FabSwingers.com forum: Are you successful? Are you really?

By *hagTonight OP Man
37 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

I dont think that being successful just means being rich, you know, having a big villa in the sun with 2 boats and a garden.

Being successful can also mean so many other things too, such as ones emotions, like being content and happy.

It would be interesting to see if you are successful and how would you define successful as? Do you also agree that it doesnt always mean how rich one is?

I define my success as, being where I want to be and doing what I want to do in that very moment and of course being happy too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *undance_KidMan
37 weeks ago

London

Can’t be happy all the time, we all have our down days !!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ellhungvweMan
37 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I am with you OP. Success is about being able to do what you want on your own terms. You don’t have to be rich, you just have to have life working as you want it. My life works for me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *onicZMan
37 weeks ago

Nottinghamshire

Being successful to me would mean comfortable and happy in life... Which I am most of the time so yes I'd say so

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *unguy2429Man
37 weeks ago

worthing

It’s frustrating this subject as people automatically think if your successful then your rich. With is un true.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I’m successful.

My small human is becoming a kind, caring, thoughtful, and clever young person. I’m doing the dad job successfully.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *gent CoulsonMan
37 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I was up till covid and the lockdown.

Years before, I took a rundown closed pub and built it up to being a Camra award winning pub.

I absolutely loved the job, it became a proper community hub like pubs used to be, then the first lockdown came, savings dwindled, then the second lockdown over the Christmas period wiped me out completely, the pub closed, and I lost everything, home business, relationship

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ou only live onceMan
37 weeks ago

London

Success comes in many forms, and we will all value different things (or at least value their importance differently).

I am successful in some, and less so in others.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *og and MuseCouple
37 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I’m successful.

My small human is becoming a kind, caring, thoughtful, and clever young person. I’m doing the dad job successfully.

The true measure of success , changing the world by putting people in it that will do a better job than we did

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ora the explorerWoman
37 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Success isn’t about money. You can be successful in voluntary roles/exams etc.

it’s not something I’ve thought much about. I’m happy, that’s more important to me. Success, health, wealth, friends, family etc can all contribute to that I guess.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

My first success of the day.

Managed to offload a big dukey that didn’t break. Took effort and concentration, plus avoidance of temptation to snap it off. 💩

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uvs2snogMan
37 weeks ago

Now living in Spain

I guess the easiest definition would be:-

Being happy with your life, with what you are doing and with the people you are doing it with?

For me it was working hard to be able to retire early.

We did just that - sold up and now living our dream life in Spain

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hagTonight OP Man
37 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"I am with you OP. Success is about being able to do what you want on your own terms. You don’t have to be rich, you just have to have life working as you want it. My life works for me."
Yes, it is about having life. that works how you want it too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eautifully TwistedWoman
37 weeks ago

Telford

I want to move closer to family but other than that I'm pretty content. There are some things that I can't change due to the circumstances so I've accepted them.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ick Weapon-XMan
37 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Not financially successful at all. I have though traveled and lived the world and a full life I am proud to remember. And if today was to be my last day on this earth, I would have very little regrets as I chose the road I wanted to take.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *londeAndBubblyKate7Woman
37 weeks ago

near the river medway

I think I do like to have a little moan about work etc. But generally I have lived my life how I wanted. I have my stuff together, I do what I wish and see who I like.

I have a very full personal and family life. I think I am pretty successful as a result.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asualfridayMan
37 weeks ago

Highlands

I wouldn't say I'm successful. I have my health and I'm a decent human being, but I've never felt settled in life. I'm still positive though, my time will come eventually.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *estructionDollyWoman
37 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

Not really, could have done better.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I have a wife who loves me for who I am, even with my horrific mental health issues, we have 3 happy and healthy kids, we have a cozy little home and a stable income so we can be comfortable.

I'm the richest person on earth.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ora the explorerWoman
37 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"I have a wife who loves me for who I am, even with my horrific mental health issues, we have 3 happy and healthy kids, we have a cozy little home and a stable income so we can be comfortable.

I'm the richest person on earth."

Love this ❤️

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inja 636Man
37 weeks ago

Grays

One of my successful moments happened just this month 17 year anniversary of being paralysed what a beautiful journey it has been too ups and downs along the way OP your spot on success comes in many shapes and forms ❤️

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ainbows_can_be_metal_tooCouple
37 weeks ago

Darlington

My husband made it all the way to manager of pubs and restaurants. Brining in decent money but working all hours and not happy.

