FabSwingers.com forum: Flashing your face

By (user no longer on site) OP
28 weeks ago

What do you think about someone showing their face on here? Foolish? Bold? Does it make you more or less likely to reply?

Vested interest aside, genuinely interested to hear people’s thoughts.

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By *orba69Man
28 weeks ago

driffield

My face pics r on my bio & will always use when messaging… from my point of view I’d like 2c whom I’m messaging!!

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By *ife NinjaMan
28 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Oh God no. Strictly friends. Don't want people getting frightened too easily 🤓🥷

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By *ellinever70Woman
28 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I don't think it's wise to have faces on show here

It wouldn't influence whether i reply to a message, but I'd be cautious about meeting them

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
28 weeks ago

Telford

My face is all over my profile, if it puts someone off then it puts someone off.

If someone is more cautious then that's fine of course but I would like to recieve a photo so I know who I'm talking to.

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By *ink vixenCouple
28 weeks ago

Medway

Suits some, doesn’t suit others.

We will swap face pics if we’re seriously arranging a meet and if they don’t want to then it won’t happen.

In our case.

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By *llGoodFun76Couple
28 weeks ago

Angus

We send privately xx

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By *he James gangCouple
28 weeks ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

Definitely not. At an organised social, I (Fr) was approached by a young lady who was very bubbly and chatty. She then proceeded to tell me she knew my kids and had been in my house. I know we're all on here for the same thing but to us it was a tad unnerving.

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By *inky PerkyCouple
28 weeks ago

Narnia

Diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks. The "because of my job" line always makes me chuckle though. Are you a cabinet minister or Jeff Bezos?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
28 weeks ago

"My face is all over my profile, if it puts someone off then it puts someone off.

If someone is more cautious then that's fine of course but I would like to recieve a photo so I know who I'm talking to. "

A face like yours deserves to be shared

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
28 weeks ago

Telford

"My face is all over my profile, if it puts someone off then it puts someone off.

If someone is more cautious then that's fine of course but I would like to recieve a photo so I know who I'm talking to.

A face like yours deserves to be shared

Haha very kind

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
28 weeks ago

Merseyside

We don’t had them on profile but happy to send with those we feel comfy with and seriously meeting

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By *aomilatteCouple
28 weeks ago

Midlands

"What do you think about someone showing their face on here? Foolish? Bold? Does it make you more or less likely to reply?

Vested interest aside, genuinely interested to hear people’s thoughts."

Each to their own, though so many have regretted it over the years.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
28 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

When I get one of those profile stalkers, always viewing, constantly sending messages, you know the drill, I just send them a face photo and that usually puts a stop too it.

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By *earditallWoman
28 weeks ago

Lancaster

I'm happy to send mine to people just wouldn't want it out there.

It doesn't matter to me if someone has theirs up I think it's rather brave of them.

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By *s Verity VeneryWoman
28 weeks ago

Bliss

"When I get one of those profile stalkers, always viewing, constantly sending messages, you know the drill, I just send them a face photo and that usually puts a stop too it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
28 weeks ago

"When I get one of those profile stalkers, always viewing, constantly sending messages, you know the drill, I just send them a face photo and that usually puts a stop too it.

Even a stalker’d be welcome at this point

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By *heelerMan
28 weeks ago

Northants

Privately yes publicly its a no

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

Depends on what they have to lose? If they are married/in a relationship, have a job that requires a bit of decorum/is public facing, then I think it could be riskier.

However, everyone who shows their face is open to attracting that one weirdo who makes their life hell and threatens them with exposure etc.

Got to weigh your pros and cons I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
28 weeks ago

"Depends on what they have to lose? If they are married/in a relationship, have a job that requires a bit of decorum/is public facing, then I think it could be riskier.

However, everyone who shows their face is open to attracting that one weirdo who makes their life hell and threatens them with exposure etc.

Got to weigh your pros and cons I guess."

Side note: just read your profile & laughed out loud in my kitchen. Heh.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
28 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

"Depends on what they have to lose? If they are married/in a relationship, have a job that requires a bit of decorum/is public facing, then I think it could be riskier.

However, everyone who shows their face is open to attracting that one weirdo who makes their life hell and threatens them with exposure etc.

Got to weigh your pros and cons I guess."

Yeah, those weirdo’s give the rest of us weirdo’s a bad name.

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By *etwife8230Couple
28 weeks ago

Newport

Friends only and those I want to meet x

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By *iking_WitchWoman
28 weeks ago

Hinckley

Personally I prefer it. I am a very distinctive looking woman, I am recognised a lot anyway so it seems absolutely pointless hiding my face. I have far more respect for people who are open about who they are, their desires etc. We are adults, we know how to behave here and in the real world and if we don't, we have no place being here face pics or not.

