FabSwingers.com mobile

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to The Lounge

What has surprised you the most since you've been on here?

Jump to newest
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West

I think what has surprised me the most is the amount of clubs that are currently operating in the country. Before I joined, I knew there were swingers clubs. I just didn't expect the number of them over the country.

Oh and the amount of people on this site was a big surprise too.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *cherryblossom-Woman
2 weeks ago

South glos

How many people talk about snow even in the spring/ summer

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West


"How many people talk about snow even in the spring/ summer "

Maybe they really love Frosty the Snowman?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *hristopherd999Man
2 weeks ago

Brentwood

How many timewasters there are on here

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *heGigglingGiraffeWoman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

Definitely the amount of people on here and that in the main, I’ve only met normal people 🤣

Also that clubs aren’t sleazy.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *olyGlamorousWoman
2 weeks ago

Chester


"I think what has surprised me the most is the amount of clubs that are currently operating in the country. Before I joined, I knew there were swingers clubs. I just didn't expect the number of them over the country.

Oh and the amount of people on this site was a big surprise too."

That ginger men are very sexy

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ink vixenCouple
2 weeks ago

Medway

The outright weirdness of some fuckers.

Jeez. They walk among us.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *rincess_Peach1992Woman
2 weeks ago

Newport

For me, the amount of people! Including local people.

The amount of time wasters, given most of us are on here for the same thing

Even online, there are cliques 👀

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

2 weeks ago

East Sussex

I can't remember if I was surprised or not because I'm kind of immune to a lot of stuff now but I know I raised an eyebrow at some of the attitudes, the naivete and the judgemental nature of some

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *earditallWoman
2 weeks ago

Lancaster


"How many people talk about snow even in the spring/ summer "

This the first time I saw it I actually looked out thinking bullshit its not snowing

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *2000ManMan
2 weeks ago

Worthing

The chat topic variation. Apart from the obvious, one of the best on the web I've experienced.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ellhungvweMan
2 weeks ago

Cheltenham


"I can't remember if I was surprised or not because I'm kind of immune to a lot of stuff now but I know I raised an eyebrow at some of the attitudes, the naivete and the judgemental nature of some "

I do love a good judging. Particularly from the open minded brigade.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

2 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I can't remember if I was surprised or not because I'm kind of immune to a lot of stuff now but I know I raised an eyebrow at some of the attitudes, the naivete and the judgemental nature of some

I do love a good judging. Particularly from the open minded brigade."

In my lifetime I have discovered that self processed open minded people are frequently the most judgemental .

They often start a conversation with

" I'm as open minded as the next person but..."

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *wist my nipplesCouple
2 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

That I made friends. Definitely wasn’t expecting that!

Mrs TMN x

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *inaTitzTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

The amount of people who want to meet Tgirls.

How well balanced most people are.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West


"I think what has surprised me the most is the amount of clubs that are currently operating in the country. Before I joined, I knew there were swingers clubs. I just didn't expect the number of them over the country.

Oh and the amount of people on this site was a big surprise too.

That ginger men are very sexy "

It is like Tormund off Game of Thrones said. We are blessed with fire 🔥

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *aul_the_nudistMan
2 weeks ago

WREXHAM

How many "straight men " are also on f#bguys...🤔

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *earditallWoman
2 weeks ago

Lancaster


"How many "straight men " are also on f#bguys...🤔"

How many straight men suck cock

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *luebell888Woman
2 weeks ago

Glasgowish

I was surprised to discover that alot of younger men were looking for older females.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *tandbyme555Man
2 weeks ago

mitcham

The amount of time wasters on here and rude people

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *eeman1200Man
2 weeks ago

Paulton Nr Bristol

the number of people who stop talking or delete their account when i talking to them

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *hunderaceMan
2 weeks ago

Dudley

Was on here for 8yrs then took 18 months off, in the few months I've been back what's surprises me most is how many old friends have left or no longer online.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West


"How many "straight men " are also on f#bguys...🤔

How many straight men suck cock"

I've often wondered that. Why don't they just put they're bi or they're gay down on their profiles?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *urls and DressesWoman
2 weeks ago

Somewhere near here

The amount of normal people, just day to day folk with normal jobs and lives.

And that not every man is looking for young, slim, perfectly proportioned 21 year old woman as the media portrays.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *vaRoseWoman
2 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

The entitlement

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
2 weeks ago

Niche

I'm not so much surprised as reminded of some things.

People are so lacking in self awareness. Point one finger out and one back at yourself.

Maybe only surprised by what folks will post online with no notion for their safety or their ability to pay their bills.

