FabSwingers.com forum: Accidentally falling in love

By (user no longer on site) OP
30 weeks ago

Accidentally falling in love with someone is the best and I suppose it could also be the worst thing. It’s happened to me a few times. The friends to lovers thing is beautiful when it works out. That’s how my fiance and I worked out.

But with my ex we also met intending for something very casual and got completely swept up in feelings and fell in love.

Have you ever accidentally fallen in love with someone? As in it’s someone you shouldn’t fall in love with?

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By *viatrixWoman
30 weeks ago

Gatwick

Yep! Several times too haha 🙋🏻‍♀️

It’s hard not to fall in love when they are so wonderful…

I’ve been trying to train my heart (and mind) and work through my feelings. It’s never going to go anywhere and I am only setting myself up for heartbreak wtc if I let those feelings run amok. So I try to rein them in. But sometimes I think it’d be easier just to walk away. But it is hard after 6 years…

Musings at 5:00 am. Right, time to get ready for work! x

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By *reachersdaughterWoman
30 weeks ago

someplace

My ex. Only man I loved and will always love

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
30 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

Once

On Fab, actually….Nuff said

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By *sWyldWoman
30 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Yes. He broke me in ways I didn't even think possible.

However, there's still a little bit of hope that one day I am completely swept off my feet and the feeling is mutual.

Until then I'm very happy with like over love

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By *ellinever70Woman
30 weeks ago

Ayrshire

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By (user no longer on site) OP
30 weeks ago

Could it be I’m falling in love with you, baby?

Could it be I’m falling in love?

With youuuuuuuuuu

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By * aime la biteWoman
30 weeks ago

wonderland

Yes.

For years I fought it, would distance myself for a while to get things into perspective. But then boom!!! It happened. Big mistake, I should have done what I used to do but it just happened.

Didn't go well and now it'll never happen again. I'll never get that close again.

It's sad because I'm a strong believer in having emotions even in a casual thing. It makes things so much more satisfying. So I'll probably remain celibate for the rest of my life!

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By *atinaChica54Woman
30 weeks ago

Marlborough

🎶Ever fallen in love with someone

Ever fallen in love, in love with someone

Ever fallen in love

In love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with 🎶

Yup!

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By *dam1971Man
30 weeks ago

Bedford

With someone I met on here - yes. I could feel myself doing it and I had to stop as it wasn’t a good time.

She’s ridiculously easy to fall in love with though!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
30 weeks ago

Leeds

No never. I’m not that stupid.

The mr

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By *rchie300Man
30 weeks ago

Hamworthy

Yep …. Right here and right now

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By *iddle ManMan
30 weeks ago

Walsall

I would not say falling in love, but I have been guilty of becoming a bit too fond of someone, always knowing she was already happily with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

If I fall in love there’s nothing accidental about it

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By *unguy2429Man
30 weeks ago

worthing

It happens. Expesh when there is such good chemistry

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By (user no longer on site) OP
30 weeks ago

"No never. I’m not that stupid.

The mr "
aren’t you married?

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
30 weeks ago

Telford

I don't think you can control your feelings like that.

You can control what you do of course but feelings will feel what they want to ha. It's happened to me, regardless of circumstances, if all the ingredients are there then it can happen.

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By *avexxMan
30 weeks ago

cheshire

"I would not say falling in love, but I have been guilty of becoming a bit too fond of someone, always knowing she was already happily with someone.

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... pretty much this

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
30 weeks ago

Reading

We were supposed to be casually hooking up. We talked about how we were just exploring sexually with each other. But god, there’s something about him and I fell so hard so quickly. He did too except he wasn’t afraid to say it like I was. I’m still not over him.

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By * MRS ShyButNotShy MRSCouple
30 weeks ago

Stoke

I've only ever loved one man. We have been together 30 years next year. Met when I was 17

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By *ruella DeThrillWoman
30 weeks ago

Essex

Nope

And if I felt anything so stupid I’d go and kick some puppies or something and toughen up.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
30 weeks ago

Leeds

"No never. I’m not that stupid.

The mr aren’t you married?

Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.

The mr

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
30 weeks ago

Leeds

"No never. I’m not that stupid.

The mr aren’t you married?

Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.

The mr "

I didn’t love her when we first met. That grew over time.

The mr

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By *he MinionMan
30 weeks ago

Yes.

The first person that i met in this world. She showed me things and helped me experience things that i hadnt even imagined.

We fell in love with each other.

We craved one another. Lust, love ?

Not sure but when it ended it hurt both of us very badly.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
30 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I mean. Can you deliberately fall in love?

