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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

Honest opinions i find it hard to believe that it doesnt bother someone at all but i could be wrong.

Do you feel you deal with it well, do you internalise it or externalise it.

Would you change your attitude towards someone if it was a polite no or not right now - i get that you would change somewhat in terms of effort and interest but would you make it clearly evident if you came across them on here.

Ive found lately a few nasty sarc comments if they happen to come across me in a thread which is fine let people do them i can get over it but it just got me thinking about how i deal with it.

Ive been rejected/its a polite no lots of times just like others and i find that although it can be dissappointing i would still be able to share a friendly comment if i came across them in a thread or passing.

Sorry for the long rendition of my thoughts im just having a reflective saturday.

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By *exytimeCoolMan
3 weeks ago

swadlincote

Its never nice be turned down but have think they chose and you have brush it off because its best way nobody should dwell on being not right for someone. I been told few times i just say no problem x

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By *emptme1993Man
3 weeks ago

manchester

I’ve been rejected more times than I can remember, for me I accept it pretty much straight away, might think to myself ‘would of been a good time with them but oh well’ and move on with my time. Time is way too short to hold a grudge against someone for not wanting me

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By *exyInLatinMan
3 weeks ago

Warsop

It does depend on the rejection i think, but it is tough. On here doesn't really bother me because people don't really know me but if its IRL it does hurt a lot more!

I usually try to switch off and get out away from people as my coping mechanism for most things!

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By *eordieJeansCouple
3 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It doesn’t feel nice but I put my big boy pants on and get on with it.

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By *ad NannaWoman
3 weeks ago

East London

It wouldn't bother me at all.

Maybe because I'm not hungry for sex and already have the sex I like, with men I find very attractive.

I'm not that bothered about not having sex at the moment.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
3 weeks ago

Manchester

If they're nice about it then I'm perfectly happy to be nice and pleasant to eachother, even be friends. I'll probably be a bit embarrassed if I am honest, but I'd NEVER be snarky or butthurt in public that is really pathetic, entitled behaviour.

If they were a dick/horrible about it and humiliated me, I'd just block and blank them. If they were being a dick on here I'd call them out about it. They're clearly just a horrid person.

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By *Clem-Fandango-Woman
3 weeks ago

Yarm

I remind myself of reasons I've rejected other people and think, not everyone floats my boat. It doesn't always necessarily need to feel so personal. Sometimes I just don't feel that spark of attraction.

One person's trash is another person's treasure, so I dust myself off and focus on what I'm attracted too.

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By *eardedguy83Man
3 weeks ago

Worcestershire

When you get to my age you’ve had plenty of of practice to deal with rejection. It still stings a bit, especially if the rejection comes with a nasty or spiteful comment. But I always brush myself down and move on. This attitude has served me well into my 6th decade 😂

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

It's just one of those things you suck up and move on from as far as I'm aware.

If someone isn't into me that way then that's that. There's no arguing or debating them into suddenly being attracted to me.

If we were friends before, I'd continue to be a friend and keep my lust in check until I'd processed that they weren't interested, at which point it would be happily in check by itself as the idea of being with someone who doesn't want to be with me is not hot. Unless they specifically stated that they weren't comfortable with the friendship after knowing that I had wanted them that way.

If it was just a quick casual hey wanna fuck somewhere appropriate for that approach, I'd still be civil to them in passing, but wouldn't go out of my way to try to make it anything more than two people who happen to sometimes exist in the same space 💜

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
3 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

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By *exyInLatinMan
3 weeks ago

Warsop


"I remind myself of reasons I've rejected other people and think, not everyone floats my boat. It doesn't always necessarily need to feel so personal. Sometimes I just don't feel that spark of attraction.

One person's trash is another person's treasure, so I dust myself off and focus on what I'm attracted too.

"

100%

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By *exy RexyMan
3 weeks ago

Up North

I get the last laugh by having a self pity tribute wank over their photos, wipe my phone screen clean and then forget about them.

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By *arkdawsonMan
3 weeks ago

santry

On here ? Ignore it and move on your stunning you won’t be ever stuck for options on fab

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By *ant...stay...awayCouple
3 weeks ago

South Wales

Dipping into the forums, especially the'swipe right, swipe left' ones, exposes you to others being blunt and judging you purely on looks, but if people see them as anything other than a bit of fun, then they are going to find judgement difficult.

Fab-life has to be taken with a huge pinch of salt - it's a bit of fun. You can't be everyone's cup of tea, and anything else is a bonus x

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
3 weeks ago

Stourbridge

Just move on. No point moaning.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
3 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

The sarcy comments are simply proof of the immaturity to handle situations.

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

Oh i love all of these comments.

I feel i deal with rejection well and dont take it personally i think my issue is more probably the hope that people would continue to be a nice person afterwards when its the other way around.

But so often that doesnt seem to be the case ... maybe i need to give myself a shake and stop being so caffy hearted 🤷‍♀️

For all my brazeness and fiestiness i can be a little soft sometimes... but shhh dont tell anybody

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
3 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Rejection doesn't bother me im the least and I will tell you why we get rejected all through life, not being picked for the rounders team, your best friend falling out with you, not picked to be mary in the school nativity. All forms of rejection, then you start secondary school and the same happens not picked for sport or gaining an achievement. Failing exams so being rejected by uni. Then im adulthood not getting the job you really wanted.

Relationships, how many of us have been rejected by the boy.or girl they had a crush on.

Most people dont think twice about this kind of rejection or if they have a meltdown everytime they've had rejection in life they are going to make themselves ill.

So coming to fab, the majority are looking for people to have sex in one way or another, we are not matched with everyone and your going to be miserable if you can't face rejection.

Why is it only when a man or woman are rejected sexually it becomes a problem. Some people need to grow up and act their age

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By *hastity_roseTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Nowhere

I'm used to it

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By *antricSeeker60Man
3 weeks ago

Durham

Ah, rejection! It's like getting served a cold pizza—when you weren't expecting it, but you move on and order a new one. Just remember, every "no" is just a stepping stone to a better "yes." Keep your chin up and your legs open! 🍕😄

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
3 weeks ago

stanley


"Honest opinions i find it hard to believe that it doesnt bother someone at all but i could be wrong.

Do you feel you deal with it well, do you internalise it or externalise it.

Would you change your attitude towards someone if it was a polite no or not right now - i get that you would change somewhat in terms of effort and interest but would you make it clearly evident if you came across them on here.

Ive found lately a few nasty sarc comments if they happen to come across me in a thread which is fine let people do them i can get over it but it just got me thinking about how i deal with it.

Ive been rejected/its a polite no lots of times just like others and i find that although it can be dissappointing i would still be able to share a friendly comment if i came across them in a thread or passing.

Sorry for the long rendition of my thoughts im just having a reflective saturday."

It’s just part of life and I’ve learned that stressing over things that are completely out of my control leads to a dark path. Obviously a polite no thank you is easier to deal with than a “ f**k off you’re fugly” but try and treat them the same, see if there is any learning that can be gained from the experience and move on.

If I can offer one bit of advice? You have a lot going for you, not only are you v attractive but from other threads it’s clear you’re good fun with a cracking sense of humour. So be kind to yourself, your worth is not based on the opinions of other people

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By *hunky GentMan
3 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

Ive had enough rejections in here to sink a battleship.

My thick skin can handle most things.

But (IMO) being ghosted is worse. At least have the balls to say 'get lost fatty'

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

It might sting for a day but I'm usually over it the next day unless I've invested time and energy into that person. I don't forget it though.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
3 weeks ago

North West

It depends is my very helpful answer. I can be prone to RSD which makes rejection physically painful so I don’t tend to put myself out there unless I’m fairly sure of a yes. And because I can feel it deeply I struggle with rejecting others. I’ll tend to deflect.

I might not have even answered the question here. I start typing and the tangents happen 🤣

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
3 weeks ago

Gloucester

On here it doesn’t bother me, I know I am not everyone’s cup of tea.

I’ve learned to not take it personally, when I first joined fab years ago it did used to bother me but you get used to it.

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"It depends is my very helpful answer. I can be prone to RSD which makes rejection physically painful so I don’t tend to put myself out there unless I’m fairly sure of a yes. And because I can feel it deeply I struggle with rejecting others. I’ll tend to deflect.