People get desensitised.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *loydyMan
2 weeks ago

British

Total lack of manners

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

How few genuine people there are who actually want to meet others. You’d have thought it would be simple, that most people would have the same goal, but that’s simply not the case

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ereforfun60Man
2 weeks ago

lechworth

how many timewasters there are on here

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *on_20Couple
2 weeks ago

Manchester and Cardiff

How much we enjoy the social side of this lifestyle and finding people we click with who have a shared interest. When we joined we were like horny rabbits wanting to fuck. Now we are definitely more into the social side of it and if we play it is an added bonus. We are most surprised by the culture switch we have found in ourselves since being on here.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ellinever70Woman
2 weeks ago

Ayrshire

The attitudes towards sex

The cluelessness about everyday ordinary women

The misogyny

The stuck in the past views

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *oeBeansMan
2 weeks ago

Derby

That for a site that's meant be so sexually open, how stuffy and judgemental people can be while appearing on their own moral high horse

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *kphooey43Man
2 weeks ago

Barnet


"I can't remember if I was surprised or not because I'm kind of immune to a lot of stuff now but I know I raised an eyebrow at some of the attitudes, the naivete and the judgemental nature of some

I do love a good judging. Particularly from the open minded brigade.

In my lifetime I have discovered that self processed open minded people are frequently the most judgemental .

They often start a conversation with

" I'm as open minded as the next person but..." "

Ah, possibly a similar cohort to the "I'm not a racist, but..." brigade

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *kphooey43Man
2 weeks ago

Barnet


"That for a site that's meant be so sexually open, how stuffy and judgemental people can be while appearing on their own moral high horse"

I fell off mine. It probably wasn't that high. Maybe it was in fact just an ass.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *tormQueenWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

Given how much complaining there is about not getting meets or having sex

The amount of people on here who are actually having lots of sex 🤣🤣

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"That for a site that's meant be so sexually open, how stuffy and judgemental people can be while appearing on their own moral high horse"

Right?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *a LunaWoman
2 weeks ago

Wales

That pubic hair was so divisive. All my life my pubes have caused nae bother in my sexual campaigns. But on the forums here, if you have pubes you are a Pariah.

Strange. 🤷🏻‍♀️

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

Let's concede for one moment that there are fake profiles and timewasters...

What has genuinely surprised me about this place is the amount of impressionable people who are so easily •susceptible• to fake profiles and timewasters, to the point of their perpetual frustration and resentfulness that requires them to endlessly debate the matter...rather than just looking forward and moving on.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *issilia AmoriWoman
2 weeks ago

North Welsh Borders

How awful people can be at times, honestly it's like a bloody playground

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ant...stay...awayCouple
2 weeks ago

South Wales

That there are three types of fabbers...

Genuine swingers who are somewhere on the spectrum from curious to full swap - they are completely normal decent people looking for that something extra.

'Content creators' dominating the hot photos and videos.

And the third are simply pic collectors and arseholes looking to make themselves feel better by either having a quick tug or abuse people.

When you learn to out and filter the latter, fab is a great place 🫶

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *inkPomPomWoman
2 weeks ago

Isle of Man

How many old dudes would meet an 18 year old girl tbh, unsettles me

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ayBeeTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Winchester

That guys can do whatever they want with a penis and they're still straight.... if i do the same Im gay! 😁

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *uckMe12FreeMan
2 weeks ago

(User no longer on site)

The sheer number of women that want to meet me. It's quite unbelievable.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *WB85Man
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

How many people do it.

How many clubs there are.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Chichester

The amount of dickheads in swinging

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ayBeeTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Winchester


"How many "straight men " are also on f#bguys...🤔"

I had a guy here explaining to me that " im into ts but im not gay! I'm straight, you know..."

And 2 weeks later he messaged me on Grindr from a profile that said: looking for lads.... 😑

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *hunkymonkey81Man
2 weeks ago

Sheffield

Just how popular i am lol

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *essTTWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham


"How many people talk about snow even in the spring/ summer "

Lmao

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *hickthighs26Woman
2 weeks ago

your hotlist


"That guys can do whatever they want with a penis and they're still straight.... if i do the same Im gay! 😁"

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *essTTWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

The amount of people both men and couples (m and f half) who see single women as a commodity put on this planet simply to please them.

Obviously we see this from (some) men in real life but no where near the amount compared to on here.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *essTTWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham


"How many old dudes would meet an 18 year old girl tbh, unsettles me "

Works the other way as well though

Seen plenty of 50+ women who have verifies from 20 year olds

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *onko the SaneMan
2 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

That people like me dispite me being an arse

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *inkPomPomWoman
2 weeks ago

Isle of Man


"How many old dudes would meet an 18 year old girl tbh, unsettles me

Works the other way as well though

Seen plenty of 50+ women who have verifies from 20 year olds"

Yea fair point 💕

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *inkPomPomWoman
2 weeks ago

Isle of Man


"The amount of people both men and couples (m and f half) who see single women as a commodity put on this planet simply to please them.

