FabSwingers.com forum: What is Love?

By *EAT..85 OP Woman
40 weeks ago

Nottingham

What is love to you?

How do you know if you're in it? How does it feel?

I know I love my children, regardless of what they do it's unconditional.

But it's not the same feeling for a romantic partner. It's more complicated? Do you have a choice?

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

IYKYK

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By *ife NinjaMan
40 weeks ago

Dunfermline/Leeds

Love is that kind of loyalty, doing things you would never dream of for anyone else. Gooey to start of with, but it matures. Still in love with my ex.....and that's nearly 11 years!

Children are different. That's always unconditional 🤓🥷

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Have you ever read Sonnet 116 by Shakespeare, OP?

I think it will answer your title question.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
40 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"IYKYK"

IDTYKBYKAQALDIDOSIAA!

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
40 weeks ago

Northampton

“Baby don’t hurt me”

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"IYKYK

IDTYKBYKAQALDIDOSIAA!"

Sorry that happened to you.

Or congratulations.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
40 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"IYKYK

IDTYKBYKAQALDIDOSIAA!

Sorry that happened to you.

Or congratulations. "

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By *ackformore100Man
40 weeks ago

Tin town

Does anybody love anybody anyway?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
40 weeks ago

East Sussex

You don't have a choice in my opinion.

I think romantic love develops and deepens over time too.

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By *antra MassageMan
40 weeks ago

Glastonbury

There is no answer to the question. Poets have tried to put it into words.

But it has to be felt in the heart, mere words fall short.

I love to be in love, to give unconditionally, and to receive. It can be hard to find, it's always changing, and often difficult to hold on to.

When you find it, seize it with all your heart.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
40 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

HEAT 'ello ......

You speak of romantic love....... that's romance.

Love is decidedly more mature and fastholding ....

romance is not love

Sonnet 116 - simply says that true love never dies. It does not explain what love is and while Shakey was good with words n rhymes, imho - love ( for an individual ) can diminish in some circumstances.

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By *hilloutMan
40 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

The love one feels for children is different than from a romantic partner.

For me, where children are concerned, it's nurturing, protective and everlasting. You wish the best for them at all times and will often forgive things you wouldn't in others, as they're as much a part of you as you them.

True love with a romantic partner is different. It's all encompassing, passionate and seeps into every pore of your being, especially in the beginning. That person occupies a central position in your life and thoughts. Gestures and acts that are reciprocated only fuel the cycle more. You become a part of each other and dream of living a life together with shared experiences. It changes with time, from something explosive and overflowing, to a deeper and more serene affection.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I've loved many ways many different times. Sometimes it's been great and gotten deeper, more empathic and more nourishing over time, sometimes it's caused heartache and pain.

But if I find someone who reciprocates equal loving energy I will hold them close forever even in the relationship changes. Cos that's precious and hard to come by 💖

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By *ryton 123TV/TS
40 weeks ago

Chatham

As James may put it, you get a fizz below and your stomach gets butterflies.

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
40 weeks ago

Bognor Regis

I don't think love is a choice as such. Well you can choose to love someone the right way I suppose. To be in love, to fall in love just happens based on the right ingredients. I cannot use vocabulary to explain what it means to me. Love has unfolded in many ways, it is never exactly the same.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
40 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"As James may put it, you get a fizz below and your stomach gets butterflies. "

Like eating too much ice cream

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By *icecouple561Couple
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40 weeks ago

East Sussex

Im reminded of a poem I like. Please adjust gender to suit

Two Cures for Love

Wendy Cope

1. Don’t see him. Don’t phone or write a letter.

2. The easy way: get to know him better.

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By *EAT..85 OP Woman
40 weeks ago

Nottingham

The beginning of this could also sound like infatuation. Perhaps when the 'honeymoon' period wears off and you still want to spend that serene time together it's likely love?

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Margaret Atwood

"You fit into me,

Like a hook into an eye.

A fish hook

An open eye"

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By *EAT..85 OP Woman
40 weeks ago

Nottingham

"I don't think love is a choice as such. Well you can choose to love someone the right way I suppose. To be in love, to fall in love just happens based on the right ingredients. I cannot use vocabulary to explain what it means to me. Love has unfolded in many ways, it is never exactly the same. "

I think this is key, there are different types of love. I hear of people marrying their best friends because they had been hurt so much previously by a love so strong gone wrong.

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By *EAT..85 OP Woman
40 weeks ago

Nottingham

"Im reminded of a poem I like. Please adjust gender to suit

Two Cures for Love

Wendy Cope

1. Don’t see him. Don’t phone or write a letter.

2. The easy way: get to know him better.

Ouch!