Left it all behind and he's a trucker now, slightly less money but better regulated hours and we get to see each other at the end of every working day, bills are paid and we are happy. Now that is what we call success 😌

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hagTonight OP Man
37 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"Success isn’t about money. You can be successful in voluntary roles/exams etc.

it’s not something I’ve thought much about. I’m happy, that’s more important to me. Success, health, wealth, friends, family etc can all contribute to that I guess. "
Hi nora, yes, you are right there, success isnt about money, that is good being happy is more important to you, yes, those other things also contribute to it too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oonwitch_and_RainbowCouple (FF)
37 weeks ago

Bradford and Stockport

(Rainbow here): I've been up and down at various times through my life, but finally feeling that I'm in a good place now. For me it's never been about chasing great amounts of money, I was lucky enough to end up in a career which allowed me to live okay and save for a pension, always tried to keep the view though that I was working so that I could live, not living so that I could work.

Finding that I was trans late in middle age was a hell of a shock both to me and my wife (as she put it, she "didn't sign up to be a lesbian") but we got through that and although our sex life didn't really survive, I never stopped loving her. Her sudden death three years ago was a hammer blow.

Nearly a year now since I first exchanged "hiya" with Moonwitch on a dating site, nine months since our first physical meeting for a dog walk (yes, with her actual doggie, in a park in the daytime - not the other thing that happens in discreet parking locations after midnight 🤣🤣). Living together now, we time share between Yorkshire and Cheshire, we'll probably simplify that arrangement eventually, not a worry at the moment. We are happy ❤️

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

East Sussex

I would say we're successful.

We're content for the most part and coming up to 45 years together. Lots of people would envy our life

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inja 636Man
37 weeks ago

Grays

"I would say we're successful.

We're content for the most part and coming up to 45 years together. Lots of people would envy our life "

In a nice way I envy these beautiful scenarios I was only speaking about this the other day warmest congratulations to you both and hope yous have many more years ahead x

Eddie

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *007ManMan
37 weeks ago

Worthing

I can work from home freelance.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *og and MuseCouple
37 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I would say in most things we are , career / business , life goals , family, heath, we have a huge amount of joy and fun in our life and don’t worry about anything. Probably the only thing missing is more children.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ayKellyMan
37 weeks ago

Kinross

"Can’t be happy all the time, we all have our down days !!"

I am very happy 3 weeks out of 5, when im home on leave.

But im also content the 2 weeks im away from home on the Rigs as I enjoy my work

Work hard, play hard leads to a content happy life.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rSuave88Man
37 weeks ago

Mirfield

We all won the lottery of life.. depending on your perspective, that would be a yes to the original question 🙎🏽‍♂️

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I would say we're successful.

We're content for the most part and coming up to 45 years together. Lots of people would envy our life

In a nice way I envy these beautiful scenarios I was only speaking about this the other day warmest congratulations to you both and hope yous have many more years ahead x

Eddie "

Thanks Eddie

I think it's easy to take things for granted isn't it.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Success is in the eye of the beholder and relative.

On balance I'd say I was successful, the important things in my life that have not gone as I would have liked have been entirely out of my control.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oonwitch_and_RainbowCouple (FF)
37 weeks ago

Bradford and Stockport

May as well add mine (Moonwitch).

In the world's eyes, absolutely not. Academic high flier, endlessly told I was heading for great things. Instead, the sweet, loving guy I met at uni and married at 21 turned out to be an abuser. Between that, toxic religion, undiagnosed autism, being pushed to have more kids, the stress and strain of it all wrecking my health, caring responsibilities for a severely disabled relative (that I was glad to do but physically couldn't handle)... Found myself turning 50, medicated up to the eyeballs on an SSRI just to get out of bed. Tried everything to find the help I needed to get away but in vain, was trapped.

But then, to cut a long story short, my abuser left me, and set me free.

Fast forward to now, and I've met my beautiful Rainbow before I'd even thought of a new relationship (I was looking for a shag buddy!).

I'm happy every day (of course life is still life!), and get to do all kinds of things I never thought I'd do, including expressing my queerness at last. I feel loved, peaceful, joyful, and safe. So the way my life is now is way beyond anything I'd hoped for for a long, long time. So I guess that's success of a sort!

This'll be long, because that's how mu autism rolls lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *randmrs 1st timeCouple
37 weeks ago

bolton

I would class been married 43 years as a success and more in love then ever

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Success is overcoming all the obstacles that have come in your way without losing yourself completely. Working hard for something and getting the desires results. Having meaning and feeling valued is alsp

Successful in my opinion

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ornucopiaMan
37 weeks ago

Bexley

I was successful when I sat on the toilet this morning.

Nowadays it's things like that that really matter!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hagTonight OP Man
37 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"It’s frustrating this subject as people automatically think if your successful then your rich. With is un true. "
Yes, many automatically think that, which is untrue too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uriousscouserWoman
37 weeks ago

Wirral

In a worldly sense then I'm very successful.

At a personal level few would see me as successful: I'm unmarried, live alone, no kids, had more than my share of mental health issues.