Obviously we see this from (some) men in real life but no where near the amount compared to on here."

I said to someone the other day im not entertainment for you

They said sorry you feel that way 😂

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West


"The amount of dickheads in swinging "

Wankers. Literally 😂

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *WB85Man
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire


"The amount of people both men and couples (m and f half) who see single women as a commodity put on this planet simply to please them.

Obviously we see this from (some) men in real life but no where near the amount compared to on here.

I said to someone the other day im not entertainment for you

They said sorry you feel that way 😂"

I was described as a toy once. Picked up when wanted and dropped when something else comes along.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *lrightthenMan
2 weeks ago

Bradford

The amount of people who offer money for meets, the amount of people who can't accept "no" and the amount of people who have to talk about snow or 420

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *umagain58Man
2 weeks ago

London


"That there are three types of fabbers...

Genuine swingers who are somewhere on the spectrum from curious to full swap - they are completely normal decent people looking for that something extra.

'Content creators' dominating the hot photos and videos.

And the third are simply pic collectors and arseholes looking to make themselves feel better by either having a quick tug or abuse people.

When you learn to out and filter the latter, fab is a great place 🫶"

Good summary. As long time swinger who has seen a lot over the years am surprised how vile some on here can be. It’s getting harder to find the lovely nice people

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *nkbeardMan
2 weeks ago

Fraserburgh

I was surprised to find out how much married women and men cheat behind there partners back.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
2 weeks ago

Coventry

That swinging really isn't that much of a big deal.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *CExeCouple
2 weeks ago

Lincoln/Exeter

That sounding is not only a thing, but that men enjoy it 🤣

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *idnightcowboy69Man
2 weeks ago

cirencester

There are a suprising number of ladies who do enjoy sex.

And are prepared to take the lead

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *obilebottomMan
2 weeks ago

All over

Some very nice people from all walks of life and the reason I am still here. Make friends, meet people, learn stuff, get advise and support. It can all be good.

Some people who quite frankly need locking up.

Some people whose only pleasure is to contradict everyone else.

Some people are highly deluded.

Yes there are lots of schemers, fakes and the like but, having said all that, you have good tools to manage your account. No need to constantly moan about it when you have not even bothered to put any filters on.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *aven RedWoman
2 weeks ago

who knows, but it's not raining x

The amount of times I can kill a thread x

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *avexxMan
2 weeks ago

cheshire

all the new sex words ive never heard of.. thank you

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm astonished by the rampant use of AI on here in recent years, particularly to try to gain popularity. To me it's transparent and slimy, and I'm not sure why anyone falls for it.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *a LunaWoman
2 weeks ago

Wales


"all the new sex words ive never heard of.. thank you"

You’re welcome you rakishly magnetic smouldering Adonis!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
2 weeks ago

Leeds

How sex can completely take over some people's life.

Mrs

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *reysweatzzMan
2 weeks ago

Nearby


"For me, the amount of people! Including local people.

The amount of time wasters, given most of us are on here for the same thing

Even online, there are cliques 👀

"

This is the one right here!!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *reysweatzzMan
2 weeks ago

Nearby


"That for a site that's meant be so sexually open, how stuffy and judgemental people can be while appearing on their own moral high horse"

!!!!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *estructionDollyWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester

Positives:

- How popular swinging is

- How many clubs there are on here

Negatives:

- How judgemental swingers can be

- How right wing people on this site are

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *xydadbodMan
2 weeks ago

towcester

The thing that surprises me the most is how the two world of fab and normal life no matter how much you try to separate it, it slowly just intertwines with one another.. how most of my close friends are in the lifestyle and yet we do a lot of normal stuff too. But it allows me to be my true self without having to hide who I am or revealing too much if that makes sense

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *eyond PurityCouple
2 weeks ago

East Lincs

That some people seem to forget their moral compass whilst on here.

The amount of folk who would basically fuck anything and the whiny attitude of some who can’t even get to fuck anything 😱😬

K

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West


"Some very nice people from all walks of life and the reason I am still here. Make friends, meet people, learn stuff, get advise and support. It can all be good.

Some people who quite frankly need locking up.

Some people whose only pleasure is to contradict everyone else.

Some people are highly deluded.

Yes there are lots of schemers, fakes and the like but, having said all that, you have good tools to manage your account. No need to constantly moan about it when you have not even bothered to put any filters on. "

The Good, the Bad and the Strange

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *atnip make me purrWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

The intelligence of the people here

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *WB85Man
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

How insecure so many people are about the size of their dick.

Daily threads about it. Madness.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West


"How insecure so many people are about the size of their dick.