Feelings are chaotic. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't 💜

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By (user no longer on site) OP
30 weeks ago

"No never. I’m not that stupid.

The mr aren’t you married?

Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.

The mr "

No I meant it’s just funny you say ‘I’m not that stupid’ but you’re married?

Seems like a pretty stupid thing to do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
30 weeks ago

"Nope

And if I felt anything so stupid I’d go and kick some puppies or something and toughen up.

Maintaining that forum image

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
30 weeks ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
30 weeks ago

East Sussex

I don't think falling in love is a choice or an accident.

Falling off a horse and breaking a wrist is an accident.

Having beans on toast for lunch is a choice.

Falling in love happens occasionally/rarely when you know someone well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
30 weeks ago

"I mean. Can you deliberately fall in love?

Feelings are chaotic. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't 💜"

But long to explain further what I mean.

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
30 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff

Once, yes. But it couldn't 'work' and shouldn't have happened; so I promised I would never let it happen again.

...then it happened again. 💔

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By (user no longer on site) OP
30 weeks ago

"I don't think falling in love is a choice or an accident.

Falling off a horse and breaking a wrist is an accident.

Having beans on toast for lunch is a choice.

Falling in love happens occasionally/rarely when you know someone well."

I know I mean falling in love with someone you shouldn’t. It’s very ooops.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
30 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I don't think falling in love is a choice or an accident.

Falling off a horse and breaking a wrist is an accident.

Having beans on toast for lunch is a choice.

Falling in love happens occasionally/rarely when you know someone well.

I know I mean falling in love with someone you shouldn’t. It’s very ooops. "

Oh I see. No my ice cold heart wouldn't allow that ❄️

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Yes, on here, when Id sworn off relationships.

But I fancied him from afar and when we met the sexual chemistry was insane and then he really was a lovely lovely lovely man. How could I not 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By (user no longer on site) OP
30 weeks ago

"Yes, on here, when Id sworn off relationships.

But I fancied him from afar and when we met the sexual chemistry was insane and then he really was a lovely lovely lovely man. How could I not 🤷🏻‍♀️

How could you not

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By *aFemmeCoquetteWoman
30 weeks ago

Somewhere in the middle not the.....

Of course i have, and as you said it can be beautiful and it can also be painful. But I prefer to feel alive and feel and not bottle things up and miss out on what could be amazing.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
30 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"I mean. Can you deliberately fall in love?

Feelings are chaotic. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't 💜

But long to explain further what I mean. "

Yeah, fair.

I love people I'm woefully incompatible with. Doesn't mean we can be together, doesn't mean I stop being in love with them anyway.

Feelings and logic are wildly unmatched with these things. And it sucks. But it is what it is 💜

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By *antra MassageMan
30 weeks ago

a village near you.

I fall in love easily, enjoy it and feel the loss when it's not reciprocated or when she leaves.

Never turn your back on love.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
30 weeks ago

Leeds

"No never. I’m not that stupid.

The mr aren’t you married?

Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.

The mr

No I meant it’s just funny you say ‘I’m not that stupid’ but you’re married?

Seems like a pretty stupid thing to do

It’s not stupid to want to keep someone you find an amazing human in your life, but it is stupid to fall in love with someone you’ve just met, especially when it’s not reciprocated. You’re just setting yourself up to make a mug of yourself.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP
30 weeks ago

"No never. I’m not that stupid.

The mr aren’t you married?

Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.

The mr

No I meant it’s just funny you say ‘I’m not that stupid’ but you’re married?

Seems like a pretty stupid thing to do

The mr "

Who said anything about all that?

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
30 weeks ago

North West

Hmmmm. When I met my partner on here, the chemistry was very intense from the start. I told myself it was amazing sex with good friendship. Then for a very long time I told myself it was just limerence. I eventually admitted I loved him, both to myself and him, and luckily it was reciprocated. So yeah, I kind of know what you mean.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
30 weeks ago

London

"🎶Ever fallen in love with someone

Ever fallen in love, in love with someone

Ever fallen in love

In love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with 🎶

Yup!"

I was thinking exactly the same.

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By *rive u crazyMan
30 weeks ago

Sheffield

Happened to me 6 months ago. Messaged a woman in the US to appreciate her photos with no other intention. It’s been an avalanche. Never ever felt anything so deep.

