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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun " Less hassle because you see them as easier to manipulate to get what you want? | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun " Pop that in your messages, you’ll be beating them off with a stick!  | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle because you see them as easier to manipulate to get what you want? " To be fair a lot of men say the same about older women too. | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle because you see them as easier to manipulate to get what you want? " Very much like Cougars. | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle because you see them as easier to manipulate to get what you want? To be fair a lot of men say the same about older women too. " I’ve not heard of that, I guess they could think that older women have lower standards but I think the older you get the less likely you are to tolerate bullshit | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun " I think you are self imposing those qualities to suit your agenda | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun " Nah. There's plenty of men out there looking for women with less experience in setting boundaries and recognising what they actually want. If anything, more of those than there are younger women 💜 | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun " 👈 How to Lose Friends & Alienate People 101 | |||
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"Few salty middle or older aged chicks on this thread for some reason haha" And yet we’re still younger than your fab age 💅 | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle because you see them as easier to manipulate to get what you want? To be fair a lot of men say the same about older women too. " True, so many of them are just suckers for my boyish charm  | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle because you see them as easier to manipulate to get what you want? To be fair a lot of men say the same about older women too. True, so many of them are just suckers for my boyish charm "That's the secret to your success Joe  | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun 👈 How to Lose Friends & Alienate People 101" Why ? 🤷 | |||
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"Few salty middle or older aged chicks on this thread for some reason haha" So salty. I want all the crusty old codgers for myself after all 💜 | |||
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"Why is it wrong for a man to want to meet younger women but ok for them to want to meet older or fir older women to want to meet younger men? " Nothing wrong with it…..but massively offensive to say the rest of what OP said | |||
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"Why is it wrong for a man to want to meet younger women but ok for them to want to meet older or fir older women to want to meet younger men? Nothing wrong with it…..but massively offensive to say the rest of what OP said " Im frequently stereotyped in a very similar way. Apparently I'm less hassle than younger women because I don't play games, I know what I want and I won't get clingy 🤷♀️ | |||
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"Why is it wrong for a man to want to meet younger women but ok for them to want to meet older or fir older women to want to meet younger men? Nothing wrong with it…..but massively offensive to say the rest of what OP said Im frequently stereotyped in a very similar way. Apparently I'm less hassle than younger women because I don't play games, I know what I want and I won't get clingy 🤷♀️ " It’s still wrong 🤷🏻♂️ | |||
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"Why is it wrong for a man to want to meet younger women but ok for them to want to meet older or fir older women to want to meet younger men? Nothing wrong with it…..but massively offensive to say the rest of what OP said Im frequently stereotyped in a very similar way. Apparently I'm less hassle than younger women because I don't play games, I know what I want and I won't get clingy 🤷♀️ It’s still wrong 🤷🏻♂️" Oh I know but people generally don't criticise on an op who says similar things about older women. I believe manipulation was mentioned, that's a bit of a stretch I think. Would I be accused of it if I met younger guys? | |||
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"Why is it wrong for a man to want to meet younger women but ok for them to want to meet older or fir older women to want to meet younger men? Nothing wrong with it…..but massively offensive to say the rest of what OP said Im frequently stereotyped in a very similar way. Apparently I'm less hassle than younger women because I don't play games, I know what I want and I won't get clingy 🤷♀️ " How do they know we wont get clingy, got to knit those jumpers for someone and make sure they are wearing a vest when it's chilly! | |||
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"Why is it wrong for a man to want to meet younger women but ok for them to want to meet older or fir older women to want to meet younger men? Nothing wrong with it…..but massively offensive to say the rest of what OP said Im frequently stereotyped in a very similar way. Apparently I'm less hassle than younger women because I don't play games, I know what I want and I won't get clingy 🤷♀️ How do they know we wont get clingy, got to knit those jumpers for someone and make sure they are wearing a vest when it's chilly! "  and make them a nice sandwich so they don't get hungry on the way home | |||