Daily threads about it. Madness. "

My cock is the size of an Elephants trunk. Honest

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *heElvingtonTwoCouple
2 weeks ago

elvington


"I can't remember if I was surprised or not because I'm kind of immune to a lot of stuff now but I know I raised an eyebrow at some of the attitudes, the naivete and the judgemental nature of some "

I was very surprised by the judgemental nature of people who are engaging in activities others would judge them into the middle of next week for.

You’d think people who might receive it would dish a little less of it out.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *oveToPlay1Couple
2 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Many things have surprised me - of which most have been mentioned above

One thing I have found especially surprising is the amount of men have 'straight' listed on their profile but are actually bi or bicurious

I know a lot of this comes from feeling they need to hide their sexuality which I do find particular sad given how supportive, open and liberated this community is supposed to be

Times have definitely changed over the years and male bisexuality is definitely more accepted which IA great to see but my oh my do we still have a long way to go

S xx

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *lueDressWoman
2 weeks ago

Bath Somerset

Nothing really surprises me. But I am alarmed, and sickened by some of the messages that I have had. It's actually put me off.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *heElvingtonTwoCouple
2 weeks ago

elvington


"Positives:

- How popular swinging is

- How many clubs there are on here

Negatives:

- How judgemental swingers can be

- How right wing people on this site are

"

Yup

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West


"Many things have surprised me - of which most have been mentioned above

One thing I have found especially surprising is the amount of men have 'straight' listed on their profile but are actually bi or bicurious

I know a lot of this comes from feeling they need to hide their sexuality which I do find particular sad given how supportive, open and liberated this community is supposed to be

Times have definitely changed over the years and male bisexuality is definitely more accepted which IA great to see but my oh my do we still have a long way to go

S xx

"

I think you've hit the nail on the head. They are clearly bi but based on maybe, embarrassment, social pressure or whatever reason they have. They feel the need to put down they're straight.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *hickthighs26Woman
2 weeks ago

your hotlist

How a high percentage of threads always end up either political or right/left back and forths

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West


"How a high percentage of threads always end up either political or right/left back and forths "

The political ones always get quite heated too

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *unkissedYorkieMan
2 weeks ago

BRADFORD/LEEDS

How many guys really are cucks and submissive. Even the guys that you would think would dominate every room they go into wearing cages and begging to watch a line of guys go through their wife/gf while they're made to clean up

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *uperSalopian7Man
2 weeks ago

Parts Unknown

How often butter is talked about 👀

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *utsackerMan
2 weeks ago

north east

How easy it would be to get the tiddler sucked as long didn’t mind a bloke doing it, also That nobody ever discusses or even mentions the legendary sexual chocolate mark henry

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *hickthighs26Woman
2 weeks ago

your hotlist


"How often butter is talked about 👀 "

🤣😘

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *dmundwilsonMan
2 weeks ago

Llandudno

Intolerance.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

Five⁵ years on and some people still don't know how to eat a Scone. These miscreants and nincompoops should be sent to a Swiss finishing school! 🫖

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *era123Man
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

There’s lots of sweet and innocent people on here, no one is mischievous at all 🤣

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *uperSalopian7Man
2 weeks ago

Parts Unknown


"How easy it would be to get the tiddler sucked as long didn’t mind a bloke doing it, also That nobody ever discusses or even mentions the legendary sexual chocolate mark henry "

I'm more that happy to talk about Mark Henry. I'm currently watching a Wrestlemania matches marathon on YouTube

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ervent_fervourMan
2 weeks ago

Halifax


"I can't remember if I was surprised or not because I'm kind of immune to a lot of stuff now but I know I raised an eyebrow at some of the attitudes, the naivete and the judgemental nature of some

I do love a good judging. Particularly from the open minded brigade."

The amount of lamppost pissing and naked, blatant attempts to brown nose just to get their end away/be noticed still astonishes and depresses me. - That people can be so obviously,self-consciously false while making out they're lovely.

And i naively thought there'd be lots of sex positive,easy going people with (hardly any)agenda chattering away in the forums.

Tragically, it wasn't too far from that when i first joined.

Also: the self righteous, pathetically small minded, picky put downs for no good reason.

Thank god for the few nice, interesting, non twatty eejits i do talk to.

People of a similar ilk, we need to reclaim the forums!send me a DM and I'll organise an advance party to storm the Bastille.

Let them eat (not very nice...) cake!

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *verageHoesCouple
2 weeks ago

Bessacarr

The social events and making friends.

Just how enamoured some men are with their own penis. I’d always assumed straight men were turned on by looking at women, but I’ve had to reassess.