I see the success there. After toxic relationships I have found my peace and contentment in my own company. I am recovering from my issues and draw on that success to keep going. I live a life filled with love and joy and even knowing how much it cost me to get to where I am, that feels like success to me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *luebell888Woman
37 weeks ago

Glasgowish

I have always worked, remained healthy, have 2 amazing children plus own a 3 bedroomed house. That to me is successful enough.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aisy DystopiaTV/TS
37 weeks ago

rochdale

Somtimes I feel successful but sometimes I don’t, I can’t work but I have. A decent place to live and I have friends round here but I don’t see them much. Would be happier if I managed to settle down in a relationship but ahh well

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ornucopiaMan
37 weeks ago

Bexley

"I have always worked, remained healthy, have 2 amazing children plus own a 3 bedroomed house. That to me is successful enough."

No BMW? !!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

Central

I don't see it as financial gains either. I view it as having the balance of love, health and emotional wellbeing, doing what you choose to do

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ife NinjaMan
37 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Financial, I get by. Personally, great kids. As a marker of success, I'm OK 🥷🤓

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iaisonseekerMan
37 weeks ago

Liverpool

Threads on this topic always prompt me to post the Bob Dylan quote:

"A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in-between, he does what he wants to do"

It's clearly not resonating with anyone as this is probably the 4th or 5th time I've posted it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *luebell888Woman
37 weeks ago

Glasgowish

"I have always worked, remained healthy, have 2 amazing children plus own a 3 bedroomed house. That to me is successful enough.

No BMW? !!!"

Sadly not.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hagTonight OP Man
37 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"I don't see it as financial gains either. I view it as having the balance of love, health and emotional wellbeing, doing what you choose to do"
That is good you view it, as having balance of those things too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *olyGlamorousWoman
37 weeks ago

Chester

I'm a successful hot mess 🤷🏼‍♂️

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *sWyldWoman
37 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I have a warm cosy home

I have happy children

I have some awesome friends

A gorgeous dog

Food in the fridge

A car to drive

Things to look forward to and I dont hate my job.

I think that makes me pretty successful

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hagTonight OP Man
37 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"I think I do like to have a little moan about work etc. But generally I have lived my life how I wanted. I have my stuff together, I do what I wish and see who I like.

I have a very full personal and family life. I think I am pretty successful as a result.

"
Hi kate, that is good you have lived your life how you wanted and how you have your stuff together too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

We had an mfm with a guy we met on here.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *orny IrishMan
37 weeks ago

North Wiltshire

"We had an mfm with a guy we met on here."

💚

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I will actually be actively meeting from next month

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"I will actually be actively meeting from next month

OUT 😎

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *redwilma666Couple
37 weeks ago

Kilbirnie

It would not be for me to decide

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hagTonight OP Man
37 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"I would say we're successful.

We're content for the most part and coming up to 45 years together. Lots of people would envy our life "
Hi nicecouple, that is good and that you are content, congratulations too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *atinaChica54Woman
37 weeks ago

Marlborough

"I am with you OP. Success is about being able to do what you want on your own terms. You don’t have to be rich, you just have to have life working as you want it. My life works for me."

This⬆️for me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ABflirtyWoman
37 weeks ago

Norfolk

I am in some things very . And not in other things . Life’s what you make it and I am working on things.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Life’s what you make it "

Should be a song title that

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uvs2snogMan
37 weeks ago

Now living in Spain

"Life’s what you make it

Should be a song title that "

Love a bit of ‘Talk Talk’…

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I feel I'm pretty successful. Had some great jobs, travelled and enjoyed it.

I have good family around me so all good there

Currently I find my job dull. Im ploughing money into pensions and savings so I can escape as quickly as possible! It's not how life should be spent but my only option currently.

I'm not the kind of person to milk a job, prefer to be busy and work hard but just nothing suitable around so half stuck, half won't leave cos money is good even though I'm bored. I have a very active mind so find this hard.

Id love some suggestions of how to handle this if anyone has any.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

No, the opposite. Nearly broke with a loan for legal fees.

Few things from my ex to sort out since our divorce in 2021 so hoping to get what was court ordered.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *igjonny090Man
37 weeks ago

blackpool and Manchester

Being successful to me means being happy, that means you are actually happy in life. Not just I’m happy because I’m rich or winning awards or something like that.

I think I’m partly successful as my daughter is happy and growing up to be a sweet clever little girl and that means I’m doing my job right for her

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ojangles69Woman
37 weeks ago

Milton Keynes

"I have a wife who loves me for who I am, even with my horrific mental health issues, we have 3 happy and healthy kids, we have a cozy little home and a stable income so we can be comfortable.

I'm the richest person on earth."

Love this

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hagTonight OP Man
37 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

"I would say in most things we are , career / business , life goals , family, heath, we have a huge amount of joy and fun in our life and don’t worry about anything. Probably the only thing missing is more children."
Hi togandmuse, that is good you are that in most things and huge amount of joy too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread