FabSwingers.com forum: How many unread messages have you got?

By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

Following a similar thread of how many profile views you have, I’m curious to know how many unread messages do you have?

I have a grand total of 0 unread messages 🤣😅

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By *ORBCouple
8 weeks ago

Dundalk

A big fat zero.

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"A big fat zero. "

It might just mean we are good with our fab admin 🤣

Or in my case, I don’t get many messages lol

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By *hortieWoman
8 weeks ago

Northampton

I'm on that shit like white on rice.

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By *nSTemptations11Couple
8 weeks ago

lincs

Currently - 5 🤦‍♀️ we reply then get busy !

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By *abulincsCouple
8 weeks ago

pe129 area

Non we reply to 99.9%

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By *neeyedpirateMan
8 weeks ago

ask!

0 also 0 little red numbers next to apps all must be answered

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By *igblue70Man
8 weeks ago

Bootle

0 for me, rarely get them so open straight away lol

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

I have a hypothesis. Single men will have very low and single females will have quite high…..let’s see how this plays out.

I am least surprised at some of the low numbers tbh

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By *ORBCouple
8 weeks ago

Dundalk

"A big fat zero.

It might just mean we are good with our fab admin 🤣

Or in my case, I don’t get many messages lol"

We rarely get messages.

We aren't meeting so we are fine with that

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"A big fat zero.

It might just mean we are good with our fab admin 🤣

Or in my case, I don’t get many messages lol

We rarely get messages.

We aren't meeting so we are fine with that"

That’s another interesting variable I have not thought about 😔

Is it a good thing you don’t get spammed with messages or nah 😬

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By *ORBCouple
8 weeks ago

Dundalk

"A big fat zero.

It might just mean we are good with our fab admin 🤣

Or in my case, I don’t get many messages lol

We rarely get messages.

We aren't meeting so we are fine with that

That’s another interesting variable I have not thought about 😔

Is it a good thing you don’t get spammed with messages or nah 😬"

Our profile is worded in such a way to put most people off even if we were meeting and when we aren't it's a complete waste of people's time sending messages.

The odd one that we do get is from those who aren't capable of reading the very first line.

Since we created this profile about 3 years ago or so we have had roughly 50 messages in total and half of those have been since we added that first line.

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"A big fat zero.

It might just mean we are good with our fab admin 🤣

Or in my case, I don’t get many messages lol

We rarely get messages.

We aren't meeting so we are fine with that

That’s another interesting variable I have not thought about 😔

Is it a good thing you don’t get spammed with messages or nah 😬

Our profile is worded in such a way to put most people off even if we were meeting and when we aren't it's a complete waste of people's time sending messages.

The odd one that we do get is from those who aren't capable of reading the very first line.

Since we created this profile about 3 years ago or so we have had roughly 50 messages in total and half of those have been since we added that first line. "

Just had a gander and it’s super clear. I guess you can kinda say it’s working then

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By *hinstrapMan
8 weeks ago

sheffield

None....I rarely get any messages or insults

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By *tormQueenWoman
8 weeks ago

Manchester

Absolutely none, i rarely get messages 😊

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By *yprusdreamWoman
8 weeks ago

Cyprus

776 🤦‍♀️

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By *avexxMan
8 weeks ago

cheshire

zero i dont expect any tbh

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By *dam1971Man
8 weeks ago

Bedford

"I have a hypothesis. Single men will have very low and single females will have quite high…..let’s see how this plays out."

I think that’s got a fair chance of being correct

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"Absolutely none, i rarely get messages 😊"

I’m guessing the filters are keeping singles guys at bay then lol

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"I have a hypothesis. Single men will have very low and single females will have quite high…..let’s see how this plays out.

I think that’s got a fair chance of being correct

I am already quite surprised tbh but there are variables I hadn’t considered….