“Isn’t my cock just amazing? Here, unknown lady, behold my cock. Doesn’t looking at it turn you on as much as it turns me on? Oh, how lovely and hot my cock is 😍”

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *iamondsmiles.Woman
2 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

People who complain about not getting meets when they have nothing or very little on their profile and cant understand that you have to put effort in and just by signing up doesn't guarantee you a shag

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *essTTWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham


"I can't remember if I was surprised or not because I'm kind of immune to a lot of stuff now but I know I raised an eyebrow at some of the attitudes, the naivete and the judgemental nature of some

I do love a good judging. Particularly from the open minded brigade.

The amount of lamppost pissing and naked, blatant attempts to brown nose just to get their end away/be noticed still astonishes and depresses me. - That people can be so obviously,self-consciously false while making out they're lovely.

And i naively thought there'd be lots of sex positive,easy going people with (hardly any)agenda chattering away in the forums.

Tragically, it wasn't too far from that when i first joined.

Also: the self righteous, pathetically small minded, picky put downs for no good reason.

Thank god for the few nice, interesting, non twatty eejits i do talk to.

People of a similar ilk, we need to reclaim the forums!send me a DM and I'll organise an advance party to storm the Bastille.

Let them eat (not very nice...) cake!"

Makes me giggle when I see it on the forums

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *elix SightedMan
2 weeks ago

Cloud 8


"People who complain about not getting meets when they have nothing or very little on their profile and cant understand that you have to put effort in and just by signing up doesn't guarantee you a shag"

Oh.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *unkissedYorkieMan
2 weeks ago

BRADFORD/LEEDS

[Removed by poster at 06/04/26 15:27:01]

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Hets/Beds/Leeds

The casual (often unpleasant) homophobia in the forums, which gets a laugh on the forums. Do they also laugh at racist or antisemitic comments? Or is it just gay people who are a fair target?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *olvesxcoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Round the bend

That some people are fairly normal

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *unkissedYorkieMan
2 weeks ago

BRADFORD/LEEDS

How many cheaters are on here

How picky I really am when it comes to meets

How many people are just here for the fantasy and not for the actual action

And how many couples on here are using this lifestyle to save their failing relationships

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *cottish guy 555Man
2 weeks ago

London

How many genuine friends I've made.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ecadentDeviantsCouple
2 weeks ago

North West

People’s intolerance towards unoriginality.

As in profiles who say ‘yes I’m ok, my day is going fine’ to preempt such incoming messaging.

If the message is pleasant, and perhaps more importantly backed up with an appealing pic, what’s the problem is asking a good natured question even if it is unoriginal.

They haven’t just taken a dump in your handbag have they?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *antana79Woman
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh


"The entitlement "

Yes this!!! The demands to move to tele gram and the likes. The friends request without actually saying hello! The demands to call or can to listen to them wank. The forcing of their fantasies on you without caring if it an interest of yours.

A positive is the lovely and varied chats I have with people sadly all seem to be too far away! X

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *obilebottomMan
2 weeks ago

All over


"The casual (often unpleasant) homophobia in the forums, which gets a laugh on the forums. Do they also laugh at racist or antisemitic comments? Or is it just gay people who are a fair target? "

I am sure some do all of these. Bigotry through and through.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"People’s intolerance towards unoriginality.

As in profiles who say ‘yes I’m ok, my day is going fine’ to preempt such incoming messaging.

If the message is pleasant, and perhaps more importantly backed up with an appealing pic, what’s the problem is asking a good natured question even if it is unoriginal.

They haven’t just taken a dump in your handbag have they?"

The problem I find with it is, it's indistinguishable from spam.

I used to work for a major institution and the number of times I'd get messages saying "I'm really interested in Competitor Across Town Corp".

As an employee, I get it. My place and Competitor Corp are both great.

As a person in my personal capacity, unoriginal messages can read like "Dear Person who has a vagina and a pulse within a fifty mile radius, you'll do".

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *essTTWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham


"The casual (often unpleasant) homophobia in the forums, which gets a laugh on the forums. Do they also laugh at racist or antisemitic comments? Or is it just gay people who are a fair target? "

Lots of racist comments get brushed under the carpet as well although I will agree that there seems to be ALOT of homophobic/biphobic comments that seem to be made in comparison to other groups.

People are bigots unfortunately, it only makes sense that this kind of attitude would move from the real world into the swinging world

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *dmundwilsonMan
2 weeks ago

Llandudno

For ‘libertines’ many seem very prescriptive and intolerant.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
2 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

Honestly? Nothing... People are dicks.. same as in real life ..

