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"Yo " You're hardly a lurker! But feel free to use the safe space... | |||
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"Yo You're hardly a lurker! But feel free to use the safe space..." Oh I was just saying hi to the lurkers. Sorry I’ll see myself out  | |||
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"Yo You're hardly a lurker! But feel free to use the safe space... Oh I was just saying hi to the lurkers. Sorry I’ll see myself out "Oops! Thank you for making them feel welcome 😁 | |||
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"It takes a while to feel settled but I do log on and cone here first nowadays" Glad you're feeling comfortable in the forum now. I think generally we're a friendly bunch here, as long as you don't take it all too seriously. | |||
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"Not quite a lurker, more a wandering perv, who loves the humour in the forum. Nothing wrong with popping up in people's inboxes, I often get frustrated when I'm just outside the age range. Flipping filters." I hear you! And I agree, some messages are far more welcome than others, but honestly, sometimes they're better placed for the thread than my inbox! 😂 | |||
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"I enjoy amusing myself in the forums." They certainly can be fun! 😃 | |||
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"It takes a while to feel settled but I do log on and cone here first nowadays Glad you're feeling comfortable in the forum now. I think generally we're a friendly bunch here, as long as you don't take it all too seriously." Can't take it seriously? You mean I can't partake in having 4 penises in a single woman's ass? 🤷🏽♂️😳😱 I'll get my coat... | |||
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"Not quite a lurker, more a wandering perv, who loves the humour in the forum. Nothing wrong with popping up in people's inboxes, I often get frustrated when I'm just outside the age range. Flipping filters. I hear you! And I agree, some messages are far more welcome than others, but honestly, sometimes they're better placed for the thread than my inbox! 😂" It helps if the people concerned can actually have a normal conversation. I know what guys are like when they're thinking with the wrong head. | |||
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"I think the biggest fear for many is being ignored..in a public forum let alone a private one " I understand that fear. I used to feel the same way until I realised that probably everyone has had the same fears, but looks where we all are now after persisting. | |||
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"I think the biggest fear for many is being ignored..in a public forum let alone a private one I understand that fear. I used to feel the same way until I realised that probably everyone has had the same fears, but looks where we all are now after persisting. " Agree don’t let it be a fear. The good thing on here is there is always someone out there for you. Yes it can sometimes be difficult to get that connection. When you do it’s very rewarding. | |||
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"I know that new members are blocked from replying on the forum itself for two weeks after joining the site. That being said, after those two weeks have passed there's no excuses. (Saying this in my second ever forum post, have never inboxed anyone either)" Posting on forums can get you messages. Some you might like and some not. More the later for me at times sadly | |||
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"I think the biggest fear for many is being ignored..in a public forum let alone a private one I understand that fear. I used to feel the same way until I realised that probably everyone has had the same fears, but looks where we all are now after persisting. Agree don’t let it be a fear. The good thing on here is there is always someone out there for you. Yes it can sometimes be difficult to get that connection. When you do it’s very rewarding. " I've actually made some awesome connections through the forums - by posting in the threads people get an idea of who you are and you engage much more effectively (or at least that's my experience) when you do move to more 'personal' messaging. A random explicit message off the back of a forum post is really not the way for folk to grab my attention. | |||
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"I know that new members are blocked from replying on the forum itself for two weeks after joining the site. That being said, after those two weeks have passed there's no excuses. (Saying this in my second ever forum post, have never inboxed anyone either)" Thank you for contributing. I wholeheartedly agree! And I look forward to seeing more forum posts from you 😃 | |||