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By *ackformore100Man
40 weeks ago

Tin town

I once went to a friend's funeral and the priest gave this sermon about different types of love, I think there were 7?, which resonated very strongly and provoked many thoughts. I've never been able to find it on tinternet.

In any case I managed to find this which kind of goes along the same lines... But for sure there was also romantic love. And how it was expressed..

the deep familial love for a relative, the brotherly love for a friend, the sacrificial love for someone who gave freely to others, or the mature, pragmatic love built on shared history and goals..

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"“Baby don’t hurt me”"

Beat me to it

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By *rchie300Man
40 weeks ago

Hamworthy

This song and many others show peoples or who wrote it … what love is to them …. She’s like the wind … Patrick swayze

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Its where two people (or more?) Decide to waste several years together, until it eventually fizzles out and you never speak to each other again.

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By *ackformore100Man
40 weeks ago

Tin town

"I once went to a friend's funeral and the priest gave this sermon about different types of love, I think there were 7?, which resonated very strongly and provoked many thoughts. I've never been able to find it on tinternet.

In any case I managed to find this which kind of goes along the same lines... But for sure there was also romantic love. And how it was expressed..

the deep familial love for a relative, the brotherly love for a friend, the sacrificial love for someone who gave freely to others, or the mature, pragmatic love built on shared history and goals..

To that you can probably add the love of objects, experiences, activities, food, environments, behaviours and probably many more... Other types of love are available at a store near you.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
40 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

Most people are 'infatuated' with someone new; a novelty that sparks interest and new life...

When the infatuation ends, if they are still together , it's more than likely inertia ....

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By *ust_us999Couple
40 weeks ago

Somewhere

Am I the only one who went "Baby don't hurt me..." 😂

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By *icecouple561Couple
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40 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Most people are 'infatuated' with someone new; a novelty that sparks interest and new life...

When the infatuation ends, if they are still together , it's more than likely inertia ....

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By *EAT..85 OP Woman
40 weeks ago

Nottingham

"Most people are 'infatuated' with someone new; a novelty that sparks interest and new life...

When the infatuation ends, if they are still together , it's more than likely inertia ....

You're probably not wrong in the majority of cases! Relationships and jobs become far too comfortable. Habits.

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By *uvs2watchherCouple
40 weeks ago

newcastle

I dont you choose. I love my hubby but I also fell in love again. I just think its something that happens. And. Not always good xxx

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By *007ManMan
40 weeks ago

Worthing

You are drawn to someone without explaination. You think about them a lot...suddenly without warning.

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
40 weeks ago

North Welsh Borders

Cynical me says love is a post requisite to attachment. A throwback from our ancestors who lived in time of having safety in numbers to ward off attackers and to procreate to uphold a bloodline

Not sure what the romantic me says; life partner, someone to share trials and tribulations with....A partnership, who's health care and wellbeing matter

Life isn't like that though

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By *rive u crazyMan
40 weeks ago

Sheffield

I’m feeling it for the first time at 55. I feel not to be alone, that we are friends, lovers, that there are no power fights, that we care for each other and we both want to nurture our relationship

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By *EAT..85 OP Woman
40 weeks ago

Nottingham

"I’m feeling it for the first time at 55. I feel not to be alone, that we are friends, lovers, that there are no power fights, that we care for each other and we both want to nurture our relationship"

❤️❤️❤️

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By *eroLondonMan
40 weeks ago

Mayfair

Love is Autumn, love is Cinnamon, love is warm comfort food, love is evolutionary ("love" backwards with some "utionary" thrown in for good measure), love is trying to find the best response in a thread about love and failing miserably.

This ^ all doesn't really make sense, just like love.

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By *ad NannaWoman
40 weeks ago

East London

I really don't know.

Infatuation, maybe.

You absorb each other, emotionally?

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By *ad NannaWoman
40 weeks ago

East London

Forsaking all others, until you have that conversation where you feel another person, or two, may be exciting and enhance your sex life?

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By *cLovin2Man
40 weeks ago

London

"HEAT 'ello ......

You speak of romantic love....... that's romance.

Love is decidedly more mature and fastholding ....

romance is not love

I agree granny, furthermore as you can fall in love with someone, you can also fall out of love with them too. I didn't know that till it happened to me.

But love does exist, and is worth the chase.

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By *cLovin2Man
40 weeks ago

London

"Its where two people (or more?) Decide to waste several years together, until it eventually fizzles out and you never speak to each other again."

was the sex any good though?

