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By *ife Ninja OP   Man
5 days ago

Dunfermline

Can you bite your tongue when you hear something you disagree with? Do you get involved if someone is getting bullied or attacked?

I'm definitely an interventionist. I call out bad behaviour and wade into altercations. How about you?🤓

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By *ayRyuMan
5 days ago

Harrogate

Zero filter. If I had to bite my tongue I'd have the end off!!

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By *hickthighs25Woman
5 days ago

Stockton

Im trying to do better ... bu ultimately no 🤣

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By *ife Ninja OP   Man
5 days ago

Dunfermline


"Zero filter. If I had to bite my tongue I'd have the end off!! "

Us Yorkshiremen (I'm living afar) seem to have a trait for it 🤓

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By *ife Ninja OP   Man
5 days ago

Dunfermline


"Im trying to do better ... bu ultimately no 🤣"

And Yorkshire women 😘🤓

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By *ayRyuMan
5 days ago

Harrogate


"Zero filter. If I had to bite my tongue I'd have the end off!!

Us Yorkshiremen (I'm living afar) seem to have a trait for it 🤓"

Wholeheartedly agree with that!!

Say it as it is usually!!

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By *ife Ninja OP   Man
5 days ago

Dunfermline


"Zero filter. If I had to bite my tongue I'd have the end off!!

Us Yorkshiremen (I'm living afar) seem to have a trait for it 🤓

Wholeheartedly agree with that!!

Say it as it is usually!!"

I got told I was blunt once. I took it as a compliment 🤭🤓

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By *ayRyuMan
5 days ago

Harrogate


"Zero filter. If I had to bite my tongue I'd have the end off!!

Us Yorkshiremen (I'm living afar) seem to have a trait for it 🤓

Wholeheartedly agree with that!!

Say it as it is usually!!

I got told I was blunt once. I took it as a compliment 🤭🤓"

I got called an opinionated gobshite the other day. I smiled and pointed out an opinion is like an arsehole. We all have one

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By *reachersdaughterWoman
5 days ago

Someplace

No and no

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

5 days ago

East Sussex

I know when to speak up and when to keep my mouth shut.

I know when discretion is the better part of valour

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By *sStephenPickleMan
5 days ago

Ends

Depends on safety tbh. If someone is pissed and spouting racist shit there’s a more risk than challenging my little brother on his worrying opinions.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
5 days ago

North West

Nope I can't, seems like it isn't just a trait in Yorkshire either 😂

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By *avenNightsMan
5 days ago

Canvey Island

I’ve learnt to bite my tongue amongst my circle of friends. They’re.. how shall I put it, lost to right wing social media.

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By *ife Ninja OP   Man
5 days ago

Dunfermline


"Nope I can't, seems like it isn't just a trait in Yorkshire either 😂 "

Today we're northerners 😂🤓

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By *ife Ninja OP   Man
5 days ago

Dunfermline


"I’ve learnt to bite my tongue amongst my circle of friends. They’re.. how shall I put it, lost to right wing social media. "

Oh....😬

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By *ife Ninja OP   Man
5 days ago

Dunfermline


"I’ve learnt to bite my tongue amongst my circle of friends. They’re.. how shall I put it, lost to right wing social media. "

I think I'd be finding other friends 👍🤓

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By *ayRyuMan
5 days ago

Harrogate


"I’ve learnt to bite my tongue amongst my circle of friends. They’re.. how shall I put it, lost to right wing social media.

Oh....😬"

Oh indeed 😬😬

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
5 days ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

I'll defend myself and say my piece but when someone is clearly trolling I'll try not to react....Because that's what they want is a reaction...And it's more fun to watch them make a cunt of themselves

It's horrible when you see people get attacked online and will call it out if I can....

Although you do see more men being called out for bad behaviours than women

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By *avenNightsMan
5 days ago

Canvey Island


"I’ve learnt to bite my tongue amongst my circle of friends. They’re.. how shall I put it, lost to right wing social media.

I think I'd be finding other friends 👍🤓"

m

I slowly am and backing away from this lot, no way do I want to associate with people with a collective Dunning-Kruger problem.

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By *ife Ninja OP   Man
5 days ago

Dunfermline


"I'll defend myself and say my piece but when someone is clearly trolling I'll try not to react....Because that's what they want is a reaction...And it's more fun to watch them make a cunt of themselves

It's horrible when you see people get attacked online and will call it out if I can....

Although you do see more men being called out for bad behaviours than women"

I didn't actually think about online. Good point though. It's easier for people to hide behind a keyboard and dish out nastiness 🙄

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
5 days ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders


"I'll defend myself and say my piece but when someone is clearly trolling I'll try not to react....Because that's what they want is a reaction...And it's more fun to watch them make a cunt of themselves

It's horrible when you see people get attacked online and will call it out if I can....

Although you do see more men being called out for bad behaviours than women

I didn't actually think about online. Good point though. It's easier for people to hide behind a keyboard and dish out nastiness 🙄"

Yep, they do it

But yep, I am outspoken in the real world as well and yep I would step in if I saw someone being attacked

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By *ife Ninja OP   Man
5 days ago

Dunfermline


"I'll defend myself and say my piece but when someone is clearly trolling I'll try not to react....Because that's what they want is a reaction...And it's more fun to watch them make a cunt of themselves

It's horrible when you see people get attacked online and will call it out if I can....

Although you do see more men being called out for bad behaviours than women

I didn't actually think about online. Good point though. It's easier for people to hide behind a keyboard and dish out nastiness 🙄

Yep, they do it

But yep, I am outspoken in the real world as well and yep I would step in if I saw someone being attacked "

This is good to hear 🤓

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By *es not the MessiahMan
5 days ago

3rd rock from the sun

I walk away usually

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By *sWyldWoman
5 days ago

Edinburgh

I can hold my tongue when I need to but my face gives my thoughts away

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By *ife Ninja OP   Man
5 days ago

Dunfermline


"I can hold my tongue when I need to but my face gives my thoughts away "

Ah, the passive aggressive look. Can be equally effective 👍🤓

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By *ruella DeThrillWoman
5 days ago

Essex

If it’s aimed at me and affects no-one - I can easily smile & play dumb

Anyone else involved or likely to be hurt. I can’t shut up.

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By *ife Ninja OP   Man
5 days ago

Dunfermline


"If it’s aimed at me and affects no-one - I can easily smile & play dumb

Anyone else involved or likely to be hurt. I can’t shut up. "

Give em hell 😤 🤓

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By *rasshopper201Man
5 days ago

kendal

This day and age walk away you have no idear what there on or there history or even what there mind is line so many angry people out there I blame eastenders lol

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By *rSuave88Man
5 days ago

Mirfield

Yes. Strong self discipline. I know when to interject and similarly when to keep quiet and walk away.

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
5 days ago

Reading

It really depends on the context. Online trolling I will normally ignore as they are looking for the reaction but sometimes, it can be fun to just wind them up.

In real life, I will always judge what action is safe for me and everyone else. If it is safe, I will do something. It’s been shown that the bystander effect is real and if 1 person calls out a behaviour, more people will have the confidence to support them than taking that initial action themselves.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
5 days ago

Castlebar

Depends on the situation. If I don't know the full story or only part of the story...I mind my own business.

I'm not going to get involved just for the sake of it but I would definitely try to calm things down. Generally you can't reason with angry people or ignorant ones.

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