FabSwingers.com forum: Is daily texting for relationship necessary?

By *hagTonight OP Man
5 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

I saw this quote and the majority of the replies there said yes that you should text your partner daily, some said you didnt need to do it.

I dont necessarily agree with that, whilst of course it is good to keep in touch. I dont think you need to do it daily if you live together, however if you dont live together I can understand it more if you want to keep in touch on daily basis, otherwise I dont see why you need to do it. I say quality over frequency.

What is your view of it and the importance of it, is it important to text your partner daily and if you are a couple, do you text eachother daily?

I am single, but if I had a partner I would only do it if it was necessary to do it, as I said above, quality over frequency

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By *ornucopiaMan
5 weeks ago

Bexley

Daily?

I thought most smartphone users communicate constantly!

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
5 weeks ago

Round the bend

It's rare that we text these days, but we usually chat on the phone at least once during the day. I do like a text though..probably because we rarely do it. It's not necessary though.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
5 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It is for me yeah, i prefer texting to phone calls too.

When I've been meeting ladies from here, I've also liked frequent messaging.

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By *utoftheBluexWoman
5 weeks ago

Bot Farm

Daily? I can't afford it

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By *lik and PaulCouple
5 weeks ago

cahoots

No... welcome some space into your life. There's no need to be constantly online or in touch with other people.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
5 weeks ago

Leeds

No, we only text each other if something needs saying before we see each other, day to day stuff I.e “ grab some milk on your way home”

Although I do text her to confirm I’ve arrived at my destination in one piece and I’m not dying somewhere in a ball of flaming 2 tons of metal.

The mr

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By *uaveNightsMan
5 weeks ago

Canvey Island

I often wonder what people talk about after they’ve been messaging all day.

I’d prefer to leave some space so as to have something to talk about in person.

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
5 weeks ago

North Wessex Downs and London

Millions of years of evolution for a text every day ..... what the hell happened?

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By *ellinever70Woman
5 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I don't enjoy drawn out text 'conversation'

An actual phone chat would be my preference if we didn't live together

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By *icecouple561Couple
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5 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think it depends on your relationship.

For some it might be necessary and for others not

When he used to travel for work Mr N would call me every evening. Nowadays if one of us goes out or away for a bit we will message each other.

I always want to share things with him so he's used to getting photos of a slice of cake or ancient monument

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By *im n her XXXCouple
5 weeks ago

long eaton

We do as we don’t live together it’s nice to have a good morning are you ok then sometimes through the day if we find something funny or we get an idiot on fab then a good night plus R works away for his job sometimes so we don’t see each other all week till the weekend

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
5 weeks ago

Reading

For the person that was my semi regular person? Yeah I needed daily communication.

Everyone else I've had casual dalliances with? No I don't need it

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
5 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

Who cares ? Who's business is it ?

Some people talk to each other all day and some barely pass a word.

Some have deep and meaningful conversations and some talk in catchphrases and puns.

Some need to speak to their partner every day and some love the space between them if one is away for a week or more.

Why does it become a problem because it's a phone call or text ?

For me , texts are for short messages , like .... bring cake or looking forward to seeing you or we are all going to such and such at such o clock ...

But if it was the only way I could check in with someone and vice versa then yes .... it should be as often as they need it or as often as I need it....

No one's communication needs policing.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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5 weeks ago

Central

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By *onin25Man
5 weeks ago

Durham

I think it depends on what the relationship is. If I was in a proper serious relationship then some sort of daily contact is important. If it's a casual thing, then it's not to me.

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By *vaRoseWoman
5 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Communication is necessary in any relationship, including platonic.

How those people choose to do it, and how frequently is down to them.

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By *partharmonyCouple
5 weeks ago

Tonbridge

We don't message every day. Hannah works abroad a lot and we'll say hello most days but not always.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
5 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"Daily?

I thought most smartphone users communicate constantly!"
Yes, some do it constantly too

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By *hagTonight OP Man
5 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"It's rare that we text these days, but we usually chat on the phone at least once during the day. I do like a text though..probably because we rarely do it. It's not necessary though. "
Hi _olvesxcouple, that is good it is rare these days and how you chat on the phone at least once during the day too

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
5 weeks ago

Niche

I'm someone who loves to pebble my person so I will send all sorts of things through the day on no particular schedule or rhythm. Just casually intertwining our lives with jokes or pics or flirts and all the fun things.