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"Why is it wrong for a man to want to meet younger women but ok for them to want to meet older or fir older women to want to meet younger men? Nothing wrong with it…..but massively offensive to say the rest of what OP said Im frequently stereotyped in a very similar way. Apparently I'm less hassle than younger women because I don't play games, I know what I want and I won't get clingy 🤷♀️ It’s still wrong 🤷🏻♂️ Oh I know but people generally don't criticise on an op who says similar things about older women. I believe manipulation was mentioned, that's a bit of a stretch I think. Would I be accused of it if I met younger guys? " I get where you're coming from here as there is always lots of threads from younger men wanting older women. OP should have left out the hassle and baggage bit and I don't think people would be bothered. Probably would have got further just saying he wanted a young fun lady | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle because you see them as easier to manipulate to get what you want? " Only three messages in before the OP gets turned on for having a preference. Good work forum! | |||
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"Why is it wrong for a man to want to meet younger women but ok for them to want to meet older or fir older women to want to meet younger men? Nothing wrong with it…..but massively offensive to say the rest of what OP said Im frequently stereotyped in a very similar way. Apparently I'm less hassle than younger women because I don't play games, I know what I want and I won't get clingy 🤷♀️ It’s still wrong 🤷🏻♂️ Oh I know but people generally don't criticise on an op who says similar things about older women. I believe manipulation was mentioned, that's a bit of a stretch I think. Would I be accused of it if I met younger guys? " I don’t agree that it’s manipulation for you or OP. Just don’t like the reasons and wouldn’t like it the same in your example either. | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle because you see them as easier to manipulate to get what you want? Only three messages in before the OP gets turned on for having a preference. Good work forum! " It’s nothing to do with the preference part…. | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle because you see them as easier to manipulate to get what you want? " The first red flag that popped in to my mind when I read it to | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle because you see them as easier to manipulate to get what you want? To be fair a lot of men say the same about older women too. I’ve not heard of that, I guess they could think that older women have lower standards but I think the older you get the less likely you are to tolerate bullshit " I don’t think it’s a lowering of standards, I would say there is more confidence, experience and knowledge of what they want and they are prepared to be more direct | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle because you see them as easier to manipulate to get what you want? Only three messages in before the OP gets turned on for having a preference. Good work forum! " m Oh dear. And after the OP worded those preferences so beautifully as well 💔 | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun " Hooked up with a Polish girl last year, 20 years my junior. Two weeks later she presented me with a baby scan. Had to explain it takes longer than two weeks! | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle because you see them as easier to manipulate to get what you want? Only three messages in before the OP gets turned on for having a preference. Good work forum! m Oh dear. And after the OP worded those preferences so beautifully as well 💔 " You were the one to introduce manipulation, which the OP never mentioned and which seems to have become the pearl-clutching topic for the terminally offended/white knights above. | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle because you see them as easier to manipulate to get what you want? Only three messages in before the OP gets turned on for having a preference. Good work forum! m Oh dear. And after the OP worded those preferences so beautifully as well 💔 You were the one to introduce manipulation, which the OP never mentioned and which seems to have become the pearl-clutching topic for the terminally offended/white knights above. " Yes, and? It’s an actual phenomenon if you research it, lots of men see younger women as an easy target to manipulate. Younger women don’t have fully formed boundaries like older women with more life experience have. You need to throw in the power imbalance of the dynamic too that makes it hard for a younger woman in this situation to stand up for herself, meaning she is more open to manipulation. Women constantly say things like I put up with stuff in my twenties that I wouldn’t put up with in my thirties. It’s because they have better boundaries and less tolerance. | |||
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"Okay. Because some of you seem hung up on the preference (which is fine in general) Vs the language used to express it. Less hassle is less likely to challenge me, less likely to question me, less likely to have strong boundaries, less likely to expect emotional maturity, and less likely to call out bad behavior. Younger partners often have less relationship experience, less financial independence and less confidence asserting needs. If someone specifically prefers that dynamic, it can signal they want control, not partnership. “Less baggage” often ignores reality. Everyone has baggage. It’s just another word for life experience, lessons learned, boundaries developed, standards raised. If someone implies women their age are too much work that can signal that they struggle with emotional maturity and prefer someone who hasn’t yet learned to demand more. That’s less about age and more about avoiding responsibility. Age gaps can be healthy. But when someone specifically seeks youth for ease, it points to wanting influence or control, wanting admiration without equal footing, and avoiding someone with equal life experience. Healthy age-gap relationships are built on respect, not convenience. The language itself is dehumanizing. Calling women hassle and baggage and suggesting they're too much reduces them to inconveniences rather than full human beings. That framing alone can reveal how someone views relationships. As something to optimize for comfort rather than mutual growth. It is not a red flag to be attracted to younger adults or date with an age gap It is a red flag when the reasoning centers on easier control, avoiding accountability, and dismissing women their own age as damaged or difficult 💜" Well said 👏🏻 | |||