I might not have even answered the question here. I start typing and the tangents happen 🤣"

No you really have i was just interested in different opinions.. although i do feel the context of what i was getting at has been misconstrued i am not saying that i massively struggle with rejection im saying i struggle with awkward sometimes unkind interactions after this

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By *rysexual T-rexMan
3 weeks ago

stoke-on-trent

Every has there own type and preferences and the right say no thanks

There is loads of couples/trans etc on here that I would love to message but sadly on there profile, with it being age or my beard or else I'm not what there looking for

And I think it would disrespectful and rude not respect that

Equally I have what I'm looking for on my profile

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By *peedyGMan
3 weeks ago

Telford

Rejection obviously isn't nice but i do expect it more often than not on here.

I'm grown up enough to accept it and would continue to interact with said person in a respectful manner.

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By *exyInLatinMan
3 weeks ago

Warsop


"It depends is my very helpful answer. I can be prone to RSD which makes rejection physically painful so I don’t tend to put myself out there unless I’m fairly sure of a yes. And because I can feel it deeply I struggle with rejecting others. I’ll tend to deflect.

I might not have even answered the question here. I start typing and the tangents happen 🤣

No you really have i was just interested in different opinions.. although i do feel the context of what i was getting at has been misconstrued i am not saying that i massively struggle with rejection im saying i struggle with awkward sometimes unkind interactions after this "

Think thats very normal, i just struggle with awkward interactions regardless of rejection

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"It depends is my very helpful answer. I can be prone to RSD which makes rejection physically painful so I don’t tend to put myself out there unless I’m fairly sure of a yes. And because I can feel it deeply I struggle with rejecting others. I’ll tend to deflect.

I might not have even answered the question here. I start typing and the tangents happen 🤣

No you really have i was just interested in different opinions.. although i do feel the context of what i was getting at has been misconstrued i am not saying that i massively struggle with rejection im saying i struggle with awkward sometimes unkind interactions after this

Think thats very normal, i just struggle with awkward interactions regardless of rejection "

Yeah this is a given .. i was more meaning the change in attitude but👍

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By *peedyGMan
3 weeks ago

Telford


"It might sting for a day but I'm usually over it the next day unless I've invested time and energy into that person. I don't forget it though."

Im similar to this on how i deal with it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex

I don't deliberately put myself in the way of rejection but if it happens I feel miffed for a day or so then carry on as before

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By *eathcliffMan
3 weeks ago

Cardiff

For me, I used to take rejection quite hard. I’d internalise it, sometimes too much. But over time — and often only in hindsight — I started to see a pattern: rejection almost always led me somewhere better. Not instantly, and not without a sting, but eventually. That was a big shift in mindset.

It might sound counterintuitive, but I’ve come to try and embrace rejection, use it as a fuel, or at least not fear it. Life without rejection is a fantasy. And if you can take it with a bit of grace, I honestly believe it’s quite liberating.

That said, I still feel it. I'm human. A kind “no” or “not right now” still registers — but I wouldn’t hold it against someone, and try to act with good grace and dignity. Like you, I’d still be happy to leave a friendly comment or nod if I saw them around. Not everything needs to be personal.

I’ve noticed those sarcastic digs too at times — people weaponising a moment of quiet rejection or difference. It says more about them than it does about us.

And I love this quote: “If you live for people’s acceptance, you’ll die from their rejection.” That one stayed with me.

So yes — reflect away. I think you’re handling it with far more grace than most.

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"For me, I used to take rejection quite hard. I’d internalise it, sometimes too much. But over time — and often only in hindsight — I started to see a pattern: rejection almost always led me somewhere better. Not instantly, and not without a sting, but eventually. That was a big shift in mindset.

It might sound counterintuitive, but I’ve come to try and embrace rejection, use it as a fuel, or at least not fear it. Life without rejection is a fantasy. And if you can take it with a bit of grace, I honestly believe it’s quite liberating.

That said, I still feel it. I'm human. A kind “no” or “not right now” still registers — but I wouldn’t hold it against someone, and try to act with good grace and dignity. Like you, I’d still be happy to leave a friendly comment or nod if I saw them around. Not everything needs to be personal.

I’ve noticed those sarcastic digs too at times — people weaponising a moment of quiet rejection or difference. It says more about them than it does about us.

And I love this quote: “If you live for people’s acceptance, you’ll die from their rejection.” That one stayed with me.

So yes — reflect away. I think you’re handling it with far more grace than most."

I love this comment. Thank you ❤️ and such a lovely way to put it too

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"Ive had enough rejections in here to sink a battleship.

My thick skin can handle most things.

But (IMO) being ghosted is worse. At least have the balls to say 'get lost fatty' "

And how do you define a ghost?

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By *eliWoman
3 weeks ago

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Hey Op. I've read the op and I'm going to take it in a slightly different direction to most posters.

If someone is bitchy, rude or whatever else after I've said no to meeting/ seeing them again, it confirms that they weren't the right person for me. Generally I like to be friendly towards people and sometimes people have said disappointingly cruel things after I've said no thank you.

And that stings for a little bit and then I remember that hurt people hurt others. We're not compatible. Sometimes I've snapped back because I'm flawed. Not my finest moment and I wish I hadn't. If we've never met it's easier to ignore. I think perhaps people become overinvested in the ideal? Or maybe they're *led* on, not deliberately.

People are complicated.

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By *imale46ukMan
3 weeks ago

chesterfield derbyshire

Hello all iam ok with it .

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"Hey Op. I've read the op and I'm going to take it in a slightly different direction to most posters.

If someone is bitchy, rude or whatever else after I've said no to meeting/ seeing them again, it confirms that they weren't the right person for me. Generally I like to be friendly towards people and sometimes people have said disappointingly cruel things after I've said no thank you.

And that stings for a little bit and then I remember that hurt people hurt others. We're not compatible. Sometimes I've snapped back because I'm flawed. Not my finest moment and I wish I hadn't. If we've never met it's easier to ignore. I think perhaps people become overinvested in the ideal? Or maybe they're *led* on, not deliberately.

People are complicated."

Thanks _eli ❤️ you are probably right i maybe just need to be less affected by other peoples reactions and put my big girl pants on.

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By *ugar dayMan
3 weeks ago

London


"On here it doesn’t bother me, I know I am not everyone’s cup of tea.

I’ve learned to not take it personally, when I first joined fab years ago it did used to bother me but you get used to it. "

You are my cup of tea hunny. With sugar and cream.

Feel free to reject me in public. I can handle it.

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By *hunky GentMan
3 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford


"Ive had enough rejections in here to sink a battleship.

My thick skin can handle most things.

But (IMO) being ghosted is worse. At least have the balls to say 'get lost fatty'

And how do you define a ghost?"

Someone who completely ignores you - treats you as if your not real (a ghost).

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By *ittleLiaisonsWoman
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

I genuinely don't get bothered by it as its only natural we can't be everyone's cup of tea. But I do think its because of how I view myself and how secure I am with who I am, how I look and what I bring to the table.

The older me was harder on myself, lacked self-esteem and took other people's opinions on board way too much. I'm not saying thats the case for everyone but if rejection stirs up a lot of emotions, there's usually work we need to do on ourselves, its rarely about the other person.

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By *ndymac888Man
3 weeks ago

Dumbarton

In real life ?

Depends on my actual feelings if a woman I met in a bar that night rejected me I would be fine with it, but if it was someone I was in love with quietly the rejection would sting a lot but it my problem to deal with it.

On Fab, well that’s 90% of interactions and I’m indifferent unless I thought we were really compatible but she didn’t even read the bad boy 😂😂 slightly annoying but I’ve not once sent a repeat message.

The woman that have the most success on Fab have no fear of rejection they don’t let anyone contact them, they pic the profile they like and engage.

It’s unlikely with your profile you would get a flat out rejection, we don’t get enough messages that we wouldn’t at least give you chance to tell us why you think we would be a match.

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By *hunky GentMan
3 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

But let's face it.

Once you got over the initial rejection this site is big enough to avoid most interactions.

Personally - I try to avoid those that don't like me or I don't like them.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
3 weeks ago

Leeds

Rejection on fab doesn't phase me in the slightest, everyone isn't attracted to everyone and that's ok.

Rejection in the real world would depend on what it was and how invested I was.

Mrs

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"But let's face it.

Once you got over the initial rejection this site is big enough to avoid most interactions.

Personally - I try to avoid those that don't like me or I don't like them. "

Ghosting?

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By *hunky GentMan
3 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford


"But let's face it.

Once you got over the initial rejection this site is big enough to avoid most interactions.

Personally - I try to avoid those that don't like me or I don't like them.

Ghosting? "

Not quite - it's i said - "got over the initial rejection"

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

Thanks for all the comments but again this is NOT me saying i struggle with rejection 🤣🤷‍♀️ i really need to think about how i word things.

Does it sting yes!