It's not a chore or an obligation. Just a lil nod.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
5 weeks ago

Manchester

As others have said, depends on the relationship and the person. I have friends/FWBs who I talk to almost daily because that's what feels right for us, and other friends that I love dearly who I might chat to once a month but that also feels right.

I don't think you need to live in eachothers pockets in a romantic relationship, but if it feels right for the two of you to talk daily or to talk every other day/couple of times a week, it's between the two of you and what feels natural.

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By *viatrixWoman
5 weeks ago

Gatwick

My husband and I probably exchange whatsapp messages at least once a day- especially when I am away with work. If I am home, only one floor in the house divides us haha so not much point! 🤣🤣🤣

When we used to have a LTR 25 years ago texting wasn’t really a thing but we used to meet up on webcam for an hour or so to catch up every morning (1am for me, 7am for him 😴)

With my gorgeous partner now, sometimes we exchange several messages in a day, sometimes it can be a week before getting in touch, depending on how things in life go. It’s fine. Last night I got in really tired and I really wanted to write a nice message about my day with photos etc- but didn’t have the energy. So I prefer to be really present and construct a nice message too and he does the same. It is more valuable to us than just short WUU2 messages throughout the day 🤷‍♀️

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
5 weeks ago

South Wales

My husband and I have been together 33 years and married for 25 and we pretty much text each other all day every day……I think some people find it a little strange after all this time xx 😄

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By *tms1xCouple
5 weeks ago

Chelmsford

WhatsApp every day both chatting and sending sexy links

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
5 weeks ago

wonderland.

We even still call each other on journeys.. we message a lot whilst at work when possible... but for me only with the hubby. Friends I dont message daily or even every othee day.

I will check in and see how they are but chatting every day would seem a little excessive to someone else..

Cali x

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By *hams123Man
5 weeks ago

London

It depends on the relationship, proximity, how busy they are, location etc.

Sometimes it's important to maintain a constant connection, sometimes it's important to have space. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, although too much and you risk losing it altogether. Each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

It depends how far into a relationship you are, and how much your into each other, honeymoon period texting is always a thing in the early days, but does it continue ? depends on many factors, completely individual choices I guess.

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
5 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

We barely text unless it’s to remind each other about grocery’s or appointments, sometimes photos so they store on each others phones. The only time we really text is when he works away and texts to say got there safe and now leaving for home and gives me his location so I can make sure dinner is ready when he gets in

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By *hams123Man
5 weeks ago

London

Also, some people prefer hearing each other's voice or seeing each other. So phone call and video calls end up being more important.

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By *indaCharmingDubMan
5 weeks ago

South Dublin

"the majority of the replies there said yes that you should text your partner daily"

Isn't every relationship different for a reason, and that's absolutely part of the joy!

The important thing is you communicate openly and build trust, not count words or measure frequency.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
5 weeks ago

Niche

"Also, some people prefer hearing each other's voice or seeing each other. So phone call and video calls end up being more important."

Voicenotes are great for a long term or long distance person. I like to hear their voice. And love a rambling one all about their day if we're long distance. It cuts down the miles 🙂

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
5 weeks ago

belfast

Definitely not.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
5 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

When my late partner was alive we didnt live together. He would send me an email first thing do as not to wake up. Then a call mid afternoon, then video call when we went to bed

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
5 weeks ago

wonderland.

I dont think texting persay is important but communication in all forms is xx

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Motherwell

I Text my friends with benefits 2 or 3 times per week, been seeing each other for 12 and 9 years respectively, so no in my case. Mx 👿

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By *on_20Couple
5 weeks ago

Manchester and Cardiff

We are long distance and in contact regularly every day

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By *riel13Woman
5 weeks ago

Northampton

I would say it all depends on the people and their relationship...there is no wrong or right, just what works for you

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By *oongel2760Couple
5 weeks ago

Preston

Im obsessed with mr so would talk to him all day if I could ha.

We have a little check in through the day to make sure the school run has gone OK etc and just a little chat.

He's my best friend so I love a little catch up

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By *ontyboi76Man
5 weeks ago

Pontypridd

If you live together, it's optional but nice as you will spend together anyway at some point, but still feels good. If you don't, yes it builds thingsfor next time together, shows you are thinking of them. I personally write naughty stories for my other half, or teasing pic. 30yrs on it seems to have gone OK so far.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
5 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"No, we only text each other if something needs saying before we see each other, day to day stuff I.e “ grab some milk on your way home”

Although I do text her to confirm I’ve arrived at my destination in one piece and I’m not dying somewhere in a ball of flaming 2 tons of metal.