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"Most men probably are on here. That’s the dream isn’t it? A younger woman?" God no 🤣🤣 | |||
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"Okay. Because some of you seem hung up on the preference (which is fine in general) Vs the language used to express it. Less hassle is less likely to challenge me, less likely to question me, less likely to have strong boundaries, less likely to expect emotional maturity, and less likely to call out bad behavior. Younger partners often have less relationship experience, less financial independence and less confidence asserting needs. If someone specifically prefers that dynamic, it can signal they want control, not partnership. “Less baggage” often ignores reality. Everyone has baggage. It’s just another word for life experience, lessons learned, boundaries developed, standards raised. If someone implies women their age are too much work that can signal that they struggle with emotional maturity and prefer someone who hasn’t yet learned to demand more. That’s less about age and more about avoiding responsibility. Age gaps can be healthy. But when someone specifically seeks youth for ease, it points to wanting influence or control, wanting admiration without equal footing, and avoiding someone with equal life experience. Healthy age-gap relationships are built on respect, not convenience. The language itself is dehumanizing. Calling women hassle and baggage and suggesting they're too much reduces them to inconveniences rather than full human beings. That framing alone can reveal how someone views relationships. As something to optimize for comfort rather than mutual growth. It is not a red flag to be attracted to younger adults or date with an age gap It is a red flag when the reasoning centers on easier control, avoiding accountability, and dismissing women their own age as damaged or difficult 💜" Very well put 👏 | |||
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"Few salty middle or older aged chicks on this thread for some reason haha" Maybe because they don’t want to be classed as “hassle” or having “baggage” and what ever else it was. You know what else older women won’t do is put up with crap they don’t need to or walked over, that’s not being salty | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun " Less hassle, less baggage? More fun? Really? Andrew Mount Baton might suggest otherwise. His Mum had to pay £12 million for one of his ‘meets’ He’s got shit veris as well Personally I find women plus or minus 5 years of my age perfectly naughty and fun. Older men specifically looking for younger women can quickly flip over to being seen as ‘fucking creepy’ very easily. There was an island for them and everything. | |||
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"Few salty middle or older aged chicks on this thread for some reason haha" Anyone is within their right to call out someone disrespecting other people | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun " In my experience it’s the more mature ladies that have less hassle and less baggage because they generally: Know what they want (as opposed to younger people generally thinking they know what they want, until they learn a valuable life lesson that teaches them to re think) And I’d say the more mature lady who has life experience and knows what she wants, generally knows how to handle their emotions and feelings so don’t drag you along for a crazy head fuck whilst they catch feelings or change their mind 10x a day Plus technology and our ways of life have changed a ridiculous amount over the past 20 years. So if you’re 48, and trying to hang out with a 21-30 year old it’s quite likely you’ll be bored out of your mind and thinking wtf is she on about and also have to learn a whole new language and culture when they don’t understand any of your references haha. I met a girl at a bar the other week, I’d have guessed she was around 25/26 . Took her out for some drinks a week later to find out she’s actually 21 and honestly the level of conversation was crazy to me. Even for me as only a 10 year age gap and me still being considered on the ‘younger side’ on here. We grew up on 5 channels, Bond movies and sneaking a rude magazine here and there. OP If you have little to no soul and don’t value the connection and conversation then by all means you might enjoy fucking a 21 year old from time to time haha but they’re definitely not hassle free generally haha In my experience I’ve had much less hassle and much richer conversation and connection, with more mature ladies. And generally it becomes less and less hassle and more interesting conversations, the more mature they get haha Obviously there are exceptions before anyone says ‘but I know a really mature grounded 25 year old’ But like pandas, they’re lovely to look at and they do exist, but the likeliness of you meeting one on your travels? Next to none. | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle, less baggage? More fun? Really? Andrew Mount Baton might suggest otherwise. His Mum had to pay £12 million for one of his ‘meets’ He’s got shit veris as well Personally I find women plus or minus 5 years of my age perfectly naughty and