Am i able to immediately dust myself off and move on from it also YES

But thanks for all the contributions

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By *eliWoman
3 weeks ago

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"Hey Op. I've read the op and I'm going to take it in a slightly different direction to most posters.

If someone is bitchy, rude or whatever else after I've said no to meeting/ seeing them again, it confirms that they weren't the right person for me. Generally I like to be friendly towards people and sometimes people have said disappointingly cruel things after I've said no thank you.

And that stings for a little bit and then I remember that hurt people hurt others. We're not compatible. Sometimes I've snapped back because I'm flawed. Not my finest moment and I wish I hadn't. If we've never met it's easier to ignore. I think perhaps people become overinvested in the ideal? Or maybe they're *led* on, not deliberately.

People are complicated.

Thanks _eli ❤️ you are probably right i maybe just need to be less affected by other peoples reactions and put my big girl pants on.

"

You can't control someone's response to you sadly. I don't think rejecting someone is about them so much as it is about you (the general you) - if you're polite in response, carry on as you are. You're doing far better than me. Don't let it take up too much headspace. 🩷

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By *hunky GentMan
3 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford


"Thanks for all the comments but again this is NOT me saying i struggle with rejection 🤣🤷‍♀️ i really need to think about how i word things.

Does it sting yes!

Am i able to immediately dust myself off and move on from it also YES

But thanks for all the contributions"

Sending hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

As you get older it's no big deal, it's only a matter of nothing ventured nothing gained

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By *hoenix_1Man
3 weeks ago

richmond

As an older single man, I am used to it here, when I get a reply saying no, I simply send a message Back saying,

No worries and good luck to them

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By *emptme1993Man
3 weeks ago

manchester


"Thanks for all the comments but again this is NOT me saying i struggle with rejection 🤣🤷‍♀️ i really need to think about how i word things.

Does it sting yes!

Am i able to immediately dust myself off and move on from it also YES

But thanks for all the contributions"

Are you sure, I thought you were the type to be upset over it for 3 months? If you ever need a shoulder to cry on or a dick to…. 🤣🤣

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By *peedyGMan
3 weeks ago

Telford


"Thanks for all the comments but again this is NOT me saying i struggle with rejection 🤣🤷‍♀️ i really need to think about how i word things.

Does it sting yes!

Am i able to immediately dust myself off and move on from it also YES

But thanks for all the contributions"

The right attitude, dust yourself off and move on

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By *lirty_fit2Couple
3 weeks ago

Northumberland

Rejection is part of life, be it a job interview or brush off by a person of interest. It's never easy. It wouldn't bother me on here, but it would in real life, but I am equipped to deal with it 😊

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By *aphunterMan
3 weeks ago

woking


"Hey Op. I've read the op and I'm going to take it in a slightly different direction to most posters.

If someone is bitchy, rude or whatever else after I've said no to meeting/ seeing them again, it confirms that they weren't the right person for me. Generally I like to be friendly towards people and sometimes people have said disappointingly cruel things after I've said no thank you.

And that stings for a little bit and then I remember that hurt people hurt others. We're not compatible. Sometimes I've snapped back because I'm flawed. Not my finest moment and I wish I hadn't. If we've never met it's easier to ignore. I think perhaps people become overinvested in the ideal? Or maybe they're *led* on, not deliberately.

People are complicated.

Thanks _eli ❤️ you are probably right i maybe just need to be less affected by other peoples reactions and put my big girl pants on.

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I’d rather feel than not to, it’s shows you are a gorgeous human being. There are lots of people who can’t feel emotion. I know who I would rather be. When people say mean things it’s natural to be affected by it. I’ve seen you handle people very well in forums, polite and witty, which is hard to do! I got banned for 24 hours on one occasion as i went into a head spin for you and called the guy out in defence on your behalf. What does this show about me? I don’t like bullies and probably just need to ignore them on here. I do have a habit of calling out people who are mean. Most people wouldn’t have the balls to say the things they say on here if you were face to face. Xx

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I don't initiate an approach, so I don't get rejected. Lucky for them.

🗡🔨⛏🗝🏹⛓🔧

⚰

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"Thanks for all the comments but again this is NOT me saying i struggle with rejection 🤣🤷‍♀️ i really need to think about how i word things.

Does it sting yes!

Am i able to immediately dust myself off and move on from it also YES

But thanks for all the contributions

Are you sure, I thought you were the type to be upset over it for 3 months? If you ever need a shoulder to cry on or a dick to…. 🤣🤣"

Months? Years you mean!! 🤣🤣🤣👀

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By *aphunterMan
3 weeks ago

woking


"I don't initiate an approach, so I don't get rejected. Lucky for them.

🗡🔨⛏🗝🏹⛓🔧

⚰"

Those imogis have been used before this thread haven’t they 😆 😊

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"Hey Op. I've read the op and I'm going to take it in a slightly different direction to most posters.

If someone is bitchy, rude or whatever else after I've said no to meeting/ seeing them again, it confirms that they weren't the right person for me. Generally I like to be friendly towards people and sometimes people have said disappointingly cruel things after I've said no thank you.

And that stings for a little bit and then I remember that hurt people hurt others. We're not compatible. Sometimes I've snapped back because I'm flawed. Not my finest moment and I wish I hadn't. If we've never met it's easier to ignore. I think perhaps people become overinvested in the ideal? Or maybe they're *led* on, not deliberately.

People are complicated.

Thanks _eli ❤️ you are probably right i maybe just need to be less affected by other peoples reactions and put my big girl pants on.

I’d rather feel than not to, it’s shows you are a gorgeous human being. There are lots of people who can’t feel emotion. I know who I would rather be. When people say mean things it’s natural to be affected by it. I’ve seen you handle people very well in forums, polite and witty, which is hard to do! I got banned for 24 hours on one occasion as i went into a head spin for you and called the guy out in defence on your behalf. What does this show about me? I don’t like bullies and probably just need to ignore them on here. I do have a habit of calling out people who are mean. Most people wouldn’t have the balls to say the things they say on here if you were face to face. Xx"

Because you sir are a top gent alongside a top _aphunter! And i salute you 🫡 x

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By *layfullsamMan
3 weeks ago

Solihull

If you aren't getting rejected occasionally, your goals aren't ambitious enough.

Not just relationships but life in general

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By *exy RexyMan
3 weeks ago

Up North

Who would like to be my next rejection?

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By *aphunterMan
3 weeks ago

woking


"Hey Op. I've read the op and I'm going to take it in a slightly different direction to most posters.

If someone is bitchy, rude or whatever else after I've said no to meeting/ seeing them again, it confirms that they weren't the right person for me. Generally I like to be friendly towards people and sometimes people have said disappointingly cruel things after I've said no thank you.

And that stings for a little bit and then I remember that hurt people hurt others. We're not compatible. Sometimes I've snapped back because I'm flawed. Not my finest moment and I wish I hadn't. If we've never met it's easier to ignore. I think perhaps people become overinvested in the ideal? Or maybe they're *led* on, not deliberately.

People are complicated.

Thanks _eli ❤️ you are probably right i maybe just need to be less affected by other peoples reactions and put my big girl pants on.

I’d rather feel than not to, it’s shows you are a gorgeous human being. There are lots of people who can’t feel emotion. I know who I would rather be. When people say mean things it’s natural to be affected by it. I’ve seen you handle people very well in forums, polite and witty, which is hard to do! I got banned for 24 hours on one occasion as i went into a head spin for you and called the guy out in defence on your behalf. What does this show about me? I don’t like bullies and probably just need to ignore them on here. I do have a habit of calling out people who are mean. Most people wouldn’t have the balls to say the things they say on here if you were face to face. Xx

Because you sir are a top gent alongside a top _aphunter! And i salute you 🫡 x"

Blushing now…quick think of something witty..can’t 🤣🤣

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By *lexm87Man
3 weeks ago

Various


"Thanks for all the comments but again this is NOT me saying i struggle with rejection 🤣🤷‍♀️ i really need to think about how i word things.

Does it sting yes!

Am i able to immediately dust myself off and move on from it also YES

But thanks for all the contributions"

It's the constant rejection though. The utter inability to make any connection, regardless of the number of times you change/improve yourself, that grinds you down through self-pity, and into bitterness.

Yes, you can leave here, but the rejection continues.

For the millionth time you put on your brave face and help others, then go home to find the loneliness waiting, judging you in the dark.

Thankfully, there are threads like this where we can share a little and find the tiny bit of resilience that gets us to tomorrow.

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By *TRAY-CATMan
3 weeks ago

DD

Its par for the course.. if you can't take rejection then you shouldn't be on here .. everyone knows it's a bummer to get rejected , but you grin and bare it and get on with it

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
3 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

Set no expectations and you can't be disappointed...