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By *fffunCouple
8 weeks ago

Somewhere just outside London

0 did a bulk delete all to help keep in top if the new ones.. Ooppss

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"776 🤦‍♀️"

All the way from Cyprus too

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"0 did a bulk delete all to help keep in top if the new ones.. Ooppss"

That’s cheating 🤣

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"zero i dont expect any tbh

I am in the same boat haha

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"None....I rarely get any messages or insults

I guess the can insult you if the they message you. I like the optimistic thinking 🤣

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By *airybobMan
8 weeks ago

Telford

Another big fat zero here ,Not had one to read for a few months now ,Even “friends” haven’t replied

Woe is me lol

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By * L RipleyWoman
8 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

6 at the moment.

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By *hortieWoman
8 weeks ago

Northampton

"I have a hypothesis. Single men will have very low and single females will have quite high…..let’s see how this plays out.

I am least surprised at some of the low numbers tbh

I'm only speaking for myself here.. but I like a tidy inbox. I log in.. maybe have 1-10 messages.. I can see instantly all I need to know, and yeet them into the bin.

It really is that easy *for me*.

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By *AngelXWoman
8 weeks ago

North East

None now, just read them and deleted them, I like a tidy inbox.

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"Another big fat zero here ,Not had one to read for a few months now ,Even “friends” haven’t replied

Woe is me lol"

Who needs friends like that 😅😬

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By *onko the SaneMan
8 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

Never get sent any

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"6 at the moment."

That’s kinda low 😳

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"I have a hypothesis. Single men will have very low and single females will have quite high…..let’s see how this plays out.

I am least surprised at some of the low numbers tbh

I'm only speaking for myself here.. but I like a tidy inbox. I log in.. maybe have 1-10 messages.. I can see instantly all I need to know, and yeet them into the bin.

It really is that easy *for me*. "

Same I like a tidy inbox but mine is way easier to manage than some peoples for sure x

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By *tormQueenWoman
8 weeks ago

Manchester

"Absolutely none, i rarely get messages 😊

I’m guessing the filters are keeping singles guys at bay then lol"

Thats what they are for 🤣🤣

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"None now, just read them and deleted them, I like a tidy inbox."

You’re on top of your fan admin. Love it👩‍💼

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

Never get sent any "

Never? Not even some men? 😬

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"Absolutely none, i rarely get messages 😊

I’m guessing the filters are keeping singles guys at bay then lol

Thats what they are for 🤣🤣"

Indeed they are. I know them too well cos I’ve been on the other side 🤣🤣

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By *heExiledGeordieMan
8 weeks ago

leeds

0. An all time high.

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"0. An all time high. "

I guess things can only go up from here then at least eh 😅

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
8 weeks ago

Round the bend

8. I am pretty good at keeping on top of them

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"8. I am pretty good at keeping on top of them "

Do you both share the workload? 🧐

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
8 weeks ago

Round the bend

"8. I am pretty good at keeping on top of them

Do you both share the workload? 🧐"

No. Fabmin is my job 🙄

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By *erry 58Man
8 weeks ago

doncaster

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By *ancashireredheadWoman
8 weeks ago

Lancashire

590. I’m shit at replying.

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"8. I am pretty good at keeping on top of them

Do you both share the workload? 🧐

No. Fabmin is my job 🙄"

I guess someone has to do it right 🙏

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By *ambamxxxMan
8 weeks ago

Daventry

Still 3…… I’m sure two of those were me! :0

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"4 "

That’s 4 more than me 😂😭

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By *ambamxxxMan
8 weeks ago

Daventry

"590. I’m shit at replying. "

But you make up for it in sooooo many other ways!

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"590. I’m shit at replying. "

I think after like 10, it’s becomes a mammoth task. Will be be bull deleting lol 😬

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"Still 3…… I’m sure two of those were me! :0"

You messaged yourself 🤣

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By *ambamxxxMan
8 weeks ago

Daventry

"Absolutely none, i rarely get messages 😊"

Might have something to do with locking us single males out!

fair play though, I would as well…..

Still lovely photos x

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"Absolutely none, i rarely get messages 😊

Might have something to do with locking us single males out!

fair play though, I would as well…..