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"I don't have any proof that I don't have stalker tendencies, but it's a risk people will just have to take. I don't have a fear of commenting in the forums, I just enjoy watching and reading what others write. Sometimes I reply privately if someone interests me or if I have a personal question, based on what they have written. I also don't partake in public flirtatious banter with numerous people so that limits me to how many threads I can comment in. " Sounds like you are just a nosey neighbour hehe x | |||
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"I don't have any proof that I don't have stalker tendencies, but it's a risk people will just have to take. I don't have a fear of commenting in the forums, I just enjoy watching and reading what others write. Sometimes I reply privately if someone interests me or if I have a personal question, based on what they have written. I also don't partake in public flirtatious banter with numerous people so that limits me to how many threads I can comment in. " Thts a fair assesment | |||
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"Great way to make 'stalker ish', 'creepy', 'misunderstood' people feel welcome 😉🤣" Stalker, me? Never  | |||
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"I don't have any proof that I don't have stalker tendencies, but it's a risk people will just have to take. I don't have a fear of commenting in the forums, I just enjoy watching and reading what others write. Sometimes I reply privately if someone interests me or if I have a personal question, based on what they have written. I also don't partake in public flirtatious banter with numerous people so that limits me to how many threads I can comment in. Sounds like you are just a nosey neighbour hehe x" I am 🤣 makes my day better on here when someone kicks off. I will refresh until it gets to 175 🤣 | |||
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"I don't have any proof that I don't have stalker tendencies, but it's a risk people will just have to take. I don't have a fear of commenting in the forums, I just enjoy watching and reading what others write. Sometimes I reply privately if someone interests me or if I have a personal question, based on what they have written. I also don't partake in public flirtatious banter with numerous people so that limits me to how many threads I can comment in. Sounds like you are just a nosey neighbour hehe x I am 🤣 makes my day better on here when someone kicks off. I will refresh until it gets to 175 🤣 " I avoid the threads that are likely to get me on my soapbox  lol | |||
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"I don't have any proof that I don't have stalker tendencies, but it's a risk people will just have to take. I don't have a fear of commenting in the forums, I just enjoy watching and reading what others write. Sometimes I reply privately if someone interests me or if I have a personal question, based on what they have written. I also don't partake in public flirtatious banter with numerous people so that limits me to how many threads I can comment in. Sounds like you are just a nosey neighbour hehe x I am 🤣 makes my day better on here when someone kicks off. I will refresh until it gets to 175 🤣 " I'm not so much interested in an argument, as the humour. In the past I've been at train stations or doctors surgeries and burst out laughing at the humour. Got a few strange looks, but it's like diary of evolving humour you can carry around with you. So as an example here's a joke I submitted a few weeks ago: Two gay men are travelling on a plane. Let's call them Steve and Bill. "Dude, what if we had sex?" asks Steve. "You crazy? Here, on the plane? It would be awkward, everyone would watch us doing it..." "Man, nobody is even paying attention to anything. Look!" Steve stands up and asks loudly: "Could I have a napkin, please?" Nobody gives a damn. Everyone is sleeping, reading, looking out the window, etc. "They really wouldn't care then, would they?" says Bill. So Steve and Bill have wild sex on the plane. Later, when the plane arrives to the airport and the people are leaving, the stewardess sees an old man who threw up all over his shirt, even his pants are soaking in the filth. "Sir, you should've asked for a bag!" "I didn't dare" whispers the old man. "A few rows ahead I saw a man asking for a napkin and he got fucked in the ass…” | |||
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"Have been inactive on forum for a while, but as now physically inactive due to an operation I have been on it for last few days, and really enjoyed being back
x"Welcome back! Here's to much more activity incoming for you, both in the forums and physically as you recover. 😃 | |||
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"Mrs here, I enjoy reading the forums and have started to join in some of the fun game threads. I've certainly been made welcome so any newbies or shy people don't hesitate to join in xx Annoyingly I can't post from my solo account 😕" Why not? x | |||
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"Have been inactive on forum for a while, but as now physically inactive due to an operation I have been on it for last few days, and really enjoyed being back
