FabSwingers.com forum: what Constitutes Sucess

By *oxes OP Man
8 weeks ago

Southend, Essex

I been thinking (I know dangerous) After a conversation with someones who daughter joined a successful band and lives most of the time in LA, finding someone (today) I used to know with a million subscribers on YT and someone from my school (also today) after their wedding photos of her getting married to a comedian were uploaded to her FB (She originally was a model).

It got me thinking what Constitutes as success and why some suceed yet many fail or may struggle at something seemingly less grand. Like buying a house and having children (sorry I hope that does not sound arrogant).

Is it luck, skill and early adoption & timming one of them or a mixture of all of them?

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By *elix SightedMan
8 weeks ago

Cloud 8

The amount of parentheses one can squeeze into a story. That’s when you know you’ve made it.

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By *elix SightedMan
8 weeks ago

Cloud 8

(Apparently)

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By *ictureperfectCouple
8 weeks ago

Kildare-ish

Career success to me is - the older that you get, the less you do and the more you get paid for it.

Life success is just finding happiness.

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By *oxes OP Man
8 weeks ago

Southend, Essex

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By *oxes OP Man
8 weeks ago

Southend, Essex

"The amount of parentheses one can squeeze into a story. That’s when you know you’ve made it."

Apologies if this sounds dim but I don't understand.

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By *eximus MaximusMan
8 weeks ago

Up North

Nothing succeeds more than a budgie with no teeth

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By *evilinyouMan
8 weeks ago

Bristol

I think it depends what you place value in. If you want fame you'll never be happy untill you have it. Same with money and all that jazz. For me it would be time. I'd love to have all the time in the world to read books, play my guitar, play my games, watch movies, and generally do what I enjoy. Unfortunately I work full time and have 0 money and 0 time so I guess failing all round haha

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By *ision21Man
8 weeks ago

Newcastle Under Lyme

I've always defined success in what I achieve in life.

What I've done etc.

As long as I'm happy with what I've achieved then I'm happy.

That's my barometer of success.

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By *onin25Man
8 weeks ago

Durham

"The amount of parentheses one can squeeze into a story. That’s when you know you’ve made it.

Apologies if this sounds dim but I don't understand. "

Words in brackets

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By *actile TensionMan
8 weeks ago

Sussex

There are many branches to success, fame, fortune, self mastery etc. ultimately to me, if you have made it to old age and your close friends and family still like you, you have been successful

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

The parable of the management consultant and the fisherman is a good pov on this. Worth a google.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
8 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think first you need to ask what your personal definition of success is.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
8 weeks ago

East Sussex

"The parable of the management consultant and the fisherman is a good pov on this. Worth a google. "

I'm the fishermen

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

"The parable of the management consultant and the fisherman is a good pov on this. Worth a google.

I'm the fishermen"

Me too

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By *oeBeansMan
8 weeks ago

Derby

I think it's being content. If you're not, then it feels like you're always chasing something as you never feel good enough in a certain aspect of life.

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By *illsyMan
8 weeks ago

Wrexham

I'll consider myself successful when I can kick my f*ckin alarm clock from one end of Wrexham High Street to the other !!!

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
8 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

"The amount of parentheses one can squeeze into a story. That’s when you know you’ve made it.

Apologies if this sounds dim but I don't understand.

Words in brackets "

Just to be pedantic, () are the parentheses, the words inside it are irrelevant.

I know, I know. I'm going.

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By *ypersoonMan
8 weeks ago

WHITCHURCH, Shropshire

For me, getting on with things to achieve satisfaction & mini-victories 🏆 irrespective of being something small or huge

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
8 weeks ago

London

Success is what you define it to be. One person's definition of success is getting out of bed every day. Another person's could be saving enough money for a deposit on a house. Another person's could be financial freedom. We're all different and have different goals in life.

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By *otopaxiMan
8 weeks ago

nostalgia

Being truly happy…. That’s absolute success

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By *eroLondonMan
8 weeks ago

Mayfair

For me personally? The capitulation of Mrs Nicecouple561 to my charms and guile. One day I shall have thee. 😈

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
8 weeks ago

bradford

Our own personal success is to achieve ones dreams, in which case, I’ve surpassed all of mine in every way imaginable as it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

Raising a child whilst doing a full time job whilst you both battle ADHD and learning difficulties

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By *otopaxiMan
8 weeks ago

nostalgia

"Raising a child whilst doing a full time job whilst you both battle ADHD and learning difficulties "

👏

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By *laytime_13Woman
8 weeks ago

Lincs

Arguably my brother is exceptionally successful. High powered city job, glamorous wife with equally high powered job, gorgeous house in the 'burbs, good friendship group, solvent etc etc. But beyond that he's genuinely a really decent person (as is his Mrs). But honestly, they set the bar pretty high!

