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By (user no longer on site) OP   
15 weeks ago

so I'm getting messages (are you available now?)

clearly horny as am I but I feel its wrong to shag around behind your wife or husbands back.

I've just gone through a messy divorce because I came out as bi-sexual and a cross dresser,something I have hidden for many years.

I certainly don't want to be the person that breaks another marriage through selfishness.

what's your take on this kind of thing peeps of fab?

I have morals and value myself more today than I did years ago.

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By *issmorganWoman
15 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I wouldn't meet anyone who is (knowingly, I always ask) but at least the ones who are upfront about it give others the choice about meeting them or not.

It's the ones who lie or hide it, that I don't like. It's v sneaky.

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By *elvetNeuronWoman
15 weeks ago

Risa, Beta Quadrant


"I wouldn't meet anyone who is (knowingly, I always ask) but at least the ones who are upfront about it give others the choice about meeting them or not.

It's the ones who lie or hide it, that I don't like. It's v sneaky. "

I'm the same, at least if it's on the bio then you can filter that way but sometimes my fab senses are off. I have started asking now anyway.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
15 weeks ago

East Sussex

I don't care what other people do as long as I'm not involved

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By *ew2buryMan
15 weeks ago

Forums.

Ah, not a thread about doggystyle...

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
15 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I don't want angry wives on my doorstep.

I also don't want to bone people who lie about things that directly affect informed consent 💜

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
15 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

No, I don't want to knowingly get involved in something like this.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
15 weeks ago

Chester

I like the married ones 😈

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By *iCurvCPLCouple
15 weeks ago

Newport

Good for you for having morals so many cheaters on here and there's no excuse for it. Get the same old " sexless marriage" comments. If you ain't able to talk to your partner about that then don't be with them.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
15 weeks ago

Chichester

I try avoid Cheats as much as possible but it’s impossible to avoid 100%. Clubs etc

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By *istalloverCouple
15 weeks ago

Pays de la Loire -Normandie -Brittany borderFrance

That's why we do what we do.

All or most of our friends and work acquaintances were playing away some ending up in divorce.

SO We made a conscious decision to do what we do ( not all of the time but when it feels right)

Those who play together Stay together

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By *nnandElleCouple
15 weeks ago

Brackley

Elle will have sex with married men, but makes it quite clear that she wont protect him if trouble comes knocking at our door.

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By *kphooey43Man
15 weeks ago

Barnet


"I like the married ones 😈 "

Shhh, so do I.

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By *ympho6969Woman
15 weeks ago

glasgow

Not my cup of tea. I always ask. And yes I am probably getting taken for a mug at times, but thats on them not me, Imo.

I have no interest in the drama. I want fun, regular sex, not annoyed partners and drama.

Now if the other half wants to join...

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By *ancman44Man
15 weeks ago

Manchester

Does married but seperated count?

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By *ancman44Man
15 weeks ago

Manchester

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
15 weeks ago


"Good for you for having morals so many cheaters on here and there's no excuse for it. Get the same old " sexless marriage" comments. If you ain't able to talk to your partner about that then don't be with them. "

exactly that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
15 weeks ago


"I try avoid Cheats as much as possible but it’s impossible to avoid 100%. Clubs etc "

wow you are hot!!

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
15 weeks ago

Chester


"Good for you for having morals so many cheaters on here and there's no excuse for it. Get the same old " sexless marriage" comments. If you ain't able to talk to your partner about that then don't be with them. "

I've got enough dealing with my own morals, being on here, doing what I like to do, all with hubby's consent. I can't take other peoples morals in to account too 🤷🏼

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
15 weeks ago

Coventry

You can't control other people's morality only your own. Morality is an individual decision. If you're not happy with it stick to your guns.

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

The taken guys are the best as they don't pester you 24/7.

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
15 weeks ago

North Welsh Borders


"I like the married ones 😈 "

Me too 🤫

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By *ora the explorerWoman
15 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Rare that I like someone or click with them enough to go further so if I like them I like them. Relationship status is irrelevant to me as long as they tell me. If they lie to me though I’m done.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
15 weeks ago

cardiff

I like the single non cheaters. There's plenty to go around. I wouldn't like it to be done to anyone I care about as the consequences can be devastating. The moral compass of those who cheat is pretty non existent.

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By *ellhungvweMan
15 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I prefer it when hubby is watching so that normally solves that problem.

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
15 weeks ago

Niche

Even if the physical is what first catches my attention, real attraction for someone (for me) is built on admiring and respecting their personality, their character, their choices.

I need to want to know you better to let you know me better.

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago


"Rare that I like someone or click with them enough to go further so if I like them I like them. Relationship status is irrelevant to me as long as they tell me. If they lie to me though I’m done. "

Exactly this.

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By *eliWoman
15 weeks ago

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It's not for me. I really like being poly and the whole ethical thing that's an important part of it.

I have done before. Doesn't work for me, won't be repeating.

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

I’m not interested in people cheating on their partners just my personal preference.

I always put myself in their partners position having their trust betrayed for the sake of sex.

I find a lot of people lie and state they’re single. Today for instance a guy messaged me who I’d chatted to briefly last year he told me he was married last year but today he totally denied it for which I called him out and blocked him.

I always think how would I feel being cheated on and it’s not a nice thing to do especially if a person professes to love their partner.

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By *issmorganWoman
15 weeks ago

Calderdale innit


"I’m not interested in people cheating on their partners just my personal preference.

I always put myself in their partners position having their trust betrayed for the sake of sex.

I find a lot of people lie and state they’re single. Today for instance a guy messaged me who I’d chatted to briefly last year he told me he was married last year but today he totally denied it for which I called him out and blocked him.

I always think how would I feel being cheated on and it’s not a nice thing to do especially if a person professes to love their partner."

That's the beauty of adding a private note to a profile, you can remember things.

I add them if they admit that to me, or for anyone in a thread who says they are attached, but have no mention of it in their profiles.

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By *onnie 90Woman
15 weeks ago

Leeds

Unfortunately this site is rife with cheating husbands/boyfriends. Easy to spot them though as they all have the same traits regarding messaging, times they can meet, suddenly vanishing etc.

Cheating is a vile thing to do.

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