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"Not quite a lurker, more a wandering perv, who loves the humour in the forum. Nothing wrong with popping up in people's inboxes, I often get frustrated when I'm just outside the age range. Flipping filters. I hear you! And I agree, some messages are far more welcome than others, but honestly, sometimes they're better placed for the thread than my inbox! 😂" Which is why I block all single men. I put where I will be in person in my status. They can talk to me there. I have a cluttered inbox at home and work..I don't need one here too! | |||
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"I think the biggest fear for many is being ignored..in a public forum let alone a private one I understand that fear. I used to feel the same way until I realised that probably everyone has had the same fears, but looks where we all are now after persisting. " You're right of course. May I say you're gallery is gorgeous, your ink is stunning | |||
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"I don’t think I’m a lurker and have just started trying to engage with the forums more. As it’s a safe space I’m going to say, I feel stuck in my life. Is this normal for 46 year olds? " Yes. See a therapist and/or people in person. I have the alternative sexual lifestyle and new weightlifting challenges. I'm also thinking of building a business because my employers have never been supportive or mentoring and I'm autistic. Diagnosed at age 42. One of my mental health peer friends also in her 40s goes to Steampunk to talk to real people....instead of familiars and puppets. Her mum passed away this year but Steampunk and mental health support group is helping her through. the forum is great but it doesn't engage my brain and body in the same way as going outside around real people. | |||
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"I don’t think I’m a lurker and have just started trying to engage with the forums more. As it’s a safe space I’m going to say, I feel stuck in my life. Is this normal for 46 year olds? Yes. See a therapist and/or people in person. I have the alternative sexual lifestyle and new weightlifting challenges. I'm also thinking of building a business because my employers have never been supportive or mentoring and I'm autistic. Diagnosed at age 42. One of my mental health peer friends also in her 40s goes to Steampunk to talk to real people....instead of familiars and puppets. Her mum passed away this year but Steampunk and mental health support group is helping her through. the forum is great but it doesn't engage my brain and body in the same way as going outside around real people." Thanks for the reply. I’m defo trying to find places to get out of the house and meet more people. | |||
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"I don’t think I’m a lurker and have just started trying to engage with the forums more. As it’s a safe space I’m going to say, I feel stuck in my life. Is this normal for 46 year olds? " So glad you felt you can share here. Wonderful to have you with us. Yes, this is a very normal feeling for anyone at any age! Do you have someone you can talk to about it? You might not even need to make any decisions about what you want to change, but just talking about it sometimes helps to life the weight and make moving forwards easier. If you don't have anyone you can turn to, does your employer offer a wellbeing support/employee assistance scheme? You may be able to contact someone there for an informal and supportive chat. Or perhaps your doctors surgery can recommend some support groups. Even just sharing on the forum here when you feel brave enough might help. Sending big hugs and lots of strength your way. | |||
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"I don’t think I’m a lurker and have just started trying to engage with the forums more. As it’s a safe space I’m going to say, I feel stuck in my life. Is this normal for 46 year olds? So glad you felt you can share here. Wonderful to have you with us. Yes, this is a very normal feeling for anyone at any age! Do you have someone you can talk to about it? You might not even need to make any decisions about what you want to change, but just talking about it sometimes helps to life the weight and make moving forwards easier. If you don't have anyone you can turn to, does your employer offer a wellbeing support/employee assistance scheme? You may be able to contact someone there for an informal and supportive chat. Or perhaps your doctors surgery can recommend some support groups. Even just sharing on the forum here when you feel brave enough might help. Sending big hugs and lots of strength your way." Ah thank you. Yes have some friends, although they all live a couple of hours away, and work offers things. I’m just building up the courage. Appreciate you responding. | |||
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"Wonder how many lurkers are lurking on this thread! " Less or more than wanking zombies at clubs? | |||
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"I sort of lurk and comment occasionally if something grabs my attention. Then think, who wants to read my drivel!" I do x | |||