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By *emptme1993Man
3 weeks ago

manchester


"Thanks for all the comments but again this is NOT me saying i struggle with rejection 🤣🤷‍♀️ i really need to think about how i word things.

Does it sting yes!

Am i able to immediately dust myself off and move on from it also YES

But thanks for all the contributions

Are you sure, I thought you were the type to be upset over it for 3 months? If you ever need a shoulder to cry on or a dick to…. 🤣🤣

Months? Years you mean!! 🤣🤣🤣👀

"

I never put a time limit on you 🤣🤣

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By *aphunterMan
3 weeks ago

woking


"Thanks for all the comments but again this is NOT me saying i struggle with rejection 🤣🤷‍♀️ i really need to think about how i word things.

Does it sting yes!

Am i able to immediately dust myself off and move on from it also YES

But thanks for all the contributions

It's the constant rejection though. The utter inability to make any connection, regardless of the number of times you change/improve yourself, that grinds you down through self-pity, and into bitterness.

Yes, you can leave here, but the rejection continues.

For the millionth time you put on your brave face and help others, then go home to find the loneliness waiting, judging you in the dark.

Thankfully, there are threads like this where we can share a little and find the tiny bit of resilience that gets us to tomorrow. "

I hear you, perhaps focus on your happiness in a different way. Search up Ikigai (finding one's purpose) it’s a Japanese thing. Bear with me! My point is that if you find your true purpose in life then you will meet people along the way for share the same passions. Then you won’t have to change yourself. Xx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
3 weeks ago

little house on the praire


"Thanks for all the comments but again this is NOT me saying i struggle with rejection 🤣🤷‍♀️ i really need to think about how i word things.

Does it sting yes!

Am i able to immediately dust myself off and move on from it also YES

But thanks for all the contributions

It's the constant rejection though. The utter inability to make any connection, regardless of the number of times you change/improve yourself, that grinds you down through self-pity, and into bitterness.

Yes, you can leave here, but the rejection continues.

For the millionth time you put on your brave face and help others, then go home to find the loneliness waiting, judging you in the dark.

Thankfully, there are threads like this where we can share a little and find the tiny bit of resilience that gets us to tomorrow. "
you could do a lot to help yourself

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By *P_80Man
3 weeks ago

Waterford

Generally for me, I it feels like going to the shop to find that they don't have what I'm looking for.

I was watching a video recently about things our brains hang onto for survival.

One of them is a negative feeling regarding rejection.

It explained that when we lived in tribes way back when, being rejected from the tribe meant almost certain death. So we are programmed to have a need, or want, to be accepted.

The problem is that our modern brains can't differentiate between a life and death situation or a minor inconvenience regarding rejection, so we have an uncontrollable negative feeling when we get rejected.

Some people handle it better than others, but in general, everyone feels a negative emotion when rejected.

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By *umagain58Man
3 weeks ago

London

I get used to it on here and does not really bother me. What all should consider is the impact on others. It’s fine to reject them if they are not for you or what looking for. However there is no need to be hurtful or unkind when you do. Please be more considerate the impact your comments might have on others.

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"Its par for the course.. if you can't take rejection then you shouldn't be on here .. everyone knows it's a bummer to get rejected , but you grin and bare it and get on with it "

Ok just off to delete my profile because you said so 👍

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By *aphunterMan
3 weeks ago

woking


"Its par for the course.. if you can't take rejection then you shouldn't be on here .. everyone knows it's a bummer to get rejected , but you grin and bare it and get on with it

Ok just off to delete my profile because you said so 👍"

Don’t get banned, don’t get banned Baphunter!

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By *rHotNottsMan
3 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If I am chatting to someone and I can feel that there is no chemistry there , or maybe that the timing is just not quite right for one of us , then I just won’t progress it, so there is no rejection as such.

I don’t understand people complaining they keep getting rejected. What are you doing messaging with your dick?

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"Its par for the course.. if you can't take rejection then you shouldn't be on here .. everyone knows it's a bummer to get rejected , but you grin and bare it and get on with it

Ok just off to delete my profile because you said so 👍

Don’t get banned, don’t get banned Baphunter!"

Nooooooo donttttt who else with laser vision would be able to correctly identify boob sizes ... we need you!! 🤣

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"If I am chatting to someone and I can feel that there is no chemistry there , or maybe that the timing is just not quite right for one of us , then I just won’t progress it, so there is no rejection as such.

I don’t understand people complaining they keep getting rejected. What are you doing messaging with your dick?"

And this is the way it should be 👌

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By *andyman65Man
3 weeks ago

Chippenham

As a man on Fab, you are totally outnumbered and if you don’t accept rejection, why be here.

Even if you are a drop dead handsome hung like a horse fella, there’s no guarantee you’ll float a lady’s boat!

The only time it irks is when instead of a polite thanks but no thanks you get abused for your efforts in asking the question to initiate a conversation. Fortunately these instances are few and far between.

The other thing that does grind is when you’re having a nice conversation then without rhyme or reason find yourself blocked, never understood that one!

P

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By *aphunterMan
3 weeks ago

woking


"Its par for the course.. if you can't take rejection then you shouldn't be on here .. everyone knows it's a bummer to get rejected , but you grin and bare it and get on with it

Ok just off to delete my profile because you said so 👍

Don’t get banned, don’t get banned Baphunter!

Nooooooo donttttt who else with laser vision would be able to correctly identify boob sizes ... we need you!! 🤣"

It’s actually very quiet on the Boob sizing this afternoon, probably because they are all outside and I’ll have a wave of them later…mmmmmm

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By *eyedwillyMan
3 weeks ago

Bedford

I'd have to say it depends on how I'm rejected

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By *ister SmoothMan
3 weeks ago

Bramhall

"It ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done."

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By *ealitybitesMan
3 weeks ago

Belfast

I've never really had the type of conversations on fab that could lead to me being rejected so I can't say I've experienced it here.

When I was much younger I was rejected quite a few times and it wasn't easy to deal with for various reasons.

Over the years on fab I've had probably twice as many offers that I've turned down than those I've accepted.

Most of those I've said no to have been fine about it and just moved on.

Some have been rejected because of the demands in their introductory message and when I've refused they have turned nasty with threats to end my time on fab because of who they know and the circles they swing in.

I actually find those reactions quite funny.

In general though most conversations don't lead in that direction.

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By *eneralKenobiMan
3 weeks ago

North Angus

“No bother, have yourself and awesome day” then I carry on with my life

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By *enda83Man
3 weeks ago

newcastle

I don’t ever chase or make first move so don’t know how would deal with it ha

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
3 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh


"I don’t ever chase or make first move so don’t know how would deal with it ha "

Me neither 🤣

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania


"I don't initiate an approach, so I don't get rejected. Lucky for them.

🗡🔨⛏🗝🏹⛓🔧

⚰

Those imogis have been used before this thread haven’t they 😆 😊"

I couldn't possibly comment.

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By *eroLondonMan
3 weeks ago

Mayfair

I hadn't really thought about this until I read this thread, or at the very least considered the notion of having been rejected. That's not a form of arrogance but I've never had conversations where someone has said "no thank you" or "not for me" or similar messages of regret. In my case conversations simply fizzle out or decay if the interactions are perfunctory.

It's not always clear who's 'fizzled' who in my case; the conversations die out on their own mutual accord or by natural attrition.

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
3 weeks ago

Perpignan and cap

I kinda just shrug it off and move on. Not a bother, fair enough type of deal.

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By *KloganMan
3 weeks ago

Ramsbottom

My corner of Fab is a pretty small one anyway. I tend to enjoy the conversations, adventures and experiences I have, I keep my expectations low which minimises everything..

I guess the point I’m making is why worry about something you can’t change? Especially when there’s soo much that you can..

One rejection is someone else’s opportunity. 🫶🏻💪

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By *2000ManMan
3 weeks ago

Worthing

Instantly dismiss them from my mind. Prior to that I am "full on" but I move on very easliy once I get a no.

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By *arl50Man
3 weeks ago

Sheffield


"Honest opinions i find it hard to believe that it doesnt bother someone at all but i could be wrong.

Do you feel you deal with it well, do you internalise it or externalise it.

Would you change your attitude towards someone if it was a polite no or not right now - i get that you would change somewhat in terms of effort and interest but would you make it clearly evident if you came across them on here.

Ive found lately a few nasty sarc comments if they happen to come across me in a thread which is fine let people do them i can get over it but it just got me thinking about how i deal with it.

