FabSwingers.com forum: Mental Health. For all.

By *inchestersBitch OP Woman
5 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

I'm not sure if I can post the link or mention the website, I'llgive it a go, maybe a mod can advise, or remove if I'm in the wrong.....

I was quietly suffering, I was afraid to talk, I wasnt coping. I reached out when I had nothing left in me.

Now...

I'm quietly coping but realising each day is less of a challenge to get through. Each day I overcome, because I'm still here.

https://sidebyside.mind.org.uk/

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By *r Black 85Man
5 weeks ago

nottingham

Well done you for speaking up and speaking out. This can often be the biggest impediment to recovery. Glad you are getting the help you need.

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By *inchestersBitch OP Woman
5 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

https://giveusashout.org/get-help/resources/mens-mental-health/

In Wales there's lads and dadshttps://www.ladsanddads.org/

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
5 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"I'm not sure if I can post the link or mention the website, I'llgive it a go, maybe a mod can advise, or remove if I'm in the wrong.....

I was quietly suffering, I was afraid to talk, I wasnt coping. I reached out when I had nothing left in me.

Now...

I'm quietly coping but realising each day is less of a challenge to get through. Each day I overcome, because I'm still here.

https://sidebyside.mind.org.uk/

Sending hugs... Your post has actually made me realise that I'm just about bobbing along with my head on the surface of the water and it may not take much for me to drown... Thank you xx

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By *ooleyMan
5 weeks ago

preston

Thanks for the reminder, OP. I should probably sort myself out.

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
5 weeks ago

scunthorpe

Thanks op. This is really handy information, I’m not doing well at the moment.

Donna x

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By *arc1000Man
5 weeks ago

London

One of my favourite lines is, 'I embrace: You have one life, make it a good one.'

Speaking out is choosing to make this life worth it for yourself.

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By *leanshaveMan
5 weeks ago

Golborne

I'm suffering as well

I find talking helps but it's finding the right person to talk too

My wife knows when I start to be off and helps me.

I've been on medication a long time

Which makes my sex life crap

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
5 weeks ago

scunthorpe

"I'm suffering as well

I find talking helps but it's finding the right person to talk too

My wife knows when I start to be off and helps me.

I've been on medication a long time

Which makes my sex life crap"

The medication can be awful for the sex drive can’t it??

I take citalopram but regularly take breaks just so I can feel something again!

When I’m taking it as I should, my mind wants sex, my genitals definitely not. It’s like they make me numb.

Donna x

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By *aughty40sRugbyCouple
5 weeks ago

Rugby

I understand this feeling and have been struggling mentally for a little while now , I will definitely pop over and have a look on this site and hope it has to some effect , it can be so hard when you are struggling and you don't want to be a burden or a let down to your partner so you bottle it up X talking does seem to help x

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By *ooleyMan
5 weeks ago

preston

Wondering how everyone who posted in this thread is doing? Taking steps, making progress..? Any better?

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By *peedyGMan
5 weeks ago

Telford

"Wondering how everyone who posted in this thread is doing? Taking steps, making progress..? Any better? "

Me too pal.... someone here who knows the struggle too.... you guys aren't alone and always feel free to message me if you are needing a chat or anything else

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
5 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

"I'm not sure if I can post the link or mention the website, I'llgive it a go, maybe a mod can advise, or remove if I'm in the wrong.....

I was quietly suffering, I was afraid to talk, I wasnt coping. I reached out when I had nothing left in me.

Now...

I'm quietly coping but realising each day is less of a challenge to get through. Each day I overcome, because I'm still here.

https://sidebyside.mind.org.uk/

One step, one day at a time x

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
5 weeks ago

Gloucester

Thanks for this. Definitely will be reaching out myself.

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By *peedyGMan
5 weeks ago

Telford

"I'm not sure if I can post the link or mention the website, I'llgive it a go, maybe a mod can advise, or remove if I'm in the wrong.....

I was quietly suffering, I was afraid to talk, I wasnt coping. I reached out when I had nothing left in me.

Now...

I'm quietly coping but realising each day is less of a challenge to get through. Each day I overcome, because I'm still here.

https://sidebyside.mind.org.uk/

One step, one day at a time x"

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By *KTim61Man
5 weeks ago

Tipton

You are not on your own, many of us, to keep going, but underneath you know you are not well, but good to talk about your health problems, that's just the start, as I still have problems myself, but with meds to help & being with & talking with people certainly helps

Best wishes & thanks for bringing this subject up

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By *y_journeyMan
5 weeks ago

newark

Remember, it’s okay to not be okay.

Just cause you can’t physically see it, doesn’t mean it’s any less important to ask for help.

I would gladly talk to anyone here about this and what I did to face my demons.

To whom it may concern, you got this! 🙏

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
5 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"Remember, it’s okay to not be okay.

Just cause you can’t physically see it, doesn’t mean it’s any less important to ask for help.

I would gladly talk to anyone here about this and what I did to face my demons.

To whom it may concern, you got this! 🙏

❤️

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By *wang123Man
5 weeks ago

central

This is fab at its best

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By *peedyGMan
5 weeks ago

Telford

"This is fab at its best "

Totally agree pal.... let's look out for each other

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By *ambs MikeMan
5 weeks ago

Cambridge

Really important conversation.

I don’t know much but if anyone wants to chat feel free to message me

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Sending hugs... Your post has actually made me realise that I'm just about bobbing along with my head on the surface of the water and it may not take much for me to drown... Thank you xx"

This hits home. You can so easily just get on with life not realising how close to the edge you really are.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
5 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

Sending hugs... Your post has actually made me realise that I'm just about bobbing along with my head on the surface of the water and it may not take much for me to drown... Thank you xx

This hits home. You can so easily just get on with life not realising how close to the edge you really are. "

Exactly xx

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By *aughtynice78Man
5 weeks ago

Telford

Thank you for speaking up and posting this, it means a lot to talk out loud.