For me, some days success is getting dressed and my t-shirt not being on inside out

it's all relative

I think it's being happy with your lot, whatever that is for you.

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By *hilly1515Man
8 weeks ago

quantified to some and qualified to some. now doubt a mixture of both to some .

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
8 weeks ago

Norwich

"Arguably my brother is exceptionally successful. High powered city job, glamorous wife with equally high powered job, gorgeous house in the 'burbs, good friendship group, solvent etc etc. But beyond that he's genuinely a really decent person (as is his Mrs). But honestly, they set the bar pretty high!

For me, some days success is getting dressed and my t-shirt not being on inside out

it's all relative

I think it's being happy with your lot, whatever that is for you."

I bet he’s got a big cock too

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

Success is being happy and content with your life and what the futures feels it will be. It's an easy way of life and feeling your are not constrained completely by money and work. And lots of sex of course.

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By *ddie1966Man
8 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

Being content with my lot and having children and grandchildren that love me as much as I love them.

Money has nothing to do with it.

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By *atinaChica54Woman
8 weeks ago

Marlborough

"Being content with my lot and having children and grandchildren that love me as much as I love them.

Money has nothing to do with it."

This⬆️. I couldn't have put it better myself. I am truly blessed.

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By *orksRockerMan
8 weeks ago

Bradford

Happiness

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By *og and MuseCouple
8 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

To me it's a mix traditionally it starts with personal - educational, professional, financial but then interpersonal and having an impact / contribution, not always in the order. As you get older you realise your relationships, the length and depth of the real measure if you can achieve all the earlier stuff without compromising them you're doing okay.

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By *og and MuseCouple
8 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Is it luck, skill and early adoption & timming one of them or a mixture of all of them? "

Focus, tenacity, probably self belief is the biggest, without that you will give up or have small or no goals.

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By *oughmanMan
8 weeks ago

Sunderland

For me it's still being alive at the end of it.

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By *rasshopper201Man
8 weeks ago

kendal

Contentment

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
8 weeks ago

Perpignan and cap

You win some and you loose some.

Not loosing is a success.

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By *heonixrising500Man
8 weeks ago

Barnsley

Life contentment is success

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By *rightonsteveMan
8 weeks ago

Hove, mainly…

Success for me, generally speaking, is happiness. I know a guy who is a millionaire. He’s not happy. As Mr McCawber says:

Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen pounds nineteen and six, result happiness.

Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds ought and six, result misery.”

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By *eliWoman
8 weeks ago

Owning a plane and a PhD? ❤️

No, being serious, I think there's more than one definition of success. There are so many different benchmarks, measures.

But, for me, personally? Real success is happiness. It's clichéd for a good reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

I have never been promoted, in a 23 year career. I am a failure.

I am loved and adored by people I cherish and adore in return. I am immortally successful.

Pick a lane - both are true - but make sure you define your own success.

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By *umfun24Man
8 weeks ago

wilmslow

"Success for me, generally speaking, is happiness. I know a guy who is a millionaire. He’s not happy. As Mr McCawber says:

Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen pounds nineteen and six, result happiness.

Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds ought and six, result misery.”

I think that this captures it for me.

Happiness. How many “successful” people do we all know, who are caught on the hamster wheel, chasing the next thing that they need, just to prove to everyone, including themselves, how successful they are?

If you are comfortable and happy and enjoying life without anxieties or frustration, you truly are winning and successful.

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By *ino200Man
8 weeks ago

Bournemouth,london and Sienna

The poorest communities in the world are the happiest ,life is not judged by fancy cars and acres of land and a jet these are things ,i mean how many people live in a mansion 2 lol success is a life well lived all your teeth and a lived in look

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By *hefirewithinMan
8 weeks ago

Could be next door

I’d have to say feeling really fulfilled and genuine happiness would define it.

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By *007ManMan
8 weeks ago

Worthing

In my case, hard work since starting school. Be good to others and make friend. Sometimes a bit of luck along the way but always it's working hard in the end.

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By *ookie46Woman
8 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

For me it’s happiness ❤️

Happiness bring riches to your life that can’t be measured

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

Being happy...

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
8 weeks ago

Maidstone

Completing fab. Even the mingers.

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By *ABflirtyWoman
8 weeks ago

Norfolk

Being happy content family friends you can’t put a price on that. Look at all the people fame and millions in the bank who are dead taken there own life’s from drink drugs .

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By *est-Yorkshire-GentMan
8 weeks ago

Leeds

Happiness. Simple as that. I’ve had loads of money, I’ve been homeless and everything in between. What I’ve learnt on that journey is happiness and health are the real wealth and success in life.