Ive been rejected/its a polite no lots of times just like others and i find that although it can be dissappointing i would still be able to share a friendly comment if i came across them in a thread or passing.

Sorry for the long rendition of my thoughts im just having a reflective saturday."

I doubt you get rejection that often. I read profiles from women who state they have said no to men and that they get nasty with comments. That definitely is shame on any man who thinks that they are in the right to do that to anyone let alone a woman.

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"Honest opinions i find it hard to believe that it doesnt bother someone at all but i could be wrong.

Do you feel you deal with it well, do you internalise it or externalise it.

Would you change your attitude towards someone if it was a polite no or not right now - i get that you would change somewhat in terms of effort and interest but would you make it clearly evident if you came across them on here.

Ive found lately a few nasty sarc comments if they happen to come across me in a thread which is fine let people do them i can get over it but it just got me thinking about how i deal with it.

Ive been rejected/its a polite no lots of times just like others and i find that although it can be dissappointing i would still be able to share a friendly comment if i came across them in a thread or passing.

Sorry for the long rendition of my thoughts im just having a reflective saturday.

I doubt you get rejection that often. I read profiles from women who state they have said no to men and that they get nasty with comments. That definitely is shame on any man who thinks that they are in the right to do that to anyone let alone a woman. "

Why not? I am no different to anyone else but again this wasnt about me being rejected not being rejected it was more about how other people feel about it. But yes i agree noone man or woman should have to deal with abuse because someone does not feel attracted to them.

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By *eckard25Man
3 weeks ago

North West Durham

Say "it's your loss" and then go off and cry.

Not really, but I do internalise it. I avoided approaching people for fear of rejection when I was younger as a result. I'm a bit more relaxed about it now.

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"Say "it's your loss" and then go off and cry.

Not really, but I do internalise it. I avoided approaching people for fear of rejection when I was younger as a result. I'm a bit more relaxed about it now. "

Its ok i will console you ... when i stop crying too... apparently 🤣🤷‍♀️

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By *arl50Man
3 weeks ago

Sheffield


"Honest opinions i find it hard to believe that it doesnt bother someone at all but i could be wrong.

Do you feel you deal with it well, do you internalise it or externalise it.

Would you change your attitude towards someone if it was a polite no or not right now - i get that you would change somewhat in terms of effort and interest but would you make it clearly evident if you came across them on here.

Ive found lately a few nasty sarc comments if they happen to come across me in a thread which is fine let people do them i can get over it but it just got me thinking about how i deal with it.

Ive been rejected/its a polite no lots of times just like others and i find that although it can be dissappointing i would still be able to share a friendly comment if i came across them in a thread or passing.

Sorry for the long rendition of my thoughts im just having a reflective saturday.

I doubt you get rejection that often. I read profiles from women who state they have said no to men and that they get nasty with comments. That definitely is shame on any man who thinks that they are in the right to do that to anyone let alone a woman.

Why not? I am no different to anyone else but again this wasnt about me being rejected not being rejected it was more about how other people feel about it. But yes i agree noone man or woman should have to deal with abuse because someone does not feel attracted to them."

My apologies for the assumption. I feel for us all if someday say's no not interested etc we are intelligent people and can understand boundaries and that no is a no. Yes for some people rejection can make them feel shit. A rejection is not a reflection on who we are it's a reflection on that people are not suited with each other.

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By *entleMan777Man
3 weeks ago

Newport

Honestly, I'm growing to rather appreciate rejection. Or should I say, overt rejection.

Messages that lie there unread, a sliver of vain hope in my outbox. Say "no thanks", or just delete or even block, and that's the next best thing to a positive reply. A poor second, of course, but at least I can move on.

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"Honest opinions i find it hard to believe that it doesnt bother someone at all but i could be wrong.

Do you feel you deal with it well, do you internalise it or externalise it.

Would you change your attitude towards someone if it was a polite no or not right now - i get that you would change somewhat in terms of effort and interest but would you make it clearly evident if you came across them on here.

Ive found lately a few nasty sarc comments if they happen to come across me in a thread which is fine let people do them i can get over it but it just got me thinking about how i deal with it.

Ive been rejected/its a polite no lots of times just like others and i find that although it can be dissappointing i would still be able to share a friendly comment if i came across them in a thread or passing.

Sorry for the long rendition of my thoughts im just having a reflective saturday.

I doubt you get rejection that often. I read profiles from women who state they have said no to men and that they get nasty with comments. That definitely is shame on any man who thinks that they are in the right to do that to anyone let alone a woman.

Why not? I am no different to anyone else but again this wasnt about me being rejected not being rejected it was more about how other people feel about it. But yes i agree noone man or woman should have to deal with abuse because someone does not feel attracted to them.

My apologies for the assumption. I feel for us all if someday say's no not interested etc we are intelligent people and can understand boundaries and that no is a no. Yes for some people rejection can make them feel shit. A rejection is not a reflection on who we are it's a reflection on that people are not suited with each other."

No its fine dont worry. But i would just like to clarify that yes i absolutely do get rejected quite often and rightly so im not going to be everyones type just like everyone isnt my type.

I have jiggly bits, a few stretchmarks here and there and not a washboard abs stomach which is not going to be someones type and im ol with that.

But to assume i dont get rejected because of a few good pics on a fab profile would be silly.

We are all different in our own ways and the medicine to life is everyone has different tastes and thats what makes it more fun.

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By *ike12thMan
3 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Next

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By *K_AngelTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Aylesbury

I don’t go looking, I let people come to me. That way I never get rejected.

*smart* 😉

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"Next"

Mike the 13th?

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By *iddick27Man
3 weeks ago

Cheshire

If i send a message and it gets deleted or left on read I just block the account.

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By *ecretxLoverWoman
3 weeks ago

Glasgow

It used to get to me, but now I’m just like….next!

But…I have rejected someone, whom I spoke to for a very long time, and now we no longer speak cause of it

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By *aphunterMan
3 weeks ago

woking


"Honest opinions i find it hard to believe that it doesnt bother someone at all but i could be wrong.

Do you feel you deal with it well, do you internalise it or externalise it.

Would you change your attitude towards someone if it was a polite no or not right now - i get that you would change somewhat in terms of effort and interest but would you make it clearly evident if you came across them on here.

Ive found lately a few nasty sarc comments if they happen to come across me in a thread which is fine let people do them i can get over it but it just got me thinking about how i deal with it.

Ive been rejected/its a polite no lots of times just like others and i find that although it can be dissappointing i would still be able to share a friendly comment if i came across them in a thread or passing.

Sorry for the long rendition of my thoughts im just having a reflective saturday.

I doubt you get rejection that often. I read profiles from women who state they have said no to men and that they get nasty with comments. That definitely is shame on any man who thinks that they are in the right to do that to anyone let alone a woman.

Why not? I am no different to anyone else but again this wasnt about me being rejected not being rejected it was more about how other people feel about it. But yes i agree noone man or woman should have to deal with abuse because someone does not feel attracted to them.

My apologies for the assumption. I feel for us all if someday say's no not interested etc we are intelligent people and can understand boundaries and that no is a no. Yes for some people rejection can make them feel shit. A rejection is not a reflection on who we are it's a reflection on that people are not suited with each other.

No its fine dont worry. But i would just like to clarify that yes i absolutely do get rejected quite often and rightly so im not going to be everyones type just like everyone isnt my type.

I have jiggly bits, a few stretchmarks here and there and not a washboard abs stomach which is not going to be someones type and im ol with that.

But to assume i dont get rejected because of a few good pics on a fab profile would be silly.

We are all different in our own ways and the medicine to life is everyone has different tastes and thats what makes it more fun."

I love your jiggly bits 😋

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By *cottish guy 555Man
3 weeks ago

London

I don't bother asking. Rejection is expected.

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By *peedyGMan
3 weeks ago

Telford


"Honest opinions i find it hard to believe that it doesnt bother someone at all but i could be wrong.

Do you feel you deal with it well, do you internalise it or externalise it.

Would you change your attitude towards someone if it was a polite no or not right now - i get that you would change somewhat in terms of effort and interest but would you make it clearly evident if you came across them on here.

Ive found lately a few nasty sarc comments if they happen to come across me in a thread which is fine let people do them i can get over it but it just got me thinking about how i deal with it.

Ive been rejected/its a polite no lots of times just like others and i find that although it can be dissappointing i would still be able to share a friendly comment if i came across them in a thread or passing.

Sorry for the long rendition of my thoughts im just having a reflective saturday.

I doubt you get rejection that often. I read profiles from women who state they have said no to men and that they get nasty with comments. That definitely is shame on any man who thinks that they are in the right to do that to anyone let alone a woman.