Still lovely photos x"

I’d probably block single men if I was her too lol 🤣

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By *aFemmeCoquetteWoman
8 weeks ago

Somewhere in the middle not the.....

Currently at 20, but that was after a ruthless cull from 178, I'm lazy at fabmin (and crap or too shy at replying) 😂

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"Currently at 20, but that was after a ruthless cull from 178, I'm lazy at fabmin (and crap or too shy at replying) 😂"

How long did the ruthless cull take 😳

And don’t be shy lol. Drop them a wink or something lol

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

21... but usually try keep it under 5

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"21... but usually try keep it under 5"

5 is a nice number I guess. Arbitrary but nice and manageable.

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By *lirtyFilthWoman
8 weeks ago

Barnstaple

427! 🙈

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"427! 🙈"

Oh wow 🤩

I can only dream of such numbers 🤣😅

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By * L RipleyWoman
8 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

"6 at the moment.

That’s kinda low 😳"

This is after deleting about 15-20 today from people who hadn't bothered reading my profile. In my personal experience here, quantity doesn't equate to quality.

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

"21... but usually try keep it under 5

5 is a nice number I guess. Arbitrary but nice and manageable. "

Yeah as soon as its around 20 my anxiety just cant handle it

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By *obilebottomMan
8 weeks ago

All over

None

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"6 at the moment.

That’s kinda low 😳

This is after deleting about 15-20 today from people who hadn't bothered reading my profile. In my personal experience here, quantity doesn't equate to quality."

You are right. I didn’t factor in low quality messages

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"21... but usually try keep it under 5

5 is a nice number I guess. Arbitrary but nice and manageable.

Yeah as soon as its around 20 my anxiety just cant handle it "

My anxiety has been left untouched on here 🤣

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"None

Join the gang 😅🤣

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By *infullyObedientWoman
8 weeks ago

Woodley

0 😁

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"0 😁"

I’m shocked 😳

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By *rchie300Man
8 weeks ago

Hamworthy

None ….i don’t get many ….and most are from people I really like and would never ignore them or keep them waiting for a reply

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"None ….i don’t get many ….and most are from people I really like and would never ignore them or keep them waiting for a reply "

You’re a sweetheart

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By *infullyObedientWoman
8 weeks ago

Woodley

"0 😁

I’m shocked 😳 "

Good filters and fabmin. I dont get an over run inbox.🤷‍♀️

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
8 weeks ago

Manchester

0. I stay on top of the inbox.

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"0 😁

I’m shocked 😳

Good filters and fabmin. I dont get an over run inbox.🤷‍♀️"

You’re better than most it seems

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

"0. I stay on top of the inbox."

Love it x

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
8 weeks ago

South Wales

408 xx 😘

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By *earditallWoman
8 weeks ago

Lancaster

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By *earditallWoman
8 weeks ago

Lancaster

578

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By *ustAnotherMan
8 weeks ago

Tamworth

Lol

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By *haringisCaring1208Couple
8 weeks ago

Lurgan

3. We try and reply to everyone who messages, even if it’s a polite thanks but no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

0 I'm anal about it, I'm the same at work I feel the need to have everything ready

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By *parkle1974Woman
8 weeks ago

Leeds

646....filters may needbto be applied.

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By *ucksqueezebangblowCouple
8 weeks ago

Westgate

117... We didn't know we was expected to filter through them?!?

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By *hat.coupleCouple
8 weeks ago

Kent

Zero! Sadly we don't get many and as im online a lot I tend to see them quickly x

Mrs x

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
8 weeks ago

Niche

I like a tidy box, so every so often I clear them down one way or another.

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By *ermaine456Man
8 weeks ago

London

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By *rumfellaukMan
8 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield, Birmingham

In a blue moon, I tap every message I get straight away. Whether I read it or not is another story. Personally, I don't like leaving it lit up like that, it bugs me for some reason 🤷🏻‍♂️

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By *lrightthenMan
8 weeks ago

Bradford

0. I hate having unread notifications. Also I don't get notifications, but if I did, I'd have to clear it asap

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By *ockdownlickdownMan
8 weeks ago

paisley

One

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By *hicknCut01Man
8 weeks ago

Wakefield

Ha ha ha ha if only I had a message

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By *istr3ssWoman
8 weeks ago

Stockton-on-Tees

Zero

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By *eo PublicMan
8 weeks ago

Lincoln

None, as a single guy I don't get that many so I read them all.