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By *cLovin2Man
40 weeks ago

London

"Cynical me says love is a post requisite to attachment. A throwback from our ancestors who lived in time of having safety in numbers to ward off attackers and to procreate to uphold a bloodline

Not sure what the romantic me says; life partner, someone to share trials and tribulations with....A partnership, who's health care and wellbeing matter

Life isn't like that though"

Take it from someone who never believed in love, it does exist misilia, I hope you get to taste it one day.

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By *cLovin2Man
40 weeks ago

London

"Love is Autumn, love is Cinnamon, love is warm comfort food, love is evolutionary ("love" backwards with some "utionary" thrown in for good measure), love is trying to find the best response in a thread about love and failing miserably.

This ^ all doesn't really make sense, just like love."
eloquent as ever Nero 👍🏽

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I think love gets tangled up with lots of other things. Attraction, chemistry, the habits of day-to-day life together. But love on its own doesn’t always make for a healthy relationship. You can love someone and still hurt each other, or realise you can’t actually build a life together. That’s what makes defining it complicated for me.

For me, love is a mix of friendship, attraction, commitment (not always to entwine lives), enough common ground to feel a sense of kinship and enough differences to keep it interesting, a real investment in each other’s wellbeing. And, maybe most of all, a deep feeling of emotional safety. I don't believe romantic love should ever be unconditional.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
40 weeks ago

Leeds

A second hand emotion.

Mrs

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By *addy bareMan
40 weeks ago

southend

Love is butterflies when you speak and see your partner.

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By *sWyldWoman
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Its the way my dog looks at me

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
40 weeks ago

kent

You don’t know if you’re in love until something goes wrong. Until then, it could just be lust or infatuation. It’s only when the wheels fall off, when it gets difficult, when you are required to sacrifice, compromise, give up a part of yourself, that you’ll know if you’re in love. Love is defined by hardship. All those feel-good romantic feelings are just the tip of the iceberg. You need to go deep into difficulty if you want the truth of love. If you can stand shoulder to shoulder, two (or three) against the world, no matter what, then you know. And you can’t know, until you’re tested. Xx

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By *vonne5exMan
40 weeks ago

Doncaster

"What is love to you?

How do you know if you're in it? How does it feel?

I know I love my children, regardless of what they do it's unconditional.

But it's not the same feeling for a romantic partner. It's more complicated? Do you have a choice? "
Some question, I'm affectionate, protective and love the cuddles etc but not sure about being in love

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By *ife NinjaMan
40 weeks ago

Dunfermline/Leeds

"Its the way my dog looks at me "

He just wants to go out for a shit 🤭🤓🥷

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By *cLovin2Man
40 weeks ago

London

"Its the way my dog looks at me "

Not just your dog 👀

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By *cLovin2Man
40 weeks ago

London

"Does anybody love anybody anyway? "

Great song from back in the day

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By *naswingdressWoman
40 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Not worth it, is what it is.

Familial love means obligation to be a punching bag.

Romantic love is just about letting your guard down so you can be brutally savaged.

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By *hilloutMan
40 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I've loved many ways many different times. Sometimes it's been great and gotten deeper, more empathic and more nourishing over time, sometimes it's caused heartache and pain.

But if I find someone who reciprocates equal loving energy I will hold them close forever even in the relationship changes. Cos that's precious and hard to come by 💖"

An exceedingly rare and priceless thing. Fortunate are those who find it, recognise it and hold on to it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
40 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

Most , if not all , people spoke of love as something they are 'in' with a partner.

There is no need to have a partner to know what love is ....... love begins with the self. In fact ALL love comes from the self, from within. It is impossible to show love to another unless you show love to yourself. That love within you becomes something stronger when you give it to another.

There is absolutely no need for them to love you back , love is not obligitory, it has no rules.

Your love for another shows when you let them be exactly who they are - and if being who they are means you must let them go it does not follow that you love them less - just that you continue to love and respect yourself.

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By *issy_named_cTV/TS
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

It's a song by Haddaway

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By *issy_named_cTV/TS
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

But in honesty, if anyone is looking for a beautiful song about Love, please check out,

What Colour is Love,

By Terry Callier

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By *cLovin2Man
39 weeks ago

London

"Not worth it, is what it is.

Familial love means obligation to be a punching bag.

Romantic love is just about letting your guard down so you can be brutally savaged."

Oh swingy darling, that's not true. Some people do take advantage of other people's love, that's true. But you just need to find someone who's generous with their love. I truly hope you can taste some of the love I've experienced in life.

Not everyone is capable of being loving, so find someone who is. Everything else is just a sideshow.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

When you find your person and they find theirs

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Baby don't hurt me...

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"Baby don't hurt me..."

😂😂

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