Why not? I am no different to anyone else but again this wasnt about me being rejected not being rejected it was more about how other people feel about it. But yes i agree noone man or woman should have to deal with abuse because someone does not feel attracted to them.

My apologies for the assumption. I feel for us all if someday say's no not interested etc we are intelligent people and can understand boundaries and that no is a no. Yes for some people rejection can make them feel shit. A rejection is not a reflection on who we are it's a reflection on that people are not suited with each other.

No its fine dont worry. But i would just like to clarify that yes i absolutely do get rejected quite often and rightly so im not going to be everyones type just like everyone isnt my type.

I have jiggly bits, a few stretchmarks here and there and not a washboard abs stomach which is not going to be someones type and im ol with that.

But to assume i dont get rejected because of a few good pics on a fab profile would be silly.

We are all different in our own ways and the medicine to life is everyone has different tastes and thats what makes it more fun.

I love your jiggly bits 😋"

Not the only one pal 😉

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"It used to get to me, but now I’m just like….next!

But…I have rejected someone, whom I spoke to for a very long time, and now we no longer speak cause of it "

See this was the actual point of my thread.

I dont understand that part of it but maybe im just too soft as i can really enjoy someones company and everything else just not the sexual attraction part but i guess i must also respect that they dont want just that part also 🤷‍♀️

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By *hunky GentMan
3 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford


"It used to get to me, but now I’m just like….next!

But…I have rejected someone, whom I spoke to for a very long time, and now we no longer speak cause of it "

Sending hugs 🫂

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By *ighlandCooWoman
3 weeks ago

Chesterfield

If I've ever said no thank you to someone on Fab it's not a reflection on who they are as a person. I just don't feel attraction to them.

Not everyone would feel attraction to me, so that's fine.

If it was rejection when I really fancied someone in person, outside of Fab, then yeah that would be tough, but the same applies. Try not to take it personally.

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By *hunky GentMan
3 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford


"If I've ever said no thank you to someone on Fab it's not a reflection on who they are as a person. I just don't feel attraction to them.

Not everyone would feel attraction to me, so that's fine.

If it was rejection when I really fancied someone in person, outside of Fab, then yeah that would be tough, but the same applies. Try not to take it personally. "

Ill get me coat 🤪

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By *alm_one4Man
3 weeks ago

RM16

I move on. Simple as that

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By *ecretxLoverWoman
3 weeks ago

Glasgow


"It used to get to me, but now I’m just like….next!

But…I have rejected someone, whom I spoke to for a very long time, and now we no longer speak cause of it

See this was the actual point of my thread.

I dont understand that part of it but maybe im just too soft as i can really enjoy someones company and everything else just not the sexual attraction part but i guess i must also respect that they dont want just that part also 🤷‍♀️"

I’m like you, but…clearly that wasn’t for him in a way. So 10 years of friendship went up in the air x

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By *xbabyxxxWoman
3 weeks ago

Doncaster

I don't put myself in a situation where rejection is gonna play a part

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By *arl50Man
3 weeks ago

Sheffield


"I don't put myself in a situation where rejection is gonna play a part"

I feel like I want to give you a hug 🤗

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By *haron1701ETV/TS
3 weeks ago

Southport

Pretty much used to it by now.

No point getting all angry and upset over it - a no is a no and no things lost.

If the other person wants to be sarcastic or nasty about it the I just class it as 'a bullet dodged' and move on.

Life's too short to hold grudges and we only get one shot at it.

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By *illabongboy1971Man
3 weeks ago

Penicuik

You are a stunning looking woman. Anyone who rejects you needs their head examined and isn't worth you. Look at like "you've had a narrow escape"

Hold that head high lady!

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By *uriouscpl2025Couple
3 weeks ago

norwich

We’re always up front when we swap pics and just say that attraction is subjective so won’t take offence or hope they don’t if there isn’t any. What is frustrating is when they say yes ‘very attractive’ or along those lines then just ghost - that does knock her confidence. We’ll always say if there’s an attraction and if not we will wish them good luck

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By *ub with a ChubbMan
3 weeks ago

Southwest & Cork City


"Honest opinions i find it hard to believe that it doesnt bother someone at all but i could be wrong.

Do you feel you deal with it well, do you internalise it or externalise it.

Would you change your attitude towards someone if it was a polite no or not right now - i get that you would change somewhat in terms of effort and interest but would you make it clearly evident if you came across them on here.

Ive found lately a few nasty sarc comments if they happen to come across me in a thread which is fine let people do them i can get over it but it just got me thinking about how i deal with it.

Ive been rejected/its a polite no lots of times just like others and i find that although it can be dissappointing i would still be able to share a friendly comment if i came across them in a thread or passing.

Sorry for the long rendition of my thoughts im just having a reflective saturday."

Firstly, great topic to bring up C.

I internalise it and try not to dwell, just is easier said than done.

In the beginning,I did find it difficult to process,and it does impact your self-esteem I don't care what anyone says.

I did find it easily to accept a rejection from those that were polite enough to take the time to respond, even though no one is under any obligation to do so, and given 'no reply is a reply'.

Others I have found to be be unnecessarily rude and obnoxious, where they have gone out of their way to compose nasty/snide/ messages so bullet dodged in that case thankfully.

Those individuals I immediately block and put firmly in my rear view.

If encountered in the forums, I simply ignored, but not in a petty fashion, I am bigger than than and refuse to lower myself to their standards and engage in childish squabbling.

This whom have been polite and respectful in their rejections, I bear no ill will towards and have no problem interacting with, similarly with those who expertise 'no reply is a reply'. I respect their choice.

Participating in the forums is definitely a positive and does soften the blow of rejections, and i'd like to think I've developed new friendships there.

Thank you to those and others with whom interacted with in any way in any thread, you are the reason why I have stayed. You are all beautiful, and very change who you are.

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"Honest opinions i find it hard to believe that it doesnt bother someone at all but i could be wrong.

Do you feel you deal with it well, do you internalise it or externalise it.

Would you change your attitude towards someone if it was a polite no or not right now - i get that you would change somewhat in terms of effort and interest but would you make it clearly evident if you came across them on here.

Ive found lately a few nasty sarc comments if they happen to come across me in a thread which is fine let people do them i can get over it but it just got me thinking about how i deal with it.

Ive been rejected/its a polite no lots of times just like others and i find that although it can be dissappointing i would still be able to share a friendly comment if i came across them in a thread or passing.

Sorry for the long rendition of my thoughts im just having a reflective saturday.

Firstly, great topic to bring up C.

I internalise it and try not to dwell, just is easier said than done.

In the beginning,I did find it difficult to process,and it does impact your self-esteem I don't care what anyone says.

I did find it easily to accept a rejection from those that were polite enough to take the time to respond, even though no one is under any obligation to do so, and given 'no reply is a reply'.

Others I have found to be be unnecessarily rude and obnoxious, where they have gone out of their way to compose nasty/snide/ messages so bullet dodged in that case thankfully.

Those individuals I immediately block and put firmly in my rear view.

If encountered in the forums, I simply ignored, but not in a petty fashion, I am bigger than than and refuse to lower myself to their standards and engage in childish squabbling.

This whom have been polite and respectful in their rejections, I bear no ill will towards and have no problem interacting with, similarly with those who expertise 'no reply is a reply'. I respect their choice.

Participating in the forums is definitely a positive and does soften the blow of rejections, and i'd like to think I've developed new friendships there.

Thank you to those and others with whom interacted with in any way in any thread, you are the reason why I have stayed. You are all beautiful, and very change who you are. "

And you are such a gent and its an absolute pleasure to come across you in the forums x

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
3 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders


"Honest opinions i find it hard to believe that it doesnt bother someone at all but i could be wrong.

Do you feel you deal with it well, do you internalise it or externalise it.

Would you change your attitude towards someone if it was a polite no or not right now - i get that you would change somewhat in terms of effort and interest but would you make it clearly evident if you came across them on here.

Ive found lately a few nasty sarc comments if they happen to come across me in a thread which is fine let people do them i can get over it but it just got me thinking about how i deal with it.

Ive been rejected/its a polite no lots of times just like others and i find that although it can be dissappointing i would still be able to share a friendly comment if i came across them in a thread or passing.

Sorry for the long rendition of my thoughts im just having a reflective saturday."

It's bloody immature, let it wash over you because that just solidifies you were right in your rejection.

I don't really put myself in a position to get rejected as I don't put myself out there, I just take it as a given that nobody would be interested anyway

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"Honest opinions i find it hard to believe that it doesnt bother someone at all but i could be wrong.