Sometimes you are ready but you don’t realise it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
30 weeks ago

"Hmmmm. When I met my partner on here, the chemistry was very intense from the start. I told myself it was amazing sex with good friendship. Then for a very long time I told myself it was just limerence. I eventually admitted I loved him, both to myself and him, and luckily it was reciprocated. So yeah, I kind of know what you mean. "
reciprocated? I’m not familiar with???

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
30 weeks ago

Chester

No, I really like the BF but I'm in love with hubby

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By *007ManMan
30 weeks ago

Worthing

Yes it's a very strange feeling. Nothing to do with looks, sex , "fancying them" or anything else really. You just suddenly become attracted. You could have known him/her for a while but thought nothing of them. Suddenly...without warning, it happens. You become drawn to them. Involuntary eye contact is the strangest part of it.

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By *ad NannaWoman
30 weeks ago

East London

I don't easily fall in love.

I don't even think I loved my husband.

I'm not sure if love exists or its just familiarity and not wanting to break contact with someone.

I dunno.

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By *ad NannaWoman
30 weeks ago

East London

I think someone people mistake obsession and just for love.

I've never felt loved by a man.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
30 weeks ago

Leeds

"No never. I’m not that stupid.

The mr aren’t you married?

Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.

The mr

No I meant it’s just funny you say ‘I’m not that stupid’ but you’re married?

Seems like a pretty stupid thing to do

The mr

Who said anything about all that?

So you’re just arguing for the sake of arguing, bless your little cottons, someone is offended for being called out yesterday 😂

The mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP
30 weeks ago

"No never. I’m not that stupid.

The mr aren’t you married?

Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.

The mr

No I meant it’s just funny you say ‘I’m not that stupid’ but you’re married?

Seems like a pretty stupid thing to do

The mr

Who said anything about all that?

So you’re just arguing for the sake of arguing, bless your little cottons, someone is offended for being called out yesterday 😂

The mr "

Wait, I got called out yesterday?

You love to pretend people are offended it’s so funny. You are winding me up? OFFENDED.

You disagree with me? OFFENDED 🤣

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
30 weeks ago

Coventry

When we met on Fab we were just two single parents looking for some simple no strings sexual frills. After chatting online for a bit New years eve and a very heated 6 hour phone call we thought we would meet. Our first meet had a rocky start but by the end of it we finished leaving hand in hand, smitten and knowing the world would never be the same again. And here we are still here.

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
30 weeks ago

North Somerset

"Accidentally falling in love with someone is the best and I suppose it could also be the worst thing. It’s happened to me a few times. The friends to lovers thing is beautiful when it works out. That’s how my fiance and I worked out.

But with my ex we also met intending for something very casual and got completely swept up in feelings and fell in love.

Have you ever accidentally fallen in love with someone? As in it’s someone you shouldn’t fall in love with?"

Accidentally? Is it ever accidental or just a natural progression of a relationship sometimes?

I don't think any relationship starts from a position of love. That has to grow naturally without force or timescale.

Yes, sometimes it happens to one party and not the other and sad as that can be, it's also natural and a realistic expectation.

We can't choose who we fall in love with - it just happens. Equally we can't control who loves us back. Who we fall out of love with or who falls out of love with us. That's life. It's how you deal with it and move on that matters. 🤷‍♂️

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
30 weeks ago

Leeds

"No never. I’m not that stupid.

The mr aren’t you married?

Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.

The mr

No I meant it’s just funny you say ‘I’m not that stupid’ but you’re married?

Seems like a pretty stupid thing to do

The mr

Who said anything about all that?

So you’re just arguing for the sake of arguing, bless your little cottons, someone is offended for being called out yesterday 😂

The mr

Wait, I got called out yesterday?

You love to pretend people are offended it’s so funny. You are winding me up? OFFENDED.

You disagree with me? OFFENDED 🤣

Yeah disguising question to hunt your next victim.

I don’t pretend, I’m not transgender. Your giving off very offended vibes 😂😂😂

The mr

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By *ecadentDeviantsCouple
30 weeks ago

North West

Always a potential ‘danger’ of this isn’t there, humans are humans after all, hence swinging being a potentially very damaging activity even for those people in well established ‘rock solid’ relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Can’t say I’ve ever fell in love with a friend and I don’t think I ever could.

The qualities I look for in a friend are not the same qualities I look for in a partner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
30 weeks ago

"No never. I’m not that stupid.

The mr aren’t you married?

Yes. But after talking for a while I had no intention of fucking her off, I’m married/ in a relationship because I wanted to.

The mr

No I meant it’s just funny you say ‘I’m not that stupid’ but you’re married?

Seems like a pretty stupid thing to do

The mr

Who said anything about all that?