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"I sort of lurk and comment occasionally if something grabs my attention. Then think, who wants to read my drivel!" We all want to read it! That's why we're forum users 😁 | |||
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"I do lurk, honestly sometimes either it's not worth the row or I've made a reply to a similar thread ten times already When someone piques my interest I'll get typing "Then I shall consider your interest piqued 😃 | |||
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"I do lurk, honestly sometimes either it's not worth the row or I've made a reply to a similar thread ten times already When someone piques my interest I'll get typing Then I shall consider your interest piqued "
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"I sort of lurk and comment occasionally if something grabs my attention. Then think, who wants to read my drivel! We all want to read it! That's why we're forum users 😁" Then I shall be less lurkey more commenty | |||
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"I sort of lurk and comment occasionally if something grabs my attention. Then think, who wants to read my drivel! We all want to read it! That's why we're forum users 😁 Then I shall be less lurkey more commenty" Look forward to it x | |||
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"I sort of lurk and comment occasionally if something grabs my attention. Then think, who wants to read my drivel! We all want to read it! That's why we're forum users 😁 Then I shall be less lurkey more commenty Look forward to it x" 2 threads commented on…can I have a rest now?! | |||
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" As it’s a safe space I’m going to say, I feel stuck in my life. Is this normal for 46 year olds? " I have 7 years on you and I’ve been stuck forever… for myself it’s the fact I didn’t try to achieve what I was (am) capable of especially when comparing myself to my oldest friends from school who have remained friends.. And then after my ex broke up with me in 2018 the feeling has just gotten worse.. For whatever reasons but mainly shyness and lack of confidence and then using the excuse of being a single parent and having to work around his schedule, I just didn’t progress in a proper career. And while the jobs I’ve had allowed a certain amount of progression if I was actually interested, the thought of having to be a ‘yes man’ and telling others what to do when I don’t believe wasn’t really an option.. Mid 40’s and if you are an outgoing person, I would say that you can still change your circumstances.. me? I’m too set in my ways for change 😱 | |||
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"Mrs here, I enjoy reading the forums and have started to join in some of the fun game threads. I've certainly been made welcome so any newbies or shy people don't hesitate to join in xx Annoyingly I can't post from my solo account 😕 Why not? x" Don't know, been blocked by admin I think. I've asked twice to remove the block but no joy | |||
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"Mrs here, I enjoy reading the forums and have started to join in some of the fun game threads. I've certainly been made welcome so any newbies or shy people don't hesitate to join in xx Annoyingly I can't post from my solo account 😕 Why not? x Don't know, been blocked by admin I think. I've asked twice to remove the block but no joy" Yes some seem to do this. A while back I got blocked on forums for a while and no idea why I did. Should least tell you why. If I had offended anyone I can’t think of reason. If I had please tell me so can learn from that. I think it’s a power thing for small number | |||
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"I love to touch and tease my shaft then yo slowly wank the length of my shaft, but then stop as I feel I'm near to squirting as I look at posts xx" Is anyone going to respond to this guy? No? Ok! Welcome to the forums! I see you’re enjoying yourself | |||
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"I love to touch and tease my shaft then yo slowly wank the length of my shaft, but then stop as I feel I'm near to squirting as I look at posts xx Is anyone going to respond to this guy? No? Ok! Welcome to the forums! I see you’re enjoying yourself "Yeah, I can see why nobody responded 🤭🤓 | |||
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"I love to touch and tease my shaft then yo slowly wank the length of my shaft, but then stop as I feel I'm near to squirting as I look at posts xx Is anyone going to respond to this guy? No? Ok! Welcome to the forums! I see you’re enjoying yourself
Yeah, I can see why nobody responded 🤭🤓"It’s not one rule for one and a different rule for another. If we’re making folk welcome that includes everyone. Right? Right!  | |||
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"I love to touch and tease my shaft then yo slowly wank the length of my shaft, but then stop as I feel I'm near to squirting as I look at posts xx Is anyone going to respond to this guy? No? Ok! Welcome to the forums! I see you’re enjoying yourself