Do you feel you deal with it well, do you internalise it or externalise it.

Would you change your attitude towards someone if it was a polite no or not right now - i get that you would change somewhat in terms of effort and interest but would you make it clearly evident if you came across them on here.

Ive found lately a few nasty sarc comments if they happen to come across me in a thread which is fine let people do them i can get over it but it just got me thinking about how i deal with it.

Ive been rejected/its a polite no lots of times just like others and i find that although it can be dissappointing i would still be able to share a friendly comment if i came across them in a thread or passing.

Sorry for the long rendition of my thoughts im just having a reflective saturday.

It's bloody immature, let it wash over you because that just solidifies you were right in your rejection.

I don't really put myself in a position to get rejected as I don't put myself out there, I just take it as a given that nobody would be interested anyway "

Tbh this is how i play it and i get why but i absolutely do not think thats the case your lush and a lovely person also.

But we can all say that to each other cant we its harder to say it to ourselves x

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

It is what it is,I've learned that over the past 12 months, I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea but heyho , que sera sera I say, yes each and everyone of us will react differently but it's such a minefield on here.

That's just me anyway

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
3 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders


"Honest opinions i find it hard to believe that it doesnt bother someone at all but i could be wrong.

Do you feel you deal with it well, do you internalise it or externalise it.

Would you change your attitude towards someone if it was a polite no or not right now - i get that you would change somewhat in terms of effort and interest but would you make it clearly evident if you came across them on here.

Ive found lately a few nasty sarc comments if they happen to come across me in a thread which is fine let people do them i can get over it but it just got me thinking about how i deal with it.

Ive been rejected/its a polite no lots of times just like others and i find that although it can be dissappointing i would still be able to share a friendly comment if i came across them in a thread or passing.

Sorry for the long rendition of my thoughts im just having a reflective saturday.

It's bloody immature, let it wash over you because that just solidifies you were right in your rejection.

I don't really put myself in a position to get rejected as I don't put myself out there, I just take it as a given that nobody would be interested anyway

Tbh this is how i play it and i get why but i absolutely do not think thats the case your lush and a lovely person also.

But we can all say that to each other cant we its harder to say it to ourselves x"

It definitely is harder to say it to ourselves. I often think that we could see ourselves through the eyes of others

Likewise lovely lady, always makes me smile seeing your posts x

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By *aphunterMan
3 weeks ago

woking


"Honest opinions i find it hard to believe that it doesnt bother someone at all but i could be wrong.

Do you feel you deal with it well, do you internalise it or externalise it.

Would you change your attitude towards someone if it was a polite no or not right now - i get that you would change somewhat in terms of effort and interest but would you make it clearly evident if you came across them on here.

Ive found lately a few nasty sarc comments if they happen to come across me in a thread which is fine let people do them i can get over it but it just got me thinking about how i deal with it.

Ive been rejected/its a polite no lots of times just like others and i find that although it can be dissappointing i would still be able to share a friendly comment if i came across them in a thread or passing.

Sorry for the long rendition of my thoughts im just having a reflective saturday.

It's bloody immature, let it wash over you because that just solidifies you were right in your rejection.

I don't really put myself in a position to get rejected as I don't put myself out there, I just take it as a given that nobody would be interested anyway

Tbh this is how i play it and i get why but i absolutely do not think thats the case your lush and a lovely person also.

But we can all say that to each other cant we its harder to say it to ourselves x

It definitely is harder to say it to ourselves. I often think that we could see ourselves through the eyes of others

Likewise lovely lady, always makes me smile seeing your posts x"

Love x

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By *ife NinjaMan
3 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Of course it's not pleasant, but this isn't the place to over think it. You will know next to nobody on here, and the majority of your interaction will be via a feeling less keyboard 🤓

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By *uilder.funMan
3 weeks ago

Bristol

Gotta have tough skin on here. Not going to be everyone's cup of tea and have to accept that.

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By *hunky GentMan
3 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford


"Gotta have tough skin on here. Not going to be everyone's cup of tea and have to accept that."

Same here.

I'm what you might call - niche.

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By *artorialMan
3 weeks ago

weymouth

Internalise, but the severity varies depending on mood. Sometimes I can brush it off easily other times I'll brood

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"Of course it's not pleasant, but this isn't the place to over think it. You will know next to nobody on here, and the majority of your interaction will be via a feeling less keyboard 🤓"

This isnt about me but thanks for the advice lol

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By *ressF4FunMan
3 weeks ago

Near Naas

I’ve learned to deal with it better it used to hit hard but after each rejection I just feel less and less affected and tell myself there’s no point dwelling on it and just move on

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By *oobaaMan
3 weeks ago

South Shields

Iam used to it...just wish them the best and move on.

Something will always cum up that suprises you on here

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By *offysmangoMan
3 weeks ago

Colchester

For me, it depends on what's been said, but I try not to let the rejections get personal. I usually ask who I'm messaging, to either delete my message or reply she's not interested, if she's not interested in me. That way I can't personalised it and simply put it down to four words which help me considerably 'we are not compatible'.

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By *oeBeansMan
3 weeks ago

London

I think it depends on the expectation set. If things were going well and suddenly someone wanted to stop talking or break things off, I'd want to try and understand why and ask accordingly.

If it's a case of just sending a face pic and then being rejected, it still stings, but I just let it go

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By *ilver_foxxx69Man
3 weeks ago

Falkirk

On here I don’t take it too personally. It’s the epitome of supply and demand.

If the message is ignored I don’t take it personally. If they take them time to write a polite thanks but no thanks then I wish them well and move on with my day.

I’m confident enough in myself to not let it get to me. After all everyone has different tastes.

I really don’t understand the mentality of sending rude or abusive messages to those that do reject you. I’m not sure anyone has ever received an abusive message and thought “hold on maybe I was a bit harsh. Let’s give it a a go”

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By *exyInLatinMan
3 weeks ago

Warsop


"Of course it's not pleasant, but this isn't the place to over think it. You will know next to nobody on here, and the majority of your interaction will be via a feeling less keyboard 🤓

This isnt about me but thanks for the advice lol"

Has it helped though 🤣

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"Of course it's not pleasant, but this isn't the place to over think it. You will know next to nobody on here, and the majority of your interaction will be via a feeling less keyboard 🤓

This isnt about me but thanks for the advice lol

Has it helped though 🤣"

Next time im going to have to put some rules underneath it like...

NOT ABOUT ME BEINR REJECTED

DONT NEED ADVICE IM OK AND NOT CRYING

JUST INTERESTED IN OTHERS PERSPECTIVES

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

No i appreciate all comments but i promise you all im ok im not in my room rocking in floods of tears but its cute you all care 😘

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By *aphunterMan
3 weeks ago

woking

Boobies

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By *arlo56Man
3 weeks ago

Newcastle

It's never bothered me to be rejected.

I know my worth and that's all I need.

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
3 weeks ago

Hatfield

Rejection is a very personal thing .. I remember being very blasie and cool outwardly to my mates and being miserable as sin af home and all angst …. But defo didn’t let it stop me asking girls out when I was young ..but I had a few periods of low confidence….

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By *agic.MMan
3 weeks ago

Orpington

There's usually this little voice in my head telling me "it's ok sexy, you're too good for her anyway..." - which is true...I mean whoever don't want THIS👆...ALL OF THIS 👆...is just silly from my point of view 😏

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton


"There's usually this little voice in my head telling me "it's ok sexy, you're too good for her anyway..." - which is true...I mean whoever don't want THIS👆...ALL OF THIS 👆...is just silly from my point of view 😏"

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 well of course

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By *r Man45Man
3 weeks ago

North West

Its not the best feeling in the world being rejected. But at the end of the day im under no illusion im gods gift, and theres plenty more better looking fish in the FAB sea so I do get it.

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By *adbod11Man
3 weeks ago

wantage

As a Man,it's part of the deal. We ask and put ourselves out there to face rejection each time we put a proposal to a lady or a couple.

Most women are so outnumbered by the guys that they usually only need to filter the offers. So they aren't so used to facing rejection.

First few times are pretty personal but you then take it in your stride.

Ps they did a test at an American university. A girl was asked to approach 100 guys, in excess of 90 said yes to her. They did the same with a guy and in excess of 80 said no to him.

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
3 weeks ago

Reading

I think rejection and your response to it is a very subjective thing and there is no right or wrong answer.

If it is someone that I have an emotional connection with then it hits hard, especially if I don’t understand the reason for the rejection. When it is just a few messages then I accept we are not compatible for some reason and move on without much of a second thought. The one that really irritates me though is the rude and offensive comments that follow, either on a forum post or privately, there is no need for that at all and when it turns personal, it says a lot about the individual making the comments. I have blocked a few people from the forums because I don’t like the way they have spoken to others. My parents always told me if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say it at all.

