FabSwingers.com forum: How to convince partner into lifestyle

By *entlemale69 OP Man
22 weeks ago

nuneaton

Just wondered how you guys (assume its mostly men) to convince your partner into the swinging lifestyle. How did you approach the subject, break the ice etc. Always facinated me.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
22 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Only get involved with people who are open to the concept before bothering to establish a relationship 💜

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

"Just wondered how you guys (assume its mostly men) to convince your partner into the swinging lifestyle. How did you approach the subject, break the ice etc. Always facinated me. "

Bring it up in bed, gradually build from there, explore different scenarios etc..

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
22 weeks ago

North Welsh Borders

You don't. You ask, she says yay or nay and you leave it.

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By *w funwifeWoman
22 weeks ago

near taunton

you cant convince all you can do is talk and hope they will either be interested or not ... since its your partner then you should know them better than most

and if they say no then leave it at that theres a reason the swccene is small as most just are not interested

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
22 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Only get involved with people who are open to the concept before bothering to establish a relationship 💜"

That's what I was lucky enough to happen. We met through a mutual Fab friend.

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By *orkshireGrizzlyMan
22 weeks ago

Wakefield

I think convince is the wrong word.

I was lucky in so much as I was able to help her feel safe and be herself and unlock some fantasies that she hadn't ever talked about before, but I encouraged her to be open and not be shy or ashamed. A lot of our conversations were me talking about my feelings and fantasies about things and having her acceptance of me has really helped me to open up as well as her.

I think if you need to convince someone then it's not the best foundation for this life because you are imposing a vision onto someone who may only be giving you answers they think you want to hear.

I could of course be wrong, but just my opinion.

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By *ouple4voyeurCouple
22 weeks ago

Birmingham

But you're single? Or is it FAB single?

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

I had a conversation with my wife about us meeting bi men for threesomes and we have gone from there.

If she had said no I would have left it and never mentioned it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

"But you're single? Or is it FAB single?"

Well spotted , expose fakery whenever you can .

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By *entlemale69 OP Man
22 weeks ago

nuneaton

Apologies, 'convince' is a strong word, i should have worded it better. And i'm just curious thats why i was asking. Nothing dodgy going on.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
22 weeks ago

Tamworth

All you can do is spark an interest and see you can make a mutual agreement to explore.

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

It should be something discussed beforehand really. Because it is a bit of a deal breaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

You cant convince her at all. Its got to be a joint agreement. We found out we both liked it when we visited a naturist beach in majorca. Liked the fact people was looking at us having sex. Maybee try naturist beaches next year

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
22 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Seems a risky move

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By *inkPomPomWoman
22 weeks ago

Isle of Man

so sad for your partner rn

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By *lue_OasisWoman
22 weeks ago

birmingham

"so sad for your partner rn "

Right! His bio says single, but he indiciates he has a partner, I'm guessing a partner who has no clue he's on here.

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By *oison6969Couple
18 weeks ago

south norwood

My husband set up a threesome with me him and another guy. After that I realised it was just about fun. Been doing it ever since. So he made the first move and I followed. So if that's what you want to do ask your other half if she wants to be double teamed by you and another guy. Then the door is open.

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By *asonsheff25Man
3 days ago

Rotherham

If the wife and I fantasise about another guy in bed when having sex. And it makes her horny

Does

That kinda mean she will

Play?

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By *UST FOR FUN 365Couple
3 days ago

Ah i see. we,re not too far :)

Half way there kid

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By *andadbodMan
3 days ago

Liverpool

My mrs mentioned it to me during a passionate night in bed, she mentioned how hot it would be to have another cock to play with as well as mine, so it went from there, that was over 20 years ago.

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By *uffinfaceMan
3 days ago

hengoed

I've asked my Mrs to swing with other guys but she keeps saying no

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By *rectus HumongusMan
3 days ago

Dark side of ths moon

"I've asked my Mrs to swing with other guys but she keeps saying no "

Maybe she om here as a single a bit like you

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By *ootyfruityCouple
3 days ago

andover

As a start I’d definitely remove yourself from the site if she doesn’t know, one of the biggest parts of swinging as a couple is trust, being open and being honest. If she doesn’t know you are on here, you are already going behind her back!

If on the other hand she does know, you are already on your way, however trying convince her of something she doesn’t want to do, can only end badly

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By *amsoonMan
3 days ago

Stornoway

Mine was well into it before we met

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By *teveanddebsCouple
3 days ago

Norwich

We met on a swinging website so it was a done deal

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