrens are not a real job. I work a minimum of 60 hours per week, besides home duties earning half men salary in the same position

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By *onin25Man
7 weeks ago

Durham


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree"

The patriarchal society we live in generally still gives more advantages to men and passes burdens onto women. Not in all cases and there are lots of men who have it tough to, but that's not as widespread and not down to societal norms.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

7 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think my life has been a series of hard lessons but fortunately for me they have been few and far between. I think I mostly learned over time in a gentle way

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By *utoftheBluexWoman
7 weeks ago

Bot Farm


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

The patriarchal society we live in generally still gives more advantages to men and passes burdens onto women. Not in all cases and there are lots of men who have it tough to, but that's not as widespread and not down to societal norms. "

You are wonderful

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By *onin25Man
7 weeks ago

Durham


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

The patriarchal society we live in generally still gives more advantages to men and passes burdens onto women. Not in all cases and there are lots of men who have it tough to, but that's not as widespread and not down to societal norms.

You are wonderful "

Just telling it how I see it. I've got it tough in many ways, but had I been in the same circumstances as a woman it would almost certainly be tougher.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

The patriarchal society we live in generally still gives more advantages to men and passes burdens onto women. Not in all cases and there are lots of men who have it tough to, but that's not as widespread and not down to societal norms.

You are wonderful

Just telling it how I see it. I've got it tough in many ways, but had I been in the same circumstances as a woman it would almost certainly be tougher."

This is exactly it. No one is saying white, straight, middle class men have everything easy. Life can come at you hard whoever you are. But the same tough situations are magnified if you are paid less, suffer discrimination, don't have savings, have the burden of childcare.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
7 weeks ago

Round the bend

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By *actile TensionMan
7 weeks ago

Sussex


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

The patriarchal society we live in generally still gives more advantages to men and passes burdens onto women. Not in all cases and there are lots of men who have it tough to, but that's not as widespread and not down to societal norms.

You are wonderful

Just telling it how I see it. I've got it tough in many ways, but had I been in the same circumstances as a woman it would almost certainly be tougher.

This is exactly it. No one is saying white, straight, middle class men have everything easy. Life can come at you hard whoever you are. But the same tough situations are magnified if you are paid less, suffer discrimination, don't have savings, have the burden of childcare."

Actually, In some aspect women have it twice as hard as men. At certain beaches when the towel blows away they're required to cover both breasts and the punany region.

For men, it's just the penis

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By *utoftheBluexWoman
7 weeks ago

Bot Farm


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

The patriarchal society we live in generally still gives more advantages to men and passes burdens onto women. Not in all cases and there are lots of men who have it tough to, but that's not as widespread and not down to societal norms.

You are wonderful

Just telling it how I see it. I've got it tough in many ways, but had I been in the same circumstances as a woman it would almost certainly be tougher.

This is exactly it. No one is saying white, straight, middle class men have everything easy. Life can come at you hard whoever you are. But the same tough situations are magnified if you are paid less, suffer discrimination, don't have savings, have the burden of childcare.

Actually, In some aspect women have it twice as hard as men. At certain beaches when the towel blows away they're required to cover both breasts and The Punany region.

For men, it's just the penis"

Besides the fact that it is easier for them to piss in public areas

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By *utoftheBluexWoman
7 weeks ago

Bot Farm


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

The patriarchal society we live in generally still gives more advantages to men and passes burdens onto women. Not in all cases and there are lots of men who have it tough to, but that's not as widespread and not down to societal norms.

You are wonderful

Just telling it how I see it. I've got it tough in many ways, but had I been in the same circumstances as a woman it would almost certainly be tougher.

This is exactly it. No one is saying white, straight, middle class men have everything easy. Life can come at you hard whoever you are. But the same tough situations are magnified if you are paid less, suffer discrimination, don't have savings, have the burden of childcare."

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By *actile TensionMan
7 weeks ago

Sussex


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

The patriarchal society we live in generally still gives more advantages to men and passes burdens onto women. Not in all cases and there are lots of men who have it tough to, but that's not as widespread and not down to societal norms.

You are wonderful

Just telling it how I see it. I've got it tough in many ways, but had I been in the same circumstances as a woman it would almost certainly be tougher.

This is exactly it. No one is saying white, straight, middle class men have everything easy. Life can come at you hard whoever you are. But the same tough situations are magnified if you are paid less, suffer discrimination, don't have savings, have the burden of childcare.

Actually, In some aspect women have it twice as hard as men. At certain beaches when the towel blows away they're required to cover both breasts and The Punany region.

For men, it's just the penis

Besides the fact that it is easier for them to piss in public areas "

🌷

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By *ornucopiaMan
7 weeks ago

Bexley


"I learned that sleeping with my ex is a terrible idea. He's not changed in the 4 years we've been apart "

His underwear, or his jeans (in lieu of underwear)?

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By *ABflirtyWoman
7 weeks ago

Norfolk

Being true to myself. Has helped me. X

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By *aked beachMan
7 weeks ago

Just A Stranger In A Strange Land.

Two, one positive, and one perhaps negative depending on your point of view.

One positive thing I’ve learnt is when things are bad, when everything seems to be against you, it’s not always the case and if you keep battling, keeping pushing against the tide then better times are ahead.

The other one which I think is positive and negative in equal parts, friendship is overrated.

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By *haft10Man
7 weeks ago

Wandsworth

Still learning

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
7 weeks ago

Ryde

When wearing white pants, vigilance is the price of flatulence.

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By *aked beachMan
7 weeks ago

Just A Stranger In A Strange Land.


"When wearing white pants, vigilance is the price of flatulence."

