FabSwingers.com forum: Confidence or Ego? When Online Personas Take the Stage”

By *aughtyPeepz OP Man
6 days ago

London

Im interested to know what people think....

Do adult platforms like fab boost real confidence — or just breed arrogance that wouldn’t fly offline?

What’s behind the change in persona?

Also would you say its more related to women (being that they have more of a choice and can be cut throat) or men (being that there are far more on here than women and are more demanding?) Or a bit of both?

Thoughts?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
6 days ago

Carlisle usually

I am 100% just as egotistical a bitch in the real world as I am here.

If you find the market here has unpleasant conditions for you, find a more suitable meat market for your needs.

Because I'm a woman and so predominantly have contact with men on here, I see a lot more of how it affects the male psyche than the female. The effects aren't good in most cases 💜

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By *ruella DeThrillWoman
6 days ago

Essex

I think if a simple web page can boost someone’s arrogance level - it was already there anyway.

Same to

Idiot level

Bitch level

Misogyny/misandry level

Its a good filter.

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By *y_journeyMan
6 days ago

newark

Whatever I say in here I’d also say to your face, nothing to do with ego, I’m completely grounded.

I can be serious but also like to have a giggle.

Maybe my humour isn’t everyone’s cup of tea but I mean no harm and won’t change to “fit in”.

I’ll now continue to go about my dick heady life 🚶🏻

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By *cottish guy 555Man
6 days ago

London

"I think if a simple web page can boost someone’s arrogance level - it was already there anyway.

Same to

Idiot level

Bitch level

Misogyny/misandry level

Its a good filter."

Very much this.

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By *ellinever70Woman
6 days ago

Ayrshire

I think it's all about expectations...especially wildly unrealistic ones. When these aren't met, it does peculiar things to people

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
6 days ago

Reading

I recognise the attention for what it is so I don't believe it has impacted my confidence either way. I'm not beautiful so being told so a couple of times a day does not make me feel any more so. Some find me arrestor and that's plenty for me.

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
6 days ago

Reading

I try to be authentic on here otherwise anyone who then bothered to meet me in real life would be disappointed at how dull I can actually be.

The men that message me are normally trying to get laid so will say whatever they think will work, if I believed what they said, I'd be earning a fortune modelling lingerie somewhere not sitting in a pair of dungarees picking the crisps I dropped earlier out of my cleavage.

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By *ealitybitesMan
6 days ago

Belfast

I've never allowed fab or others on here to influence my confidence or self esteem.

I don't mind the odd ego boost now and again when someone likes my pics or compliments my forum engagement but beyond that I can take or leave the entire experience.

I don't agree for a second that women have more choice than men or that having choices has any effect on behaviour.

From the first day I joined back in 2016 I've had choices and I've found that people respect me much more for making those choices.

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
6 days ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

I'm the same whether online or offline. Takes too much energy to be a different persona.

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By *he beard and the bumCouple
6 days ago

Lancashire

I take most of what is said on here with a pinch of salt. We’ve been in this game for a long time and know the score. The most important opinion to me is that of my husband.

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By *wnedslut-KittyWoman
6 days ago

Kittys Lane

I'm just the same on here as I am off here.

Just a down to earth averageish female x

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
6 days ago

your head

"I think it's all about expectations...especially wildly unrealistic ones. When these aren't met, it does peculiar things to people "

Agree with this. There can be a lot of entitlement on here.

Personally, I'm just as much of a bitch in real life as I am on here.

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By *oeBeansMan
6 days ago

Derby

I like to think I'm pretty much the same on here as I am in real life. I probably do snap back a bit more on here when it comes to people with certain opinions but that's only because I wouldn't be associated with those people in real life enough to care about debating them 🤷‍♂️

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By *iss.BellaWoman
6 days ago

I'm very much me, too open, too honest. I'm slightly more capable at keeping some thoughts to myself in person though..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
6 days ago

East Sussex

Arrogance that wouldn't fly off line 🤔 what does that mean?

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By *ittleLiaisonsWoman
5 days ago

Birmingham

Men are entitled and women are arrogant, not all obviously but the majority set a tone that they wouldn't be able to adopt in the real world. Maybe its an ego thing, maybe its a power trip, but some lists of requirements women have are unreasonable and unrealistic when they can't bring to the table what they expect the other person to. Men are on the opposite side and their standards aren't that high so they enable this behaviour by jumping through hoops just to get laid.

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By *og and MuseCouple
5 days ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Confidence comes from your achievements & values , not from over inflated ego through places like this. It comes from doing things and making decisions that make you proud of yourself.

This place can make you temporary feel good if you are insecure - the illusion that people might like you as a person not just a cock , but it’s like a sugar rush you crash eventually when you realise they don’t

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By *og and MuseCouple
5 days ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Personally, I'm just as much of a bitch in real life as I am on here. "

You’re better on here than real life 😂

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By *illabongboy1971Man
5 days ago

Penicuik

I'm just myself. No point pretending to be something different.

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By *avexxMan
5 days ago

cheshire

tbh if you need something like fab to boost your confidence thats quite sad really..

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By *peedyGMan
5 days ago

Telford

I'm exactly the same on here as i am in person. Some people will like the way i come across and others won't.... i only care about the ones that do like me and definitely won't change who i am for anyone.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
5 days ago

East Sussex

I'm different in varying situations. I'm still me but I don't behave in the same way in every circumstance, that would just be daft.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
5 days ago

your head

Personally, I'm just as much of a bitch in real life as I am on here.

You’re better on here than real life 😂"

Excuse you?!

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By *etwife8230Couple
5 days ago

Newport

Nope just the same x

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By *oredmum1982Woman
5 days ago

E.Mids

I get to be the person I really am in here - sarcastic and a little bit naughty - where I cannot do that with most people and places I encounter in normal life.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
5 days ago

In fair Verona.

I don’t think that deep.

But what I’ve found is that some are not exactly as they seem online.

Some are not as confident as they appear, or the opposite.

And there’s obvious catfishing.

I’m not saying anything others haven’t thought of, it’s all there if you have your eyes open.

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