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By *umfun24Man
8 weeks ago

wilmslow

"Completing fab. Even the mingers."

Hope for everyone then !!

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By *a LunaWoman
8 weeks ago

Wales

It looks different for different people and what their priorities in life are.

Some want a corporate job paying top dollar so they can retire early and live the dream, others want a job that pays barely enough to live on but they live a bohemian, stress free life with no responsibility.

Others want to get married and have kids, others are happy to be single and childless and do their own thing.

They all probably think they are successful in life.

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By *emorefridaCouple
8 weeks ago

La la land

Success means so many different things to different people.

The thought of being in a band is my idea of hell. Touring and being away from my family, missing out on kids growing up. Not for me but appreciate it is for others.

To me it's genuinely feeling happy when you get back home from work, having enough money so you don't worry if the car packs in, having a good support network around you and finally having happy kids.

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By *hilly1515Man
8 weeks ago

"Completing fab. Even the mingers."

that gave me a snigger

Level up boost

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By *hunderaceMan
8 weeks ago

Dudley

For me success & happiness are two separate entities. You can be happy without success & you can be successful and still not achieve happiness, but if you can surpass your expectations and be happy with your efforts then win or loose you've reached contentment...

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By *CExeCouple
8 weeks ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

I have a few houses, all unencumbered, a hot gf and have travelled to some very cool places. Sounds like success....but I have a multitude of health issues, various financial stresses and feel generally aimless.

The chap above who mentioned happiness and success being two distinct things is bang on the money. To me, a happy life with no stress would be success, regardless of material possessions and personal achievements. Ie, being a dog in a good home 🤣

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By *ealitybitesMan
8 weeks ago

Belfast

I've never been ambitious or had a bucket list.

My only goal was to be able to provide for my family.

In more recent years I've travelled more but that requires planning and lots of saving because I don't have very much disposable income despite having paid off a mortgage and no loans or huge bills.

I've succeeded at doing anything I have attempted and raised 3 amazing kids.

I could easily go back to a previous job and earn twice what I'm on now but that would require having to deal with twice as much stress and hassle so it's not worth it.

In my opinion I'm successful but not financially successful or even comfortable so thankfully I don't see money as the answer to everything.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
8 weeks ago

Poole

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
8 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"The amount of parentheses one can squeeze into a story. That’s when you know you’ve made it."

No no! It's when you are able to distinguish a question from a story.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
8 weeks ago

Poole

"I been thinking (I know dangerous) After a conversation with someones who daughter joined a successful band and lives most of the time in LA, finding someone (today) I used to know with a million subscribers on YT and someone from my school (also today) after their wedding photos of her getting married to a comedian were uploaded to her FB (She originally was a model).

Is it luck, skill and early adoption & timming one of them or a mixture of all of them? "

You've been thinking? I hope you took yourself off to a quite room, and gave yourself a good talking to about this. And the out cone was, to never do it again!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
8 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"The amount of parentheses one can squeeze into a story. That’s when you know you’ve made it.

Apologies if this sounds dim but I don't understand.

Words in brackets

Just to be pedantic, () are the parentheses, the words inside it are irrelevant.

I know, I know. I'm going. "

To be piss takingly pedanticly pedantic ...... the words ARE the parenthesis and the parenthesis can be flagged with () and also

- - and , ,

Dashes , brackets or commas indicate the start and end of the parenthesis.

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By *nnCeeWoman
8 weeks ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

"Completing fab. Even the mingers."

Not everyone's had me yet, so no-one will have succeeded

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By *og and MuseCouple
8 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"The poorest communities in the world are the happiest ,life is not judged by fancy cars and acres of land and a jet these are things ,i mean how many people live in a mansion 2 lol success is a life well lived all your teeth and a lived in look

Kind of explains why happiness is a bit of a silly measure of success of a person or a nation or race if you can be living in poverty with no healthcare and education and class that as a success just because they are smiling?

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By *inkShyWoman
8 weeks ago

near Windsor

Depends where you place value.

I can't have children, so in some people's eyes I will always be a failure.

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By *oxes OP Man
8 weeks ago

Southend, Essex

"Raising a child whilst doing a full time job whilst you both battle ADHD and learning difficulties

👏 "

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By *imon 6930Man
8 weeks ago

stanmore

If you really think about it it’s all about sex and money

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By *oxes OP Man
8 weeks ago

Southend, Essex

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By *oxes OP Man
8 weeks ago

Southend, Essex

Thankyou for everyones thoughtfull answers.

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By *andsCouple
8 weeks ago

Edin

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