Sound advice, in fact the lesson might be don’t wear white pants!

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By *ydaz70Man
7 weeks ago

Rotherham /newquay

Don't trust your mother in law

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By *elix SightedMan
7 weeks ago

Cloud 8

So many lessons that have only emerged after late introspection.

Don’t try to force a flawed relationship on yourself, it won’t work out well.

Treat people better, they’ll always remember how you made them feel. And just because you don’t think you want them in your life now, you may in the future.

Go for a poo when you first get the rumblings. Waiting is a perilous game.

Being shy can be overcome. It takes bravery initially but the rewards are worth it.

Getting stressed causes more stress. Turn the other cheek, smile, breathe and move on.

Accept your own limitations and embrace that as a strength.

Always wash your brushes.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
7 weeks ago

cardiff

Don't try to put a tampon in with really long nails

Trust your gut instinct

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By *he Gentleman.Man
7 weeks ago

Sitlington

Work is not the be all and end all. By all means work to live but not live to work. I took early retirement after worrying if I could manage. Now my only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
7 weeks ago

Round the bend


"Two, one positive, and one perhaps negative depending on your point of view.

One positive thing I’ve learnt is when things are bad, when everything seems to be against you, it’s not always the case and if you keep battling, keeping pushing against the tide then better times are ahead.

The other one which I think is positive and negative in equal parts, friendship is overrated. "

I rate our friendship 🫶🏼

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By *oveat1stfeelMan
7 weeks ago

turnrightstraightahead


"I learned that sleeping with my ex is a terrible idea. He's not changed in the 4 years we've been apart "

Unfortunately leopards dont change their spots .

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By *idewillyMan
7 weeks ago

jersey

Think of everyone as being a total nuts they can only prove you wrong or think everyone being totally lovely they can only make you nuts …both ways win…here for one moment you own nothing your just guardians of everything only thing you leave is your memories legacy ..so be nice

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

Don’t sleep on big decisions. If it’s not a hard yes it’s a hard no.

Believe people the first time they show you who they really are.

You ate one life event away from being the person you look down on.

No matter how bleak things seem, they will feel better in the morning.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
7 weeks ago

Reading


"How unfair and hard is life for women

😱😱😱dissagree

On the basis that you have lived as a woman?

On the basis when i was married my wife never had to work i done weekends etc to.bring out kids up.and take them on hols she looked after home

So because you had an agreement with your wife (an agreement which necessarily means financial reliance on one's partner, reducing potential for independence) and she played her part in keeping your family afloat (unpaid work still being work), billions of women can't experience unfairness?

Christ 😂

Hardly she had control of all the money

Which presumably ended when you split up, which means she could have had trouble establishing financial independence.

But let's say you're right. That one person in Sussex had an agreement with their partner which involved you earning money, her spending the money, and her doing the domestic labour, and she was an outlier and suffered no financial consequences after your relationship ended.

What you're saying is that life isn't unfair for billions of women, because your wife had a good deal?

Please tell me you're not saying that, because that is beyond absurd.

No not saying that at all yes its harder for some women im just giving my point

And she passed away

I'm sorry for your loss.

However, just because one woman has a good arrangement, it says nothing about any other woman, or what women face in general.

Let me offer an equivalent of what you're saying.

White middle aged balding men never have financial problems, because Elon Musk exists

Oh he went bald long ago and bought new hair

I know 😂

Yeah I was a fanboi but finding that out put me right off "

Elon Musk going bald is what it you off him? Not him being a far right agitator?

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By *elix SightedMan
7 weeks ago

Cloud 8


"Don't try to put a tampon in with really long nails"

Or screws. I think they just push in.

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By *aitonelMan
7 weeks ago

Liverpool

That people will always rush to be the worst off and hard done by. Always looking for that tiny little gap to push through as the victim.

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By *uke02Man
7 weeks ago

Waterford City

Make sure the girl you've been chatting to is definitely single before sleeping with her

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By *aitonelMan
7 weeks ago

Liverpool

Oh and all people are cunts in their own special way

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By *oveat1stfeelMan
7 weeks ago

turnrightstraightahead

Keep going ...most important..life is a race ...for some it's a short race..others not .but it's a race & if you quit or drop out , it's game over ..stay in the race.. stay going no matter ..if you can 💪

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By *rytomakelifefunMan
7 weeks ago

Leeds / Sheffield

How important it is to have, understand, respect and enforce your boundaries within relationships and friendships.

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By *arzanandJane2016Couple
7 weeks ago

the big city

Time is an investment that doesn’t always pay a return

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By *verageHoesCouple
7 weeks ago

Bessacarr

That karting IS NOT the same as driving a car, the brake is NOT under your right foot, and face planting the steering wheel really bloody hurts!

N

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By *a LunaWoman
7 weeks ago

Wales

When things look a bit shit and you feel a bit sad, sometimes all you need is a good cry and a good nights sleep. In the morning things can look a bit better.

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By *inkShyWoman
7 weeks ago

near Windsor


"That people will always rush to be the worst off and hard done by. Always looking for that tiny little gap to push through as the victim. "

There is often one of those people in every workplace. Broke your ankle? They broke a leg. Spilt a coffee? They spilt two.

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By *inkShyWoman
7 weeks ago

near Windsor


"That karting IS NOT the same as driving a car, the brake is NOT under your right foot, and face planting the steering wheel really bloody hurts!

N "

😂😂😂 I'm sorry for laughing

Reminds me of a time I thought I'd give braking with my left foot a go. 🤕

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By *idssissyTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

How easily people can become invisible and forgotten

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By *sWyldWoman
7 weeks ago

Edinburgh

That you have to rescue yourself

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