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By *oodeggMan
3 weeks ago

North Devon

Rejection bothers me in real life when relationships have crashed ect..

But for guys on here it's a numbers game most people are going to reject you but a few won't .. So I stay polite and dont give it a thought..

Judging from your pics they would be mad to reject you anyway xx

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By *igblackchocolateMan
2 weeks ago

London & Essex

You will be fine chin up

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By *dalisqueWoman
2 weeks ago

land of make believe

If i get rejected on here i don't really notice.

Plenty of people choose not to message me however I don't focus on that,obviously.

In real life my parents rejected me so I always low key expect it anyway,not in a negative way just a ,everything is a bonus kind of way & it works for me.

I tend to focus on who want to spend time with me than those who can't see how fucking amazing I am!

🩵🫶🩵

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By *mmaleiaWoman
2 weeks ago

Trowbridge

Shrug it off, if I’m not their thing, I’m not their thing.

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
2 weeks ago

Hatfield


"Shrug it off, if I’m not their thing, I’m not their thing."

At the end of the day it’s not just much more complicated then that is it ….

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By *arialoueWoman
2 weeks ago

Doncaster

I just avoided meeting coz I've found too much negative stuff triggers my mental health so I'd rather avoid it

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By *herrybakewellCouple
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I say "next" and move on.

Im not everyone's cup of tea, just like sometimes they aren't mine.

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By *orks66Man
2 weeks ago

Huddersfield

Both on fab and dating , I think the more interaction you’ve had with someone building a rapport together it can hurt more and knock your confidence but you have to try and not dwell on it

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
2 weeks ago

Hatfield

Dwell on it to extent are you really doing something wrong to learn from … if your naturally rude or entitled for example you may need to change if shy you may need to be more confident etc .. extreme examples I know but don’t overanalyse as it’s sometimes just chemistry is not there don’t sweat it

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By *omeones GrumpMan
2 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

I don't put myself forward so don't get rejected

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By *arried curious guyMan
2 weeks ago

Motherwell

I usually hide my wifes favourite tea cup. Petty I know but that's marriage for you

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

Stockton


"I usually hide my wifes favourite tea cup. Petty I know but that's marriage for you"

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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By *moothdickMan
2 weeks ago

stoke

Just take it on the chin… if I ain’t someone’s cupa tea then respect, as long as it’s fine respectfully.. and don’t try mug me off

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By *rPunxMan
2 weeks ago

Hull

It can knock you confidence. But you also have to realise that not everyone is everyone else's 'cup of tea'. Its hard to make an impression online. Pictures are OK but that's only physical. Comments in a forum give you an idea about someone's personality but then again can be misconceived as text doesn't show emotion. Irl when the true you is on show may hit harder. But we are all different and deal with things differently. So I suppose there is no real conclusion to the matter we will just have to take on board the majority response

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

Rejection on here doesn't really bother me as I've not met the person or know them, so I just move on.

I take it harder in "real life" though.

Im a sensitive soul 😄

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By *riel13Woman
2 weeks ago

Northampton

What's to deal with? It shouldn't come as a surprise when someone doesn't fancy you... The majority of the planet don't... It's not an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago


"What's to deal with? It shouldn't come as a surprise when someone doesn't fancy you... The majority of the planet don't... It's not an issue "

I think the majority of the planet would fancy me though if they met me 🤣🤣🤣

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

Stockton


"What's to deal with? It shouldn't come as a surprise when someone doesn't fancy you... The majority of the planet don't... It's not an issue "

This isnt about me it was a general thread i was just talking aboutmy perspective since i was asking others.

But thanks for your contribution 😁

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair


"What's to deal with? It shouldn't come as a surprise when someone doesn't fancy you... The majority of the planet don't... It's not an issue "

•

My dear Duchess, it always comes as a suprise to me and I'm often bowled over by those rare rejections. It's not easy being a champion lover extraordinaire, a grand master of seduction and a necromancer of ethereal passions. And let's not even mention that fragile heart of mine. 🩶🤍🖤

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By *lexm87Man
2 weeks ago

Various


"What's to deal with? It shouldn't come as a surprise when someone doesn't fancy you... The majority of the planet don't... It's not an issue

•

My dear Duchess, it always comes as a suprise to me and I'm often bowled over by those rare rejections. It's not easy being a champion lover extraordinaire, a grand master of seduction and a necromancer of ethereal passions. And let's not even mention that fragile heart of mine. 🩶🤍🖤"

Is it still in your freezer?

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

Stockton

Can we just keep commenting on this thread so it closes and i dont have to keep repeatedly telling people thanks for there advice but its not about me 🤣🤣🤣

Goooooooo

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair


"What's to deal with? It shouldn't come as a surprise when someone doesn't fancy you... The majority of the planet don't... It's not an issue

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My dear Duchess, it always comes as a suprise to me and I'm often bowled over by those rare rejections. It's not easy being a champion lover extraordinaire, a grand master of seduction and a necromancer of ethereal passions. And let's not even mention that fragile heart of mine. 🩶🤍🖤

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Is it still in your freezer? "

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I'm afraid so, dear squire. The OP offered me her underpants but the heat in them was incomprehensible.

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

Stockton


"What's to deal with? It shouldn't come as a surprise when someone doesn't fancy you... The majority of the planet don't... It's not an issue

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My dear Duchess, it always comes as a suprise to me and I'm often bowled over by those rare rejections. It's not easy being a champion lover extraordinaire, a grand master of seduction and a necromancer of ethereal passions. And let's not even mention that fragile heart of mine. 🩶🤍🖤

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Is it still in your freezer?

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I'm afraid so, dear squire. The OP offered me her underpants but the heat in them was incomprehensible."

Oh i am on fire nero 🤣🔥

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

You're sooooo vain, OP. You think this thread is about you, don't you? 🙂

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

Stockton


"You're sooooo vain, OP. You think this thread is about you, don't you? 🙂"

Well nero ... it all started when i walked into the party like i was walking onto a yacht... the rest was history

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair


"You're sooooo vain, OP. You think this thread is about you, don't you? 🙂

Well nero ... it all started when i walked into the party like i was walking onto a yacht... the rest was history "

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Just wait until I reject you. You'll be creating a thread about it.

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By *aphunterMan
2 weeks ago

woking


"You're sooooo vain, OP. You think this thread is about you, don't you? 🙂

Well nero ... it all started when i walked into the party like i was walking onto a yacht... the rest was history "

I’ve walked into a lamppost once…

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By *utofthebluexxxWoman
2 weeks ago

London

Immediately ignored and forgotten.

Usually, they try to contact me again weeks or months later, but I never reply. Just cold silence from me.

To feel wanted turns me on, so if I realise is not mutual I lose interest immediately. It's a good thing.

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

Stockton


"You're sooooo vain, OP. You think this thread is about you, don't you? 🙂

Well nero ... it all started when i walked into the party like i was walking onto a yacht... the rest was history

I’ve walked into a lamppost once…"

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

Stockton


"Immediately ignored and forgotten.

Usually, they try to contact me again weeks or months later, but I never reply. Just cold silence from me.

To feel wanted turns me on, so if I realise is not mutual I lose interest immediately. It's a good thing.

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Yeah i 100% agree with this

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By *sStephenPickleMan
2 weeks ago

Ends

I find rejection really hard to deal with. I’m all honesty I don’t know how I deal with it. Used to be lots of self deprecation. These days it’s just a lot of talking some time and then getting back on the horse.

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By *rSuave88Man
2 weeks ago

Mirfield

Sooo many icy hearts in this thread 🥶.. devoid of feelings.. devoid of life..

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By *aphunterMan
2 weeks ago

woking


"Immediately ignored and forgotten.

Usually, they try to contact me again weeks or months later, but I never reply. Just cold silence from me.

To feel wanted turns me on, so if I realise is not mutual I lose interest immediately. It's a good thing.

Yeah i 100% agree with this "

Yeah I agree too

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By *hickthighs25 OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

Stockton


"I find rejection really hard to deal with. I’m all honesty I don’t know how I deal with it. Used to be lots of self deprecation. These days it’s just a lot of talking some time and then getting back on the horse. "

I think more people feel this than like to admit if im being honest.

It used to really hit me hard when i was younger and i ended up building this self sabotage mechanism were i would push people away before they could do it to me.

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By *rSuave88Man
2 weeks ago

Mirfield

175. Limit reached. Job complete. Put those little feet up and relax 🏁

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