The mr "
Hi knightso, that is good you would only text each other if something needs saying before you see each other and how you also would text to confirm when you arrived at your destination too

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
5 weeks ago

Chester

I speak to TheHusband and TheBF every day

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By *hagTonight OP Man
5 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"I don't enjoy drawn out text 'conversation'

An actual phone chat would be my preference if we didn't live together "
Yes, a phone call would be better too

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By *hagTonight OP Man
5 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"It depends on the relationship, proximity, how busy they are, location etc.

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
5 weeks ago

Reading

Some of my favourite people get messages several times a day, some get the occasional voice note, some get calls and some get video calls. It is about what works for us and our lives at that point in time. My vanilla friendships are similar in that there is no one size fits all.

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By *inkPomPomWoman
5 weeks ago

Isle of Man

Each to their own i guess 💕

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
5 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Varies a lot by context. I don't live with my partners, and will often go few days without messaging. But that's just the way I am, and not a demonstration of lack of caring. If someone reaches out with something relevant I'll always engage, but I can just do without the daily filler and fluff. Some days are just days, there's no drove to talk about them 💜

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By *ypersoonMan
5 weeks ago

WHITCHURCH, Shropshire

Did that a lot with my ex on WhatsApp, I rarely am on that now since we broke up over 2.5 years ago which I find more healthier ☺️

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By *hagTonight OP Man
5 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"I think it depends on your relationship.

For some it might be necessary and for others not

When he used to travel for work Mr N would call me every evening. Nowadays if one of us goes out or away for a bit we will message each other.

I always want to share things with him so he's used to getting photos of a slice of cake or ancient monument

"
Hi nicecouple, yes, you are right there, it depends on your relationship, that is good how you always want to share things with him too

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By *aked beachMan
5 weeks ago

small cave, behind the big cave.

My ex wife, only when we needed to although we did speak every day during the week while at work.

Otherwise, different relationships, some quite a lot daily, others only a few time during the week.

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By *lrightthenMan
5 weeks ago

Bradford

No. When I receive a single message I get stressed out trying to think of a reply and thinking they're going to reply to my reply so I need to be ready to reply to their reply of my reply

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By *ad NannaWoman
5 weeks ago

East London

Text them for what reason?

I can't remember ever texting or calling my ex for anything other than an emergency, or something very important.

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By *utsackerMan
5 weeks ago

north east

No, it annoys me being expected to reply to texts all day especially if at work, me and the kids mam there would be months between texts maybe that not a good example to use as we not together haha but I still believe not being in each others pocket all time is best way to be

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By *eyond PurityCouple
5 weeks ago

East Lincs

"I'm someone who loves to pebble my person so I will send all sorts of things through the day on no particular schedule or rhythm. Just casually intertwining our lives with jokes or pics or flirts and all the fun things.

It's not a chore or an obligation. Just a lil nod."

This…

When we were dating and not living together we’d message each other a lot. Sometimes random pics, random messages, sexy pics, sexy messages…

Now we live together we still message each other - it’s a good way to show you’re thinking of them.

We also love chats with our play friends - we’re invested in people - they aren’t just there for sex only.

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By *laytime_13Woman
5 weeks ago

Lincs

I have definitely done frequent messaging in the past and look back and cringe

I'm single so it doesn't really apply now, but definitely would dial it back nowadays.

I think it's nice to do when you see something that reminds you of them or to share a bit of your day.

Same applies to be fair with those I see from here it's unlikely to be daily (and those that know me also know I'm terrible at replying generally... It's never personal

) but it's nice to just drop in, say hello, see how things are going from time to time

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By *ellowshipOfTheSwingCouple
5 weeks ago

Manchester

"I saw this quote and the majority of the replies there said yes that you should text your partner daily, some said you didnt need to do it.

What is your view of it and the importance of it, is it important to text your partner daily and if you are a couple, do you text eachother daily?

I am single, but if I had a partner I would only do it if it was necessary to do it, as I said above, quality over frequency

Necessary?

No, we text our partners and each other because we want to. Because we want to share our days, experiences and thoughts

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By *hagTonight OP Man
5 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"It is for me yeah, i prefer texting to phone calls too.

When I've been meeting ladies from here, I've also liked frequent messaging.

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Hi cherry, that is good it is for you and how you like frequent messaging too

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By *007ManMan
5 weeks ago

Worthing

Yea bombard them with emails, letters, texts...it's the only way.