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West


"Honestly? Nothing... People are dicks.. same as in real life .. "

Dicks attached to an even bigger dick

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *avrick180Man
2 weeks ago

Pontypool

How rude some people are as we all here for the same thing

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *eralDeviantWoman
2 weeks ago

Hull

The depth some conversations go to, how you can end up feeling like you truely understand where this human is coming from. Even if your wildly different in sexual needs and wants. Sometimes how similar you are but distance would mean mutual needs wouldn't be met, yet still being 'good friends'. Chilled playful strangers 😂

As well as the shallowness and reatativness of other convos and how they are usually the ones the other party think will result in a midnight liaison

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"How rude some people are as we all here for the same thing "

I'm always surprised by the cliché "we're all here for the same thing". Because it's self-evidently untrue.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *avrick180Man
2 weeks ago

Pontypool


"How rude some people are as we all here for the same thing

I'm always surprised by the cliché "we're all here for the same thing". Because it's self-evidently untrue."

its doesn't matter how nice you are tho as to many are just rude back even though a lot are just looking for chats and a laugh

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ilkyHotChocolateCouple
2 weeks ago

Basingstoke

How surprisingly difficult it is to arrange a meeting with a single guy who will actually turn up! xx

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *layfullsamMan
2 weeks ago

Solihull

Just the difficulty in arranging a meet, love the forums though

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *avrick180Man
2 weeks ago

Pontypool


"How surprisingly difficult it is to arrange a meeting with a single guy who will actually turn up! xx"
its the same foe us blokes aswell sort a meet out then thay dont turn up or block you

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"How rude some people are as we all here for the same thing

I'm always surprised by the cliché "we're all here for the same thing". Because it's self-evidently untrue. its doesn't matter how nice you are tho as to many are just rude back even though a lot are just looking for chats and a laugh "

Yes, some people will always be rude. That's life. "The only person you can change is yourself", and all of that.

However, we are not all here for the same thing.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *og and MuseCouple
2 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

How many swingers are chavs (and chavettes). Naively thought they would all be middle class. Not complaining, love the scraped back hair and hoop earrings

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *avrick180Man
2 weeks ago

Pontypool


"How rude some people are as we all here for the same thing

I'm always surprised by the cliché "we're all here for the same thing". Because it's self-evidently untrue. its doesn't matter how nice you are tho as to many are just rude back even though a lot are just looking for chats and a laugh

Yes, some people will always be rude. That's life. "The only person you can change is yourself", and all of that.

However, we are not all here for the same thing. "

can't change anything when all im looking for is chats and if a meet comes along then its happy days

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ilkyHotChocolateCouple
2 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Surprised us how many time wasting, non swingers lurk on this site without means of outing them

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
2 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"Honestly? Nothing... People are dicks.. same as in real life ..

Dicks attached to an even bigger dick "

Sometimes yes... Although occasionally there's a dick I'd like to meet

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West


"The depth some conversations go to, how you can end up feeling like you truely understand where this human is coming from. Even if your wildly different in sexual needs and wants. Sometimes how similar you are but distance would mean mutual needs wouldn't be met, yet still being 'good friends'. Chilled playful strangers 😂

As well as the shallowness and reatativness of other convos and how they are usually the ones the other party think will result in a midnight liaison "

This is it. Had lovely conversations and realised, they live 200 plus miles away. So the chance of meeting is slim. It is crap

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *carlettsWoman
2 weeks ago

Harpenden

The amount of rude people, expecting meets after just a hi

Friend requests- never chatted

Bareback riders given the stats on Sti's - increasing

Some strange kinks each to their own and all that but some just out there

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
2 weeks ago

Leeds

How pathetic and feeble the majority of the male species are.

The mr

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *rasshopper201Man
2 weeks ago

kendal

Just how many fake false people there are hiding behind their screens and key boards and the amount of bad manners aswell

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *.twigg1086SCMan
2 weeks ago

Dunstable

That is actually harder than you think being on here...Its a strange world😌🤭

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
2 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"The depth some conversations go to, how you can end up feeling like you truely understand where this human is coming from. Even if your wildly different in sexual needs and wants. Sometimes how similar you are but distance would mean mutual needs wouldn't be met, yet still being 'good friends'. Chilled playful strangers 😂

As well as the shallowness and reatativness of other convos and how they are usually the ones the other party think will result in a midnight liaison

This is it. Had lovely conversations and realised, they live 200 plus miles away. So the chance of meeting is slim. It is crap"

Could always meet halfway

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West


"The amount of rude people, expecting meets after just a hi

Friend requests- never chatted

Bareback riders given the stats on Sti's - increasing

Some strange kinks each to their own and all that but some just out there"

There's someone on my local tabs thing. She goes dogging often and does it bareback. Meeting randomers. And posting the meets via videos and pictures. Just so damn risky.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *legantEnigmaWoman
2 weeks ago

South of the Watford Gap

The number or people who assume everyone is here for the same reason (and fail to define what they believe that reason to be).