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By *uperstar76Woman
8 weeks ago

North Lanarkshire

Zero

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By *ockdownlickdownMan
8 weeks ago

paisley

"Zero"
damn I saw that as a challenge but your filters got me

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By *huddaWuddaCuddaMan
8 weeks ago

Leeds

God my inbox is emptier than a male strippers sack the day after a hen do.

I'd probably even reply to single males about the weather it's that dull

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By *hybuttercup9Woman
8 weeks ago

South West

32 unread currently, before a delete all this morning 118

I feel bad but I just can't reply to all so have to delete all. Like, if I block a group from messaging me, can I still send a message out and get a reply back?

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By *d mirerMan
8 weeks ago

lost

One which il jus about to read and reply to

Another from fab telling me that my thing is running out .

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By *ay9971 OP Man
8 weeks ago

Rochdale

My last message was from fab too 😭🤣

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By *ature male OldhamMan
8 weeks ago

Royton nr Oldham

Just the one but I know who it's from

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By *ockdownlickdownMan
8 weeks ago

paisley

"32 unread currently, before a delete all this morning 118

I feel bad but I just can't reply to all so have to delete all. Like, if I block a group from messaging me, can I still send a message out and get a reply back?"

I think so. I'm blocked from messaging you but I think you can message me

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By *eggieMarshmallowWoman
8 weeks ago

Cardiff

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By *eggieMarshmallowWoman
8 weeks ago

Cardiff

534 right now, I'm trying to respond to as many as I can

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By *mynclMan
8 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Zero only because I don’t get any lol

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
8 weeks ago

Home

None

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By *kibirdWoman
8 weeks ago

Gillingham ( Dorset, not Kent)

Nice old zero for me, filters are doing their job

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By *eroLondonMan
8 weeks ago

Mayfair

➋➒, which have accumulated in my 'absence'. I really should open some. I may even reply if I can be compelled.

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By *bby1110Woman
8 weeks ago

Gloucester

4 but I’ll deal with those before I go to sleep. I like my inbox tidy. Can’t cope with unread notifications on other apps either. Makes me twitchy

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By *w91Man
8 weeks ago

4 from fake profiles so had to change my privacy settings 🥱

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By *atinaChica54Woman
8 weeks ago

Marlborough

109 atm.....& I had a clearout yesterday!

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By *erdyGuy42Man
8 weeks ago

Ask

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By *ynamicnatureMan
8 weeks ago

Doncaster

Currently, a big fat 0

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By *asha86Couple
8 weeks ago

walsall

0 currently but we usually have between 5 and 10 a day. And usually 8 out of that are copy and pasted or rubbish

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
8 weeks ago

Round the bend

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By *hinstrapMan
8 weeks ago

sheffield

None...what a surprise

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By *eauNaturelMan
8 weeks ago

Mortonhampstead for a few days

4, I aim to read and reply to them some time this week; I love getting messages but I have to prioritise stuff and as Fab is a fun past time, sometimes, it has to come last.

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By *etwife8230Couple
8 weeks ago

Newport

113 ,which I'll try sort later

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By *allySlinkyWoman
8 weeks ago

Leeds

A nice, round 100

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By *oiluvfunMan
8 weeks ago

Penrith

Messages unread which I have sent? Plenty.

Messages sent to me, that I haven't read? Someone message me please......

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

0 unread. Soon as that yellow box lights up I get all giddy and open it, sometimes to my peril

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By *oldyoudown41Man
8 weeks ago

Winchester

What are messages?

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By *ustincider888Man
8 weeks ago

Chorley

4 sent, 4 unread

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By *ustus5555Woman
8 weeks ago

Nottingham

0. Had a clear out yesterday.

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