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By *ENW coupleCouple
28 weeks ago

west lancs

We’re not hiding so may aswell see who we are from the start. We only meet in clubs so if we hide ourselves on here it makes it harder to be recognised in a club. If you see us come say hi we don’t always bite

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By *olo180Man
28 weeks ago

Greater London

"Diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks. The "because of my job" line always makes me chuckle though. Are you a cabinet minister or Jeff Bezos?"

I believe The ‘because of my job’ reason is more that people don’t want to be potentially recognised in the workplace and would rather keep their profession and private life very separate.

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By *he James gangCouple
28 weeks ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"My face is all over my profile, if it puts someone off then it puts someone off.

If someone is more cautious then that's fine of course but I would like to recieve a photo so I know who I'm talking to. "

You are beautiful in your pics but your video is outstanding.

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By *osie and Jim77Couple
28 weeks ago

Wakefield

My face is visible on our profile and is splashed all over other parts of the internet. Jim on the other hand is shyer and only shows his to friends.

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
28 weeks ago

Telford

"My face is all over my profile, if it puts someone off then it puts someone off.

If someone is more cautious then that's fine of course but I would like to recieve a photo so I know who I'm talking to.

You are beautiful in your pics but your video is outstanding."

So very kind thank you

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By *erfHerder74Man
28 weeks ago

Inverclyde

I worry more about people who hide their face , its not always a good surprise 😮

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By *iGuyForCouplesMan
28 weeks ago

"Diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks. The "because of my job" line always makes me chuckle though. Are you a cabinet minister or Jeff Bezos?"

You don't have to be a cabinet minister to seriously compromise you career by being identified on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

"My face is all over my profile, if it puts someone off then it puts someone off.

If someone is more cautious then that's fine of course but I would like to recieve a photo so I know who I'm talking to.

You are beautiful in your pics but your video is outstanding.

So very kind thank you

Yeah another big fan of your video here

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By *he milf next doorWoman
28 weeks ago

bluebell woods

Personally I wouldn’t because I live in a small town & I wouldn’t want someone to know it’s me on here

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
28 weeks ago

Telford

"My face is all over my profile, if it puts someone off then it puts someone off.

If someone is more cautious then that's fine of course but I would like to recieve a photo so I know who I'm talking to.

You are beautiful in your pics but your video is outstanding.

So very kind thank you

Yeah another big fan of your video here "

Thank you

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
28 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I don't generally show my face. I'm taking a chance and doing it for Halloween, otherwise my pics don't work, lol

🧛🏻‍♀️

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
28 weeks ago

North Welsh Borders

"Diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks. The "because of my job" line always makes me chuckle though. Are you a cabinet minister or Jeff Bezos?

I believe The ‘because of my job’ reason is more that people don’t want to be potentially recognised in the workplace and would rather keep their profession and private life very separate."

Absolutely this

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By *estructionDollyWoman
28 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

"Diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks. The "because of my job" line always makes me chuckle though. Are you a cabinet minister or Jeff Bezos?

I believe The ‘because of my job’ reason is more that people don’t want to be potentially recognised in the workplace and would rather keep their profession and private life very separate."

Exactly this for me.

I have a highly professional job where they really care about reputational damage, and I am fairly certain my employer would also not look kindly on me having half naked photos of myself online. So I rarely display my full face publicly on my profile.

I don't want someone from work stumbling across my profile with their anonymous silhouette, taking screenshots and either reporting me or holding it over me.

My family and close friends knows that I am in this lifestyle, but I don't want my work colleagues or employer to know.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
28 weeks ago

Glasgow

I’m a strong believer in the separation of church and state.

(Hello, I’m RTG and it’s been 24 years, one month and something like three days since I last fucked a work colleague. Apart from the one I married. I’ve been good (ish) since.)

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By *ase4122Man
28 weeks ago

Lancashire

"What do you think about someone showing their face on here? Foolish? Bold? Does it make you more or less likely to reply?

Vested interest aside, genuinely interested to hear people’s thoughts."

My face is on display and I think it scares women lol

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By *ase4122Man
28 weeks ago

Lancashire

"Diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks. The "because of my job" line always makes me chuckle though. Are you a cabinet minister or Jeff Bezos?

I believe The ‘because of my job’ reason is more that people don’t want to be potentially recognised in the workplace and would rather keep their profession and private life very separate.

Exactly this for me.

I don't want someone from work stumbling across my profile with their anonymous silhouette, taking screenshots and either reporting me or holding it over me.