Yeah, I can see why nobody responded 🤭🤓
It’s not one rule for one and a different rule for another. If we’re making folk welcome that includes everyone. Right? Right! "You always make me welcome 🔥😋🤓 | |||
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"Mrs here, I enjoy reading the forums and have started to join in some of the fun game threads. I've certainly been made welcome so any newbies or shy people don't hesitate to join in xx Annoyingly I can't post from my solo account 😕 Why not? x Don't know, been blocked by admin I think. I've asked twice to remove the block but no joy Yes some seem to do this. A while back I got blocked on forums for a while and no idea why I did. Should least tell you why. If I had offended anyone I can’t think of reason. If I had please tell me so can learn from that. I think it’s a power thing for small number " It's a permanent block apparently because we have this couples account 🤷♀️ | |||
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"Sorry that I haven't been able to respond to everyone. Life happened today. I'm so pleased this thread took off though and everyone has been so accepting and welcoming. You guys are all awesome. Big hugs all round "Thankyou for the idea and kind words you lovely lady | |||
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"I think the biggest fear for many is being ignored..in a public forum let alone a private one " I felf similar when i first joined but you see a thread, add a post here and there, show your personality and people soon chat with you. I think I'm doing ok now | |||
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"...I can't be arsed to partake and generally be ignored (like many others). So why still here?..." • When I first joined the forums I did so in order to participate and offer my viewpoints and nothing more, and not because I expected to be acknowledged or to be absorbed into a collective. If that's 'your' objective then any newbie is going to be disappointed. Participating on here promotes your profile, rightly or wrongly, and people become aware of you through your ongoing presence and you become familiar to them in the same way you recognise the more ubiquitous forum dwellers. For those who are 'acknowledged' or display a level of camaraderie on the forum is sometimes down to the fact that they have perhaps met/befriended each other at a group social and become acquainted as a happy consequence. So it's not surprising that some people are 'accepted' more than others. That's not a bad thing; it's just human nature and not personal. | |||
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"I know that new members are blocked from replying on the forum itself for two weeks after joining the site. That being said, after those two weeks have passed there's no excuses. (Saying this in my second ever forum post, have never inboxed anyone either) Thank you for contributing. I wholeheartedly agree! And I look forward to seeing more forum posts from you 😃" Thank you | |||
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"Dear lurkers of the forum, This thread is specifically for you 'lurkers'. Yes, you know who you are - the folk who lurk in the shadows, prowling the forum, reading the threads and never posting anything, but freely replying privately to posts and popping up in inboxes with unwanted comments and observations. This is your opportunity to post freely on a thread without whatever fear you feel that makes you want to reply privately rather than in the thread. This is your safe space to prove you don't have stalker tendancies, and you're not creepy, but simply misunderstood. Please do make use of this facility. Yours despairingly, A woman of the forum" Don’t consider myself a lurker or stalker but I’ve dabbled in participating since joining the forums few months ago. Initially, despite posting friendly, honestly and respectfully with the aim of introducing myself and making friends, I then found myself blocked by dozens of folks on the forums. Still not sure for what reason other than maybe face didn’t fit or couldn’t penetrate the clicky behavior of some? But I’ll be honest I’ve since had a great time reading, posting and have had some amazing responses from some. I’ve also found some great advice on the virus forums for getting old ailments. Thank you | |||
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"might be a lurker, to avoid a co-worker, unless wear a burkha, could be a researcher, or be a networker, doesn't mean a jerker, or that a shirker " Lol@researcher 😂 | |||
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"I got told the other day I was up my own arse and should expect messages from lurkers if I post on the gorums" That's idiots for you! I remember a while back we exchanged a few messages and I thought you were lovely. A breath of fresh air, honest and approachable. I think it's more about what others are not getting out of you that pisses them off, and they get arsey.  | |||
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