fun. Older men specifically looking for younger women can quickly flip over to being seen as ‘fucking creepy’ very easily. There was an island for them and everything." I hope it's possible for men and women to meet adults younger than themselves without being labelled as criminals. | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle, less baggage? More fun? Really? Andrew Mount Baton might suggest otherwise. His Mum had to pay £12 million for one of his ‘meets’ He’s got shit veris as well Personally I find women plus or minus 5 years of my age perfectly naughty and fun. Older men specifically looking for younger women can quickly flip over to being seen as ‘fucking creepy’ very easily. There was an island for them and everything. I hope it's possible for men and women to meet adults younger than themselves without being labelled as criminals." I agree, the last thing I would ever want is for someone to feel like they are doing something wrong for meeting me or another younger woman as I am very much an adult. A huge red flag for me however is when people say I look 'too young' and think I am lying about my age but are still interested (this has happened a few times). I would never ever meet anyone who has said that to me | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun " I’d had thought it was the other way around and one of similar age is more likely to have it together and know what’s what. Each to their own, that’s part of the fun. | |||
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"If I had a vagina it would be dry after reading that. Each to ones own on preferences but any man in his late 40‘s willing to meet an 18 year old is a strange fella to me. " I’m with you on this. I’m not saying they’re criminals but for me it felt weird being 31 meeting a 21 year old just because it made me realise how different we are and the worlds we’ve lived / been raised in. One of her opening lines was ‘what’s your favourite meme’ i was like ‘erm what?’ Haha I get there are exceptions to every rule though and it definitely doesn’t apply to all, but the majority in my opinion. If it’s just purely for fun and no conversation, I get it, but for me I have to have a bit of both. | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle because you see them as easier to manipulate to get what you want? Only three messages in before the OP gets turned on for having a preference. Good work forum! m Oh dear. And after the OP worded those preferences so beautifully as well 💔 You were the one to introduce manipulation, which the OP never mentioned and which seems to have become the pearl-clutching topic for the terminally offended/white knights above. Yes, and? It’s an actual phenomenon if you research it, lots of men see younger women as an easy target to manipulate. Younger women don’t have fully formed boundaries like older women with more life experience have. You need to throw in the power imbalance of the dynamic too that makes it hard for a younger woman in this situation to stand up for herself, meaning she is more open to manipulation. Women constantly say things like I put up with stuff in my twenties that I wouldn’t put up with in my thirties. It’s because they have better boundaries and less tolerance. " I'm curious. It's it an actual phenomenon or is it just something that appears in lots of social media posts? You put forward the argument that lots of women admit to putting up with stuff when they were younger that they wouldn't now but that is equally true of men - we all grow and gain wisdom. Frankly, I think it's nonsense. I've heard loads of men comment on women's figures, faces, boobs etc in reference to their age, I've never heard one say they're easier to control - and I'm not interested in the ravings of some internet incel. Their opinion has about as much to do with the average man's beliefs as Sarah Miller Gearharts feminist belief that men should only be allowed to make up 10% of the population has to the average woman's beliefs. Leaving aside the obvious outlier nut jobs, I don't believe there is any evidence to suggest the overall male preference for young women has anything to do with being able to manipulate them. I am of course prepared to change my mind if reasonable evidence is presented. P | |||
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"Am I the only one that's looking for a regular younger women,less hassle less baggage and more fun Less hassle because you see them as easier to manipulate to get what you want? " My experience has been that younger women are far more likely to approach me, in the real world. Usually it's the gym, where I tend to keep to myself because I am very wary of not wanting to be 'that guy'. Doesn't stop them speaking to me though, and some will flirt quite openly. I've decided to embrace it. Even women half my age are still late twenties to be fair.. | |||
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".,,Frankly, I think it's nonsense. I've heard loads of men comment on women's figures, faces, boobs etc in reference to their age, I've never heard one say they're easier to control - and I'm not interested in the ravings of some internet incel. Their opinion has about as much to do with the average man's beliefs as Sarah Miller Gearharts feminist belief that men should only be allowed to make up 10% of the population has to the average woman's beliefs. Leaving aside the obvious outlier nut jobs, I don't believe there is any evidence to suggest the overall male preference for young women has anything to do with being able to manipulate them. I am of course prepared to change my mind if reasonable evidence is presented. P" The words used were less hassle, less baggage. The specific words the person you were replying to was referring, and the ones which I broke down earlier on the thread. | |||
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