My family and close friends knows that I am in this lifestyle, but I don't want my work colleagues or employer to know. "

Dolly please report to my office in the morning, I recognize that ass!

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By *arleycplWoman
28 weeks ago

Frodsham

Mine are private only, having been a lecturer for over 25 years, I would be horrified if one of my students recognised me

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By *abcouple1403Couple
28 weeks ago

Newcastle

We’re more than happy to share ours but would never make them public

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By *ealitybitesMan
28 weeks ago

Belfast

I don't mind other people having their face on display if that's what they want but I have seen too many chat groups over the years using personal information as currency to ever have mine on here.

The only issue I have with some people and face pics is that quite often they are sneery of those who don't have any and their "I don't give a fuck" attitude can lead to them being less than discreet with other people's information.

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By *our_Best_Kept_SecretMan
28 weeks ago

Telford

"My face is all over my profile, if it puts someone off then it puts someone off.

If someone is more cautious then that's fine of course but I would like to recieve a photo so I know who I'm talking to. "

Your latest profile photo is lovely.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
28 weeks ago

Round the bend

"My face is all over my profile, if it puts someone off then it puts someone off.

If someone is more cautious then that's fine of course but I would like to recieve a photo so I know who I'm talking to. "

I love your profile. It screams genuine, open and beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

We share if we meet some people we might like

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
28 weeks ago

Round the bend

I often put little snippets of my face on, but not brave enough to show it fully on public display. If it wasnt for the risk of being recognised, id much rather have a face pic than anything else.

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By *rasshopper201Man
28 weeks ago

kendal

Normally when asked but like said above normally buts them off when I do !!

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By *omeagain00Man
28 weeks ago

Selby

Normally share if asked but would like one in return too

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By *ineapple.and.GingerCouple
28 weeks ago

Southend-on-Sea

I think it just boils down to personal preference and what you find most comfortable as a couple or individual. We feel uncomfortable showing nsfw type photos (nude or not) on our public profile and find it pointless to sensor what we share. We have nothing to hide and if someone were to recognise us, we’re all here for the same reasons so no harm no foul. This is just our opinion though, and totally understand and respect that others might not agree or have a different view to us. At the end of the day, as long as you feel comfortable with how you present yourself, that’s all that matters. We’re not going to judge someone either way!

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By *atthew78Man
28 weeks ago

Winsford

I have no issues with putting my face on display but reading some comments have a greater understanding why some don't. I can imagine if after some conversation if there is trust then a private pic of face can be sent

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By *eroLondonMan
28 weeks ago

Mayfair

I don't show my face on here because I cannot think of a compelling reason to do so. Not showing my face is my default mode.

I suppose my face isn't on display because I wish to concertedly mask my heritage and avoid the subconscious bias.

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By *inky PerkyCouple
28 weeks ago

Narnia

Your private life has fuck-all to do with your employer. But if you're so ashamed about putting a face to what you do, then maybe don't do it?

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By *moothshaftMan
28 weeks ago

Coventry

Being the age I am, my face is now horrible, I used to be so good looking. But I will send on request.

I want to go back 50 years and do it all again.

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

I don't care if a profile has a public pic or not as i don't most of the time, I do expect face pics from both sides to be swapped if we are to continue chatting.

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By *olo180Man
28 weeks ago

Greater London

"Your private life has fuck-all to do with your employer. But if you're so ashamed about putting a face to what you do, then maybe don't do it?"

Tell that to Phillip Schofield

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By (user no longer on site) OP
28 weeks ago

Personally, I’d rather be private but a) my body’s pretty average and b) I’m not packing a third arm -tragically, I think my face is one of my least worst assets. I fear I’d never stand a chance if I didn’t at least flash my peepers once in a while

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By *ude LawMan
28 weeks ago

Harrogate

"Your private life has fuck-all to do with your employer. But if you're so ashamed about putting a face to what you do, then maybe don't do it?

Tell that to Phillip Schofield "

I tried to, but age filters.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
28 weeks ago

Glasgow

"I tried to, but age filters."

😂

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
28 weeks ago

Midlands

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By *offeeLoverMan
28 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Friends only pics. Rather not see anyone I know 😂

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
28 weeks ago

Midlands

Guys constantly send us their face pics. Not sure why because we don't meet anymore.

They often expect one in return but they're left waiting because it's not something we share.

Katie.

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By *ddy86Man
28 weeks ago

Abram

If it were a dating site, absolutely. But it's not. For me it's more intimate. No idea who I know who may be lurking on here. Happy to send in private even without the promise of a potential meet. Personal preference I suppose.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
28 weeks ago

Utero

Outed for having an epic sex life?