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *k62023Man
2 weeks ago

Hertford

The amount of guys who are married and say straight on their profile, but send me dick pics and want to suck mine lol

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *oyoteUglyWoman
2 weeks ago

Somewhere dark and gloomy

The fact that certains guys have actually wanted to meet me.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *lack King DomMan
2 weeks ago

London


"I think what has surprised me the most is the amount of clubs that are currently operating in the country. Before I joined, I knew there were swingers clubs. I just didn't expect the number of them over the country.

Oh and the amount of people on this site was a big surprise too."

Ppl are here for the thrill of the meet and not the actual encounter

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *.twigg1086SCMan
2 weeks ago

Dunstable


"The fact that certains guys have actually wanted to meet me. "

😅 whys that a surprise!?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair


"The fact that certains guys have actually wanted to meet me.

·

😅 whys that a surprise!?"

Perhaps because she's hideous, repulsive, has hairy toes or she uses sarcasm to vanquish the sycophants. Who knows?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *rightonsteveMan
2 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Some people on here don’t seem to enjoy the experience which is a situation I’ve found interesting.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *.twigg1086SCMan
2 weeks ago

Dunstable


"Perhaps because she's hideous, repulsive, has hairy toes or she uses sarcasm to vanquish the sycophants. Who knows? "

Is that all🤔😅

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *hesblokeMan
2 weeks ago

Derbyshire village

The number of Warhammer players

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *oyoteUglyWoman
2 weeks ago

Somewhere dark and gloomy


"The fact that certains guys have actually wanted to meet me.

😅 whys that a surprise!?"

Honestly, because if I passed them in the street they'd most likely ignore me.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *aitonelMan
2 weeks ago

Liverpool


"The fact that certains guys have actually wanted to meet me.

😅 whys that a surprise!?

Honestly, because if I passed them in the street they'd most likely ignore me. "

It's the boobs and the growler doing all the work

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *mantofuckMan
2 weeks ago

durham

How easy it is for some guys to get laid, whilst for others its nigh on impossible

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *hilly1515Man
2 weeks ago

I would not say its easier for some over and above others to get laid..

and a two way thing for a bloke or woman..

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *rettyboylloydMan
2 weeks ago

Manchester

The large amount of people with the "How DARE you do Fab differently to how I/we want you to do here!" attitude.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West

The odd requests you get has surprised me too. You get used to it, but sometimes difficult to do so. For example this week a couple wanted me to lead them my dogs collar and lead for their humiliation fetish. And another said he wants to sniff my socks whilst I fucked his Mrs.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ew2buryMan
2 weeks ago

Newbury

The love of chest hair. 🐻

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *artinMG4Man
2 weeks ago

Leeds

How inches can grow magically all by themselves yet the years, almost as magically too, can simply vanish...

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *otwife_couple_hullCouple
2 weeks ago

Hull

How little effort people make in communication

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *hams123Man
2 weeks ago

London

The hierarchy of desirability.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West


"The hierarchy of desirability."

Care to expand on that? That is an interesting thought.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *obilebottomMan
2 weeks ago

All over

How polymorphous the clique is

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *readPitt1960Man
2 weeks ago

Hungladder

Profiles with age range 18-99 and yet won’t entertain older than 40 !!!

AND

Time wasters who say they will meet but have no intention of ever meeting

AND

Rude people

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *weetiepie99Woman
2 weeks ago

cardiff

How a lot of 'hot' wives are not that hot.

The abundance of sycophants.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *hams123Man
2 weeks ago

London


"The hierarchy of desirability.

Care to expand on that? That is an interesting thought."

No, thank you. It would cause absolute mayhem and arguments. I'm not interested in that. It's more like an open secret. Everyone knows and no one talks about it.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *.twigg1086SCMan
2 weeks ago

Dunstable


"Honestly, because if I passed them in the street they'd most likely ignore me. "

Really!😲 not even a look!? Be a surprise,cos your snaps say you look a bit of a stunner😏their lose🤭

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *essTTWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham


"Profiles with age range 18-99 and yet won’t entertain older than 40 !!!

AND

Time wasters who say they will meet but have no intention of ever meeting

AND

Rude people "

How do you know they won't entertain older than 40?

"Will meet" doesn't mean will meet everyone who messages to ask...

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *artorialMan
2 weeks ago

weymouth

How sexually flexible I am, if I'm attracted enough to want to snog then I'm attracted enough to fuck

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West


"The hierarchy of desirability.

Care to expand on that? That is an interesting thought.

No, thank you. It would cause absolute mayhem and arguments. I'm not interested in that. It's more like an open secret. Everyone knows and no one talks about it."

That is okay. I get what you mean. And sadly it is there.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *essTTWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

One thing that has surprised me this week is men who meet known bareback girls (as is their right to do so) and then don't understand why other women would be apprehensive to meet them afterwards.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Profiles with age range 18-99 and yet won’t entertain older than 40 !!!