So you’re just arguing for the sake of arguing, bless your little cottons, someone is offended for being called out yesterday 😂

The mr

Wait, I got called out yesterday?

You love to pretend people are offended it’s so funny. You are winding me up? OFFENDED.

You disagree with me? OFFENDED 🤣

Yeah disguising question to hunt your next victim.

I don’t pretend, I’m not transgender. Your giving off very offended vibes 😂😂😂

The mr "

Tbvh the only thing that offends me in the forums is racism

But I’m upset that I missed being called out yesterday? I mean that genuinely

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By *rchie300Man
30 weeks ago

Hamworthy

"Yep …. Right here and right now "

And it wasn’t by accident, it happened… just wanted to add that

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By *verageHoesCouple
30 weeks ago

Bessacarr

I guess all 3 of my loves have been "accidental", in that I wasn't actively dating or looking for love. My ex husband was a good friend for 3 years before we realised a mutual attraction, and the other 2 have been fwb connections I met on here.

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
30 weeks ago

Northwest

Deep feelings for someone I met on Fab many moons ago but timings just didn’t facilitate pushing it more so had a 2 year hiatus from here. Still think about him often.

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By *ansoffateMan
30 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Yes it was awesome.

I would have been chuffed with a kiss on the first date.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Accidentally fell in love with my ex Dom. It was meant to be casual but ended up a full blown D/s high protocol relationship for a few years. Looking back now I suspect it was more trauma bonding than anything else.

One day he just disappeared with another women.

I've never let my guard down since.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"Once

On Fab, actually….Nuff said

Same 😫

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
30 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I've fallen in love with the wrong people but never accidentally, not sure if I am making sense to anyone reading by saying that. I always wanted to fall in love and 3 exs were total douche bags. Thank fully I have a good one now we been together 18 years in November

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By *urry BlokeMan
30 weeks ago

I wasn't looking for love when I met my current partner

I was just looking for an afternoon of fun

We're at 13 years next February

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
30 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

when I met my late partner it was just friendship, we met, we emailed each other we got closer the more we talked.

Then one day after a year he was at my house and I just looked at him and thought i couldn't imagine my life without you, no fireworks just comfortable feeling. We where happy for 16 years. I wont fall in love again as I will never put myself in a position to be close to a man

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
30 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"when I met my late partner it was just friendship, we met, we emailed each other we got closer the more we talked.

That's so lovely

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By *egreat1.2Man
29 weeks ago

Devon

Love is just a chemical reaction, it hits hard and fades with time. That’s not to say you shouldn’t enjoy it but it’s not magic.

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By *ex HolesMan
29 weeks ago

Up North

But with my ex we also met intending for something very casual and got completely swept up in feelings and fell in love.

Have you ever accidentally fallen in love with someone? As in it’s someone you shouldn’t fall in love with?"

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By *aven RedWoman
29 weeks ago

who knows, but it's not raining x

My last partner. I told him in no uncertain terms that I was not looking for a relationship in any way, shape or form. Little did I know he was my soul mate x

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By *rchie300Man
29 weeks ago

Hamworthy

"Love is just a chemical reaction, it hits hard and fades with time. That’s not to say you shouldn’t enjoy it but it’s not magic."
….. I agree with most of that … but with some people it is Magic ……I like the expression… “ The rise was worth the fall “ ❤️🌅❤️….

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By *r_Mrs.DSCouple
29 weeks ago

Voldsøy

I think there's only one that I could call accidental. We were best friends. I knew of her feelings for me and I didn't feel the same at first. One night, she kissed me and I reciprocated. We ended up being together less than a year (long story). We're still good friends, and I love her dearly. I always will.

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By *appy-go- luckyMan
29 weeks ago

pothole city

Fell in love with my old work friend a few years back. We’d always been just great friends, meeting up got social events etc. but not long after i left the company, we’d still regularly meet up and something stirred inside me and i let my emotions get the better of me, despite knowing she was married and completely fell in love with her. Thankfully I managed to get over it eventually and have remained good friends with her to this day.

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By *hyKentGuyMan
29 weeks ago

sheerness

"🎶Ever fallen in love with someone

Ever fallen in love, in love with someone

Ever fallen in love

In love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with 🎶

Yup!"

Love that song! The Buzzcocks!

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By *hyKentGuyMan
29 weeks ago

sheerness

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By *hyKentGuyMan
29 weeks ago

sheerness

"when I met my late partner it was just friendship, we met, we emailed each other we got closer the more we talked.

That’s so lovely yet so sas.x

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