Go right ahead.

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By *thLincsCpleCouple
28 weeks ago

Barton

Always share our face pics in a private message but keep to friends only in profile for several already mentioned reasons.

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By *sm265Woman
28 weeks ago

Perthshire

My face doesn't go in my public pics but if I've been chatting and am seriously considering meeting someone then Im happy to share a face pic. I wont send one until I'm comfortable to do so though and if the other party cant respect that boundary then they can just move on as far as im concerned.

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By *issmorganWoman
28 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I wouldn't have my face in public, too many creepy people on here who wouldn't think twice about approaching you away from here.

I find if quite refreshing to see a face pic on a man's profile, but totally get why they are often private or friends only.

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

I wouldn't even dream of putting my face in public pics.

Each to their own and you don't see it alot on here but I personally don't think it's good idea.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
28 weeks ago

Reading

I didn't for years. Then I decided what really could happen. I prefer someone knows if they fancy me before messaging.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
28 weeks ago

cardiff

Nope, never. Privately yes.

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By *sWyldWoman
28 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Never publicly but for friends

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By *orthwestladinbrumMan
28 weeks ago

erdington

Doesn't bother me.. happy too, but I can understand why some don't

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By *ack DawXXXMan
28 weeks ago

Weybridge

My face is way too pretty for this place.

You want the face?

You can't handle the face!

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By *ovelyDayXXXWoman
28 weeks ago

Niche

Putting your face pic public is for people who believe they have nothing to lose if people from their real life find them here. Or that it holds no risk to their safety or livelihood. Personally I think that's ridiculously naive.

And partial facepics are far far more revealing than people believe.

I have bills to pay and consider sex a private area of my life. Private does not equal shame.

Private means I don't want my nextdoor neighbour perving me then nodding hello in the drive way thinking about the pic I just uploaded.

Or the weird guy 1mile down the road walking his dog past my house every day trying to see in my windows.

Or on the school runs getting a creepy nudge nudge wink wink at the school gates.

I'm here for simple fun and normal chats and a spicy social.

Not looking a stalker, or a public shaming or to permanently lose all means to pay my mortgage, or another round of drama from my exhusband.

I'm happy to share a facepic with a person but it's on my own terms, in my own time, and after I weigh up the possibility of lives crossing & risk.

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By *eautifulChaosWoman
28 weeks ago

Nr Hickleton

"What do you think about someone showing their face on here? Foolish? Bold? Does it make you more or less likely to reply?

Vested interest aside, genuinely interested to hear people’s thoughts."

I had my face pic public when I first joined until one idiot who recognised me sent a msg to say so and named the street I lived on. His account was vague and I have no clue who he is either (wouldn't tell me) as he's in a relationship with kids and is on the site to meet M & Fs.

He did apologise when I let him know how inappropriate the msg was but now my face is for friends only.

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By *r SmartypantsMan
28 weeks ago

London

AI is screen scrap-ing the entire Internet now and cross indexing facial recognition data, Privacy is no longer a thing no matter what you think the law says.

And given all it needs is an unvetted £5 access to get an unlimited profile on here, whats not to say one of the profiles here is already an AI bot scra-pping everyones pictures for a dark web use. And definitely already done if your profile is public.

Real-world examples of AI scra-ping

• Clearview AI: The facial recognition company Clearview AI amassed a database of over 20 billion images scra-ped from social media and other web sources without user consent and know once it's copied and replicated on servers world wide, you never ever get control of it back.

Then, do yourself a favour, take a screen grab of a face pic on your profile upload it to clarity check web site reverse lookup and shit yourself at what it lists about your digital footprint and that from there a stranger can work out where you roughly live, your social media accs,where you possibly work, who could be your family and work and social and friend contacts are, etc,etc.

Now reflect on the last weirdo who messaged you and know that person has access to all that info if they want to look you up and get intrusive in your life.

This is not about someone on here maybe recognising you, that's low risk, it's now about the Internet continuously looking to identify everything about all of us all the time and linking all aspects of our lives together through large data sets that is increasingly making this once private data accessible to anyone and everyone.

Sad times but protecing your privacy and identiy has become a lot harder sadly.

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By *ilmissleopardprintWoman
28 weeks ago

Shrewsbury, West Midlands. not wales!!

I have face photos, as I prefer having nudes for friends only. As there are people on here who I know. Xx

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By *offeeLoverMan
28 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"I didn't for years. Then I decided what really could happen. I prefer someone knows if they fancy me before messaging. "

I would like to do that but I worry someone will recognise me irl

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