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By *issmorganWoman
5 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

We text if I'm at work, on a ld or night. Otherwise, we live together and Jack works from home, so it's not really that necessary. Unless either of us have something to tell the other.

If we're out and about we text.

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By *ustAnotherMan
5 weeks ago

Tamworth

As soon as there's "expectation" like it's a ground rule...nope, seeya

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By *uddlefuckleMan
5 weeks ago

Boston

The expectation gets annoying when you just have nothing to say.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
5 weeks ago

Chester

In regards to messaging, if I have a nice thought about someone and not necessarily TheHusband or TheBF, I like to message them and let them know

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By *tormQueenWoman
5 weeks ago

Manchester

Assuming i dont live with said person then yes, daily contact of some kind is important to me

Texting is easy for both to fit around daily life so works well 🤷‍♀️

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By *hagTonight OP Man
5 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"In regards to messaging, if I have a nice thought about someone and not necessarily TheHusband or TheBF, I like to message them and let them know

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Hi pollyglamorous, that is good you like to message them and let them know too

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By *izandpaulCouple
5 weeks ago

merseyside

No, too busy.

If Paul is working overseas then we phone each other a few times a week.

If not, we hardly ever phone or text during the day, leave it all for when we see each other during the evening, much prefer being together chatting and laughing.

If I phone Paul during the day,it's so unusual, that he'd answer, "what's up?"

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By *rHotNottsMan
5 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If they are special to you, you want to text them daily, especially if you don't live together. If it's just a fuck body type thing then no of course not.

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
5 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Me and my partner don't, we did at the start but after a few years it faded I don't think it's that important really

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By *lueDressWoman
5 weeks ago

Bath Somerset

It's always nice if you can still keep the romance alive after 27 years. Texting, and the occasional WhatsApp photo from your partner is always very very welcome.

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By *eys00Man
5 weeks ago

have boots will travel

If you’re living together then probably not, but if you’re not then it strikes me as odd that you would go 24hrs without talking to your partner.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
5 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"It's always nice if you can still keep the romance alive after 27 years. Texting, and the occasional WhatsApp photo from your partner is always very very welcome."
Hi _luedress, yes, you are right there, it is always nice if you can still keep the romance alive after 27 years too

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By *omedeethMan
5 weeks ago

Coventry

Wanting to text your partner everyday reeks of insecurity and the need/want of a reply

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By *a LunaWoman
5 weeks ago

Wales

If you don’t live together then yeah, not all day but it’s nice to check in and know they are thinking about you - otherwise what’s the bloody point?

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By *eductiveSecretsWoman
5 weeks ago

Birmingham

No its not, people put too much value on texting. Speak on the phone or see each other in person, im not building a relationship based on online temporary satisfaction.

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By *peedyGMan
5 weeks ago

Telford

I don't think so no, i don't mind the odd text but not constantly all day or even everyday.

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By *etwife8230Couple
5 weeks ago

Newport

Not really ,if I text Mr its either to send him boobie pics or remind him to get milk

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
5 weeks ago

wonderland.

"Wanting to text your partner everyday reeks of insecurity and the need/want of a reply"
really.... I would think something was very wrong if my husband didnt message me every day... but definitely not insecure.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
4 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"Not really ,if I text Mr its either to send him boobie pics or remind him to get milk "
Hi wetwife, that is good it is not really that and how it is just for those things too

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By *eralDeviantWoman
4 weeks ago

Hull

"No its not, people put too much value on texting. Speak on the phone or see each other in person, im not building a relationship based on online temporary satisfaction."

Here, here.

Although I've recently experienced frequent contact through the day for a few weeks. It was my first experience of it, my last relationship was back when text cost 10p.

I really enjoyed elements of it; but tone and intent is so hard to read.

By 3 weeks I wanted to talk. Not one chance to say everything in text or voice note. I was loosing the sense of connection the inital contact formed and frustrated with the brevity of depth you can go to in a text.

As I'm single and intend to remain that way, I would have much preferred a call a few times a week and low pressure chilled flirty texts when the mood took us to keep building the connection and start considering a social.

Instead I kept being faced with the choice to engage with life or be sat holding my phone.

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By *hagTonight OP Man
4 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"If you don’t live together then yeah, not all day but it’s nice to check in and know they are thinking about you - otherwise what’s the bloody point?"
Hi luna, yes, you are right there, it is a nice to check in and know they are thinking about you too

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By *orcsmatMan
4 weeks ago

Kidderminster

Retired, with my wife nearly all day. No point.

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