AND

Time wasters who say they will meet but have no intention of ever meeting

AND

Rude people

How do you know they won't entertain older than 40?

"Will meet" doesn't mean will meet everyone who messages to ask..."

Yeah.

I'm surprised by the number of people who confuse "won't meet me" with "won't meet anyone" or "won't meet anyone of my demographic".

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *igan_bi_sviewMan
2 weeks ago

WIGAN

Number of people on here that are really close

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *ampireLoveMan
2 weeks ago

Essex

My biggest surprise was how cool the forums are. Some genuinely great people on here (I know there are a lot on this site that may not make it as enjoyable for others) but I find the people I interact with on here so brilliant. It’s not just about swinging, it’s about meeting great people

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *essTTWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham


"Profiles with age range 18-99 and yet won’t entertain older than 40 !!!

AND

Time wasters who say they will meet but have no intention of ever meeting

AND

Rude people

How do you know they won't entertain older than 40?

"Will meet" doesn't mean will meet everyone who messages to ask...

Yeah.

I'm surprised by the number of people who confuse "won't meet me" with "won't meet anyone" or "won't meet anyone of my demographic"."

And then automatically get labeled time wasters

If I want to meet on Monday night but can't find anyone who tickles my fancy then I'll stay home. I'm not going to meet the first person who asks just because they are also free on Monday like??

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Profiles with age range 18-99 and yet won’t entertain older than 40 !!!

AND

Time wasters who say they will meet but have no intention of ever meeting

AND

Rude people

How do you know they won't entertain older than 40?

"Will meet" doesn't mean will meet everyone who messages to ask...

Yeah.

I'm surprised by the number of people who confuse "won't meet me" with "won't meet anyone" or "won't meet anyone of my demographic".

And then automatically get labeled time wasters

If I want to meet on Monday night but can't find anyone who tickles my fancy then I'll stay home. I'm not going to meet the first person who asks just because they are also free on Monday like??"

Yeah.

For me, time wasting is "sure, I'll meet you at 8pm on Friday at 123 example street" and then not showing up. Or maybe weeks or months of chatting one to one then ghosting (that's more borderline).

Saying no is just... not being in a class of person that rhymes with bravery.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *amantha_JadeWoman
2 weeks ago

Liverpool

How many virtually identical penis pictures some men will add to their profile, as if the latest one could be the one to seal the deal.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *oeBeansMan
2 weeks ago

Derby


"How many virtually identical penis pictures some men will add to their profile, as if the latest one could be the one to seal the deal. "

*Deletes new photo...*

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *amantha_JadeWoman
2 weeks ago

Liverpool


"How many virtually identical penis pictures some men will add to their profile, as if the latest one could be the one to seal the deal.

*Deletes new photo...*"

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *hilly1515Man
2 weeks ago

it was the seal the deal bit that made me chuckle .

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *hlongasaurus_rexMan
2 weeks ago

Skelmersdale

That being tall is still not on a preference for women. Or am I just too tall ?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair


"That being tall is still not on a preference for women. Or am I just too tall ?"

Quite possibly it is a preference but alongside other qualities or traits on offer, and not solely on height.

Are women shallow enough to bonk just based on height and nothing else? I don't know...

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *oyoteUglyWoman
2 weeks ago

Somewhere dark and gloomy


"That being tall is still not on a preference for women. Or am I just too tall ?

Quite possibly it is a preference but alongside other qualities or traits on offer, and not solely on height.

Are women shallow enough to bonk just based on height and nothing else? I don't know..."

Yeah

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"That being tall is still not on a preference for women. Or am I just too tall ?"

It's a widely held preference (not by me: my preference is "not shorter than me").

Thing is, no one attribute is enough by itself. It's the whole package.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *exxyyDy11 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

North West


"How many virtually identical penis pictures some men will add to their profile, as if the latest one could be the one to seal the deal. "

360 pictures covering each degree angle you know just in case

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair


"That being tall is still not on a preference for women. Or am I just too tall ?

Quite possibly it is a preference but alongside other qualities or traits on offer, and not solely on height.

Are women shallow enough to bonk just based on height and nothing else? I don't know...

·

Yeah"

I said "shallow" and not bat-shit crazy.

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *hilly1515Man
2 weeks ago


"How many virtually identical penis pictures some men will add to their profile, as if the latest one could be the one to seal the deal.

360 pictures covering each degree angle you know just in case "

I would say it's covered in mils all 6400 of them

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 

By *illDoXXXMan
2 weeks ago

Preston

How rude some guys are to the girls , why?

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
 
 

By *ice guy finishes lastMan
2 weeks ago

scunthorpe

The nastiness of people

 (closed, thread got too big)

Reply privately
back to top