About 2 years ago, I had a massive panic attack whilst in my car. Stumbled into the supermarket, convinced I was having a heart attack. They called an ambulance (an off-duty nurse also thought it was a heart attack).

Several tests and a free ride to the hospital later, they told me I'd had my first panic attack. It has taken a long time, to get back to any kind of normal. Things that used to be my absolute comfort zone, can still be pretty anxiety inducing. But I'm getting there.

Finally have some of my confidence back too, which I lost completely during all of this. 28 1/2 years of serving my country, it felt weird not being able to do things that need a little confidence.

Long story short... well done for reaching out, we all need a little help sometimes, when the train comes off the tracks

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By *idssissyTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

Well done on reaching out.

Six years ago tomorrow I may have no longer existed and ever since have just existed, not truly lived

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By *tevieCDMan
4 weeks ago

Hants

If anyone is suffering try your local Andy’s Man Club, non judge mental and plenty of support.

#it’soknottobeok

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
3 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"I'm not sure if I can post the link or mention the website, I'llgive it a go, maybe a mod can advise, or remove if I'm in the wrong.....

I was quietly suffering, I was afraid to talk, I wasnt coping. I reached out when I had nothing left in me.

Now...

I'm quietly coping but realising each day is less of a challenge to get through. Each day I overcome, because I'm still here.

https://sidebyside.mind.org.uk/

I'm definitely all for taking care of your mental health.

I have to now. it's either that or hospital...medical or psychiatric.

Getting a bit frustrated with how disabling my mental health has been and carries on being but at least I had time off to go to Cap D'adge in France.

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By *nefc69Man
3 weeks ago

preston

"I'm not sure if I can post the link or mention the website, I'llgive it a go, maybe a mod can advise, or remove if I'm in the wrong.....

I was quietly suffering, I was afraid to talk, I wasnt coping. I reached out when I had nothing left in me.

Now...

I'm quietly coping but realising each day is less of a challenge to get through. Each day I overcome, because I'm still here.

https://sidebyside.mind.org.uk/

Always here if anyone needs a friendly chat! It’s okay not to be okay

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
3 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Well done for speaking out. It's a cliche, but It really is ok not to be ok ❤️

We've never spoken, but if you ever want someone to talk to, my inbox is always open x

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By *rookedsmileMan
3 weeks ago

Derbyshire

I hear you all and appreciate you sharing. To be truly listened to is very powerful and to struggle can be so lonely and isolating. If ever anyone wants a chat, I will listen, getting things out, even a small piece of writing on here is very helpful, it gives things a place, a space, disrupts the spinning wheel and brings things to the foredront of your brain.

Total respect to anyone who has posted here.

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By *dventuresWithEveWoman
3 weeks ago

SW Birmingham outskirts

Thanks for this, I'll check out the link. I've been feeling like I'm drowning.

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By *nefc69Man
3 weeks ago

preston

"Thanks for this, I'll check out the link. I've been feeling like I'm drowning."

DM’d you! Just checking in! 🥰

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By *idssissyTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

Often my response to these threads are the same. I don't want to exist but for the sake of others I have to.

While that's still true and I don't know what will change it I am learning to try to do things to enjoy myself even a little bit.

Yesterday I had my first public play at a kink event in years (solo but public) and I've booked a gig for one of my favourite bands

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By *anyaTgirlTV/TS
3 weeks ago

manchester

Trying to find space for me in the real world is soooo difficult

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By *lasticpaddy1Man
3 weeks ago

Athlone

"I'm not sure if I can post the link or mention the website, I'llgive it a go, maybe a mod can advise, or remove if I'm in the wrong.....

I was quietly suffering, I was afraid to talk, I wasnt coping. I reached out when I had nothing left in me.

Now...

I'm quietly coping but realising each day is less of a challenge to get through. Each day I overcome, because I'm still here.

https://sidebyside.mind.org.uk/

Thank you for this too many of us not in a good head space stay silent and try to deal with it alone

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By *ools and the brainCouple
3 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

I'm going to attend Andysmanclub tonight for the first time.

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By *nefc69Man
3 weeks ago

preston

Always feel free to say hello 👌🏻

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By *idssissyTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

"I'm going to attend Andysmanclub tonight for the first time.

Good luck

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By *onjon123Man
3 weeks ago

Merthyr Tydfil

Hi all i won't go into details (who needs enemies when you've got family to physically and mentally fuck you up eh?)but i feel like I'm struggling lately to see the point in being here, so definatly going to give those site a hit and hopefully find some coping mechanisms or something

This thread is much appreciated op

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By *ools and the brainCouple
3 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

"Hi all i won't go into details (who needs enemies when you've got family to physically and mentally fuck you up eh?)but i feel like I'm struggling lately to see the point in being here, so definatly going to give those site a hit and hopefully find some coping mechanisms or something

This thread is much appreciated op"

Google andysmanclub in your area, Monday night.

Don't suffer alone,a problem shared.

Failing that the Samaritans are only ever a phone call away.

Good luck and don't give in .

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By *onjon123Man
3 weeks ago

Merthyr Tydfil

This thread is much appreciated op

Google andysmanclub in your area, Monday night.

Don't suffer alone,a problem shared.

Failing that the Samaritans are only ever a phone call away.

Good luck and don't give in ."

Thank you

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